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Send us Fan MailThis month’s listener Q&A gives us three juicy areas to cover: struggling with frequent task switching, dealing with burnout and unachievable workloads (and the expectations associated with this), and how our practices integrate with personal reflections.Erin and Jessica respond to your questions with insight, experience and resources, to give you some great, actionable steps in your daily life.Episodes referenced in this episode:Everyday Practices for Organizational Resilience:https://oneop.org/learn/everyday-practices-for-organzational-resilience/Turning Conflict Into Collaboration:https://oneop.org/learn/turning-conflict-into-collaboration/Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailYou've walked into a meeting and felt it immediately - something's off. The energy is flat, or there's a tension nobody's naming. What do you do with that? In this practicast, we share a simple, repeatable practice for reading the emotional temperature of any room.Reading the Room is a short practice in social awareness — one of the core skills of emotional intelligence. In this practicast, we walk through three steps for tuning into the emotional temperature of a group before and during meetings: the early arrival observation, the 3-person scan, and the traffic light check. Perfect for service providers, coalition leaders, nonprofit staff, and anyone who facilitates groups.LinkedIn Practice:Pick one meeting per day to practice a deliberate 3-person scan. Afterward, jot down one thing you noticed that you might have otherwise missed. Over time, this kind of intentional observation becomes second nature.Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailWhat if the key to resilience is practicing together?This episode fom the Practicing Connection archives features a conversation about burnout and resilience with guests Dr. Charles (Chip) Benight and Nicole Weis from the Lyda Hill Institute for Human Resilience at the University of Colorado in Colorado Springs. Their research on human resilience paves the way for therapies that address the needs of trauma survivors, including service providers and others who may suffer secondary trauma. Links and resources from this episode:Greater Resilience Information Toolkit: https://grit.uccs.edu/ Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailWhat if the key to getting more done is doing less focusing? In this episode, Erin introduces the concept of unfocusing - not slacking off, but intentionally giving your brain a chance to rest and recharge. Drawing from Dr. Srini Pillay's book Tinker, Dabble, Doodle, Try, we explore why hyperfocusing leads to burnout, mental rigidity, and even impaired decision-making. Then Erin walks us through a simple, low-pressure practice to help you build a healthier cognitive rhythm — no major schedule overhaul required, just a 10-minute alarm.Links and resources from this episode:Tinker, Dabble, Doodle, Try by Dr Srini Pillay : https://drsrinipillay.com/resource/tinker-dabble-doodle-try/ Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailHave you ever asked, “So what do I do with this?” after listening to a Practicing Connection episode? Put the pieces together with us on our first Q&A episode! Join Erin and Jessica as we answer listener questions on how to start actually doing practices, including must-listen episodes and what practices you can combine.We share some of our favorite episodes and practices, along with suggestions for listeners to take the next steps in their own practicing journey.There's lots here, so bookmark this one, these episodes will keep you company for a while!Episodes referenced in this episode:Encouragement That Works: How to Give a Real Pep Talk https://oneop.org/learn/how-to-give-a-real-pep-talk/Beyond Sleep: Four Kinds of Rest We All Need https://oneop.org/learn/beyond-sleep-four-kinds-of-rest-we-all-need/More than a Meal: Building Community and Resilience with Chef Mary Long https://oneop.org/learn/more-than-a-meal-building-community-and-resilience-with-chef-mary-long/Collaboration in Action: Serving Military Families through Strengthening Communities https://oneop.org/learn/collaboration-in-action/Adventure-Ready: Strengthening Military Families Through Teen Camps https://oneop.org/learn/adventure-ready-strengthening-military-families-through-teen-camps/, https://fcs.mgcafe.uky.edu/MTACDo Less of What Drains You https://oneop.org/learn/do-less-of-what-drains-you/Using the Feeling Wheel to Know Your Emotions https://oneop.org/learn/using-the-feeling-wheel-to-know-your-emotions-s-4-ep-11/Listening for Strengths and Values https://oneop.org/learn/listening-for-strengths-and-values-s-5-ep-2/An Ecosystem of Military Family Support with Nicola Winkel https://oneop.org/learn/learning-from-each-other-s-5-ep-5/Notice Offers & See Them as Gifts, with Shannon Hughes https://oneop.org/learn/notice-offers-see-them-as-gifts-s-5-ep-13/Strengthening Military Community Connections with Amy Rodick https://oneop.org/learn/strengthening-military-community-connections/Habit Stacking https://oneop.org/learn/habit-stacking/Ending the Day Strong: A 5-minute Daily Reset https://oneop.org/learn/ending-the-day-strong-a-5-minute-daily-reset/Reconnecting with Wonder to Spark Creativity https://oneop.org/learn/reconnecting-with-wonder-to-sparl-creativity/Further links and resources for the podcast:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message:

