Our House with The Smylies

Philip Renner is a missionary and worship leader who walks into the world's darkest festivals, including EDC in Las Vegas, to preach the gospel. In this conversation he tells Jason and Malia Smylie what he actually sees when he steps onto that ground, the night God told him one word that changed everything, and how he leads total strangers to Jesus in the last place anyone would expect.He also gets honest about the part of his life that does not make the highlight reel. What it costs to be gone, why he refuses to be an absentee father, and the simple thing he and his wife do with their kids every single night to keep their own home anchored while he carries this calling.Jason opens up about his own years in the rave scene and what he realized the last time he stood at EDC. It turned into one of the most unexpected conversations we have had in our home.Timestamp:00:00 – Introduction: Meeting Philip Renner01:30 – Philip's Backstory: Growing up as a Missionary in Russia09:37 – Shifting Seasons: Returning to America and Driving Uber in Tulsa19:51 – Confronting Spiritual Darkness at Music Festivals and EDC29:19 – Reaching Believers and Sharing the Simple Gospel with Love35:18 – How to Train and Prepare for Street Ministry44:33 – Discipleship and Staying Connected After the Encounter47:13 – Daily Family Rhythms: Communion, Blessings, and Being a Present ParentIf this episode moves you, the best next step is to find out where your own home actually stands. Take the free assessment: ourhouse.faith/assessmentConnect with Philip RennerWebsite: https://philiprenner.comInstagram: @philiprennerBook: A Fasted LifeOur House with The Smylies helps families build rhythms that invite God's peace into their home, so they can stop surviving and start thriving together.Follow Our HouseInstagram: @ourhouse.faithWeb: https://ourhouse.faithAs for our house, we will serve the Lord, and we pray you will too.

The government just released undisclosed UFO files. Pastors are being privately briefed about what's coming. And AI is quietly becoming the new false "Holy Spirit" for millions of people. In this episode, Malia interviews Jason, a former atheist who spent decades exploring Eastern religions, new-age spirituality, and transhumanism before finding Jesus, on how Christians can navigate UFOs, AI, and the spiritual realm with discernment instead of fear.                       This isn't a fear-based take. It's not a UFO-hype take either. It's a conversation about how we anchor ourselves (and our kids) in Christ when the world is getting louder, weirder, and harder to ignore.We talk about:                                                                         • What this week's UFO disclosure actually means for Christians• Why AI is becoming a counterfeit source of wisdom, and what to do about it • The "forking of humanity" and the red line Jason refuses to cross                                               • How to raise kids who can discern truth in an AI-shaped world                                                 • Why signs and wonders without Jesus always lead somewhere dark                                                • Where to find peace when the noise won't stop                                                                                  If you've ever felt embarrassed to ask whether UFOs are real, whether AI is dangerous, or how any of this fits into your faith, this one's for you.      CHAPTERS                                                                            00:00 – Introduction: The world is getting louder03:37 – Jason’s Journey: Seeking transcendence before Jesus06:23 – Why Christians should care about UFO disclosure11:25 – Explaining AI in layman’s terms: What is it really?16:45 – The "Forking of Humanity" and simulated realities19:50 – Technology vs. the hope of the Gospel21:13 – AI as a counterfeit source of wisdom and spiritual authority24:28 – Do extraterrestrials fit into the Christian worldview?29:20 – Spiritual warfare and the principalities of darkness37:10 – Parenting: How to protect and guide your children48:40 – Transhumanism: The promise of living forever vs. Eternal Life56:15 – Final thoughts: Staying grounded in Jesus                                                                                  🔔 Subscribe for more conversations on bringing God to the center of your home.                                          👍 If this resonated, like the video, it helps other Christians find us.                                             💬 Drop a comment: what's the hardest part of staying grounded in a noisy world?                                                                                                                          CONNECT WITH US                                                                          Instagram: @ourhouse.faith "As for our house, we will serve the Lord."    #OurHousePodcast #ChristianPodcast #UFOs #UAPDisclosure #AI #Christianity #Faith #Discernment #ChristianParenting #SpiritualWarfare #EndTimes #Jesus

