Choosing Us

You Are Who You Surround Yourself WithImagine sitting at a pool party with a wealthy real estate developer, only to have your dinner suggestions completely dismissed in favor of luxury steakhouse chains. That humbling moment changed everything for the Drapers.Best friends and married couple Michaela and her husband open up about their early marriage struggles, from living in their parents' basement to moving into an apartment they genuinely could not afford. (The Fleming's dinner story alone is worth the listen.) Slowly, intentionally, they began surrounding themselves with more ambitious people, and that shift rewired how they thought about money, relationships, and success.Are you the lighthouse guiding people forward, or the tugboat quietly dragging them down?Drawing from their twelve-year marriage, the Drapers explore how the company you keep shapes your mindset in ways that are easy to miss. They talk about moving from constant complaining to genuine problem-solving together, and how their closest friends, ranging from bankrupt entrepreneurs to billionaires, all share one thing: they ask "what's next?" instead of comparing and grumbling.Clearly, auditing your social circle is not a one-time event. It is an ongoing, evolving practice.Tune in and start thinking differently about who you keep close.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Finding Your Footing: Intentional Motherhood and the Power of PartnershipRarely does a conversation about motherhood feel this honest and this grounding all at once. In this episode, the Drapers and their guests get real about what it means to parent with purpose, not perfection.Five months postpartum with her third child, one mother describes feeling like she's "treading water" without routine or direction. That image alone captures something so many parents feel but rarely name out loud. What does it actually look like to stop treading water and start swimming with intention?Practically, the answer involves small but significant shifts. Phone-free mornings at breakfast and evenings at dinner became the family's starting point for reconnecting. (It sounds simple, but anyone who's tried it knows the resistance is real.) Her husband Brad initially pushed back, yet he came around, noting that children adapt quickly while adults resist most.Slowly, the conversation deepens into something more personal. One speaker shares how her father's inattention during her childhood dance performances shaped her fears about presence and parenting, showing how awareness of old wounds can actually fuel better family systems today.Intentional gift-giving also gets a beautiful spotlight, including a personalized moon picture frame honoring the night a mother's journey began.Tune in to hear the full, honest, and heartfelt conversation.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Choosing Us: Showing Up Every Day, Even When It's HardConsistently choosing your partner, even on your hardest days, might be the most radical relationship act you can do. The Drapers from Choosing Us get real about what it actually means to show up, authentically and imperfectly, in marriage and life.What does it look like when your best keeps changing? The couple explores how comparison and self-judgment quietly erode progress, especially during major life transitions like postpartum recovery. They share how their relationship could easily slip into two people living separate lives, becoming disconnected roommates, if they stopped making daily intentional effort. Small gestures like saying "I love you," expressing gratitude, and genuine check-ins matter more than grand romantic statements.The episode digs into how people continuously evolve through phases from marriage to parenthood to personal growth, and partners who ignore that evolution often find themselves feeling like strangers. The Drapers highlight how Brad's grace during postpartum recovery demonstrates exactly the kind of adaptability that deepens intimacy over time.Genuinely, one of the most compelling parts is their focus on modeling this for their kids (because children absorb everything). By allowing children to witness respectful disagreements and daily affection, they're teaching the next generation what love actually looks like in practice.Tune in and start choosing your relationship differently today.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Keeping Promises When You're Running on EmptyHonestly, the most powerful moment in this episode comes down to a simple choice: show up tired or cancel. The Drapers, hosts of "Choosing Us," chose to show up and took their sons to a pump track after school despite being exhausted and pressed for time. That decision ripples into something much bigger than an afternoon bike ride.What does it actually teach our kids when we follow through even when we don't feel like it?Consistently, the Drapers make the case that children are always watching and absorbing everything, always observing far more than we realize. Brad completing his nearby workout while honoring the family commitment perfectly illustrates their philosophy: model the life you want your kids to eventually choose. From mountain biking to girls' nights out, they argue that pursuing personal hobbies alongside parenting responsibilities shows children that adulthood includes genuine joy, not just obligation.In the trenches of daily parenting, they also address something refreshingly honest: knowing what to do and actually doing it are completely different things (for kids and adults alike). Patience, repetition, and leading by example bridge that gap.If you want practical, lived-in wisdom about raising resilient, curious kids while staying true to yourself, this episode is absolutely worth your time.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Choosing Us: Family Trips, Messy Marriages, and Why Struggles Make You StrongerRarely does a single episode cover sand-filled arches, prison ministry, and marriage advice with this much heart. The Drapers are back with a raw, honest conversation that challenges the idea that life should feel easy or comfortable.Their spring break trip to Moab with three kids, including a baby, could have been a logistical nightmare. Instead, by simply letting the kids set the pace and play freely, the family discovered that simplicity creates the memories that actually stick. (It turns out pool time can be just as meaningful as any planned excursion.) They remember trips from childhood, not presents, and they want the same for their children.What does it actually look like to build a marriage that others admire? The Drapers get honest about their rocky start at nineteen, poor communication, and unresolved patterns they carried in. Growth came slowly, through consistent effort and a service-oriented mindset, asking how to uplift a spouse rather than what to receive. Their marriage remains imperfect, beautifully and genuinely imperfect, and that honesty is exactly the point.Vulnerability, shared struggles, and real failures teach children far more than a polished performance ever could.Tune in to hear the full conversation.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Survival Mode and Independence The Drapers are navigating life with a four-month-old while their two older kids adjust to a non-traditional school—and honestly, they're just trying to keep their heads above water. (Sleep deprivation is real, folks.) Their four-year-old son initially claimed he "couldn't" do basic tasks like putting on shoes or blowing his nose, when really he just didn't want to try. Teachers at his new school spent thirty minutes patiently guiding him through these tasks rather than simply doing them for him, demonstrating how persistence builds genuine capability and confidence.Drawing from his own childhood where he packed lunches and did chores, one host realizes he's been inadvertently teaching his kids that avoiding responsibility works. Around age four, children can actually accomplish quite a bit when parents resist the urge to step in immediately. This same principle extends beyond parenting: doing everything for a spouse can create unhealthy complacency rather than partnership. What happens when both people view household management as a true team effort?The key lesson? Teaching independence—whether to children or within a relationship—requires patience, but it builds the foundation for genuine partnership and self-reliance.Ready to hear more about choosing partnership during life's most challenging seasons?Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Have you ever wondered where self-love actually ranks on your list of life's priorities? The Drapers dive into this transformative question after a recent home emergency involving a burning smell and a failed heater motor reminded them how crucial it is to trust your instincts (Mikaela's quick thinking to call 911 saved the day). Through honest reflection, one speaker shares the eye-opening moment of realizing she hadn't even placed herself on her list of things she loves. Despite investing time in her body, mind, and spirit, she discovered that self-love must be consciously acknowledged and prioritized—it's the foundation for loving others. Now navigating postpartum changes, she's learning how self-love adapts across different life seasons.Drawing from 23 years of gym experience, they've witnessed how transformative body changes ripple into relationships, work, and community engagement. Inspired by Jesus's wilderness retreat, they argue we must build ourselves up to give our best, not our leftovers. After all, when you're healthy, energized, and happy through proper nutrition and exercise, you bring higher quality presence to your relationships. Taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it actually enables you to show up better for everyone around you.Tune in to discover how prioritizing yourself transforms every relationship in your life.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

