On The Ground Parenting

Welcome back to Episode 34 of On the Ground Parenting! After a short break to recalibrate, hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly are back to celebrate the shifting season. In our corner of the world, the snow is receding, the birds are returning, and it is finally time to tap the trees. This session explores how to embrace the rejuvenation of spring without breaking the bank. From creative Easter egg hunts to starting a "cut flower garden" with recycled materials, the team discusses how time and connection often mean more to children than expensive store-bought treats. Whether you are planting seeds in a community garden or building a cardboard vending machine, this episode is all about cultivating joy through simple, "on the ground" adventures. In This Episode: Renewal, Traditions, and Dirt The Magic of "Fall Spring": Sam and Kelly discuss the excitement of counting down to gardening season and catching that perfect moment when the river ice breaks. Revisiting Traditions: The hosts share how even older kids—like Sam's 14-year-old—still find delight in the nostalgia of an Easter egg hunt. Celebrating Diversity: A look at local faith-based and cultural celebrations, like the Festival of Colour, that invigorate the community during this time of year. Celebrations on a Budget: With gas and food prices rising, the team offers creative alternatives to expensive holidays:   The Long Hunt: Use scavenger hunt clues to make a small surprise last longer. Creative Wrappings: If you don't have plastic eggs, squares of tin foil work just as well. Focus on Food: A simple pancake breakfast can be just as thrilling as a basket of candy.   Cardboard Ingenuity: Sandy shares a heartwarming story of her 5-year-old grandson building a functional "vending machine" out of boxes and tubes. Seed Starting 101: Kelly's tips for starting a garden with nieces and nephews using recycled meat trays and inexpensive seed mixtures. Community Resources: Where to find free or low-cost gardening supplies:   Public Libraries: Many local branches offer free seed libraries. Horticultural Societies: A great place for seed exchanges and expert tips. Community Gardens: Ideal for families who don't have their own yard or want to keep things small.   Container Gardening: Why lettuce, spinach, and even potatoes are perfect for transient families or those with limited outdoor space. Support On the Ground Parenting This podcast is a project of Muskoka Family Focus, a registered Canadian charity. We rely on your support to keep these conversations accessible to all families.  Support the Show: Join us at patreon.com/onthegroundparenting to help us keep going. Connect with Us: Find resources, ask questions, or donate via our Linktree: linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting. On the Ground Parenting is produced and published by Red Juice Studios. Happy planting!

Welcome to the season finale—Episode 33—of On the Ground Parenting! In this very special episode, hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly take a deep dive into a parenting "bible" that has stood the test of time: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Whether you first encountered this program on a CD in your car or saw summaries taped to a bathroom door, its practical wisdom remains as relevant in 2026 as it was in the 1980s. The team explores the fundamental first step of the program: helping children deal with their feelings. By moving away from denial, philosophy, or unwanted advice and moving toward empathy and acknowledgement, we can transform our relationships not just with our children, but with every human being in our lives. In This Episode: The Language of Empathy [02:44] A Legacy of Learning: Kelly and Sandy reflect on their long history with the program, from participating in co-op nursery schools in the mid-80s to facilitating the course for Muskoka Family Focus. [05:45] The "Backpack" Moment: Why acknowledging a "bad day" is more effective than demanding chores the moment a child walks through the door. [09:20] Validation vs. Acknowledgment: Discussing the "comic-style" role-plays in the book that demonstrate the difference between typical parenting reactions and empathetic ones. [12:11] The Eight Roadblocks to Listening: The team role-plays common (but unhelpful) responses to a workplace crisis, including: Denial of Feelings: "There's no reason to be upset." The Philosophical Approach: "Life isn't perfect." Advice: "Tomorrow you should just march into the office..." Questions/Interrogation: "What exactly were those emergencies?" Defense of the Other Person: "I can understand your boss's reaction." [21:10] The New Language of Acceptance: Learning the four specific methods to help children deal with their feelings: Listen with full attention: Putting down the phone and offering eye-level presence. Acknowledge with a word: Using simple cues like "Oh," "Mmm," or "I see." Give the feeling a name: Expanding beyond "sad" or "mad" to identify the true motion. Give wishes in fantasy: Using imagination to bridge the gap when a child's desire is unattainable (e.g., "I wish we had a giant ice cream stand in the car!"). Important Update: A New Chapter! As we wrap up this final episode of the current season, we have some exciting news: Taking a Brief Break: The team is taking a week or two off to handle some behind-the-scenes technical transitions. Deep Dive Series: Once a month, the team will continue to dive into specific chapters of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen. Join the Community: Visit us at patreon.com/onthegroundparenting to support the show and access resources. Stay in Touch: Find all our past episodes and contact information at linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting. On the Ground Parenting was produced and published by Red Juice Studio. Thank you for listening, for learning with us, and for being "on the ground." We'll see you soon!

