In Imma's Eyes Podcast

When I was a new young mom, my Aunt Lala would always remind me, “When they are crabby, put them in WATER!” Such wise parenting advise. A nice hot bubble bath can cure sibling controversy, a common cold, and a grumpy overstimulated child.Why? Well, I think it is the experience of being in water that reminds us of the weightlessness of our own inner being. But, there may be multiple explanations. As I ponder this week’s Torah portion I couldn’t help but notice the target audience is a group of desert nomads. How ironic!Join me as we discuss what the Torah has to teach us about the power of a mikveh.* The Torah reading begins with a description of the purification procedure for a person who contracted tzara'at. After the priest determines that the tzara'at has been healed, a ceremony involving two birds, a cedar plank, a scarlet thread and water from a live stream, is used for the initial stage of the purification. The individual also shaves his entire body. After a seven-day wait, the person shaves again, and brings three animals and an oil offering to the Temple.* The priest processes the offerings in the manner prescribed in this section. With this the purification process is completed.* If the individual suffering from tzara'at cannot afford the above sacrifices, two birds can be substituted for two of the animals. This section describes the slightly different purification process reserved for the impoverished person.* Homes, too, can be afflicted with tzara'at. If stones on a home become discolored — acquiring a strong red or green pigment — a priest is summoned. If indeed the discoloration seems to be tzara'at, the priest quarantines the home for up to three weeks. Depending on the spread of the discoloration, the home is either declared to be pure, or the specific stones are removed from the house, or, in the most extreme situations, the house is demolished. The Torah then describes the purification process for such a home — which is very similar to the initial stage of the purification of the human afflicted with tzara'at.* After concluding the subject of tzara'at, the Torah discusses the ritual impurity of a man who issues a sickly and unnatural seminal discharge, as well as the method by which this person attains purity when the condition passes.* This section discusses the ritual impurity contracted by a man who issues a (normal) seminal discharge, the ritual impurity of a menstruating woman, and of a man who cohabits with her. All such people must immerse in a mikvah (ritual pool) to be purified.* Under certain circumstances, a menstruating woman was required to bring to the Temple two bird offerings to attain purity. These sacrifices are described in this section. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

This week we are studying Parashat Tazria (Leviticus 12:1 - 13:59).  We learn a few things about rest and recovery from childbirth or illness in this week’s parsha.  Let’s have a look!Tazria Aliyot Summary * The Torah teaches us about a timeframe, during which a woman is considered impure, after childbirth, and the obligation of circumcision.  The Torah also instructs us about the laws of tzara'at - white skin discolorations. * The Torah teaches us about the process of being declared clean or unclean by the Kohen after a period of quarantine.  Was this for the safety of the rest of the camp, or an ancient “medical system?”* We learn the laws of tzara'at which appears following an inflammation on the skin.* We learn the laws of tzara'at which appears following a burn to the skin.* We learn that areas of the body covered in hair can also be affected by tzara'at.* We learn that tzara'at can appear on bald spots as well as clothing!  The Torah then teaches us about a clothing tzara'at - which made me wonder if this was a form of mold or something that can grow on the fibers of fabric.* After the quarantine period, depending on the circumstances the garment is either declared pure, or completely burnt, or only the part which was discolored is torn out and burnt.  This decision is made by the Kohen.Parenting Touchpoint:  * I feel like the judgment we assign to the period of “quarantine” after childbirth has a lot to do with how we experience that time.  If we tell moms that she is impure and cannot be near us, we are inflicting a feeling of isolation and shame on her.  But, if we reframe it as a period of rest, and a beautiful time to turn away from her other responsibilities (like work, cooking, caring for other children, or even attending to the needs of her husband) and turn her attention to rest, and bonding with her new baby, then it feels very different.  I sense the harsh language was used because the target audience was the men in the culture, hopefully hinting to them to leave her alone and let her rest and recover!  LOL* Ancient Near Eastern cultures conflated morality with health.  While I do believe we are three-dimensional beings, and need to tend to the spiritual, physical, and emotional needs of ourselves and our children, I don’t think we get “punished” by G-d with sickness for our moral ineptitude.  On the other hand, if we ARE gossipping, we may likely be anxious as well, and that feeling could be causing inflammation in our tissues.  * My main takeaway from this is to consistently cultivate a relationship pattern with my children that makes open, honest communication safe and welcomed.  This can be very difficult, especially when we hear bad news, or we are alarmed at some of the things our children want to tell us…but if they WANT to tell us, that is a really good sign our relationship is secure.Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below!May the G-d of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob bless you with rest when you need it!  Parenting is a lifelong marathon.  Take good care of yourselves!  Until next time, Shalom!This work is provided by the generous support of listeners.  If you are enjoying this podcast, please help us out by sharing it with another parent!If wish to support this podcast financially, you can donate here:During this podcast, listeners were invited to learn more about their child’s Human Design at www.sashyaclark.comAlso, check out my newest Substack:  AlongtheWay613, a 5-15 minute study session that curates Primary Jewish Sources, a brief D’var Torah, and Discussion Prompts empowering Jewish parents to discuss the Torah “Along the Way” (during the morning carpool, over breakfast, or while you are cooking dinner together). This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

