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Every family has a vault—a collection of stories, identities, and "incidents" locked away to protect the collective image. But what happens when the walls of that vault start to crumble? In the first installment of our "Road to Ruin" series, we explore the devastating psychological and structural Effects of Family Secrets. We’re moving beyond the "harmless" surprise to examine the toxic legacies of hidden truths. In this episode, we discuss: The Burden of the Keeper: How holding a secret physically and mentally exhausts the individual. The "Ghost" in the Room: Recognizing the invisible tension that permeates family gatherings when the truth is off-limits. Fractured Foundations: Why secrets intended to "protect" a family often serve as the very catalyst for its collapse. Inherited Trauma: How unspoken history shapes the behavior of generations who don’t even know the truth exists. Is the truth really more dangerous than the lie? Join us as we begin to peel back the wallpaper of the "perfect" home to see what’s been festering underneath. "A secret doesn't just sit there; it breathes, it grows, and eventually, it demands to be heard." 🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

Do you actually need to change your personality, habits, or goals to get married? In Episode 93, we break down the myth that you have to become a completely different person to be a good spouse. We’re talking about the good, the bad, and the necessary changes that come with long-term commitment. Hit play to find out where to draw the line between evolving as a person and sacrificing your true self!🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

Insecurity is a universal human experience, but managing it in our relationships is a completely different challenge. In Episode 93, we dive into a heavy but deeply necessary question: Do we actually have the emotional capacity to handle each other's insecurities? When someone we care about is struggling with self-doubt, jealousy, or fear, our instinct is to support them. But realistically, holding space for someone else's emotional baggage while managing our own can lead to exhaustion, resentment, and crossed boundaries. We’re getting honest about the limits of our emotional bandwidth, the difference between being supportive and enabling, and how to navigate the messy reality of two imperfect people trying to show up for one another.🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

Struggling with roles in early married life? Tune in as we discuss what true leadership looks like in a new marriage and how to lead together as a team. 🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

Is it possible to have a relationship without the drama? Most couples think fighting is "normal," but there is a better way to live. Join us as we explore the psychological shifts required to attain lasting peace with your partner. Whether you’re dealing with long-term resentment or daily bickering, these five steps will help you reset your dynamic and rediscover the calm you both deserve. 🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

Are you wondering why your past seems to follow you into new romances? In this episode, we dive deep into the importance of addressing trauma before entering into a relationship. We explore how healing your inner child and processing past experiences can lead to a healthier, more secure partnership. Key Takeaways In this podcast, you’ll learn: The signs of unresolved trauma in dating. How "baggage" affects communication and trust. 🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

Join us as we join the Becoming Abraham Podcast. We dive into the foundational lessons, modern pursuit of purpose, identity, and divine calling.For More from the "Becoming Abraham Podcast": All episodes - http://divemedia.co TT - https://www.tiktok.com/@Thisisdivemedia IG - https://www.instagram.com/Thisisdivemedia FB - https://www.facebook.com/ThisisDivemedia🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en 👍 Don’t forget to LIKE, COMMENT, & SUBSCRIBE if this week's episode has been a blessing to you!

Why Did I Get Married? (The Conclusion) The trip concludes! In Part 3, we wrap up our discussion on Tyler Perry’s classic. We’re covering the final confrontations, the emotional reunions, and our overall rating of the film’s portrayal of modern marriage. Is it a masterpiece of relationship drama or just a mess? Tune in to find out.Some of the "Why Sid I Get Married" Cast: Janet Jackson, Jill Scott, or Tyler Perry .To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

Episode 87: Why Did I Get Married? (Movie Discussion, Part 2)The conversation continues! In the second half of our deep dive into Tyler Perry’s modern classic, Why Did I Get Married?, we’re moving past the surface-level drama to dissect the heavy-hitting themes that still resonate today.In this episode of About This Love, we explore: The Anatomy of a Secret: Analyzing the fallout of infidelity and the ripple effect it has on a tight-knit friend group. Character Deep Dives: We break down the evolving dynamics between the couples— who grew, who stayed stuck, and whose "marriage retreat" actually worked. Lessons Learned: What can we take away from these characters' mistakes to apply to our own relationships?Whether you're a die-hard fan of the film or looking for a nuanced discussion on the complexities of marriage, this conclusion to our two-part series offers plenty of food for thought.https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove

This week, we head to the snowy mountains of Colorado to revisit Tyler Perry’s 2007 cultural phenomenon, Why Did I Get Married? In Part 1 of our retrospective, we’re breaking down the four foundational couples and the baggage they brought to the retreat. From the heartbreaking vulnerability of Sheila and the "toxic perfection" of Patricia and Gavin, to the high-volume chaos of Angela and Marcus, we analyze which red flags we missed back then versus what we see now. 🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-l... TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en 👍 Don’t forget to LIKE, COMMENT, & SUBSCRIBE if this week's episode has been a blessing to you!

Is a wedding ring a prerequisite for a virtuous life? In a culture that often equates "settling down" with "growing up," it’s easy to feel like your character development is on hold until you say "I do." But is that actually true? In this episode, we challenge the misconception that marriage is the only refinery for character. We break down the definition of virtue—not as a relationship status, but as a habit of the heart. Whether you are in a season of waiting, dating, or content singleness, this conversation explores how the "single arena" offers unique and powerful opportunities to master selflessness, resilience, and undivided devotion that marriage simply cannot provide. Join us as we discuss why being virtuous makes you a good spouse, but being a spouse doesn't automatically make you virtuous. 🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-l... TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

In this episode, Dale and Charel tackle the hot-button issue of submission in marriage part 2. They cut through the confusion and toxic baggage often associated with the word, contrasting the worldly view (control, hierarchy, and devaluation) with the Biblical view. Stay tuned for part 2 on topic of submission as we share our personal insights, ditch the harmful myths, and offer practical ways to build a marriage based on Biblical love, honor, and mutual respect. 🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

In this episode, Dale and Charel tackle the hot-button issue of submission in marriage. They cut through the confusion and toxic baggage often associated with the word, contrasting the worldly view (control, hierarchy, and devaluation) with the Biblical view. Stay tuned for part 2 on topic of submission as we share our personal insights, ditch the harmful myths, and offer practical ways to build a marriage based on Biblical love, honor, and mutual respect.

What do the three F's—Family, Friendship, and Fellowship—really mean in a world that often feels fractured and busy? In this heartfelt episode, we dive deep into the vital connections that shape who we are. We're exploring the often-complicated dynamics of our birth families, the chosen support system of our closest friends, and the powerful sense of community we find through fellowship, whether it's in a spiritual group, a local club, or a professional network. Join Dale & Charel as they share personal stories, practical advice for nurturing these bonds, and a conversation about how to navigate the inevitable challenges that come with deep connection. Discover how cultivating strong relationships across all three of these areas can be the key to a more resilient, meaningful, and joyful life. Don't forget to hit follow and share this episode with your own chosen family! This episode is perfect for anyone looking to strengthen their personal relationships, find their community, or reflect on the different kinds of love and support that enrich their lives. 🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

Episode 80: Dating w/ The Intentions of Marriage Pt. 5 In this episode, we continue our deep dive into dating with purpose, focusing on the importance of building relationships that are rooted in faith, values, and long-term commitment. Join us as we unpack practical insights, biblical perspectives, and real-life experiences to help singles and couples navigate the journey of dating with marriage in mind. Whether you’re preparing for the future or strengthening your current relationship, this conversation will inspire you to date with clarity, intention, and godly wisdom. 🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episdoe or to read our blogs: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ma.maven?lang=en

💍 How do you really know if someone is “the one”? In this episode of the About This Love podcast, we open up about trust, prayer, and the personal journey of discerning God’s best for our relationship. From battling insecurities to learning how to prepare our hearts and connect with God in your season of singleness, we share the real conversations that shaped the start of our marriage journey. 🙏 Whether you’re dating, engaged, or waiting on God’s timing, this conversation will encourage you to pray, reflect, and trust that He makes things clear in His perfect way. 👉 Watch the full conversation and join us as we continue to dive deeper into love, faith, and marriage 🔥 To listen to our latest podcast episode or to read our blog: YouTube: https://rb.gy/2lft30 https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove https://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/ 👍 Don’t forget to LIKE, COMMENT, & SUBSCRIBE if you were blessed by this series!