Send us Fan MailYou're frustrated with someone you’re collaborating with, but you can't quite explain why. Chances are, the problem isn't their performance - it's the unspoken expectations neither of you knew the other had.Most of us walk into collaborative relationships with an unwritten rulebook, and then feel quietly frustrated when others don't follow it. The problem? We never handed them the book.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Jessica introduces the Expectation Audit, a simple but powerful practice rooted in organizational psychology. Drawing on research about unspoken workplace expectations, and what Brené Brown calls "stealth expectations," Jessica and Erin explore why crossed wires at work are rarely about performance or personality. More often, they're about invisible norms we've never made visible.You'll walk away with a practice you can use on your own or with your team to turn frustration into honest, productive conversation.Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailA good pep talk isn’t just about saying “you got this.” When done right, it can reignite purpose, build trust, and help others find strength when things get tough.Everyone needs encouragement - but great encouragement does more than make people feel good. It helps them believe in their ability to meet challenges, connect to purpose, and keep going when things get difficult.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Jessica and Erin dig into the science behind effective pep talks, inspired by research from Harvard Business Review and Motivating Language Theory. Erin walks listeners through how to write a meaningful pep talk using three key ingredients: direction, empathy, and purpose. You’ll also learn how to bring these ideas into everyday encouragement, whether you’re leading a team or supporting a friend through something hard.Listen in to learn how the right words - offered with care - can make all the difference.LinkedIn Practice:Think of someone who’s facing a big challenge right now - a colleague, a friend, or even yourself.What would you say to encourage them today?Do they need more direction, empathy, or meaning?Post your short pep talk or reflection in the comments, or join the discussion in our Practicing Connection LinkedIn Group. Let’s practice encouragement that truly inspires action.Links and resources from this episode:The Science of Pep Talks by Daniel McGinnSeason 7, Episode 11: Humble on Purpose: A Practice for Better Decisions Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailCollaboration takes more than skills and schedules—it takes the courage to step outside your comfort zone with other people.Bravery isn’t just about big, dramatic moments—it also shows up in everyday choices, like meeting someone new, stepping into an unfamiliar space, or staying curious when you feel uncomfortable. In this episode, Jessica and Erin explore how to build everyday courage for collaboration, using skills like curiosity, empathy, and intellectual humility.Drawing on the Greater Good Science Center’s Bridging Differences Playbooks, Erin shares a practice called “Expand Your Views & Circles” to help you gently stretch your comfort zone, meet new people, and grow your relational bravery over time. You’ll walk away with simple, practical steps you can take to be just a little braver in your community and your work.LinkedIn Practice:Practice Everyday BraveryThink about where you feel most “at home” in your community or workplace. This week, choose one small way to step just outside that comfort zone—attend a new event, introduce yourself to someone you don’t usually talk to, or join a group you’ve been curious about.After you try it, reflect: What felt uncomfortable? What surprised you? What did you learn about yourself or others?Links and resources from this episode:The Greater Good Science Center Building Briges PlaybooksVIA Character StrengthsSeason 7, Episode 8 - Turning Conflict Into CollaborationSeason 7, Episode 11 - Humble on Purpose: A Practice for Better Decisions Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailWhat if the strongest person in the room is the one willing to say, “I don’t know yet - what am I missing?” In this episode, we practice exactly that.In this week's episode, Erin and Jessica discuss intellectual humility - the willingness to recognize that what you think might be wrong, and to make real space for other people to be right. Together, they explore how this shows up in everyday collaboration, from project meetings to tough decisions, and why it matters so much for psychological safety and trust at work.LinkedIn Practice:The “I might be wrong” Week:For the next 7 days, pick one conversation—at work or in your community—where you intentionally practice intellectual humility:Notice what you’re assuming and how sure you really are.Name it out loud with a phrase like, “Here’s my take, and I might be wrong.”Invite another perspective by asking, “What am I missing?”Links and resources from this episode:Take the free VIA Character Strengths Survey: www.viacharacter.orgJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailResilience at work isn’t only about how much each of us can handle. It’s also about how our systems anticipate challenges, respond to them, and make space to recover and learn. What changes when we start asking, “How resilient is our organization?” instead of only, “How resilient am I?”Resilience is often framed as an individual trait, but it’s also a property of our organizations - how they anticipate disruption, respond to it, and support recovery. In this Practicing Connection practicast, Erin and Jessica unpack what organizational resilience is, where the idea comes from, and how it shows up in our everyday work lives. Drawing on Shanna B. Tiayon’s four-phase framework: anticipatory, preparatory, responsive, and recovery, they share a simple set of reflection questions you can use after a hectic week, a tricky meeting, or a small crisis. You don’t need a formal role or a big debrief to try it; just choose one phase, ask one question, and start noticing the change.Links and resources from this episode:Shanna B. Tiayon, PhD article: "What Does Organizational Resilience Look Like?"Handout: Four Phases of Organizational Resilience Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailHow does a small North Carolina city become a national example of collaboration between military and community? Mayor Will Lewis says it starts with relationships - and a willingness to show up for one another.In this episode, Jessica Beckendorf talks with Havelock, North Carolina Mayor Will Lewis about what it looks like when a city and an installation grow together. As president of Allies for Cherry Point Tomorrow, Mayor Lewis helps connect community, education, and military partners to strengthen opportunities for service members, veterans, and local families alike. Their conversation explores how collaboration, communication, and long‑term vision can build lasting readiness at every level.Links and resources from this episode:Visit the ACT website: https://alliesforcherrypoint.com/Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailIt’s easy to collaborate when everyone agrees. The real test of teamwork is what happens when we don’t.