In this week’s podcast we discuss Parshat Shemini. There were several directions I could have gone with Parshat Shemini: the mourning rituals (or lack there of!), the 8th day, the beginning of a new era of the Priesthood, and even an in depth discussion of wine (since it is mentioned). But, I decided in the end, to leave the worn path of commentary, and follow my line of questioning, my own heart, and I hope you find some meaning in what I share.Aliyot Summary:* Moses gathers the Nation to see the Divine revelation, and marks the first day of the priestly service with sacrifices.* We hear the priestly blessing. Here is a guided practice for kids using the birkat kohanim. And a nice (Sephardic, I think?) version I found on Spotify.* Don’t bring strange incense! Don’t drink before serving in the Temple.* Moses gives instructions about eating the sacrifices, despite their mourning.* Moses becomes aware that one of the offerings was burnt instead of consumed. Aaron explains himself, and Moses accepts his answer.* G-d gives the commandments about eating Kosher.* We learn about the possibility of utensils contracting impurity.Did you hear I started a new substack called “Along the Way 613”? You bet! It is a 5-15 min read, with discussion prompts. Listen, shema, I love to study Torah and primary Jewish Sources, but I don’t always have time to site down to a lengthy discussion with my kiddos, despite knowing the commandment to teach to our children. So I came up with a way to study primary sources, and have a meaningful discussion, when you “lie down,” “get up” or “walk along the way” as the Va’ahavta commands us. Instead of giving you a complete “D’var Torah” or coming to some conclusion with the material, I have decided, instead, to empower you with thoughtful questions that are sure to help you start a conversation while you shlep the kiddos off to school. If you’re Jewish, and a parent, and you want to incorporate more Torah learning in your day, I hope you will check it out! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

This week we are studying Parashat Tzav (Leviticus 6:1-8:36). I reference the children’s song, “Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes,” as a quaint way to remember this parsha describes an interesting part of the kohen’s anointing ceremony involving his right earlobe, the thumb of his right hand, and the big toe of his right foot (Aliyah 6). What on earth is this teaching us about parenting?Tzav Aliyot Summary * The careful removal of ashes from the altar is described. The Torah is using this moment to model for us to value of life, even during death. * Certain types of vessels absorb smells and flavor and therefore this aliyah is setting some important groundwork for the kashrut laws.* The Thanksgiving offering is made when one survives a dangerous situation. * The Induction Ceremony for the Kohenim begins in this aliyah with the Kohenim changing clothes. Then Moses anoints them, along with the Tabernacle and all its vessels in oil.* The Induction Ceremony continues with the sacrifice of a bull and a ram.* Moses sacrifices a second ram, the fats of which are burnt on the altar, and the blood is placed on each priest’s right ear lobe, right thumb, and right big toe.* Moses anoints them again and tells them to repeat this process for six more days, a sort of “sleepover” with Hashem in the Tabernacle.Parenting Touchpoint:  * The right ear, thumb of our right hand, and big toe of our right foot could just be shorthand for "serve G-d with your whole body,” but in this episode, I share some thoughtful questions for reflection. Maybe the ear represents what we are taking in, what we are listening to, and what we are watching. Maybe the thumb of the right hand represents where we are lending our strength. Maybe the big toe of the right foot represents where we are going.* The definition of “Success” for each family is between them and G-d. Just as the family of Kohenim had a distinctly different definition of success than the other family tribes, so, too, each of our families needs to get clear with G-d about our definition of success. In this episode, I share a short story about a time when my career goals were drastically different than those of my colleagues due to the vision G-d had given us for our family in that season. * I have designed a workbook for sale on my website to help you to get clear about your role in this season called, “Crafting Your Parenting Vision.” I hope it is a blessing to you!May G-d bless you with wisdom, understanding, quick understanding, and the fear of G-d…(Isaiah 11) Until next time, Shalom!This work is provided by the generous support of listeners.  If you are enjoying this podcast, please help us out by sharing it with another parent.If wish to support this podcast financially, you can do that here: This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

This week we are studying Parashat Vayikra (Leviticus 1:1-5:26).  We left off a year ago with the closing of the book of Exodus (Shemot) and the story of how one family went into exile as a tribe and came out of exile as a Nation.  Leviticus is the third book of the Torah and lists many of the foundational teachings about justice and living in peace with G-d and our neighbors.  Since the Tabernacle has just been constructed, it begins by teaching us about animal sacrifices.  Our sages teach that each of the animal sacrifices is a template for prayer that we can continue to use to connect with G-d today.Vayikra Aliyot Summary * The first sacrifice mentioned is an OLAH offering, which is an offering of gratitude.  * A fowl can be offered as an OLAH, in addition to the cattle, sheep, or goats from the first aliyah.  This aliyah also teaches us about the additives required when bringing a voluntary meal offering.* The OMER- a mandatory barley offering that marks time between Pesach and Shavuot in the Spring- is described.  We are also commanded to NOT bring leavened sacrifices (with two exceptions), and to salt everything.* The Shelamim, or PEACE offering is described in this aliyah.  Since these offerings are eaten, the Torah uses this point to teach us about forbidden parts of the animal: the forbidden fats, and the blood.* Finally we learn of the “SIN” offering (Chatat), and a process of teshuva (repentance).  This offering is only for people who commit unintentional sins.  In this episode we discuss the different approaches for someone who sins intentionally vs unintentionally.* The final type of “Sin Offering” is actually a teaching on social justice, and requires a less expensive Chatat for those who make less money, and more expensive Chatat for the wealthy.  This aliyah also teaches a process of confession and approach to clear guilt in a situation when we aren’t sure if we sinned or not.* The ASHAM offering is described in the seventh aliyah.  This offering was to atone for misappropriation of Temple property.  Interestingly, the same offering is used for someone who falsely swears regarding money owed to another person.  So we see that business dealings - or more broadly, how we treat others - is at the focal point of our relationship with G-d.Parenting Touchpoint:  * There is no prescribed offering or atonement for intentional sin.  In the case of habitual sin, or repetitive sin, that is intentional, a system of teshuva (repentance) must be taught.* Gratitude is something that we cannot FORCE upon our children, but is something that we are responsible for cultivating in our children.  There is a fine line between demanding thanksgiving, and encouraging it.May the G-d of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob bless you with rest and a heart that can trust in this "load" season.  The best is yet to come.  Until next time, Shalom!This work is provided by the generous support of listeners.  If you are enjoying this podcast, please help us out by sharing it with another parent.If wish to support this podcast financially, you can do that here: This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

