Life and Love in Paris

In this episode, I’m breaking down the ten pieces of dating advice I’ve been giving to everyone this year including my dear friends, my listeners, and honestly, to myself. From knowing what you want to not overanalyzing one date, to remembering that “he’s not the last man on earth.” It’s everything I wish I knew when I first started dating.-Next my favorite dating coaches and podcast:Evan Marc Katz: https://shorturl.at/BvraCU up podcast: https://shorturl.at/kCIRJMatthew Hussey: https://shorturl.at/a7EsQElliot Scott: https://www.instagram.com/elliotscottdating/Natlie Lue: https://rb.gy/dtswdw 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode, I am sharing dating advice from the great Natalie Lue. Why do we keep sleeping with people who don’t want what we want? One of the hardest truths in modern dating: sex doesn’t equal love. I will unpack why emotionally unavailable partners keep coming back, and why we sometimes let them. Also, I will share a personal story about ego, self-worth, and the difference between being chosen and being wanted. It’s a conversation about waking up, letting go, and learning to choose yourself first. Natlie Lue: https://rb.gy/dtswdw 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

For today ’s episode, I share the lessons from Mark Manson’s “40 Life Lessons I Know at 40” that truly resonate with me right now and that I think might be helpful to my listeners. Whether you’re 20, 30, or 40, this one will remind you that it’s never too late to start anything that you want to start.📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/PS: I am sorry I am for the two bits where the audio is distorted!

Bonus episode since we are in our feels! This short episode is called 2025 Plot Twist: It’s All Character Development. If 2025 has been dragging you through the mud too, know this: you’re not alone. In this conversation, I share my own setbacks from losing jobs to rejection to health scares ;  it’s felt like one hit after another. This is a reminder that even when life feels unfair, sometimes just surviving is enough.📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

For today's episode, From Confusion to Clarity: Decoding Modern Dating Part 2. I’ll continue to answer the questions: 6. What does it mean when a guy says he misses me, but doesn't make plans to see me?7. Why did he pull away after things were going so well?8. Why does he keep coming back but still won't commit?9. Why does he say we're exclusive but refuses to call me his girlfriend?📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode, From Confusion to Clarity. I’ll unpack the most common questions women and even men ask themselves, like why he’s texting but not asking you out, or why he pulls away just when things were going great. Through my own experiences and insights from some of the sharpest voices in the dating space, we’ll decode the mixed signals and uncover the one truth that makes everything crystal clear.Jody Morse: https://medium.com/hello-love/5-things-i-learned-from-being-love-bombed-c6261422a41c📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode titled “Love Is Not Enough”, I dive into one of Mark Manson’s most powerful essays about the limits of love. I will unpack the three harsh truths about love: why love doesn’t equal compatibility, why it doesn’t solve your relationship problems, and why it’s not worth sacrificing yourself. Blogpost: https://markmanson.net/love📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

For today’s episode, Your Actual Person, I’m diving into what it truly means to wait for  and recognize  the right partner. I’ll share the lessons I’ve learned from heartbreaks, almost-relationships, and chasing the wrong men, and how all of that shaped my clarity on what I actually deserve. This episode is about building the blueprint for your ideal match, setting unshakable standards, and living your best life while trusting that love will meet you at the right time.📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode, I will describe what it really means to decenter men in 2025, and how you can still date them at the same time. We are not at war with men; we are just choosing better. Cosmo article: https://shorturl.at/jm1S8📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

This episode is about that powerful shift, the moment you finally stop loving someone who kept pulling you back in. I’m sharing a piece by Chris Marchie that captures the freedom, clarity, and peace that comes when love no longer feels like crumbs.Chris Marchie: https://medium.com/@ChrisMarchie📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected]

This episode is a heartfelt celebration of the love story that often gets overlooked: female friendships. I share stories of the women who’ve carried me through heartbreak, existential crises, and everything in between, and also why girlfriends are true soulmates. From Marseille memories to birthday surprises, this is a reminder that the most powerful love in our lives isn’t always romantic.📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

