Telling What Is True for Us and Trusting: Bridging the Inner and Outer World (Juanita Violini)

As long as we avoid truth, we are stuck in illusion. We may avoid telling the truth in small, seemingly inconsequential ways as a habit that originated in childhood as a survival mechanism. This can occur due to shame, denial, self-hatred, or by justifying or blaming. If we deny what is true for us, we don’t have to change. Deeply knowing the consequence of an action can sharpen our self-observation. Speaking about what is true for us and taking responsibility for it is not common. It is wise not to always share our truth and to discern who to share it with. Clarity is when we recognize what is true for us. Our inner experience is a bridge to how we relate to the environment. Lack of clarity is frequently self-serving. We don’t like to examine painful feelings and thoughts to find out what we are hiding from ourselves. When we sit with discomfort and focus on our breathing, clarity can arise. We may fear the truth and assume that it is worse than a lie. We can fear greatness and being powerful, which is about the influence we have in circles we are in when we speak our truth. Fear of making mistakes is often about losing face. The only standard to hold ourselves to is what is true for us. Grounded in our truth, we do not fear reactions or outcomes. When we do the right thing, we learn to trust ourselves. Once we know what is true for us, there is the challenge of learning how to speak about it which can lead to trusting that what shows up is in our best interest. When we tell the truth about ourselves, it is easier to let go of emotional charge, to accept what life sends our way, and to know if others are trustworthy. We can experiment with letting go of control which allows room for magic and something much better in our lives. Juanita Violini is an artist and writer/producer of interactive mystery entertainment who has been a student of the spiritual path for over 35 years.