the after: grief and life after loss in your 20s/30s

Even after our person leaves this physical world, the "getting to know you" phase isn't necessarily over. We often find ourselves meeting new versions or uncovering hidden sides of them. It might happen through a dusty box of photos, a story from an old friend, or simply by reaching the same life stage they once navigated.In this conversation, Vera and Chia delve into the unfolding understanding of our loved ones, and explore the realization that their lives were always fuller and bigger than the version we had of them.While these discoveries can feel bittersweet, we invite you to join us in bringing a sense of curiosity to our grief. Because even though they are gone, our relationship with them continues to grow.Listen in :)#wetheafterpeople#lifeafterloss #continuedunderstandingig: theafter_podemail: [email protected]

Taking a moment to acknowledge all those quiet, yet significant, things we lost when our person passed isn’t about wallowing. It’s about understanding what we are ACTUALLY experiencing. When we name those losses, we may find a little more self-compassion and a lot less confusion.In this conversation, Vera and Chia explore the “secondary losses” that ripple out after a death. They discuss the shifts in family dynamics, the sting of lost future possibilities, the changing sense of identity, and the total reevaluation of how we see the world. Listen in; it might help you put a name to your own grief. And hopefully, we can all be a little more gentle with ourselves.#wetheafterpeople#griefsupport #secondarylossig: theafter_podemail: [email protected]

What if our grief doesn’t only have one shape, but many? Shapes that change. Shapes that can exist all at once.In this conversation, Vera and Chia explore the different shapes grief can take beyond tears. We talk about the numbness that tries to protect you, the physical ways grief shows up when you can’t cry, and the way loss leads us to ponder those big philosophical questions. Hopefully, in exploring these shapes, we might all make a little bit more sense of our own experience. Listen in.01:22 The numb shape04:00 The distracting shape06:36 The isolating shape07:54 The physical shape10:13 The wave shape11:53 The disenfranchised shape13:26 The philosophical shape14:37 The love & transformed shape#wetheafterpeopleig: @theafter_pod email: [email protected]

Is there something you do in your daily life that is secretly meaningful to you and your person?In this conversation, Vera and Chia share the beautiful, subtle (and major) ways our community honors the relationships that never end. From holding onto tangible memories to carrying forward their wisdom, we explore the lifelong mission of keeping their love alive.Listen in. You might just find a new way to honor your person that resonates with you :)#wetheafterpeople#griefsupport #lovingforwardig: @theafter_podemail: [email protected]

Hey, if you’ve ever felt that unique, "sophisticated loneliness" that comes with grief—the kind that persists even when you're not technically alone—this one is for you.In this conversation, Vera and Chia explore the specific brand of isolation that hits in your 20s and 30s. We dive into the societal pressure to "get better," the inherent messiness of post-loss social lives, and how to balance your internal reality with the world moving on around you.Inside the episode:The Fix-It Trap: Why "fixing" grief doesn't work (and why people try anyway).Sophisticated Loneliness: Navigating the quiet gaps in "the after."Survival Strategies: Community-sourced tips for navigating the silence.#wetheafterpeople ig: @theafter_pod | email: [email protected]

This conversation explores how profound loss can impact us, especially in your 20s, 30s, or any stage where you’re actively building your life. Vera and Chia draw from conversations with dozens of others, alongside reflections from their own experiences. Together, they unpack how loss reshapes empathy, boundaries, priorities, intentionality, awareness, and the way we relate to who we’re becoming.ig: @theafter_podemail: [email protected]

You'll come out of this little pilot episode knowing what "the after" is about and why we're doing this. Thanks for considering hitting play :)