Most Christians live with quiet anxiety about whether they're in God's will. In this episode of the Our House Podcast, Jason and Malia Smylie sit down with Daniel Knapp, a pastor's kid and Christian youth teacher, who shares the two simple questions that diagnose whether you're walking in the will of God right now.The conversation unpacks a key reframe: scripture talks about God's will as character transformation and sanctification, but most Christians are anxiously asking about jobs, relationships, and timing. Daniel's two questions bridge that gap and replace anxiety with peace.The two questions Daniel walks through:1.⁠ ⁠Am I genuinely pursuing Jesus?2.⁠ ⁠Am I actively walking in disobedience anywhere?If both answers are honest, you've found your answer about God's will for your life.In this episode Jason, Malia, and Daniel discuss:00:00 — Introduction: Meeting Daniel Knapp in the Dominican Republic01:27 — Career vs. Calling: Daniel’s transition from business to ministry04:40 — How to know if you are living in God’s will12:15 — The importance of surrendering your plans to the Lord26:08 — Understanding the two types of disobedience29:30 — How to discern the voice of God vs. your own desires41:10 — The impact of being raised in a ministry home (PK life)53:55 — Encouragement for parents dealing with a rebellious child56:20 — The power of prayer and faithful stewardship in the home1:00:41 — Closing thoughts and how to support the podcastThis conversation is for any Christian who has ever wondered if they are on the right path, any parent navigating faith with their kids, and any believer who wants a simpler, more biblical way to discern God's will without the anxiety.Daniel Knapp is a pastor's kid, Christian youth teacher at Cavalry Chapel in Las Vegas. He and his wife Zoe are expecting their first daughter, Eden.Scripture referenced in this episode:1 Thessalonians 4 and 5Romans 12:2Hebrews 12:1-2Philippians 4Matthew 25 (Parable of the Talents)Joshua 24:15Take the free 3-minute home assessment:ourhouse.faith/assessmentConnect with us:Website: ourhouse.faithInstagram: @ourhouse.faithSubscribe to the Our House Podcast for weekly conversations with Jason and Malia Smylie on faith, marriage, parenting, and building a home centered on Christ.As for Our House, we will serve the Lord, and we pray you will too. Joshua 24:15#GodsWill #ChristianPodcast #FaithAndFamily #ChristianMarriage #ChristianParenting #YouthMinistry #PastorsKid #ChristianLiving #BiblicalWisdom #OurHousePodcast #JasonAndMaliaSmylie #DanielKnapp #ChristianFamily #FaithCenteredHome #SpiritualGrowth

Why do you keep having the same fight in your marriage? It might be your attachment style. And it’s quietly running your home.In this episode of Our House with the Smylies, we sit down and talk through attachment theory, the four attachment styles, and how the way you were cared for as a kid is shaping the way you love your spouse and parent your kids today.We get personal about the wounds we both walked into our marriage carrying, why anxious and avoidant partners are magnetized to each other, and how that magnet can quietly turn into a trap. We also talk about a fight we had recently and what it taught us about how stress pulls us right back into our oldest patterns.If you’ve ever felt abandoned every time your husband shuts down, or suffocated every time your wife pushes for resolution, this one’s for you.We close with what actually heals it. Earned secure attachment, the truth God speaks over our identity, and how understanding our own attachment styles changed the way we’re parenting our boys.Timestamp:00:00 Introduction to Our House00:24 What is Attachment Theory?02:46 The History: Bowlby and the Strange Situation07:39 Secure Attachment: The Goal for Every Home10:30 Understanding Anxious Attachment14:32 Understanding Avoidant Attachment20:10 What is Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant) Attachment?26:22 Jason and Malia's Personal Stories36:53 Can Your Style Change? (Earned Security)41:52 How This Changes Your Parenting45:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement👉 Take the How Broken Is Your Home assessment: ourhouse.faith/assessment👉 Get the Faith-Filled Family Meeting Startup Guide: ourhouse.faithIf this episode hit you, send it to your spouse. Subscribe so you don’t miss what’s coming. And comment below: anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between?WORK WITH USDM us on Instagram @ourhouse.faith and tell us where your family is at. We'd love to hear from you.LISTEN ON THE GOApple Podcasts, Spotify, RedCircle. Search: Our House with The Smylies.Joshua 24:15. As for Our House, we will serve the Lord, and we pray you will too.

