Livd Divorce Stories

What does it actually look like to do the work after leaving? Not the leaving itself, but the long, unglamorous, necessary process of figuring out who you are, what you want, and why you kept choosing the wrong thing in the first place?In Part 2 of this two-part episode, Rhona Vega picks up where she left off and takes us deeper into the healing side of her story. After two marriages, two divorces, and a cross-country move to safety, Rhona finally sat down with a therapist and started peeling back layers she did not even know were there. What she found was not weakness. It was a woman who had never been taught how to date, never been given a checklist, never been shown what a healthy relationship actually looked like, and who had been quietly assigning meaning to trauma and calling it normal her whole life.This episode gets into the real work of post-divorce healing and what it takes to break generational patterns in relationships. Rhona talks about joining a community that introduced her to self-worth and self-value in a way no one had before. She shares what it felt like to meet a man who was genuinely kind and why that scared her. She opens up about her daughter asking why he was so nice to her mother, and what that question revealed about the damage that had quietly been done.Rhona also shares the unexpected discovery at 50 that reframed her entire sense of identity, why she still considers herself a work in progress, and what boundaries, self-care, and grace have come to mean to her now.If you are somewhere in the middle of starting over and wondering when the hard part ends, this episode is your permission slip to go slower, go deeper, and choose yourself first.If you have not listened to Part 1 yet, start there. This story is even more powerful from the beginning.Key Takeaways:Healing has to go backward before it goes forward. Rhona's therapy work required revisiting childhood images and experiences she had normalized. Until she understood where her relationship patterns were rooted, she could not stop repeating them.You cannot attract what you have not become. A community Rhona found in New Jersey introduced her to the idea that the person you want to attract requires you to first do the work of becoming that person yourself. That shift changed everything.Kindness can feel threatening when control has been your norm. When Rhona met her third husband, his consistency and gentleness felt foreign. Her daughter even asked why he was so nice to her mother. That question was a window into how deeply the previous relationships had shaped what felt safe and familiar.Boundaries are not a personality trait, they are a practice. Rhona did not arrive at boundaries naturally. She built them intentionally through therapy, community, self-reflection, and a commitment to stop caretaking everyone else at the expense of herself.Your story is not a collection of failures. It is a map. Rhona closed with the reminder that every low point carried a lesson, and that grace, not bitterness, is what allowed her to look back at two difficult marriages and say she left, took her power back, and is still here to talk about it.If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 911 (or your local emergency number). Additional resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7 confidential support and safety planning): ⁠https://www.thehotline.org/⁠WomensLaw.org (state-by-state legal info on restraining orders, custody, divorce, and more): ⁠https://www.womenslaw.org/about-abuse⁠For additional support: Join the Livd Community:⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.livd.co/membership⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to the Livd Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.livd.co/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Need Guidance? Learn about coaching packages here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.livd.co/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Livd Stories:IG: @livdstoriesWebsite: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.livd.co/⁠

What does it actually look like to leave a marriage when leaving feels impossible and dangerous?In Part 1 of this two-part episode, Livd Divorce Stories host Liv Lewis sits down with Rhona Vega for a raw, deeply personal conversation about surviving emotional and verbal abuse, escaping a controlling marriage, and the quiet, strategic work it takes to get out safely. Rhona was 20, pregnant, far from home, and surrounded by "stay married" messaging when she first found herself walking on eggshells. What followed was years of survival mode, two marriages, and a hard-won education in the tools she never had growing up, including boundaries, self-worth, and learning how to vet who you let into your life.This episode covers what so many people are afraid to say out loud: how faith communities can keep women stuck in unhealthy marriages, how shame and isolation silence survivors, and why leaving an abusive relationship is statistically one of the most dangerous moments. Rhona shares the exact steps she took, saving money quietly, securing documents, creating distance, and why her daughters' wellbeing became the catalyst to finally break generational patterns of abuse and control.She also gets honest about repeating the cycle in a second marriage, the unexpected wake-up call that came through her daughter's therapist, and what it meant to finally start asking: what do I actually want?If you are currently in an unsafe relationship, supporting someone who is, or rebuilding after divorce and still trying to understand how you got there, this episode is for you.You'll walk away understanding:Why leaving an abusive marriage is a process, not a single moment, and what safety planning actually looks like. How childhood exposure to domestic violence shapes what feels "normal" in adult relationships. Why support without judgment can be life-saving for someone not yet ready to leave. How controlling relationships and emotional abuse can hide behind church involvement and a "good family." What happens to your nervous system when you finally create space from chaos. Why patterns repeat without boundaries, standards, and self-awareness, and how therapy can change that. The truth about what your kids sense even when you think you are protecting them.Stay tuned for Part 2, where Rhona continues her story and the strength it takes to begin again, again.If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 911 (or your local emergency number). Additional resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7 confidential support and safety planning): https://www.thehotline.org/WomensLaw.org (state-by-state legal info on restraining orders, custody, divorce, and more): https://www.womenslaw.org/about-abuseFor additional support: Join the Livd Community:⁠⁠⁠ https://www.livd.co/membership⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to the Livd Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.livd.co/newsletter⁠⁠⁠Need Guidance? Learn about coaching packages here: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.livd.co/coaching⁠⁠⁠Connect with Livd Stories:IG: @livdstoriesWebsite: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.livd.co/⁠

