Be Real with JoDee

Send me a message!!Do you ever walk into a room and immediately start thinking:“Say something.”“Don’t be awkward.”“Be more social.”And then suddenly your mind goes blank?In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’re talking about why forcing yourself to “be social” actually creates more anxiety and overthinking. I’ll teach you a simple mindset shift that helps calm your nervous system, stop the pressure, and make conversations feel more natural.One of the biggest confidence mistakes teens make is believing they HAVE to perform socially to be accepted. But confidence actually grows when your body feels safe, not pressured.In this episode we talk about:• Why your brain freezes in conversations• The hidden pressure that creates social anxiety• A simple “social anxiety hack” to calm your body fast• How to stop overthinking what to say• Why confident people don’t force conversations• How to feel more like yourself around other peopleIf you’ve ever felt awkward, anxious, quiet, or stuck in your head socially, this episode is for you.

Send me a message!!What if the reason you feel stuck, unmotivated, or overwhelmed… isn’t because your goal is too hard?In this episode, I’m breaking down something that will change the way you see your brain forever: Your brain doesn’t care what’s true. It believes whatever you repeat.So if you keep thinking “I can’t do this” or “this is too hard,” your brain will accept that as fact and you’ll start showing up like it’s true.That’s why you procrastinate.That’s why you avoid your goals.That’s why you end up proving your own thoughts right.But here’s the good news: you can change it.I’ll show you how to:Understand why overwhelm actually happensStop believing every thought your brain gives youChoose thoughts on purpose that help you feel motivatedTake small, doable action (even when it feels uncomfortable)Start creating results you actually wantIf you’ve ever felt stuck, lazy, or like you just can’t follow through… this episode will show you what’s really going on and how to change it.Because confidence and motivation don’t come from your circumstances…they come from the thoughts you practice.

Send me a message!!What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you lack confidence… but because you’re relying on the wrong kind?In this episode, we break down the difference between confidence and self-confidence and why it matters more than you think.Confidence comes from your past. It’s built by doing something over and over again until you trust you can do it.But self-confidence?That’s something completely different.Self-confidence is deciding ahead of time:“I’ve got my own back.”“I’m proud of myself no matter what.”“If I fail, I lean.”And that changes everything.Because if you only do things you already feel confident in… your life stays small.But when you’re willing to feel nervous, embarrassed, or uncomfortable—and you know how to handle those emotions you can do anything.We also talk about why nervousness feels just like excitement (and how to use that to your advantage), plus simple mindset shifts to help you stop waiting to feel ready and start showing up as your most confident self.If you’ve ever thought, “I’m just not confident enough,” this episode will change the way you see yourself and what you’re capable of.

Send me a message!!In this episode, we’re talking about something that feels SO hard …having difficult conversations.It can feel like you only have two options:stay quiet and people-please… or speak up and risk hurting someone or starting a fight.But what if that’s not actually true?What if the real question isn’t “Do I be nice or do I be honest?”What if the question is: “How can I be kind and honest?”In this episode, I’ll teach you:Why people-pleasing keeps you stuck (and actually hurts your relationships)What’s really going on when you avoid hard conversationsHow to say what you feel without being rude or causing dramaSimple mindset shifts that help you feel calm and confident speaking upYou’ll learn how to stop choosing between being “the nice one” and being “the honest one”… and start becoming someone who can do both.Because confident people aren’t the ones who avoid hard conversationsthey’re the ones who know how to handle them.

Send me a message!!I’m taking you inside a real talk I gave to a club volleyball team, where we got into confidence, anxiety, pressure, and what to do with all the thoughts in your head.But here’s the thing this isn’t just about sports.Everything I teach in this talk applies to school, friendships, performance, and just being a teenager trying to figure life out.If you’ve ever felt nervous, not good enough, or stuck in your own head… this episode will change how you see yourself.This is what I would teach ANY teen who wants to feel more confident.

Send me a message!!You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago. In this episode, we talk about how the labels you give yourself shape your identity and how you can choose new thoughts, new actions, and become the person you want to be starting today.

