Help Me I'm Dating

This week I’m joined by the utterly lovely Monica Bazzani, a Gong Master Practitioner  who helps people heal through sound. We talk about what really happens in a gong bath, how sound can ease heartbreak and anxiety, and why stillness might just be the secret ingredient to opening your heart again. And honestly, if Monica’s gong baths are anything like talking to her, you’re in for something very soothing.Check out Monica's website for more information: https://www.lunasoundandenergy.co.uk/

Before ghosting and dating apps, there were handwritten love letters, promenades, and chaperones lurking in the corner. In this episode, we take a look at how people used to fall in love, from Regency rules to Victorian love notes, and how we got from there to the world of swipes and unread DMs.We’re talking fan flirting, postal crushes, romantic rituals, and why some old-fashioned traditions might just be worth bringing back. Plus, a real Victorian love letter read aloud, just in case you’re in need of a little swoon.If you’ve ever wondered how dating got so complicated, or secretly wish someone would write you a letter instead of liking your Story, this one’s for you.

In this week’s episode, I asked two men — anonymously, of course — a series of questions about modern dating: from dating apps and first date etiquette to emotional readiness, red flags, and what they really wish women understood.Their answers? Surprisingly calm, thoughtful, and occasionally reflective (no chaos here, sorry). We covered everything from why some people come on too strong, to whether men actually know if they want something serious after the first date.It’s an honest, down-to-earth chat — no wild confessions, just two men sharing their perspectives and me reacting in real time.If you’ve ever wondered what men are thinking on the other side of the table… this one’s for you.

What if the relationship you want is the prize - not the man? In this episode, certified dating and relationship coach Naomi Thompson shares how to date from a place of inner strength, not people-pleasing. From the "kayak vs yacht" analogy to the power of peach energy, Naomi gives practical tips for building self-worth, setting boundaries, and attracting emotionally available partners.Expect real talk on overthinking, dating apps, first-date rules, and why you should always disappoint him before you disappoint yourself.

In this episode I am joined by relationship and identity voach Samantha Hyam, to explore how self-worth shapes our dating lives. Discover why we unconsciously attract people who reflect our insecruriries and how to break free from old patterns.

In this episode, I'm joined by counsellor and psychotherapist Louise O’Connell to explore how your attachment style, formed in childhood, shapes the way you show up in relationships today. From anxious texting habits to avoidant shutdowns, we unpack the different styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganised), how they show up in dating, and most importantly, how they can change.

A candid conversation with Jennyfer Jay about her new book, Lessons I Learned from Dating Men. We talk about the dating experiences that inspired it, the chaos of modern dating, and why leaving in silence might just be your new superpower.

This week on Help Me I’m Dating, I’m joined by the brilliant Claire Snoddy - a costume supervisor with credits like Game of Thrones and How to Train Your Dragon, a mum of three, and the host of the In My Solo Era podcast.After a 16-year marriage, closing her successful bridal business, and navigating heartbreak, Claire chose to rebuild - on her own terms. We talk about starting over in your 40s, solo travel, ghosting, dating app drama, TikTok trolls, and rediscovering your voice after grief. Claire’s story is one of reinvention, resilience, and radical self-belief - a reminder that singlehood isn’t a failure, it’s a fresh start.If you're in your solo era, this one’s for you.

In this episode of Help Me I’m Dating, I chat with yoga instructor Kat Hutchings about how yoga can help you regulate your emotions, deepen your self-love, and handle dating like a total queen.We talk: How Kat’s journey into yoga and wellness helped her through big life shiftsBreathwork tips for pre-date nervesWhat self-love really looks like day-to-dayPlus, Kat shares her worst ever Tinder date story (it’s a good one).

In this episode, I'm joined by TikTok creator Jen who turned heartbreak (and a spreadsheet of 50 dates) into a viral online sisterhood.Jen shares what modern dating has taught her and what she wishes she’d known sooner. From situationships with avoidant partners to learning how to trust her gut and reconnect with her inner child, this is an honest and reflective chat about the realities of dating today.It’s one for anyone who’s ever felt disheartened, hopeful, or somewhere in between.