Anyone else have a really tough December and struggle to find the strength to start again, again? Well, if this is you, take a listen to this episode.Welcome to Season 3 of Livd Divorce Stories. We're kicking off 2026 with raw honesty about what it really takes to begin again when life leaves you feeling stuck, frozen, and overwhelmed. December was hard, and instead of powering through with forced resolutions, this episode is about acknowledging when you're paralyzed and finding the courage to take even the smallest step forward.This isn't a pep talk. It's a breath. An exhale. A reminder that beginning again starts with a quiet mental decision, not a dramatic movie montage. Whether you're recovering from a relationship shift, an unexpected diagnosis, a deferred dream, or just the weight of life life-ing, you'll find practical tools for getting unstuck. From the power of a simple shower to the wisdom of half steps, this episode walks you through how to move forward when you don't have the strength for giant leaps.You'll hear about the mental decision that sparks change, the importance of motion (even when it's just a crawl), and why kindness to yourself isn't a luxury, it's a strategy for survival. Because starting over isn't about strength. Sometimes it's just about remembering what carried you through before and going back there, one gentle step at a time.3 Key Takeaways:Soft Decisions Still Count: Beginning again starts with a mental decision, even if it's just a whisper. You don't need a dramatic breakthrough, just a quiet recognition that you can't stay where you are. That decision, even when shaky, is movement.Half Steps Are Holy: Progress doesn't have to be perfect. A shower, a journal entry, crying in the car but still showing up, being honest when someone asks how you are, these aren't small wins, they're THE wins. Motion, even slow motion, creates momentum.Kindness Is a Strategy, Not a Luxury: Giving yourself grace isn't weakness, it's wisdom. When fear gets loud, call it out, but don't let it keep you stuck. Avoidance strengthens the fear circuit, but gentle forward motion sets you free.Books Discussed In This EpisodeThe Bible Make Room For JoyJoin the Livd Community:⁠⁠ https://www.livd.co/membership⁠⁠Subscribe to the Livd Newsletter: ⁠⁠https://www.livd.co/newsletter⁠⁠Need Guidance? Learn about coaching packages here: ⁠⁠https://www.livd.co/coaching⁠⁠Connect with Livd Stories:IG: @livdstoriesWebsite: ⁠⁠https://www.livd.co/⁠

What happens when everything you built your identity on—your marriage, your title, your carefully constructed life—falls apart? In this raw and transformative conversation, host Liv Lewis sits down with Monique Carkum Edwards, Esq., corporate attorney, pastor, and author of "The Snatchback," to explore the messy middle of separation, divorce, and life transitions.After experiencing her own divorce in 2020 and a career-shaking layoff in 2024, Liv knows firsthand what it means to lose your anchor. Together, Liv & Monique dismantle the illusion that our worth is tied to roles like wife, mother, or executive, and reveal the dangerous equation society teaches us: do the right things, check the boxes, achieve happiness.This episode tackles the uncomfortable truths about identity crisis, grief without timelines, and why the people who broke you aren't coming back to fix you. Monique introduces a groundbreaking framework distinguishing purpose (what you can't help doing), calling (the container for your purpose), and assignment (the temporary role or title)—explaining why your purpose is portable, even when everything else falls away.5 Livd Truths for the JourneyYou Are Not Your Job Title: Your purpose isn’t your position. Your assignment may change, but your purpose travels with you. Know the difference between your purpose, your calling, and your role—and don’t confuse any of them with your identity.Be Your Own Hero: Waiting for an apology or a rescue? Don’t. Healing begins when you decide it’s time. The people who hurt you won’t fix it. You can—and you will.Grief Doesn’t Clock Out: Grief moves in spirals, not straight lines. You’ll loop back before you leap forward. Let yourself feel it all. And find those who can sit with you in silence, not rush your healing.Soul Work Before the Next Chapter: Before you jump into “what’s next,” tend to what’s now. Your soul needs care—journal, pray, cry, breathe. The glow-up starts inside.You Weren’t Fired—You Were Launched: Sometimes the shake-up is divine. That “loss” was an induction into your next level. Disruption can be delivery in disguise.Books Discussed In This Episode: The Snatch Back: Reclaiming Your Life One TruthA Hand To Hold Connect With Monique: IG: @moniquecarkumedwardsJoin the Livd Community:⁠ https://www.livd.co/membership⁠Subscribe to the Livd Newsletter: ⁠https://www.livd.co/newsletter⁠Need Guidance? Learn about coaching packages here: ⁠https://www.livd.co/coaching⁠Connect with Livd Stories:IG: @livdstoriesWebsite: ⁠https://www.livd.co/

What do you do when staying in your marriage feels like losing yourself? Jaye Wilson knows that breaking point intimately. Behind what looked like a stable marriage was emotional abandonment, isolation, and a woman slowly disappearing. In this powerful episode, Jaye shares the moment she stood at a crossroads—literally contemplating stepping into traffic—and chose herself instead.This isn't just a divorce story. It's a roadmap for women who feel trapped, unseen, and questioning if they'll ever feel whole again.🎧 In this episode, Jaye reveals:The red flags she missed (and why hindsight showed her the marriage was doomed from the start)How emotional neglect shows up in everyday moments—and why it's a valid reason to leaveThe turning point: When her kids told her "Mommy, you glow different now"Practical steps for planning your exit when you feel stuck financially or emotionallyHow divorce became her rebirth—not a failure, but the beginning of her real lifeFinding your worth beyond wife and mother: Jaye's journey to building Melanated Moms and reclaiming her identityThis episode is for you if you're:Feeling emotionally abandoned in your marriageStruggling with the guilt of wanting to leaveWorried about how divorce will affect your childrenSearching for divorce support and healing resourcesReady to choose yourself but don't know where to startJaye reminds us: Your starting point doesn't determine your destination—you do.Resources mentioned:Melinated Moms community: melanatedmoms.comConnect with Jaye:IG @melinatedmomJoin the Livd Community: https://www.livd.co/membershipSubscribe to the Livd Newsletter: https://www.livd.co/newsletterNeed Guidance? Learn about coaching packages here: https://www.livd.co/coachingConnect with Livd Stories:IG: @livdstoriesWebsite: https://www.livd.co/

