This is Becoming - with Marisa and Ruth

What if the hardest part of our relationships is not what actually happens, but the story we tell ourselves about it? In this season finale of This Is Becoming, we unpack the internal narratives we so quickly write when we feel hurt, overlooked, or misunderstood. From unanswered texts to awkward conversations, our minds are constantly filling in the gaps, often with stories rooted in insecurity rather than truth. Ruth and Marisa talk about how these stories shape our emotions, reactions, and relationships, and how easily a single moment can spiral into deeply held beliefs like “I’m not enough” or “I don’t belong.” However, when we slow down, get curious, and ask better questions, we create space for clarity, compassion, and connection. If you have ever caught yourself assuming the worst, replaying conversations, or believing a story that may not be true, this conversation is for you. www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @ruth.martini @the40hangercloset SOCIAL SHOUT OUT @donnapisani

In this episode, Ruth and Marisa unpack the fear of man and the sneaky ways it shows up in everyday life. It rarely looks like “fear” at first. It often disguises itself as being considerate, avoiding awkwardness, staying quiet to keep the peace, or calling silence “honor.” But underneath, it can be a craving for approval and a reluctance to be uncomfortable. Together, they talk honestly about how fear of man can impact leadership, obedience, and relationships, and how it can quietly become a form of idolatry when the opinions of people start carrying more weight than the voice of God. www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @ruth.martini @the40hangercloset SOCIAL SHOUT OUT @bendavidfitzgerald

What if the story you are telling yourself is not true? In this solo episode, Marisa invites you into an honest and deeply personal conversation about the thoughts we carry, the narratives we rehearse, and the quiet inner dialogue that shapes how we see ourselves and how we show up in the world. Through her own story, Marisa shares how painful words spoken in formative years can turn into deeply rooted internal beliefs, and how an encounter with truth has the power to interrupt them. This episode serves as a foundation for an upcoming conversation on identifying lies, renewing the mind, and learning how to replace old narratives with truth. If you have ever felt behind, not enough, too much, or stuck in repetitive thought patterns, this conversation is for you. www.thisisbecoming.com SOCIALS @the40hangercloset @ruth.martini SOCIAL SHOUT OUT @taylormadu GRATITUDE JOURNAL https://amzn.to/4quKgFb

In this episode, Ruth and I sit down with my friend Ashley, who is visiting from Canada, and we talk about the kind of friendship that actually forms you. Ashley shares her redemption story, the power of a praying mom, and how God can rebuild a life that felt completely off the rails. We also get honest about the fear of being left, the healing that happens in safe friendships, and what it looks like to pursue life giving relationships in your 30s and 40s without overcomplicating it. If you have been lonely, guarded, or tired of surface level connection, this one is for you. www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @the40hangercloset @ruth.martini SOCIAL SHOUT OUT @sarah.sides

Not everything you think about yourself is the truth. The good news is - you're not alone in believing lies about yourself. The BETTER news is - there's a way out! In today's conversation, Ruth and Marisa share the lies they've identified that they believe about themselves AND what they are doing to break the cycle of belief. www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @the40hangercloset @ruth.martini SOCIAL SHOUT OUT Clarissa from @gudonu

What happens when your dream life becomes a nightmare? And how does one gain the perspective that even in the hardest seasons, she is becoming someone she are proud of? Today, Rachel Elo shares her story and how through every season she has been evolving and transforming into a woman worth celebrating. If you are in a challenging season of life, this conversation will inspire you and infuse you with a fresh dose of hope to keep going! WEBSITE www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @the40hangercloset @ruth.martini @thesinglesparrow SOCIAL SHOUT OUT @allieclarkathome

If you have ever wrestled with why you are here or wondered whether you are actually walking in the will of God, this conversation will meet you right where you are. Marisa and Ruth break down a big, often intimidating topic in a way that feels simple, steady, and full of hope. They talk through practical ways to recognize God’s call on your life and share real stories from their own journeys, including some of the challenges they are facing as they keep saying yes to what God has asked of them. Share this one with a friend who needs a little peace and reassurance about her own purpose and calling. WEBSITE www.thisisbecoming.com SOCIALS @the40hangercloset @ruth.martini SOCIAL SHOUT-OUT @wesleyhuff - VP Apologetics Canada

Ruth and Marisa are back with part two of their Get To Know Us series, finishing their 20 questions and going even deeper on real life behind the mic. From weight training vs Pilates, perimenopause sleep and morning routines, to parenting littles and adult kids, long-haul marriage, hearing God, and leaving comfort to pastor a church in Albuquerque NM, this episode is honest, funny, and faith filled. WEBSITE www.thisisbecoming.com INSTAGRAM @the40hangercloset @ruth.martini SOCIAL SHOUT-OUT @thesinglesparrow

From the one random thing both women always carry to how Ruth and Marisa ended up in Albuquerque NM, this episode is all about getting to know your hosts. In part one of a two part series, they ask each other twenty questions and share honest answers about life, marriage, parenting, personal style, faith, and the moments that shaped them. If you love conversations about growth, identity, relationships, and real life behind the scenes, this one is for you. www.thisisbecoming.com RETREAT www.marisa-anderson.com/becomingherretreat SOCIAL SHOUT OUT @loganortwerthart CONNECT WITH US @ruth.martini @the40hangercloset MENTIONS Ladder App

If you have ever felt the tension between who you used to be and who you are becoming, this first episode will feel like home. Marisa and Ruth open up a real and honest conversation about identity, confidence, healing, and the lifelong process of growing into the woman God designed you to be. Together, they talk about the quiet inner work that often begins long before anything changes on the outside. They share the insecurities they had to face, the lies they believed without even realizing it, and the freedom that came when they started to do the deeper work of reframing old stories, renewing their minds, and stepping into truth. You will hear • what becoming really looks like in everyday life • why confidence grows when you stop chasing a future version of yourself • how old patterns, fear of others, and painful beginnings can shape your identity • how God meets you in the process and makes redemption possible in every season This episode is an invitation to pause, breathe, and recognize the growth already happening in you. Because you're not behind, you're becoming. thisisbecoming.com RETREAT marisa-anderson.com/becomingherretreat INSTAGRAM @ruth.martini @the40hangercloset SOCIAL SHOUT OUT Melissa Hughes @melissaleahughes