TheBigD with Ateh and Buzzy

This episode features Charlotte Adler and Jude Allen discussing the legal process of divorce, including roles of solicitors, barristers, and judges, as well as practical advice for navigating divorce proceedings, financial considerations, and emotional challenges.

#AD Today on The Big D with Ateh and Buzzy, we’re joined by the brilliant Kate Daly, founder of ‘amicable’ and one of the leading voices shaking up how we think and get through the practicalities of breakups …amicably. Kate's seen the worst of divorce up close, messy, expensive, and way more painful than it needs to be. So she did something about it. She built ‘amicable’ to help couples separate in a calmer, more constructive way…less war, more “let’s figure this out like grown-ups.” She’s helped thousands of couples navigate divorce without the drama, and she’s on a mission to change the story ; because ending a relationship doesn’t have to mean destroying each other in the process. We’re getting into what actually makes a “good” breakup, why the system is so broken, and how to come out the other side with your sanity (and your finances) intact. It’s honest, it’s real, and it might just change how you think about divorce 00:00 Understanding Healthy Boundaries in Divorce 02:47 The Broken Divorce System 05:51 Identifying Candidates for Amicable Divorce 09:08 Debunking Divorce Myths 12:14 The Importance of Financial Orders 15:00 The Role of Lawyers vs. Family Dynamics 17:59 Setting Goals for a Collaborative Divorce 21:00 The Emotional Journey of Divorce 24:06 The Amicable Process Explained 27:00 Navigating Conflict in Divorce 30:02 The Role of Negotiators in Amicable Divorce 35:12 The Role of Direction in Mediation 39:21 Children's Needs During Divorce LINKS: 1. Amicable Podcast: https://amicable.io/the-big-d-podcast?utm_source=sponsored&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=the-big-d 2. Amicable divorce book: https://amicable.io/amicable-divorce-book?utm_source=sponsored&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=the-… 3. Become a member: https://amicable.space/become-a-member?utm_source=sponsored&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=the-big… 4. Coparenting app: https://amicable.io/coparenting-app?utm_source=sponsored&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=the-big-d 5. Split happens: https://splithappens.co.uk/?utm_source=sponsored&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=the-big-d Sponsored Ad

This week on The Big D, Ateh Jewel and Buzzy are joined by chef, forager, and philosopher of food Valentine Warner for a deeply honest, unexpectedly funny conversation about divorce, identity, and starting again. Known for his rustic, no-fuss approach to cooking and his belief that food can quite literally heal the soul, Valentine opens up about navigating the chaos of separation, from “cooking feverishly” through heartbreak to rebuilding a life (and appetite) in a tiny studio flat. Together, they explore the emotional parallels between the kitchen and relationships: what we keep, what we discard, and how we learn to nourish ourselves again. From the high-adrenaline world of professional kitchens to the quiet loneliness of cooking for one, this episode dives into the realities of post-divorce life, while also offering hope, humour, and a reminder that even the simplest meal can be an act of self-worth. Expect candid stories, sharp insights, and a fresh perspective on healing….served with a side of anchovies, nature, and a little bit of magic.

This week on The Big D, we sit down with Riordan Maynard—once a high-flying entrepreneur behind major global business ventures, now helping others develop mental resilience and love the life they live with his mindfort.co system. After a life-altering legal tax battle led to a sentence of six and a half years in a US federal prison, Riordan lost everything: his business, his freedom, and his sense of self. But what he found inside changed everything. In this episode, he shares how he rebuilt from rock bottom, the toll it took on his family, and the mindset shift that turned survival into strength. It’s a conversation about disruption, identity, and what it really takes to start again when everything’s been stripped away.

On this episode of The Big D, Ateh and Buzzy sit down with Elizabeth Shaw, also known to many as @coachelizabethshaw. Elizabeth is a relational psychotherapist who specialises in the difficult dynamics many people struggle to name, from narcissistic abuse and gaslighting to the emotional aftermath of a relationship breakdown. With warmth and clarity, she helps people recognise the patterns that keep them stuck and shows them how to reclaim their voice when they’ve lost their sense of self. In this powerful conversation, Elizabeth unpacks how narcissistic relationships take hold, why they can be so hard to leave, and how healing begins. Together, they explore how the pieces left behind after heartbreak can be transformed into something brighter, stronger and entirely your own.