What if your deepest heartbreak cracked you open to the love you never thought you deserved?In this no-filter conversation, love coach Shilpa Cacho gets radically honest about her journey from a rule-following “good Indian girl” to a woman who walked away from the marriage, family expectations, and identity that once defined her. After infidelity, shame, and hitting spiritual rock bottom, Shilpa rebuilt everything—starting with herself.She moved across the country, faced the silence of disconnection, did the deep healing work most people avoid, and came out the other side in a soul-level love with a man eight years younger—and zero family approval. This isn’t a fairy tale. It’s a gritty, gorgeous reminder that it’s never too late to start again.If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re too broken, too complicated, or too late for love—this episode is your permission slip to hope again.Takeaways Why healing your inner child and nervous system is key to attracting emotionally safe loveHow detachment makes you magnetic in dating (hint: it’s not about “not caring”)The difference between chasing validation and receiving devotionHow to spot (and stop repeating) your relationship karma Why your shame doesn’t make you unlovable—it makes you humanConnect with Shilpa: Website: https://www.shilpacacho.com/IG: @shilpacachoJoin The Livd Community: https://www.livd.co/membershipSubscribe to the Livd Newsletter: https://www.livd.co/newsletterNeed Guidance? Learn about coaching packages here: https://www.livd.co/coaching

What happens when you share a life—but not a last name? In this raw and deeply relatable episode, Zoë Nelson opens up about walking away from a long-term relationship that mirrored marriage in everything but legality. Fromraising kids to building a home, Zoë had it all—until it all startedunraveling.She shares what it means to grieve a relationship that doesn’t get the same social support as “real” divorce, theemotional toll of invisible endings, and how she found strength in choosing herself. This is for every woman who’s ever mourned a breakup that left no legal trail—but tore through her life like a storm.Three Takeaways:“No ring doesn’t mean no grief.”Breakups without legal ties can still carry the emotional weight of a divorce—and deserve to be honored as such.“Peace is a full sentence.”Zoë shares how she knew it was time to leave, even without a very dramatic incident—just a deep knowing that peace was no longer present.“Healing requires visibility.”From therapy to community support, Zoë’s journey highlights how crucial it is for Black and Brown women to have safe spaces that acknowledge all forms of heartbreak.

Divorce doesn’t have to break you—or your bank. In this powerful and practical episode, we sit down with seasoned divorce mediator Joe Dillon to talk about a smarter, more empowering way to separate: mediation.Especially for Black and brown women who are often sidelined by the legal system, mediation offers a more dignified path forward—one that protects your time, your money, and most importantly, your peace.Joe shares insider tips, busts myths, and breaks down exactly how mediation works, who it’s for, and why more women are choosing this path over court.3 Takeaways:Mediation = Control + Clarity – You make the decisions, not a judge. Joe breaks down why that’s game-changing.It’s Cheaper, Faster & Kinder – Learn how mediation reduces legal fees, emotional stress, and long delays.It’s Built for Us – For women of color, especially, it’s a way to protect your mental and emotional wellness while reclaiming your power.ABOUT JOE DILLION: Joe is a pioneer in divorce mediation who has been helping couples navigate the end of their marriages with dignity and financial wisdom for over 17 years. As co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, Joe combines his MBA in Finance with specialized training from Harvard, MIT, and Northwestern University to guide couples toward agreements that protect both their emotional wellbeing and financial futures.His practice covers Washington, California, Illinois, New York, New Jersey and Pennsylvania.As a child of divorce who witnessed firsthand the devastating impact of attorney-driven litigation on families, Joe brings personal experience that, combined with his professional expertise, enables him to help couples focus on creating agreements that work for everyone, especially the children.Joe believes divorce doesn't have to be destructive. With the right guidance and expertise, couples can part ways amicably while protecting what matters most.SOCIAL CONNECTION:https://www.instagram.com/equitablemediation/https://www.facebook.com/equitablemediationhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/josephfdillon/

In this soul-nourishing episode of Livd Stories, Liv Lewis sits down with beauty maven and industry shapeshifter Felicia Walker to talk about what happens when your titles — wife, fixer, doer — no longer fit. From the quiet power of stillness to the blur of heartbreak, Felicia opens up about her 15-year marriage, the unraveling, the rebirth, and the messy, radiant glow-up that followed. Whether you're mid-divorce, post-divorce, or just rethinking who you are and why — this one is for you.Tune in to hear how Felicia turned exhaustion into wisdom, why letting things "cook" is a radical act of self-care, and what happens when we finally tell the truth — to ourselves.5 Takeaways for ListenersStillness Isn’t Stagnation – Learn why doing “nothing” might be the most powerful move you can make when your world feels upside down.Blur is a Blessing – Discover why some moments are meant to be hazy — and how healing often hides in the fog.The Glow-Up is Internal First – Felicia shares how real transformation begins long before the outside world sees it — and what it truly means to redefine your identity on your own terms.You Don’t Need Permission to Evolve – Felicia and Liv break down how shedding old identities isn’t failure — it’s freedom. Especially for Black and brown women, unlearning who we were told to be is part of reclaiming who we really are.Your Pain Has Power – From blurred memories to boardroom wins, hear how sharing your “mistakes” can unlock connection, healing, and even your next big breakthrough. No experience is wasted when you own your truth.Felicia's Book: Your Glow Guide

