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有些事你拖，是因为不喜欢；有些事你拖，是因为太重要；习惯性拖延——有人说是代价最高的性格缺陷。这一期，我们聊拖延，看两位“匪气十足”的主人公，如何在“无准备、无资源、无帮助”下，摆脱拖延，开始改变。欢迎加入微信听友群：15618667007，说说你的想法。00:50—本期嘉宾：Melody & Lassie03:26—你拖的，往往是你不想做的事05:30—早结婚不是冲动，是不拖延的人生策略07:04—我不想成为一个随时可替代的工具09:26—公司 vs 个体的冲突11:36—从实习生到昂跑CEO14:19—从0到1为什么难？16:00—缺什么，就去拼什么，人就ready了18:25—很多能力，是做了之后才知道自己有21:23—为什么有些人会选择“正面刚”？23:41—为什么女性总在等准备好25:23—不完美、才完美28:44—先有不好惹的爹妈29:09—钱，是你为自己发声的底气31:59—卧薪尝胆，给自己留底牌35:27—亲自下场去做38:00—世界不会给你机会，你得自己撬开它40:36—你真正跨不过去的，到底是什么？00:50 — Meet the guests: Melody & Lassie03:26 — You don’t procrastinate on everything05:30 — Marrying young isn’t impulsive — it’s a way to stop procrastination07:04 — “I don’t want to be just another replaceable tool”09:26 — Company vs. individual: the hidden tension11:36 — From intern to CEO at On Running: why trying matters14:19 — Why going from 0 to 1 feels so hard16:00 — You don’t need to be ready — fill the gaps as you go18:25 — You only discover what you’re capable of after you do it21:23 — Why some people choose to confront instead of avoid23:41 — Why women tend to wait until they feel “ready”25:23 — Imperfection isn’t a flaw — it’s the starting point28:44 — Family shapes you more than you think29:09 — Money = the confidence to speak up31:59 — Play the long game: build your leverage quietly35:27 — Get your hands dirty (stop waiting, start doing)38:00 — The world is your oyster-you decide how to open it40:36 — What’s the real thing holding you back?

旅行就像打开薛定谔的盒子——有时遇到意料之中的惊喜，有时遇到完全出乎意料的意外。无论遇到什么，都是你旅程中不可或缺的一部分。这一次，我们请来资深旅行玩家Daniel和Sandora，大家一起来聊聊旅途中那些奇怪、有趣又意外的发现。00:50 - 本期嘉宾：Daniel&Sandora01:30  用旅行修复童年缺憾06:28  当恋人偏爱独自旅行08:52  带父母旅行却改变自己10:21  像父母当初对你那样，把全世界带给他们11:36  旅途中，看到的印度百姓思维陷阱13:44  书籍让你摆脱各种陷阱14:53   被衡山美到忘了时间18:28   周末随地大小旅行的歪果仁21: 00  遇到爱，就住下不走了24:29   住在有朋友的城市25:58   颠覆你认知的中国城市28:30   要娶office lady的卖包子青年29:55   未知的人生，未必是最好的30:00   跟着旅行攻略反着来，收获更多32:00   颐和园私密玩法33:35  总结00:50 – Meet today’s guests: Daniel & Sandora01:30 – Using travel to heal childhood scars06:28 – When your lover who still love solo adventures08:52 – The trip with parents that ended up changing yourself10:21 – Giving your parents the world, the way they once gave it to you11:36 – The mental traps I noticed in everyday India13:44 – How books set you free from those traps14:53 – Hengshan Mountain: so breathtaking we lost track of time18:28 – Foreign friends who turn every weekend into a mini-journey21:00 – When love finds you… and you just stay24:29 – Choosing a city simply because your friends are there25:58 – The Chinese city that blew our expectations out of the water28:30 – The bun-seller who dreamed of marrying an office lady29:55 – Why the unknown future isn’t always the better one30:00 – Flipping the guidebook: traveling by doing the opposite32:00 – Hidden corners of the Summer Palace33:35 – Closing thoughts