Send me a message!!In middle school and high school, one of the worst things someone can call you is a “tryhard.”Like somehow caring about school, sports, or your goals is embarrassing.But what if that idea is completely backwards?In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we talk about why trying hard is actually one of the coolest and bravest things you can do. JoDee shares a story about Victor Wembanyama crying after a regular season basketball game because he cared that much about doing his best.Instead of making him weak, it showed something powerful: he cares enough to try.We’ll also talk about:• Why people sometimes make fun of “tryhards”• The real fear that keeps people from trying• How caring about your life actually builds confidence• Why the most successful people are willing to go all inIf you’ve ever held back because you didn’t want to look like you cared too much, this episode will help you see things differently.Trying isn’t embarrassing.Trying is brave.And the people who change their lives are the ones who are willing to care enough to try.

Send me a message!!The way you talk to yourself is the same energy you bring to other people. Let’s learn how self-compassion changes everything.

Send me a message!!Ever notice how the second you tell yourself “I should do this” or “I have to do that,” you suddenly feel tired, annoyed, or totally unmotivated?In this episode, we talk about why pressure and guilt actually shut your brain down and why that doesn’t mean you’re lazy or unmotivated. You’ll learn a simple question you can ask yourself that helps your brain calm down and be willing to try.

Send me a message!!If you’ve ever walked into school feeling like no one likes you or you don’t fit in, this episode is for you. Your brain isn’t telling you the truth. It’s just trying to keep you safe based on what’s happened before.Your brain looks for evidence that matches what you already believe. So if you believe you don’t have friends, it will notice every time someone doesn’t talk to you and ignore all the moments that don’t match that story. Then you pull back, stop engaging, and accidentally make it true.In this episode, I teach you how to stop blindly listening to your brain, how to question your thoughts, and how small actions like talking to people, giving compliments, and reminding yourself that you’re a good friend can completely change your experience and your confidence.

Send me a message!!What if you didn’t have to hate yourself into becoming better?So many of us think that shaming ourselves, replaying past mistakes, or calling ourselves lazy or a procrastinator will finally motivate us. But it doesn’t. It just keeps us stuck and feeling embarrassed, discouraged.  In this episode, we talk about why your past choices don’t define you, why self-criticism doesn’t create growth, and how compassion actually moves you forward. You’ll learn how to stop reliving who you used to be and start asking a more powerful question:“What do I want to do today?”This episode will help you:Let go of shame around past choicesSeparate who you are from what you’ve doneStop using self-hate as motivationChoose actions today that future-you will be proud ofYou don’t need to become better by tearing yourself down.You become better by choosing again…today.

Send me a message!!Finals week hits and suddenly your brain is yelling, “I’m stressed, I’m overwhelmed, I have too much to do!”And then… you don’t actually do anything.In this episode, I break down why telling yourself you’re stressed actually makes finals harder, not easier and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to stop spiraling, calm your nervous system, and still show up and do your best without burning out.We’ll talk about:•Why “I’m so stressed” keeps you stuck•How to separate who you are from your grades•Why calm students still do well (and how to become one)•How to make a simple plan instead of overthinking everythingFinals don’t define you but you can still care and try.This episode will help you feel calmer, clearer, and more confident going into exams.

Send me a message!!In this episode ai break down what I actually did this week feeling bad about not completing my goals.  We also dive into a trick we used this week in coaching for when someone doesn’t like you.   

Send me a message!!What if you’re only one thought away from feeling confident today? In this episode I tell you a story about a client that chose a thought intentionally and watched her whole school life change!

Send me a message!!Your brain believes what you teach it. Let’s train it to see your strength, your potential, and who you’re becoming — not just your fears.

Send me a message!!In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we talk about what to do when you’re not getting the validation you want from your coach, your teammates, or anyone else.If you’ve ever walked off the field wishing someone would say “good job” — and instead heard only what you did wrong — this episode is for you. JoDee shares a story from a recent coaching session with a teen athlete who was tired of feeling disappointed after every game, and how learning to “let the coach off the hook” changed everything.You’ll learn how to stop giving other people power over how you feel, how to create confidence from your own thoughts, and how to find the fun again — no matter what feedback you get.Because you don’t play for praise — you play for joy.

Send me a message!!How to feel better without changing anyone!!!

Send me a message!!Fall break sounds awesome until you are sitting sound brain rotting in your phone and feeling bad about your life.  In this episode we break down what is actually going on in your brain and how you can feel better!