Not all stories come with a “World’s Best Dad” mug. As Father’s Day looms, Liv Lewis cracks open a conversation many avoid—but need. This raw, reflective episode gets real about the emotional fallout of growing up without a present or emotionally available father, especially as a Black woman.With signature wit, warmth, and vulnerability, Liv shares her own story—from a “you’ve got the wrong number” first call to her estranged father, to navigating complex emotions with the help of therapy, prayer, and a deep love for her daughter. She weaves in insights from researchers like Abishag Israel Douglas and Dr. Joy Harden Bradford to break down how father absence can echo through our confidence, relationships, and even our drive to succeed.Whether you’re lowkey dreading the holiday or just curious why you never ask for help, this one’s for you. It’s not about blame—it’s about truth, healing, and giving yourself the kind of love you didn’t get.3 Soul-Hitting Takeaways:Invisible Wounds Are Still Wounds. Father absence doesn’t always look like pain—it can look like overachieving, never needing help, or choosing chaos as comfort.Reparenting Is Real Work. Healing means nurturing your inner child, setting emotional boundaries, and sometimes, forgiving what you never got an apology for.Mentors Matter. Father figures don’t have to be biological. Liv shouts out the uncles, pastors, coaches, and chosen family helping break generational cycles.Book Recommendations :The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner Focuses on breaking unhealthy emotional cycles, especially for women, and reclaiming personal power in relationships.Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Explains how attachment styles—formed in early childhood—impact adult romantic relationships, and how to build more secure connections.

What does it really mean when people say “God hates divorce”? In this deeply honest and soul-nourishing episode of Livd Stories, we unpack that weighty phrase and the spiritual tension it can create—especially for those trying to honor their faith while facing the end of a marriage.Joined by the wise and compassionate Pastor Craig Holiday, we dive into what scripture actually says (and doesn’t say) about divorce, challenging rigid interpretations and offering new ways to understand sacred texts like Mark 10. We also explore the historical context of Jewish thought from the schools of Shema and Hillel—giving richer meaning to what many have misunderstood for far too long.I share my own story of wrestling with guilt, fear, and faith as I faced the possibility of divorce, and how my relationship with God evolved along the way. This conversation is for anyone who’s ever questioned their spiritual worth because of separation or divorce.Together, we reframe divorce not as failure, but as a part of the complex, grace-filled journey of life. You’ll walk away with a deeper sense of compassion, permission to grow, and a renewed understanding of God’s unshakable love.In this episode, we explore:Compassion over condemnation – Why we must view divorce through a lens of grace, not shameSpiritual growth in hard places – How faith can deepen even in the midst of heartbreak God’s unwavering love – A powerful reminder that divine love does not abandon us in our painThis is a must-listen for anyone navigating the intersection of faith, heartbreak, and healing.

Divorce isn’t just an ending — it’s a reckoning, a rebirth, and a road to rediscovering yourself.In this powerful episode of Livd Stories, we sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Tyshawn Thompson to explore the emotional landscape of divorce — the grief, the guilt, the shame, the unexpected clarity, and the potential for deep personal transformation.Together, we move beyond the traditional five stages of grief and into the truth of what it really feels like — unpredictable, wave-like, and often catching us off guard. Dr. Ty shares how the pandemic stirred a global moment of reflection, pushing many to question the roles we play in our relationships and the stories we tell ourselves.Takeaways from the episode: Grief Comes in Waves: Grief isn't linear; it's an unpredictable journey with highs and lows. Recognizing this can help us better navigate the emotional turbulence of separation & divorce. Mindful Self-Compassion is a Game-ChangerInspired by Dr. Kristin Neff, we talk about the power of treating yourself with the same grace you offer others.Uncovering Shameful Behaviors: By examining early life experiences and societal pressures, we can uncover behaviors driven by shame and guilt, allowing for healthier patterns to emerge.Empowerment Through Vulnerability: Embracing our vulnerabilities can lead to personal empowerment and resilience, turning the pain of divorce into a stepping stone for growth.Therapy as a Tool for Transformation: Introspection and therapy support the healing process, enabling us to redefine our relationships and personal narratives post-divorce.This episode is for anyone navigating divorce or life after heartbreak — a reminder that even in the midst of loss, you have the power to write a new chapter.Books & Ideas Mentioned In This Episode: Grief: The Good Grief Project ⁠Lessons of Loss: A Guide to Coping⁠Unfuck Your Grief: Using Science to Heal Yourself and Support OthersMindful Self Compassion Why Self Compassion works better than self esteemSelf-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to YourselfGive Myself Permission I Give Myself Permission: Take Risks. Be Imperfect. Live Boldly.

