Remember Who(se) You Are: Confront Fear, Walk Boldly in Purpose

Why remembering who God is and who we are before Him mattersHow anchors shape what holds us steady during life’s stormsScripture as an anchor that centers us in God’s presenceWorship as an anchor that realigns our hearts and focusPrayer as an intimate anchor that reminds us we are not aloneA gentle invitation to reflect on what is truly anchoring you right nowAnchors don’t stop the storms—but they keep us from drifting. Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

In this episode, we explore:Why reflection matters before goal-settingHow slowing down creates clarity and alignmentThe difference between pressure-driven change and intentional growthThe three anchors for a gentle reset:Pause — Reflect honestly on what the past year held, what worked, and what drained youPraise — Name and honor your wins, including growth that didn’t feel obvious at the timePrune — Release habits, patterns, and expectations that no longer serve where you’re headedKey reminders:Alignment is built one small choice at a timeWins don’t have to be loud to be meaningfulLetting go is often preparation, not lossIncluded in this episode:A spoken affirmation for the new yearA short closing prayerDownloadable one-page reflection and alignment assessment: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1K270M8i9z8-5-d5IR0v6qnpkEi25N0vc/view?usp=drive_linkJoin Peace Practice Circle https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/183660 Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

 Boundary Scripts for Every Situation - Get exact phrases for time boundaries, topic boundaries, criticism, emotional labor demands, and guilt trips. Practice them until they feel natural.Your 5-Step Peace Plan - Know your non-negotiables, prep your scripts, identify your exit strategy, build your support system, and plan your reset tools before every event.Exit Strategies That Work - Create soft exits, firm exits, and partner code words so you can leave when you need to without drama.Guilt is Normal - If you've been managing everyone's emotions for years, boundaries will feel selfish at first. That doesn't mean you're doing it wrong—it means you're doing something different.Anchored in God's Peace - Jesus offers peace that doesn't depend on circumstances. Before events, surrender outcomes to God. During events, breathe and pray "Jesus, Your peace." After events, release it and don't replay endlessly.Download the Personal Peace Plan template https://drive.google.com/file/d/19L7wue3YjH7HJbPOo02BlQXVYLbA32ck/view?usp=drivesdkFill it out before your next difficult eventPractice your boundary scripts out loudJoin Peace Practice Circle for ongoing support  Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

KEY TAKEAWAYSThe Perfect Storm - Three forces create holiday pressure: high expectations, old family patterns, and relationship pressure. When you see the storm, you can prepare for it.Know Your Triggers - Criticism, comparison, control, and emotional labor demands are the most common holiday triggers. Your body tells you before your brain catches up.The 3-Breath Reset - Between trigger and reaction, there's a space. Pause, breathe three times, and choose to respond instead of react.The One Shift - You are NOT responsible for managing everyone else's emotions. You're only responsible for your own peace.Peace That Transcends - Real peace doesn't depend on perfect circumstances or everyone behaving well. It's anchored in something deeper.WHAT'S NEXTPart 2 goes deeper with practical boundary scripts, your personal peace plan, and how to anchor yourself in God's peace when pressure hits. Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

What We Explore in This EpisodeWhy gratitude matters, especially in busy or emotionally full seasonsHow gratitude helps soften stress, lift the spirit, and shift perspectiveA simple, fun, reflective activity — “Three Little Blessings”How to find joy in the small things without forcing perfectionA gentle reminder of God’s presence and goodness in this seasonA practical gratitude challenge for the weekA short Thanksgiving prayer to close out the episode Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

We discuss:The hidden grief that can surface when God calls us into new levels of purposeThe tension in the becoming — navigating the space between who we were and who God is shaping us to beHow “measuring backward” from The Gap and the Gain can stabilize us when obedience feels heavyThe difference between grieving (internal pain) and mourning (spiritual release)Why moving from grief to mourning is essential for healing and surrenderPractical steps to invite God into the weight of obedience and experience His comfortThis episode will guide you through the emotional, spiritual, and identity-level layers of obedience — helping you hold your “yes” with honesty, courage, and faith. Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Introduction of 5 O's as obstacles to growth and purposeBiblical insights and inspirationExplanation of how obedience opens doors to miraclesReflection questions for heightened awareness Journal prompts for deeper insight and implementationImportance of accountability Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

