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Respect Me, Once The Dust Settles.
by ibeenhandsome
This isn’t small talk it’s real life, unfiltered.Self-doubt, love, confidence, creative pressure, and the lessons that hit once the noise fades. Life, faith, music, sports, the moments that shape us.Ladies, grab your wine. Fellas, pour your drink or light that cigar. Everyone, put everything down for a minutejust be here.Early episodes? Yeah, the audio’s rough. Thanks for riding with me while the show levels up.Connect with me: Instagram @ibeenhandsome | Twitter @dustsettlespod
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I didnt see it then.
Perspective is everything
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I’m a Hater.
We all be hatin’
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1999
For Ms Leslie Ashe . And my brother
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A Su Tiempo
pink drink, coconut milk, light ice, no strawberries, 3 pumps of vanilla
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Access Has A Price.
What does it cost you to allow someone in ?
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I Outgrew The Argument.
When is it ever worth the argument ?
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I Myself & Me .
We’re back in the swing of things.
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Taking The Stairs.
This episode I talk about strength that isn’t posted. Willpower that’s built in silence, and what it looks like to stop racing against a timeline. Discipline, faith and small wins that matter more than applause, and choosing clarity over shortcuts. If you’ve been feeling behind , unseen or unsure, I got you, this is for you.
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Season’s End, New Beginning.
I’ll be back next year During my downtime I’ll be going back through the episodes that have terrible audio quality and re recording , re mastering. Expect spontaneous notifications when those episodes are re recorded and uploaded Hit follow , comment , let’s start adding onto our community. Encourage others to join the “members” Community is key 🔑 Thank you
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GMO
This episode is about bullshit food, bullshit music, and noticing the drop-off in quality everywhere you look. Navigating a world where everything feels half-assed. I talk about the what ifs what if McDonald’s brought back Chicken Selects and got rid of those rubbery tenders? What if Domino’s went back to the old formula? Remembering a time when you didn’t have to question ingredients, read labels, or wonder what corners were cut.It’s about missing consistency, craving standards, and trying to make sense of why so much feels cheaper, lazier, and less real than it used to be.Shoutout Lay’s, McDonald’s, and Jersey Mike’s for holding it down (most days).
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God Is Good.
This episode is vulnerable as well. I talk about my prayers , my dreams , wrestling with guilt and realizing God understands. I open up about thinking that it was me that was going to die prior to my grandmothers passing , I speak on family , understanding and the prayers I carry for my parents.
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Love Everyone, Trust Nobody.
Calm, clear, and grounded but carrying the quiet storms I’ve wrestled with for years. I love with a full heart, yet trust almost no one. I unravel the cycle of expecting the worst, whispering hopes for the best, and bracing for every fallout before it even arrives.I speak on the guilt of watching people struggle, the weight of the savior complex, and the way I’ve chased burnout just to outrun the emotional toll. This is me at my most self-aware, standing at the edge of who I am before stepping back into the world in 2026.I explore loyalty how it saved me, how it scarred me, and how it turned into the sharpest double-edged sword I’ve ever carried.
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The Job Market is GARBAGE. Pt2
A continuation of the prior episode, further clarification of my perspective and a little hope.
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The job market is GARBAGE Pt.1
The job market is GARBAGE. America is not playing fair and I’m done pretending that it is. In this episode I talk about how it feels to give your all, outperform expectation, and still get disrespected. •Being promised raises that never come •Being told you’re “valuable” while being treated like you’re disposable •Getting hit with third party recruiters •Fake Job Listings•”RockStar” job postsIf you’ve felt played by the job market , by a recruiter , this one is for you Part 1 of 2
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I Messed Up , I was Wrong.
Publicly , I’d like to apologize to you. I’ve been through a lot, things we may never talk about, things we can discuss when the timing is right. Just know, i understand that I mishandled you but i was also living my truth. I needed peace and I got exactly what I asked for. This episode we discuss this, my goals shifting after a friend of mine challenged my thinking, family and where I am today. Completely unfiltered , share , follow, comment !
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Inspired & Warned: Diddy’s Reckoning Pt.2
Continuation of my thoughts from last episode , a further breakdown. Be sure to comment , follow , share.
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Inspired & Warned: Diddy’s Reckoning
After watching ‘The Diddy Reckoning,’ I found myself inspired by his ambition and hustle but I also saw the mistakes and flaws that made him human. In this episode, I reflect on identifying with the good within the monster, but dive even deeper into human error , faith and an ultimatum we all face.