Going through a separation can feel overwhelming—especially when it comes to finances. But you don’t have to navigate it alone. In this powerful episode, we sit down with financial expert Dr. Darla Bishop, author of How to Afford Everything and founder of FinanSis LLC, to help you take control of your financial future with confidence. As a military spouse, Darla brings a unique perspective and a wealth of practical advice to guide you through this transition.We begin by tackling the emotional and financial hurdles of early separation, offering actionable steps to help you gain clarity and stability. Learn how to conduct a financial audit, organize your accounts, and distinguish between assets and liabilities—so you can make empowered decisions for yourself and your family.As we move into post-separation planning, Darla breaks down essential strategies for financial independence, legal considerations, and child support. Plus, we explore the often-overlooked aspects of self-care and emotional healing—because rebuilding your life isn’t just about numbers; it’s about reclaiming your power.Key Takeaways:Know Where You Stand – Conduct a financial audit to organize accounts, debts, and obligations, setting the stage for informed decision-making.Protect Your Future – Understand the difference between assets and liabilities and plan for key responsibilities like your children’s education.Communicate & Prepare – Open conversations and careful planning can help you navigate financial decisions with clarity and confidence.Understand Your Rights – Gain insights into the legal aspects of divorce, child support, and ensuring financial security.Prioritize Your Well-Being – Financial empowerment isn’t just about money—it’s about self-care, healing, and creating a life that truly supports you.If you’re facing separation, this episode is your roadmap to financial freedom and emotional resilience. Tune in now and take the first step toward your next chapter.

Join us for an enlightening exploration of marriage and divorce with our guest, Clara Stewart Moore, a self-described "universal teacher of infinite light, peace, and grace." Clara opens up about her multicultural background and her journey through the ups and downs of marriage, sharing how her initial beliefs and spiritual connections shaped her experiences. As Clara reflects on her marriage, she candidly discusses the unexpected challenges and sacrifices she faced, offering a poignant look at the complexities of relationships and personal growth through adversity. Listen in as we navigate the intricate path of infidelity and conflict within a marriage. Clara shares her personal experience with suspicions of cheating, the emotional turmoil that ensued, and the critical role of communication and genuine remorse in repairing trust. The conversation highlights the impact of family involvement and the struggle to reconcile relationships amidst external influences. We also discuss the journey of maintaining hope for reconciliation while preparing for independence, especially when dealing with logistical challenges such as immigration status and financial entanglements. In our final chapters, Clara's journey transitions toward self-love, healing, and gratitude. She emphasizes the importance of moving past grief and anger, focusing on self-care, and nurturing positive thoughts for a brighter future. Clara shares how these experiences have shaped her outlook on life and relationships, highlighting the transformative power of love and gratitude. Through her inspiring story, we are encouraged to embrace mindfulness and positivity as powerful tools for personal growth and empowerment, leaving listeners with a heartfelt message of courage and resilience. Three Takeaways Navigating Marriage, Divorce, and Growth: Clara Stewart Moore shares her experiences with marriage and divorce, emphasizing the challenges of infidelity and family dynamics while highlighting spiritual connections and sacrifices in relationships. Intuition, Spirituality, and Personal Growth: Clara's multicultural background and spiritual beliefs guide her decisions, balancing familial responsibilities and nurturing her daughter amid a strained marriage, focusing on wise choices for a better future. Empowerment through Self-Love and Financial Independence: Clara's journey from heartache to healing underscores the power of self-love, gratitude, and financial independence, ensuring stability and a positive future for herself and her daughter.

In this episode, host Liv Lewis is joined by Lauren Maillian, who shares her personal journey through marriage, divorce, and the resilience she developed along the way. Initially believing that love and loyalty were the foundations of a perfect marriage, Lauren recounts how these beliefs blinded her to controlling behaviors in her first marriage. Through candid discussions, Lauren and Liv explore how youthful ideals can mask deeper issues and emphasize the importance of individuality and maintaining personal relationships within a union. Communication emerges as a central theme, with both discussing the significance of honest dialogue within families and its impact on professional relationships. Lauren shares insights into fostering open conversations with children, using music as a developmental tool, and the benefits of regular family meetings. They also delve into the challenges of separation, offering guidance on navigating these changes while keeping communication channels open in both personal and professional spheres. Lauren's inspiring story highlights the emotional and legal challenges she faced during her divorce and young parenthood, emphasizing the importance of self-representation and a supportive network. The episode concludes with reflections on gratitude and hope, encouraging listeners to trust their journey and embrace life's lessons.   Key takeaways from the episode include: 1. Recognizing red flags in relationships and the importance of maintaining individuality within a marriage. 2. The vital role of communication in strengthening family and professional bonds. 3. Strategies for managing life-altering changes, such as separation, while ensuring open communication. 4. The power of gratitude and hope in fostering personal growth through life's unpredictable seasons. “Years ago, I believed that love and loyalty were the cornerstones of a perfect marriage, but it was that very belief that shielded me from seeing the control lurking beneath.”  L. Maillian

In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the multifaceted realities of marriage beyond the simplistic notion that love conquers all. Our guest shares her personal journey, providing invaluable insights and practical advice for navigating the complexities of married life. Here are four key takeaways from the episode:Conflict Resolution and Communication: Understanding each other's conflict resolution styles and the impact of childhood modeling is crucial. The guest highlights the importance of open communication and deeper preparation before and during marriage to address real-life issues like financial responsibilities and adjusting to new environments.Character and Compatibility: Observing a partner's behavior in various situations, especially under pressure, can reveal critical insights about their nature. The discussion emphasizes the distinction between tolerating and accepting a partner's traits, underscoring the importance of mutual respect and understanding in building a healthy relationship.Empowering Black Women: The episode addresses the unique emotional challenges faced by Black women, who often prioritize their partner's needs over their own. Setting boundaries and recognizing one's worth are essential steps in maintaining personal well-being and overcoming emotional abuse.Personal Growth Through Therapy: The transformative journey of therapy is explored, highlighting its role in personal growth and redefining relationships. Our guest shares her experience of finding a meaningful, peaceful partnership, emphasizing the significance of genuine support, mutual respect, and the impact of compassionate, invested partnerships.Tune in for an insightful conversation that aims to empower and support individuals on their journey through marriage, relationships, and personal growth.