Welcome to Episode 32 of On the Ground Parenting! In this session, hosts Sandy and Kelly (wishing a speedy recovery to Sam) shift their focus inward. After several discussions on outward relationships and friendships, the team explores how taking care of ourselves is the first step toward taking care of our relationships with others. Sandy leads Kelly through a guided mindfulness practice known as RAIN, an acronym designed to help parents move from being "out of sorts" or reactionary to a state of curiosity and self-compassion. Whether you are facing a tough day with your children or feeling the weight of a busy schedule, this structured pause offers a way to acknowledge your feelings without judgment. Understanding the RAIN Practice Originally created by Michelle McDonald and popularized by Tara Brach, the RAIN practice consists of four essential steps: R – Recognize: Acknowledge what is happening in the present moment. This involves identifying thoughts (like "future worry" or "list-making"), overwhelming emotions, or physical sensations such as jaw tension or restlessness. A – Allow: Let the experience be there, just as it is, without trying to change it or judge it. Sandy suggests using metaphors like watching clouds float by in the sky or waves in the ocean to observe thoughts and feelings as they pass. I – Investigate: Bring childlike curiosity to the experience. Ask yourself, "What words are going through my mind?" or "What does this vulnerable part of myself need right now?"—whether it is belonging, forgiveness, or love. N – Nurture: Offer yourself kindness and comfort. This might include phrases like "I am okay" or "this too shall pass," or imagining the love of a good friend, family member, or pet flowing toward you. Key Takeaways for Parents Mindfulness is Noticing: It is about being present and aware of yourself and others without harsh judgment. Addressing the "Monkey Mind": Recognize when your brain is catapulting ahead to future tasks, and gently bring yourself back to the "now". Treat Yourself Like a Friend: Nurture yourself with the same compassion you offer others; staying "okay" is essential for continuing to give to your family. Practice Over Perfection: You can drop into this practice anywhere—on a subway, in a meeting, or during a stressful parenting moment—to settle and centre yourself. Connect & Support Join the Conversation: We love hearing how these practices work for you. Connect with us at patreon.com/onthegroundparenting. Resources & More: Find all our links and ways to support the show at linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting. On the Ground Parenting is a production of Muskoka Family Focus Parent Education Program. Be kind to yourself today!

In This Episode: Conflict, Resilience, and Tattling Welcome to Episode 31 of On the Ground Parenting! In this session, hosts Sandy and Kelly (with Sam out sick) pull back the curtain on the more challenging side of relationships. From children facing "B-list" status on the weekend to the sting of teenage exclusion, the team explores how parents can support their kids through the inevitable disappointment of friendship fallouts. The conversation highlights the importance of adult "attunement" in group settings like schools and clubs, where playground politics can quickly turn into exclusionary games. By modeling healthy communication and teaching children the difference between "telling" and "tattling," we can help them find their own way through social self-doubt while maintaining their self-worth. Parenting Workshops Mentioned If you're looking for more "on the ground" tools, Muskoka Family Focus offers several workshops highlighted in this episode: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen: Learning to acknowledge feelings without jumping to assertions. Bounce Back and Thrive: Exploring how the mind conjures up stories and how to shift perspectives. https://muskokafamilyfocus.ca/programs/parenting-seminars/ Connect & Support Join the Community: Support our work and connect with the hosts at patreon.com/onthegroundparenting. Workshops & Questions: Reach out via our Linktree for more information on upcoming programs: linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting. On the Ground Parenting is a production of Muskoka Family Focus Parent Education Program. Stay tuned for our next episode, where we dive into the mindfulness practice of "RAIN"—and no, it's not about the weather!

Hey there, and welcome to Episode 30 of On the Ground Parenting! February's here, and hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly are diving into that "big day" we all know—Valentine's Day. It's the one that can make you either pumped or just plain cringe. Seriously, the marketing machine often pushes this whole "black hole" of over-the-top spending and totally fake expectations. But the team is chatting about how to actually use this time to genuinely connect and nourish your relationship's heart. We also share the Gottman Foundation's approach. We're hitting on the "traps" of all that commercialization and the pressure to shell out cash, contrasting it with what's really important: authentic connection and just being curious about your partner. They're sharing personal stories—like getting into that awesome "flow" while working on woodworking projects—and stressing that you absolutely have to communicate clearly, especially when the "day-to-day grind" starts turning life partners into plain old roommates. Whether you're on a tight budget or just need your partner to "sip their coffee and listen," this episode is all about the skills you need to keep your partnership vibrant and connected. Support On the Ground Parenting This podcast is produced by Muskoka Family Focus, a registered Canadian charity. We rely on your generosity to keep these conversations free for all families. Join our Patreon: Connect with our hosts at https://www.patreon.com/OnTheGroundParenting Make a Donation: Visit  https://www.canadahelps.org/en/charities/muskoka-family-focus-and-childrens-place/  to show your support. Connect with Us: Find all our resources and ways to ask questions at linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting. On the Ground Parenting is produced and published by Red Juice Studio.

Welcome to Episode 29 of On the Ground Parenting! As we move through the winter and launch into February, hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly are starting a new series titled: What is the Heart of Your Parenting Approach?. This first session dives into the essential qualities of friendship and how our own adult relationships serve as the primary model for our children. The team explores what makes a "heart friend"—someone who sees you at 100%, laughs with you, and holds you through the tough times. They discuss the intentional work required to maintain these bonds, whether it's through "sanity maintenance" groups, zoom dance parties, or simply sitting in comfortable silence together reading books. By reflecting on how we treat our own friends, we can better guide our children in navigating reciprocity, respect, and the diverse ways friendships manifest across different ages and neurotypes. Support On the Ground Parenting This podcast is produced by Muskoka Family Focus, a registered Canadian charity. We rely on your generosity to keep these conversations free for all families. Join our Patreon: Connect with our hosts at https://www.patreon.com/OnTheGroundParenting Make a Donation: Visit https://www.canadahelps.org/en/charities/muskoka-family-focus-and-childrens-place/  to show your support. Connect with Us: Find all our resources and ways to ask questions at linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting. On the Ground Parenting is produced and published by Red Juice Studio.

