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The cast of Altar'd Manhood had the privilege of sitting down with world renown Christian artist and musician KB.KB is a Dove Award-winning rapper, speaker, author, and podcaster. With five full-length albums to his name — including 2020’s His Glory Alone, for which he won the Dove Award for Rap/Hip-Hop Album of the Year — the multi-hyphenate artist is an inimitable force on today’s scene. He has become a No. 1 hitmaker and has received critical acclaim for his studio releases with placement on Billboard’s Top 200 Album Chart and top 5 on Billboard’s Top Rap Album Chart. KB is cohost of the popular podcast Southside Rabbi. Furthermore, HGA — a movement he spearheaded made up of multiethnic, urban men and women from all walks of life — has amassed a loyal following around the globe. Additionally, KB released his first book, Dangerous Jesus: Why the Only Thing More Risky than Getting Jesus Right Is Getting Jesus Wrong, via Tyndale Publishing in 2023 along with his latest album His Glory Alone II. Although KB wears many hats, his greatest joy is being a husband to Michelle and a father to their three children.The Signal Tour: https://www.whoiskb.com/tourSouthside Rabbi Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/southside-rabbi/id1480311293His Glory Alone Store: https://hgasupply.com/Books Referenced: The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It by Warren Farrell

Tim, Jerry and Ralph continue their discussion about how God's covenants make us better men. The covenants make us stronger and more effective with greater impact. Covenants expose the idols in our life. They discuss the picture of the Abraham sacrificing Isaac and God's intervention to provide a ram. The second half of the podcast covers the story of Jacob becoming Israel and having 12 sons that become the 12 tribes of Israel. We learn about the story of Joseph and his perseverance in Egypt after being sold into slavery.Unforgiveness is a prison. Don't stay there. God gives you the ability to forgive!The Altar'd Manhood team is considering hosting a one day event for men. If you'd be interested please leave a comment!

Tim, Ralph and Jerry from Altar'd Manhood sit down with Jeff Ford, CEO of ManUp.BIO:Jeff Ford serves as the Chief Executive Officer of Man Up and Go, a global non-profit organization that mobilizes men to fight for the fatherless as Jesus commands. Knowing Jeff for many years and the powerful story of God’s redemptive work in his life, the Board of Directors made him Man Up and Go’s inaugural CEO in 2015, a position he considers a conduit for his life’s work. In addition to his role as CEO, Jeff serves as the Man Up Tampa Bay Cohort Chairman. He’s a 2017 Leadership Pasco graduate, former Eckerd Connects Advisory Council member and current Florida Support Services Advisory Council member, current Tampa Bay Foster Care and Adoption Alliance member, current Florida Faith-Based and Community-Based Advisory Council member, served as Guardian ad Litem and as a board member with the CS Lewis Society, and has summited the tallest free-standing mountain in the world, Mount Kilimanjaro, twice.Jeff graduated from Wheaton College (IL) and has lived in the Trinity (FL) area since 2003 with his wife Liza. They have two children, Asher (adopted from Ethiopia), and Jolie (adopted from China). Jeff loves Jesus, pizza, golf, traveling, working out, and most recently, cycling while wearing those ridiculously tight shorts.

Tim, Jerry and Ralph discuss the important of biblical covenants to us as men in our walk with God. They discuss the importance of trusting God not trying to please Him. They illustrate many biblical examples of how covenant language applies to our lives.References:Ray Vander Laan - That The World May KnowFirst Fruits of Zion - FFOZ.org: The Sabbath TableBook: The Cure - John S. Lynch, Bruce Thrall, Bill McNicolCelebration of Discipline: Richard J. Foster

Richard Bowen is the founder of All The Way Up Group Inc. and All The Way Up CBT Agency, a Christ-centered ministry committed to restoring hope, identity, and purpose in the lives of men and women impacted by addiction, incarceration, and generational brokenness. After surviving an abusive childhood and spending more than ten years in state and federal prison, Richard experienced a radical encounter with the love and mercy of God that transformed his life from the inside out.Today, he uses his testimony and training to teach life-skills, cognitive-behavioral principles, and biblical discipleship inside prisons, jails, re-entry programs, and recovery communities. His heart is to help people renew their minds, break destructive cycles, and discover that they are seen, valued, and deeply loved by the Father.Richard is also the author of All The Way Up, a powerful memoir detailing his journey from trauma and addiction to redemption and restored purpose. Through his ministry, writing, and daily outreach, he is committed to raising up a generation of men and women who walk in freedom, faith, and a transformed identity in Christ.Find Richard's Book Here on Amazon:https://a.co/d/aMVfWsD