去年好几个HR朋友都特别谈到，就业市场对于宝爸的青睐，尤其是管理层候选人；这让我特别好奇，结婚or生娃，会怎么影响我们的职场？本期请来未婚、已婚、临产、宝妈四位不同人生阶段的朋友，一起畅谈。男女视角我读出不一样的答案。欢迎加入微信听友群：15618667007，等你哦00:50 - 本期嘉宾：Joy&Alex01:25 - 宝妈、新妈、新婚、未婚大介绍04:24 - 男女视角看职场孕妈08:04 - 当怀孕遭遇加班10:53 - 嫁得好不如怀对公司12:46 - 爸爸在职场中也难吗？14:04 - HR为何青睐宝爸？15:15 -产假后为何放弃升职18:00 -训练你的大脑19:12 -向蕾哈娜看齐？22:07 - 生女儿时的心里动作24:48 -体会妻子的世界26:59-男女的挑战各不同28:04-是为家庭牺牲还是激发新可能30:58-做真心的选择，怎样都不会错33:30-带狗粮的结语00:50 - Meet Our Guests: Joy & Alex01:25 - Moms, New Moms, Newlyweds & Singles04:24 - Pregnancy at Work: How Men and Women See It Differently08:04 - When Pregnancy and Overtime Collide10:53 - Is It Better to Marry Well or Be Pregnant at the Right Company?12:46 - Do Dads Struggle at Work Too?14:04 - Why HR Prefers Hiring Dads Over Moms15:15 - Why Give Up Promotions After Maternity Leave18:00 - Rewiring Your Brain for Parenthood and Career19:12 - Taking Notes from Rihanna?22:07 - What Goes Through Your Mind When You Have a Daughter?24:48 - Seeing Life Through Your Wife’s Eyes26:59 - Workplace Struggles: How Men and Women Face Different Battles28:04 - Sacrificing for Family or Unlocking New Possibilities?30:58 - If It’s a Choice from the Heart, There’s No Wrong Decision33:30 - A Heartfelt Closing

❤️又到送礼时节了，别焦虑啊！要问什么是最好的礼物？其实英语字典很早就给出答案了，present当下，它的意思也是gift啊！如果需要英文文稿，欢迎加入微信听友群：15618667007❤️00:54 - 本期话题：有关礼物那些事02:22 - 律所礼物交换收到奇怪礼物03:11 - 送“奢侈品”的创意玩法05:03 - 最好的礼物叫“懂你”07:00 - 为什么要送礼物08:40 - 用走心礼物去管理09:52 - 礼物也是一种沟通术10:14 - 在上海什么礼物最贵12:21 - 送礼物也要看天机13:14 - 给家人的礼物不该掉链子15:07 - 德国人送礼物也严谨16:23 - 吐槽摩羯座选礼物18:20 - 送给自己的礼物19:47 - 最好的礼物就是今天21:14 -总结00:54 - Topic of the Day: The Art of Gift-Giving02:22 - Strange Gifts from a Law Firm Gift Exchange03:11 - Creative Ways to Gift “Luxury” Items05:03 - The Best Gift? It's “Understanding You”07:00 - Why Do We Give Gifts?08:40 - Using Thoughtful Gifts for Relationship Management09:52 - Gifts as a Form of Communication10:14 - The Most Expensive Gifts in Shanghai12:21 - The “Gift of Timing”13:14 - Don’t Drop the Ball When Gifting Family15:07 - How Germans Do Gift-Giving with Precision16:23 - Ranting About Capricorn's Gift-Giving Skills18:20 - Gifts for Yourself19:47 - The Best Gift is Today

美国博主1欧购意大利城堡的油管视频，让我开始好奇外国人怎么看买房这件事。是出于安全感？家庭需要？投资理财？还是选择一种生活方式？本期茶话会跨时差汇聚三国朋友，这半小时我居然听到更酷的解读！                                                                            欢迎加入微信听友群：15618667007，也欢迎关注本期嘉宾IG: dan_kiwiabroad 00:50 - 本期嘉宾：来自新西兰的Daniel 01:48 - 新西兰人民购房观 03:21 - 有一种生活叫9号线 05:00 - 租豪宅变富翁的玄学 07:33 - 买房子能养安全感吗 09:04 - 分手后买房犒赏自己 13:26 - 你是你自己移动的家 14:39 - 一扇等你的窗 15:30 - 女人要有属于自己的房间 17:12 - 在KFC找安全感的方法 22:05 -其他国家父母也帮买房吗 23:19 - 当败家子遇到买房 29:53 - 在上海为爱而嫁 32:26 - 你想过怎样的一生 34:00 -总结                                                                                                                                                                             00:50 - Guest: Daniel from New Zealand 01:48 - How New Zealanders View Homeownership 03:21 - "Line 9": A Lifestyle Choice 05:00 - The Secret to Renting Luxury Homes and Getting Rich 07:33 - Does Owning a Home Bring Security? 09:04 - Buying a House as a Post-Breakup Reward 13:26 - You Are Your Own Moving Home 14:39 - A Window That Waits for You 15:30 - Every Woman Deserves a Room of Her Own 17:12 - Finding Comfort in a KFC Booth 22:05 - Do Parents Help Buy Homes in Other Countries? 23:19 - When a Spender Becomes a Homeowner 29:53 - Love and Real Estate in Shanghai 32:26 - Living the Life You Envision