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Jessica and Erin explore how to stay grounded and connected when collaboration gets tough. Erin shares a reflective practice that helps you rethink how you see the person on the “other side” of disagreement, using social intelligence skills like awareness and generosity of perspective.Discover how to shift from trying to “win” a disagreement to understanding what motivates others—and why that shift can strengthen both relationships and results.LinkedIn Practice:Think about someone you often disagree with—at work, in your community, or even in your friend group.What’s one thing you respect about them, even if you don’t share their perspective?Can you imagine the most generous reason for why they might see things differently?Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailAre you really collaborating - or just coordinating? This episode offers a short reflection to help you notice where you are on the spectrum and make one small shift toward true collaboration.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Erin and Jessica use “blue box thinking” as a backdrop to explore the spectrum of ways we work together - competition, cooperation, coordination, and collaboration - and introduce a simple practice called “Shift the Box.” You’ll learn how to quickly name where you are on that spectrum in any situation, notice when you’re stuck in status and control, and choose one small action that moves you closer to genuine collaboration and shared power.LinkedIn Practice:This week, pick one real situation where you’re working with others—a meeting, project, or community effort.Name where you are on the spectrum: competition, cooperation, coordination, or collaboration.Notice any “blue box” thoughts (Who’s in charge? Should I be?).Choose one small action that could move the situation one step closer to collaboration—sharing information, inviting someone into planning, or asking, “What could we create together that none of us could create alone?”Share your reflection in the comments:Which “C” did you notice you were in?What small shift did you try, or do you plan to try?Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] See Dr. Robyn Keast talk about “Blue Box Thinking”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84YvXtc_VPg 

Send us Fan MailNegative feedback can feel like a punch in the gut - but what if you could shift your mindset to see it as useful data instead of personal failure?Most of us cringe when we hear “I have some feedback for you.” But learning to receive feedback well is one of the most powerful skills you can build for collaboration and growth.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Jessica and Erin talk about how to prepare your mindset, identify which feedback deserves your attention, and turn even tough conversations into moments of learning. Erin also shares a practical approach you can use the next time feedback catches you off guard - helping you respond with curiosity instead of defensiveness.Listen in to find new ways to make feedback feel less threatening, and more like an investment in your growth.We have a special handout that goes with this episode, to help you put these mindshifts and methods into practice. You can find it here:Reframing Feedback: Receiving Criticism Well handoutLinkedIn Practice:Think back to the last time you received negative feedback.What helped you respond productively—or what would you do differently next time?Can you reframe one piece of criticism you’ve received lately as useful “notes” instead of judgment?Share your reflection in the comments.Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailChange is part of every journey - even the ones we love most. In this episode, Jessica Beckendorf welcomes new co-host Erin Carlson Rivera, and shares parting reflections from longtime co-host Coral Owen. Together, they explore how slowing down, creating space, and staying curious can help us stay connected through seasons of change.Change is both inevitable and deeply human - and this special episode is all about how we navigate it together.Join us for an episode that honors the past, embraces the next chapter, and reminds us that connection is something we can keep practicing - no matter where we are in the journey.Community Challenge:This week, take a moment to name the space you’re in right now - not just what you’re doing, but what you’re experiencing. Maybe it’s a transition, a settling-in, or a building phase.Then ask yourself: What am I ready to release to make space for what’s next?Share one insight or small practice that’s helping you stay grounded in your work or community using #PracticingConnection. Let’s normalize the in-between - together.Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailAre you tired of leaving conferences or trainings feeling overloaded - like you missed what mattered most? This was one of our most popular episodes of 2025, and it's as relevant as ever as we dig into the new year, with more conferences and events on the horizon.Coral and Jessica reveal a simple, powerful practice that can turn every professional development opportunity into meaningful, actionable growth. Get ready to take charge of your learning with intention!Jessica shares a practical reflection exercise designed to help you filter the noise, focus on what matters to you, and connect your learning to your real-world goals. Whether you’re attending a conference, a webinar, or any PD event, discover how a two-minute pause can make your growth more personalized, empowering, and connected. Tune in for step-by-step guidance, insightful questions, and actionable strategies to transform the way you learn. Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailDo you ever struggle to stick to your goals? Discover the WOOP method, a powerful tool that uses obstacles as stepping stones to success.In this replay episode, one of our most popular from 2025, discover WOOP: a science-backed goal-setting practice that helps you overcome obstacles and achieve your goals. Learn how to apply this simple yet powerful tool to transform your habits and improve your well-being.Practical links from this episode:https://woopmylife.org/https://woopmylife.org/en/practice We’d love to hear what’s inspiring you! Share your thoughts using the “Send us a text message” feature or email us at [email protected].