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Ohana Means Family .
I talk about how I’m feeling post Spotify recognition. I sort through an epiphany I had in realtime as well and a conversation with my pops that triggered another epiphany. Enjoy
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I Played Myself ….. Finally Eating My Age.
If you’ve ever eaten something you KNEW you couldn’t handle, then sat there questioning your entire identity…. Welcome You’re in the right place.
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Perfect Timing
Today I dive into the backlash surrounding Shedeur Sanders after his first win as NFL rookie quarterback. His confidence is clearly a threat, but why ? In what world is knowing where you come from and believing in your preparation a threat ? I break down the double standard in media , the fear of a prepared black family, and why black excellence is constantly asked to shrink Itself. This episode analyzes how swagger becomes a threat when it’s attached to discipline , legacy and generational preparation.
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I said , ICDC , ICDC
2026 isn’t waiting , and neither am I. In this episode, I dive into the late night revelations, prayers, and frustration fueling my journey. From betrayal to heartbreak to relentless ambition. Inspired by Deion sanders Jr walking through the streets of Dallas , 3AM Screaming “WHY GOD” and DuB’s message of perseverance through depression, i reflect the sacrifices, the lonely nights , and the vision that keeps me moving forward. This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt undervalued . Overlooked , or stuck. It’s a call to start now, to keep going, and to chase the breakthrough you KNOW is coming. I share my promise to provide for my family , honor my roots, and manifest the life I’ve dreaming of since the Bronx. No waiting. No excuses. 2026 starts NOW
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New York …. I never wanted to leave.
This episode , I explain why I left New York. I break down the range of emotions , true friendship , high school and even friendship gone sour.
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Ain’t No Leftovers In My Fridge.
This Turkey Day was an interesting one for me. I had a bit of a reality check, I observed a lot , and I noticed a lot within myself as well. This is me turning spending the holiday alone into positive vibes. Ultimately someone out there has it worse , and there’s a lot to look forward to. I’m thankful for everything.
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Lock The Door Behind You.
Have you ever unlocked your door and got sidetracked ? I mean sidetracked with anything, a phone call, turning off the oven, running to the bathroom. Listen to me , safety isn’t guaranteed …. Lock your doors.
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Tamiesha Pt.2
The continuation of last episode.
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Tamiesha
Some people walk into your life quietly and still manage to change everything. Tamiesha was that chapter for me. The one that showed me what safety felt like, what maturity sounded like, what peace can be and how I healed wounds can still ruin a good thing. This is a dramatic and slightly fictional version of events that took place. Decipher what you will.
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Cold Wind Shouldn’t Burn Old Wounds
In this episode , I try my hardest to put language to the pain I never had space to speak. I talk about the kid who was born the black sheep, the kid who had to be perfect. The child who learned exhaustion before confidence. I talk about my green eyed guardian angel who taught me to stand in my truth, so much more. This is the root of all wounds, old expectations, and the cold wind that still finds. It’s a step toward healing.
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If You Used Me…. i let you.
Sometimes, the hardest trusts are the ones we tell ourselves. In this episode, i get raw about missing the old me, the version of myself that was lighter, freer, and how letting go, burning bridges responsibly, and holding yourself accountable can set you free. From friendships that ended silently, to the beautiful chaos of love, to the loneliness that growth brings, this episode is about honesty, boundaries, and rising stronger than ever. If you’ve ever felt drained by others or struggled to protect your energy, here you go twin. Honesty has NEVER betrayed me. People have.
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Nothing’s Ever Promised Tomorrow Today.
In this episode , we talk about what it feels like to lose love , heal from it and taking the steps to rebuild. This story isn’t about the last, it’s for anyone standing at the cross roads between letting go and leveling up. Last but not least , a goodbye.