运动真是件奇妙的小事：明明是消耗体力，运动完却能量满满；明明是i人体质，动起来社牛附体；他们爱找虐，条框多，几乎人均偏执狂，强迫症，但又偏偏一个个都是人间锦鲤，随地大小运、桃花朵朵开。本期嘉宾来自F45Shanghai小明星，上海各大运动community非官方代言人Sandora，听听她是怎么越运动越走运的？欢迎加入微信听友群：1561866700700:45 - 本期嘉宾：运动女王Sandora02:38 - 运动与约会的对赌条约06:52 - 骑行改变了生活轨迹08:14 - 跑者7公里内不打车10:40 - 打出领导范儿11:25 - 不能爽约的约定13:50 - 运动给你开辟个人时间15:17 - 跑步入伙的好处17:02 - 运动员还是运动媛？18:25 - 不够喜欢才要激励19:45 - elite都是同频强者21:08 - 好奇心也是驱动力23:02 - 投入运动等于投简历25:36 - 总结00:45 - Guest: The Sport Queen-Sandora02:38 - Betting Agreement Between Sports and Dating06:52 - How Cycling Changed Life’s Path08:14 - Runners Don’t Take Cabs Within 7 KM10:40 - Punch Like a Leader11:25 - Never Broken a Promise13:50 - Creating Your Me Time15:17 - Benefits of Joining a Running Crew17:02 - Athlete or Sports Socialite?18:25 - Only Need Motivation if You Don’t Love It Enough19:45 - Elite Athletes are the same21:08 - Curiosity as a Driving Force23:02 - Investing in Sports is an investment in career25:36 - Conclusion

01:06 - 为什么要爱自己？01:42 - 成为自己剧本的主角02:22 - 旺自己：当爱自己的意识觉醒05:21 - 随时正反馈：有点进步就奖励自己07:11 - 用每年一次华晨宇演唱会，回顾自己一年得失11:30 -人生本就不完美12:11 -与他人比较，你只会忘记自己13:24 - 一句话让你远离职场PUA13:50 - 永远记着你的最佳版本14:50 - 成长是自己和自己比16:29 - 不配得感从何而来18:46 - 当大家不再卷21:37 - 办教培新思路：体验什么是爱自己23:15 - 爱自己教教主：伊能静26:00 - 总结01:06 - Why self-love?01:42 - To be the protagonist of your own life script.02:22 - When the consciousness of loving yourself awakens.05:21 - Instant feedback: reward yourself for even small progress.07:11 - An annual concert by Hua Chenyu to review yourself.11:30 - Real life is all about imperfections.12:11 - Comparing yourself to others will only make you forget yourself.13:24 - One sentence to help you avoid workplace PUA13:50 - Always remember your best version.14:50 - Growth is about comparing yourself to yourself.16:29 - Where does the sense of unworthiness come from?18:46 - When everyone stops involuting.21:37 - New ideas for education & training: experiencing what self-love is.23:15 - Self-love guru: Yi Nengjing.26:00 - Summary.