Send me a message!!How can you finally get motivated to clean your room or finish your paper or anything else in your life?  Starting is the hardest part and I’m going to give you the best back to get started!  

Send me a message!!We spend so much time preparing for the worst and what ends up happening it we make it even more likely the worst will happen!  Listen today to find out how optimism could change your entire life!

Send me a message!!Fighting with friends is the worst but what if you don’t have to match the negative defensive energy?  Find out how to feel calm no matter what your friends are doing.  

Send me a message!!It’s hard because you know you shouldn’t worry but you cant help it!  In this episode we give you real tips to use in the moment you are worrying!

Send me a message!!Do you wish you could be friends with people but don’t think they accept you?  If so you are in the right place because that’s exactly what we are diving into in this episode!

Send me a message!!growth is expensive just like the movies but instead of paying $12… you pay with discomfort. 

Send me a message!!School isn’t about being smart or dumb,  it’s about knowing how you learn best. In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’re breaking the myth that some people are just naturally good at school and others aren’t. You’ll learn how to figure out your learning style, use simple brain-coaching tools to crush negative thoughts, and find strategies that make studying actually work for you. This year, it’s not about working harder, it’s about working smarter… your way.

Send me a message!!People tell you all the time “you have to believe in yourself!”  If you are like me you are thinking “ya I want to but HOW do I do it?”  We are going to go through the HOW in this episode and you are going to change your whole life once you learn that belief is a decision you can just make.  Spoiler alert….  You even get a permission slip!

Send me a message!!In this episode, I share a real coaching moment with a teen gymnast who felt overwhelmed by anxiety during her events. Instead of trying to shove anxiety away, we gave it a name, Barb! She has a new role: riding in the backseat, not driving the car. If your anxiety is bossing you around, this episode will help you see it differently, take back the wheel, and show up with confidence, even when Barb tags along.

Send me a message!!Want more friends but not sure how to make it happen? You’re not alone. In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’ll talk about a game-changing mindset: what if you started looking for what’s cool about every person you meet? When you learn to genuinely like people, something surprising happens—they start liking you back. You’ll discover how to stop overthinking, connect more easily, and build real friendships without changing who you are. Let’s ditch the pressure and start making friends the real way….by being real, being kind, and seeing the good in others.

Send me a message!!Fitting in is hard and it’s also a made up thing.  In this episode we find out how we can we can start being ourselves everywhere we go instead of trying to be someone we are not.   

Send me a message!!You don’t need to cheerlead yourself out of pain. Sometimes just saying “yeah, this is hard” is exactly what your brain needs to hear.Check out this episode where we stop feeling bad for feeling bad and give ourself a minute to feel however we do.  Then we will learn a powerful question that will empower us to move forward instead of staying stuck!

Send me a message!!Stop telling yourself to be more positive or grateful or whatever…. Feeling negative is normal and you aren’t bad for having these thoughts.  In this episode you will find out what to do instead of shaming yourself that will actually unlock some real leverage over your thoughts and help you create the life you want!

Send me a message!!There is no worse feeling than when you feel left out but what if there is a way you could feel better without anyone else changing?  In this episode we will break down how you can break free from that feeling and not leave yourself out even more by feeling bad about yourself.  Real tools to help you in the moment!  Check it out!

Send me a message!!Real tools to help you take back your power and have the best summer ever!

Send me a message!!If you feel sorry for yourself welcome to being a human!  You are normal.  It’s also exacting and can make you feel stuck.  If you want to feel better without changing anyone check out this episode where we give you a life changing tool that can help you take back your power!

Send me a message!!Do you try your best to help your teens with anxiety and sometimes make it worse?  I totally get it!  In this episode you will learn how to help yourself and your teens!

Send me a message!!Is fear holding you back?  Are there things you want to do or try but you tell yourself you are just too scared to do it?  If so that is NORMAL!!  There is nothing wrong with you but what if you could learn some tools to move through the fear and take action on the things you want to do?  In this episode you will learn what to do when you get that feeling and how to go accomplish your goals!  

Send me a message!!You might think you’re being humble when you put yourself down but what if that’s actually just ego in disguise? In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between humility and insecurity, and why constantly thinking negative thoughts about yourself isn’t a sign of being humble.  It’s a sign your are always thinking about you. We will learn real tools on how to break free from this way of thinking.  

