56 - Expecting Others to Intuit Our Feelings

Expecting Others to Intuit Our Feelings One of the biggest ways we undermine our happiness is by expecting others to intuit our feelings and then being frustrated/disappointed when they don’t act in a way we hope they will. This makes sense when we’re kids, we don’t really know our needs, or what our emotions are, so the adults in our life generally try satisfy our needs for us. When we explain it like this we can see the trouble is we’re never really taught how to do this ourselves, and just expected to figure it out on our own. Then we grow up, expecting others to know our needs, how we feel about them, and our preferred strategy for satisfying them. The result is a whole load of anger and annoyance! A healthier, and admittedly much harder approach, is to take full responsibility for your needs, strategies, and feelings. This takes time and effort, and doesn’t mean you have to do everything all your own. The time spent here saves us a lot of hurt as we gradually become less dependant on others to figure out what we’re feeling and what we want. Then we’re able to communicate more clearly, enjoy healthier relationships and better peace of mind. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=18248924&appointmentType=11286512