I typed the show notes while listening to:I am back from break and I am glad to be back! Breaks are so good for the soul. But, so is living out your purpose.In this episode, I share a story, a flashpoint of personal inspiration from a couple of weeks ago.I also talk about my favorite show on MTV back in the day……aaaaaannnnnnnddddd about my total lack of comprehension of time. (shocked, right?)Parsha SummaryI also share that I won’t be reviewing the Aliyah Summary during the audio podcast anymore. Time is short, and hundreds, maybe even hundreds of thousands of websites and resources can tell you a summary of the Torah Portion each week. And since this week is about priorities, I have decided to just type the Aliyah summary in the show notes. I do hope you will take the time to read the weekly portion for yourself, and I would love to have a dialogue with you in the chat about what you notice, what you wonder about, and your big ideas from this week’s parsha.This week's Torah reading, Vayikra, begins the third book of the Torah, Leviticus. Last week we completed the book of Exodus, YAYYY, B”H!* G‑d calls out to Moses from the Tabernacle and teaches him about the Olah, or whole burnt offering. I think of it as a gratitude sacrifice.* G-d teaches Moses the laws of the birds for Olah, and then unbaked flour, baked loaves, and the shallow-fried meal offering. All voluntary meal offerings also contained olive oil and frankincense (one of my favorite oils).* The Torah describes the last type of voluntary meal offerings: a fried matzo type offering, and the mandatory barley offering, the Omer offering, brought on the second day of Passover. Then G-d commands them to salt everything (my husband’s favorite commandment)!* The "Peace Offering," the Shelamim sacrifice, is described in this Aliyah. The Shelamim was shared by the altar, which consumed some of the animal's fat. Then the Kohanim, and the donors of the sacrifice were given the bulk of the meat to eat. * We now begin learning about the "Sin Offering," the Chatat sacrifice, brought by an individual who is guilty of inadvertently transgressing a sin. It is important to note that this offering is for sins we didn’t intend. This category is for leaders, as well. Can you find a sacrifice for intentional sin in the Torah?* The Torah discusses the fourth and final type of Chatat is when an ordinary person sins. Also discussed is the Korban Oleh Viyored, a "vacillating" Sin Offering, brought by an individual guilty of certain specific sins. The Korban Oleh Viyored depended on the financial position of the transgressor. The wealthier a person, the more expensive the offering (within limits, of course). What do you think about offerings based on financial ability? Why do you think this is?* This section concludes the laws of the Korban Oleh Viyored, the "Guilt Offering," the Asham Sacrifice. These sacrifices are meant to appease the guilt and bring closure for minor issues, like when someone doesn’t know if they sinned. Did I ever tell you how much I love how the Torah always embraces the psychology of the human experience?How about you?I was talking in the episode about learning to “number our days” as the Psalmist says. I would love to hear from you in the comments: What stuck out to you in this episode? What would you like to share? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

This past week, I saw a disturbing post on Instagram. The well meaning author was saying that she felt that sending kids to their room when they are having big feelings was shaming and punitive. I think she could be right in SOME situations with SOME parents and SOME children. However, I think that the room is a neutral TOOL, and that sometimes “Big Feelings” turn violent. And frankly, I cannot allow my other children to feel unsafe while witnessing an explosion from their sibling. I am speaking from experience, as I mentioned in a post on my other Substack newsletter, I have four children, three of which are emotionally defined, two of which had meltdowns on the regular. Join me this week as we talk about an appropriate way to empower your child to cope with their “Big Feelings,” (while keeping everyone else safe and YES it involves them being in their room). Let’s talk about it!“In Imma’s Eyes” is a podcast where we journey through the weekly Torah portion and glean parenting insights along the way.  This week we are studying Parashat Mishpatim (Exodus 21:1-24:18).  In my understanding Mishpatim comes from the root shofet, which means judge, but also means referee.  So this week the Torah is covering a list of laws, or judgements.  They all seem to be reparative judgements, so, let's take a look and see what we can glean from this list of reparations that can guide our parenting practice.  Bullet Points from Each AliyahA1 letting a Hebrew slave go free after 6 years:  is this to protect a group of slaves from now becoming the oppressors?  The slave can choose to stay if he loves it!  (And incentive for treating him well)...and if you injure someone during a quarrels, you must pay for his time off work plus his medical bills…A2 we have laws about and eye for an eye, or a tooth for a tooth, which sounds really cruel.  Our Sages have a tradition that this means the financial value of the eye or the tooth.  So, for instance, a concert pianist loses his right hand.  He can no longer play.  The reparation for this injury would be a lot higher than a translator who lost his right hand (and it doesn't affect his work).  Here we also have the habitual ox law.A3 We have a juxtaposition of the laws when someone leaves something over at your place verses you BORROWING it, and then at the end of a list of death penalties the Torah says to not to mistreat a stranger, a widow or an orphan.  And then says to not treat people who borrow money badly, even returning their garment from collateral to them.  Why?  Because "I am merciful," says G-d.  (Lest you think G-d is not because of the death penalty and the "eye for an eye" business.A4 do not accept a false report (OY tattling) and helping out your enemy's bull or donkey.  (Meaning try to move forward in neutral, not revenge mode)A5 Shabbat and the festivals are mentionedA6 G-d mentions there is a blessing for obeying.A7 And, G-d continues, even though I am able, I WILL NOT drive them all out in one year, since your numbers are not great enough to cover the whole land.  And we culminate in the giving of the rest of the Torah to MosheParenting TouchpointsIn this episode we discuss:  * The Shema, and the idea of “Teaching when you sit down, and as you walk along the way,” from the Va’ahavta * Empowering our children when placing them in situations where they are responsible. * The habitual ox, violence, and a heartfelt invitation to anyone struggling with a child who has angry outbursts.May the G-d of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob bless you with wisdom, support and shalom as you raise the beautiful souls G-d has entrusted to you.Until next time, Shalom! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

