Mourning People

the last episode of the brandi series.

Friends, in this episode i get very real about my struggles with mental health and motherhood. The things i say were terrifying to say out loud, and i spent a lot of time going back and forth on whether or not i edit it out. i decided to keep it. From the beginning of this journey, i have wanted this to be a safe space to talk about the heavy, loneliest parts of life and none of us will get there if we dont acknowledge the parts that scare us.My son is aware of the things i say, and he understands that none of it has anything to do with him. He also doesnt agree with most of it, and thinks I'm being too hard on myself, which is another reason why i decided to keep it in. i think it shows how deep the struggles of parenting run, and how our biggest mistakes arent always reflected in our childrens eyes.....or hearts.You're not alone, you’re a Mourning Person [email protected] if you are in distress, please call or text the suicide crisis hotline at 9-8-8

The one and only Brandi is back to talk about the grief we feel when navigating chronic illness (for real this time)Get ready for some real conversations aboutgrief, relationships, motherhood, how we can move through the challenges and why positivity isn't always an option.This will be a 3 episode series filled with deep talks, some tears, and a lot of laughs, because if you can't laugh through your pain, whats the point?You're not alone, you’re a Mourning Person [email protected] if you are in distress, please call or text the suicide crisis hotline at 9-8-8

For everyone who needs a break sometimes, because we don't do grief "right" Welcome to season 2! And welcome my friend, Brandi. the point was to talk more about the grief we feel when you have chronic illness. we.....didnt get far. listen to hear more about Brandi's experience with bipolar, navigating the medical system, and jokes that probably shouldnt be as funny as they are. you're not alone, you’re a Mourning Person.

I'm back and I'm bringing people with me!

for all of us who say.....the wrong things, because we don't do grief "right"you're not alone, you’re a Mourning Person

for all of us who are doing our best to heal our trauma, because we don't do grief "right"deep, hidden trauma can come out in unexpected ways when you come face to face with grief.let's talk about it.you're not alone, you’re a Mourning Person.

for everyone who regrets their life choices, because we don't do grief "right"this one was requested by a listener who was struggling with the regret that comes with ending a relationship. follow me on Instagram @ mourningpeoplepodcastemail at [email protected]

for the ones who carry shame that doesn’t belong to them, because they don't do grief "right"you're not alone, you’re a Mourning Person follow me on Instagram: @mourningpeoplepodcast tiktok @mourning.peopleif you have suggestions on topics or want to reach out with your story of grief email me at [email protected]

this one just kind of came out of me.......for my uncle mike, with the most love.you're not alone, you're a Mourning Person.

for all the caretakers who dont do grief "right"the role of caretaking is hard. you are allowed to grieve.....to grieve the situation, to grieve yourself. you're not alone, you’re a Mourning Person. email: [email protected] Instagram: @mourningpeoplepodcast

for the ones who feel like they're not good enough, because we don't do grief "right"have you ever lost an acquaintance and although you weren't very close, the loss feels big. devastating. and then you think.....wait? i wasnt important enough to them to feel THIS sad. we have all felt this. and its ok.you're not alone, you’re a Mourning Person. e mail me if there is a story you'd like to share: [email protected]

for the ones who struggle to forgive, because we don't do grief "right"sometimes the hardest part is forgiving ourselves. lets talk about it.you're not alone, you’re a Mourning Person.