Send us Fan MailBefore you set new goals for 2026, take a pause. This episode guides you through a gentle two‑part reset - honoring what you’re completing and choosing one honest intention for how you want to move through the year, without pressure or over‑planning.The new year often comes with pressure to have a clear plan, big goals, and a “new you.” In this episode of Practicing Connection, Jessica and Coral offer a different kind of reset: a simple, integrated practice in two parts - “Completion Creates Space” and “Intention Gives Direction.” You’ll be guided to notice how you’re arriving, name what you’re closing or completing, release expectations that no longer fit, and then choose a single word to orient how you want to be in this next season. This reflection is less about productivity and more about alignment, making room for what matters without rushing who you’re becoming.Further links and resources from this episode:Subscribe to our newsletter: https://oneop.aweb.page/practicing-connection-newsletterJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailIf you’re exhausted but time off hasn’t really helped, the problem might not be how much you rest, but what kind of rest you’re getting. This episode explores four different kinds of rest - physical, mental, emotional, and creative - and offers simple ways to notice what you actually need right now.“Get more rest” is common advice, but it can feel discouraging when sleep or a day off doesn’t make a dent in your exhaustion. In this episode of Practicing Connection, Coral and Jessica unpack four different kinds of rest: physical rest for your body, mental rest from constant thinking and decision‑making, emotional rest from hosting and holding others’ feelings, and creative rest that gives you space to play and explore without being productive. Through real‑life examples and practical ideas, they invite you to notice which type of rest you might be craving and experiment with small, accessible ways to restore yourself in this season.Further links and resources from this episode:Subscribe to our newsletter: https://oneop.aweb.page/practicing-connection-newsletterJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailBefore rushing into big resolutions, what if you paused to ask: "What needs to stop, what deserves to stay, and what small experiment could actually support the life and work I want?" In this reflections episode, Coral and Jessica get honest about boundaries, comparison, joy, and work rhythms - and invite you to do the same, in three simple prompts.In this special reflections episode, Coral and Jessica step away from resolutions and dig into something more honest: what they’re stopping, keeping, and starting in the new year. They talk about protecting a true no‑meetings day, letting go of comparison with past versions of themselves, and keeping small practices like tiny Post‑it to‑do lists, buffer time between meetings, and spontaneous phone calls that make work feel more human. You’ll also hear how “getting your pink back” through joy outside of work can change how you show up to your roles. The episode closes with a simple reflection you can do in just a few minutes: name one thing to stop, one to keep, and one to start this year.Further links and resources from this episode:Subscribe to our newsletter: https://oneop.aweb.page/practicing-connection-newsletterJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailLeading in uncertainty is not about having all the answers; it’s about how you show up when you don’t. In this episode, explore two simple practices that help you anchor in what matters and keep moving, even when the path ahead is anything but clear.Ambiguity is not just a strategy or org‑chart issue; it is a human constant in modern work. In this conversation, Jessica and Coral reframe uncertainty as an adaptive practice rather than a problem to “fix fast,” especially for leaders who feel pressure to hold it all together. You’ll learn two grounded tools: a Values‑Based Decision Filter to choose direction when information is incomplete, and The Next Small Step to move the work one inch forward without needing the full plan. Together, they offer “handrails, not heroics” for navigating uncertainty with steadiness, honesty, and care for yourself and your team.Further links and resources from this episode:Subscribe to our newsletter: https://oneop.aweb.page/practicing-connection-newsletterJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailFeeling between versions of yourself - no longer who you were, not yet who you’re becoming? In this episode, learn two simple practices to release what no longer fits and take aligned, micro‑actions that move you forward with clarity and steadiness. Professionals who navigate this “liminal” space well build resilience and better decisions during change.Identity shifts don’t happen on a calendar - they unfold in the in‑between, where the old no longer fits and the new isn’t solid yet. This conversation introduces two grounded practices: Subtract Before You Add (making space by letting go of one expectation, role, or internal rule) and The Values Check‑In (choosing one value for this season and taking a 2–5 minute micro‑action that lives it). These approaches reflect evidence‑aligned ideas that subtracting creates clarity and capacity, and that values‑based actions engage motivation and sustain change - especially during transitions at work and in life.Further links and resources from this episode:Subscribe to our newsletter: https://oneop.aweb.page/practicing-connection-newsletterJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Practicing Connection, Coral and Jessica explore empathetic listening: what it is, why it matters, and how a few simple shifts in how you listen can deepen your relationships and improve how you work with others.This practicast explores empathetic listening as a practical communication skill. We compare empathetic listening with familiar active listening techniques, share personal experiences of when basic reflection felt flat or even patronizing, and then walk through a concrete, seven-step process you can try in everyday conversations. Drawing on communication research and Jessica’s own practice, the episode highlights how noticing emotions, staying present, and checking your understanding can reduce misunderstandings and support stronger, more collaborative relationships at work and at home.Further links and resources from this episode:Subscribe to our newsletter: https://oneop.aweb.page/practicing-connection-newsletterJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailEver find yourself juggling tough projects or caring for others while your own energy dips?In this episode, discover three practical gratitude habits you can use to find steadiness and clarity - no matter what your day brings.This week on Practicing Connection, Jessica and Coral move past “feel-good” gratitude to share three real-world practices for professionals