This week on The Big D, we’re joined by Katie Brindle, founder of Hayo’u, best selling author, and the woman who brought Gua Sha into the mainstream. After a devastating car accident derailed her dream of becoming an opera singer, Katie discovered Chinese medicine on London’s King’s Road and rebuilt her life from the inside out. Now a master of Yang Sheng, she shares why true beauty starts within, how to protect your internal empires, and why no matter how dark things feel, you’re always just one minute away from a reset. Related Links Katie’s Website https://www.katiebrindle.com Hayo’u https://hayoumethod.com Yang Sheng: The Art of Chinese Self Healing https://hayoumethod.com/products/yang-sheng-the-art-of-chinese-self-healing-book Gua Sha https://hayoumethod.com/collections/face/products/hayou-jade-beauty-gua-sha-1 Hayo’u Bian Stone Body Sculptor https://hayoumethod.com/collections/body/products/hayou-bian-stone-body-sculptor Katie’s Private Healing Clinic https://www.katiebrindle.com/the-private-healing-clinic-with-katie Heart Guide https://www.katiebrindle.com/heart 3 Step Plan of Self Care Snacks https://www.katiebrindle.com/free-3-steps-to-own-your-health Healing Love Through the Tao https://www.amazon.co.uk/Healing-Love-through-Tao-Cultivating/dp/1594770689 Mindfulness Bell App https://apps.apple.com/us/app/mindfulness-bell/id380816407 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/DGD5IVrNUV1/ https://www.instagram.com/p/DTslqBHjM6h/

Get ready for an episode that is as empowering as it is essential. This week on The Big D, Ateh and Buzzy are sitting down with the ultimate "Divorce Coach," the incredible Sara Davison. If you’ve ever felt like a breakup or divorce was the end of the world, Sara is here to prove it’s actually the beginning of your best chapter yet. As a best-selling author and global authority on heartbreaks, Sara joins us to share how she turned her own darkest moments into a life-affirming success story.As a best-selling author and global authority on breakups, Sara brings her signature blend of empathy, no-nonsense strategy, and infectious energy to the studio. "Your past does not define your future. You have the power to redesign your life exactly how you want it to be." — Sara Davison Connect with Sara Website: SaraDavison.com Instagram: @saradavisoncoach Book: Uncoupling: How to Survive and Thrive After Breakup and Divorce. available now through Amazon. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Screw-You-Watch-This-Relationships-ebook/dp/B0G2PGG8JM For more information on how to become an Accredited Breakup & Divorce Coach visit: https://www.saradavison.com/coaches/coach-signup/ For advice on how to navigate breakup or divorce, listen to www.heartbreaktohappinesspodcast.com visit www.saradavison.com For Sara’s CPD Accredited Family Law Breakup, Divorce & Domestic Abuse Awareness Accreditation programme, please email: [email protected] Join the Conversation Loved this episode? We want to hear your "breakthrough" moments! Tag us on social media @TheBigDwithatehandbuzzy and use the hashtag #TheBigD. Don't forget to Subscribe, Rate, and Review as it helps other people finding their way through divorce find us, too!

Today on The Big D, we’re pouring something sparkling and getting real. Libby Brodie joins us to talk about reinvention in the wake of divorce, how she stepped away from theatre and film, and why lockdown became the moment she chose herself and built something entirely new. Founder of Bacchus & Brodie and co-founder of The Wine Collective, Libby brings zero snobbery and full humanity to the world of wine. This episode is about grief, courage, starting again, and turning uncertainty into something joyful. A conversation about rebuilding your life, trusting your instincts, and proving that reinvention is possible at any stage. 🥂

Join Buzzy and Ateh for our end-of-year reflection episode of The Big D. We look back on the year that was — the lessons learned, the moments that reshaped us, and the truths we didn’t see coming. From growth and grief to clarity and confidence, we unpack what this year taught us and how those experiences are shaping the year ahead. An honest, grounding conversation about closing chapters and stepping forward with intention.

Join Buzzy and I as we chat to my good friend and Author of ‘Soothe’ who is a Nervous System strategist for high achievers in quiet survival. Divorce can leave you devastated and destroyed in so many ways and your nervous system and sense of peace can come under attack. Nahid talks us through her own divorce journey and shares some techniques and strategies to self soothe and help calm your nervous system

Claire Gilchrist joins The Big D to share the deeply personal story behind her reinvention. From the guilt and grief of leaving her marriage to navigating estrangement from her youngest, Claire reveals how she rebuilt her identity piece by piece. A tender, powerful exploration of what clarity really looks like when life breaks open. To learn more about Claire’s breakup and divorce coaching, including support for the emotional, legal and financial side of separation, visit: www.cotswoldsdivorcecoach.co.uk — you can book a call with her directly through the site

Grab a pen and paper and saddle up as Debbie gives you the best advice and support you need to get you through this turbulent timeIn this episode, Debbie Chism joins Ateh & Buzzy to explore the role of trust, communication and collaboration in family law, with a focus on how couples can navigate divorce more constructively. Debbie draws on her expertise at Stewarts Law to share case examples, best practices, and practical steps that individuals and families can take when facing relationship breakdown. This interview is really valuable for anyone facing separation, divorce, or a significant relationship change. Debbie’s insights bring a fresh perspective to how legal professionals can act as facilitators of change rather than combatants. It also reminds us that how things are done matters just as much as what is done. For couples, families, and professionals alike, the episode offers actionable tools and mindset shifts that can reduce damage, increase fairness, and help rebuild more solidly afterwards. Links: Stewarts Law – Debbie Chism profile: https://www.stewartslaw.com/people/debbie-chism/ Stewarts The Big D with Ateh & Buzzy – Podcast home / subscribe page: https://thebigdwithatehandbuz.podbean.com/thebigdwithatehandbuz.podbean.com Spotify link: https://open.spotify.com/show/7ekTTN57DO3ibZq1SItDmO Spotify Apple Podcasts / iTunes listing: https://www.chartoo.co.uk/itunes/podcast/1843455108-thebigd-with-ateh-and-buzzy chartoo.co.uk Instagram for the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/thebigdwithatehandbuzzy/  

