Journey To 30

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!To say it took 30yrs can be taken a couple of different ways. You can hear from a place of cynicism or from a place of completing. Gary and Tammy have chosen to see this as a place of completion, not as done but as ready for next. Let's jump into this episode as they discuss their 30th Anniversary Party and those who helped to make it memorable for them. Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!In this episode Gary and Tammy tackle the conversation of leaving a legacy that outlived you. For many this may be a conundrum of sorts because maybe you believe that legacy is developed when you're gone. But honestly the leaving of your legacy begins the moment you enter the world. Let's take a listen at what they have to say about their "Legacy of Love"! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!One of the worst things you could ever do is connect with someone you have no intention of remaining connected to for the rest of your life. Ofttimes children are born into this, houses are bought in this and other lifelong decisions are born out of sometimes unintentional moments. In this episode Gary and Tammy explore what it means to develop in the space of pure friendship void of sex and other behavior that could lead to a lifetime of turmoil. Let's jump right in here. There's so much to be learned! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!Every marriage, just like a tour bus going up the side of a mountain, needs guardrails. The guardrails aren't intended to be restrictive. As a matter of fact they are designed too keep things in place as life gets busier and busier. There are so many things you're going to hear that will really help you in your quest to better your marriage. Let's jump right in!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!Sometimes in marriage it's easy to underestimate how powerful an apology is. You ability to do so can take your marriage from average to amazing. In this episode Gary and Tammy explore the apology landscape and what it really means to be emotionally intelligent in the space of being able to apologize. Let's jump right into this one. It's going to be really good!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!In this episode Gary and Tammy are exploring what it means to know each other in a deep and meaningful way outside of the bedroom. One of the greatest gifts you could ever give to your spouse is the willingness to know them in a way that touches them deeper than just in the physical. Let's jump right into this episode there's so much to unpack!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!In this episode Gary and Tammy explore the terrain of balancing marriage and, "Fill in the blank". For them it's ministry, but for you it could business, children, extended family etc. You want to be sure to lean on this one. There are a lot of gems to pick up along the way. Let's take a listen! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!In the episode Gary and Tammy explore the vital importance of keeping the spark alive in marriage. At some point the children will be gone and there will be no more band practice, dance recitals, summer camps or the like. So building in the direction of intimacy is so important. Let's jump right into this episode and see all it has to offer.Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!This week's episode has a bit of twist and turn. For the very first time Gary and Tammy are recording the podcast on the road. This episode finds them in the great city of Atlanta, GA fresh from the Podcast Summit. This past week they had the chance to sit in the room lithesome of the world's greatest podcasters. Let's eavesdrop  on their conversation as they decode the thoughts and opinions of some of the podcast greats! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!In this episode Gary and Tammy are exploring the beauty of being one in marriage. There are enough happenings in life that will naturally come to pull at the fabric of your married life. Take every opportunity to strengthen your relationship so that nothing could ever come between you and your spouse. Let's jump in, there's so much to hear and learn! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!Whether you like it or not people are not truly individuals they are a small piece of a larger collage called a family. They come from traditions, backgrounds and ideals that are completely different from you...but that's a great thing! If you're in the space where you're trying to navigate a new relationship this is the episode for you. Let's jump in there's a lot to learn! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!For many couples entering the marital space the ideas and concepts espoused can often be influenced by television or media  of some sort. But you must remember those things are scripted and have a predetermined outcome. Marriage is not like that. Rather marriage is a journey meant to expose our weak points, challenge our thinking and strengthen us for the one we've decided to do life with. In this episode Gary and Tammy tackle some of the misconceptions they encountered on their Journey To 30. There's so many great gems to extract from this episode. Let's jump right in!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!One of the absolute worst things you can do is not attend to the maintenance on your vehicle. Well the same sentiment is true of your marriage. If it is not well maintained through honest communication and intimacy the engine of your marriage will explode and it's always cheaper to maintain than to repair. Check out this episode. Gary and Tammy are dealing with some real life situations designed to help you navigate the terrain of life. You should make sure this one is on repeat! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!In this episode Gary and Tammy explore the terrain of marriage in the context of intentional time spent. Whether it be in the marriage, family, business, career or even beyond giving your family your leftovers is a recipe for disaster. Your family deserves the absolute best of you. There is a way to have your cake and eat it too. This episode is chock full of nuggets that will be sure to enhance your relationship. Let's jump in this one! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!This week Gary and Tammy deal how to convey your concerns, disagreement and even your disgruntlements without destroying the fabric of your relationship. Having disagreements are par for the course. How you communicate them is where your emotional intelligence is measured. Let's jump right into this episode. Keep your hearts and minds open. This one is really going to help you!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!Every successful organization in the world has guiding principles. In order for your marriage to work you should treat it like and world class foundation. In this episode Gary and Tammy share some foundational principles of their marriage that has helped them get to where they are right now. Let's jump in this episode. Pull out your note taking devices, this is really going to help you!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!For years Gary and Tammy endured things in their marriage because of information that was missing from Tammy's life. As time progressed and language was able to be given for what Tammy was experiencing it made life easier for them to navigate the terrain called life and marriage. Let's jump into this episode with your favorite podcast couple. You're going to really enjoy the one!