This week we are studying Parashat Beshalach (Exodus 13:17-17:16).  We left off last week with the 10th plague.  Oh the agony and grief. Here are my show notes, Enjoy!A1 And rather than attending to his people, his family, and his dead, the Pharaoh uses his grief to fuel his rage against the Israelites, and goes out with his army to try and bring them back by force.  Oy VEY…LET IT GO MAN.  We were having a wonderful discussion this past shabbat about the blessing in our prayer book …"b'tzelem elohim." And what that means.  One opinion was that it meant that there is inherent value in all human life, and that prayer is meant to remind us to see ourselves and others in that way.  A2. The Israelites see them coming, and Moses basically tells them to "stuff the cheek" and trust.  I was watching Charlotte's Web last night and the scene where Charlotte tells Wilbur she is going to handle things, he just says, "Ok," and decides to trust her."  This child-like faith is beautiful.  "Ok."  Can we just say, "Ok" when G-d asks us to let G-d handle it.In Imma's Eyes is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.A3 G-d sends an East Ruach/wind to blow all night, and the path becomes clear.  Have you ever had a situation where you go round and round in your head and you see closed doors and no options all night, just to wake up one morning and see a clear path forward?  Haha, me too.  And here G-d keeps G-d’s promise and lays a spirit of heaviness on Pharoah and his army, and removes their wheels (which is symbolic of removing their influence, as well)A4 In the English it says the people feared G-d.  I don't care for that translation, although that is one meaning of the verb yireh.  I just think a better word is awe…they were in awe of G-d.  Mi Chamocha!!!  This is the part of the Torah from which that song was derived.  The waters of Marah:  such a beautiful invitation…Adonai rofecha.  This is the 1st of 2 water issues in this week’s Parsha.  This time G-d reveals the aspect of healing their bitterness, 1st.A5 -The Children of Israel start selling their Narrative of how much -ehem- "better" it was back in Egypt.  G-d gives the Manna that will sustain them in the desert, and G-d explains that the Manna will test them, to see if they can follow G-ds teaching.  (Midrash about the taste of the manna)A6- The Children of Israel are told to gather an Omer per day of Manna, and to not store any of it.  And the amount they measured was the same, whether they gathered too little or too much.  What does this have to teach us about our parenting practice?? And about TRUST?  Shabbat, last mentioned in Genesis Chapter 2, is re-introduced here: gather Manna for 6 days and rest on the seventh.  And G-d is leading BY EXAMPLE, as well.  How would the message have been different if there was Manna on the 7th day? A7- our 2nd water issue, OY!  It IS a desert, and they ARE used to living near the Nile.  Moses is like, "G-d, you HAVE to help me …if you wait much longer they will STONE me."  And G-d instructs Moses to take the staff, the very same staff he used to strike the NILE (are you seeing the connection??) and pass before the people with it.  So here Moses is placing his trust in the people as he asks them to place their trust in G-d.  G-d says, "I will stand on the rock while you strike into the rock." Parenting Touchpoint:  * Trust* Respect* SlanderThanks for tuning in: May the G-d of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob bless you with an accurate narrative of your life and the life of your children, and may you, too, find provisions in unlikely places.Until next time, Shalom! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

This week we are studying Parashat Bo (Exodus 10:1-13:16).  We left off last week with seven plagues and Pharoah doing some underhanded stuff.  My heart is so heavy under the weight of his arrogance this week.  But, unfortunately, a man who thinks he is god has no need for G-d in his life.  I often wonder what the Israelites (later known as the Jewish people) are thinking.  I wonder how the political drama is playing out over the dinner tables and around the wells.  Their cries have been heard, but…is this really the solution they were hoping for?  We begin Bo with Pharoah summoning Moses and Aaron for a change.Who Let the Dogs Out?  I can't say that I totally understand why but the Torah makes a point to tell us that the dogs didn’t bark as the Israelites paraded by.  The plague of the firstborn in Disney's Prince of Egypt is done very tastefully IMHO, but the scene flthat follows could have dramatically zoomed in on a few things:* That the Egyptian neighbors were basically handing their gold and silver over and begging them to leave.  Maybe they were hugging and kissing goodbye?* There was crying in the streets and everywhere every one was grieving.  Not a single home was skipped, except those that placed the blood on their lintel.* I would like to think if I was an Egyptian, I would have probably copied the blood thing, just saying.  It was clear by this point that the G-d of the Israelites was going to win this war.* And, other than crying and passing off their wealth, there was probably a hush over the entire nation, kind of like that soundless silence of the blanket of thick snow.  And even the dogs were silent as they quietly left Egypt in a hurry.I also want to know why they weren't packed up and ready to go, but meh.Parenting Touchpoint:  * G-d keeps G-d’s promise.  This is a 400 year old promise, but G-d keeps it. This is a good pattern to keep with our own children.  * The creative power of patience, and restraint is compelling.  It is similar to the back swing of a fly rod, or loading up your bat before you swing, or the tension on the rubber band of a slingshot…there are seasons where G-d is teaching us to load up kinetic energy by doing almost nothing.  I hope you will tune in and take a listen to here my full commentary this week.May the G-d of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob bless you with rest and a heart that can trust in this "load" season.  The best is yet to come.  Until next time, Shalom!This work is provided by the generous support of others. If you are enjoying this podcast, and know of a mother who could use a little encouragement and support over a cup of coffee, and a moment of rest, please forward this podcast to her.And if you love our work, or just love me and my three hobbits, and wish to support this podcast financially, you can do that here (thank you): This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