for all pet parents who don't do grief "right"today i wanted to speak a little bit about pet loss. this is a difficult subject and you can really tell by the tone of my voice. also, did i actually get a cold? because.....it sounds like it.you're not alone you're a mourning person follow me on Instagram @mourningpeoplepodcast book 1:1 grief support on Instagram @solace.end.of.life.careor email: [email protected] you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out:Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645

for all the people pleasers who don't do grief "right"i was thinking about the people in my life who feel the need to apologize for almost everything. i needed to get some thoughts out.you're not alone, you’re a Mourning Person

for the ones who are scared to be seen, because they don't do grief "right"If you're an avoidant, and you've left someone who would have loved you through it...... ....this is your wake-up call. Not to come back to someone and repeat the same patterns, but to do the work so you can show up better, even if it’s not with them. You don’t have to stay broken. You don’t have to keep running. There’s someone who wanted to meet you in the dark. Maybe next time, let them. I'm not telling people to stay in unsafe dynamics. I'm not minimizing the pain they caused others. I'm simply speaking to the people who might still be capable of growth.......but don’t know that love can be a place for it. You're not alone You're a mourning person

for everyone searching for a bit of gratitude, because we dont do grief "right"its easy to get lost in the rot.its hard to find things to be grateful for when we're hurting......but it is possible. you're not aloneyou're a mourning person

for the ones who grieve before the loss, because you dont do grief "right"anticipatory grief has so many layers so many emotions.....and they are all ok.if you need help navigating loss, or newd someone who can help you through the grief that is yet to come, I'm here. dm me on Instagram or send me an email [email protected]'re not alone you're a mourning person.

for the fats who dont do grief rightlet's address the elephant in the room: i like to say "A:, and B;" I'm aware. I'll work on it.today i talk about my struggles with disordered eating, how crackers arent a sustainable food choice, and finding the parts of me i didnt know need healing.you're not aloneyou're a mourning person.if you are in need of support, please reach out to the national eating disorder information line at 1-866-633-4220

for the brokenhearted who don't do grief "right"we've all been there. things are going good....great even.....then suddenly.....crickets.did i do something wrong? am i too much?no......you're in it deep with someone who would rather run than feel connection.thats not your fault.....and you get the added bonus of "glowing up" and rubbing it in their face. enjoy that part. it feels amazing.you're not aloneyou're a mourning person.follow me on Instagram @mourningpeoplepodcastreach out for grief/death support @solcae.end.of.life.careIf you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out:Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645

for everyone who feels like they're losing it, and doesn't do grief "right"its hard enough to keep it together on a good day. when we're grieving,our autopilot glitches and before you know it, you're crying in the kitchen surrounded by a million tiny disasters. thats ok. you're ok. you're not losing it. you're grieving. and you're definitely not aloneyou're a mourning person. follow me on Instagram @mourningpeoplepodcast book 1:1 support on Instagram @solace.end.of.life.careor email : [email protected] you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out:Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645

for everyone who has walked away, and doesn't do grief "right"what happens when we grieve the loss of something that wasn't good for us?I'll tell you......confusion, thats what.join me for a brief discussion on what it could look like when you're the one who is gone.you're not aloneyou're a mourning person.follow me on Instagram @mourningpeoplepodcastfollow devon @ www.loudmouthbrowngirl.comIf you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out:Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645

for the ones who are stuck, because they don't do grief "right"*i totally messed up my words at the end. thanks, the heat. my brain was having a hard time putting thoughts to words. some days grief feels too heavy. The world too broken. Your body too tired. Your spirit too far gone. This episode is for the ones who are still here, even when it would’ve been easier not to be. For the ones crawling through depression, flares, trauma, and the kind of heartbreak that makes you forget the light exists at all.Let’s talk about what it means to not give in. Not perfectly. Not with grace. But with grit. Even if the only thing you did today was breathe, this episode is for you.You're still healing. You're still showing up. You're still here.you're not alone you're a mourning person

for everyone who can't seem to cry, even when they think they should.....because none of us do grief "right"grief doesn’t have to come with tears.its ok not to cry. its even ok to laugh if you need to.you're not alone you're a mourning person follow me on Instagram @mourningpeoplepodcast book 1:1 grief support on Instagram @solace.end.of.life.careor email @: [email protected] you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out:Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645

for everyone who doesn't do grief "right"today i talk about how its ok to not be "over it"you may find i am slow and intentional here.my words were not available as readily as i would have liked. let's move past that.you're not aloneyou're a mourning person.