When your four-year-old asks for a pizza date, you know something's working. The Drapers aren't just talking about relationship priorities—they're living them with four kids, packed sports schedules, and the kind of chaos that makes "me time" feel like a distant memory.Here's what strikes me about their approach: they've been together twelve years, and they're still showing up for each other, even during postpartum recovery when everything feels impossible. They swap childcare with neighbors, tackle undesirable tasks first thing (so the good stuff gets protected), and bought amusement park season passes specifically for dating. That's the kind of creative problem-solving that actually works.But how often do we assume our partners know we appreciate them without actually saying it? The Drapers learned this lesson from an AI mentor who challenged them to verbalize gratitude more intentionally. (Sometimes wisdom comes from unexpected places.) Without regular watering and nurturing, they warn, you risk becoming disconnected roommates rather than partners—a reality too many couples face when life gets overwhelming.Their kids are watching everything, learning what love looks like when it's prioritized consistently, not just when circumstances align perfectly.Ready to hear how they make it work?Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Celebrating two nights of their three-month-old sleeping eight to nine hours feels amazing, but the Drapers know better than to expect it to last. (That dreaded four to five month sleep regression is lurking around the corner.) The hosts of "Choosing Us" dive into why unrealistic expectations can sabotage your relationship and how comparing your marriage to Hollywood's version nearly derailed theirs in the early days.What happens when you stop trying to make your relationship fit someone else's mold?Over twelve-plus years together, the Drapers learned that authentic partnerships require grace and flexibility, especially during challenging seasons like the eighteen months of pregnancy and postpartum they recently navigated. Michaela discusses her current postpartum journey three months in, managing hormonal shifts and nutrient deficiencies from breastfeeding while Brad reaches peak fitness. His supportive approach—accepting her day-to-day fluctuations without rigid expectations—has been crucial. Meanwhile, Brad reflects on taking all three kids to a birthday party to give Michaela rest, a decision that prompted surprising praise from other parents who rarely see partners actively supporting each other.The episode emphasizes recognizing life's natural ebbs and flows rather than resisting them. *Just as a saw blade needs ridges and dips to function*, relationships need rough patches to appreciate smooth ones.Ready to examine the expectations you're placing on yourself and your partner? This conversation might shift your entire perspective.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

How do couples navigate intimacy when hormones turn everything upside down? The Drapers open up about a reality many new parents face but few discuss openly. Three months postpartum, their intimate dynamics have completely reversed—roles they've held for years suddenly flipped because of hormonal shifts that can last up to twelve months (and full recovery can take two years).Michaela, who historically initiated physical connection, now experiences diminished desire due to postpartum hormones and gender-specific pregnancy effects. Meanwhile, Brad's hormone cycle has shifted, making him the pursuer for the first time in their relationship. Initially, they struggled with role reversal and fear of rejection. (It's harder than you'd think when the script suddenly changes.) But they've discovered something crucial: understanding each other's hormonal realities and adjusting expectations for this season is essential to maintaining connection.The invisible nature of postpartum recovery makes it difficult for many women to give themselves compassion during this period, even though the body undergoes profound internal changes. Brad shares how experiencing both sides of desire—being wanted and being the one not in the mood—builds empathy and gratitude, allowing couples to support each other through difficult seasons.Ready to hear how honest communication about changing desires can strengthen your connection during life's transitions? Listen to the full episode.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Authenticity might just be the most exhausting thing you're not doing in your relationship. The Drapers dive deep into why we waste so much energy creating personas for others when genuine connection demands we show up as ourselves. Brad points out something fascinating: everyone sees a different version of your mask anyway, filtered through their own experiences, so why bother maintaining the facade? In their twelve-year marriage, the Drapers have learned this lesson firsthand. Early on, she followed his lead in fitness and other pursuits until her mother encouraged her to discover her own identity. (That maternal wisdom hit different.) Brad's approach became gentle invitations rather than pressure—whether it's journaling, fitness, or music preferences. Here's the thing about supporting your partner's authentic self: their full potential may look nothing like your vision for them, and that's exactly as it should be.What happens when you stop trying to change someone and start accepting them as they are? The Drapers explore everything from protein powder debates (yes, seriously) to communication styles that shift between business partners and spouses. Through slightly imperfect but deeply honest conversation, they reveal that curating your delivery isn't about changing yourself but ensuring your message lands as intended.Ready to drop the mask and discover what authentic partnership actually looks like?Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

When your partner keeps growing and you're standing still, the relationship starts to feel off-balance. Brad and his co-host wrap up their mini-series on Napoleon Hill's relationship principles with a discussion about intellectual and spiritual companionship (while managing their teething daughter's brief nap window).They introduce their "bike analogy"—the idea that both partners must keep pedaling forward, both together and individually, to maintain momentum in their relationship. The couple emphasizes that codependency ultimately undermines partnerships. Brad continuously pursued growth across physical, intellectual, spiritual, and emotional domains while his wife initially resisted these changes. He never pressured her but set a loving example, allowing her to eventually follow suit years later.Through a candid moment about miscommunication when leaving crying children, they explore a challenging reality: mothers experience fight-or-flight responses to their children's cries, making it harder to step back. How can fathers better support mothers in taking that necessary space? The speakers stress that individual growth isn't selfish but necessary, requiring partners to sacrifice convenience and take turns prioritizing each other's pursuits.They acknowledge that meaningful growth cannot be forced—it must come from *personal choice*. Without intentional personal development from both partners, relationships deteriorate rather than thrive.Tune in for their final thoughts on Napoleon Hill's teachings and what partnership really requires.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