In episode 20 the Altar'd Manhood guys have the privilege of sitting down with our first international guest, Christian Lenty. Christian hails from Thailand.Christian Lenty is the founder and director of The MST Project, a ministry that mentors men worldwide in pursuing greater sexual purity, spiritual wholeness, and Christlike maturity. The MST Project has four primary initiatives: On the Street, Pathway to Purity, Real Men Pursuing Purity, and Re:Start. On the Street is an outreach to foreign men who visit red-light districts, providing long-term mentorship and support for those men wanting to make changes. Pathway to Purity is for men in the church dealing with sexual addictions and struggles. Through 1-on-1 discipleship through their book, The Pursuit of Purity, men around the world have experienced freedom. Real Men Pursuing Purity seeks to inspire men to grow in greater Christlikeness in all areas of their lives. This is accomplished through quarterly online events and weekly connect groups with participants worldwide. And ReStart helps Christian workers involved in moral misconduct experience repentance, renewal, and restoration. Christian has lived in Thailand for 24 years and resides in Bangkok with his wife.

For episode #19, Altar'd Manhood had the privilege of sitting down with Bryan Scott Butler.Bryan is first and foremost a Christ follower. He is also a husband to his beautiful wife Carrie, of almost 18 years, and father to 4 amazing children, Bryan, Benjamin, Ashlynn and Adelynn. Bryan's story of redemption after being the victim of infidelity is a powerful reminder of how God restores. His submission through his pain and redemption shows how we can release control and trust God's plan even in the heart brake. Bryan's story of restoring his relationship with his earthly father is one that many men can relate to.Bryan is an ordained pastor who ministers to Law Enforcement as a Law Enforcement Chaplain with the Pasco Sheriff's Office in Pasco County Florida for 15 years. He is also the Director of Concerts & Events for Radio Training Network. A radio broadcast ministry that owns The JOY FM as well as other radio brands in the Southeast United States. He has been with RTN for almost 28 years. Bryan has worked alongside some of Christian Music's biggest artist on the biggest platforms. Bryan is passionate about being authentic in ones daily walk with Christ, understanding, as a born again believer, we are adopted into sonship with God the Father through the work of Jesus Christ (YESHUA) on the cross. He believes the Holy Spirit comforts, guides and equips us for the battles we face, both physically and spiritually to bring glory to God.

Episode 18 is a sit down with Pastor Kevin Miller and the release of his new book, RUN! A Proven Battle Plan For Preventing And Defeating Sexual Sin.Kevin Miller is a pastor, author, and speaker, who is passionate about reaching people far from Christ and helping them discover His purpose for their lives. He spent years of his life addicted, isolated, and spiraling in shame due to sexual sin.Kevin has been a pastor for over twenty years, and has spent most of those years preaching weekly to large and small groups at churches, conferences, events, classes, and other gatherings. He is passionate about sharing the freedom he has found through faith in Christ and honesty with others. Kevin is the author of three books, Better Than Gold, Come Hell or High Water, and RUN! A Proven Battle Plan For Preventing And Defeating Sexual Sin.After almost a decade of being married to his wife, Jenn, he sought professional help to deal with the damage that pornography had caused in his life and relationships. Counseling led to vulnerability and honesty, which led to newfound freedom and hope he had never experienced.Kevin and his wife, Jenn, live in Tampa, Florida and have three children, Emery, Adalyn, and Haddon.Book mentioned: Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred StoekerPower Quote: "Sin is never victimless or anonymous." Purchase Kevin's book at:www.kevmill.com

Tim, Jerry and Ralph sit down with the owner of The Rebuilt Man, Frank Rich. He specializes in helping men recover from addiction, build personal fitness, and develop one on one coaching and training. In part two, we take a deeper dive into how the church should approach this subject, how to put controls in our lives and understand the root cause of the behavior. We explore what tools and how a man's identity is the driver behind our behavior. We explore how parents can prevent and work up stream to prepare their kids and prevent exposure. We hit on how America has a testosterone problem and a consumption problem with their men. Lastly, we focus on how the first step out of this problem is to find a trusted male friend to tell and expose it to. That is the beginning of the pathway to victory.Frank's goal today is to build strong men around the globe that can change the world through righteous strength that serves and protects others.Book Series Mentioned: God's Design for Sex by Carolyn NystromCheck out more on Frank Rich at:The Super Human Podcastwww.rebuiltrecovery.com

Tim, Jerry and Ralph sit down with the owner of The Rebuilt Man, Frank Rich. He specializes in helping men recover from addiction, build personal fitness, and develop one on one coaching and training. In part one of this sit down, Frank tells his story about his own struggles in overcoming addiction, living accordingly to what he thought success was and how men find true fulfillment and success today. Frank's goal today is to build strong men around the globe that can change the world through righteous strength that serves and protects others.