What if the 'wilderness' in your marriage isn't a sign of failure, but a sign of formation?In this episode, Alexis Smith (founder of Milk & Honey) our dear friend shares her journey from growing up in a secular household to discovering a bold, transformative faith. We dive deep into the 'wilderness' seasons of life. Navigating grief, divorce, and the pruning of old relationships, and how God uses those valleys to do a 'new thing.'If you are struggling with marriage exhaustion, seeking a Christian family rhythm, or wondering how to fix your marriage by leaning back in, this conversation offers grounded wisdom and hopeful realism for your journey.In this episode, we discuss:- Living Faith Boldly: How to naturally share your faith without it feeling like a performance.- The Power of Invitation: Why inviting someone to church is often the most effective form of evangelism.- Protecting Togetherness: The importance of being the friend who stands for marriage when things get hard.- The Wilderness Season: Trusting God’s promise from Isaiah 43 to 'make a way' in the middle of your mess.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction to guest Alexis Smith and Milk & Honey03:46 - From secular roots to Christmas Eve 2017: The start of faith05:54 - Walking through the valley: Navigating grief and divorce in 2019-202007:04 - Bold vs. Subtle: Finding your approach to sharing faith09:44 - The "Pruning" season: Letting go of old relationships for new growth14:17 - Why your "Ordinary" life is your most powerful invitation19:09 - Facing the unraveling: 16 months of marriage and the choice to endure26:36 - Standing for marriage: Why Alexis told her friend "Lean back in"34:51 - Rebuilding with intention: Meeting Matt and setting boundaries41:42 - New Beginnings: Jason officiating Alexis’s upcoming wedding50:43 - Isaiah 43: God making a way in the wildernessTAKE THE MARRIAGE TEMPERATURE CHECKA 4-minute home assessment to see where your marriage actually stands. http://www.ourhouse.faith/assessmentGET THE 3FM STARTUP GUIDEThe Faith-Filled Family Meeting is the rhythm we use to keep our marriage and family connected to God and each other. Download at http://www.ourhouse.faithWORK WITH USDM us on Instagram @ourhouse.faith and tell us where your family is at. We'd love to hear from you.LISTEN ON THE GOApple Podcasts, Spotify, RedCircle. Search: Our House with The Smylies.As for Our House, we will serve the Lord, and we pray you will too.#christianmarriage #christiancouples #christianfamily #marriageadvice #christianmarriagecoaching #biblicalmarriage #ourhousepodcast #christianpodcast #marriedcouples

If you and your spouse have read The 5 Love Languages and still feel empty, this episode is for you. And if you've never picked it up, this is the conversation that will make you wish you had years ago.We break down Dr. Gary Chapman's framework through 15 years of Christian marriage and show you why most couples are speaking the wrong dialect to each other, even when they're trying their hardest.If you're tired of unrelated fights, resentment, and that "I'm doing everything right but my spouse still feels unloved" feeling, the love tank concept will reframe everything.CHAPTERS00:00 Intro01:50 Why this book has been our marriage cliff notes for 15 years05:04 The love tank concept and why your spouse feels empty07:05 Words of affirmation: why how you say it matters and the double whammy of public criticism13:11 Quality time: moving past Netflix and chill to intentional connection18:45 Acts of service: taking the mental load off your spouse22:21 Receiving gifts: it's not materialism, it's being truly known29:18 Physical touch: separating biological needs from soul connection34:19 How to discover your primary love language plus the 6-Month Challenge for couples who aren't aligned yet47:16 Parenting with the love languages: the 5-Minute Front-End Rule and the No-Release HugTAKE THE MARRIAGE TEMPERATURE CHECKA 4-minute home assessment to see where your marriage actually stands. http://www.ourhouse.faith/assessmentGET THE 3FM STARTUP GUIDEThe Faith-Filled Family Meeting is the rhythm we use to keep our marriage and family connected to God and each other. Download at http://www.ourhouse.faithWORK WITH USDM us on Instagram @ourhouse.faith and tell us where your family is at. We'd love to hear from you.LISTEN ON THE GOApple Podcasts, Spotify, RedCircle. Search: Our House with The Smylies.RESOURCES MENTIONEDThe 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary ChapmanAs for Our House, we will serve the Lord, and we pray you will too.#5lovelanguages #lovelanguages #christianmarriage #garychapman #christiancouples #christianfamily #marriageadvice #christianmarriagecoaching #biblicalmarriage #wordsofaffirmation #qualitytime #physicaltouch #ourhousepodcast #christianpodcast #marriedcouples

