79 - Why We Date

Sign up for these workshops happening on April 11:How to Solve the Dating and Relationship PuzzleWhy Dating Apps Are Not Working and What to Do Instead*? Today I want to step back and have a “bigger picture” look at dating and relationships and talk about why we date. Now, of course, we all have our individual answers for that. But I think in the grand scheme of things, most of our answers come down to wanting love - to both give it and receive it. I believe that love makes the journey of life, with all its complexities and challenges, way more easy. For me, it’s like having a team mate who’s always there with you through the good and the bad. When you’re in the thick of dating, putting yourself out there, and facing rejection - or worse, no one giving you a chance - it can be easy to say, screw it, it’s not worth the trouble or the heartache. That’s why we need moments to remember why we date and why we continue to pursue that sometimes elusive experience of loving and being loved. And why we open ourselves up to the possibility of rejection, heartbreak, and disappointment.  So why do we do it?  Love is a powerful emotion that can make us feel alive, happy, and fulfilled.  Love is one of the most fundamental human needs. We all crave love, affection, and connection. It’s what makes us feel alive and gives us a sense of purpose. When we love, we experience a deep sense of joy, fulfillment, and meaning in our lives.  For some of you listening, what I’m talking about may feel like something you’ve been dreaming of for years, but for one reason or another, it feels out of your hands. You’re tempted to give up and say it’s not worth it.  The key is to approach love with intention, mindfulness, and self-awareness. Before we jump into a new relationship, we need to be clear about our own needs, wants, and values. We need to communicate honestly and openly with our partner about our expectations, boundaries, and goals. We also need to be willing to take things slow, to build trust gradually, and to be patient with the process. For those who have been hurt before, it’s important to take the time to heal and process those experiences. This might involve therapy, self-reflection, or spending time with supportive friends and family. It’s also important to let go of any lingering bitterness, anger, or resentment towards past partners. When we hold onto these negative emotions, we prevent ourselves from being fully open and present in new relationships. Finally, we need to trust ourselves and our instincts. We need to listen to our intuition and choose partners who align with our values, needs, and desires.   Check out our Dating Memberships:Dating Made Easier (for all people wanting to date) - is a monthly membership for anyone (with or without disabilities) who wants support and guidance in dating skills and getting the RESULTS you want in dating and relationships. Click here to learn more. Supporting Dating and Relationships membership (for special educators and professionals in disability services) - is for professionals in the disability field who are looking for training and resources to effectively help students/people with disabilities in developing dating and relationship skills. Click here to learn more. Music by Successful Motivation | Artwork photo by Elevate