Village Voice

I’m baaaaackkkkkk. Took a couple weeks off, damn I sure needed it, and my goodness I missed this.So we’re not easing in. We’re going straight into it. Shame.How many of us have some….By the way it’s your favorite blind authors birthday week, which always puts me in reflection mode. Looking back at the year, everything I did, everything I didn’t do, all of it.And it’s wild how fast that turns into thinking about everything I should’ve done better.Not the wins. Not the growth. Just the moments where I dropped the ball.Here’s the problem. Sitting there replaying it over and over feels like reflection, but it’s not. It’s just me being a jerk for no reason.I’m not fixing anything. I’m keeping a blend of shame and maybe even a little procrastination pity medley alive.Ew, I’m going to pinky promise not to keep falling for it. Hope you do too.Yeah, there are things I could’ve done better. That’s true. I avoided some things. I didn’t show up the way I could have in certain moments.But dragging myself for it doesn’t do anything.The only thing that actually matters is this. I didn’t know then what I know now.That’s it.Not that I was worse. Not that I wasn’t enough. I just didn’t have the version of myself I have now.So of course I’d do things differently.What doesn’t make sense is expecting past me to have the clarity I have now. And yeah, there are things I wish I handled differently.But also, look at what did happen.Six months of Written Identity. Over 200 people inside the Village. Amazing people showing up all over the world.Skipping over that just because some shame goblin wants to focus on what went wrong. NahhOwn the things you already know are true.I didn’t show up the way I could have.I avoided that. Pretending things were comfortable when I knew better.I also did amazing things.So I dare you to write at least one uncomfortable true sentence, then let it be just that, information without shame.Write it - or - just say it.No overthinking it. A couple honest words.No turning it into something bigger than it is.Allow yourself to move forward as the current version of you and keep going.Next episode we’re getting into boundaries. Because a lot of this comes back to what you didn’t say, what you didn’t hold, and then you end up replaying it later.Thanks for hanging in there as I shake the dust of my microphone, can’t wait to chat again soon.-Alli G. Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe

Can we call it for what it is? Let’s talk about the fallacy we keep lying about… that “fear of failure… ““I’d try the thing but I’m scared of failing.”“I’m just a perfectionist.”“Maybe later.”Sounds reasonable. Polite. But we are old enough and getting better at having real convos so I’m lovingly calling bullshit today. Most of the time it isn’t fear of failure at all.It’s fear of what happens if something actually works.That part people don’t want to say out loud.Trying something real forces you to confront yourself.If you try and it works…suddenly you don’t get to hide behind the version of you that “almost did it.”And if it doesn’t work?maybe it’s time to test that story.You might just be afraid of what happens if you actually show up.If you want a place to explore that with other people doing the same messy work,come join us in The Written Identity it’s our Village.The door’s open.Just one house rule.Don’t be a dick.Chat soon love buckets, Alli🖤 Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe

Here’s the truth:That critical voice? It’s not you.It’s an impersonator you’ve listened to for so long that it started sounding real.Inside this episode:I share a joke that somehow turns into a sharp breakdown of anxiety, identity, and the voice in your head that keeps trying to sabotage your momentum.Why self-doubt feels convincing (and why it’s not)How internalized criticism becomes your “normal”The difference between reflection and self-bullyingA simple way to separate your real voice from the haterHow humor can dismantle fear faster than forceIf you’ve ever:• Second-guessed yourself• Talked yourself out of something bold• Felt like your own biggest criticYou don’t need to silence your thoughts.Only the ones that aren’t yours.Commit to the bit.Til next time love buckets. 🖤Love Alli Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe

Presence isn’t the same as connection.I reread an old essay called You Forgot About Me.It’s about the quiet moment when your life clears its throat and reminds you that you’ve been living in the glow too long.Not burnout. Not disappearing.Just recalibrating.Silence isn’t a threat.Sometimes it’s rehab.If you’ve been running on airplane mode, this one’s for you. Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe

🎙 Blinded with InsecurityIn this episode of Village Voice, I read an essay I memorized… because I’m blind and I can’t visually read my own formatting.Essay- “The Words I’ll Never Read.”What I CoverWhat it’s like building a writing platform without sightNavigating Substack by sound instead of visionThe irony of coaching writers while using assistive technologyWhy trying to “fix” insecurity can actually reinforce itChoosing permission over perfectionI talk about what it’s like publishing in a visually curated world when you can’t see the layout.For a long time, I thought insecurity was something I needed to overcome.Now I’m questioning that.Because I can’t remove my blindness.But I can remove the shame around it.This episode is about permission.Continue the Conversation inside The Written Identity A Question I’m Sitting WithWhat insecurity are you constantly trying to improve… instead of just allowing?What if you gave yourself permission instead of pressure? Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe

The Violence I Carried Was Never Mine is a reflection on surviving childhood abuse, the invisible inheritance of an abuser’s voice, and the quiet, unglamorous courage it takes to unlearn what was never yours to hold.This is not a story about rage or revenge.It’s about recognizing how survival habits turn into identity, and how reclaiming your voice often happens in small, ordinary choices no one applauds.This episode is an offering.A setting down.A reminder that what shaped you does not get to define you.This episode includes references to:Childhood abuseAttempted murderIncarceration of a parentTrauma, dissociation, and survival responsesPlease listen with care and take breaks as needed.Note from AlliIf this episode stirred something in youIf you recognized an old voice, a familiar shrinking, a silence you learned earlyYou are not weak for carrying it.You are brave for noticing it.And if you’re not ready to speak yet, you’re allowed to borrow my voice until you are.You are not alone anymore.Listener ReminderYou don’t need to share this story to earn your healing.You don’t need to justify your pain to release it.And you don’t need to rush yourself into being “over it.”Quiet courage counts. Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe

Some of us weren’t raised to become ourselves, we were raised to be manageable. Quiet. Small. This Village Voice essay is a raw return to truth: burning the survival costume, reclaiming instinct, and choosing the real you.Written & Read by Alli GatlinTHE WOMAN I WAS NOT RAISED TO BEI was not built by the people who were supposed to shape me.Built in the wreckage of everything they broke.I was not raised to be this version.I was molded to survive. To stay quiet.Raised to make myself small so other people could stay comfortable.To ignore my own instincts and call it humility.Raised to disappear.Who I am today is the woman who crawled out of that.I used to move through the world like I was haunting my own life.Present, but not alive.Smiling while numb.Agreeing while unsettled.Shrinking while screaming internally.I learned how to be palatable before I ever learned how to be honest.That was never my real identity.That was survival wearing a mask.The woman I am today had to claw her way out of the person I was taught to be.I burned the costume.I dug through years of silence and found a voice that had dust on it but still worked.I stopped performing strength so other people could stay fragile.I stopped letting fear dress up as loyalty.I stopped being the safest place for people who were never safe for me.Who I am today is someone who writes the truth even when it shakes my hands.Someone who protects the girl inside me who spent years unprotected.Someone who finally learned that clarity is not soft.Clarity cuts away the lies you inherited.I am someone who sits with the rage I used to swallow.Someone who feels the grief I used to bury.Someone who knows healing is not beautiful.It is excavation.It is dirty and real and not meant to impress anyone.I do not care about being inspirational.I care about being alive.I care about helping people stop sleepwalking through their own lives.I care about teaching people to hear themselves after years of silencing their instincts.If you are here, you are not looking for a perfect person to follow.You are looking for someone who tells the truth you have been avoiding.You are looking for someone who speaks in a language your body remembers.You are looking for permission to stop pretending.Here it is.The woman I am today is the most honest I have ever been.The most awake.The most myself.I want you to meet the version of you that you were not raised to be either.Not the polished version.Not the high functioning version.Not the polite version.The real one.The one underneath all the noise.The one who has been waiting for you to choose her.That is who I write for.That is who this space is for.That is who I am today.JOIN THE WRITTEN IDENTITY 🖤— AlliSUPPORT THIS WORK Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe

This episode is a real time riff on radical curiosity. Not the polished, self help kind. The kind you actually reach for when you’re spiraling, overthinking, or stuck in the same damn conversations with the people you love.We start with the question most of us avoid:What if you’re wrong?What if your belief isn’t the best version of it?What if your life could actually get better?Wouldn’t that be fucking sick?In this episode, I talk about how curiosity has become one of my most reliable tools for getting out of rumination loops, emotional spirals, and that familiar place where one moment turns into permanence.We explore what happens when you:Stop entering conversations trying to prove a pointLet things unfold instead of forcing outcomesAdd a little whimsy or bewilderment instead of certaintyPause before turning discomfort into anger or conclusionsRemember that everything is temporary even the stuff that sucksI also talk honestly about overthinking, gut reactions, and how we often confuse intuition with our first knee-jerk fear response.Sometimes the work isn’t trusting your gut.Sometimes it’s slowing down long enough to understand it.And yes, this is the episode where I tell the story of how radical curiosity is literally how I met my husband.Not on a planned date.Not by “putting myself out there.”But while I was on the world’s worst Bumble date with a man who lied about his age, had zero chemistry, was a close talker, tried to touch my hair, and was missing a very noticeable number of teeth.Instead of shutting down, I got curious.I overheard a conversation.I walked over.I shot my shot.I slid my card across the table.He didn’t call — at first.He texted the wrong number.I missed it for weeks.And somehow, here we are.That moment didn’t come from confidence or certainty.It came from curiosity and trusting myself in real time.This episode is about inviting people into your world and letting them invite you into theirs. About hearing someone out even when you don’t agree. About asking, what else could be true? instead of deciding everything is doomed.You don’t have to change your mind.You don’t have to agree.You just have to stay open long enough to choose instead of react.We talk about:Why certainty feels safe but shrinks your worldHow curiosity makes your world biggerWhy questioning yourself isn’t weakness it’s clarityHow so many of our beliefs came from everyone but usWhat happens when you stop committing to “everything is going to suck”And yes — why curiosity doesn’t have to kill the cat.As an alley cat named Alli, I can confirm: satisfaction brings it back.Be curious.Be fucking radically curious.See if your world gets a little bigger.Companion PieceThis episode is paired with a written piece on Substack that explores these ideas in a quieter, slower way — if you want space to reflect after listening.Support the SpaceThis village runs on curiosity and coffee.If this episode grounded you or helped you slow down, you can help hold the space.Want to Go Deeper?Written Identity is a writing-led village built around clarity, self-trust, and learning how to stay present instead of stuck.The village is free to join.The premium tier — with deeper tools, guided prompts, and structured work is still $11 a month through the end of tomorrow.No pressure.Just an open door.Thanks for being here, love buckets.I’ll talk to you soon. Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe

I want to talk about radical curiosity.Not the cute, casual kind.Not “huh, that’s interesting.”I mean the kind where you’re almost excited to be wrong.Because being wrong isn’t a failure.It’s proof that your world just got bigger.This is the Village Voice.I’m Alli Gatlin — your Menace of clarity — home of the the Written Identity Podcast.The place where we talk perspective, journaling, identity…and the messy, human reality of being alive.So let’s talk about curiosity.You know that moment when you’re driving and someone cuts you off —and suddenly you’re furious?And then everything spirals.One bad interaction becomes a bad mood.A bad mood turns into defensiveness.A text lands weird.A comment hits wrong.And now the whole day feels like it’s out to get you.But what if …just stay with me…what if instead of reacting, you paused?Not to fix it.Not to explain yourself.Not to prove anything.Just to get curious.What if you asked, “What else could be true here?”Maybe you misread the tone.Maybe they’re carrying something you can’t see.Maybe you actually do disagree deeply and they might be out of their damn mind.Curiosity doesn’t mean agreement.It doesn’t mean letting people off the hook.It means you don’t collapse into reaction.Because certainty feels powerful —but it shrinks you.Certainty closes the door.Curiosity opens the room.Here’s the real question:What would you learn if you were willing to be wrong?Every time you choose curiosity over defensiveness,you create space.And clarity only shows up when there’s space to land.Curiosity is the pause between what happensand what you decide it means about you.So I’ll leave you with this unfinished on purpose:What can you be curious about today?Where are you gripping certainty because it feels safer than not knowing?I dare you — just once — to be willing to be wrong.Not to shrink.But to expand.Set the noise down.Let clarity find you.We’ll pick this back up next time.Love buckets. Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe

VILLAGE Voice- Episode 3 Hello.This is the Village Voice.And it’s the first Friday of the new year.No fireworks.No damn lists.No resolutions.And there is zero pressure to start fresh.I’m not here to hand you a strategy for the year.I’m not here to tell you how everything is supposed to go.I just want to talk for a couple minutes about something small.So small you might think, that’s fucking stupid.Whatever.It works.Especially when shit gets heavy.Welcome to the Village Voice - your Written Identity podcast.I’m Alli.Your walking, talking, tiny perspective shift.Your chaos interpreter.Your menace of clarity.So yeah.Let’s chit chat.I want to take this all the way back to the beginning.Not strategies.Not systems.Not what I’m building or selling or scaling.Yada yada yada.Just the why.Why does this exist at all?Why did I build Written Identity?Why is there a Village Voice?Why did I build the Village?And why do I keep telling you to writeeven when you swear you’re bad at itor you hate journalingor you think you’re doing it wrong?Here’s the truth.I didn’t build this because people need advice.You don’t.I don’t.Nobody does.I didn’t build this because people need another motivational post,another self-help guru,or another shiny plannerthough yes, I love a good planner.I built this because I kept watching smart, creative, remarkable peopledisappear inside their own heads.They stopped trusting themselves.Not because they were broken.But because they never slowed down long enoughto actually hear themselves.So let me say this clearly.You’re not “stuck in your healing era.”You’re not broken.Lock that shit up.You don’t need fixing.You don’t need more tools.You need a village.You need to be witnessed.You need to trust your own goddamn voice.Because you’re moving too fast.Reacting.Managing.Coping.And when you live that way, you stop seeing patterns.You don’t even realize how drained you areuntil you’re fully burnt out.And then it’s too quiet to hear what mattered.That’s when you turn it on yourself.“I’m bad at life.”“I should be better at this.”“Why can’t I figure it out?”You’re not bad at life.You just forgot how to pauseand hear your own voice.Sometimes you don’t need insight.You just need to press pause.Right in the middle of it.Whoa.Pause.That’s why I tell you to write.Not pretty.Not polished.Not for an audience.Just long enough to slow downand notice what’s real.I don’t teach journaling the usual waybecause that way trips people up.It’s not about word count.Or cute notebooks.Or sounding clever.Or “finding clarity.”You can’t find clarity.Fun fact - it finds you.People fail at journalingnot because they can’t writebut because they get lost in the fucking sauce.You think it has to be meaningful.Transformational.A whole big thing.Why does honesty need a production budget?Sometimes it’s just:“Today sucked.”That counts.Sometimes it’s six words:“Damn it. I hated today. Try again.”That counts too.So here’s the dare.Six words.Two minutes a day.Write it.Don’t reread it.Don’t analyze it.Just write it down and walk away.Reflection can come later.Right now, this is field work.You don’t need to perform.You deserve to stop performing.And please, for the love of god,don’t get lost in the sauce.As the proverb says,a man with no sauce is lost.But a man in the sauce?Also lost.And I see too many incredible peoplelost in it.Don’t do that.Don’t break my heart.Because you might fuck aroundand start to feel better.This is what we do here.We write ugly & feel better.Before clarity, there has to be honesty.Action comes after awareness.Otherwise you’re just spinning your wheels,taking action that feels hollow,wondering why it doesn’t work.You can’t act in alignmentif you don’t know how you actually feel.So write it down.Sit with it.Let it be ugly.Clarity doesn’t come from sounding smart.It comes from hearing yourselfwithout a filter.That’s why this exists.That’s why we have a Village.Not to impress anyone.Just to give you a place to show upas you are.Messy.Unfinished.Real.You don’t need to earn the right to be heard.Most people don’t need a louder voice.They just need a placewhere they can finally hear their own.So here’s the final dare.What if, on the first Friday of the year,instead of resolutions,instead of “new year, new life” bullshit,you just paid attentionto the life you already have?Start with six words.One line.No edits.That’s enough.I’ll see you in the Village.I love you. Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe

🎙️DID GWEN HAVE IT RIGHT ALL ALONG🍌? 🎙️Shit is bananasB A N A N A SAnd honestly what a fucking relief it was to revel in banana peels and welcome over 1000 new Members to the village. New friends to writers, new humans that just want to EXIST- & CLEARLY EAT BANANA BREAD. I will take this as our VILLAGE CUE FOR 3 things-1- please have a healthy snack today feed your body2- let things unfold in unexpected ways… radical curiosity is a wild ride and worth it..3- grief and joy can live within you in harmonyBonus Hyphy Writing and Identity coach perk… I love our village and will YEET MY HOOPS OFF for all of you. I know how exhausting it can be when you first get home and just need to exhale.Don’t worry love buckets. NOT ONE NOT EVEN THE SNEAKY FUCKS not one mean no shoulders to carry an ounce of cuth havin ass will bother you here. Your 5’1” writing guide and internet bodyguard has our village covered.Welcome home, I love you.Happy Friday. 🍌(don’t slip on any peels- and if ya do I’ll catch ya) or the other 98 of yallYes we have hit 98 WRITERS IN THE COLLECTIVE… Bananas may become our clarity totem🍌TODAYS FRIDAY UPDATE…brought to you by embracing grief, great parenting, remarkable shit talking and me wheezing from laughing… Also Now known as #BANANAGATE! Get full access to Alli Gatlin | The Written Identity at alligatlin.substack.com/subscribe