What happens when you face the agonizing choice between staying in a troubled marriage or embracing the unknown by leaving? This episode promises to guide you through the complex emotions of solitude and community in love. Listen as I lay bare my internal battle with fears of perpetual loneliness, societal pressures, and the deep shame that accompanies the end of a marriage. You'll hear how I masked these overwhelming feelings with constant activity until a pivotal moment with my therapist, who introduced me to Bell Hooks' transformative book, "All About Love: New Visions." Discover how this book shed light on the difference between loneliness and solitude, and helped me uncover a peaceful state that nurtures self-reflection and authentic human connections. Dive into an exploration of embracing solitude and finding inner peace, even amidst the fear of being alone. I share my personal journey of acknowledging and naming feelings of loneliness rather than suppressing them. You'll learn practical steps to be gentle and kind to yourself, finding solace through stillness and quiet reflection. Drawing inspiration from Cheryl Strayed's poignant book "Brave Enough," I illustrate how time and patience are vital to healing, reinforcing the cycle of life that promises eventual betterment. Join me as we reexamine our perceptions of love, community, and solitude, fostering a compassionate and hopeful approach to these intricate emotions. Takeaways for Listeners: Understanding the difference between loneliness and solitude can help uncover a peaceful state that nurtures self-reflection and authentic human connections. Acknowledging and naming feelings of loneliness, rather than suppressing them, is crucial for finding inner peace. Time and patience are vital to healing, reinforcing the cycle of life that promises eventual betterment. The importance of stillness and quiet reflection in finding solace. How reexamining perceptions of love, community, and solitude fosters a compassionate and hopeful approach to emotions.

When my dear friend Verna Coleman began to see marriage as a strategic partnership rather than a storybook romance, it revolutionized her entire approach to life. Raised under the watchful eye of her parents' enduring relationship, she charted a life plan that took her through pivotal moments, from meeting her ex-husband at 20 to navigating the deep waters of friendship and mutual support. Verna and I shed light on the internal signals and societal pressures that shape our marital expectations. We share candid insights into the battles we face within ourselves—often overshadowed by friends, church, and societal norms. With trusted friends and self-awareness as our compass, we explore life-altering decisions, the emotional journey of divorce, and the high stakes of choosing oneself amidst turmoil. Lastly, we dive into the heart-wrenching impact of divorce on family life, particularly on children. Through honest reflections, Verna and I emphasize the importance of prioritizing children's well-being during turbulent times and the transformative power of faith and friendship. Tune in for an inspiring dialogue that underscores the significance of mindful decisions and finding strength within a resilient community. Takeaways: Redefining Marriage: Understand how viewing marriage as a merger of assets and access can shift expectations and foster resilience. Self-Awareness Amid Societal Pressures: Learn the importance of recognizing internal signals and the influence of societal norms on personal decisions. Embracing Self-Worth During Turmoil: Gain insights into the emotional journey of prioritizing oneself, even amidst the turmoil of divorce. Protecting Children's Well-being: Discover the profound impact of divorce on children and strategies to prioritize their mental, physical, and emotional health. The Power of Faith and Friendship: Appreciate the transformative power of faith and strong support systems in navigating life's challenges. Compelling Quote: "Remember, at some point, the storm will run out of rain." Tune in to hear Verna's story and our shared reflections on the path from failed expectations to sustaining resilient bonds.

Join us for an episode filled with raw emotions and enlightening discoveries as we delve into the complexities of marriage, divorce, and the transformative journey to self-awareness. Our guest, Dari Daniels, shares her candid experiences, from the struggles of meshing two personalities within a marriage to the liberation found in post-divorce life. Notably, Dari had to navigate her divorce during the challenging times of the pandemic, adding an additional layer of complexity to her journey. We discuss the unexpected challenges and growth that come with navigating relationships, the support systems that help us cope, and the societal stigmas that we confront along the way. Whether you're going through a similar journey or seeking to understand the intricacies of such life-changing experiences, this episode offers a safe space for empathy, learning, and finding the inner strength that carries us through life's storms. Listeners will hear: 1. About the intricate interplay between marriage and personal growth. They will understand how the commitment of marriage can lead to significant self-discovery, shedding light on deep-seated issues such as abandonment and rejection. 2. An in-depth exploration of the divorce process as an emotional rollercoaster, replete with loneliness, legal hurdles, and societal judgment. At the same time, they will learn how it opens up avenues for immense personal growth and the development of resilience. 3. Stories of how support from friends and the practice of self-care, like therapy and journaling, prove to be invaluable during times of grief. This discussion underscores the fact that even though we may feel alone in our struggles, there's always a community ready to lift us up.

In Part 2 of this episode, Z continues to share her journey of personal upheaval, resilience, and self-discovery. She delves into the painful discovery of her husband's betrayal and the escalating tensions that forced her to confront the harsh truths about her marriage. She opens up about the difficult decision to proceed towards divorce, the lies that poisoned her relationship, and the crucial steps she took to reclaim her sense of self-love. As she navigates the process of ending her marriage, Zakiya confronts the tendency to protect abusers and the importance of standing in one's truth. She also reflects on the experience of God's love through the pain of divorce, emphasizing the personal growth and divine intervention that led her to a successful journey post-separation. In this episode, viewers can expect to hear: - Zakiya's personal experiences of facing and overcoming toxicity in her marriage - Her insights on the importance of asserting one's worth and standing in one's truth - How she found empowerment after loss and transformed her narrative of disappointment into one of hope and success - Her reflections on the transformative power of truth and self-love Remember, we're just scratching the surface of Zakiya's incredible journey. Tune in to fully grasp her inspiring story.