How control impacts trusting GodHow intimacy with God builds trustCorrelation between dependence on God and destinyAwareness about what prolongs the waitConcept of developing daily habits of dependence on God for every needBiblical InspirationChoose 1 positive affirmation to say daily while in the wait: Affirmations in the Wait - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-iOnL20lFO_vvQUQgrndBT2hgOGbdTm9/view?usp=drive_linkLike, Comment, Follow, Share  Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Spiritual disciplines that aid in the waitBiblical InspirationExplanation of different types of bondageConnection between freedom and full deliveranceChallenge: Answer question - pray and journalChoose 1 positive affirmation to say daily while in the wait: Affirmations in the Wait - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-iOnL20lFO_vvQUQgrndBT2hgOGbdTm9/view?usp=drive_link  Like, Comment, Follow, Share Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Identification of common delayed dreamsExploration of patience in the waitConnection between delayed dreams and purposePractical steps to process the wait spiritually, mentally, and emotionally5 immediate and actionable steps to accompany faith in the waitBiblical inspirationJournal challenge - share responses Myths about fear and actionExploration of worldly vs Divine confidenceBiblical inspiration5 practical steps to motivate movement while scaredWeekly challenge - share responses: https://www.instagram.com/blunt_approach?igsh=MTBqdTcxa2tuc2FpOQ==****Additional Bonus - Affirmations in the Wait - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1-iOnL20lFO_vvQUQgrndBT2hgOGbdTm9/view?usp=drive_linkLike, Comment, Follow, Share Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Myths about fear and actionExploration of worldly vs Divine confidenceBiblical inspiration5 practical steps to motivate movement while scaredWeekly challenge - send responses to https://www.instagram.com/blunt_approach?igsh=MTBqdTcxa2tuc2FpOQ==Like, Comment, Follow, Share Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Explanation of a good idea vs God ideaWays to differentiate between good and God ideasFruit of good vs God ideaWays we miss identifying God ideasBiblical InspirationChallenge to personally dive deeperLike, Comment, Subscribe, Share Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Breakdown of common setbacksBiblical references to study out and gain inspirationPractical steps to handle setbacks - 4 PsSpiritual insights to help overcome life's challengesExercise for deeper introspectionLike, Comment, Subscribe, ShareLife Coaching - https://www.instagram.com/blunt_approach?igsh=MTBqdTcxa2tuc2FpOQ==  Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