The Drapers return from their week away to share something that saved their relationship during a particularly rough afternoon. Three months into parenting three children, they're figuring out how to stay connected when life gets overwhelming (and it definitely does). Brad sticks to his daily to-do list religiously—his wife supports these commitments even when they conflict with her own preferences, which shows the mutual respect they've built as best friends and partners.Drawing from Napoleon Hill's teacher training manual, they explore affectionate response as a crucial ingredient for healthy relationships. But here's the thing: affectionate response isn't just about being nice. It's about thoughtful, intentional communication delivered from a place of genuine care, especially during difficult moments rather than defensive reactions.The real breakthrough came when she realized her emotional state was dragging everyone down. Brad, who usually stays calm, immediately mirrored her negativity. The culprit? Skipping carbohydrates caused afternoon irritability and fatigue—something fruit and rest quickly fixed. How often do we mistake hunger or hormones for deeper relationship problems?Instead of escalating their snappy exchange, they recognized the underlying causes. By choosing silence, removing themselves from the environment, and addressing basic needs like eating, they prevented a minor disagreement from snowballing into a major fight.Ready to learn their practical strategies for responding with affection instead of defensiveness? Tune in to hear how simple solutions can resolve what seems like deeper conflict.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Why Your Parents' Relationship Might Be Sabotaging Your MarriageHere's something you probably haven't thought about lately: the patterns you witnessed growing up are quietly running your relationship right now. Brad and Michaela Draper dive into the uncomfortable truth about inherited relationship behaviors and why waiting for the "perfect time" to work on your marriage is basically just an excuse.Recording while caring for their newborn (because life doesn't pause for podcasts), the Drapers get real about physical attraction over time. Brad shares how he's actually more attracted to his wife now than years ago, pointing to his nearly-seventy-year-old parents as proof that attraction can deepen with age. The catch? It requires intentional effort—staying fit, showing up groomed, and consistently dating your spouse.They explore how bodies change through parenthood and aging, yet attraction doesn't have to diminish if you're both putting in the work. Brad even simplified his grooming routine to a shaved head and trimmed beard to save time while still making an effort. (Efficiency meets intentionality.)Through meaningful conversations about family backgrounds and seeking healthy relationship examples from books, movies, and mentors, you can rewire what's possible in your own partnership. Breaking negative cycles demands consistent action, not excuses.Ready to audit your relationship habits and prioritize what truly matters?Tune in for practical wisdom on building lasting connection through daily choices.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

When your spouse says "just a minute" and returns thirty minutes later, does that count as a lie or just a miscommunication?The Drapers tackle this exact scenario in their latest conversation about Don Miguel Ruiz's Four Agreements and how they apply to marriage. Being impeccable with your word isn't just about grand promises (it's also about those small daily commitments like callbacks and time estimates). They share how Brad's showerhead repair spiraled from "a minute" to much longer due to tangled Teflon tape, creating frustration not from the delay itself but from unmet expectations.The real breakthrough? Recognizing that miscommunication stems from different perspectives rather than intentional deception. Michaela explains how she addressed the pattern constructively instead of staying irritated, while Brad learned that good intentions don't erase impact. Throughout, they emphasize that reception matters more than delivery in intimate relationships—both parties need validation, not just justifications.From juggling podcast production with a newborn to navigating everyday conflicts, the Drapers demonstrate that doing difficult things strengthens relationships. They stress approaching disagreements as collaborative problem-solving opportunities rather than blame games, proving that perseverance and tactful communication matter even when circumstances feel overwhelming.Tune in to hear how these ancient principles transform modern marriage dynamics.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

When the Drapers started planning their first Masogi, a year-defining difficult activity completed during winter's slack season, Brad was shocked to learn he'd be tackling it as a team. What began as nighttime 35-mile endurance walks evolved into marathon-distance family events where even their newborn joined in a stroller. (Michaela and their children have consistently surprised Brad during final stretches to remind him he's not alone.)The tradition now includes a sunset-to-sunrise walk lasting 15 hours, rotating locations annually. Instead of focusing purely on distance, the Drapers emphasize the mental toughness required to endure such difficulty together. They plan to invite their children around age eight or nine, teaching them that struggle builds confidence and resilience. A former SEAL Team 6 member's family completing the event together proved how shared hardship strengthens family bonds.Why do typical holiday customs rarely create the same lasting impact as purposeful challenges?As Aristotle taught, self-control requires self-knowledge. By consistently improving yourself and maintaining high standards, your spouse and children naturally aspire to do the same. Personal growth becomes a collective endeavor when you lead by example in fitness, nutrition, spirituality, or other areas.Tune in to discover how the Drapers navigate parenting three young children while building these core family memories through shared perseverance.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

When it comes to New Year's resolutions, most people abandon them within days.The Drapers tackle why this happens and what actually works instead (spoiler: it's not just writing a wish list). Breaking goals into daily actionable steps matters far more than grand January declarations, they explain. Supporting your partner's goals means understanding exactly what those goals are and the specific steps they're taking to achieve them.Here's a concrete example: helping with grocery selections aligned with fitness objectives. That's real partnership. They also discuss how they avoid keeping trigger foods like Oreos at home to prevent self-sabotage. Without clear long-term targets—whether one-year, three-year, or ten-year goals—effort becomes meaningless. Having a written plan enables you to pivot strategically when life changes, rather than reacting chaotically.What are you trading what you want most for in this moment? The Drapers stress removing negative influences, whether unhelpful people, toxic environments, or undermining habits. They share their own tradition: setting goals together over gelato, discussing how to support each other across fitness, finances, spiritual, and emotional well-being. True happiness comes from prioritizing experiences with family over accumulating possessions.Ready to start the year aligned with your partner?Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

