Balance, being the default parent to teenagers and being married to a parenting PhD | Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg (parents of 2, Tech Exec and Best-selling Parenting Author)

In this special, 10th episode I interviewed husband and wife team Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg, PhD. Josh is a product executive and coach, a former VP of Product, founder and ex-Googler. He is also the "default" parent to two teenagers having chosen to step back as Carla leaned more into the workforce as a best-selling parenting book author. Carla is a clinical social worker and mother. She’s the author of four non-fiction books, including her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), as well as You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent, and the forthcoming How to Stop Freaking Out, the (completely swear-free) middle-grade adaptation of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids.  In this episode we discuss:Transition stages for kids and puberty during the pandemicThe argument that led to their decision to start a familyIVF and fertilityHow you can't learn to be a parent from a pamphletUnderstanding privilege and balance as a parentTheir decision for Josh to be the default parentWhether you're in Teen or Tween mode and what to doParenting FrameworksWhat it means to be a good parentRapid fire!—Where to find Josh Herzig-Marx- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/herzigma- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuaherzigmarx/ Where to find Carla Naumburg- Carla's Website: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/- Carla's Books: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/ Where to find Adam Fishman- Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/fishmanaf- Threads: https://www.threads.net/@fishmanaf—In this episode, we cover:[2:10] Personal background[4:36] How did you meet?[6:54] Family/kids[8:12] Kid’s transition stages/puberty[11:46] Decision to start a family[15:30] IVF[19:04] Earliest memories of becoming a parent[24:04] Work/life balance[26:05] Privilege[31:50] Being the default parent[38:28] Teen vs. Tween mode[39:18] Parenting frameworks[48:20] What is a good parent/unconditional love[52:52] Rapid fire round—Show references:You're Not a Sh*tty Parent: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/youre-not-a-shtty-parent/ How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/how-to-stop-losing-your-sht-with-your-kids/ Ready, Set, Breathe: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/ready-set-breathe/ All of Carla's Books: https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/ —Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit startupdadpod.substack.com