So What's Even Happening?

Balancing ambition and love isn’t easy—and sometimes we’re the ones making it harder. In this episode, we explore modern dating standards, especially for driven, entrepreneurial women. Are we being too picky, or are we just unwilling to settle? We unpack financial expectations, lifestyle compatibility, emotional availability, and what it really means to date while building a legacy. Get ready to laugh, reflect, and maybe question your own dating checklist.Key Discussion Points:The impact of ambition on romantic relationshipsDating standards vs. unrealistic expectationsGender gaps in financial prioritiesHow to date without dimming your lightTakeaways:Wanting more isn’t a red flag.Your standards aren’t too high—they’re just finally aligned.Compatibility isn’t just about romance—it’s about unified vision.Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappeningFollow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Social media can be both a powerful tool and a source of burnout. In this episode, we get honest about our complicated relationship with content creation, visibility, and the pressure to perform. Are we posting for impact or for approval? We talk about mindful digital presence, managing visibility without losing yourself, and how to reclaim your time and energy while still showing up online.Key Discussion Points:The hidden costs of always being “on”Burnout from constant content creationWhen visibility starts to feel performativeSetting healthy social media boundariesRedefining success onlineTakeaways:Being visible shouldn’t come at the cost of your peace.Not every moment needs to be content.Social media breaks are productive.You can build a brand without broadcasting your entire life.Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappeningFollow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

What could change if you gave something your full focus for 90 days? In this episode, we explore the idea of going all in on a goal—whether it’s personal, creative, or business-related. We dive into the psychology of habit formation, the power of momentum, and what it takes to actually commit. We also challenge each other with wild 90-day scenarios (hello, no online shopping!), and talk through what makes a challenge truly worth it.Key Discussion Points:The science behind forming new habitsWhat it means to really commit to somethingThe pros and cons of short-term sprintsHow 90 days can build confidence and clarityPicking a goal that aligns with your life seasonTakeaways:Commitment creates momentum—clarity often follows action.You don’t need to change everything; you just need to change one thing consistently.Focus for 90 days can shift your identity, not just your habits.Discipline can be empowering when it’s in service of something you care about.Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappeningFollow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Pivoting doesn’t mean starting over—it means stepping into alignment. In this episode, we talk about how to evolve without abandoning the core of who you are. From career changes to creative redirections, we break down how to embrace transformation, manage identity shifts, and find confidence in the unknown. Plus, we highlight iconic pivot queens like Rihanna and Issa Rae, and debate who did it best. Let’s normalize changing your mind, your path, and your plan.Key Discussion Points:Why pivoting isn’t failure—it’s evolutionHow to navigate identity shifts and uncertaintyPersonal stories of reinventionLessons from successful pivotsTakeaways:Reinvention is often where your real power begins.You’re allowed to outgrow your old dream.The pivot isn’t a detour—it’s part of the journey.Change invites clarity, even if it starts with confusion.Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappeningFollow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Only 9% of people feel they’re using their time efficiently—and we’ve got questions. Are we actually too busy, or are we overcomplicating everything? In this episode, we explore how to simplify our workflows, daily routines, and expectations. From ditching perfectionism to leveraging systems that work for you, we’re unpacking how to stop doing the most and start doing what matters. Tune in for practical swaps that free up your mental real estate and help you work smarter, not harder. (And if you’re watching on video, things get a little blurry for Cortney between 5:45-10:20, but not to worry, she comes back into focus)Key Discussion Points:The sneaky ways we overcomplicate simple tasksTime-saving hacks for personal and professional lifeWhere perfectionism shows up and how to release itReframing productivity to align with your energy, not the grindTakeaways:Sometimes the most efficient solution is the simplest one.Perfectionism is a thief of time—done is often better than perfect.Work smarter by automating, delegating, or letting it go.Don’t be afraid to challenge your own systems. What worked last year might not work now.Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappeningFollow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