When a newborn forces you to slow down, something unexpected happens. The Drapers discovered that stripping away the holiday chaos revealed what Christmas was really about all along (and it wasn't the endless shopping lists or packed schedules). After years of financial stress during the season, they're now celebrating simply with their family, choosing to skip the Santa promotion entirely and focus on Christ-centered values instead.Here's the question that changed everything for them:Are you directing your energy toward what truly matters this holiday season, or just toward what's expected?Their six-year-old remains playfully skeptical about their Santa explanation, but the Drapers recently experienced genuine magic while embodying Santa at a children's party. They're learning that kids don't remember the expensive gifts—those are forgotten quickly—but they remember simple traditions like Michaela's cinnamon rolls and childhood wassail rituals. Through shared experiences and quality time, these small moments become core memories.The tension many fathers face is real: providing materially versus being emotionally available. But children who grow up without parental presence won't suddenly value time with their parents later, regardless of available resources then. Simple activities like living room picnics, board games, or park dates create lasting impressions that elaborate trips never could.Listen to discover how choosing presence over presents transforms relationships.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Starting the year with chaos and hardship, the Drapers discovered something counterintuitive: real happiness isn't waiting at the end of some perfect journey. Their 2025 has been exceptionally challenging, yet they've found profound fulfillment by choosing joy even when circumstances suggest otherwise.Through years of intentional practice (over a decade, actually), Brad and Michaela have learned to communicate with brutal honesty wrapped in love. When Brad points out Michaela's interrupting habit or tells an entrepreneur his pricing won't work, it's not criticism—it's clarity, which they've learned is one of the kindest gifts you can offer. This directness surprises the incarcerated women they work with, who rarely witness healthy relationship dynamics where partners help each other grow without defensiveness.What does it take to accept constructive feedback from your partner without getting defensive?The couple emphasizes that communication isn't one-size-fits-all. Just as their sensitive son needs gentle explanations while his brother responds to stern corrections, different people require tailored approaches. Adapting your tone and delivery demonstrates genuine respect, not inauthenticity.Their key insight? True contentment comes from finding joy when you have nothing—that foundation allows you to appreciate abundance when it arrives. Happiness is a choice, not a destination dependent on external circumstances.Tune in to hear how leaning on each other during hardship has transformed their partnership from carefully managing emotions to genuine vulnerability.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Relationship Maintenance During Life's Demanding SeasonsWhen a new baby arrives, even the strongest relationships face challenges that test established connection routines. The Drapers are experiencing this firsthand with their baby girl, navigating sleep deprivation and a reversed day-night cycle while their weekly date nights sit temporarily on pause. (It's the reality most new parents know too well.)Surprisingly, rebuilding relationship connection takes just as long as it took to let things deteriorate—think of reviving a struggling houseplant or returning to fitness after months away. Many couples neglect their partnership during busy seasons, sometimes for years, only to feel like roommates. When they finally decide to reconnect, they expect instant results after just weeks of effort, but relationships don't work that way.What does it take to rekindle that initial spark? Returning to the basics matters: dating regularly, sending sweet messages, and showing consistent care. The transformation demands sustained commitment over weeks and months, not overnight fixes. Communication becomes critical here—partners must have honest conversations about their desires rather than suddenly changing behavior without explanation.How would you describe your ideal relationship? Write down your vision, discuss it openly with your partner, and take manageable steps together toward that shared goal.Ready to strengthen your connection? Listen to the full episode for practical strategies to prioritize your relationship, even during life's most demanding phases.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

New Parents, Old WisdomWhen their sons reminded them about the Christmas tree, the Drapers realized something profound: their children's priorities matter just as much as their own. With a newborn in the house and three older kids running around (plus one struggling middle-child dog), life has become beautifully chaotic. They're now completing only about seventy-five percent of their daily to-do lists, and honestly, that's okay.Brad shares his cherished evening routine—spending quiet, non-verbal moments with his daughter before bed. This time around, unlike during his previous children's births, he's grateful to balance business responsibilities with hands-on parenting. How different would our relationships look if we prioritized these small connections?The couple practices focus gazing, a mindfulness technique where you study something small (like a leaf) for five to ten minutes to sharpen attention and reduce stress. They've also adapted their date nights to include prison ministry work together. Through extended hugs, brief cuddles, and acknowledging each other's contributions, they're intentionally drifting closer rather than apart.In the relentless pace of modern life, we often miss what truly matters. The Drapers remind us that tomorrow isn't guaranteed—today is unique and worth savoring.Ready to slow down and reconnect with what matters most?Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

In this episode, Brad and Michaela discuss the impact and power of having gratitude. Being the week of Thanksgiving, they felt it was imperative to discuss having love and gratitude within the home and in your relationship.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Honestly, the most powerful thing about this episode might be what happens when two exhausted people choose to show up for each other anyway. The Drapers are navigating the final days before their baby arrives while simultaneously restarting their business after fourteen months—and they're pulling back the curtain on what intimacy actually looks like when life gets messy.Here's what might surprise you: they're not talking about romance in the traditional sense. Instead, they break down how true intimacy encompasses emotional, spiritual, and energetic connection that extends far beyond the bedroom. (Foot rubs and extended cuddles count, apparently.) With Michaela experiencing pregnancy complications and both partners stretched thin, they discuss how small, consistent acts of service create meaningful bonds even when grand gestures aren't possible.The episode challenges a common assumption—that intimacy naturally happens when you love someone. The Drapers argue otherwise, emphasizing that healthy relationships require intentional action, not just good intentions. They share practical advice: start each day asking how you can serve your spouse, prioritize date nights even during challenging seasons, and extend grace when postpartum affects both partners.When did you last intentionally pursue intimacy in all its forms?Tune in for an honest conversation about staying connected when everything else demands your attention.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

What does it really mean to love someone?The Drapers flip the script on romance by arguing that love isn't a feeling you fall into—it's an active verb demanding consistent effort. Through a bicycle analogy, they explain how relationships need constant pedaling (continuous work and intentional energy) or they'll inevitably coast to a stop. While many couples believe they've "fallen out of love," the Drapers challenge this phrase entirely, insisting love is an internal choice rather than an external force.After twelve years of marriage, Brad and Michaela practice what they preach. They maintain regular date nights and nightly connection time, with Brad currently providing physical support for Michaela at thirty-six weeks pregnant—from counterpressure during contractions to household duties. Interestingly, they delayed having children for five and a half years to build their foundation first. Their approach centers on avoiding scorekeeping and embracing the natural ebb and flow of partnership. Small acts matter: bringing a mixer upstairs, expressing gratitude, showing up as a team. (The butterflies of early dating aren't real love, they insist.) The greatest fulfillment comes from working through challenges together because struggle builds deeper connection. Even busy weeks reveal how quickly that spark fades without prioritization, without prioritization.Important note:This advice applies only to healthy relationships where both partners genuinely try—toxic or abusive situations require entirely different intervention.Tune in to discover how choosing love as a verb can transform your relationship.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