Tim, Ralph and Jerry discuss sex in the context of marriage and the cultural distortion that men have faced in our current day and age. They discuss sex in the different context of stage of life: single, married no kids, married with kids, married with an empty nest at home. The world tries to shame men who haven't handled sex God's way but God can always redeem any situation. Men, don't feel shame. Learn to repent and follow God in this area.Sex has the power to bring down kingdoms or the power to make rock solid world changing marriages. There is a reward for waiting until marriage for sex. The covenant or marriage is consummated during the first act of sex between a man and woman on their wedding night.Single men find community with other men to remain pure until marriage. The dynamic of sex changes when men operate in their true identity to serve and be selfless during sex with their wife. When this is done right, the sex gets better.Book reference: Kevin Leman - Sex Begins in the KitchenDon't weaponize sex. God has given it to you as a gift. When it is weaponized we give satan a foothold. Sex is a spiritual act that builds layers of intimacy in your marriage and strengthens it.Sex in marriage is an act of worship. Invite God into the bedroom.Don't neglect sex as empty nesters. It is a powerful way to connect. Communicate vulnerably.

The beginning of episode 14 has the cast of Altar'd Manhood address the first listener question or learning to process grief with our spouses.Creating space for emotional intimacy that can lead to physical intimacy. A man's drive for physical intimacy is often how he connects emotionally to his wife.Am I a safe place for my wife when she's emotional?Discover the art of listening to your wife and ask questions.True intimacy is walking along together with the wife you're leading. Your wife wants to run with you and join with you.Women are great communicators but the men are the initiators. Text your wife to check in. Bring her lunch at her job. Court her to create intimacy. What are you doing all day to cultivate intimacy.They discussed the man in a marriage where things are just ok in their marriage and how to improve it. We need community and accountability to improve our marriages. Not taking offense or rejection is important but difficult.Book reference: Love and Respect - Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Tim, Jerry and Ralph had the privilege of sitting down with Hall of Fame Coach Tony Dungy on the Altar'd Manhood Podcast.---------------------------------------------------------------------Tony Dungy, a former NFL defensive back, advanced through the coaching ranks following his playing career. He earned his first head coaching position in 1996 with the Tampa Bay Buccaneers and over the next 13 seasons, that included seven years with the Indianapolis Colts, he racked up 148 total victories.Dungy’s career in coaching began in 1980 with the University of Minnesota before jumping back to the NFL with the Pittsburgh Steelers in 1981 where he rose to become the team’s defensive coordinator. He coached three years for the Kansas City Chiefs from 1989 to 1991 and then was named the defensive coordinator of the Minnesota Vikings from 1992 to 1995.Dungy took over a Buccaneers team in 1996 that had suffered 12 double-digit loss seasons in the previous 13 years before his arrival. The fortunes of the franchise quickly changed under his leadership. By his second season, the team finished 10-6 and earned a playoff berth. Two seasons later, in 1999, the Bucs posted an 11-5 record and clinched the franchise’s first divisional title since 1981. After six seasons in Tampa Bay, that included four trips to the playoffs, Dungy was relieved of his duties.Eight days after his dismissal by the Bucs, Dungy was hired by Indianapolis. Under his guidance, the Colts enjoyed success never experienced in the franchise’s history. During Dungy’s seven-year reign as Indy’s head coach, the Colts posted 12 or more wins in all of those seasons except his first when they finished 10-6. The team claimed five divisional titles and advanced to the playoffs every year of Dungy’s tenure as coach.In 2006, Dungy guided the Colts to an AFC South Division title and capped the season with a thrilling 38-34 win over their arch rival New England Patriots in the AFC championship game and a victory over the Chicago Bears in Super Bowl XLI. Dungy became the first African American head coach ever to win a Super Bowl.Dungy’s overall record as a NFL head coach was 148-79-0 and that includes a .668 winning percentage in the regular season (139-69-0).

In part 3 of the Intimacy Series, Tim, Jerry and Ralph talk the application of intimacy. They discuss the need for our wives to feel loved and secure. They discuss the practical steps behind creating intimacy in our marriages.Discussion centers around how our wives are unique and we can better serve them by learning what is important to them. Learn what is important to your wife and make it important to you. "What's important to her is important to me."How to manage culture creep is discussed.We have to stand in the gap for our wives and make them feel secure. Comparison will kill intimacy.Finding a mentor to fill your gaps in knowing how to be intimate with your wife, especially when you didn't have it modeled at home.Intimacy is prioritizing your family and being present at home. Participating in God's economy and prioritizing your life God's way creates intimacy at home. The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is the cheat code for learning to be by intimate with your wife. See link for the Love Languages quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzesAsk good questions to connect with your wife. It will foster trust. Then listen well and apply.Find that win!

