How to know when you’re being lead on

Ever find yourself telling someone, “I don’t want to waste my time” on a date? Sure, it feels like you’re setting boundaries, but let’s be real—this harsh phrase can come off as dismissive and cold. What about the other person’s time? It implies that anyone who doesn’t instantly captivate you or fulfill your expectations is disposable. Instead of fostering connection, it shuts people down and leaves little room for genuine closeness.And check this out: We often complain that others “waste our time,” yet we’re guilty of squandering it ourselves. How? By endlessly scrolling through social media, watching Netflix, hanging out, chilling etc. We squander time by holding on to toxic connections with others that  we know aren’t serving us. We continue physical relationships with people we don’t truly care about. Or worse, by we’ll string along—neither committing fully nor letting them go.Sometimes we avoid ending a relationship because we think we’re being kind, sparing their feelings. But let’s face it—it’s usually about avoiding the discomfort of necessary action. True closeness and connection require courage: to communicate clearly, to make space for what we do want, and to honor others’ time just as much as our own.If you want deeper relationships, start valuing people’s time—including yours. Communicate with honesty and compassion, and don’t settle for half-hearted connections.Are you ready to come closer?Visit closeness.com for in person coaching and more sexual guidance.You can also subscribe to Closeness on YouTube