The role of God's Word in renewing your mind and bringing peacePractical ways to rest in the Lord, even in the midst of chaos, confusion, or uncertaintyThe power of rejoicing and practicing gratitude to shift your perspectiveTools to reclaim your mind for the glory of GodLike, Comment, Subscribe, ShareLife Coaching - https://www.instagram.com/blunt_approach?igsh=MTBqdTcxa2tuc2FpOQ==  Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Address how different life challenges could affect our thinkingPractical ways to refrain from consuming, obsessive, or unhelpful thoughtsSpiritual practices to strengthen our mindsStrategy for transforming negative thoughts (3Cs)Importance of Relational Intelligence (RQ) in arming our mindsLike, Comment, Subscribe, ShareLife Coaching - https://www.instagram.com/blunt_approach?igsh=MTBqdTcxa2tuc2FpOQ== Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Releasing secrets, pain, triggers contributing to negative thoughts Significance of emotional safetyFoundational truth of God’s wordIdentifying God’s provisionsLike, Comment, Subscribe, ShareLife Coaching - https://www.instagram.com/blunt_approach?igsh=MTBqdTcxa2tuc2FpOQ== Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Recognize the importance of self-awareness regarding the connection between thoughts, feelings, and actions (cognitive triangle)Understand trauma and how our past affects the cognitive triangleExplanation of generational trauma and how this can contribute to generational strongholdsDifferentiation between weight and sin (Hebrews 12:1) NLTBreakdown of how counseling and coaching assists differently with the mental, emotional, and physical "weight" from traumaExplanation of distorted thought patterns and how to address (3 Cs)Ways to fortify your mind and make it a threat to the enemy and his tacticsLike, Comment, Subscribe, ShareLife Coaching - https://www.instagram.com/blunt_approach?igsh=ZHR5N2hkcGQxOGY0 Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Explanation of holistic care of oneself and why this matters to GodConnection between spiritual, intellectual, emotional, social, and physical aspects of being humanBreakdown of spiritual battle in our mindsAnalysis of our true spiritual adversary and his schemesWays we make war in mind easy for our enemyImportance of conditioning our minds in preparation for warReasons full armor is vitalLike, Comment, Subscribe, ShareLife Coaching - https://www.instagram.com/blunt_approach?igsh=MTBqdTcxa2tuc2FpOQ== Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Breakdown of "shenanigans" and how they impact career trajectoryStrategies for a successful professional road mapImpact mindset has on decision-making in the workplaceTools and resources to assist employees with shifting their mindsetBenefits of career coachingInsights on how to be authentic self personally and professionally w/o compromising valuesBiblical insights on how to disrupt patterns of unhelpful thoughts and behavior in the workplaceCorrelation between fear and shenanigans5 Cs to anchor yourself professionally Identify which shenanigan describes you best by participating in poll below***Like, Follow, Subscribe for more @blunt_approach***Coach Elizabeth (Liz): https://www.facebook.com/ElleCGist, https://www.instagram.com/iam.coachliz/, www.growleadersconsulting.com Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Key differences between a fixed and growth mindsetScripture references that challenge limiting beliefs (2 Corinthians 10:5; 2 Corinthians 5:17)The role fear plays in a fixed mindsetBenefits of clarity coachingWays to disrupt the pattern of negative thoughts; 3 C's (Catch, Challenge, Change)GPS analogy (Where are you? Where are you going? What roadblocks are ahead?)Benefits of a growth communityAsk God to reveal which area you need to grow and comment below or @blunt_approach***Like, Follow, Subscribe for more @blunt_approach***Coach Shalonda: shalondaallison@sallison21, Shalonda Black-Allison, Coach Shalonda Allison, guidinglighttc.org Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Purpose for continued focus on mindsetFruit of spirit of fear vs fruit produced from sound mind God providesNeurobiology of fearBiblical perspective on overcoming fearPractical steps to overcome Comment 1 fear to identify and confront this week Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Description and example of Cognitive BiasExplanation of ways Cognitive Bias impacts mindsetCorrelation between Cognitive Bias and Cognitive DistortionsStrategies to overcome cognitive bias Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Why mindset mattersBenefits of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Cognitive TriangleImpact of a negative mindsetGod’s blueprint for a renewed mindPractical strategies to achieve a renewed mindsetConnection between mindset and purpose******Like, Subscribe, and Share******Contact Blunt Approach for deeper, individual mindset coaching: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1 Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Detailed description of many common fears often addressed in clinical and coaching sessionsOver 85% of past clients have experienced some form of fearFear is often a trauma responseUnaddressed fear can affect relationship with God, self, and othersPeople dealing with unresolved fear sometimes have an imbalance with trust, intimacy, self-esteem, safety, and/or power and controlLack of healthy boundaries are common symptoms for individuals dealing with fearTake note of specific fearsListen to Episode 5 and develop a strategic plan to confront fearLike, Follow, Share Episode Click link below to take advantage of Blunt Approach Holiday Coaching Special, Must be purchased by 12/31/24; https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/108395 Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

How / Why spiritual enemy uses fear against usBreakdown of False Evidence Appearing RealCommon lies from the enemyPractical steps to combat liesSubscribe and follow - new episodes on Mondays***Blunt Approach Holiday Coaching Special; Over 60% off 1:1 Coaching Session; Must be purchased by 12/31/24                                              https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/108395 Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Purpose of counselingHow to identify licensed mental health professional in your stateCoaching vs. CounselingReasons to pursue coachingElements of a great coachJesus, the Master CoachContact @blunt_approach for more information on coaching                                                                                                Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Our values and priorities reflect who we areWe have a responsibility to align values with how we liveIdentify God’s truth about who you areIdentify and confront lies from the enemy Make decision to no longer entertain liesTake immediate action to start living a purposeful life Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Self -awareness is key to igniting your callingWe all have a blindside and need assistance seeing ourselves clearly Utilize personal and professional resources Identify root cause of patterns, instead of focusing solely on symptoms Purpose is tied to obedience  Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Hiding is part of human nature.Hiding is often a behavior triggered by fear, insecurity, guilt, or shame.God didn’t create us to hide.Our purpose is attached to coming out of hiding.God wants to heal our pain and redeem our past.Follow for more@blunt_approach Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected] 

Overview of what it means to connect with and walk in alignment with God’s purpose for your life.Identity in Christ is exploredHow identity impacts life and careerFactors that influence our faithInsights into the consequences of fearPractical tips to grow in faith, conviction, and confidence Benefits of being bold in relationships and careerGuidance on what bold faith looks like personally and professionally  Episode Credits:Produced and Edited by JaQuez MarshallArtwork Designed by COV BrandingConnect with Blunt Approach for Transformational Life Coaching, Speaking, or ConsultingWebsite: https://paperbell.me/felicity-blunt-1Instagram: @blunt_approachEmail: [email protected]