dealing with high stress, teamwork struggles, or just a long task list. Whether you lead teams, support families, or show up for your community, these simple daily habits help you spot what’s sustaining you, even when appreciation feels out of reach. With flexible options for busy days and tough moods, you’ll learn how these gentle gratitudes can boost resilience, spark hope, and steady you through the hardest times at work and beyond.Further links and resources from this episode:Practicing Connection episode: "Fuel your Day with Savoring: The 'Catching Joy' Practice"Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailIf you feel like your emotional 'gas tank' is running empty, this episode is for you. We're diving into savoring - an intentional, evidence-based skill for actively amplifying the joy and positive feelings that are already there. We'll share the Catching Joy practice, showing you how to capture that positive energy and use it for renewal.Is there a way to make positive moments count more? Yes! This episode focuses on savoring: the active, intentional effort to prolong and intensify positive feelings. We discuss the science showing how this simple skill directly counteracts compassion fatigue by building your emotional 'reservoir' for well-being. You'll learn:The difference between savoring, mindfulness, and gratitude.The step-by-step Catching Joy practice for maximizing present enjoyment.How to use reminiscing (savoring the past) as a powerful tool to draw strength and confidence.Learn how to actively amplify the positive connections and small victories that fuel your vital work in the Military Family Readiness System.Further links and resources from this episode:Yale’s Science of Well-Being Class on CourseraJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailWhen the complexity of your work leads to burnout and tunnel vision, where do you find the energy to create solutions? Today, we're exploring the science of awe - that powerful feeling we experience in the presence of something vast. We'll share simple, evidence-based practices for weaving micro-moments of wonder into your busiest days, helping you downshift your nervous system and instantly restore your perspective.In high-stress roles, we often get stuck in rumination and burnout. This episode explores the restorative power of awe, the feeling of wonder and humility in the presence of something vast (as defined by Dr. Dacher Keltner). We discuss the science showing how awe reduces cortisol and inflammation, while significantly boosting creativity and perspective. You'll learn the three-part practice:Micro Awe: The daily "Awe Walk" to reset your stress response.The Weekly Deep Dive: Spending extended time in nature to boost creativity by nearly 50%.Awe in Community: Using Dr. Keith Tidball's concept of urgent biophilia to foster shared purpose and resilience.Awe doesn't demand more of your time - it asks for your attention. Tune in to learn how to find those moments of wonder and bring new energy to your work supporting military families.Further links and resources from this episode:Finding Awe in the Ordinary | Greater Good MagazineJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailFeeling stretched thin? Try this simple 5-minute daily practice to get yourself untangled and take small steps to move out of overwhelm, help you notice what fuels you, and set you up for a calmer tomorrow. In this episode of the Practicing Connection podcast, Coral and Jessica discuss how to combat overwhelm through a quick, consistent reflection habit. Jessica introduces a five-minute daily practice built around three guiding questions: What was energy-generating today? What was energy draining? And what can I do differently tomorrow?This small act of awareness - done daily - can help you see patterns, make gentle adjustments, and bring focus to what matters most. Whether you’re juggling deadlines, family, or transitions, you’ll learn how everyday reflection can restore clarity and control.And check out this episode from our archives for more perspective on great tracking practices:"Energy and engagement tracking, Nov. 30, 2023"Further links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailWhat if three minutes a day could transform your relationships- and your whole sense of connection? Discover how tiny, intentional gestures can spark big ripples across your community.In this episode of the Practicing Connection podcast, Jessica and Coral spotlight the overlooked power of small, intentional outreach. Inspired by the “3-Minute Rule,” they explore how three minutes a day spent reaching out - with no agenda -can strengthen bonds, expand networks, and boost both appreciation and purpose. Listeners get actionable steps to make this practice stick, hear about the ripple effects of genuine connections, and find out how consistency in small gestures leads to a thriving community - both personally and professionally.Bonus: Try the “3 for 3” connection habit!For the next five days, spend three minutes each day reaching out to three people: send a quick thank you, a simple check-in, or let someone know you’re thinking of them (no agenda, no ask).Share your favorite message (anonymized if needed), or a reflection on how this small habit affected you, in our LinkedIn group.Let’s plant connection seeds together and inspire others to keep the ripple going!Further links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailHow do teams build real momentum and commitment together? Discover how small shifts - like rotating leadership and showing authentic presence - can spark engagement and creativity in group projects.In this episode of the Practicing Connection podcast, Coral and Jessica take a real-life approach to cultivating an engaged attitude - essential for building commitment and making group projects thrive. They explore the power of rotating ownership in meetings, why engagement ebbs and flows for everyone, and how showing up - whether as a leader or a supporter - fuels stronger teams. Jessica shares practical strategies to move beyond autopilot, including rotating facilitation, intentional participation, and appreciation. Together, they reveal how engagement is built day by day, with honest effort, small shifts, and shared leadership.Further links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailWhat powers you at work: pressure or purpose? This episode gives you one simple language hack to turn daily obligations into energizing opportunities.In this episode of the Practicing Connection podcast, Jessica and Coral explore the powerful impact of language on motivation and energy at work. Building on last episode's Motivation Mapping, they introduce the "Should-to-Get To" reframe - a simple, real-time habit that helps replace pressure and obligation with purpose and appreciation. Coral shares practical steps to notice “should” statements, reframe them, and align daily tasks with intrinsic motivators like growth and service. Listeners can expect:actionable advicethoughtful reflection questions, and real-world examples of how language shapes our experience and energizes our workday.Further links and resources from this episode:"Should To-Get To" Worksheet.pdfJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailIf you’ve ever wanted more ownership in your work or home life, this episode is for you. We’ll walk through a quick autonomy audit - a simple way to discover and grow your personal agency, starting today.