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Bitterness, Money, and the Death of Connection
💔 Love in 2025 is complicated. Money, social media, bitterness, and survival have changed the game. We’re chasing attention, not connection. I go deep on what we’ve lost and why intimacy feels almost impossible. Listen. 🎙️
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Moon Walking Through The Shadows
Ever feel like you’re giving your all, but no one’s watching? In this episode, I get real about feeling unseen—whether it’s your art, your grind, or your podcast. Using Michael Jackson as the ultimate example of relentless work, we talk about the highs, the lows, and how to keep going when it feels like nobody notices
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Discipline Over Discouragement
This episode is about choosing discipline over discouragement, even when you’re tired, overwhelmed, or disconnected from yourself. We talk about the quiet power of self-control, the trap of comparison, and the realization that sometimes the most life-changing thing you can do is simply put the phone down and sit with your own thoughts.We break down how discouragement can make you selfish — how it turns your focus inward and away from your purpose — and how exhaustion will convince you to make the wrong decisions if you don’t pause and reset.This is your reminder to slow down, breathe, choose presence over pressure, and look in the mirror and start prophesying who you’re becoming.This one is for anybody who feels like they’re in the middle of their becoming.Not the beginning.Not the finish line.The middle.Respect Me When the Dust Settles. 🌹🎶📖
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Different Eras, Different Thrones… Chris Brown & Usher
Usher represents the polished soul of the 90s, while Chris Brown embodies the millennial evolution a hybrid artist who’s been running his own lane for nearly two decades. But when it comes to a true era-for-era matchup? The real showdown is Usher vs. Justin Timberlake.Brandon dives into the producers, the catalogs, and the impact: Jermaine Dupri and Usher, Timbaland and Justin, and how Chris Brown carved out his own legacy in rare air.This isn’t just a debate, it’s a cultural breakdown on eras, evolution, and what it really means to last in R&B.
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Twin , Where have you been ?
aaaaaaND , we are back , Season 2 Episode 1. A reset , an introduction , an update. We establish the mission, a special thank you to my family, what I’ve been up to.
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EP18: Tha Carter & Wale Deserve Their Flowers
In the episode , We return with a quick UpdateWe also take a moment to discuss Tha Carter 6 to a certain degree , and last we discuss WaleBoth Wayne and Wale deserve their Roses while they can smell them & most important ? They’ve given us too much for us to forget their greatness
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EP17: “Echoes Of Me” When The Past Comes Knocking
When the past shows up in dreams, memories, and old friends…. It’s not random…. It’s a reminder. In this episode , i reflect on unexpected signs from my past and what they might be trying to tell me about who I’m becoming and what to do next. Also a huge shout out to Forever on Netflix , that triggered the inspiration for this episode.
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EP16: Shedeur Deserved Better
When players with worse records and worse reputations still get picked, you have to ask…what’s really going on?Today, we break down the truth about Shedeur Sanders, compare his story to others like Johnny Manziel and Baker Mayfield, and explain why the ones they count out always hit hardest. Tune in
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EP15: Ambitionz Of Tha Marathon
My attempt at a heartfelt tribute to two men who changed the world with more than just music. Nipsey Hussle and Tupac Shakur. This conversation isn’t about hype or headlines. It’s about honoring them as men as brothers, leaders, and voices for the voicelessI reflect on their impact and the values they lived by: ownership, resilience, revolution, love for the community, and community today …. For better or worse The reality of it I also draw powerful connections between Victory Lap and some of Tupac’s most timeless songs, exploring how both artists gave us blueprints for survival, growth, and purpose. This is for those who still believe in legacy, This is for those running their own marathon. One step at a time 🏁Thank you Nip , Thank You Pac
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EP14: My Mic On ?
We’ve upgraded the audio quality! Big shoutout to “Butta” for putting me on to this new equipment. This episode features some podcast updates, a few scattered thoughts, and me getting back into rhythm while testing the new setup.Be sure to like, subscribe, and follow for more
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EP13: Somehow, I found beauty in lust
In this episode, I open up about my last relationship the moments that felt like love, the ones that were just lust, and the blurred lines in between. It wasn’t perfect. It shocked me. But somehow, through it all, I found something beautiful. I talk about what I lost, what I learned, and the kind of love I’m still holding space for. If you’ve ever mistaken chemistry for connection, or stayed hoping for something deeper… this one’s for you.
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EP12: Don’t Eat The Fruit (YET)
In this episode, I open up about the internal battle of spending money on myself not out of lack, but out of discipline. I reflect on a biblical principle: sometimes, life is more beautiful when the fruit isn’t eaten just yet. I take a moment to look back at my broke days after high school and how those moments shaped my mindset. Plus, a podcast update… and maybe, just maybe, a potential co-host? Stick around ‘til the end.