For today’s episode, “30 Signs That Someone Isn’t Interested: Avoid Being Used or Confused,” I briefly address the viral sister Hong fiasco. I’m breaking down Natalie Lue’s brilliant list of red flags that show when someone is lukewarm, unavailable, or stringing you along. If you’ve ever found yourself making excuses, waiting for mixed signals to turn into clarity, or holding on to crumbs of attention, this episode will give you the clarity (and courage) to walk away with your self-worth intact.Natalie Lue Blog: ⁠https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

For today’s episode, “Fuck Yes or No: The Dating Filter That Changes Everything,” I’m sharing a powerful concept made famous by Mark Manson, a simple yet game-changing rule: if both people aren’t a “Fuck Yes” about being with each other, it’s a no. I’ll walk you through how this mindset can save you from endless grey-area situationships, stop you from settling, and help you focus on building connections that are genuinely mutual. Mark Manson blogpost: https://markmanson.medium.com/fuck-yes-or-no-6e95a409545b📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠ 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

If you feel dating apps are a chaotic mix of hookup culture, mixed signals, and emotional whiplash, you’re not alone. Social media is overflowing with women and even men venting about how hard it is to find someone intentional about dating. Not just someone who can hold a conversation or make plans, but someone who’s actually looking for a genuine romantic connection, this one’s for you.📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

Missing your ex doesn’t mean you made a mistake, it means you’re human. In this episode, we talk about why it’s normal to miss someone who wasn’t good for you, how to sit with that feeling without acting on it, and how to move forward without shaming yourself for still caring.📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

For today’s episode, titled “Signs someone is emotionally underdeveloped and why constant texting isn't as meaningful as you might think.” I share how I was able to learn that the guy I was in a situationship with was emotionally underdeveloped, and why you have to look at the whole picture when getting to know someone new, rather than focusing solely on the messaging aspect. 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode titled "Why Men Decide To Ghost You When Things Are Going Well", I break down the psychology behind this frustrating pattern, with insights from dating coach Elliot Scott. If you’ve ever been blindsided after things seemed to be going great, this one’s for you.Elliot Scott: https://medium.com/@Elliotscotttext📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode of Dating in Paris, Patty sits down with one of her besties, Viktoria, to discuss dating apps, how to be properly approached in person, and to compare dating in Paris and in Vienna in 2025.📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to email me at: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

How to Leave a Situationship. Four years later, I can promise you - the only way out is through. In this episode, "I spill the tea" about reconnecting with my situationship from 2020 only to learn he is still the same emotionally unavailable guy, and much more...📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

Today’s episode is about the fear of quitting online dating — and whether being single forever is really the question we should be asking. We unpack the myths behind dating apps, why they profit from our pain, and how chasing love through them can leave us feeling exhausted and stuck. Shani Silver: https://medium.com/@shanisilver📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

Does sleeping with someone too soon hurt your chances of a real relationship? In this episode, we dive into why making a man wait for sex helps filter out those who aren’t serious. Featuring insights from dating coach Evan Marc Katz and real-life experiences, we explore how setting boundaries can protect your heart and energy from early on. Evan Marc Katz: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

Ever dealt with someone who keeps you hooked just enough but never chooses you? In this episode, we break down breadcrumbing—what it is, why people do it, and how to spot the signs early. If you've ever been left on read for days only to get a random “miss you” text, this one’s for you.Fernanda Calvo: https://shorturl.at/Zh0WL📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01⁠💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

Why do men always seem to reappear after pulling back? In this episode, we break down the psychology behind why men return—whether it’s for validation, the ‘grass wasn’t greener’ realization, or just plain loneliness. If you’ve ever received a ‘hey stranger’ text out of nowhere, this one’s for you.📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