Welcome to Episode 28 of On the Ground Parenting! Hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly take a trip down memory lane to discuss the beautiful, exhausting, and often overwhelming reality of bringing a new baby home. Whether you are currently expecting, holding a newborn, or reflecting on your grown children, this episode dives into the "on the ground" truths of those early days. The team shares their personal war stories, from Kelly's experience with twins and pajama days, to Sam's complex journey of bringing a newborn into a home with a two-year-old and a four-year-old. They explore the weight of judgment that often follows new parents—whether it's about breastfeeding in public or the controversial topic of letting babies "cry it out". This episode is a warm embrace for new parents, offering the reminder that while the days are long, the years are short, and finding a supportive team is essential for navigating the curveballs of infancy! Support On the Ground Parenting This podcast is produced by Muskoka Family Focus, a registered Canadian charity. We rely on your generosity to keep these conversations free for all families. Join our Patreon: Connect with our hosts at https://www.patreon.com/cw/OnTheGroundParenting Make a Donation: Visit https://www.canadahelps.org/en/charities/muskoka-family-focus-and-childrens-place/  to show your support. Connect with Us: Find all our resources and ways to ask questions at linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting. On the Ground Parenting is produced and published by Red Juice Studio.

Welcome to Episode 27 of On the Ground Parenting! In honor of Family Literacy Day on January 27th, hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly are diving into this year's theme: Make Mealtime Family Learning Time. While we often think of literacy as just reading books, the team explores how the kitchen is actually a rich environment for measuring, following instructions, and expanding vocabulary. The hosts get honest about the "bedtime story fatigue" many parents feel and offer a brilliant alternative: reading at lunch. They also share creative ways to bring letters and words to the table, from playing with alphabet pretzels to the messy joy of writing names in spilled yogurt. Whether you are coordinating a multi-generational "baking day" or texting a collaborative grocery list, this episode highlights how simple daily routines can be transformed into meaningful learning moments. To support the show and keep our programming free for all families, visit us at patreon.com/onthegroundparenting On the Ground Parenting is a production of Muskoka Family Focus Parent Education Program.

In Episode 26, the Parent Ed team at Muskoka Family Focus discusses the reality of surviving the daily "dirt" of parenting, whether you are dealing with a screaming infant or a toddler exploring the knife drawer. The hosts emphasize that while the internet is full of information, finding reputable and ethical support is the key to moving from simply reacting to thoughtfully responding to your child. Strategies for Coping and Skill Building Parenting with the End in Mind: Consider what kind of 18-year-old you want to "graduate" from your home. This perspective helps guide daily choices and helps you avoid taking the "easy road" just to get everyone to bed. Preserving Dignity: Use a "litmus test" for your responses: if a partner treated you in a similar fashion, would you feel respected and your dignity remain intact? Identifying Core Values: Clarify your family values—such as a preference for thrifty, reused items or introverted activities—to help make clear choices about how to spend your time and energy. Building a Support Network: Align yourself with other parents and caregivers who have similar goals, which helps lighten the load and builds your personal resilience. Where to Find Support Reputable Organizations: Connect with EarlyON centers (in Ontario) or local family resource centers that provide evidence-based skill building and reputable information. Parent Education Programs: Participate in courses that teach long-term strategies, such as those offered by Muskoka Family Focus, to learn things you didn't even know you needed to know. Direct Inquiry: If you don't have the words yet to search for help, reach out directly to the team at [email protected] for keywords and resource recommendations. Community Connection: Join the On the Ground Parenting community on Patreon to engage with the hosts and other listeners. patreon.com/onthegroundparenting This episode also serves as a special platform for the Muskoka Family Focus Parent Ed team to request support, either with a direct donation through Canada Helps, or by signing up for our Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/OnTheGroundParenting.  Subscribe for a new podcast every Wednesday! Have a question, suggestion, or want to sponsor an episode of On The Ground Parenting? Send us a message: https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting

Welcome to Episode 25 of On the Ground Parenting and a very happy 2026! Hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly launch into the new year not with rigid resolutions, but with deep reflection and specific intentions. This episode provides a roadmap for listeners to navigate the fresh start of a new calendar year by examining what they carry with them and what they choose to leave behind. The team shares a series of prompts designed to spark personal growth and family connection. From the emotional work of fostering independence in young adults to the physical act of decluttering 15-year-old cloth diapers, the hosts get honest about their own journeys. They also dive into what brings them true joy—whether it is snowshoeing a backyard labyrinth, learning a new instrument for pure fun, or the simple "awe and wonder" of watching a garden grow. The conversation concludes with a focus on self-care and a lighthearted birthday shout-out to a fellow grandparent, Eugene Levy, inviting him to join the show and share his own "on the ground" grandparenting experiences. Connect with Us We would love to hear your New Year's intentions or your favorite "groaner" jokes! To support the show and keep our programming free for all families, visit us at patreon.com/onthegroundparenting On the Ground Parenting is a production of Muskoka Family Focus Parent Education Program. Happy New Year!

Welcome to Episode 24 of On the Ground Parenting! As we stand on the cusp of a brand new year, hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly gather to bid farewell to 2025 and look ahead to 2026. Instead of rigid resolutions that often lead to a sense of failure, the team explores the power of setting intentions and aspirations that allow for progress without the pressure of perfection. The episode is filled with laughter and practical ideas for low-key New Year's Eve fun: Mad Libs Demo: The team demonstrates how this simple word game can result in hilarious, distorted stories—perfect for a family gathering. The Year in Review: Kelly shares a family tradition of writing a story about the year's adventures with blanks for family members to fill in, while Sandy discusses her "sanity maintenance" group's annual "Who Said What?" quiz. Intentional Pauses: The hosts discuss using the quiet time before school starts to reflect on which family activities to keep and which to shift to help the household function better. The team also highlights Bounce Back and Thrive (BBT), a free 10-week evidence-based resiliency program they will be offering online in the new year to help parents build their own strength and support their children through life's meltdowns. Connect with Us We would love to hear your New Year's intentions or your favorite "groaner" jokes! To support the show and keep our programming free for all families, visit us at patreon.com/onthegroundparenting On the Ground Parenting is a production of Muskoka Family Focus Parent Education Program. Happy New Year!

