How I Became Your Mother

What does it mean to be a “daddy’s girl”… when that was never your story? In this episode, I’m unpacking my relationship with my father—the version I had, the version I wished for, and the version I’m choosing to see now. This isn’t about a perfect bond. It’s about perspective, memory, and the quiet work of forgiveness. I talk about how my understanding of him has shifted as I’ve grown… how some of the stories I carried shaped the way I saw myself, love, and being chosen… and what it’s looked like to release those stories without denying my experience. This is me learning to see my father as a person. This is me softening without losing myself. This is me becoming… an unexpected daddy’s girl. If you’ve ever had to make peace with a parent, hold love and truth at the same time, or redefine what a relationship means to you—this one is for you.

What if the very thing people call “delusional”… is actually discipline? In this episode, I talk about choosing optimism on purpose. Not because everything is perfect. Not because life has slowed down. But because I’ve decided that my perspective matters more than my circumstances. Love has felt elusive. Life has felt full. The past five years have been a storm of caregiving, grief, growth, and rebuilding. And this last year? It’s felt like standing in the eye of it all — learning how to stay centered while everything moves around me. I share what balance really looks like in this season. The belief I’m releasing about my capacity. The grace I’m choosing instead. And the soul question that’s sitting heavy on my heart: How do you feel about your relationship with your mother? I also talk about what delusional optimism has actually gotten me in life — the doors it’s opened, the resilience it’s built, the risks it’s made me brave enough to take, and the way it has carried me through seasons that logic alone could not. This episode is about faith that looks irrational. Peace that doesn’t require perfection. And the kind of optimism that builds the life you can’t yet see. If you only remember one thing: Balance isn’t stillness. It’s choice.

This episode is for when your mind starts spiraling… and all your choices feel like too much. I sat down to record this as a reminder to myself — that confusion isn’t failure, it’s actually proof of abundance. Having options is a privilege. And that fog you’re feeling? Half the time, it’s just your brain trying to keep you safe by overthinking. In this episode, I talk about how I learned to soothe my own “faux confusion” and come back to clarity, softness, and trust. Because sometimes the answer isn’t in the choice — it’s in the energy you choose it with. So if you’ve been stuck in your head, baby… come breathe with me. Let’s break the spell together.

Let’s talk about the kind of manifestation that doesn’t start with action — it starts with how you see. In this episode, I’m breaking down how shifting your perspective can shift your reality. Like, for real. When you start using your mind on purpose, you don’t just feel better — you step into a whole new timeline. I share how I’ve trained myself to stop rehearsing disappointment and start imagining what’s actually possible. Because baby… perspective isn’t just mindset — it’s a portal. Change the lens, change the life. Let’s go there.

Okay y’all, this episode is a little more off-the-cuff — I just wanted to sit down and talk about my type. Not just in dating, but in partnership. In fatherhood. In legacy. This week, I’m reflecting on who I believe my future child’s father is — not by name, but by energy. His traits. His values. The way he moves through the world. And the way he’s gonna love me and you, baby. This is part vision board, part voice note to the Universe. So if you’re in your soft girl, open heart, “I’m ready to receive” era — come listen. And if my type just so happens to be listening… feel free to shoot your shot, king. 😉 Let’s speak it out loud, so it knows where to find us.

Whew — if I’ve learned anything, it’s that delays don’t mean denial. In this episode, I’m sharing a story about graduating college and auditioning for a job that kept telling me “not yet.” For six months, I thought it was a wrap. But what I didn’t know was that life was setting me up — not just to get the gig, but to bring my cousin with me for a whole overseas experience. This is about the kind of manifestation that unfolds in layers. The kind where the “no” just means “not this way.” I talk about how I stayed open, how I kept checking in with myself and God, and how what felt like rejection turned into realignment. Sometimes it’s not a no, it’s a “wait, I got something better.”