Anouska opens up about her harrowing story of surviving domestic abuse, a violent situation that escalated over time, and how she found the strength to rebuild her life. From those darkest moments, she turned her passion into a thriving business and an inspiring success story. Stories like Anoushka’s are powerful, brave, and deeply human. This episode isn’t just moving, it’s one we believe men need to hear. *Trigger warning* domestic violence being discussed is this podcast which some people may find disturbing. If you or someone close to you is going through domestic abuse, you’re not alone. There’s help and understanding available at https://www.kaleidoscopic.uk a safe place to find support and guidance.

This week Buzzy and I welcomed my good beauty friend Rosie Green author of How to Heal a Broken Heart. I’ve known Rosie all my beauty life and she’s the industry’s BFF & head girl. She’s been beauty editor at Elle, Red, Good Housekeeping & is a regular on ‘This Morning’ and I was personally offended when the news broke of her marriage collapse and divorce because like me she was one and done and had married her first proper boyfriend at 18. Listen as we learn how Rosie rose like a phoenix from ugly crying on the bathroom floor to living her best life.

The Big D meets Courtney.legal your new divorce bestie website which is the law without the Latin and helps you navigate the often completed and scary world of divorce. Already an award winning website and useful empowering tool we chat to Sophie amd Sam about everything you need to know to help you through this painful time

Celebrity make up artist ruby hammer MBE who was the co founder of the iconic and game changing make up line ruby & millie and her own Ruby Hammer beauty and had worked from everyone from kate moss, Naomi Campbell and Sharon Stone to Marie Claire, Elle and vogue shares with us how to dealt with the breakdown of her first marriage, making peace and how she rebuilt, found love again and is thriving!

This week on the Big D we have Mr Divorce Coach Tom Nash as our guest, who we got on with like a house on fire he’s basically one of the gang now and expect to see him again soon. Tom was very generous, kind and open about how his infidelity lead to the collapse of his marriage and how he navigated it and how he’s been with his partner and how they rebuilt their blended family with cooperation, respect and honour. Tom's website: www.MrDivorceCoach.co.uk

We’re back baby for season 2 of the Big D Join us for a quick catch-up as we say goodbye to summer for another year, and dive into modern dating, divorce, and the gentlemen who come with it. We’ve missed you. We’re ready. And we cannot wait to share it all with you on the other side.

🚨BIG NEWS!🚨 The legendary Val Garland joins The Big D with Ateh and Buzzy! 💄✨ But this time, it’s not just beauty, she’s opening up about going through divorce at a young age in a foreign country. 💔 From heartbreak to resilience, Val gets real about finding her way back. Expect honesty, wisdom, and a touch of glam! Don’t miss it! 🎙️❤️ #TheBigD #ValGarland #DingDong #ResilienceAndRedLipstick #BeautyAndBeyond @thevalgarland @atehjewel @buzzyrandall

Jo Wood spills the tea on life after divorcing a Rolling Stone! On The Big D, she gets real about splitting from Ronnie Wood, diving into dating, dancing, writing, and owning her independence. From wild party stories to matriarch moves, Jo proves post-divorce life is about thriving, not just surviving. Expect laughs, wisdom, and a rockstar take on reinvention. Rock on! @jowoodofficial 

This episode we tackle divorce and grief with laughs along the way. We’re joined by Lizzie Pickering, grief guru and all-around legend, to chat about loss, resilience, and life’s curveballs. Expect honest chats, belly laughs, and maybe a few tears. Grab a drink, brace yourself, and let’s get into it! Oversharing guaranteed!!

Episode 2 – Form E-motions: A Rollercoaster Ride; This week, we dive into half-term chaos,Bridget Jones, and tackle the dreaded Form E—because financial disclosure is so fun, right? We navigate the emotional whirlwind of divorce while juggling cold, hard practicalities? Plus, a sneak peek at next week’s episode. Buckle up, bring snacks, and let’s go!

This week on The Big D with Ateh and Buz, we’re dropping our first full episode—because, honestly, we needed something to do between lawyer meetings and stress-eating. We’re diving into divorce—where to start, finding a lawyer, what we did right (and very wrong), plus the big one… money! 💸 Tune in for real talk, laughs, and maybe even a survival tip or two! 🎧🔥

Welcome to The Big D with @atehjewel and @buzzyrandall a new podcast all about divorce, dating, surviving and thriving after your world has shattered apart. This podcast will be be a fun safe space to help you through, find community, info and shed a tear and a giggle as you navigate through one of the most traumatic things that can happen to a person…..