What if the secret to a strong marriage isn't being inseparable, but learning when to stand on your own?The Drapers dive deep into the delicate balance between independence and interdependence in marriage, sharing raw insights from their 11-year journey together. Starting as a 19-year-old wife who waited by the door for her husband's return, Michaela reveals how her early codependency nearly destroyed their relationship. The couple discusses the crucial difference between leaning on your partner versus dumping your entire emotional load on them.Through honest examples—from constant work complaints to 18 months of non-stop baby talk—Brad and Michaela demonstrate how overwhelming your spouse with daily grievances can make you someone they don't want to come home to. Their breakthrough came with an unexpected ultimatum involving a cat that taught them both the importance of individual fulfillment.The key takeaway? Healthy relationships require two strong, independent people who choose to build something together, not two halves trying to complete each other. They emphasize taking responsibility for your own healing while still offering genuine support when it truly matters.Ready to transform your relationship dynamics? Listen to discover the "quirky" solutions that saved their marriage.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Discover how busy parents can prioritize their relationship without leaving home in this intimate episode recorded from the Drapers' living room.At 34 weeks pregnant with their third child, Michaela and her husband share their approach to maintaining connection during life's busiest seasons. Instead of a traditional babymoon, they opted for a local staycation while their boys stayed with grandparents - proving that meaningful moments don't require expensive trips or elaborate plans.The couple opens up about establishing sacred family time from 6-8 PM that even their business partners respect, emphasizing that children remember presence over possessions. They challenge the common excuse of working excessive hours "for the family," arguing that families want you there, not just providing financially.Key highlights include:- How to create relationship time when you can't travel- Setting work boundaries that actually stick- Why "working for the family" often misses the mark- Establishing sacred hours for family connection- Planning regular mini-getaways to maintain partnershipThe Drapers stress that strong relationships require intentional effort - love doesn't fade, but the effort to nurture it often does. They share practical strategies for staying connected as partners while raising children and building careers.Ready to learn how to prioritize what matters most? Listen to this episode for actionable insights on balancing family, work, and relationship goals.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Ever wonder why your kids seem to ignore your threats but listen to other parents?Brad reveals the eye-opening moment when his six-year-old's friend rolled his eyes at empty parental warnings—but immediately complied when warned that Brad actually follows through.In this candid episode of Choosing Us, Michaela and Brad get real about the messy reality of parenting as a team. From navigating brutal pregnancy symptoms to discovering their pre-marriage parenting plans didn't survive first contact with actual children, they share hard-won wisdom about different parenting styles.The couple reveals their "mom says goes" default system, the importance of debriefing privately after tense moments, and why they never criticize each other in front of the kids. Using collaborative "we" language and stepping in when tempers flare has become their secret weapon for maintaining unity.Drawing from Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, they emphasize that children's brains aren't fully developed until 25—making consistent boundaries and role modeling crucial. Brad's revelation about kids mimicking everything from tone to how he adjusts his gym shorts drives home the constant responsibility of parenting.Ready to transform your parenting partnership? Listen to this episode for practical strategies that actually work when theory meets reality.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

What if the secret to relationship happiness isn't finding the perfect partner, but choosing gratitude for the one you have?After a year of weekly episodes, The Drapers open up about the exhaustion of showing up consistently while delivering their most important message yet. They tackle the dangerous illusion of social media's highlight reels—those rented cars, staged luxury shots, and curated perfection that make real relationships look inadequate by comparison.The hosts share powerful wisdom from their mentors about "blissful dissatisfaction" and "aggressive patience"—finding contentment in the present while still pursuing growth. They remind us that "the grass is greenest where you water it" and that happiness is an internal choice that must begin now, not after you find someone "better."Through honest reflections on body changes, financial shifts, and life's inevitable seasons, they challenge the myth that leaving will solve relationship problems. Instead, they advocate for choosing attraction, cultivating gratitude, and stepping away from toxic comparisons that steal joy.Their six-year practice of weekly date nights proves that meaningful connection trumps wealth every time.Ready to transform your relationship perspective? Listen to discover how choosing gratitude over comparison can revolutionize your love life.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Racing Against Thunderstorms: How Small Broken Promises Destroy Big RelationshipsWhat if the key to unshakeable confidence isn't a new car or wardrobe, but simply keeping promises to yourself?The Drapers dive deep into "The Four Agreements" concept of being impeccable with your word, revealing how seemingly minor broken commitments—like skipping chores or showing up late—systematically erode trust in our most important relationships.They share powerful examples of how broken promises to children create lasting damage, emphasizing that kids learn from actions, not words. When parents consistently break commitments, they inadvertently teach that accountability is optional.The hosts demonstrate practical solutions through their CornBelly's pumpkin patch story, showing how transparent communication and creative problem-solving allowed them to honor family commitments while managing business calls. They reveal that 93% of communication is body language and tone, making *how* we speak more crucial than *what* we say.Most importantly, they argue that true confidence stems from internal trust—keeping promises to yourself first, then extending that reliability to others. Small consistencies build the foundation for unshakeable relationships.Ready to transform your relationships through impeccable integrity? Listen to discover how keeping your word can revolutionize your confidence and connections.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

What happens when life throws you into survival mode just weeks before your third child arrives?The Drapers open up about their current chaotic season with Michaela on bed rest at 30 weeks pregnant and Brad overwhelmed with juggling everything solo. While admitting they're barely completing 75% of their daily tasks, they've discovered the power of "heavenly winks" - those unexpected beautiful moments like spontaneous toddler cuddles that shine through the darkness.This raw conversation dives deep into relationship dynamics during stressful times, emphasizing that **perfection isn't the goal - connection is.** They tackle the dangerous habit of equating task priorities with relationship priorities and share how personal insecurities can sabotage partnerships. The couple stresses that self-awareness must come before loving others effectively. You can't pour from an empty cup, and expecting your partner to fulfill all your emotional needs is a recipe for disappointment. Their key insight? Personal happiness is your responsibility, not your partner's burden.Through honest discussions about communication breakdowns, work-life balance, and the necessity of uncomfortable personal growth, the Drapers remind us that challenging seasons are temporary - but the lessons learned can strengthen relationships forever.Ready to discover how to find light in your own chaotic season? Listen to this episode for practical wisdom on thriving together when life gets messy.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