Tim, Ralph and Jerry discuss part two of intimacy by starting in the garden and having and understanding of God wanting a closeness and intimacy with us. Nothing can separate us from the love of God. Intimacy begins with resting in God. It's a position of our heart.God's desire from the beginning is to be with us. Intimacy with God gives a man power. That power gives a man the ability to fulfill his calling and destiny with God. A man develops intimacy with God through Bible reading, honesty, transparency, prayer, meditation, fellowship with other believers (especially men) and study.Our disciplines with God transition to intimacy with our wives, kids and key relationships.God always wants intimacy no matter how far you feel you are from Him. No one is too far from God.Being intimate with God is being intentional with your time. Knowing the role of your wife helps with the intimacy and how you as a husband lead her. Our wife's are to partner with us to increase our intimacy with God. There's a space to dwell only with you, your wife and God. It's a sacred space.Emotional intimacy happens at the soul level that increases your intimacy in your marriage. When we get our spiritual intimacy and emotional intimacy right in our marriages then our physical intimacy will be so much better.Harshness to your wife is and intimacy killer. Live with her in an understanding way.Scriptures mentioned: Psalm 51Colossians 3:19 "Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them."Book mention - Celebration of Discipline: Richard Foster

Ralph, Jerry and Tim cover the idea of biblical intimacy. Intimacy is "to see into me." Part 1 is a introduction to the foundation of intimacy. Intimacy isn't transactional like the world says. It is a pursuit. God's plan for intimacy is to be known and be known through mind, body and soul.Everyone wants to know and be known. Intimacy without respect is counterfeit. Our wives are our favor and treasure.The danger of emotional affairs are discussed along with proper boundaries. The idea of "entanglement" as a cultural term is discussed. Intimacy is being connected in your marriage and connected with God together.Prayer in marriage is key to intimacy. Intimacy done right is a great healing to a wife and husband. Without the identity of Christ, intimacy can be difficult.Value your wife's gifting to bless you and guide you as a man. Intimacy with amplify your gifting and your marriage. Fighting for your marriage and the level of intimacy after is totally worth it.Singleness is addressed. The desire of intimacy is God given but with boundaries before marriage. Find someone who loves Jesus more than wanting a relationship. Be a friend first. There's great reward when you wait. Become the person you are looking for. Prepare a place for your wife. Get out of debt. You become more attractive when you're debt free!Books referenced: Kevin Lehman - Sex starts in the KitchenBitter Water Test - Find this is Numbers Chapter 5.

Tim, Jerry and Ralph discuss the blessing of work as part of God's creation. They cover trusting that God has you where He wants you and that is your mission field. Working to build God's kingdom isn't always about vocational ministry. The difference between a "job" and a "work" is explained. They draw on three examples: The guy who is having hard time getting going to work, the guy who has a solid work life balance, and the guy who is out of balance working too much. The traps of our current world and culture as it relates to work is also discussed. Comparison is the enemy of contentment. They encourage men to trust that God has your back and He has you where He wants you at the moment for His purpose. When you honor Him; He will reward you.Jerry shares his experience from his Israel visit and experiencing Shabbat. Ralph discusses how to live your life from rest just as Adam did in Genesis. Rest is a gift from God. Rest comes with reward for your body, mind and spirit. It is built to restore your soul. Books mentioned: Celebration of Discipline by Richard Foster, Running on Empty by Fil Anderson

Tim, Jerry and Ralph discuss the importance of boundaries for the success of manhood. Beginning with individual boundaries and moving to boundaries with marriage, children and others they discuss, limiting access to the world until we spend time with God daily and allowing our priorities to inform our boundaries. When Godly priorities reign in our lives, boundaries become clearer to implement. The magic word "no" must be something we can say during seasons of our life that require it. Staying on mission as a man requires boundaries. The enemy doesn't want boundaries for you. He prefers chaos. Boundaries bring peace.Book mentioned:Boundaries - Dr. Henry CloudScriptures mentioned:Genesis 3-4

Tim, Ralph and Jerry discuss how wives can speak life into their husbands and help form him into the man they want him to be. They also tackle how a Godly woman can reach a unsaved man. They discuss the struggle of the curse of control from the garden that women can deal with. They cover how to inspire a stagnant man currently lukewarm in his faith."Men are ready to jump in but no one is calling them to come."Books mentioned:5 Love Languages - Gary ChapmanLove and Respect - Dr. Emerson EggerichsWild at Heart - John Eldredge

In this episode Tim, Jerry and Ralph discuss the enemy's deception tactics in a time where there's a high level of misinformation trying to make people stumble. Of high importance is realizing truth has one source and knowing biblical truth allows us to filter out falsehoods.