Welcome to Episode 23 of On the Ground Parenting! Hosts Sandy, Sam, Kelly, and Justin (with a special guest appearance by our engineer, James) dive into the world of indoor and outdoor games. As families prepare for intense periods of togetherness over the holidays, the team explores how to use games to build connection rather than conflict. The conversation begins with a focus on cooperative board games. Justin explains that for younger children still developing emotional regulation, playing as a team toward a shared mission—like catching a "fox thief"—helps establish a healthy relationship with play before introducing the high stakes of winners and losers. Sandy shares how adding sound effects to classic games like Snakes and Ladders can help a child navigate the "downs" with excitement rather than disappointment. The hosts also share a list of family favorites ranging from high-energy activities like Happy Salmon to the adult-favored Pictionary (which at Sam's house involves easels and poster boards). Whether you are engaging in rubber ducky races in the driveway or a spontaneous Talent Show where every performance gets a standing ovation, this episode is packed with ideas to keep the holiday spirit light and connected. Subscribe for a new podcast every Wednesday! Have a question, suggestion, or want to tax-deductibly sponsor an episode of On The Ground Parenting? Send us a message: https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting A Call for Support: This episode also serves as a special platform for the Muskoka Family Focus Parent Ed team to request support, either with a direct donation through Canada Helps, or by signing up for our Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/OnTheGroundParenting. Donations over $20 are tax-deductible. We need your financial support to ensure we can continue offering  free educational programming and keep the podcast running.

Welcome to Episode 22 of On the Ground Parenting! Hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly are joined by special guest Russ Clayton, a recently retired elementary school teacher, children's musician, and community theater performer known during the holiday season as Santa Sings For You! Russ shares his unique journey from children's singer to kindergarten teacher, explaining how early musical performances shaped his career. The conversation highlights the profound impact simple songs and joyful experiences have on children's development and long-lasting memories. Russ opens up about the two women who most inspired his music: his kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Crawford, who melted away anxiety on the very first day , and his Aunt Beatrice, who took five or six "wacky cousins" to a cottage for six weeks every summer, knowing she was gifting them memories that would last a lifetime. The hosts discuss Russ's current role as Santa Sings For You complete with a six-month beard growth, and his work on TikTok, where he connects with thousands of followers, often hearing that he is "healing my childhood right now" for adults and teens. He emphasizes that the magic of Santa is making people feel seen, heard, and accepted. Subscribe for a new podcast every Wednesday! Have a question, suggestion, or want to tax-deductibly sponsor an episode of On The Ground Parenting? Send us a message: https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting A Call for Support: This episode also serves as a special platform for the Muskoka Family Focus Parent Ed team to request support, either with a one-time donation or by signing up for our Patreon,  https://patreon.com/OnTheGroundParenting. We need your financial support to ensure we can continue offering  free educational programming and keep the podcast running. Donations over $20 are tax-deductible.

Join hosts Sandy, Sam, Kelly, and Justin for Episode 21 of On the Ground Parenting as they tackle the holiday season's challenge: navigating gift-giving to minimize "toy clutter" and focus on intentional, meaningful exchanges. We share experiences with the chaos and joy that holiday gifts bring: The Struggle with Noise and Space: A common theme is the "havoc" created by well-meaning relatives who choose noisy, battery-operated, or oversized toys. The stories include Kelly's father-in-law's desire to buy a drum, Sam's experience with a hand-me-down, child-sized accordion, and the frequent disappointment of remote-control cars. Prioritizing Thoughtful Exchange: Justin highlights his family's unique strategy of "re-gifting" their own toys to cousins, transforming the clutter challenge into a playful competition to pass along the biggest item. He also notes how his children place higher value on their handmade creations—such as scribbled cards presented "like they are handing you a golden chalice"—than on store-bought items. Sam shares a perfect example of genuine thoughtfulness: her son John's plan to buy his younger, blanket-obsessed brother a larger, fuzzier blanket. A Call for Support: This episode also serves as a special platform for the Muskoka Family Focus Parent Ed team to request support, either with a one-time donation or by signing up for our Patreon,  https://patreon.com/OnTheGroundParenting. We need your financial support to ensure we can continue offering  free educational programming and keep the podcast running. Donations over $20 are tax-deductible. 

Welcome back to On the Ground Parenting for Episode 20! Cookie recipes from the show are here on Google Docs to share and make! Hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly continue their holiday discussion, focusing this week on the cherished traditions of holiday baking, cooking, and sharing recipes. They explore how these food-centric activities serve as a powerful way to build connection and meaning during the season. The conversation highlights the value of gifting through food—items enjoyed in the moment that won't clutter the house or end up in a landfill. The hosts share personal and often humorous stories about their favorite recipes and the memories they evoke: Parallel Play Baking: Sam shares her unique current family tradition. In their kitchen, everyone makes their own recipe simultaneously, working without interfering with one another. Her son, Ryan, has perfected his chocolate chip cookies but happily passes off the "boring part" (scooping and baking) to Sam. The Cinnamon Bun Rhythm: Kelly's tradition involves making time-intensive yeasted cinnamon buns on Christmas morning, a ritual that provides rhythm and grounding during the holiday rush. Renowned Cookies: Sandy fondly remembers two family classics: her grandmother's famous thin and crisp oatmeal cookies and her mother's delightful, melt-in-your-mouth whipped shortbread. The hosts also touch on the fun of cookie swaps and the shared experience of baking—celebrating successes and laughing over failures, such as runny cheesecakes and collapsing gingerbread houses. A Call for Support: This episode also serves as a special platform for the Muskoka Family Focus Parent Ed team to request support, either with a one-time donation or by signing up for our Patreon,  https://patreon.com/OnTheGroundParenting. We need your financial support to ensure we can continue offering  free educational programming and keep the podcast running. Donations over $20 are tax-deductible.