In this poignant episode, we delve into the personal journey of a mother facing the dual challenges of divorce and depression. Her candid storytelling takes us through a Mother's Day unlike any other—marked by the bittersweet end of her marriage and the intense love for her children that helps her navigate the darkness. Through her eyes, we witness the transformative power of small moments, the therapeutic process, and the significance of gratitude. As she grapples with her reality, her narrative unfolds into a testament of maternal strength and the rediscovery of joy. This Mother's Day tale is a moving exploration of resilience, a reminder of the unseen sacrifices of motherhood, and a celebration of the unyielding spirit that propels a mother forward. Join us for a story that resonates with the complexities of love, loss, and the hope that glimmers even in the toughest of times. Happy Mother's Day to all the moms out there—this episode is for you.

Zakiya Young, affectionately known as Z, shares her journey through life's challenges, including battling endometriosis, infertility, and navigating divorce in a raw and candid conversation. This two-part interview delves into the complexities of authenticity, societal pressures, and finding strength amidst disappointment and health struggles. The discussion explores Christian dating, marriage misconceptions, and the pressures faced by single women within the church community. Z reflects on her own marital difficulties, abuse, and eventual divorce, emphasizing the importance of intuition and therapy. Her story evolves into one of empowerment and self-discovery, showcasing her resilience and offering valuable insights for anyone facing personal upheaval. Listeners are walked through the chapters of Zakiya's life, each segment providing a closer look at her experiences: Navigating Separation and Divorce - Zakiya talks about the impact of her health struggles and divorce, emphasizing the need for authenticity and facing personal disappointments. Christian Dating and Expectations - Zakiya delves into her upbringing, the expectations from her church community, and the stark realization of the commitment and compatibility required in a relationship. Misconceptions About Dating and Marriage - The episode addresses the influential teachings of certain evangelical principles and how they shape perceptions of relationships. Ignoring Intuition - Zakiya shares the pressures leading up to marriage and the importance of listening to one's intuition, discussing the problematic narrative that women are expected to 'fix' their partners. The Pressure of Expectations in Marriage - Zakiya explores the dynamics of a marriage influenced by societal and religious pressures, revealing the struggle between personal desires and external expectations. Navigating Intimacy and Marriage Struggles - The discussion turns to the complexities of intimacy issues, the importance of therapy, and the courage needed to confront and potentially leave a troubled marriage.

Join us in this episode as we delve into the world of divorce mediation with Lauren, a licensed clinical social worker turned mediator at Divorce Mediation of North Jersey Practice. Lauren shares insights into the mediation process, its benefits, and how she navigates neutrality while helping couples make life-altering decisions. From debunking myths to discussing financial transparency and unexpected outcomes, this episode offers a compassionate and informative look at an often misunderstood aspect of divorce. LIVD TAKEAWAYS: Lauren highlights what the mediation process is and how mediation provides a smoother, more amicable alternative to traditional court proceedings, particularly beneficial for couples navigating the emotional complexities of separation or divorce You’ll understand the guardrails around neutrality and transparency in the mediation process. Is mediation right for me? ABOUT LAUREN LoSchiavo, LCSW, APM Lauren LoSchiavo is a highly experienced and fully accredited NJ divorce mediator with a background in mental health.  She received her B.A. in Psychology from New York University and her Masters in Science and Social Work (MSSW) from Columbia University.  Ms. LoSchiavo has mediated numerous divorces in the state of New Jersey.  She is a licensed clinical social worker in New York and New Jersey and has received extensive mediation training and accreditation through the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators for whom she has conducted webinars, been a panel expert on how to draft a mediated agreement, and been published in conference materials.  Ms. LoSchiavo is a member of the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators (NJAPM) for which she serves as a supervising mentor to mediator apprentices.  She is also a member of the NASW, currently serves on the accreditation committee for the NJAPM, and is the membership chair of the National Association of Divorce Professionals (NADP) Bergen County Chapter.  She is a New York University certified graduate supervisor and has been a New York University Graduate Field Instructor and assistant adjunct lecturer.  

SUMMARY: Vanessa Holliday shares her personal journey of love, loss, and redemption in this candid and heartfelt episode. Through her experiences of marriage, divorce, and remarriage, Vanessa offers raw insights into relationship complexities and the power of faith. She reflects on mistakes, highlights the importance of recognizing warning signs, and advocates for authentic communication and acceptance. Vanessa's story serves as a beacon of hope, inspiring listeners to navigate their own relationship journeys with courage and grace, knowing that nothing is wasted in God’s plan. LIVD TAKEAWAYS: Vanessa shares her experience with yellow flags and why they are important signs you shouldn’t ignore.  You’ll be inspired to think of grief as part of healing.  You’ll hear her strong belief in attaining input from trusted friends and how being open to feedback changed her mindset. Gain valuable insight into the nuances around acceptance vs. tolerance.  You’ll be encouraged by her incredible faith and trust in God’s plan and timing. ABOUT VANESSA: In Her Own Words: "I'm a Brooklynite...if you know you know. I'm also a soft place for my family and friends to land...life is hard. I'm passionate about my faith walk striving to keep my heart and mind aligned." ABOUT LIVD STORIES  LivD Stories is a space for Black & Brown women because separation is navigated alone.  Even with our village around, the real and hard work that gets us back to happiness is done with self.  And so… LivD stories exists so when women like us are navigating this challenging time – which usually happens in the midnight hour, in the bathroom at work, in the middle of 7th Avenue & 27th in NYC in tears (real story!) there is a community of like-minded women to get us through it without judgment.   Open and honest, we aren’t here to tell you want to do – we aren’t experts or coaches (we plan to invite them to share resources and advice of course!)  This space is meant to hold community – because truly many just want to feel like they aren’t alone.  I’m so thankful that you chose to join our community and cheers to Living! 

