Sexual Purity Part 8 - Guidelines for Married People

Send us Fan MailClick here to support Talk About It!For more information or booking details, visit www.donmsmith.comIn this crucial eighth episode of our Sexual Purity series, we shift our focus to those in covenant relationships—married couples and parents. Because purity isn't just a personal battle; it's a family commitment. Drawing from Scripture and practical wisdom, we explore how to cultivate a thriving marriage, guard against infidelity, and raise children who understand and embrace God's design for sexuality. We begin with a sobering reality: too many marriages have been destroyed by casual relationships at work, school, or even church that slowly turned into infatuation. We need an early detection system because a relationship can become inappropriate long before it becomes sexual. This means being alert with our words, our eyes, and our body language—and cutting through Satan's smoke screen before we choke on it. The heart of this episode is learning to cultivate and guard your marriage. All adultery begins with deception, and most deception begins with "innocent" secrets. Christian marriages face the same struggles as any other, but we have a supernatural resource to draw upon. When boredom, resentment, or hurt creep in, the answer is never a "new person"—it's a fresh appreciation for the old one.We explore how to rekindle attraction to your mate. Starve your eyes for anyone but your spouse. What we focus on shapes our desires—so by denying bad appetites and meditating on the right things, including being "captivated" by your spouse's love (Proverbs 5:19), you can train yourself to desire what is right. Your spouse's qualities aren't airbrushed or temporary—they're real and lasting.Honesty is essential. Lust thrives in secrecy; nothing defuses it like exposure. If your spouse can't be honest with you about struggles, examine your own response. Do you get defensive? Feel sorry for yourself? Create an atmosphere where honesty can flourish. Confession brings pain, but it also brings growth and deeper intimacy (James 5:16).Then we turn to the next generation: raising pure children. The greatest legacy we can give our children is a loving, affectionate, and pure marriage. Children rarely fail to imitate us. We must:Train them in choice and consequence, wisdom and foolishnessTeach them to love righteousness and hate sinModel and teach self-control—it flows into every areaMaintain gracious but firm control over their relationships and media habitsAvoid double standards—if it's not okay for children, it shouldn't be okay for adultsProtect children through modesty and open conversationFinally, we address your child's sex education. Every child receives sex education—the only questions are when, where, and from whom. Parents should be the primary and ultimate sex educators, framing sexuality not just as biology but in the context of value, responsibility, and marriage. Answer questions honestly and age-appropriately. Don't wait until it's too late. Be positive—talk about the goodness of sex within marriage. And if someone else is teaching your child about sex, it's your job to know what's being said.This episode is a call to action for every married person and every parent. Purity is not just personal—it's generational. By guarding our marriages and discipling our children, we build a legacy of holiness that honors God and protects those we love.Support the show