01:17 本期嘉宾：新西兰学前教育从业者 Fei01:50  中国和新西兰教育不同点02:54 纯玩没教学KPI03:28 卷不倦的华人家长04:12  新西兰家长更相信体能发展07:10  注重创新的毛里求斯教育08:36 教育对性格的影响09:11  只会做题，但不会应对人生难题10:54  去支持和陪伴就够了13:35  新西兰老师无需“统一管理学生”的秘密15:13   创造力和守规则，谁都绕不开16:32  德国职业学校的设计18:37  社会应给予不同教育价值19:38  多元价值观，带来多元未来21:55  重构家长头脑中成功的定义22:38  付航：体能教育改变命运24:10  从小学会应对情绪，长大就不补课了25:56  路径依赖与应试教育26:30 活在别人的期待是对的吗？29:06  成长路径在每个国家都不是线性的30:55  结语01:17 Guest: Fei, early education practitioner in New Zealand01:50 Differences between education in China and New Zealand02:54 Play-based learning without teaching KPIs03:28 Chinese parents never exhausted04:12 New Zealand parents focus more on physical development07:10 Mauritius' education system and its emphasis on innovation08:36 The influence of education on personality09:11 Good at taking tests but unprepared for real-life challenges10:54 Supporting and accompanying children is enough13:35 The secret behind why New Zealand teachers don’t need to “uniformly manage students”15:13 Creativity and conformity – challenges that everyone faces16:32 The design of Germany’s vocational schools18:37 Society should recognize the value of different education paths19:38 Diverse values bring a diverse future21:55 Redefining success in the minds of parents22:38 Fuhang: Physical education can change a person’s fate24:10 Learning emotional coping skills early25:56 Path dependency and exam-focused education26:30 Is living up to others' expectations the right path?29:06 Growth paths are not linear in any country30:55 Conclusion

00:45 本期嘉宾：音乐制作人 Kian01:24 荷尔蒙,个人意志的觉醒03:00 没人问我想要什么04:00 没有一成不变的三观05:24 油管播客推动的职场追求06:06 结识朋友去进化自己06:35 确立价值观应该是门课10:10 从耐克和阿迪达斯看到的11:25 找到你的甜区12:35 文化冲击中长大的小孩14:35 给年轻人多点空间吧17:15 坚定内心，记住自己是谁22:30 数字焦虑中的内容创作者24:00 了解规则，摒弃规则26:20 花不盛开就换环境27:30 外观也是价值观31:00 总结00:45 Guest: Music Producer Kian01:24 Hormones: The Awakening of Personal Will03:00 No One Asks What I Want04:00 No Fixed Values05:24 YouTube Podcasts Shift New Career Pursuits06:06 Evolve Yourself by Meeting People06:35 How to Identify Personal Values Should Be a Subject10:10 Insights from Nike and Adidas11:25 Find Your Sweet Spot12:00 Growing Up Amid Cultural Conflict14:00 Give Young People More Space17:15 Steadfast Your Heart: Remember Who You Are22:30 Content Creators in Digital Anxiety24:00 Know the Game, Discard the Game26:20 If a Flower Doesn't Bloom27:30 Appearance Reflects Values31:00 Summary

00:00  成员介绍 00:35  为什么选这个话题 00:56  是听众还是显眼包？ 02:39  跟住当下话题，就没问题 03:26  插嘴不成有点尬 04:00  看人说话 04:49  让牛人先说完 05:41   先赞，再夺话语权 06:25  看上下文再决定要不要插嘴 07:32  无痕插话就像主持串场 08:26  礼貌终止无聊对话 08:50  对付强势客户小妙招 10:02  酒会上加入陌生人对话靠什么 12:21   头铁要提反对意见也有招 17:54   危急关头不得不插话 18:45  总结 00:00 Team intro 00:35 Why this topic was chosen 00:56 Listener or spotlight? 02:39 Be present in the conversation 03:26 The awkward moment 04:00 Know your audience 04:49 Let the boss finish first 05:41 Compliment first, then take the floor 06:25 Read the room before speaking 07:32 Seamless interruptions 08:26 Politely ending small talk 08:50 Tips for handling a dominant client 10:02 Joining strangers' conversations at a party 12:21 Disagreeing tactfully 17:54 The hard stop 18:45 Summary

00:00 成员介绍 00:23 为什么选这个话题 01:17 陌生人会重溯你 02:59 利用旅行训练你的e人能力 06:20 结识陌生人时的内心活动 08:37 等电梯秒结识帅哥全靠这个字 11:28 打造你身上可识别的话引子 13:25 忘掉那些限制你机会的恐惧 16:20 三人行环境展开话题更自然 18:10 说点不一样的才能吸引人 19:19 结识靠谱合作伙伴全靠“抱怨” 21:42 总结 00:00 Team intro 00:23 Why this topic was chosen. 01:17 The strangers you meet will reshape you 02:59 Use a trip to train your E-personality 06:20 Inner thoughts when meeting strangers 08:37 How to meet guy in the elevator shortly 11:28  Create identifiable topic starters on your body 13:25  Forget the fear that limits your opportunities 16:20  Start conversation in a group of three 18:10  Say something different to catch the attention 19:19  “Complaint” help you meet reliable business partners 21:42  Summary