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EP:11 Fasting, Feeling & Fresh Starts
In Episode 11, I reflect on my recent fasting experience and how it reshaped my connection to prayer, presence, and purpose. I open up about how love can sometimes trigger avoidance, what that says about our self-worth, and the quiet strength in pivoting. I share heartfelt thoughts about my mother’s influence and close with a special birthday shout-out. A soulful mix of healing, honesty, and new beginnings
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EP10: September 13th 2009 , Cancel Culture was born
On September 13, 2009, Kanye West interrupting Taylor Swift at the MTV VMAs wasn’t just a viral momentit was the spark that ignited cancel culture as we know it. But this episode isn’t just about Kanye. It’s about the bitter audience, the spectators who inject their opinions into the lives of celebrities and influencers while watching from the sidelines.Why are people so quick to hate? Why do we celebrate public takedowns while ignoring the damage they cause? This is a call to do better to reject the culture of broken relationships, broken homes, and unnecessary division. It’s time to step back, reflect, and ask ourselvesAre we fueling negativity, or are we choosing growth? Let’s talk about it.
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EP9: Life, Love & Lessons: Seeing It All Clearly
In this episode, I’m breaking down how I’ve been seeing life lately friendships, love, and the importance of self-appreciation. Sometimes, we get so caught up in chasing what’s next that we forget to appreciate what’s already here. I’m speaking on it all, with Kendrick Lamar’s Feel (produced by Sounwave) setting the tone in the background. Follow , comment , share
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EP8: “Watching The Throne” : The Ye’ & Jay-Z Saga
Jay-Z and Kanye WestTWO legends who built hip-hop’s most iconic partnership, only to fall out in dramatic fashion. From The Blueprint to Watch the Throne, from brotherhood to beef, this episode breaks down their history, the moments that tore them apart, and why a reunion might still be possible. Kanye’s delivery is always reckless, but is his long-term vision usually right? And could Watch the Throne 2 really happen? Tap in as we unpack the highs, the lows, and the legacy of Hov & Ye.
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EP7: “For Tha Onez Who Gave Us Life: A Tribute to Motherz”
Mothers shape us before we even understand who we are. Their love teaches, their sacrifices build, and their presence lingers in every part of us. whether we realize it or not. In this episode, we explore the deep, unshakable bond between mothers and their children.From the quiet strength of a mother raising her son to the complex, ever-evolving relationship between a mother and daughter, we dive into the love, lessons, and lasting impact of the women who gave us life. We’ll also pay tribute to Voletta Wallace, the mother of The Notorious B.I.G., and offer a personal thank-you to the woman who shaped me.Because if we are anything in this world, it’s because of them.
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EP6:” The Art of Letting Go: War, Love, & the Edge of Privilege”
Holding on can feel like strength, but sometimes, real power lies in knowing when to let go. In this episode, we explore the moments when walking away isn’t weakness…. it’s survival. From battles that no longer serve us to love that turns into war, and the fine line between privilege and entitlement, we break down the quiet courage of release. Because what we refuse to let go of can end up breaking us. Tune in
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EP5: “Canadian Bacon Fried Hard” (Drake & Kendrick Lamar) … my perspective
The debate never ends Drake vs. Kendrick. Who really holds the crown? In this episode, I break down the comparisons, what Drake does right, and where he’s been slipping. We’re talking legacy, influence, and why certain moves might be hurting his long game. And of course, I gotta address the clownery Adin Ross, DJ Akademiks (AK), I see you. Plus, a special thank you to Vince Staples for always keeping it real and OVO 40 for shaping a sound that changed the game
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EP4: “Love & Boundaries”
Inspired by Love & Basketball, this episode breaks down the game of love, the art of setting boundaries, and knowing when to go all in or walk away. From full-court presses to blocking shots, I’m talking about relationships, self-worth, and why protecting your peace is just as important as scoring in love. Oh, and I’ve got an idea for Love & Basketball 2 Hollywood ????? let’s talk? Thank you all…
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EP3: “Therapy is Lit, but the Bible is Better”
Therapy is powerful. The Bible is timeless. In this episode, I get personal about my own journey navigating healing, battling mental health struggles, and realizing that while therapy helps, scripture hits deeper.We’ll talk about the role of therapy, where faith steps in, and why true healing comes from both. I’ll also highlight resources like Battle Mental Health for the Carolinas, Better Mental Health, and other platforms that provide real support.Healing takes work. Let’s talk about it.
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
This isn’t small talk it’s real life, unfiltered.Self-doubt, love, confidence, creative pressure, and the lessons that hit once the noise fades. Life, faith, music, sports, the moments that shape us.Ladies, grab your wine. Fellas, pour your drink or light that cigar. Everyone, put everything down for a minutejust be here.Early episodes? Yeah, the audio’s rough. Thanks for riding with me while the show levels up.Connect with me: Instagram @ibeenhandsome | Twitter @dustsettlespod
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