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!Pssst... dear listener...guess what? This isn't a full episode! I know, I know, you're thinking, what's up with that? Well we're releasing this potshot because we want to jump back in here with us later today as Gary and Tammy release this full episode titled, "You're Valuable: The Father's Day Edition". There's something special about the influence of a father on his children. So enjoy your Sunday in church, if that's your context, or if your day is filled with food and family make it one neither of you will ever forget. We'll see you soon! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!In this episode Gary and Tammy explore the terrain of relationships that can potentially be dangerous to the marriage. You'll find that relationships, whether it's friendships with those who are the same gender as you or opposite sex friendships, can be beneficial if used properly. But they can also be dangerous if they aren't given guard rails. You know with these two there's always something said to make you laugh, cry and think. Let's jump into this episodeSupport the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!One thing is for sure, your children are always watching. That's not a bad thing at all it's just truth. This week Gary and Tammy are interviewing babies A & B, Shai Salter-Presely and Shameria Salter-Roland. This one is enough to make you think and laugh as their children recount the things they encountered growing up as children. Gather your family around this episode for sure we're sure you're going to enjoy it! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!One of the most daunting tasks for parents would have to be learning how to allow your children to become. It's not that you we don't trust, sometimes its just that letting go can be difficult. This week Gary and Tammy relive some of the trying times as parents learning how to navigate the terrain of parenting newly adult children and some of the hard lessons learned along the way. Let's jump right into this episode. There's a lot to learn here. Let's go!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!This week Gary and Tammy delve into the hard conversation of how to deal with your spouse when they are not oaky. You won't always be the best version of yourself. the blessing though is when you have your spouse who sticks it out with you no matter what state of mind you're in. But the truth is moments like that are built over time and generally happen right out the gate. Let's jump in and explore how to be the best you can be for your spouse even when times are hard!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!This week Gary and Tammy have brought along two of their faves in the entire world, their two youngest children Sierra and Sanaya and a cameo by their oldest grandchild, Brooklyn! This episode deals with the viewpoint of their children as they discuss their parents and how they saw them. Let's jump into this conversation. This ought to be good!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!This week Gary and Tammy are digging into the notion of being different and how we can be better because of it. Just as the man and the woman are anatomically different they are also different intellectually, emotionally and psychologically. These differneces help to paint the montage we know as marriage. Let's jup right in this episode there's a lot to unpack! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!Sometimes when you see people who are moving at a high rate of speed it's easy to understand their sacrifice! This week we are the poster children for tired. Everyday this week it's been up by 4am, out the door by 4:30am, work our entrepreneurial pursuit then our part time jobs, all while still pastoring, parenting a high school senior and still being a spouse! We is tiiiieeeddd boss! Check out this bonus episdoe and we will be back tonight with our full episode at 7pm!Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!Because of how we're wired we can tend to think certain things don't matter. Well that may not be true. There are acts of kindness and  thoughtful gestures you may be foregoing not realizing your spouse really needs it. Let's jump into this episode and explore how leaving the little things out may dismantle the marriage. But your thoughtful inclusion of the things your spouse needs will drive you all into the best place. Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!One of the greatest gifts one spouse can gift to another is to support what the other wants to do unwaveringly. As a spouse you should be your spouse's greatest cheerleader especially when the steam in that engine does not have to come from you. You must remember it's not just "my dream" it's actually "our dream" driven by my spouse. With that in mind take a listen at this episode as Gary and Tammy sojourn back to the early days of their marriage then bring us into their present day context. You are surely in for a ride!  Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!Over these, almost thirty years, Gary and Tammy have found that love is more than just a notion. It is a result of love enveloped in honesty delivered to the sender in a way that allows for deep intimacy. Without this faction actively functioning in the marriage the growth of the marriage is always in jeopardy. Pull out your note taking devices, take a listen at this episode and let's see if Gary and Tammy can't help you explore marriage in a deep and profound way.Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!You and your spouse are two people from two worlds, but you've been tasked to make one together. Not only do locations have to change but the language that has to be spoke shifts. This episode will really challenge you as a listener to engage your spouse in a much different way. There will come a time when you must adopt and adapt in your language then there will be times where you all must create a new one together. Let's jump right into this episode, I bet there's something interesting waiting for you here! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!One of the greatest lessons we've learned is that strength is not quantified by velocity of your voice nor by the swing of a fist. Rather it is recognized by a true understanding of oneself, their willingness to grow and develop and by one's allowance to give place for the same kind of growth in your spouse. Here's an episode you can't afford to miss. Let's jump in, there's a lot to unpack! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!There is so much to be experienced in a marriage between both husband and wife. So much that it literally takes a lifetime to unpack. One of the components in this experience is compromise. Without it there's not the full understanding of what your spouse brings to the table. This episode is so good you have to pull out the popcorn, grab your spouse and be sure to take copious note. Buckle up because it may get just a little bit bumpy! Let's go! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!For some the destination seem to their goal. But we've learned in life the destination isn't the goal...it's the journey! This episode gives you the opportunity to see how our journey got started...the highs, the lows...all while keeping it lighthearted and engaging! Let's jump right in, I promise you there's a lot here! Support the show

Gary & Tammy would love to hear from you!There’s no perfect roadmap for life, parenting, or marriage—but after 30 years together, we’ve learned a few things along the way. Through highs and lows, laughter and lessons, one thing has remained constant: our deep love and unwavering commitment to each other.Join us on this 30-week journey as we share the real, raw, and redemptive moments that have shaped our marriage. From practical wisdom to hilarious mishaps, we’re pulling back the curtain on what it really takes to build a love that lasts. Buckle up—this road trip is one you don’t want to miss! This is our “Journey To 30”!Support the show