Ep 125: The Practice

Zoe is in the middle of a conversation with her partner. She’s annoyed and frustrated and is reminded of a series of other things that she feels annoyed and frustrated about in her relationship. They’re all connected by the feeling of annoyance…like pulling on a string and finding all the examples connected to it. She wants to tell him about each and every one until…All of the sudden she realizes something. The string connecting all of these annoying things is not actually him. Even though he’s there in each instance, HE is not actually the thread. SHE is. The thing that connects all of these instances of being annoyed is HER; the one feeling them. She’s the one experiencing all of these things as annoying. SHE is the common denominator, not her partner. She doesn’t like feeling this way. Her instinct is to tell him he’s responsible for ALL of it. For all of the ways that he annoys her. But once she realizes that she is actually the common thread, she pauses. She remembers that describing the way she feels in detail is really a way of escaping the feeling. That it only makes the frustration bigger, and worse. Describing it isn’t actually feeling it.  It’s running away from it. And she’s not into running away. So instead, she uses the practice. Jose uses the practice when he realizes the eggshells he’s walking on aren’t her eggshells, they’re his own. Sarah uses the practice instead of jumping into DOING during an anxiety ridden morning. Jazelle uses the practice when the voices of a patriarchal upbringing make her doubt her ability to be a founder and CEO. I do the practice first thing every morning, as much a ritual as brushing my teeth. What you’ll learn in this episode: The two tools that are my ride-or-die go-to’s Why breathing or taking a minute away from challenges isn’t enough How to turn down analytical thinking to create space for the Practice The three most important components of the Practice Questions to ask ourselves that unravel intolerable emotions Four times to apply the practice How to metabolize a feeling and transmute it into something that serves you How to connect with Marie:On the Web | The Local BloomInstagram: @the.bloom.coachAll Things Marie on LinkTreeJOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!