Today’s topic is all about letting go without rewriting the past — how to stop questioning whether they ever cared, avoid overthinking, and find peace after a breakup. We’ll dive into the ways we distort reality when we’re hurting and how to move forward with clarity instead of doubt.Natalie Lue Blog: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode of Dating in Paris, I break down one of the most common (and frustrating) excuses in dating: “I’m too busy.” Is he truly overwhelmed with work, or is he just not that into you? I share personal experiences, insights from dating experts, and practical tips on how to respond without chasing or overanalyzing. If you’re tired of wondering where you stand, this episode is for you! 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In today’s episode of Dating in Paris, I’m opening up about one of the hardest relationship lessons I’ve learned: what it’s like to date someone emotionally unavailable—and why I’ll never do it again. In this episode, I’ll share:✨ The three painful lessons I wish I had known sooner.💔 Why being “the cool, chill girl” never works.📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode of Dating in Paris, Patty sits down with one of her besties, Aurore, to discuss the lessons learned from her first relationship. From ignoring red flags to discovering self-worth, Aurore shares her journey of growth and how it shaped her approach to love. Tune in for an honest and relatable conversation that’s sure to inspire anyone navigating the ups and downs of relationships. 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to email me at: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode of Dating Paris, I dive into the frustrating cycle of ghosting: why men do it, why they come back, and what to do when they do. I share my own experience, plus tips on setting boundaries, avoiding time-wasters, and making sure you’re not treated like an afterthought. If you’re tired of being ghosted, this one’s for you!📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

For today’s episode, titled: “A Man Will Keep You Around for as Long as You Are Willing to Stay,” I share my personal dating experience and break down five signs he’s playing you, as outlined by dating coach Elliot Scott. Together, we’ll unpack why he won’t progress the relationship, why his communication is sporadic, why he talks exclusivity without commitment, and what to do when he is taking you for granted. Elliot Scott: https://medium.com/@Elliotscotttext📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode, I share tips on healing and navigating the rollercoaster of emotions that come with heartbreak. Drawing from my own journey, I reflect on the lessons learned, how to rediscover yourself, and what it means to truly move on. The brain during heartbreak: https://www.heysigmund.com/your-body-during-a-breakup/Heartbreak One Year Later: https://shorturl.at/psaqZ📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode of Dating in Paris, I share how I failed to properly follow the No Contact Rule after walking away from someone who couldn’t commit. From setting boundaries to avoiding common mistakes, and what I wish someone would have told me the first time around.Natalie Lue Blog: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Feel free to share your thoughts, experiences, or any questions with me at [email protected]—I’d love to hear from you! Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode, I sit down with one of my best friends, Kshitija, to dive into the wild world of dating in Paris as a 24-year-old. From navigating dating apps to defining boundaries in today’s relationship landscape, Kshitija opens up about her experiences, her situationship, and what it really means to date intentionally in 2025.Kshitija’s podcast ❤: https://shorturl.at/lG0fJ📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

Today’s topic is all about Patterns That Expose When Someone Isn’t Serious About You ,  how to spot the red flags, and tell if someone is just keeping you as a backup. 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

On today's episode, I will be describing five signs to watch out for when you are starting to get to know someone. Licensed therapist Todd BaratzInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsense/📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In today’s episode, I’ll be narrating my personal experiences with situationships—the dos, the don’ts, and what you can do if you find yourself in one.📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: ⁠https://medium.com/@pattu-v01 💌 Have a story about situationships or dating you'd like to share? I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to email me at: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode, I will be sharing some examples of my boundaries and limits in dating for 2025, along with stories of how my besties found love, and some are even married. 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01💌 Got dating boundaries or stories you'd like to share? I'd love to hear from you! Email me at: [email protected] Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/

In this episode, we dive into the evolution of dating in Paris—exploring what it's like in 2025 (spoiler alert: it's not as fun as you'd hope) and comparing it to the dating scene in 2018. 📝 For more bite-sized content, check out my blog on Medium: https://medium.com/@pattu-v01 💌 Got a story you’d like to share? I’d love to hear from you! email me: [email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/lifeandloveinparis/