Welcome back to On the Ground Parenting for Episode 19! Hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly conclude their two-part discussion on navigating the stress, expense, and commercialism of the holiday season. The conversation shifts from what traditions to let go of, to what truly brings meaning and value to the family. We talk through the idea that the best gifts are not expensive, but those that make the recipient feel seen, heard, and valued. They share creative, budget-friendly ideas that prioritize connection and utility over cost: The Gift of Time: Kelly is planning a few evenings with her nieces and nephews to help them make gifts for their parents. Secondhand and Practical: Sam shares how her family makes it a game to find useful gifts that truly reflect the recipient's interests. She notes her son was thrilled with his new toothbrush. Experiences and Humor: Sandy recounts the funny family memory of her sisters hanging up leotards instead of stockings , while Kelly shares a story about gifting a humorous, DIY Mountain Equipment Co-op membership kit. Subscribe for a new podcast every Wednesday! Have a question, suggestion, or want to tax-deductibly sponsor an episode of On The Ground Parenting? Send us a message here 👇https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting A Call for Support: This show serves as a special platform for the Muskoka Family Focus Parent Ed team to request support, either with a one-time donation or by signing up for our Patreon at https://patreon.com/OnTheGroundParenting. We need your financial support to ensure we can continue offering free educational programming and keep this podcast running. Donations over $20 are tax-deductible.

Welcome to Episode 18 of On the Ground Parenting! Hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly kick off the holiday season discussion by tackling the mounting pressure and commercialism surrounding Christmas and other seasonal celebrations. The hosts explore where holiday pressure comes from: often self-imposed or rooted in a parent's own childhood experience. and offer strategies for letting go of traditions that don't serve the family. Sam shares the shift in her neurodivergent family to focusing on rest and giving practical gifts, like her son's thrilling new electric toothbrush and water flosser, which are now a running joke. Kelly introduces her family's tradition of celebrating the Winter Solstice with a simple meal and candlelight, a tradition her adult children prioritize over Christmas gifts. The conversation centers on reducing parental anxiety by establishing new, meaningful traditions and sharing the workload. The key is to be flexible and adaptable, asking: "Is it rest that we need right now?" and involving children (even teenagers) in deciding what elements of the holiday are important and who is responsible for which tasks.

Welcome to Episode 17 of On the Ground Parenting! This week, hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly dive into a topic many parents grapple with: profanity, or "four-letter words". The conversation explores the challenges of kids testing out "bad words", handling public outbursts, and the power of connection when navigating big emotions. The hosts share personal, often hilarious, stories: Sam discusses her older son's enjoyment of profanity and her younger son (turning 15) deciding he's now old enough to swear "at will". Kelly recounts her child's first use of a swear word to describe "sh***y gutters". Sandy recalls a memorable moment when her daughter excitedly pointed out "little bastards" (bass fish) on a dock. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding the underlying need behind a child's language or behavior. The hosts strongly advocate for "Connection Before Correction" , which means staying connected to hear the whole story before shutting down the expression of feelings. The hosts also discuss co-regulating, and Sam shares how she draws strength from trying to remain calm externally to help co-regulate her children. The episode concludes with reflections on co-regulation and the importance of using humor and calmness to build lifelong relationship skills that extend far beyond parenting. If you enjoyed this episode and want to sponsor or support the show, or even ask a question of our hosts, visit the Central Hub at [https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting]  On the Ground Parenting is a production of Muskoka Family Focus Parent Education Program. The podcast is produced, engineered, and published by Red Juice Studio. [https://redjuicestudio.com/]

Welcome to Episode 16, the powerful conclusion of our special series with the acclaimed Adlerian psychologist, Alyson Schafer! This week, hosts Sandy Inkster and Samantha Ennest-Wallis finalize their deep dive into Family Meetings and the principles of Firm and Friendly parenting. The discussion focuses on key strategies for managing a relationship with a busy, growing child or young adult. Alyson reinforces the need for confidence to ensure consistency, comparing a parent's approach to a mouse running a maze—if the rules keep changing, the child can't learn. The hosts explore the practical reality of parenting older kids, where a major step is "reorganizing the respect". This means granting wider boundaries and allowing older children the entire week to complete chores that aren't time-sensitive, such as dusting or mowing the lawn. Alyson shares the "Level Three" technique—a family agreement to call out disrespectful "parent speak" or nagging to maintain a culture of mutual respect. The episode finishes with the profound realization that "it is the long game". Parents must prioritize the relational part over the managerial part of parenting, trusting that their children will learn and that the ultimate "thank you" will be the quality of the lifelong relationship they build. To see Alyson's videos of her own family meetings—including all the grace and grit—check out this YouTube playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZco_5s7VkjR5q5KrHdyJSGQIxj_dD0sK If you enjoyed this episode and want to sponsor or support the show, or even ask a question of our hosts, visit the Central Hub at linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting. On the Ground Parenting is a production of Muskoka Family Focus Parent Education Program. The podcast is produced, engineered, and published by Red Juice Studio.