For over a decade, Malia prayed for her atheist husband to come to Christ. This is the episode where Jason and Malia tell you what happened.This is the final episode in the Our House series on the Five Silent Killers of a Peaceful Home, and Jason and Malia saved the biggest one for last: spiritual misalignment. It’s the killer that almost ended their marriage before it started.Jason shares the secret he carried for years. To get permission to marry Malia, he promised her father that God would be at the center of their home. The problem? He was a militant atheist who didn’t believe God existed. For over a decade, Jason and Malia lived in what they now call “separate boats,” drifting in different spiritual directions while life kept hitting harder. Two battles with kidney cancer. A Crohn’s diagnosis. A pregnancy. And underneath all of it, a God-sized hole Jason couldn’t name and Malia couldn’t fix.In this episode, Jason and Malia walk through:- The Four Boats analogy and how to figure out which boat your marriage is actually in right now- The 90% rule and why a father coming to faith changes the spiritual trajectory of an entire family- The difference between faux peace and the peace that surpasses understandingWhy Malia never stopped praying, and what finally broke through for JasonIf you’re a believing spouse praying for someone who doesn’t believe yet, this episode is for you. If you’re the skeptic in the marriage, this one is for you too.Timestamp:00:00 – Intro01:44 – The Four Boats Analogy08:50 – Personal Testimonies10:05 – Malia’s Upbringing11:45 – Jason’s Journey to Atheism15:30 – The Secret Promise35:10 – The Turning Point41:50 – The 90% Rule46:25 – Finding Real Peace🏠 TAKE THE FAMILY HEALTH ASSESSMENTFind out which of the five silent killers are affecting your home and get your next step.http://ourhouse.faith/assessment📖 FREE FAITH FILLED FAMILY MEETING GUIDEhttp://ourhouse.faith/📱 DM US ON [email protected] this testimony meant something to you, the biggest thing you can do is share it with one person who needs hope today. That’s how this message travels.#ChristianMarriage #FaithJourney #Testimony #SpiritualAlignment #PrayingWife #OurHousePodcast #ChristianFamily #FaithOverFear

We lived with a "contingency plan" for 13 years, and it almost cost us our entire marriage.In this vulnerable episode, we are sharing, for the very first time, the story of our prenuptial agreement. We’re pulling back the curtain on how a legal document intended for "protection" became a silent killer in our home, creating a wedge of resentment and mistrust that nearly led to divorce.Whether you have a prenup or are simply struggling with the "separateness" of money and bank accounts, this conversation is for you. We discuss:The "What If" Mindset: Why entering a marriage with an exit strategy is a dangerous foundation.Contract vs. Covenant: Shifting from legal protection to biblical unity as "one flesh."The Breaking Point: The raw moment when we realized we had to dissolve our agreement to save our connection.Total Transparency: Why we believe joint accounts and shared goals are vital for spiritual breakthrough.📍 TIMESTAMPS00:00 – The hidden danger of financial "protection"01:23 – The 5 Silent Killers (SAFES)05:52 – Why we required a prenup for 13 years15:28 – The emotional cost and the breaking point27:54 – The act of faith: Dissolving the contract35:15 – Why we ditched separate bank accounts46:41 – Making big financial decisions with God51:36 – How tithing shifted our hearts from scarcity to abundanceWatch the full episode to hear the advice that changed everything for us.🔗 CONNECT WITH US📸 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/ourhouse.faith Follow us for daily encouragement and behind-the-scenes of our life with four boys!🎁 FREE RESOURCEThe Faith-Filled Family Meeting Guide: Is your home feeling more like a business than a sanctuary? Start your journey toward unity with our free weekly rhythm guide.👉 Download it here: http://ourhouse.faithIf this episode helped you, please LIKE, COMMENT, and SUBSCRIBE to join our community.#MarriageAdvice #ChristianMarriage #Prenup #FinancialUnity #OurHouseFaith #FaithFilledFamily

