Three Decades Dastaan

Two friends reflect on the places that shaped them, and why Brighton became the city they chose to call home.

In this episode, the hosts reflect on the process of unlearning beliefs and behaviours picked up in childhood - from shame around mistakes to the fear of judgment and the habit of people pleasing. Through personal stories and honest conversations, they explore how these patterns show up in adulthood and what it looks like to slowly let them go. The hosts also end up learning a little more about each other along the way.

In this episode, the hosts talk openly about their different perspectives on having children — one who wants a baby, and one who doesn’t. Drawing from personal experiences, they unpack how these views formed, the questions they’ve had to answer, and the assumptions people often make. A thoughtful, respectful conversation about autonomy, womanhood, and making space for different paths.

This episode dives into Shanzey’s love for makeup and how it became something deeper than a hobby. From where it started to what it gives her today, the hosts talk about creativity, confidence, and the way makeup is often misunderstood. An honest, relaxed chat about passion, perception, and self-expression.

In this episode, the hosts talk openly about friendship breakups and why they’re often not taken as seriously as romantic ones. Drawing from their own experiences, they explore how friendship endings can hurt, linger, and reshape you in ways people don’t always acknowledge.

This episode is all about Vaishnavi’s love for dance and why it means so much more than a hobby. From how it started to what keeps her coming back, the hosts unpack her journey with movement, expression, and self-connection. An honest chat about passion, identity, and doing something just because it feels right.

Today's episode is on where the hosts have a sit down to talk about bodies - the ones they learned to judge, control, and apologise for, and the ones they’re still learning to care for.They reflect on the comments they heard growing up, how culture and expectations shaped their self-image, and how their relationship with their bodies has shifted over time. A gentle and honest conversation about unlearning, acceptance, and being kinder to themselves.

Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of murder, suicide, and death.Why do so many women love true crime and is it weird that we do?In this episode, the hosts get into their true crime obsession, from the cases that completely pulled them in to the ones they still think about long after the episode ends. They talk about what draws women to this genre in the first place, whether it’s curiosity, empathy, fear, or a need to understand how things go wrong and where the line between awareness and overconsumption starts to blur.A thoughtful but relaxed conversation for anyone who loves true crime or has questions about why it’s so hard to stop listening.

In this episode, the hosts talk about how their feelings around New Year’s resolutions have changed over the years. They unpack the pressure resolutions can create, why they often feel overwhelming, and how expectations can quietly turn into self-judgment. The conversation focuses on self-compassion, realistic goal-setting, and finding a softer way to approach the new year.

An introduction to Three Decades Dastaan and the hosts behind the podcast. Get to know who they are, why they started this podcast and what to expect as you join them for a conversation - don't forget to bring your cup of chai!

A reflection on building community in the UK and making friends as adults, how friendships shift after your twenties, and how growing into yourself changes who you connect with. This episode explores belonging, effort, and finding your people in a new place.  

An honest conversation about women’s health, from PCOS and fertility to egg freezing and reproductive choices. In this episode, the hosts reflect on what they’ve learned, what they’re still navigating, and why these conversations matter, especially as they step into their thirties.  

 Before stepping into the future, we take a moment to look back. In our first episode, we reflect on our twenties - the decade that shaped our identities, friendships, and sense of self. Through an honest conversation about growth, mistakes, and lessons learned, we share what we’re carrying forward into our thirties.