Ever felt like all the good ones are taken? Or like this is as good as it’s going to get? That’s scarcity mindset talking and it’s a sneaky saboteur in your dating life.In this episode of Help Me I’m Dating, Joanna and Sam unpack what scarcity mindset actually is, how it shows up in dating (hi, situationships and anxiety spirals 👋), and why it often has more to do with self-worth than statistics.They get into childhood conditioning, the fear of being alone, and how past relationships might be fuelling that “I have to settle” feeling. Plus, Sam shares practical ways to shift into an abundance mindset — where you start to trust that love is available, and you are already enough as you are.👥 Hosted by: Joanna & Sam📅 Now releasing episodes bi-weekly (because Joanna needs a lie down and Sam is all about that quality-over-quantity life).📲 Follow us on Instagram [@helpmeimdatingpod] and Tik Tok [@helpmeimdating]– DM us your thoughts, and share the love with a friend who needs it!

Think you can read between the lines of a guy’s dating profile? This week, Joanna and Sam break down the subtle (and not-so-subtle) clues hidden in men’s bios—from vague non-committal energy to straight-up red flags.We’re also talking:Real-life dating prompt answers A game of Guess Who? Where we analyse mystery dating bios—can you figure out who they belong to?Swipe right on this episode for laughs, dating wisdom, and a reality check on those profiles filling your feed.

At first, it feels like a fairytale - intense affection, grand gestures, and promises of forever. But when the honeymoon phase fades, love bombing can leave you feeling confused, drained, and questioning everything.In this episode, Joanna and Sam break down:What love bombing really is (and why it feels so addictive).The hidden motivations behind it—beyond just narcissism.How to spot the warning signs before you get swept away.What to do if you’re the one love-bombing without realising it.Plus, we talk about how attachment styles play a role, the love bombing cycle, and practical ways to protect yourself. If you’ve ever felt like a relationship was moving too fast but didn’t want to slow it down, this episode is for you.

One minute, everything’s great - texts flying, dates planned...then suddenly, he’s distant. Slower replies, shorter messages, and now you’re overthinking everything. Sound familiar? In this episode of Help Me, I’m Dating, Joanna and Sam break down why men pull away, what it really means, and how to respond without losing your power. You’ll learn: The real reasons men pull away (it’s not always about you!) How to tell if he’s just busy or genuinely losing interest. What to do and what NOT to do when this happens How attachment styles influence your response Whether to let him back in if he returns If you’ve ever found yourself anxiously waiting for a text, questioning everything, or debating whether to reach out then this one’s for you. Stay in your power, don’t chase, and let his actions tell you everything you need to know. Listen now and share with a friend who needs to hear this!

In this episode of Help Me, I’m Dating, Joanna gets real about the biggest lessons she’s learned from her own dating experiences. From ignoring red flags (we’ve all been there) to the surprising power of silence, she shares the ups, downs, and ‘oh no’ moments that come with modern dating. She also talks about why boundaries matter, how to actually trust your gut, and why self-love is the real game-changer. Plus, we’ve got some listener stories that prove just how important it is to know your worth. Grab a cup of tea (or something stronger) and let’s get into it!

In this episode we talk about the dating truth no one wants to hear but everyone needs to. If you’ve ever found yourself over analysing texts, making excuses for his behaviour, or waiting for him to finally commit, this one’s for you. We break down the classic signs that he’s just not that into you, why we sometimes ignore them, and most importantly, what to do about it. Plus, we discuss the importance of healthy boundaries in dating, the dangers of limiting beliefs, and why having a fulfilling life outside of dating changes everything. If you’re tired of mixed signals and ready to date with confidence, this episode is a must-listen.

In our first episode, we explain why loving yourself is the foundation for healthy dating and fulfilling relationships. ✨ What is self-love, really? ✨ How does it shape your dating choices? ✨ And how can you start nurturing your own self-worth today? Whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode will give you practical tips to build a stronger, more loving relationship with yourself.

Tired of chasing after people who give you the bare minimum? In this episode of Help Me I’m Dating, Joanna and Sam break down the difference between genuine effort and performative effort in relationships. Learn how to spot breadcrumbing, set boundaries, and ensure your energy is matched by the people you date.

The holidays can be a challenging time for singles, but it this episode Sam and Joanna are here to help you thrive. From practical tips to emotional growth, they share everything you need to make this Christmas merry, bright and full of self love. Whether you're reflecting on past relationships, boosting your confidence, or treating yourself to some well deserved pampering. this episode is your ultimate holiday survival guide.

Joanna and Sam tackle the weight of societal pressures and encourage listeners to reclaim their own love stories. Discover how to flip the script by celebrating your singlehood, setting personal goals, and rejecting outdated expectations.