33% of adults report feeling lonely most or all of the time. So why does it still feel so hard to talk about friendship in an honest way? In this episode, we sit down to unpack the relationships that often go unchecked—our friendships. From the people who light us up to the ones who subtly drain us, we’re doing a full-blown Friendship Audit.We ask the real questions: Are your friends truly pouring into you, or are you stuck in a cycle of obligation and one-sided connections? We explore the power of reciprocity, what genuine support actually looks like, and how to make peace with evolving dynamics. Whether you're navigating longtime friendships that feel... off, or you're craving deeper connections, this episode is your permission slip to reflect, reevaluate, and realign.PLUS, we play a spicy round of “Friendship Red or Green Flag?”—a game that’ll have you rethinking some of your own group chats.Key Discussion Points:- What makes a friendship truly reciprocal vs. one-sided- Red flags we often ignore because of history, guilt, or routine- The role of boundaries, communication, and personal growth in adult friendships- What it means to “audit” your inner circle with compassion, not judgment- Our personal experiences navigating shifting friendships in adulthood- Why maintaining surface-level friendships can still leave you feeling lonely- Recognizing green flags and celebrating healthy, supportive friendshipsTakeaways:- A real friendship should feel mutual—not like a job interview you didn’t sign up for.- It's okay (and healthy!) to reassess who has access to your energy.- Boundaries aren’t punishments—they’re invitations for clarity and care.- Growth means some friendships will shift, and that doesn’t have to mean failure.- Look for the green flags: people who root for you, show up consistently, and hold space without competition.- Auditing your friendships also means auditing yourself—Are you pouring into others? Are you showing up with the same love, presence, and reciprocity you desire? Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappeningFollow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Society tells us that quitting is for the weak—but what if it’s actually the boldest, smartest move you can make? In this episode, we challenge the stigma around quitting and explore how knowing when to walk away can lead to greater success, happiness, and personal growth. Whether it’s a dead-end job, a one-sided relationship, or a passion project that no longer sparks joy, we break down the signs that it’s time to move on. Through candid conversations and personal stories, we unpack the emotional weight of quitting, how to make peace with letting go, and why walking away from something that no longer serves you might just be the most powerful decision of your life. Plus, we play a thought-provoking game of “Quit or Commit?” where we put ourselves to the test with real-life dilemmas—would you stay or walk away?Key Discussion Points:- Why quitting isn’t failure—it’s strategy.- The difference between persistence and knowing when to cut your losses.- How to identify when a situation is holding you back rather than helping you grow.- Personal stories of quitting (jobs, relationships, habits) and how they led to better opportunities.- The emotional side of quitting—how to navigate guilt, fear, and societal judgment.Takeaways:- Quitting doesn’t mean giving up; it means making space for better things.- Trust your gut—if something consistently drains you, it might be time to walk away.- Not all commitments are meant to last forever, and that’s okay.Tune in for a refreshing take on why sometimes, the smartest move is knowing when to say goodbye.Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappeningFollow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Everyone is talking about living the soft life—but are we really prioritizing rest, or just avoiding discomfort? In this episode, we break down the difference between intentional rest and avoidance disguised as self-care.We dig into the real reasons behind burnout, why many of us feel guilty about resting, and how to unlearn the hustle mentality without falling into the trap of avoidance. Plus, we play a fun game of Soft or Lazy? to explore where we personally draw the line between self-care and just not wanting to do hard things.If you’ve ever felt like taking a break makes you lazy or struggled with balancing productivity and well-being, this episode is for you.Key Discussion Points:What the soft life actually means vs. how it’s portrayed online.A fun game of Soft or Lazy? where we read different scenarios, and the other decides if it’s self-care or just avoidance.The psychology of avoidance and how to tell if you’re actually resting or just procrastinating.What true self-care looks like—beyond bubble baths and spa days.Balancing productivity and softness: Can we actually have both?Takeaways:Rest is not just about stopping work—it’s about replenishing your energy intentionally.Avoidance often looks like self-care but leaves you feeling more stressed in the long run.Finding a balance means setting boundaries, understanding your energy cycles, and redefining success.Living the soft life doesn’t mean avoiding responsibility—it’s about designing a life that prioritizes well-being.Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappeningFollow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

In the 'delulu' era, how much of success relies on our beliefs, and how much depends on taking intentional action?In this episode, we unpack the meaning of delusion, the art of manifestation, and explore the essential balance between dreaming big and grounding ourselves in reality. We explore the power of belief, goal-setting, and strategic moves so you can learn how to apply those strategies to your own life.Key Discussion Points:Our real thoughts on delusion and if it’s a good thing.The psychology behind goal-setting and belief systems.Effective strategies for transforming dreams into actionable plans.When it’s beneficial to 'dream big' versus knowing when to take a more pragmatic approach.Tips to help you track your progress and stay accountable.Takeaways:The importance of combining vision with action.How to create an environment that fosters success—both mentally and practically.Tips for setting and adjusting goals to ensure you stay on track throughout the year.🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

