Every Behaviour Is a Message | Autism, ADHD, Meltdowns and What Kids Are Communicating | Ep 5

In this episode of Different Is Normal, Dave and Emily unpack a powerful idea: all behaviour is communication. We talk about autism and ADHD behaviours in kids and teens, why meltdowns and “refusal” are often a sign of unmet needs, and how capacity, environment, and curiosity can change the way parents and educators respond.If you’re a parent, teacher, or education support worker supporting neurodivergent young people, this conversation will help you spot patterns, recognise triggers, and respond with empathy instead of punishment.Key moments:00:23 Welcome and why behaviour gets labelled “bad”04:52 Behaviour is communication for all humans08:53 Capacity and why patterns get missed22:07 Kids do well if they can (CPS, Ross Greene)23:31 The key question: “What need isn’t being met?”26:40 The neurodivergent backpack and after-school explosions33:42 Kids aren’t giving us a hard time, they’re having a hard time34:54 Fibromyalgia, burnout, and the power of restResources mentioned:The Explosive Child (Ross Greene)Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS)NeuroWild: neurodivergent backpack illustrationIf this helped you feel less alone or more seen, share it with someone who needs it. Over and out.