In this episode Tim, Ralph and Jerry discuss the targeting of men in a hyper sexualized culture. They discuss how the enemy has used the entertainment industry and social media to lure men. They draw a distinction between healthy sexuality and unhealthy sexuality. They discuss helping men get free of the shackles of a culture targeting them.

In this episode of Altar’d Manhood Tim, Jerry and Ralph draw from their individual backgrounds and upbringings to share their challenges as they pursue authentic masculinity. All from different ethnic backgrounds makes for a diverse and thoughtful discussion about each man should drive to follow the example of Jesus and He modeled perfect authentic masculinity. Connect with Us IG: @altaredmanhood FB: Altared Manhood TikTok: @altared_manhood Email: [email protected] Tim: @prodigalman Ralph: @iamralphjohnson

Restorative parenting is about pursuing and humbling ourselves to repair broken relationships with our children. It involves being available, consistent, and gentle in our approach. We need to communicate love, pride, and affirmation to our children, just as God does to us. It's important to be vulnerable and admit our mistakes, asking for forgiveness when we mess up. Restorative parenting requires us to rely on God's grace and wisdom, and to be intentional in our actions. It's about pursuing reconciliation and creating a safe space for our children to come back home. Connect with Us IG: @altaredmanhood FB: Altared Manhood TikTok: @altared_manhood Email: [email protected] Tim: @prodigalman Ralph: @iamralphjohnson Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Restorative Parenting 01:03 Understanding Broken Relationships 01:54 Tools for Restoring Relationships 04:26 Moving Forward Rather than Looking Back 05:31 Importance of Humility in Parenting 06:46 Responsibility and the Weight of Parenthood 07:09 Seeking Forgiveness from Our Children 08:04 God's Parenting Model 20:40 A Personal Story on Asking for Forgiveness 21:49 Understanding True Forgiveness 22:10 The Power of Humbling Yourself 23:00 Connecting With Our Children 24:02 The Role of Humility in Parenting 30:20 Pursuing Your Child Regardless of Circumstances 37:27 Staying Available for Your Kids 41:41 God as Our Heavenly Father 42:10 Conclusion and Future Topics

In this conversation, the hosts discuss the shame cycle and how it can affect Christian men. They emphasize the importance of understanding repentance and the depth of the gospel to break free from shame. They highlight the need for authenticity and vulnerability in relationships, both with God and with other men. They also discuss the difference between guilt and shame, and the importance of replacing negative behaviors with positive ones. The hosts encourage men to take responsibility for their actions, seek accountability, and surrender to the Holy Spirit's work in their lives. Connect with Us IG: @altaredmanhood FB: Altared Manhood TikTok: @altaredmanhood Email: [email protected] Tim: @prodigalman Ralph: @iamralphjohnson Chapters 00:00 Introduction: The Shame Cycle 02:50 Understanding Repentance and the Gospel 06:05 Guilt vs. Shame 08:29 Losing the Right to Condemn Yourself 17:34 Overcoming the Enemy's Traps 19:29 Confession and the Holy Spirit's Work 30:40 Taking Responsibility and Seeking Accountability 36:42 Surrendering to God's Forgiveness and Cleansing

Pastor Ralph Johnson, Pastor Jerry Batista and Tim Couet engage in the premier episode of Altar'd Manhood by diving into defining what an Altar'd Man is and the heart behind their podcast. What is success? What are the distractions and traps men are facing in today's world? They share personal stories and lessons from their lives. They shared their passion to help men win in a way that God tells them to and not what the world is selling. They explore the idea that true fulfillment isn't an accumulation of earthly possessions but by a personal relationship with God and by doing right by your family. This group covers everything from why men are failing, what it means to be a success and how we can successfully battle daily in our fallen world. Connect with Us IG: @altaredmanhood FB: Altared Manhood TikTok: @altaredmanhood Email: [email protected] Tim: @prodigalman Ralph:  @iamralphjohnson  Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Defining Success 01:33 Challenges and Steps to Combat Them 03:03 Distractions and Developing Faith 04:27 Identity and Redefinition 06:18 Comparison and Contentment 07:17 Prioritizing Faith, Family, and Future 09:13 Seeking God's Wisdom in the Morning 12:29 Changing the Perspective on Women: Breaking Free from Pornography