This week, I’m talking about the quiet rewiring that happens when you decide to like what’s good for you — even if your body or brain isn’t there yet. For me, that started with working out. I hated it. Everything about it felt forced. But once I realized how much it actually supported my nervous system, my clarity, and my confidence… I knew the problem wasn’t the workout. It was the story I had about it. This episode is about training your mind to desire the things that serve you — not just tolerate them. Because self-love isn’t always about ease. Sometimes it’s about re-teaching yourself joy where there used to be resistance. od for you — on purpose.

In this episode, I share how I manifested something I once thought was impossible — a fun, supportive, and loving relationship with my father. It didn’t happen on my timeline. And it didn’t come through without grief, reflection, and real emotional work. But it came — and when it did, it was better than never. This episode is about what it means to manifest through the mess. To forgive, not for perfection, but for freedom. I break down the spiritual process that softened my heart, sharpened my clarity, and helped me call in what I once mourned as lost. Because sometimes the life you want doesn’t come when you expect it — but that doesn’t mean it isn’t on the way.

This one might sting a little… but it’s said with love: no one is coming to save you. And that’s not a punishment — that’s power. In this episode, I talk about the subtle ways I’ve slipped into waiting energy. Waiting for a breakthrough. Waiting for ease. Waiting for life to feel different. I thought that because things had been hard, I had to wait my turn. But baby… I am the turn. I’m sharing how I moved from pity to power, from confusion to clarity — and how I remind myself daily that I’m not a victim of my life, I’m the one creating it. Every experience, every lesson, every manifestation has had my name on it. We’re allowed to feel everything. But at the end of the day, we’re still in the driver’s seat. Let’s talk about getting back behind the wheel — with love, with intention, and with receipts.

Baby, this one’s about the magic that happens when you stop holding your tongue and start honoring your truth — not just to call in your future, but to honor your right now. In this episode, I’m talking about the spiritual power of naming what you want out loud. Of saying it clearly, boldly, and without apology. Because the more descriptive, honest, and vocal we are about our desires, the easier it is for our magnets to find us. This isn’t just manifestation — it’s devotion to self. It’s alignment in real time. I want to raise children who speak their mind with love and conviction… so it starts with me doing the same.

Baby, this one’s for you — and for the version of me that kept showing up, winning quietly, and still felt like it wasn’t enough. In this episode, I’m reflecting on what it means to be an overachiever who rarely pauses to honor herself. I talk about how I used to skip over my own celebrations, how fast I moved on from my wins, and how uncomfortable I felt receiving my own applause. But I want you to know: your worth is not in what you produce. You don’t have to perform to be proud. Giving yourself credit is spiritual work. It’s self-devotion. It’s part of building a life that feels like yours. So let’s talk about breaking that habit — of rushing, of minimizing, of shrinking the magic we’ve made. Let’s get loud about what we’ve done, and gentle with what we still carry.

I didn’t even ask him for an Uber to the date because I didn’t want to seem like “that girl.” But why is being cared for treated like a red flag? In this episode I’m being honest — about money, shame, dating, and the lesson that changed my whole approach: I don’t want to be praised for doing it all alone. I want to be supported. If you’re on a healing journey around receiving, this one’s a must. 🎙 Episode 14 — I Want to Be Cared For, Not Just Applauded is live now. Send this to a friend who needs permission to be soft.

f you don’t know who or what you’re following, staying on the path to your goals gets real blurry. In this episode, I’m talking about the power of choosing a belief system — or spiritual framework — that actually speaks your language. Because listen... not knowing who I was following had me miss Beychella — and I’m not having that again. I share how I found my own inner guidance, why it matters, and what shifts when you stop outsourcing your authority. Being led is sacred… but it has to be in alignment. Let’s get clear, grounded, and start choosing on purpose.

