Mental State: Straight talk about all things mental health and more

Mary Barbour hosts Mental State with guest Gabrielle Tattersall, a love and relationship coach who shares how she broke decades of anxiety, self-sabotage, and toxic relationships. Gabrielle says she currently coaches women and describes her first major boundary: cutting off men quickly when she noticed inconsistency, game-playing, or disrespect. She explains that healing doesn’t stop toxic people from appearing, but helps you recognize misalignment, trust intuition, and choose peace over desperation. Gabrielle contrasts past relationships—exhausting, anxious, and performative—with her current partner’s calm consistency, acceptance, and support during hard times. They discuss generational messaging about women needing men and how increased awareness around mental health, narcissism, and gaslighting helps. For women stuck in cycles, Gabrielle advises seeking therapy or coaching and redirecting obsessive energy into self-focus through journaling, meditation, breathwork, organization, hobbies, and building a life they love. They also caution against obsessively consuming social media about toxic relationships and instead creating new neural pathways through inspiring interests. The episode teases a next installment with practical strategies, supportive networks, and steps to reclaim your life.

Breaking Toxic Relationship Cycles: Gabrielle Tattersall on Anxiety, Self-Worth, and Healing on the Mental State podcast. Mental health expert Mary Barbour interviews love and relationship coach Gabrielle Tattersall about her journey from chronic anxiety, depression, self-sabotage, and toxic relationships to building self-worth and healthy love. Gabrielle describes feeling “lost” in her twenties, believing at 28 it was too late to change and hoping a “Prince Charming” would rescue her. She traces her low self-worth to age 11 after classmates criticized her appearance, leading to obsession with external validation, an eating disorder, and later a boob job. She recounts early relationship abandonment at 17 and repeated short, intense relationships marked by disrespect, ghosting, and anxious-avoidant dynamics. A turning point came after discovering a partner’s messages to a prostitute, prompting radical responsibility, therapy and CBT, and a commitment to daily healing, emotional regulation, and choosing secure partners.  Find Gabrielle on all of her socials at @gabrielletattersall 

Hosts Adam and Mary, both therapists, provide advice on setting realistic expectations, managing reactions, and creating exit strategies during family gatherings, especially when facing challenging relatives. They also suggest embracing solitude with self-care practices and forming new traditions, such as Friendsgiving, if one is unable to be with family. Additionally, tips for those working through the holidays or feeling lonely are shared, emphasizing proactive mental health care and community connection. The episode aims to offer practical guidance to enjoy the holidays while maintaining mental well-being.   DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    and Adam at adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary Barbour and Adam Boardman discuss George Mumford's book 'The Mindful Athlete,' which connects mindfulness techniques with peak sports performance and personal growth. Mumford, a mindfulness coach for elite athletes like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant, shares how mindfulness can manage stress, improve focus, and unlock full potential in sports and life. Adam, specializing in athlete mental health, finds the book a valuable, accessible resource for athletes. Both hosts share personal experiences with mindfulness and its practical applications, highlighting the book's relevance to broader aspects of life beyond sports. They recommend the book for its insights into performance psychology and mindfulness. DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    and Adam at adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

In this episode of the Mental State podcast, hosts Mary and Adam discuss the book 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents' by Lindsay Gibson. They delve into the book's insights on how emotionally immature parents affect their children's adulthood, leading to feelings of anger, loneliness, and confusion. The conversation covers the book's structure, including the different types of emotionally immature parents and the importance of understanding one's true self. They also compare it to related resources and emphasize the crucial lessons of boundary-setting and self-discovery. Adam and Mary share personal impressions and clinical applications while recommending the book for clients and general readers interested in emotional healing and personal growth.   DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    and Adam at adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

In this podcast episode, hosts Mary Barbour and Adam Boardman discuss the movie Inside Out 2, the sequel to Inside Out which focuses on the emotions inside a teenager's brain. Riley, the protagonist from the first movie, now faces puberty and the introduction of new emotions like anxiety. The hosts appreciate how the movie visualizes complex emotional development and cognitive beliefs, emphasizing the transition from a binary self-concept to a more nuanced understanding of self. They highlight the portrayal of new emotions such as embarrassment, envy, and nostalgia, and discuss the rising anxiety levels in teenagers due to factors like technology and social media. The conversation transitions into using the movie as a tool for self-understanding and therapy, recognizing that unprocessed teenage emotions can manifest in adulthood. They conclude by recommending the movie to help understand and manage anxiety and insecurities, and hope for future installments to explore deeper emotional and somatic experiences. DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Mary -->  marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Adam --> adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