A lot of families go decades not talking about the things that matter most.Issues get put on the back burner, they fester, and deep-seated resentment begins to build. For a long time, we tried to solve our family issues like a business, treating our home like a franchise and each other like employees. It didn’t work. In fact, it almost cost us everything. In this episode, we dive deep into the "A" of our SAFES framework: Avoiding Issues. We get vulnerable about our own struggles with "correcting vs. connecting" and share how we transitioned from a cold, secular business model to what we now call the Faith-Filled Family Meeting. Whether you are dealing with surface-level chores or deep-seated disrespect and "meanness" between siblings, this episode provides a practical, 4-step blueprint to stop the drift and start building a home centered on God’s peace.TIMESTAMPS:• 00:00 - The danger of "festering" resentment• 00:58 - Welcome to Our House: Why we almost lost it all• 01:43 - Deep Dive: The "A" in SAFES (Avoiding Issues• 02:40 - Why running your home like a business fails• 05:58 - Correcting vs. Connecting: The missing piece• 08:42 - Handling sibling disrespect and "meanness"• 10:18 - The power of starting with prayer• 14:58 - Parent Humility: Asking your kids for forgiveness• 23:10 - Attachment Theory: Avoidant vs. Anxious styles• 26:44 - The 4 Ps of solving family issues• 30:34 - Why our 4-year-old was the "Peace Killer"• 41:35 - How we handle marriage conflict differently now• 45:34 - Why you must be careful who you share your issues with• 49:52 - A special gift for your familyOUR GIFT TO YOU:Download the Faith-Filled Family Meeting Startup Guide: https://ourhouse.faithCONNECT WITH US:Instagram: @ourhouse.faithWebsite: https://ourhouse.faithABOUT OUR HOUSE:We're Jason and Malia, married parents of four boys. We help families build the rhythms and rituals to bring God to the center of their home. Everything we share comes from our own living room, not a textbook. This podcast is for any family that's tired of surviving and ready to start thriving together.#avoidingissues #familymeeting #christianfamily #marriageadvice #parentingtips #faithfilledhome #intentionalparenting #attachmenttheory #familyrestoration #ourhousepodcast

Do you ever feel like your family is constantly running from one activity to the next and you can't remember the last time you all actually sat down together? Your schedule might be the thing silently destroying your family's connection.This episode unpacks how the overscheduled family trap steals your connection and what you can do this week to start getting it back. From rethinking club sports to protecting family dinner to turning your daily car ride into the most important 15 minutes of your day, this conversation will change how you look at your calendar.0:48 - Welcome to Our House1:37 - How the overscheduled trap starts7:48 - Why we chose one sport and one instrument10:30 - Protecting family dinner and the Happy Crappy ritual17:10 - No devices at the table and what to do instead18:18 - Adding faith to your family routines21:13 - Turning car rides into real connection23:41 - Daily prayer with your kids on the way to school30:07 - Why your marriage can't wait for the schedule to slow down31:31 - Date nights and the shared family calendar39:42 - The Faith-Filled Family Meeting framework46:02 - How to get started with the free guide50:45 - You don't have to change everything at onceFREE RESOURCE Download the Faith-Filled Family Meeting Startup Guide for free at ourhouse.faith. It walks you through a simple weekly meeting that keeps your family connected and your schedule in check.CONNECT WITH US Instagram: https://instagram.com/ourhouse.faithWebsite: https://ourhouse.faithABOUT OUR HOUSE We're Jason and Malia, married parents of four boys. We help families build the rhythms and rituals to bring God to the center of their home. Everything we share comes from our own living room, not a textbook. This podcast is for any family that's tired of surviving and ready to start thriving together.LISTEN TO THE FULL SERIES This is Episode 2 in our series on the 5 Silent Killers of a Peaceful Home, our original framework called SAFES: Spiritual Misalignment, Avoiding Issues, Financial Separation, Emotional Disconnection, and Scheduling Chaos.Episode 1: The 5 Silent Killers of a Peaceful Home (Be Emotionally Intimate with Your Spouse) Upcoming: Avoiding Issues, Financial Separation, and Spiritual Misalignment

We almost didn't make it.We were the couple that looked like we had it together. Church on Sunday. Kids in the right schools. Nice house. And behind closed doors, we were falling apart. We weren't connecting. We weren't talking. We were roommates running a household, not partners building a home.In this episode, we break down the 5 silent killers that keep homes stuck in survival mode: spiritual misalignment, financial separation, lack of emotional intimacy, scheduling chaos, and avoiding issues. We get honest about how every single one of these almost destroyed our marriage, including the Mexico City story we've never told publicly before.If your family loves each other but it still feels like you're just surviving, this episode is for you.OUR GIFT TO YOU:Download the Faith-Filled Family Meeting Startup Guide: https://ourhouse.faithCONNECT WITH US:Instagram: https://instagram.com/ourhouse.faithWebsite: https://ourhouse.faithABOUT OUR HOUSE:We're Jason and Malia, married parents of four boys. We help families build the rhythms and rituals to bring God to the center of their home. Everything we share comes from our own living room, not a textbook. This podcast is for any family that's tired of surviving and ready to start thriving together.

Four boys. Chaos. Almost broke us.This is Our House — a channel for families who are tired of surviving and ready to start thriving. We're Jason and Malia, and we're sharing the rhythms, tools, and faith-centered practices that brought peace back into our home.New videos regularly on faith, marriage, parenting, and building a Christ-centered home.👉 Follow us on Instagram: @ourhouse.faith