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Coral and Jessica dive into what it means to be a “manager of one” - someone who brings autonomy and ownership to even the smallest daily choices. Through personal stories and research-backed insights, they break down the Autonomy Audit: a practical, step-by-step approach for identifying where you can claim just a bit more agency in work, home, and life. Listen in to learn why autonomy matters, how to spot opportunities for more control, and ways to experiment with self-management - plus, an easy challenge you can try this week.Further links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailWhen was the last time work truly energized you? Today, discover how to pinpoint what’s fueling you and learn practical ways to reconnect with your deepest motivators - so your work supports both your goals and your values.In this episode of the Practicing Connection podcast, Jessica and Coral reveal how you can use the Motivation Mapping tool to transform your work from simply meeting deadlines to leading with energized purpose. Through a reflective, step-by-step practice, you’ll learn how to distinguish between intrinsic and extrinsic motivators, notice your own balance, and make small shifts that lead to long-term fulfillment and renewed drive. Whether leading a team or taking on a new project, this process helps transform routine into meaning.Try Motivation Mapping for a current project:Grab the Motivation Mapping WorksheetIn one sentence, share an intrinsic motivator that makes the work meaningful to you right now.Then, post one small action you’ll take to better connect this project to your values this week.Share your insight with our LinkedIn group—let’s celebrate purposeful leadership and inspire each other with new ideas!Further links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailFeedback and mentorship aren’t just buzzwords - they’re the shortcuts to better skills, stronger confidence, and real momentum. Discover a simple, practical approach that makes getting feedback and finding a mentor less intimidating - and highly actionable!In this episode of the Practicing Connection podcast, Jessica and Coral dig into the roles of feedback and mentorship in professional growth. Coral shares a step-by-step method that makes seeking input approachable and turns it into real progress. Learn how to choose the right people to ask, reflect on what you hear, and take small, sustainable actions. Plus, find out how to invite mentorship into your journey - even if you don’t have a formal mentor. Perfect for anyone who wants to develop new skills, boost confidence, and foster authentic connections at work.Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailWhat if the fastest way to master any skill was to teach it to someone else? This episode reveals how sharing your learning not only helps others – it solidifies your own growth, strengthens your team, and can transform your workplace culture.Are you holding on to valuable insights, or passing them along? In this special round-up episode, Jessica and Coral explore why teaching others is the secret weapon for growth. Instead of just one practice, you’ll get a toolkit of real-world ways to share what you’re learning, from quick tips to full team huddles. Listen in to discover how knowledge sharing deepens your understanding, boosts your confidence, and creates a ripple effect far beyond your own desk. Whether you’re a seasoned leader or just starting out, you’ll walk away ready to build a culture of curiosity, generosity, and ongoing development.Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailAre you ready to move from  “learning” into doing ? Today we're sharing 5 strategies that can help you integrate new skills into your daily practice, to reduce that overwhelm and remember what you've learned.Co-hosts Jessica and Coral are here to show us how to keep that momentum going, so those skills don't just stay in a notebook, but actually begin to show up in your day to day.Coral has some practical, approachable steps that anyone can try, regardless of your role, your team structure or where you're based. The hope is that as you listen, you can take what speaks to you and adapt it to suit your own work and life.And don't feel compelled or overwhelmed that you have to try them all at once, or even all of them at all. You can just take what works for you, remix, adapt and pivot.Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailThis episode of Practicing Connection explores the incredible bridge-building work happening in Texas with guest Karrie Calloway - military liaison, educator, chef, and advocate - who doesn’t just connect resources, but transforms lives.Join host Jessica Beckendorf and guest co-host Rachel Brauner for a compelling conversation today with Karrie Calloway, Texas 4-H Military Liaison and a passionate advocate for military-connected families. Karrie shares her unique journey from farm-to-table learning and culinary arts to leading statewide initiatives that support youth, families, and thriving communities.In this episode, we discuss:The daily work of connecting Extension agents, volunteers, and installations to create meaningful support networks.Practical, high-impact ways anyone can do to include and empower military-connected families in their programs.The crucial role of volunteers in building bridges for military youth and families.Sustaining yourself in service-oriented work—and why ongoing connection matters.Whether you’re an Extension professional, service provider, volunteer, or simply interested in community-building, you’ll walk away inspired by fresh ideas and the power of purposeful connection.Links and resources from this episode:Military Culture: A Guide for Extension ProfessionalsJoin our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailProfessional development isn’t just about the content - it’s about the people.Whether it’s a quick follow-up question, a shared takeaway, or an invitation to debrief, connecting with others during a learning event can spark fresh ideas, deepen your understanding, and expand your network in a meaningful way.In this episode of the Practicing Connection podcast, Coral and Jessica explore how connecting with other attendees - or even speakers - can transform your professional development experience. Jessica shares a simple, low-pressure practice for starting conversations, learning collaboratively, and expanding your network in ways that feel authentic and focused on shared learning. Whether you’re attending in person or online, discover practical ideas for reaching out, sharing takeaways, and creating spaces for meaningful dialogue.Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailWhen a redistricting proposal put military children’s routines at risk, two communities came together, transforming crisis into collaboration. Discover how a proactive partnership made all the difference.Jessica Beckendorf welcomes Mark Paolicelli (former Deputy Base Commander for joint base Meyer-Henderson Hall) and Dulce Carrillo (Supervisor of Community Partnerships and Engagement at Arlington Public Schools) in this special episode, sharing their story of coming together to solve a collective challenge that affected each of their respective communities.When a redistricting proposal threatened to disrupt the school experience of military kids, little did anyone know it would spark a dialogue that led to meaningful, long-term partnerships. Hear firsthand how Mark and Dulce navigated misunderstandings, built bridges, and turned neighbors into allies - all in the name of supporting military-connected students. Their story offers timely lessons in resilience, communication, and the power of coming together for a common cause.Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailDo you ever sit through a workshop, scribble endless notes, and then never look at them again? Discover a notetaking method that helps you capture what matters - and actually use it. Get ready to spark ideas, shift your mindset, and share your growth with others!In this episode of the Practicing Connection podcast, Jessica and Coral introduce the Spark-Shift-Share notetaking strategy, a simple yet powerful approach for translating professional development into meaningful action. Instead of just recording information, learn how to capture what inspires you (“spark”), identify how it can change your practice (“shift”), and spread valuable insights through your network (“share”). If you want your learning to make a real impact, this episode is for you. Tune in for a practical walkthrough and ways to connect learning with action.Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailAre you tired of leaving conferences or trainings feeling overloaded - like you missed what mattered most? Today, we reveal a simple, powerful practice that can turn every professional development opportunity into meaningful, actionable growth. Get ready to take charge of your learning with intention!In this episode of the Practicing Connection podcast, Coral and Jessica dive deep into the art of setting learning intentions to get more from your professional development experiences. Jessica shares a practical reflection exercise designed to help you filter the noise, focus on what matters to you, and connect your learning to your real-world goals. Whether you’re attending a conference, a webinar, or any PD event, discover how a two-minute pause can make your growth more personalized, empowering, and connected. Tune in for step-by-step guidance, insightful questions, and actionable strategies to transform the way you learn. Links and resources from this episode:Join our LinkedIn group: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/12879756/ Send us a message: [email protected] 

Send us Fan MailAre you moving through the year on autopilot, or making the most of your intentions? Take a purposeful pause with us with this guided mid-year check-in designed to help you reflect on the year’s journey so far, realign your goals, and reset your intentions for a thriving second half of the year.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Jessica and Coral invite listeners to hit “pause” and for a thoughtful mid-year check-in. Coral shares a reflection practice inspired by an annual vision board process—perfect for anyone looking to move beyond task lists to a deeper sense of goal alignment and intention.Whether your year is flying by or has thrown a few curveballs, this episode offers space and prompts for you to take stock of what’s working, explore where you want to pivot, and set meaningful intentions for what’s ahead. Grab a notebook and give yourself the gift of reflection!

Send us Fan MailComing out of summer vacation? The Wheel of Life helps you find your focus and structure again, and sort through the to-do list!In this replay episode of Practicing Connection, originally published in January, 2025, hosts Coral Owen and Jessica Beckendorf introduce the Wheel of Life as a simple tool to help set priorities and find balance by identifying areas that need attention. Discover how this practice encourages intentionality, making it easier to focus on what matters most to you each month. Whether it's post-Christmas holidays, post-summer vacation, or any other moment of the year where things feel a little scattered and routines are broken, the Wheel of Life is there to put it all in perspective.Links and resources from this episode:The Wheel of Life handout (for easy printing)

Send us Fan MailThe collaboration you'll hear about in this episode not only filled a critical gap for military families, but also strengthened the bonds between the base and the local community. In this replay episode, originally published in July, 2024, co-hosts Bob Bertsch and Jessica Beckendorf talk with Lisa Sapp and James Yracheta about a collaboration between Malmstrom Air Force Base and the Great Falls (MT) School District, to provide military-connected kids access to the Transitional Kindergarten program. In addition to providing early childhood education, the program helped military families with their child care needs. Lisa Sapp is the school liaison and James Yracheta is the former Child and Youth Services Flight Chief at Malmstrom AFB. Lisa and James share insights into how the partnership with Great Falls Public Schools got started and the factors that have helped it thrive.Links and resources from this episode:Transitional Kindergarten pilot program takes off