Welcome back to “In Imma’s Eyes” a podcast where we journey through the weekly Torah portion and glean parenting insights along the way. This week we are studying Parashat Va’era (Exodus 6:2-9:35).  We left off last week with Moses' and Aaron appearing before Pharaoh to ask for freedom for the Hebrew slaves and Pharaoh mocking G-d and increasing the burden of the people.  Moses ask G-d to explain, because he doesn't understand.  G-d says, "Now you will see…” G-d’s might.I love how patiently G-d recounts the relationships between G-d and Abraham, G-d and Isaac, and G-D and Jacob and how they knew G-d by the name of El Shaddai, not by the four letter tetragrammaton.   G-d says, "I heard their cries and I remembered my covenant." Such a good parent!This week I also recount a slightly humorous story about my ice skating adventures with #3rdarrow and #4tharrow last week.Parenting Touchpoints:* Are we listening?  Do we really see and hear our children?  Sometimes the things G-d allows in our lives bear witness to G-d to the other people around us.  G-d seems to be tangentially concerned with the the Egyptians as well as the Israelites…so that they KNOW G-d, too.  And each plague is designed to display some aspect of G-d contrasted with an object of Egyptian worship.  I often wonder if the Israelite’s faith was faltering during this season, as well. If it was a WWF match it would be: G-d VS The 10 gods of Egypt. Grab the popcorn! 🍿* I see the bitterness in Moshe’s voice when he sees that the Israelites' spirits are crushed.  Also note:  he doesn't argue with them, or call them names, or tell them they just don't have enough faith.  No, instead, Moses prays for them and advocates "your people are crushed…"  Thank you, Moses:  Good leadership begins with remembering WHOSE people you are leading (Hint: they are not YOURS, Laban! LOL)One Minute DebateI would love to hear your thoughts in the comments!  Let’s pretend you are Moses.  Do you go home when you see that the people aren't listening to you, and neither is Pharoah?  Or do you try, try again?  We know how Moses reacted. But, what would you do?  I can see myself going either way.Thanks for tuning in: May the G-d of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob bless you with eyes that can see G-d’s hand in the intimate details of your life today, and that you may be strengthened but not crushed, by the burdens you bear.  Until next time, Shalom! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

Photo by Ruben Hanssen on UnsplashWelcome back to “In Imma’s Eyes” a podcast where we journey through the weekly Torah portion and glean parenting insights along the way.  Personally, I have been on this parenting journey for the past 25 years, in truth most of my life, and I am just on a quest to learn all I can about being the best parent I can be, to my physical children, my own Inner Child, as well as my spiritual children, using G-d as the perfect template.  It is my heart that my hindsight can become your insight.  Let’s learn together.This week we are studying Parashat Shemot (Exodus 1:1-6:1).  We left the Book of Genesis last week with Jacob and Joseph’s funerals…The book of Genesis was how one man had a family who all knew and served Hashem.  We turn the page and now in Shemot, we see the family of 70 is becoming a nation.  Shemot is the story of the birth of the nation, birth pangs and all.G-d IS BACK, and in flashy form!  G-d begins a season of complete transformation with miracles.  We have returned, once again, to G-d interfacing with human history.  No longer guiding from the side, G-d is the main protaganist of the drama.  Dance pattern with Hashem.  Sometime we initiate, like the Israelites crying out for mercy, sometimes Hashem initiates, like the burning bush.  And we see this beautiful contrast between the more masculine leadership of Moses and the more feminine, yet no less powerful, leadership of Miriam.Parenting Touchpoint:  Transitions.  I think G-d is much more hands on during key Transitions.  We have been talking about this intimacy dance in many different ways throughout Beresheit.  But, look at the many details G-d is getting involved with so far in this story…the "minutes and millimeters" type miracles, the more flashy type Miracles (the burning bush), and the orchestrated weaving of multiple human stories into one.  G-d is kinda going all "Mama Bear" on Pharoah, right?  I have never been able to understand why people give G-d such a hard time for being fierce…G-d isn’t angry.  To me G-d seems FIERCE like the way a mother protects her baby from harm.Coincidence is G-d’s way of remaining anonymous.  Tell the story of the airbnb cancellation.  G-d KNEW we were going to need that week of vacation to settle into our new home.Thanks for tuning in: May the G-d of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob bless you with eyes that can see G-d’s hand in the minutes and millimeters of your life today.  Until next time, Shalom!Would you consider subscribing (for the cost of a Starbucks coffee per month) to support my work? I would love that! If not, would you share my work with another parent this week? I would appreciate it. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