Welcome to Episode 15 of On the Ground Parenting, and the third part of our special series with international best-selling author and Adlerian psychologist, Alyson Schafer! This week, hosts Sandy and Sam dive deep into one of the core concepts of Adlerian parenting: the Family Meeting. Alyson stresses that the family meeting is a necessary platform for family democracy. It's a structured way to move away from a traditional hierarchy to a mutually respectful sharing of power. While she is a passionate advocate, Alyson is quick to point out that family meetings are hard and often involve "nasty, gnarly behavior". However, the long-term benefits—teaching kids skills like listening, problem-solving, and taking turns —are immeasurable. The discussion highlights the huge value of these transferable skills. Alyson and Sandy share personal stories of how family meeting skills translated directly into running board meetings, managing coworkers , and even resolving roommate conflicts in university. They emphasize that issues like chores and rules are best solved through a framework of "we need a better solution" rather than "what's my discipline tactic". The conversation also expands into a discussion of chores , cautioning that most family chores are janitorial and can make children feel like indentured servants. Alyson advocates for giving children "real jobs" that leverage their talents, such as planning a family holiday or organizing a closet.

Welcome to Episode 14 of On the Ground Parenting, the second part of our special series with international best-selling author and Adlerian psychologist, Alyson Schafer! The conversation picks up where it left off, reinforcing that our children offer us an opportunity for personal growth. Alyson continues to offer insight into the Adlerian framework, challenging the idea that more parenting information always makes things easier. Alyson introduces a vital Adlerian concept: goal-directed behaviour. She explains that a child's so-called misbehaviour is actually a "mistaken approach" —a creative, smart way for them to solve a problem and achieve a goal, like getting more attention or delaying bedtime. She stresses that children act this way at a pre-conscious level and are not being deliberately mischievous. The hosts conclude with the realization that we cannot keep everyone happy all the time. Alyson offers a comforting reminder that the "thank you" you're looking for from your kids won't come in the moment, but rather in the quality of the relationship you've built over the longer game. In This Episode [04:12] The hurdle of overwhelming information and the need for an organizing framework. [06:00] Using the Adlerian philosophy as a "periodic table" to discern information and avoid being overwhelmed. [07:08] The differentiator: understanding children's behaviour as goal-directed. [08:18] A child's "misbehaviour" is really a creative problem-solving effort to reach a goal. [10:31] Why punishment doesn't work: children act at a pre-conscious level and often don't know why they do what they do. [11:39] Well-behaved children tend to get ignored, and off-task behaviour gets engagement. [13:38] The subjectivity of the child: two siblings can have the exact same experience but interpret it completely differently. [16:36] The longer game: the thank you will come back in the quality of the relationship and their continued desire to spend time with you. Connect with Us Find Alyson's books, podcast, and free resources at alysonschafer.com. If you enjoyed this episode and want to sponsor or support the show, or even ask a question of our hosts, visit the Central Hub at linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting. On the Ground Parenting is a production of Muskoka Family Focus' Parent Education Program. The podcast is produced, engineered, and published by Red Juice Studio.

Welcome to Episode 13 of On the Ground Parenting and the first part of our multi-episode run with our special guest, Alyson Schafer! Alyson is a celebrated family counselor, international author, and expert in Adlerian psychology. The hosts, Sandy Inkster and Samantha Ennest-Wallis, explore the core of effective parenting, challenging the notion that there's "no manual for raising kids".     Alyson introduces Adlerian psychology as a "firm and friendly" parenting approach—a middle ground that respects both the child and the parent. She explains that this philosophy, pioneered by Alfred Adler, is evidence-based and counters the extremes of autocratic (firm without friendly) and permissive (friendly without firm) styles.       The hosts share highly personal moments, discussing the challenge of overcoming shame and embarrassment when a child's behavior isn't ideal. Alyson shares her experience having children with 36 late-slips her first year of school, but explains that this was part of a long-term plan to teach her kids punctuality and responsibility. The episode reinforces that parenting is an opportunity for personal growth, pushing every button a parent has and revealing where they are most vulnerable. The conversation concludes with the hope that, through intentional practice, respectful parenting will become easier and more natural with each passing generation. Connect with Us Find Alyson's books, podcast, and free resources at alysonschafer.com. If you enjoyed this episode and want to sponsor or support the show, or even ask a question of our hosts, visit the Central Hub at linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting. On the Ground Parenting is a production of Muskoka Family Focus's Parent Education Program. The podcast is produced, engineered, and published by Red Juice Studio.

Welcome to Episode 12 of On the Ground Parenting. This week, host Sandy, Sam and special guest Justin consider the phrase "There's no manual for raising kids". The conversation focuses on different parenting approaches and the essential human practice of making amends when things go wrong. The hosts explore various parenting styles—like authoritarian ("brick wall"), permissive ("jellyfish"), and authoritative ("backbone") —but ultimately agree that intentionality and mindfulness are most important. Justin shares a relatable story about losing his cool when rushed in the morning, detailing the deep hug he received from his six-year-old daughter after he took responsibility for his agitation. Samantha recounts a similar experience with her son, who calmly reminded her, "It takes as long as it takes, Mom". The episode reinforces that accepting accountability is vital to the parent-child relationship. The hosts share practical strategies for repair, including using open-ended questions like "How can I help you?" , focusing on self-care to be a "well" parent , and exercising restraint in difficult moments. Send us messages! https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting

Welcome to Episode 11 of On the Ground Parenting. This week, host Sandy Inkster and co-host Samantha Ennest-Wallis welcome their first-ever guest, Ken Cole, to discuss the parallels between the autumn season and the parenting journey. Ken, also known in the community as the "Leaf Man," connects the spectacular transitions of fall colors to the "huge" transitions parents face as their children grow. Ken shares his personal experience as a pioneering stay-at-home dad and the emotional challenges of his young son reaching out for his mother upon her return. The hosts reflect on the powerful metaphor of "sowing seeds," where the investment made in building a strong relationship with a child when they are young comes to "fruition" when they are adults. The episode delves into the bittersweet reality that "they will bloom and they will be gone," emphasizing that parenthood happens in the blink of an eye. The hosts share relatable stories about the last time they did something with a child, reinforcing the need to "look now" and cherish the current moment. The conversation concludes with the joy and inspiration that comes from seeing children (and grandchildren) become successful adults. https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting On the Ground Parenting is produced, engineered, and published by Red Juice Studio 

Sandy, Sam, and exciting guest host Justin explore the joys and challenges of seasonal family gatherings like Thanksgiving. The conversation opens with reflections on the September transition and the different ways each family approaches holiday gatherings, noting that the goal is always "togetherness". The discussion delves into the pressures that can arise during these events, from balancing multiple families to the historical complexities of the Thanksgiving holiday. The hosts emphasize the importance of flexibility and being able to respect a child's needs, especially when dealing with neurodivergence or anxiety. Sam shares a personal story about avoiding large gatherings and finding a way for her son to participate on his own terms. Justin discusses how holidays can be an "inflection point" for resolving difficult family dynamics, and a chance to offer children dignity and agency. The episode concludes with a heartwarming "love fest" as the hosts share their gratitude for each other and the opportunity to share their parenting journeys with the world.

Welcome to Episode 9 of On the Ground Parenting. This week, host Sandy Inkster is joined by fellow parenting educator Samantha Ennest-Wallis and special guest Justin, to tackle the ever-present challenge of household chores. The episode delves into the deeper meaning behind chores, emphasizing that they instill a sense of belonging and are part of a shared family goal. The hosts reflect on their own childhood experiences with chores and how that influenced their parenting styles. Justin shares a poignant reflection on how children spell love as "T-I-M-E", and that a parent's investment in their children is necessary before they can expect them to contribute. Practical advice is also offered, such as using a laminated, step-by-step instruction sheet for complex tasks like laundry.  Do you have a parenting question? We want to hear from you! Send us a message at https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting or an email at [email protected]

This week on On the Ground Parenting, hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly get into the emotional challenges that arise during new beginnings like the "September New Year." The conversation begins with a discussion on how children's behavior, like a "kick the cat mood," can signal an underlying emotional struggle. The hosts then share different ways to connect, including Sandy's bedtime chats and Kelly's use of a journal to communicate with her children. Sam also introduces the use of text messaging as a tool for "neurodiverse" families to express feelings without verbal confrontation. They share the value of tools like an emotions wheel to develop a richer vocabulary for feelings. They also reflect on the role of parent education, mentorship, and reading parenting books, highlighting programs like "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen". The hosts conclude with a reminder that parenting is an ever-evolving journey, and being "on the ground" means there will be days of slogging through the mud as well as gaining firm ground.They also reflect on the role of parent education, mentorship, and reading parenting books, highlighting programs like "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen".  linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting On the Ground Parenting is produced, engineered, and published by Red Juice Studio. 

This week on On the Ground Parenting, hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly  discuss the "September New Year" and the pressure and excitement that come with new beginnings. The hosts share personal experiences navigating transitions, from early school jitters and a new parent's anxiety over packing, to the monumental transition of a child going to university. Samantha notes the shift from being a parent driven by anxiety and external pressure to a more confident, at-ease advocate for her children. In This Episode [01:21] The "September New Year" and dealing with a new schedule. [02:42] Shifting from parental anxiety to at-ease advocacy. [04:19] The idea of being a "sturdy parent" and setting intentional boundaries. [06:01] Managing the guilt of external pressures, especially for parents of neurodivergent children. [07:46] Adjusting to new routines and the importance of parental self-care. [11:38] The relief of passing packing responsibilities to kids. [14:19] De-escalating tense moments by taking a pause. [16:42] The importance of a parent's words matching their body language. [21:56] Final takeaways on ownership, awareness, and staying grounded. Connect with Us If you enjoyed this episode and want to sponsor or support the show, or even ask a question of our hosts, visit the Central Hub at linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting On the Ground Parenting is produced, engineered, and published by Red Juice Studio. To learn more, visit redjuicestudio.com

The last week of our summer series! This time on On the Ground Parenting, hosts Sandy, Sam, and Kelly get into the art of preparing children for outdoor adventures, a crucial life skill. They discuss the concept of "division of responsibility" where parents empower kids to be more capable and self-sustaining by gradually transferring some of the planning and packing duties. The discussion also touches on the importance of parental preparedness, including the lesson of always remembering underwear for a post-beach outing. Sam reflects on her own journey, from being "shell-shocked" as a new parent to developing mental checklists and routines. The hosts agree that these planning skills are a form of leadership that kids can carry throughout their lives, citing an example of a high school student who used her outdoor skills to organize a school-wide picnic. The episode concludes with advice for parents on how to handle frustration and "muddy" moments. In This Episode [01:04] What is the "division of responsibility"?[01:56] Using lists and pictures to help kids pack. [02:47] Learning from the consequences of forgetting to pack. [04:28] Samantha's journey from "shell-shocked" parent to a master of mental lists. [07:33] Why packing and planning are valuable life and leadership skills. [11:05] Giving kids a sense of agency with lists and check-ins. [14:10] Strategies for parents to cope with frustration and "muddy" moments. [19:02] The balance of "roots and wings" in parenting.Connect with Us! If you enjoyed this episode and want to sponsor or support the show, or even ask a question of our hosts, visit the Central Hub at https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting On the Ground Parenting is produced, engineered, and published by Red Juice Studio   https://www.redjuicestudio.com/