In this podcast episode of 'Mental State,' hosts Mary Barbour and Adam Boardman discuss the mental health challenges athletes face when retiring or dealing with career-ending injuries. Adam, a former college track and field athlete, shares his personal experiences and insights into the difficulties of transitioning from a life centered around sports. They explore the identity loss, grief, and depression that athletes commonly experience, highlighting the importance of support systems and resources like AthleteSoul. The conversation emphasizes the need for community, career counseling, and maintaining physical activity to help athletes navigate this significant life change.   DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Mary -->  marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Adam --> adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Today we are discussing athlete mental health in anticipation of the Olympics coming up.    DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Mary -->  marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Adam --> adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Today Adam and I are discussing how to find a therapist that works for you. We talk about our own experiences of looking for a therapist and share our recommendations and tips on your own journey in searching for the right therapeutic fit.   DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Mary -->  marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Adam --> adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Today I've invited Adam Boardman, LMFT to come on the show to talk about dating, communication, and how honesty accelerates relationships.    DM or reach out for more info about working with us or media opportunities.  Mary -->  marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Adam --> adamboardmanmft.com and @adamboardmanmft    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Today my guest is Sadie Smith whose practice, Crescendo Counselling, focuses on the needs of queer, kinky, and polyamorous  communities.  Listen to our discussion about the concept of deconstructing monogamy. You can find out more about Sadie and her work at Crescendo Counseling.   DM or reach out for more info mental health, working with me, or media opportunities. Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Today on my show I am talking with Dr Nicole O’Barto-Trainer who focuses on integrative mental health at her practice Native Clinics, Nicole has advanced skills in mindfulness interventions, HeartMath biofeedback, and functional approaches to depression and anxiety, encompassing nutrition, micronutrient therapy, and amino acid therapy. To learn more about Nicole you can go to her website nativeclinics.com.   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

Mary talks to Tanya Cole-Lesnick, the creator of the Activate Coaching Program, about the power of healing in groups. Learn about Tanya's unique style of coaching and how she helps her clients clear their energetic clutter and move through life in a more healthy and balanced way. Learn more about Tanya here - https://www.tanyacole-lesnick.com/   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Valentine's day is here. Jin Mary on this solocast as she explores the history of Valentine's Day and how attachment styles handles this Hallmark holiday.   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary interviews relationship expert Dr. Joli Hamilton who discusses her personal experiences with polyamory. Joli has over 20 years of working with couples outside of the cis-het-normative world who want to explore alternative relationship experiences. Joli shares how to navigate jealousy and communication, leaving you with a deeper understanding of yourself within the confines of any relationship.   Are you ready to open up your relationship. Take the quiz at jolihamilton.com/quiz and learn more about Joli Hamilton here.   Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli also co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, NPR, and Vogue.   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.    

Mary talks about dating in 2024. She talks about getting clear on your own values, communication and building trust in the relationship, red flags and what to look for in a longterm relationship. Learn how to create an interdependent relationship. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary gives the rundown on the five types of narcissism, each with distinct characteristics, and how to potentially spot them - grandiose, vulnerable, communal, malignant and covert. Take a listen to this mini episode to learn more about narcissism and what to look for.    DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

I talk with Che Johnson, astro coach and psychotherapist. Che has over 30 years in the field of astrology and he breaks down what is coming down the planetary pipeline in 2024. Learn what Mercury in retrograde really means and what you might expect in romance and relationships for the new year. For a deeper dive into your personal chart contact Che Johnson at chejohnson.net Caroline Casey - https://coyotenetworknews.com/bio/ Colin Bedell Astrologer - https://www.instagram.com/queercosmos/   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.   Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.              