Send me a message!!In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’re diving into one of the most painful thoughts a teen (or anyone!) can have: “I have no friends.” If you’ve ever felt left out, invisible, or convinced that you don’t belong, you’re not alone—and this episode is for you.

Send me a message!!Ever wish people would just act the way you want? In this episode, we’re talking about why trying to control others never works—and how letting go of that need actually makes you feel better. You’ll learn about “The Manual” (a sneaky little guide your brain writes for other people) and how dropping it can bring more peace, confidence, and freedom. Take your power back—without needing anyone else to change.

Send me a message!!What do you do when your friends start doing things you know aren’t right—like vaping, drinking, cussing, or making other choices that don’t match your values? In this episode, we talk about how to still be kind and loving without following their lead. You’ll learn how to be the kind of friend who lifts others up, how to choose friends who help you stay true to yourself, and why real happiness never comes from fitting in—but from knowing your worth and remembering how much God loves you. This one’s for every teen who’s ever felt torn between fitting in and standing strong.

Send me a message!!It’s so hard to know what the right decision is especially when everyone has their own opinion of what “right” is. Check out this podcast today and let’s  help you figure out what the right decision is for YOU today!  

Send me a message!!If you have a hard time following through with your goals and doing what you say you are going to do ….this episode is for you!!We are going to teach you some tools to make your goals achievable and help you increase your confidence in yourself exponentially!

Send me a message!!Worth and worthiness sound the same but mean completely different things. In this episode we break it down in understandable parts so we can actually know the difference. Great news!!  You can’t take credit for your worth and you can’t lose it.  Let me know what you think in the reviews and share with a friend!

Send me a message!!If I locked you in room with a bully for a year how would you feel about it?  How would you feel after a whole year hanging out with that bully nonstop?  Terrible right?!  We would never choose to do that in our lives but the truth is we do that everyday in our minds.  We bully ourselves with the negative thoughts we hear all day every day.  In this episode we learn how to break up with the bully in our heads and best friend ourselves!  Check it out!

Send me a message!!It’s easy to be happy when life is going your way.  What are you supposed to do when everything seems hard?  How can you feel happy then?  The truth is we aren’t always suppose to be happy.  It’s totally fine to be sad or mad or upswept.  If you are like me though sometimes you get sick of feeling sorry for yourself and feeling sad and you want to feel better.  I have good news for you.  You can.  Even if your life doesn’t change.  I’m this episode we talk about how to feel happy when life is hard. Real tools to feel better!  Let’s go!

Send me a message!!Your thoughts FEEL TRUE.  It’s seems like the thoughts you have about yourself and your life are just observations of what is real.  But what if that’s not true at all?  What if your thoughts are your brain trying to keep you safe and also small.  In this episode we break down what to do when those negative thoughts come into your brain. How to choose your thoughts intentionally and practice the skill of being confident.  You can learn this and I can’t wait to teach you! 

Send me a message!!Sometimes we think if we are really hard on ourselves and tell ourselves this is a really big deal we will play or perform better.  The truth is sometimes it works but eventually the pressure builds up so much we end up crumbling mentally and are not able to play or perform at the level we want.  In this episode we break down how to deal with losing or performing badly and give you tools that actually work to help you do your best.  

Send me a message!!It’s normal to feel defensive when you make a mistake.  We could name tons of reasons we are justified in our behavior and it’s not our fault.  The problem is when we blame other people for our mistakes we are left powerless. We also have this little voice in our head that tells us “maybe it is all your fault!”  “Maybe you just aren’t good enough.” In this episode we talk about how to get yourself out of this blame shame trap and come out feeling confident and able to try better next time! 

Send me a message!!Stop trying not to have negative thoughts.  Stop being mad that you have them and start EXPECTING THEM.  Satan is NOT original. He will tell you the same things he tells everyone… You aren’t enough.  You don’t belong.   You don’t fit in.  No one likes you.  In this episode we learn  how to expect these negative thoughts and then choose on purpose what we WANT to believe.  Let ago!!

Send me a message!!Why a new life won’t fix an old mindset.  Learn how to choose on purpose to feel good now instead of thinking “I’ll be happy when”