The day we filmed our very first podcast episode also happened to be the same day Donald Trump was re-elected as President. Talk about a rollercoaster of emotions.In this episode, we reflect on what it felt like to wake up that morning, knowing the weight of the day ahead. We made a conscious choice to tread lightly, protect our peace, and prioritize our emotions before letting the media flood our minds. It wasn’t about avoidance—it was about giving ourselves the space to feel our feelings before the heaviness of the world took over.We talk about how we managed to stay present, get through the day, and complete what we set out to do—filming our very first podcast. Because no matter what’s happening in the world, we still deserve to create, to feel, and to move forward.Let us know: How do you take care of your emotions on heavy news days?🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

"Should" is a sneaky little word that can drain your joy and creativity. We dive into why “should” is so triggering (especially for introverts and creatives), how it shows up in sneaky ways, and how to let it go in favor of inspiration and curiosity. If you’re tired of feeling pressured by expectations—yours or others’—this is the episode for you.Join us in creating a world of curiosity, not obligation:🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Are you addicted to the hustle? We’ve been there. This episode is all about the art (and challenge) of resting. Learn how we had to remind each other (and ourselves) to slow down, why rest is essential for long-term success, and how embracing recovery can actually boost your productivity and creativity.Get more real talk about rest and resilience:🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Self-care is more than bubble baths (though we love those too). From small, simple acts of kindness toward ourselves to giving ourselves permission to rest, we share our favorite ways to refuel and recharge. Tune in for fresh ideas on how to pour into yourself, even when life gets busy.Find balance, joy, and self-care inspiration:🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Who says fun is only for the weekends? We talk about finding joy in unexpected places—like email inboxes and workout routines—and share how bringing playfulness into your daily life can boost your creativity and energy. Plus, we dive into the role of other creative outlets that bring more fun into our lives.Subscribe for more tips on creativity, fun, and balance:🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Motivation comes in waves, and burnout can hit hard. So how do you keep the spark alive when you’re feeling drained? We explore cycles of inspiration, share personal stories of losing and regaining creativity, and discuss strategies to fill your cup so you can keep pursuing your goals. If you’ve ever struggled with boredom or burnout, this one’s for you!Get more inspiration and follow our journey:🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Anxiety is part of life, but staying in motion can help you push through. In this episode, we open up about the first moments we felt real anxiety and how it’s impacted us as creative entrepreneurs. We break down practical strategies for managing anxiety by taking action, setting small achievable goals, and staying in momentum when fear tries to hold you back.🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

Hosted by Accountability Partners Cortney and Xiomara, So What’s Even Happening? (SWEH) is a fresh, honest, and hilariously relatable podcast about the ups, downs, and WTF moments of pursuing big dreams, navigating creative careers, and figuring out life one step at a time.Join us as we dive into candid conversations about creative burnout, self-doubt, productivity myths, and the magic of finding your flow – all while keeping each other (and you!) accountable. Expect laughs, lessons, and plenty of 'I’ve been there' moments.Whether you're a multi-hyphenate artist, a side-hustler, or just someone who loves a good chat about personal growth with a twist of sarcasm, this is the space where you’ll feel seen, inspired, and maybe even motivated to tackle that one thing you’ve been putting off.New episodes every Monday! Subscribe now for honest insights, funny banter, and your weekly dose of accountability.Available on all major streaming platforms and YouTube.So let’s figure out what’s even happening... together.🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

A year in review of having an accountability partner.The highs, the lows, and how staying consistent has transformed our creative businesses. We share how to structure weekly meetings and the power of asking, "How can I support you?"🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111

In our first episode, we share the origin story of our accountability partnership—how we met, bonded over personal development (thanks, Mel Robbins), and committed to making 2024 our best year yet. Discover how weekly meetings keep us motivated and on track as creative entrepreneurs.🎧 Listen and subscribe on:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-whats-even-happening/id1789610782Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MhlMV1WmuUrM8SP8Nzty6YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SoWhatsEvenHappening📱 Follow us for more laughs, insights, and accountability tips:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sowhatsevenhappeningTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sowhatsevenhappening111