Tania, a mother, entrepreneur, and survivor, shares her journey of enduring abuse, finding love, and prioritizing self-worth. Despite facing challenges, she emphasizes the importance of trusting intuition, self-love, and resilience. She recounts her experiences with abuse in past relationships, her journey to self-discovery, and her determination to create a better life for herself and her daughter. Tania advocates for transparency, accountability, and the pursuit of personal growth.LivD Truths & Takeaway's:1. Trust Intuition and Self-Love: Tania stresses the importance of trusting one's intuition, prioritizing self-love, and knowing one's worth in navigating relationships and life challenges.2. Prioritize Stability and Partnership: She highlights the significance of stability and shared interests in relationships, emphasizing the value of a supportive partner who acts as a friend and teammate in navigating life's daily tasks.3. Transparency and Accountability: Tania advocates for transparency and accountability in relationships, encouraging open communication and addressing issues rather than suppressing them.4. Empowerment through Self-Discovery: She emphasizes the transformative power of self-discovery and personal growth in finding peace, overcoming obstacles, and making empowered decisions.5. Endurance and Resilience: Tania's journey underscores the resilience required to overcome adversity, the importance of seeking support, and the belief in one's innate strength to persevere through challenges.In Her Own Words​​I'm a mother, entrepreneur, & innovator. I always trust my intuition, work hard, and dream big! ✨️ Despite life's challenges I have been able to endure, overcome, and excel. My life's goal is to be happy and to be a forever student of life. Her LivD Truth: I have the warrior molecule tattooed on my arm as a reminder of that I’m a warrior.GET SAFEIf you are experiencing domestic abuse get SAFE. https://www.thehotline.org/Call: 1.800.799.7233

Summary: Staci Hallmon reflects on her journey of self-discovery and resilience following the end of her 14-year marriage. She emphasizes the importance of embracing vulnerability, redefining one's narrative, and prioritizing personal growth. Staci's journey involves accepting discomfort, learning from her experiences, and finding grace and gratitude in difficult moments.   LivD Truths & Takeaways: 1. **Embracing Vulnerability**: Staci acknowledges the importance of being vulnerable and allowing oneself to feel and connect with positive energy. 2. **Redefining Narratives**: She grapples with the idea of shedding old stories and embracing the truth, even when it feels uncomfortable. 3. **Resilience of Children**: Staci recognizes the resilience and adaptability of children during challenging times. 4. **Prioritizing Personal Well-being**: She emphasizes the need to prioritize one's well-being, even if it means challenging societal norms or expectations. 5. **Gratitude and Grace**: Staci learns the value of finding grace and gratitude, even in the midst of adversity, as essential components of personal growth and resilience.   About Staci In Her Own Words “I am obsessed with good energy. I seek it out. I surround myself with it, and I choose to be a connector of it. I am most comfortable in places where goodness begets opportunity, and I drown in places where community and connections are stifled. I like to soar with eagles that allow me to glide in their wind, and them in mine.”   Her Superpower: Creating comfortable soft spaces and places. Because most people do see me from the Onset of like oh, she's hard work is about her business. But I'm actually like, I'm a blanket.  and I like to wrap people in that blanket and then say, get comfortable. So that's what I've learned about myself is, I'm a nurturer in that way. ABOUT LIVD STORIES  LivD Stories is a space for Black & Brown women because separation is navigated alone.  Even with our village around, the real and hard work that gets us back to happiness is done with self.  And so… LivD stories exists so when women like us are navigating this challenging time – which usually happens in the midnight hour, in the bathroom at work, in the middle of 7th Avenue & 27th in NYC in tears (real story!) there is a community of like-minded women to get us through it without judgment.   Open & Honest, we aren’t here to tell you want to do – we aren’t experts or coaches (we plan to invite them to share resources and advice of course!)  This space is meant to hold community – because truly many just want to feel like they aren’t alone.   I’m so thankful that you chose to join our community and cheers to Living! 

Endings are the gateway to new beginnings, reflecting the journey of circling back to the start. In this cyclical dance of change, we find meaning in both closure and renewal. In this episode, I share my own separation and divorce journey and the #LivDTruths I learned along the way. #LivDTruths: You are responsible for your own fulfillment & happiness. You have a professional for all the things, hair, nails. Get a licensed therapist that practices in your state to help in your operation journey. Everyone has issues, it's up to the individual to identify and take action to unpack them so healthy relationships & bonds can be formed. You are your own rescue. Freedom isn't FREE! ABOUT LIVD STORIES LivD Stories is a space for Black & Brown women because separation is navigated alone.  Even with our village around, the real and hard work that gets us back to happiness is done with self.  And so… LivD stories exists so when women like us are navigating this challenging time – which usually happens in the midnight hour, in the bathroom at work, in the middle of 7th Avenue & 27th in NYC in tears (real story!) there is a community of like-minded women to get us through it without judgment.  Open & Honest, we aren’t here to tell you want to do – we aren’t experts or coaches (we plan to invite them to share resources and advice of course!)  This space is meant to hold community – because truly many just want to feel like they aren’t alone.  I’m so thankful that you chose to join our community and cheers to Living!