In this episode, Joanna and Sam explore the complexities of trust - what it means, why it's challenging, and how to rebuild it after heartbreak. They share personal insights, practical strategies, and interactive exercises to help listeners foster trust in themselves and others. From defining trust as a spectrum to addressing protective behaviours, this episode offers actionable advice for creating stronger, more secure connections.

As the chill of cuffing season sets in, it’s easy to feel the pressure to pair up—but how do you avoid getting cuffed to the wrong person? In this episode, Joanna and Sam dive into the art of dating with intention during the holidays. They explore how to communicate your relationship goals, whether you're looking for a winter cuddle buddy or something more long-term. Plus, they share tips on resisting the seasonal pressure to settle and the importance of staying true to your values.

In this episode, Joanna and Sam dive into the all-too-familiar "nice girl" syndrome—why being overly accommodating in dating can hold women back and how breaking free can lead to healthier, more authentic relationships. They explore the difference between being "kind" versus "nice," the societal pressures women face, and why setting boundaries isn’t just empowering—it’s essential for safety and self-respect.

In this episode, Joanna and Sam dive into a common but crucial challenge in dating—seeking validation from others. They explore the difference between external validation (relying on others’ approval) and internal validation (trusting your own worth). The duo shares personal experiences, psychological insights, and practical tips to help you build self-worth from within. Whether you're navigating new dates or seeking deeper connections, this episode will help you find the confidence to validate yourself first.

In this empowering episode of Help Me, I’m Dating, Joanna and Sam dive into a topic that so many people, especially women, struggle with in the dating world: the fear of being "too much." Have you ever felt like you had to shrink yourself, tone down your personality, or hide your passions just to make someone else comfortable? Well, it’s time to break free from that mindset. Joanna and Sam unpack where this fear comes from, why society often tells us to "tone it down," and how to stop dimming our light. They share tips for embracing your full, authentic self—no apologies necessary. From setting boundaries to getting comfortable with rejection, they offer practical advice for stepping into your power and attracting the right person who loves you for you. Tune in for a dose of confidence and real talk about why being "too much" is actually a superpower!

In this Halloween special, we take a look into a scary side of dating: ghosting! Sam and Joanna discuss why people vanish without a trace, the emotional impact it leaves behind, and how to cope if it happens to you. Plus, they share chilling stories of ghosted dates gone wrong from listeners. Whether you're a ghosting survivor or just love a good ghost story, this episode has all the tricks and treats for navigating the dating world’s scariest pitfalls.

In this episode, Joanna and Sam dive into why people often chase emotionally unavailable partners. They explore key reasons - like low self-esteem, attachment styles, and validation seeking - that keep us stuck in these patterns. They share relatable stories and practical advice, including setting boundaries and matching energy instead of over-investing.

In this episode of Help Me, I’m Dating, Joanna and Sam dive deep into those sneaky self-limiting beliefs that might be sabotaging your love life without you even realising it. From unrealistic rom-com expectations to societal pressures and past heartbreaks, we explore how these beliefs shape our dating patterns and how to break free from them.

In this episode of Help Me I'm Dating, Joanna and Sam dive into the importance of setting healthy boundaries in the dating world. They discuss why boundaries are essential for creating respectful, balanced relationships, and how establishing them early on can protect your emotional and mental well-being.

In this episode, Sam and Joanna dive deep into the beauty of singlehood and why it’s so much more than just a waiting phase. It's all about personal growth, freedom, and living your best life solo. Whether you're single by choice or circumstance, this is your time to focus on YOU. Being single isn’t about what’s missing - it’s about thriving and embracing the journey!

In this episode, Joanna and Sam talk about how to "date with intention" They explain the importance of knowing your long-term goals and values before dating and how this can help you find a more meaningful connection.

In Episode 3 of Help Me I'm Dating, Joanna and Sam dive into one of the toughest parts of dating: rejection. Whether it’s ghosting, being told directly that you’re not a match, or navigating the friendzone, rejection can sting - but it doesn’t have to define you.

In this episode we dive into a topic that every dater knows all too well—dating anxieties. From fears of rejection and first-date jitters to the modern-day worries of being catfished, they explore how anxiety can show up in the dating world and how to handle it with confidence. Joanna shares a personal story about a recent awkward encounter, while Sam dishes out tips on building confidence, mindfulness techniques, and knowing when you're overthinking versus spotting real red flags.