What happens when a couple builds their relationship through three powerful pillars while expecting their next baby?Michaela and Brad Draper share their blueprint for unbreakable bonds from their cozy setup—complete with contractions and bed rest humor.The Drapers reveal their relationship formula: working together builds a relationship, adding service creates friendship, and incorporating play forms an unbreakable bond. They live this philosophy through mountain biking adventures, competitive arcade dates (where Brad's rare piano game victories meet Mikayla's skeeball dominance), and gym sessions that keep them connected amid parenting chaos.Their practical approach includes using JustServe.org for volunteer opportunities, finding Groupon deals for affordable dates, and creating activity lists for inspiration. They emphasize that small, intentional circles matter more than broad networks, and share how combining service with fun reveals new sides of each other.The couple's secret sauce? Weekly check-ins, shared goal-setting, and mutual accountability—from supporting strict meal plans to cheering on individual ambitions. Their message is clear: intentional, consistent communication prevents relationships from drifting apart.Ready to strengthen your most important relationships? Listen to discover how working, serving, and playing together can transform your connections into unbreakable bonds.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Celebrating 100 Episodes of Love, Growth, and ConnectionFrom uncertain beginnings to impactful conversations that span the globe, the Drapers mark their 100th episode with raw honesty about their podcasting journey. Discover how this power couple transformed production challenges into opportunities for deeper connection, both with each other and their growing audience.Their candid reflections reveal how vulnerability became their superpower, leading them from hosting relationship discussions to launching prison programs and a nonprofit initiative. The episode showcases how their commitment to authentic dialogue has not only strengthened their own marriage but has created ripples of positive change in countless relationships worldwide.Beyond the impressive milestone that puts them in the top tier of podcasts (most don't make it past 21 episodes!), the Drapers emphasize that true success lies in the lives they've touched and the conversations they've sparked.Ready to be inspired? Listen to this milestone episode to learn how small actions can lead to significant impact, and hear firsthand how commitment, vulnerability, and open dialogue can transform relationships – including yours.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Finding Purpose Through Prison Programs and Personal GrowthDiscover how a simple volunteer opportunity transformed into a life-changing mission as Michaela and Brad Draper share their remarkable journey of developing a communications program for incarcerated women. In this powerful episode, the couple reveals how they crafted a 50-course curriculum despite limited resources, proving that impactful change often starts with a single step.The conversation delves deep into balancing family life with ambitious dreams, as the Drapers navigate new beginnings and embrace challenges head-on. They discuss practical strategies for overcoming fear, including leveraging modern tools like ChatGPT for guidance, while emphasizing the crucial role of partnership support in achieving personal goals.Key highlights:- Creating a groundbreaking program for women in Utah Corrections Facility- Balancing family responsibilities with personal aspirations- Strategies for embracing discomfort and learning new skills- The importance of mutual support in relationships- Teaching resilience to children through exampleReady to be inspired? Listen to this episode to learn how taking that first step, despite uncertainty, can lead to extraordinary personal growth and meaningful impact in others' lives.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

The Power of Words: Transforming Relationships Through Positive LanguageDiscover how the simple act of choosing our words carefully can revolutionize our relationships and shape our children's self-perception. In this compelling episode of "Choosing Us," Brad and Michaela Draper dive deep into the transformative power of positive language in family dynamics.The Drapers share personal insights about their journey through parenthood, including a touching moment when their child's innocent perspective on beauty prompted a profound self-reflection. They explore how daily affirmations and conscious word choices can build resilience and self-esteem in children, while also strengthening marital bonds.Key highlights:- The impact of self-talk on children's development- Strategies for fostering positive family communication- The importance of expressing gratitude in relationships- How to shift from negative to positive interactions- Embracing aging with confidence and graceReady to transform your family's communication and create a more uplifting home environment? Listen to this episode to discover practical tips for harnessing the power of positive language in your relationships.#ChoosingUs #FamilyRelationships #PositiveParentingNow, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Unlocking the Taboo: A Candid Conversation About Sex and Hormones in RelationshipsDive into a refreshingly honest discussion about one of the most challenging aspects of relationships - sexual intimacy and hormone health. Michaela and Brad Draper break down the barriers surrounding libido differences between partners, challenging the notion that low sexual desire is just "normal," especially for women.The episode reveals how hormone imbalances can significantly impact relationships, with the Drapers sharing their personal journey with testosterone therapy and its transformative effects on their marriage. They tackle common misconceptions about gender-based desires and exhaustion, offering practical insights for couples struggling with intimacy.Key takeaways:- Low libido often signals underlying hormone issues- Regular health check-ups and hormone evaluations are crucial- Brief, spontaneous moments of connection matter- Communication is essential for maintaining intimacy- Specialist consultation is vital for hormone healthReady to transform your relationship and understanding of intimate health? This episode of "Choosing Us" offers the candid conversation you've been waiting for. Tune in to discover how addressing hormone health could revolutionize your relationship dynamics.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

What Really Matters in Communication: Intent vs ImpactEver wondered why your well-intended messages sometimes miss the mark? This enlightening episode of Choosing Us dives deep into the fascinating disconnect between what we mean and how our words are received. The Drapers masterfully explore how our past experiences shape our perceptions and impact our relationships today.Through personal stories and expert insights, they introduce the powerful concepts of "little t truth" and "big T truth," demonstrating how different interpretations of shared experiences can lead to either connection or conflict. Michaela shares vulnerable moments from her childhood, illustrating how varied perspectives can trigger defensiveness in relationships.Key takeaways:- The impact of your message matters more than your intention- Past traumas can become stepping stones for growth- Understanding different perspectives strengthens relationships- The importance of validating feelings over proving who's "right"Ready to transform your communication and deepen your relationships? This episode offers practical wisdom for anyone seeking to build stronger connections.Tune in to discover how embracing different perspectives can lead to more meaningful relationships and personal growth.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Ever wondered why your partner's way of loading the dishwasher drives you crazy? The Drapers dive deep into the fascinating world of relationship priorities and household dynamics!In this enlightening episode of "Choosing Us," hosts Michaela and Brad Draper celebrate Michaela's birthday month while tackling the universal challenge of managing different priorities in relationships. Through their personal experiences as parents of two young boys (ages 3 and 5), they explore how couples can navigate contrasting approaches to household tasks without letting it spark conflict.The episode highlights the importance of:- Respecting individual priorities and methods- Understanding that everyone's "best" looks different- Finding harmony amid chaos through humor and flexibility- Letting go of unrealistic expectationsTheir candid discussion about dishes, laundry, and toy-strewn floors offers practical insights into maintaining a healthy relationship while managing a busy household. The Drapers demonstrate how embracing differences rather than fighting them can lead to stronger partnerships.Ready to transform your perspective on relationship dynamics and household harmony? Tune in to this relatable and humor-filled episode that might just change how you view those unwashed dishes!Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

