Future Single Lady: Surviving and Thriving Through Divorce

Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Date of Events:  February 25, 2024So their dad tried to be "father of the year" and it backfired somewhat and made me look better and made our daughter feel better when she was down about something.  Granted, I didn't do it as a competition, I did what I did and said what I said because my daughter needed that perspective and guidance; I just happened to be the one who could see it and did it.Did that process create beautiful crystals in the water in her body and spread and reflect the light inside of her so that her light can emanate outside of her, too?  that's a curious possibility...Positive measures and cooperation in the family unit that helps everyone, especially our kids be happy and supported.The cat is pissed off and so he pisses ON things to throw fits; did the almost ex know something about this??Lots of signs and always a long "to do" list...Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Date of Events:  February 24, 2024  02242024A beautiful bride, wedding and location, Hope for my family unit being in cooperation, a track meet and a brunch, cat pee and laundry, continuing education and an extensive "to do" listScarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Events:  February 23, 2024Just a quick journal entry about following the advice of the angels and not worrying myself with the details of how things are to be accomplished and just having faith that they will be- focus on the end result, not the process.Also dealing with cat pee on my bed and needing to prepare for my friend's wedding...  Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Events: February 22, 2024Starting off the day pretty low and still struggling how a man who was supposedly still in love with me lied and manipulated and deceived me, I  asked my best friend for help and she as there for me.  Thankfully, so was the rest of the universe- i was in a much better mood and way more uplifted by the time I actually met up with my friend later that day.Nicely or sadly- the almost ex still did a nice thing for me, but was it actually FOR me or was it an attempt to manipulate my daughter (and by extension, my son)?  I think I know the answer to that but I'll let you draw your own conclusion.  Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Events: February 21, 2024What a lying deceitful asshole.  At least, that's my opinion of him.  Though I'm definitely not alone in that opinion, here's one of many reasons why I am justified in that opinion....I accepted his offer to let me file, days later, he congratulated me on doing it, thanked me for being "on it" but he had already filed... what a liar.  what kind of small, manipulative person must you be to get joy out of something like that?  Pathetic, right?  So sad.Underscores that I made the right choice.His deceit blindsided me and rattled me a bit but you'll see that it takes more than that to keep me down- my creator and angels had plenty of messages for me letting me know that they had my back!!  When God is for me, who can be against me? No one- not one single person.Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Events: February 20, 2024Brief journal entry about representing my industry at a career fair but the bulk of it goes on to explain how one man's arrogance ultimately got him fired but a trip to Disney and Universal Studios protected him (and therefore US!) for a little while... Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Events: February 12 and 19, 2024after my journal entry for the day, this is actually the telling of one of the ways he subversively dominated me- a way of sneaking in a sort of underhanded like and making himself look better by putting me down because I didn't fit into or believe in his definition of something or process...I liked to cook but he always put me and my cooking down, nothing was ever good enough so why should I try?  I have lots more things to do, buddy!!Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Events:  February 18, 2024Languages, perspectives... I thought about calling this episode "Magic, Witchcraft, and Jesus" because it depends on your perspective- how closely you are zoomed in or out-as to what you see, how similar things are versus how different they are.  Personally, I prefer a broader perspective so I can see how things are joined rather than a myopic point of view that seems to imply a dis-separate existence from all other things, much like seeing a person as a human being occupying the same planet as me instead of seeing someone who is from another continent, has a different skin tone, language/ accent than I do and is of the opposite sex- unity instead of separation.So that's what I wound up taking about that day but the day's activities were about the massive task of rearranging the furniture in my room and the massive amounts of crap that had been shoved into it from all over the house...Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Events:  February 16, 2024Monkey Bread for my son and Sherbert Punch for my daughter- love the kiddos!!My job as a parent and I take it seriously and I communicate it well, I think! Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Events: February 17, 2024An entire day of gathering my things from around the house to help respectfully create more definition between each person's space; an exhausting task but also incredibly rewarding, too!On this day, I was primarily focused on getting all the stuff I had stored in the spare room (and there was a lot of it!) out of it so that my future ex could have his own personal space.Note: a lot of these things were baby keepsakes, tax returns, excess work supplies sometimes used at home, family paperwork, family pictures, printers,  etc- the stuff no one wants to be in charge of or have to deal with but someone's got to do it, right?Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Events: February 15, 2024Switching rooms, preparing finances, hanging out with kids because their dad left town (yet again!), son expresses thanks, badass daughter faces disappointment, the kids save for cars, helping my kids avoid manipulation and learning to receive gifts...Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Event: February 13, 2024The day after I declared my desire for freedom and the interactions  with the future ex... he already had a lawyer and the deceit was already in full swing and I was just barely getting a taste of it, only just starting to see how the man I'd been with for two decades was turning on me in what would rapidly become full-on hatred.Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Event: February 14, 2024 aka Valentine's Day!A lover's holiday spent loving myself and my cherished loved ones!!My kids, my family...  and psychic readings.  what?  lol, yes, a little psychic "muscle" flex- we all possess this gift and while some flex it and work it out like a body builder, some let it atrophy and that's okay.  This was just a mild, occasional workout, lol.An amazing interaction with my daughter I'll always cherish... I'm a lucky mommie!!Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Events chronicled: January 31 - February12, 2024Anniversary of the day I told my husband of almost two decades that I wanted to be family, just not married to him anymore...I couldn't stand the thought of going into a lovers' holiday pretending to be IN love anymore and didn't want to set that example of falseness for my children or show them that the way I was being treated was acceptable.This begins the journal entries I made on these days about how things went down and what happened and my commentary on all of it.Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]

Day of Event: March 25, 2024Day one of drama- first recording of what I'm dealing with in this process; it's not day one of the process but it's the first day that I'm angry, hurt, and just generally emotional enough to create a record of it.It's the day before our first court appearance which is to determine Temporary Orders- judge approved legal orders that set the tone and expectation for how things shall be in the interim between now and the divorce being finalized- who gets to stay in the home, who is paying what bills, where the kids will be,,, all sorts of major life changing things.  As if that's not scary enough- being literally judged by a stranger who has the power to change your life forever, I ad just received some distressing news from my lawyer; I was a wreck.Not only that, but my future ex-husband and I lived in the same house with our two almost grown children and he was obviously manipulating the kids- suddenly became "father of the year" in his demeanor towards them- complimentary instead of yelling, cussing, name calling, and generally speaking down to them, started going on long walks with them and "just talking" though judges' standing orders say that no one is supposed to talk about the case to or in front of our children (yet they were well-informed and not from me!)He also suddenly became best buds with the women of his family who... let's just say that "complimentary" towards or about them would be on the opposite end of the spectrum of how he actually thought and behaved about and towards them; they began taking long weekends away where my daughter, the youngest child, and sometimes my son were isolated with them and their very strong opinions...This is the beginning of my journey to singledom and it is dramatic!!WARNING- MAY BE TRIGGERING!!  LISTEN WITH CAUTION!!Scarlett Davis Facebook: Future Single Lady email: [email protected]