This week, we’re talking about the soulmates that don’t come wrapped in romance: your friends. Friendship is sacred. It’s work. It’s a decision. And just like dating or career dreams, it asks you to show up with presence, emotional skill, and intention. In this episode, I open up about the ways I’ve had to learn (and unlearn) what it really means to be a good friend — not just a fun one, or a loyal one, but a relationally skilled one. We talk about making space for repair, asking better questions, holding people with curiosity instead of critique, and letting your friends evolve out loud. I also share a few friendship wins, a moment that challenged my pride, and what I’m practicing now to deepen the connections that matter most. Because showing up for your friendships on purpose is a love language — and it just might be the key to becoming the kind of partner, parent, or creative you want to be. So if your group chat’s been feeling quiet or your heart’s been craving deeper sisterhood — this one’s for you. Let’s grow together, friend to friend.

Okay, let’s get into it — welcome to Episode 11 and the official debut of my new segment: Father Update 👀💅🏽 Because y’all keep asking and I promised to be honest. I’m sharing where I’m at on the dating journey, what I’m learning, and the soft, sometimes spicy steps I’m taking to become a match for the love I desire. But the real heart of this episode? A celebration of the cringe. The brave, messy, slightly embarrassing things we do when we’re finally letting ourselves be seen. I’m talking about voice notes that make you want to disappear, flirting that falls flat, reels that feel too honest, truths you weren’t quite ready to tell — and why every single one of those moments is sacred. Cringe is not failure. It’s evidence that you're trying. That you’re alive. That you care. I’ll walk you through the memories that taught me this — the ones that made me squirm and the ones that made me proud — and what self-devotion looks like when you’re willing to risk being misunderstood in order to be real. So if you’ve been waiting until you’re polished or perfect to share your art, ask for what you want, or open your heart — this one’s your permission slip. And hey boo… if something in this episode made you feel seen, go ahead and leave me a review. I’m building this world with you.

In this episode, I’m walking you through the wild, winding, spirit-led path that brought me to The Lion King—from open calls in Hong Kong and missed roles to cruise ships, comeback stories, Broadway bows, and breakthrough moments I never saw coming. This one’s about the long game. About talent manifestation, staying open, and choosing yourself even when the dream seems far away. I’ll tell you how Nala found me when I needed her most, what this show taught me about worth, focus, and faith—and why every twist and turn was sacred. If you’ve ever felt overlooked, delayed, or broken down in the pursuit of something beautiful, this one’s for you. You are not a machine. Your art still has something to show you. To my future child, may you know: you already hold the power. Choose, focus, work, and wait.

It’s my birthday, baby (May 7th)! And what better gift to myself than an honest, deep dive into the power of choosing me. In this episode, I reflect on the moments that shaped my understanding of self-devotion — from getting into LaGuardia High School, to rebelling through my teens, skipping grad school in my 20s, and moving my mom across the country in my 30s. I unpack how putting myself first didn’t make me selfish — it expanded my capacity to love, create, and show up for the people I care about. You’ll hear about the beliefs I’m keeping, the stories I’m releasing, the gratitude that fuels me, and the soul lesson I want to pass down to my future child: you are the most important person in your own life. Plus, I share the body check-in question that keeps me grounded and the soulful gratitude practice that’s been guiding my days. Thanks for being here, thanks for witnessing me, and hey — since it’s my birthday, maybe go drop me a cute review?

This one’s tender, y’all. I’m sitting with the pain of collective disillusionment and asking: what happens when our heroes fall? From Diddy to public opinion, I unpack our generation’s love of absolutes, why I’m letting go of the ego in judgment, and why canceling people just doesn’t feel like God. This one’s about discernment, dignity, and leading with love—even when the world tells you to throw it all away.

What if your birth story wasn’t random… but divine? In this episode, I’m sharing how I entered this world—from love, across oceans, and into a NICU. I used to think beginnings didn’t matter, but now I know: the way you arrive does shape the way you move. I’ll talk about my Bronx mom and LA dad, what I’ve come to understand about being born on purpose, and why our parents are portals—not projects. I’ll also share what I want you to believe about your own power, your intuition, and how to trust the way you came here. This one’s tender, reflective, and full of gratitude. Come float with me.