Welcome back to “In Imma’s Eyes” a podcast where we journey through the weekly Torah portion and glean parenting insights along the way. This week we are studying Parashat Vayechi (Gen 47:28-50:26).  We left Vayigash last week with Jacob’s family settling in Goshen. Congratulations! We made it through the book of Genesis together!This week, I wish I could go back in time and shake hands with Jacob, Joseph and Judah. They really made a complete turn around for the family, and for the generations to come. Curious? You bet…I cover it all in the podcast.Near the end of the episode I tell a short story about a generational pattern I have overcome in my family, and invite my listeners to reach out to me if they are aware of a pattern that needs to change, but are struggling to have a breakthrough. I may not have all the answers, but I am very willing to pray for you. You are also welcome to join my Parenting Support Group on Facebook and for support and encouragement.We also discuss WHY blessings are the MOST POWERFUL PRAYER you can speak. I hope you will listen!This week I also want to take the pause between Genesis and Exodus to really ask ourselves a few rhetorical questions:  Do you feel like you have control over the narrative you rehearse?  Are you aware of the story you are telling yourself about your children?  Yourself?  Do you have 15-30 mins to journal about this?  Listen to yourself speak about your children this week?  What do you notice?  Do any patterns emerge?  I am wondering how you feel about the themes in your relationships with your children?  I will be doing the same.  More next time as we launch into PART 2 of G-d and Israel: The Book of Exodus.Many blessings to you and your family,Sashya This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

Welcome back to “In Imma’s Eyes” a podcast where we journey through the weekly Torah portion and glean parenting insights along the way.  I am your host, Sashya Clark, of www.sashyaclark.com. This week we are studying Parashat Vayigash (Gen 44:18-47:27). This week’s podcast begins with an apology from me (Role Modeling Teshuva, *wink*) and continues with the drama unfolding between Joseph and his brothers. We discuss the three steps to true teshuva (repentance) and how many fall short of real repentance because they skip the thirds step.I invite you to join me on our journey this week, Enjoy!In the show, I also mention my other email newsletter about JOY, which you can find here. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

* A1 Pharoah has two disturbing dreams, and no one in all of Egypt can interpret them.  Pharoah’s cupbearer remembers Joseph.* A2 Pharoah tells his dreams to Joseph, and Joseph tells Pharoah that not I, but God will see to his welfare.  Listen to this verse in the Hebrew…I want to show you something:וַיַּ֨עַן יוֹסֵ֧ף אֶת־פַּרְעֹ֛ה לֵאמֹ֖ר בִּלְעָדָ֑י אֱלֹהִ֕ים יַעֲנֶ֖ה אֶת־שְׁל֥וֹם פַּרְעֹֽה׃* A3 Pharoah appoints Joseph to the second in command, and he marries and has two sons Manasseh "God has made me forget" (but has he?) and Ephraim.* A4  The famine comes and Joseph personally oversees the sales of grain.  Jacob is also experiencing the famine, and sends the ten brothers to buy grain.  Joseph recognizes them, but they do not recognize him.  This is part of what is causing his bitterness.  He remembers the dreams he once had about them bowing before him.  Joseph throws them in prison.  * A5  Joseph releases them all but Simeon, and the Torah never tells us why.  Is he testing them?  Toying with them?  Is he still angry??  They return to Jacob having discovered their money was returned to them, after being accused of being spies! Jacob wails and basically says "these things always happen to me!"  God has to convince Jacob to trust by giving him really no other choice.  A lot of key moments of teshuva happen in this aliyah, and we get some insight into the personal narratives of our key players.* A6  The brothers are shaking in their boots (well, probably sandals).  As they are ushered into Joseph’s house, they quickly explain about the silver in their bags.  This could have been an “oversight,” as the steward suggested, but it also may be a test.  The present the gift to Joseph and all seems well for now.* A7  Joseph is reunited with Benjamin and overcome with emotions.  They dine together, then Joseph sets up a plot to “rescue Benjamin” from his evil brothers, and keep him in Egypt with him.  We are left on a dramatic cliffhanger!* Just how do we forgive and forget? Boundaries and forgiveness are not the same thing. Forgiveness is internal and boundaries are external.* Parenting Touchpoint:  * Where is God in this story?* Breaking Generational Patterns is a miracle that takes legwork on the part of the person who wants to be healed. Personal narratives are powerful.* Download a free PDF that will guide you into better communication with your children (by Design).* I invite you to participate in in my Reader Poll, especially if you are curious about Human Design in any way. * Thanks for tuning in: Happy Holidays from our hearts and homes to yours.  Until next time, Shalom! May the G-d of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob bless you with wisdom and shalom. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