for the chronically ill who don't do grief "right"your body has changed. you can't do all the things you used to. you feel lost and alone.so do i, friend. today i talk more about coming to terms with this new path and how its ok to grieve our old selves.the truth is, you're not alone. you're a mourning person.

for neurodivergents who don't do grief "right"navigating grief is hard.....navigating grief when you have adhd feels impossible. we don’t often talk about how adhd surprises us at the worst of times.hopefully this helps open the conversation. you're not aloneyou’re a mourning person.follow me on Instagram @mourningpeoplepodcastIf you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out:Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645

for everyone who is fighting their inner voice, and doesn't do grief right.today i talk about struggling with wanting to put yourself out there, but your anxiety stops you from being seen.you can do the thing. even if you're scared. even if your voice shakes.....simply because you want to do it. you don't need an outcome. you can just be proud.i would ike to apologize for any language in this episode that is ableist or disrespectful. there are some words i am still trying to unlearn, it is a process. instead of hiding it, i am still putting it out there. this is a real space with real mistakes. you're not alone you're a mourning person If you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out:Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645

Happy pride, friends!! for all my fellow queers who don't do grief "right"Today I talk a little bit about what helped me through grief.....complete with uncomfortable laughter and a brief history of how the muppet babies scarred me for life.whether youre screaming into a pillow or into the void.....you're not aloneyou're a mourning person.follow me on Instagram @mourningpeoplepodcastIf you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out:Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645

Books by Indigenous Authors (Canada & US)1. 21 Things You May Not Know About the Indian Act by Bob Joseph– A digestible, essential intro to Canada’s colonial policies.2. A Mind Spread Out on the Ground by Alicia Elliott (Haudenosaunee)– A raw, brilliant memoir on mental health, intergenerational trauma, and resilience.3. Half-Bads in White Regalia by Cody Caetano (Ojibwe)– Funny, sharp, and devastatingly honest — a memoir of mixed identity and family.4. The Truth About Stories by Thomas King– Storytelling as resistance, truth-telling, and cultural survival.--- Books by Black Authors (Canada & US)5. Policing Black Lives by Robyn Maynard (Canada)– A deeply researched look at how anti-Blackness operates in Canadian institutions.6. The Skin We’re In by Desmond Cole (Canada)– One year in the life of Black resistance in Canada. Urgent and personal.7. In the Wake: On Blackness and Being by Christina Sharpe– A poetic, intellectual exploration of Black life, mourning, and survival.8. Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde– Essays on race, sexuality, feminism, and anger — timeless and still revolutionary.---Books by Palestinian Authors9. The Hundred Years’ War on Palestine by Rashid Khalidi– A historical account told from a Palestinian perspective. Accessible and gripping.10. Against the Loveless World by Susan Abulhawa– A haunting novel that explores love, resistance, and life under occupation.11. Salt Houses by Hala Alyan– A generational novel following a Palestinian family displaced by war.12. Palestine +100: Stories from a Century after the Nakba– Speculative fiction by Palestinian writers imagining futures post-occupation.

For the ones who have loved and lost.....and don't do grief "right"today i talk about the grief we hide, about relationship loss......and about how i wasted 3 hours making a theme song.follow me on Instagram @mourningpeoplepodcastIf you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out: Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645

For all dog moms who dont do grief "right"If you've ever felt like your grief is too loud, too peaceful, or you just can't seem to do it "right" then this episode is for you.If you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out: Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645

I'm not going to lie, this is rough. If you want to hear my incoherent ramblings that come to no conclusion, then this episode is for you.For all the 40-somethings who don't do grief "right"As I learn through this new chapter in my life, things will hopefully get better. ....and by that I mean easier to listen to.Here is to building a community of 'broken' people. If you need someone to talk to or if someone you love is in crisis, please reach out: Talk Suicide Canada at call 1-833-456-4566or text 45645