Why do they call me Black Magic? Let’s talk about it. In this episode, I’m diving into my long, winding, and very educational relationship with attention, attraction, and the opposite sex. From kindergarten crushes to grown woman glow-ups, I’m walking you through how I’ve evolved in how I see men, how I see myself, and what I’m keeping—and leaving—along the way. I’ll share how I was raised to relate to boys (hint: it was giving sass and smarts), what Torah Cents coaching is teaching me now, and the surprising places I’ve found gratitude in this journey. From detachment to discernment, magnetism to maturity—I’ve been learning how to love men without losing myself. This one’s for the girls who were told to tone it down, the women who are still healing their views on love, and of course, for you, my future child—because I want you to love people deeply and wisely.   Tap in for a bomb new episode.

Where you’re from shapes you, whether you realize it or not. And for me? The Bronx gave me pride, grit, and an unshakable sense of self. In this episode, I’m peeling back the layers of my upbringing—the fast-paced energy, the unspoken rules, and the lessons I picked up along the way. From taking the train alone at 12 to learning that boundaries are everything, I’ll share how my hometown made me who I am. Some lessons I’m keeping: the importance of standing firm, taking up space, and believing in the impossible. But I’m also leaving behind the pressure to always be “too cool” and the emotional distance that survival sometimes required. I’m grateful for the audacity this city gave me, for the way it protected my mindset, and for the sense of magic that still runs through my veins. And if there’s one thing I want you to know, it’s this—boundaries and connection aren’t opposites. They are necessary for the greater good. Let’s talk about it. 🎧✨

What happens when your understanding of God expands beyond the beliefs you were raised with? In this episode, I’m diving into how my faith has shifted—not in essence, but in awareness. I’ll unpack the questions that have shaped my journey, the urgency I still carry, and the peace I’ve found in seeing God as an ever-present energy rather than an external figure.   I’ll share what I’ve kept from my Christian upbringing, what I’ve released, and how I now experience spirituality as a deeply personal, creative process. Plus, we’ll talk about what I hope to pass down to you—because your relationship with God is yours to define.   Tap in for an honest, vulnerable, and maybe even freeing conversation.

Hey, Little Bit—welcome to the very first episode of How I Became Your Mother! Today, we’re diving into what it reallymeans to be a millennial, the lessons I’ve learned, and how I’m gearing up for what’s next. From AI to wellness, cutting out toxicity, and even watching the way I speak—this episode is all about evolution. I’ll share stories on resilience, flexibility, and boundaries (because whew, we’ve been through some things). We’ll talk about what I’m keeping, what I’m leaving behind, and why being a millennial is honestly kind of lit. Plus, I’ll leave you with something I want you to believe—that your passions will always guide you if you learn how to manage your mind and emotions. So, whether you’re here for the laughs, the lessons, or just a little company, I’m glad you made it. Let’s get into it. 💛

From Sunday mornings in church pews to silent meditations with the universe—my spiritual journey has been a trip. In this episode, I take you through my evolution from the Church of God in Christ to a deeper, more personal relationship with God—one that speaks many languages. Little Bit, I want you to know that spirituality isn’t about rules; it’s about connection. Whether through gospel music, astrology, meditation, or gratitude, God is always speaking. You just have to listen. Let’s get into it.

Being a Black woman is a gift—but it’s also a story we carry, shape, and redefine. In this episode, I dive into what I was raised to believe about my Blackness, what I’m choosing to keep, and what I’m leaving behind. From childhood moments to deep reflections, I explore how our ancestors paved the way, but how we have the power to write new narratives. Little Bit, I want you to know that honoring your roots doesn’t mean reliving the pain—it means living free. Let’s get into it.

Wow-it's finally here!!! I really published an ongoing public love letter to my future children. Y'all either gonna think I'm brilliant or nuts. Either way- This episodes gives context about where this idea came from as well as what I hope to get from cutting my heart open like this. Listen and enjoy the journey!