From Hesitant to Hero: A Husband's Journey into Nursery DesignDiscover how one couple's journey of preparing for their new baby becomes a testament to partnership and growth. When Brad steps out of his comfort zone to tackle nursery renovations - from painting to wallpapering - what emerges is more than just a beautiful room; it's a story of love, compromise, and shared vision.The episode dives deep into the importance of maintaining joy and friendship in relationships, especially during life's major transitions. Through candid conversations, the speakers share valuable insights about:Active participation vs. passive observation in family life- Creating meaningful traditions (like their sacred Wednesday nights)- Finding balance between spontaneity and scheduled quality time- The role of self-care in maintaining family dynamicsTheir experience reminds us that strong relationships require intentional nurturing and the willingness to embrace challenges together, even when they push us beyond our comfort zones.Ready to be inspired? Tune in to hear how this couple's nursery project became a metaphor for the beautiful mess of marriage, parenthood, and growing together. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and join the conversation!Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Living in the Present: Finding Joy Amidst Life's ChallengesDiscover how embracing the present moment can transform your relationship and mental well-being. In this powerful episode of "Choosing Us," the Drapers dive deep into the delicate balance between supporting a partner through difficult times and maintaining personal boundaries.Through their experiences, including volunteering at Utah State Prison and navigating stressful family moments, Michaela and Brad reveal how anxiety and depression often stem from our relationship with time.They share candid insights about:The impact of negative moods on family dynamics- Giving partners space to process emotions- The importance of self-accountability in personal growth- Finding joy even during challenging periods- Creating safe spaces for vulnerabilityTheir honest discussion reminds us that true happiness comes not from avoiding difficult emotions, but from embracing life's full spectrum of experiences.Ready to transform your approach to presence and partnership? Listen to this episode for practical insights on building a stronger, more authentic relationship while maintaining individual well-being.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Parenting with Purpose: Letting Kids Learn Life's LessonsDiscover why letting your children face challenges head-on might be the best gift you can give them! In this enlightening episode, we explore the delicate balance between protection and independence in modern parenting. Through personal stories and practical insights, our hosts share their approach to raising resilient children, including a heartwarming breakthrough moment of a young boy learning to tie his shoes.Key highlights:- The importance of teaching proper principles vs helicopter parenting- How boundaries and structure support healthy development- Why experiencing natural consequences builds character- Practical tips for fostering independence in young children- The role of emotional regulation in child developmentDrawing inspiration from Mel Robbins' perspective on anxiety, the conversation delves into why shielding kids from life's challenges might do more harm than good. From kitchen responsibilities to shoe-tying adventures, learn how small moments of struggle can transform into powerful learning opportunities.Ready to transform your parenting approach and raise confident, capable children? Listen to this episode for practical strategies and inspiring insights that will revolutionize your family dynamic.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Unlocking the Power of Words in RelationshipsIn this compelling episode of "Choosing Us," Michaela and Brad Draper dive into the life-changing principles of the "Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz, focusing on the crucial concept of being impeccable with your word. Their candid discussions reveal the transformative impact clear communication and integrity can have on relationships.With humor and vulnerability, they share personal stories that underscore the importance of accountability and honesty. The Drapers emphasize that effective communication begins with oneself and that mindful exchanges can build trust and strengthen connections. Their insights into handling constructive criticism and prioritizing each other's feelings are invaluable for anyone aiming to deepen their partnerships. They advocate for clear communication of needs and shared responsibilities, which they practice through teamwork within their family.This episode is an essential listen for those seeking to enhance their relationships by applying the wisdom of being impeccable with their word. Discover how your words can transform your relationship dynamics. Listen to the full episode to learn how to communicate effectively and strengthen your bonds through mindful and honest interactions.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Can being selfish actually strengthen your relationship?In this enlightening episode of Choosing Us, Brad and Michaela Draper dive deep into the counterintuitive wisdom of prioritizing self-care within partnerships. The couple shares their personal journey of navigating conflicting needs - from Brad's essential morning workouts to Michaela's desire for extra sleep. Through candid stories and practical insights, they reveal how supporting each other's individual pursuits has actually deepened their connection.Key highlights include:- Finding balance between personal needs and partnership- The role of communication in managing different routines- How self-care enables better care for others- Teaching children about fitness and family values- Supporting partner's interests, even in challenging circumstancesThe episode beautifully illustrates that true partnership isn't about constant sacrifice, but rather creating space for individual growth that ultimately strengthens the relationship's foundation.Ready to transform your approach to self-care in relationships? Listen to this episode of Choosing Us to discover how being "selfishly selfless" might be the key to a more fulfilling partnership.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Learning to Receive: A Journey Through Love, Growth, and Summer ChaosEver wondered why accepting help or compliments feels so challenging? The Drapers dive deep into the art of receiving gracefully, sparked by their experiences during a challenging pregnancy and the chaos of summer parenting. In this heartfelt episode, Michaela and Brad share their personal transformation from being reluctant receivers to understanding the beauty of accepting others' generosity. They explore how the simple act of receiving - whether it's help, compliments, or constructive criticism - can strengthen relationships and foster personal growth.The conversation weaves through practical challenges like managing summer activities with kids and maintaining household harmony (yes, even proper protein shake container cleaning matters!). Through candid stories and gentle humor, they demonstrate how open communication and mutual respect create stronger partnerships.Key Highlights:- Navigating summer parenting challenges- Learning to accept help during difficult times- The importance of receiving feedback gracefully- Practical tips for better communicationReady to transform your perspective on giving and receiving? Tune in to this episode of Choosing Us for insights that could revolutionize your relationships. 🎧Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