Bear down...at the end of the driveway!? On the Ground Parenting this week goes Outdoors At Night! Sandy, Sam, and Kelly explore the unique experience of getting outdoors after dark. I read that bears are attracted to the smell of people who don't subscribe to our podcast...just saying. They dive into the anxiety associated with nighttime, from spooky sounds to a fear of bears. The hosts offer books like "Just a Walk" and "Wake Up Night" and practical advice to help both children - and parents! - get over their fears.  The episode provides actionable ideas for making night exploration fun and safe, from using flashlights and laying on a trampoline to stargaze to the appeal of food cooked over a fire. The hosts discuss the importance of involving children in the cooking process, building patience and providing opportunities for important safety conversations. They close with a reminder that these nighttime adventures create lasting memories and build a strong relationship with the outdoors. In This Episode [01:01] Books that help with worries about getting outdoors. [02:05] Overcoming fears of the dark for both kids and adults. [05:18] Humorous encounters with nighttime wildlife. [08:48] Helping children through their outdoor worries. [11:50] Fun activities for nighttime, like trampolining and hammocks. [13:43] The enticing nature of cooking food outdoors at night. [18:22] Using natural consequences to teach life lessons. [19:22] Why nighttime outdoor adventures create lasting memories. Connect with Us If you enjoyed this episode and want to sponsor or support the show, or even ask a question of our hosts, visit the Central Hub at https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting On the Ground Parenting is produced, engineered, and published by Red Juice Studio. To learn more, visit https://www.redjuicestudio.com/

Summer scaries - this week On The Ground. Sandy Inkster, Sam Ennest-Wallis, and Kelly Armstrong explore the emotional journey of giving children the freedom to explore and grow. We get into the critical difference between a genuine safety issue and a parent's own feeling of discomfort or anxiety. We also discuss how to help children overcome fears, like spiders.  In This Episode [03:10] The angst of letting kids have unsupervised adventures! [05:47] A safety issue or our own discomfort? [07:04] The importance of risky play and not projecting fears onto children [09:31] Helping children get through fears [11:47]  "I'm too itchy": the value of being prepared. [13:45] Learning resilience from a frightening experience on a canoe trip. [15:04] Takeaways: Validating feelings and doing our own emotional work. Subscribe for new episodes every Wednesday. Have a question, suggestion, or want to tax-deductibly sponsor an episode of On The Ground Parenting? Send us a message here 👇 https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting

Comments, questions, donations and epsiode ideas!  https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting Join the hosts of On the Ground Parenting, Sandy Inkster, Samantha Ennest-Wallis, and Kelly Armstrong, as they discuss the benefits of getting outside with your family. The hosts share research that suggests just two hours of outdoor time a week can reduce anxiety and lower blood pressure.   We talk practical strategies for getting outdoors, suggesting taking indoor activities like art outside. We share fun ideas, from watercolour painting and using natural materials for art projects to leaving "little mini kits" in a backpack for spontaneous activities. A key theme is the balance between encouraging kids to try new things and respecting their comfort level, using personal anecdotes about a ropes course and canoe dumping to illustrate this delicate dance. The episode concludes with a reminder to be open to trying things outdoors without judging the outcome and to be attentive to both your child's and your own emotional cues.       In This Episode:   [01:25] Benefits of Being Outdoors    [03:12] Research on Outdoor Time for Kids    [05:01] Taking Indoor Activities Outside    [09:40] Planning and Preparedness   [14:44] The Dance of Pushing & Backing Off    [17:51] Learning Limits: Ropes Courses & Canoes      [19:01] Final Takeaways: Noticing Cues    redjuicestudio.com

This episode dives deep into the meaning of "on-the-ground parenting," emphasizing the importance of being intentional in our interactions with children. Kelly shares insights on building relationships versus being "right". We move outdoors, offering practical tips for encouraging independence in children by involving them in planning and letting them experience natural consequences.   In This Episode: [01:30] The Evolution of On the Ground Parenting & Intentionality [02:45] Intentional Choices: Relationship vs. Being Right [03:38] Reflecting on How We Were Parented & Embracing New Skills [06:01] Grace for Ourselves & Parenting as Leadership [07:46] "Love is an Action Word," "Parenting is a Verb" [09:27] Outdoor Exploration & Teaching Life Skills [10:53] Natural Consequences & Learning from Experience [13:22] Humorous Outdoor Adventures  Have a question, suggestion, or want to tax-deductibly sponsor an episode of On The Ground Parenting? Send us a message here 👇 https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting

Hosts Sandy Inkster, Sam Ennest-Wallis, and Kelly Armstrong dive into summer parenting, discussing adventures and challenges. Kelly shares her family's tradition of "no devices" camping, but Sam offers insights on planning trips for neurodiverse children, emphasizing preparation and the role of devices for "reset" time.  Tune in for practical tips every Wednesday; it's delightful. In This Episode:   [01:42] Summer Activity Ideas & Planning [01:50] Kelly's "No Devices" Camping Tradition    [03:26] Neurodiversity & Trip Planning    [05:49] Following the Kids' Lead    [08:16] Preparing Kids for Adventures & Packing Tips    [09:47] Budget-Friendly Gear & Bags    [14:52] Day Trips & Finding Delightful Moments    Subscribe for a new 20-minute podcast every Wednesday! Have a question, suggestion, or want to tax-deductibly sponsor an episode of On The Ground Parenting? Send us a message here 👇 https://linktr.ee/onthegroundparenting Red Juice Studio: https://www.redjuicestudio.com/

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