#82 - The Terrible Twenties: Trading Approval for Authenticity

Send us Fan Mail🌟In this episode of The Metamorphosis Project, Tenya sits down with Terraine LeBeau from Behind the Shades to talk about grief in a way most people do not expect. Not just grieving a person, but grieving the version of you that used to fit in, used to chase approval, used to tolerate chaos, or used to believe love had to be earned.Terraine shares what he calls the “terrible twenties,” how conditional love and anxious attachment shaped his choices, and the moment he realized he had to decide who he wanted to be. Together, they unpack grief identity, why losing an old identity can feel like losing a piece of yourself, how friendships change when you heal, and why closure is hard, especially when people ghost.They also talk about family estrangement, grieving the parents you wish you had, and why peace can feel unfamiliar at first. If you have ever felt lonely during growth, questioned your worth, or realized you have been loyal to mistreatment because it is what you know, this conversation will land.What you will hear in this episode🌟What “grief identity” is, and why it shows up during major life changes🌟The difference between losing an identity by choice, chance, or consequence🌟Why healing often shifts your friendships and how “ghosting” can trigger abandonment wounds🌟Trading quantity for quality, and learning what unconditional love actually feels like🌟How estrangement ties into grief identity, and grieving people who are still aliveWhy peace can feel uncomfortable when chaos has been your baseline🌟The two nuggets Terraine wants you to remember: your worth is internal, and your circle mattersGuest infoTerraine LeBeau, Grief Identity Coach in relationshipsWebsite: www.behindtheshades.caSpecial offer: Mention Tenya or this podcast and receive one hour of coaching free. Connect with Tenya and Design Your ExistenceBook a session: https://designyourexistence.comDisclaimerThis podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, mental health, or legal advice. Always consult a qualified professional for your specific situation.Hashtags#metamorphosisprojectpodcast #designyourexistence #energyhealing #selfcare #healing #griefhealing #innerwork #boundaries #emotionalhealth #growthmindset