In this episode, we continue our series on Dating with the Intentions of Marriage by diving into the importance of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. Boundaries are not about building walls but about creating clarity, respect, and protection for both individuals in a relationship.We’ll discuss:Why boundaries are vital for intentional dating.How to communicate your standards without fear or guilt.Recognizing the difference between red flags and healthy compromises.How boundaries help prepare couples for a Christ-centered marriage.Whether you’re single, dating, or preparing for marriage, this conversation will equip you with biblical wisdom and practical tools to honor God and each other in your relationships.

Welcome back to About This Love! In Episode 78, Dale and Charel dive into the 2nd of a five-part series on dating with the intention of marriage. If you’re tired of casual flings and endless ghosting, this episode is for you. We’ll discuss:Why clarity matters: How defining your ultimate goal shapes every date.Red flags vs. green lights: Spotting traits that point toward a lifelong partnership.Setting standards without fear: Balancing high expectations and realistic compromise.Practical questions to ask early: Conversation starters that reveal values and vision.Whether you’re just re-entering the dating scene or have been in the game for years, we’ll equip you with the mindset and tools to pursue relationships that lead to something real. Tune in and start dating on purpose!https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLoveHide

Welcome back to About This Love! In Episode 77, Dale and Charel dive into the first of a five-part series on dating with the intention of marriage. If you’re tired of casual flings and endless ghosting, this episode is for you. We’ll discuss:Why clarity matters: How defining your ultimate goal shapes every date.Red flags vs. green lights: Spotting traits that point toward a lifelong partnership.Setting standards without fear: Balancing high expectations and realistic compromise.Practical questions to ask early: Conversation starters that reveal values and vision.Whether you’re just re-entering the dating scene or have been in the game for years, we’ll equip you with the mindset and tools to pursue relationships that lead to something real. Tune in and start dating on purpose!https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove

In this episode of About This Love, we tackle a thought-provoking question: Is marriage worth it for someone who doesn’t believe in God? Dale and Charel explore the purpose and design of marriage from a faith-based perspective and consider what it means when that foundation isn’t there. Whether you’re a believer, non-believer, or somewhere in between, this conversation will challenge how you view love, commitment, and the role of faith in building something that lasts. Tune in as we unpack what makes marriage meaningful—and if it still holds weight without a spiritual anchor.https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove

In this episode of About This Love, we dive into the everyday battle of staying focused in a world full of distractions—especially the ones that come from social media. Dale and Charel open up about how social platforms have impacted their time, attention, and even their relationship. From mindless scrolling to comparison traps, they explore the challenges and offer practical ways to stay present, set boundaries, and protect what matters most. If you've ever found yourself distracted by your phone when you should be engaging with real life, this one’s for you.https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove

Before the vows, before the wedding, and before the "I do"—there's the mindset. In this episode, we dive into the mental, emotional, and spiritual preparation needed before entering marriage. Whether you're engaged, dating seriously, or just thinking about your future, this conversation will challenge you to reflect on your expectations, your purpose, and what it truly means to be ready for a lifelong commitment. Let’s talk about the heart work before the hard work.

In this episode, we dive deep into the idea of value—what it means, how we define it, and how we show up in relationships, careers, and communities. Whether it's your skills, mindset, energy, or experiences, everyone brings something unique to the table—but are you aware of yours?We explore:How to identify your core strengthsThe difference between perceived value and actual valueWhy self-awareness is the key to contributionReal talk on relationships, worth, and reciprocityIt's time to stop shrinking and start owning your space. Tune in, reflect, and ask yourself: What do YOU bring to the table?https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove

Why Do People Stay Married, is a deep-dive podcast that explores the real reasons couples choose to stick together—for better or for worse. Hosted by Dale & Charel, each episode features candid conversations with married couples, relationship advice, and everyday people navigating the complexities of commitment. From emotional bonds and shared values to tough compromises and surprising revelations, we unpack the untold stories behind enduring relationships. Whether you're married, curious, or skeptical, this show invites you to rethink what it really means to stay together.https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove

In episode 71 Dale & Charel, deep-dive into building, strengthening, and sustaining a thriving relationship. Whether you're newlyweds, seasoned partners, or somewhere in between, this podcast offers real talk, advice, heartfelt stories, and practical tools to help you unlock the full potential of your marriage. Join us as we explore everything from communication and conflict resolution to intimacy, trust, and growing together through life’s ups and downs. Because every great marriage starts with the right keys.https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLove

Hey everyone! In this episode of About This Love Podcast, Dale and Charel dive into a deep conversation about the pursuit of success, money, and status—what we call “chasing the wind.” 🌪️💨 Let’s talk about what it really means to live a fulfilled life! 💬 What are your thoughts? Are you chasing the wind, or are you building a life rooted in what truly matters? Drop a comment below! ⬇️ 📌 Don’t forget to LIKE, SHARE, & SUBSCRIBE for more real conversations about faith, love, and life!

In a rapidly changing world, the concept of marriage is being re-evaluated by many. Is marriage still relevant, or is it an outdated institution? In this video, we explore the question: Is it worth getting married in today's culture? https://lnk.bio/AboutThisLovehttps://rss.com/podcasts/about-this-love/

What does a father look like to you? In this week's crossover episode, Dale and Charel have pulled out a previously recorded conversation about the representation of a father in a home.

What happens when you are going through life alone? It'll take you longer to reach your intended destination. In this week's episode, we discuss what we left behind when we started to think that we can live life without a community. This podcast was produced and edited by MDMD LLC ---------Subscribe to About This Love's Channel--------- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCD0X... ---------QUICK LINKS--------- https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove ---------FOLLOW OUR SOCIALS-------- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aboutthislove/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aboutthislove

It's more common than you think to regret marrying your spouse and we think that it's time to talk about it. In this episode, you will hear us discuss the reasons why someone deals with marriage remorse and how to overcome it. Episode mentions: What Does Commitment Mean To You Ep.#38 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-ZdXX4hKiY This podcast was produced and edited by MDMD LLC ---------Subscribe to About This Love's Channel--------- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCD0X... ---------QUICK LINKS--------- https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove ---------FOLLOW OUR SOCIALS-------- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aboutthislove/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aboutthislove

After the I do's, life does its best to separate you from your husband/ wife. In this episode, Dale and Charel discuss their difficulties with reconnecting with one another after child #3. Can you really be prepared for the worst-case scenario in your marriage? To follow us and support our podcast: https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

How many people have influence over your life? In this week's episode, we are talking about if there is such thing as a Christian influencer and what that lifestyle would look like. Episode mentions: https://www.kingdomfamilylegacy.com/ To support our podcast or follow our socials visit: https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

Is there a financial standard a potential mate has to live up to before saying 'I do'? To support our podcast or follow our socials visit: https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

Just hours after the mention of an economic impact payment on the way to millions of Americans, the internet exploded with updated statues that reflected how people planned to spend their "stimmy". This led us to look at how couples manage their finances. To support our podcast or follow our socials visit: https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

In this age of social media, we find ourselves actually being less social with one another and not really having someone we can be vulnerable with. Today's guest is the amazing Dana and Rose Thompson! We invited this lovely couple on to answer our questions about building trustworthy relationships, as well as what the order and standard of a relationship should look like. Over the years, The Thompsons have showcased their genuine love for one another and continue to cultivate relationships with other believers through their Kingdom Family Legacy Ministry. Visit https://www.kingdomfamilylegacy.com/ to learn more about their ministry! To support our podcast or follow our socials visit: https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

Today's guest Reno Cooper has returned for another conversation with us. Last week Reno began to share with us how his upbringing shaped his mindset and how he found himself in prison for 12 years struggling with unforgiveness. In this episode, you'll hear him share how spending his early adulthood in the prison system left him unprepared for the responsibilities marriage required of him. To support our podcast or follow our socials visit: https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