Send us Fan MailFeedback, when it's done well, can energize, motivate and strengthen our relationships - whether at work, at home, or in our communities. But it's not always easy.In this replay episode from early 2024, hosts Bob Bertsch and Jessica Beckendorf explore the nuances of giving and receiving feedback, to make feedback less stressful and more meaningful.They emphasize its role in personal and professional growth, and Jessica shares a practical readiness checklist, offering valuable insights for enhancing feedback practices.Links and resources from this episode:Dare to Lead: The Engaged Feedback Checklist (Brené Brown)Listening for Strengths and Values (S.5, Ep.2)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the most powerful way to build trust was also the simplest: showing genuine care for others’ concerns and interests? This week, we’ll share two easy practices you can use right away to make care the foundation of every relationship.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Coral and Jessica explore the fourth distinction of trust - care - drawing on insights from Charles Feltman’s work and their own experiences. Jessica shares why care is her favorite trust distinction and explains how it’s the foundation that gives meaning to competence, reliability, and sincerity.You’ll learn two practical ways to put care into action:Ask, Listen, and Share, a simple cycle for surfacing and honoring each other’s concerns and hopes, andThe 10-Second Compassion Exercise, a quick, adaptable mindfulness practice you can use before, during, or after any interaction.Whether you want to strengthen your team, connect more deeply with colleagues, or simply create a more caring environment, these practices will help you build trust that truly lasts.Links and resources from this episode:The Thin Book of Trust (Third edition), by Charles Feltman

Send us Fan MailDid you know that trust isn’t just about what you can do, but also about how honest you are about your limits? This week, we’ll share a simple practice to help you build trust through clarity, confidence, and communication.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Jessica and Coral explore how competence, one of the four key distinctions of trust, lays the groundwork for strong, reliable relationships. Drawing from Charles Feltman’s The Thin Book of Trust, Coral introduces the “Clarify Your Current Capabilities” practice, a quick but powerful reflection to help you honestly assess your strengths and limits before taking on a new task or commitment.You’ll learn step-by-step how to name what you can do well, where you might need support, and how to communicate this with your team or supervisor. This practice not only helps you deliver on your promises, but also normalizes asking for help as a sign of competence - not weakness. Whether you’re leading a project, joining a new team, or just want to strengthen your reliability, this episode will help you build trust by showing up with clarity and confidence.Links and resources from this episode:The Thin Book of Trust (Third edition), by Charles Feltman

Send us Fan MailHave you ever felt let down by someone who didn’t follow through - or realized you misunderstood what was asked of you? This episode reveals why reliability starts with clear requests, and how a few mindful tweaks to your communication can build trust and prevent frustration.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Coral and Jessica explore the crucial link between trust and reliability, inspired by Charles Feltman’s The Thin Book of Trust. Jessica introduces the practice “Clear Requests are Kind Requests,” highlighting how our assumptions and unclear communication can undermine reliability - even with the best intentions.You’ll learn the difference between direct, indirect, and really indirect requests, and why being clear is an act of kindness for everyone involved. Jessica shares practical steps for both noticing and making clearer requests, including key questions to ask and simple phrases to use. Whether you’re a leader, a team member, or just tired of miscommunication, this episode will help you strengthen trust by making reliability a shared, achievable goal.Links and resources from this episode:The Thin Book of Trust (Third edition), by Charles Feltman

Send us Fan MailEver left a conversation wishing you’d said what you really meant? This week, we’ll show you a simple practice to help you notice - and close - the gap between your true thoughts and your spoken words, so you can build trust through greater sincerity.In this episode of Practicing Connection, Jessica and Coral dive into one of the four key distinctions of trust: sincerity. Inspired by their recent conversation with trust experts Charles Feltman and Ila Edgar, Coral introduces a reflective practice called “What I Thought vs. What I Said.” This simple, powerful exercise helps you become more aware of the differences between your internal experience and your external communication.You’ll learn step-by-step how to use this practice after any conversation to uncover where you might be holding back, why that happens, and how you can bring more of your authentic self to your next interaction. Whether you tend to avoid conflict, people-please, or just want to strengthen your relationships, this episode offers practical guidance for building trust - one sincere conversation at a time.Links and resources from this episode:The Thin Book of Trust (Third edition), by Charles Feltman

Send us Fan MailWhat if trust wasn’t just a feeling, but a set of skills you could build, repair, and strengthen - on purpose? In this special episode of Practicing Connection, hosts Jessica Beckendorf and Coral Owen sit down with Charles Feltman, author of The Thin Book of Trust, and Ila Edgar, founder of Big Change Inc. and co-hosts of the Trust on Purpose podcast. Together, they explore what it really means to build, maintain, and repair trust - at work, at home, and in our communities.Charles and Ila share the four domains of trust - Competence, Sincerity, Reliability, and Care - and explain how these domains transform trust from a fuzzy concept into something you can intentionally practice every day. Through real-world stories and practical advice, they reveal why trust is never binary, why conversations about trust matter, and how high-trust environments unlock resilience, collaboration, and innovation.Whether you’re a leader, a team member, or simply someone who wants stronger relationships, this episode will give you actionable tools and mindsets to help you become a masterful trust-builder. Plus, discover personal practices for resilience and connection, and learn how to start flexing your trust “muscle” today.Links and resources from this episode:Trust on Purpose podcastIla Edgar, Big Change Inc.Charles Feltman, Insight CoachingThe Thin Book of Trust (Third edition), by Charles Feltman

Send us Fan MailWhat if every meeting you planned had a clear purpose, a focused outcome, and left everyone energized instead of drained? Today, we’ll show you a simple framework to make every gathering count.Tired of meetings that go nowhere? In this episode of the Practicing Connection podcast, Coral and Jessica reveal how the POP (Purpose, Outcome, Process-plus People and Preparation) framework can transform your meetings from time-wasters into powerful, purposeful gatherings. Jessica walks you through each step of the POPPP approach, shares real-world examples, and explains why starting with purpose changes everything. Whether you’re planning a team meeting, a project kickoff, or just your next agenda item, this episode will help you design meetings that matter. Plus, get a downloadable resource to put the POPPP framework into action right away!Resources to help you have great meetings:Wharton Psychologist Adam Grant: Use the 4 Reasons Rule to Decide If a Meeting Is Worthwhile