Vayeshev (Gen 37:1-40:23) Show Notes:* Welcome back to “In Imma’s Eyes” a podcast where we journey through the weekly Torah portion and glean parenting insights along the way.  Personally, I have been on this parenting journey for the past 25 years, in truth most of my life, and I am just on a quest to learn all I can about being the best parent I can be, to my physical children, my own Inner Child, as well as my spiritual children, using G-d as the perfect template.  It is my heart that my hindsight can become your insight.  Let’s learn together.* This week we are studying Parashat Vayeshev (Gen 37:1-40:23).  We left Vayishlach last week with Jacob and his 2 wives, 2 concubines, 1 daughter, and 12 sons settling in Beth El.  Vayeshev begins with:* A1 Jacob settles in Canaan, and the Torah tells us of his favoritism.  You would have thought he would have learned from his own parent’s mistakes???  Mourning Rachel…Joseph relates his two dreams.  The other boys are jealous and reject the dreams, the messages, and Joseph.* A2 Jacob sends Joseph to check on the brothers (is this a good idea? He is a tattle tale) and their murderous plot begins, diverted by Reuben and Judah.  This could be a story of Joseph, but it has a subplot that could be titled, “How Judah rose up as a leader of Israel.”* A3 Joseph is sold into slavery and arrives at the home of Potiphar* A4  Judah and Tamar story.  The Torah illustrates the importance of the Levirate Marriage.* A5  Joseph is showing leadership potential and integrity, so Potiphar places him in charge of his whole house.  How do we teach Stewardship?  Are we like Laban (all is mine!) or are we like Joseph (all is not mine, I am a Steward!)* A6  Joseph’s light is shining bright, so guess what?  A lot of proverbial gnats, flies and other random pests smash into his window, including Potiphar’s wife.* A7  Joseph, in the strength of G-d, translates G-d’s message to Pharaoh's cupbearer, and Pharaoh’s butler.  And asks them not to forget him, but they do.* Joseph has three distinct seasons of his life, the trial and error phase, the second phase where he is on the roof, and the third phase when he is called out to be the leader of Egypt, second only to Pharaoh (as we will see in next week’s parasha) and saves not only Egypt, but most of Canaan from starvation, including his family.* Parenting Touchpoint:  I can’t help but see the themes of the 6th Line Profile in this week’s story.  You probably know at least one person with a 6th Line Profile.  They usually start out life with a season of a ton of trial and error, and then they wake up one morning and just magically stop doing that, LOL.  The second season of their life, they spend “On the Roof” according to traditional Human Design, but I see this more as the Chrysalis season of the life cycle of a butterfly (my favorite animal of all time).  My first tattoo was of a butterfly at 18, and back then, I had no idea how meaningful and symbolic they would become to me.  This Chrysalis season feels very confusing and constricting, however it is a time to digest all of the embodied experiences of the first season.  The butterfly literally dissolves its entire body, all the stored wisdom and experiences, into a liquid and grows WINGS with them.  The third season is a season of being able to fly above circumstances, and get a higher vision, and use the embodied wisdom of the first two seasons to lead by example.  Parenting children with a 6th line requires a lot of patience, a lot of patience, and a dash of more patience.  Believe me, it will get better.* Thanks for tuning in: until next time, Shalom! Click here to get a copy of your chart (or your child’s chart) and here if you would like to meet with me and let me help you translate it. “Learning with Sashya is like having the cheat code to Zelda, LEVEL UP, BABY! She gives practical application based on her experiences and makes the information actionable.”  -Heather B., Missouri* In the meantime, keep dreaming! And may the G-d of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob bless you with clear communication this week, as well as health, and peace. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

Welcome back! This is EPISODE EIGHT! If you are just joining us, Welcome! This week we are continuing our discussion about communication from the Parsha. We get to witness, first hand, what it looks like to make peace with your brother. Here is a link to the resources I mention in the Podcast:* “The Five Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman (This is NOT an affiliate link)* Download my Free Resource “Communication by Design.” (PDF Below) It is NOT available on my website yet! You are getting early access to the “BETA” version of this resource as a valued subscriber. Please feel free to email me your feedback if you have time, I would love to hear what you love AND what you would like to see changed before I go live with it! I mentioned it in this week’s podcast. I *may* have mentioned it had 5 tips in it? But, the resource was getting sooooo long and I wanted to get it out this week to you all. I also wanted it to be simple and actionable. So, the document is still a work in progress. For today, I have settled on three main tips, and I hope they are very helpful to you!* Also, I breezed by Dina in this week’s Parasha, but I really loved this “historical fiction” (I would call it midrash) about the Shechem debacle and Dina called, “The Red Tent” by Anita Diamant. (Also not an affiliate link!) It is NOT for the kiddos, please. But it does offer a window into what it may have been like to live in that time period. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

In this week’s episode we are beginning to explore the idea of good communication and the impact of good, clear communication on our relationships. This is part one of a series about communication. So, stay tuned.Also, in this episode I reference the Waves of the Emotional Solar Plexus, and the recent article I published about that. If you would like to see your own Chart to find out if your Solar Plexus is defined or not, you can do that here.Thank you for reading In Imma's Eyes. This post is public so feel free to share it.I also mentioned that my daughter, and daughter in law were displaced from their homes this past week due to a fire in the apartment below them. If you would like to help out with that in any way, it would be a blessing. You can help here.I can’t wait to hear your thoughts about the one minute debate (Karma or Custom? What say you??) And your comments and questions about communication to get this conversation going! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

This week, on “In Imma’s Eyes” we are debating who to blame for the intense sibling rivalry between Esau and Jacob in this week’s parsha. Is it Rebecca’s fault they don’t learn to get along? Isaac’s? Jacob’s? Esau’s? Or maybe it is decreed by G0d to be this way? My heart is NOT to fault find and criticize. My heart is to learn what we can from this story, to prevent creating that kind of contention in our own homes.What do you think? Let me know in the comments!Near the end of the podcast I encourage listeners to run a chart for each of their children. It is obvious from this week’s parsha, that even twins are born at slightly different times and therefore have very unique souls and corresponding parenting needs.A birth chart is basically a love letter from G0d letting you know your child’s soul curriculum based on the planetary placement at the time of their birth. Since only G0d determines the day, the hour, and minute of birth, as well as where we will be born, this curriculum is specific and unique to each soul. You can get a free chart here. And if you would like some help interpreting your child’s chart, feel free to reach out to me. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