THE FOLLOWING EPISODE CONTAINS TOPICS THAT MAY BE HARMFUL OR TRAUMATIZING TO SOME AUDIENCES There's no easy way to describe how our parents shape and mold our childhood experiences. In this week's episode, we want to introduce our next guest, our brother Reno Cooper. We thought it would be beneficial for him to share his testimony with others about how witnessing domestic violence during his early childhood lead to him landing in prison for 12 years, and how forgiveness gave him a second chance at obtaining a family of his own. We do not condone domestic violence. This episode is merely to shed light on the perspective/ effects of adults who have witnessed or experienced violence as children. To support our podcast or follow our socials visit: https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

Anyone else struggling to try to juggle marriage and children?!? Our guest this week, Amadi and Chanita Williams seems to have figured out the right formula. After 16+ years of marriage and 3 children, the Williams are willing to share the secret to maintaining a successful marriage after the kids have arrived because if we're honest, it's no walk in the park for any couple! Even if you don't have kids, if you are newly married, engaged, or considering marriage this is a conversation you do not want to miss. Check out Amadi and Chanita's various podcasts by visiting www.divemedia.co To support our podcast or follow our socials visit: https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

The conversation about trust continues. How do you know you can or cannot trust someone? Are there road signs you'll notice along the way of getting to know a person? Or is it safer to look for a like-minded believer? To contact us or donate visit https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

How do you know that you can trust someone? With your children or with your heart? What is the process you go through to truly know you don't have to question someone's intentions? In this week's episode, Dale and Charel discuss the comparisons about how casual we are when it comes to the vetting process in the same way we are casual with our faith in God.

It's our 4th wedding anniversary and we wanted to share the lessons we have learned during our time together. Throughout the discussion, you'll hear us talk about learning the true meaning of commitment, what it takes to have a solid foundation in marriage, breaking the toxic cycles in our marriage, and more.

How much time would you have to spend with somebody in order to get to know them? In this episode, Dale & Charel discuss their dealings with conflicting characteristics, quirks, and religious views.

In this episode, Dale and Charel are talking about making major life decisions. Who do you go to for help when you need to sort out things such as choosing a career, romantic partner, or a possible move across the country? They share their own fears and challenges with finding trustworthy advice throughout the years. For more information: https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

How do you know if you have not been taking your marriage seriously? In this episode, Dale and Charel discuss their struggles with being intentional with one another, if there is such thing as equality in marriage, and their lack of consideration for one another at the beginning of their marriage. For more information: https://lnk.bio/AbouThisLove

How often do you go on dates with your spouse? If you're a couple with children date night may seem like a fantasy. With the outside world pulling you away from your marriage when children come into the picture they naturally will do the same. In this episode, you'll hear us discuss the importance of pouring back into your marriage, emotional abandonment, and, why we should not be afraid to tackle difficult conversations with our spouse.

When you first say 'I do' you may have thought that you were fully in love with your spouse. Then months in you realize you may not have been in love at all. Where do you go from there? In this episode, Charel and Dale revisit the moment they realized they really did not have love for one another and what tools they utilized to not only stay married but grow their love.

It's that time a year again where we reflect on the year that has passed and discuss where our focus should be in 2021. Are we going to give this year the same energy that we are given? Or are we going to move in faith and submit our plans to the Lord?

As we are nearing the end of 2020 Charel and Dale decided to reflect on a few of their lowest moments of the year. How do you regain hope to push through to the next day?

Did your parents get a divorce when you were a child? How did their divorce affect your view of marriage? In this week's episode, Dale and Charel discuss their perspectives of marriage after witnessing their parents' divorce, how they struggled with the desire to be married themselves, and what gives them hope to achieve a successful marriage of their own.

What are some of the expectations that you've had for your first year of marriage? Did things pan out the way you pictured it to be? In this episode, Charel & Dale share the expectations they had for one another going into marriage and how it may have affected the way they treated one another.