From Baby News to Building Better Relationships: A Journey of Growth and AccountabilityExciting changes are on the horizon as the hosts announce they're expecting a baby girl, adding a new dynamic to their family of two energetic boys! This episode of Choosing Us takes listeners on an intimate journey through the complexities of family life and relationship building.The conversation weaves through critical relationship principles, focusing on the power of accountability and the importance of matching words with actions. Drawing from personal experiences, the hosts share how seemingly small actions - like consistently taking out the trash - can significantly impact trust and reliability in relationships.Michaela opens up about her personal growth journey toward becoming more "bankable" in relationships, while Brad shares wisdom from his father about how procrastination can derail our best intentions. Their honest discussion tackles the challenges of effective communication, multitasking, and the vital role of being fully present with our loved ones.Ready to transform your relationships through better accountability and communication? Tune in to this enlightening episode that combines practical wisdom with heartfelt personal stories, offering valuable insights for anyone looking to strengthen their connections with others.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Money, Marriage, and Making It Work: A Journey of Financial GrowthDiscover how one couple transformed their relationship with money, going from just $100 in their account to building a thriving financial partnership. In this compelling episode of "Choosing Us," Brad and Michaela Draper candidly share their journey of navigating financial differences in marriage. Learn how they overcame challenges stemming from different money mindsets - Michaela's spender background versus Brad's saver mentality - to create a harmonious financial partnership. The couple reveals their practical strategies, including:Creating designated savings accounts for specific goals- Implementing automated saving systems- Developing percentage-based budgeting- Balancing saving with intentional spendingMost importantly, they share how they learned to detach emotional responses from money decisions, viewing finances as a tool for creating experiences rather than a source of stress.This episode offers valuable insights for couples looking to strengthen their financial communication and build a stronger partnership. Whether you're just starting your financial journey together or seeking to improve your current approach, this conversation provides actionable steps for success.Ready to transform your relationship with money? Tune in to hear the full story and start your own journey toward financial harmony.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

The Power of Vulnerability and Communication in Relationships*Can saying "I'm fine" be damaging your relationship?* This eye-opening episode dives deep into the transformative power of genuine communication and emotional vulnerability between partners. Discover how different parenting styles can coexist harmoniously when couples focus on their shared goals rather than their contrasting approaches. Through personal stories and practical insights, learn why being each other's biggest cheerleaders is crucial for a thriving relationship.Key highlights:- Moving beyond the "I'm fine" barrier- Balancing distinct parenting styles while maintaining unity- Creating safe spaces for emotional expression- Supporting your partner through life's challenges- The importance of validation and active listeningThis episode offers a refreshing perspective on how couples can strengthen their bond through open dialogue and mutual understanding. Whether you're navigating parenting challenges or seeking to deepen your connection, this conversation provides valuable insights for any relationship.Ready to transform your relationship through better communication? Listen to this episode to discover how vulnerability can be your greatest relationship strength.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Ever wonder how to juggle family traditions without dropping your own marriage in the process?In this compelling episode of Choosing Us, Michaela and Brad dive deep into the delicate dance of managing family dynamics in marriage.Through a candid and sometimes humorous discussion, they share their personal journey of balancing extended family commitments while building their own traditions. A particularly enlightening story about a challenging family move highlights the crucial need for strong boundaries and mutual support between partners.Key takeaways include:- The importance of pre-marriage conversations about family attachments- Creating unique holiday traditions that work for your immediate family- Navigating extended family expectations with grace- Building a strong foundation through open communication- Finding balance between honoring past traditions and creating new onesWhether you're newly married or years into your journey, this episode offers valuable insights on maintaining a healthy relationship while managing complex family dynamics. Ready to transform your approach to family relationships? Listen to this episode of Choosing Us for practical wisdom on creating harmony between your marriage and extended family connections.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Exciting News Alert: The Drapers Are Expecting!In this heartfelt episode, Brad and Michaela Draper share their joyful announcement of expecting a new addition to their family. Through candid conversation, they open up about the challenges of early pregnancy, with Michaela battling severe morning sickness while Brad steps up to manage additional responsibilities.The couple reflects deeply on the precious nature of time with their children and the importance of maintaining strong family bonds during life's transitions. Their discussion touches on everything from managing household duties to navigating emotional changes, all while emphasizing the crucial role of mutual support in their relationship.The episode also delves into fascinating tangents about marine life and fitness routines, showcasing how the Drapers balance serious life changes with lighter moments. Their vulnerable sharing about body changes during pregnancy and adapting to new family dynamics resonates with authenticity.Ready to hear this beautiful journey of family growth, mutual support, and love in action? Tune in to this episode of Choosing Us to experience the Drapers' touching story of expansion and adaptation. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and join their growing global community!Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

Dancing in the Rain: Finding Joy in Imperfect RelationshipsEver wondered how successful couples navigate the messy reality of everyday life? Join the Drapers as they unveil their secret to building a thriving relationship - embracing imperfection with grace and humor.In this candid episode, Brad and Michaela tackle real-life challenges, from grocery shopping mishaps to conflicting Mother's Day expectations. They share how treating their relationship like a sport that requires constant practice has transformed their marriage. Through entertaining anecdotes about morning routines and holiday celebrations, they demonstrate how communication and adaptability are key to navigating relationship expectations.The couple emphasizes that perfect moments are often unrealistic, and true connection comes from accepting and working with life's imperfections. Their refreshing approach shows that sometimes the best memories come from "dancing in the rain" when plans don't go as expected.Ready to transform your relationship perspective?Tune in to this episode of "Choosing Us" to discover how embracing imperfection might be the perfect solution for your relationship.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.

**Did you know that many women in long-term relationships have never experienced an orgasm?** This eye-opening episode of "Choosing Us" with the Drapers tackles the often-overlooked topic of female pleasure and sexual wellness in relationships.Michaela and Brad dive deep into:- The surprising statistics about women's orgasms- The importance of open communication about sexual needs- Understanding female anatomy and pleasure- Breaking taboos around intimacy discussions- The role of sexual health in maintaining strong relationshipsThe hosts emphasize that healthy intimacy distinguishes thriving partnerships from mere cohabitation. Through candid conversation, they explore how couples can enhance their connection through better understanding, communication, and exploration of mutual desires.This episode provides practical insights for:- Having honest conversations about pleasure- Understanding personal needs and preferences- Supporting partners in their journey to sexual wellness- Breaking free from societal taboosReady to transform your relationship through better understanding of intimacy? Listen to this enlightening episode that's changing the conversation around female pleasure and partnership dynamics.Now, If you find this episode valuable, please share with your significant other, friends, and family. We love you!Listen in!Thank you for listening to this episode of Choosing Us.