Ever wonder what a matchmaker does? I talk to matchmaker Sarah Powell from MacLynn International.  She walks us through the mysterious process of matchmaking.   Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy      Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

Holidays often bring up attachment issues as they emphasize the importance of connection and relationships. For individuals with anxious attachment styles, the fear of abandonment can intensify during these times, leading to heightened anxiety and a strong desire for reassurance from loved ones. On the other hand, those with avoidant attachment styles may feel overwhelmed by the increased social demands and may retreat further, potentially creating distance in their relationships. Attachment issues can manifest as increased insecurity, jealousy, or difficulty managing emotions, as the holiday season highlights the need for emotional connection and support, which may challenge the established patterns of attachment in one's relationships. Ultimately, the holiday season can serve as a magnifying glass, exposing and intensifying attachment-related issues for individuals, requiring self-awareness and effective coping strategies to navigate these challenges. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary and her friend Jaqueline talk with body language expert Linda Clemons who spills the tea about body language and dating. Linda shares some juicy tips on how you can become more aware of your own body language and how it can affect the way you attract a mate. Want to learn more? Take Linda's Body Language for Dating and Attraction course and follow her on Instagram. You can also check out her ebooks to learn more about body language. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

We interview therapist Theodora Blanchfield who shares her adoption story and how it relates to her attachment style. Theodora shares her highs and lows of how being adopted has influenced her relationship choices and how developing a more secure relationship with herself is helping her make better choices. Learn more about Theodora on her website or through her socials. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

We talk about childhood crushes and how that feeling can infiltrate the way we date as adults. Jacqueline talks about how her 14 year-old-self has a "type" and sometimes that part of her gets in the way of dating like an adult. Listen as we share some tips on how to have a relationship with that part of yourself and allow for the adult you to be in the dating driver's seat. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

We explore the world of psychedelics and attachment. Can psychedelics help you have a better relationship with yourself? Remember psychedelics are still illegal in most states and we are not advocating the illegal use of psychedelics. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

We touch on the topic of neurodivergence and attachment style. Although we are not experts on the neuro-atypical population we offer an exploration of how attachment can apply to HSP, ADHD, and BPD.  DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

Want to know more about attachment styles? We discuss the 4 attachment styles and how to move towards earned secure attachment. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

We touch on some brain science and attachment. How children and caregivers interact directly affects the child’s brain formation and operation. Most affected by this relationship are parts of the brain that regulate self-control, the release of stress hormones, and the way genes are expressed. We are not even close to being neuroscientists but we are nerds! DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

One of the biggest misses in dating is communication. Whether it be through talk, text, or IRL people are not really sharing what's on their minds which leads to big disappointments and missed opportunities. Learn how to communicate and lean into the uncomfortable, sharky waters of the dating world. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

We discuss how women view masculinity in the dating world and how this view can shift as we become more secure in our dating experiences.  We throw a little shade on some toxic masculinity. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

We are interviewing grief and loss expert Claire Bidwell-Smith who shares her personal story of losing both of her parents by the time she turned 25 and her bumpy journey around navigating her grief. We get real about what it means to lose a parent and explore Claire's work in helping others process the loss of loved ones. Learn more about Claire at clairebidwellsmith.com or visit her on the socials @clairebidwellsmith DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

We can all get caught up in the fantasy of dating and sometimes put the reality aside. Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to talk about their own dating fantasies and how attachment can play a big role in creating the fantasy. Learn how to take off the dating rose-colored glasses and see the person in front of you for who they really are. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Medium Ivy Sanderji talks us through her experience of being a medium and a psychic, how to show up for a reading, and what it's like to get messages from the "other side." We explore how readings can help people with different attachment styles. Ivy gets some messages about Mary's love life and Mary agrees to do a live reading with Ivy.   Book a reading with Ivy Sunderji https://ivysunderji.wordpress.com/   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.      

Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to help her interview a listener who is new to attachment styles. Our listener Jen lost her brother at a young age. This devastating trauma as well as her struggle to find guidance through her turbulent teens influenced the way she navigated her own relationships. Jen shares how attachment theory is shedding light on the way she showed up in relationships. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Does the Law of Attraction really work when you're looking for a partner? Do you think you can manifest the perfect someone by making a vision board?  Mary invites her friend on the show to talk about the Law of Attraction and what that means about your attachment style. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com. Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Have you ever obsessed over your ex? Or maybe someone you're currently dating. Mary shares some of her own past obsessions and what she was going through at the time. Learn about how your attachment style may be driving your obsessions. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Gretta Perlmutter is the host of the Coping With Ghosting podcast and IG account. We interview Gretta about the ghosting epidemic and ghosting and attachment styles. Gretta shares some helpful tools for coping with ghosting. We can never get enough of ghosting!   Here's more about Gretta Perlmutter. Tons of great info and courses to help you deal with ghosting. https://www.copingwithghosting.com https://www.instagram.com/copingwithghosting/   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Pets can be our greatest attachment teachers. Mary asks her friend Jacqueline to share her story of the recent loss of her dear cat Millie, her companion of 17 years. Listen to us talk about the importance of the companionship of pets, how our attachment style influences how we are with our pets, and the grief that comes with pet loss. Pets can be our ultimate attachment teachers. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Are You Terrified of Ending Up Alone? We explore the fears around a future of loneliness and what you can do to move towards partnership. Mary shares how having brothers helped her feel more secure in relationships and Jacqueline talks about her own fears about ending up alone. Book Recommendation: No One Tells You This Glynnis MacNicol DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary discusses love languages and break down how they work within the framework of attachment styles. Take the love languages quiz here : https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language Get the 5 Love Languages book: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to discuss codependency and attachment. In this case, attachment means becoming overly involved with a troubled, needy, or dependent person. Codependence can also mean a lack of open and direct communication, trust in one's self, and the inability to set realistic expectations. Get the low-down on what codependency looks and sounds like, where it comes from (hint: your family relationships), and steps you can take to set yourself free.  Books: Codependent No More - Melody Beattie Facing Codependence - Pia Mellody DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

There is a stigma around being single, especially for women of all ages. We grew up with the societal, and quite possibly familial, expectations of pairing up and reproducing before a certain age. Mary discuss singlehood through the attachment lens and what it really means to be single. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.  

Mary is no stranger to the world of self-help, especially when it comes to reading books and taking courses. Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to talk about her years of self-help experiences including taking the course on finding "The One." Relying on self-help can be a reflection of your attachment style and we break down how your attachment style relates to self-help and why it can over-promise and under-deliver. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary talks with her friend Jacqueline about how dating apps can play into your attachment style. They give helpful tips on how not to get stuck in the dating app trap and how to shift your energy towards a more positive dating outcome. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

The dreaded dating apps - love them or leave them, they are here to stay. Mary talks with her friend Jacqueline about dating apps and how to make them work for you. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

What happens when your soulmate becomes your soul crusher?  Mary invites her friend Jaqueline on the show to talk about the feelings underneath meeting your soulmate and when the relationship turns confusing. Mary shares her own experiences with soul mates turned deadbeats. Learn how this dance can start feeling very disorganized.   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to the show to help her break down their favorite attachment style - disorganized attachment style. Disorganized attachment is characterized by a lack of a consistent pattern of behavior when it comes to attachment. Individuals with disorganized attachment may seem to want to be close to others, but then become anxious, avoidant, or even fearful in certain situations.  Pulling from their own life experiences with this attachment style Jacqueline and Mary normalize the confusing emotional push/pull of this attachment style.  DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary invites her friend Jaqueline to discuss avoidant attachment styles - the attachment style that Mary holds near and dear to her heart. Mary confesses an avoidant moment and Jacqueline offers up some tips for the avoidant. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to break down the anxious attachment style. Jacqueline shares how her own anxious attachment flared up after only two dates and explains how anxious attachment can feel like Tigger and a Watch Dog. Mary validates Jacqueline's experience and the two of them provide some tips about hanging out with their own anxious attachments. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.    Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary talks about the secure attachment style, how Kyle Chandler is her fantasy dad, and some tools on how to work towards secure attachment.   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy  Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com. Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

We discuss having rules around sex and expectations. Are you looking for a long-term partner or a quickie? And how does this work with your attachment style? Listen as we talk about how all of this works within the insecure attachment paradigm.   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy    Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.      Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.