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I am sitting here, the day after Election Day 2022, pondering the Lost Art of Respectful Discourse. Parsha Vayeira (Genesis 28:1-22:24) illustrates respectful discourse with the King of the Universe in such a pivotal way! I hope you enjoy this episode, thanks for listening! I ask a few questions in this episode that I would love to hear your thoughts on…And here is a link to the class I mentioned in the show. As well as my website where you can learn more about your design and the design your children were born with.Thanks for reading In Imma's Eyes! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

Welcome back to “In Imma’s Eyes” a podcast where we journey through the weekly Torah portion and glean parenting insights along the way.  My heart is to treat G-d as the template of a perfect parent, and use this to inspire us to be a more Loving Inner Parent to ourselves, our physical children, and our spiritual children (for those of us who teach).Parenting ExperienceI am not a parenting expert, despite being in my 25th year of my own parenting journey.  I, like you, am a work in progress.  I hope to lead by example, not by expertise.  May my hindsight bring you insight, always :)Dear Sashya, Question Time!We have our first question from a listener today!  As a reminder, you can submit your questions via my website www.sashyaclark.com and if your question is aired, (anonymously) you will get $20 off any of my current offers.  So, Mazel Tov! Congrats and all that jazz to our first Master Question Asker.  She writes, “Ok, this all sounds great, but here is where it gets sticky for me…HOW do you get your children to LISTEN to you?  I try to teach my children all kinds of things, and as soon as I start talking, they tune out, interrupt, or just walk away.  Any suggestions?  Yes, and I think this week’s parsha may hold the keys for us :) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

Summary of the Parsha7 days, creation, shabbatPinnacle of Creation:  Humans In Hashem’s tzelem and demutTzelem like photograph, so we are like a photo of Hashem Demut to resemble, in character and behavior.  According to the RAMCHAL (Moshe Chaim Luzzatto, a prominent Italian Jewish Rabbi and Kabbalist from the early 1700’s)Adam and Eve, Cain and Abel, and SethInspired by the questions Hashem asks:  Adam, Eve, CainGen 3:9 “Where are you?”  Not, “What have you done????”Gen 3:11 “Who told you that you are naked?  Did you eat…”  (Slippery question)Gen 4:9  “Where is your brother?”  “How should I know?”Boundaries = Love  Gen 2:16-17, and Inspired by clear communication: Hashem says, “if you eat it”Hashem makes a wife for AdamAnd somehow she understands “don’t even touch it or you will die.” Gen 3:3Literal children :) Parenting Touchpoint:  My summary, this story could be literal, and maybe be.  It could also be aggadic, and an attempt to explain HOW humans became different from the animals.   Here are some key questions I leave us with:  What questions can I ask when my Inner Child, or my physical children are acting out that would open the door for connection and correction, rather than accusation, and artifice? Many times people just want to be heard.  How can I open the door for honest communication?  How can I partner with Hashem as a Loving Parent in resembling Hashem’s character?  What is the difference between B’tzelem Elohim and B’demut Elohim?  Who is responsible for my growth?  Who is responsible for my children’s journey?  How can I be a better partner?  Am I being as clear as I can be about my instructions and expectations, or am I adding fences without explanation and leaving the door open for doubt in Hashem’s words?Thank you for tuning in.  If you would like to study with me, you are welcome to join my Parenting Support Group on FB, or you are welcome to learn to read the Hebrew of the weekly Parsha in my class, “Parsha with CaTellyst.”  This class is ideally for folks who have already learned to decode biblical Hebrew, and want an opportunity to strengthen their reading and work toward mastery, and fluency.Also, I have a special offer for my listeners.  Do you remember the Dear Abbey column in the newspaper?  Well, I used to love that column, and I want to do something similar here on this show.  So, do you have a burning parenting question?  I would be happy to dig in the Torah to try and find us both some answers.  You are invited to head over to my website sashyaclark.com and subscribe to my email list.  Then contact me, via email, and submit your question.  If your question is selected to be aired on a future podcast, I will give you a special discount on any of my current offers.  Again, my website is listed in my show notes.  Until next week, Shalom! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com

In Imma's Eyes is a Parenting Podcast Journey. Each week we are gleaning parenting tips from the weekly Parsha. Episodes include helpful tips, thought provoking questions, in a smooth sauce of humility, humor and love. Sashya the CaTellyst is a Wonder Well of useful and random information. She leads by example, always applying her tips to herself first. Listeners can benefit from her 24 years of parenting trials and errors and make her hindsight your insight and foresight for the future.She has been dubbed, "The Pattern Interrupter" and offers coaching and classes to support others as they alter the trajectory of their current reality. Sashya “The CaTellyst” travels the “road of happy destiny” with her soulmate, Ben. She is an educator, a freelance author, an entrepreneur, and a loving, guiding parent to three hobbits and a princess, her daughter-in-law, and grand pup, Dallas; all whom she adores. She is fascinated with Quantum Human Design and believes it is a road map to the Soul's curriculum while here on earth. She is a 6/2 Mental Projector and believes in the power of a good story to discover the magic in the mundane of life.  Narratives are powerful, and with over a decade of counseling experience coupled with her recent Certification in Quantum Human Design, she is prepared to share her unique perspective with you.She loves to explore ALL THINGS NEW ➳ new ideas, new places, new people, new things and easily becomes delighted by observing G-d hiding among the "bushes" of circumstance.  Naturally curious, she likes to turn, turn, turn and turn again a good juicy story until the monotonous becomes miraculous.  You can learn more at www.sashyaclark.com  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit parentingintheparsha.substack.com