IVF This

Join me today as we talk about asynchronous grief—when your grief unfolds on a different timeline, in a different way, or at a different intensity than your partner, your family, or the culture around you expects. If infertility, IVF, miscarriage, or loss has ever left you feeling misunderstood or "behind," this episode is for you.

Five years into IVF This, I'm reflecting on what this space has truly been about — grief, courage, and staying with ourselves through terrain we never chose. This episode is a love letter to anyone navigating infertility, IVF, or a life that didn't unfold the way they expected.

What if one of the most honest emotions in IVF is also the one we judge the most? Today we're talking about relief—why it shows up, why it feels so wrong, and why it doesn't mean what you think it does.

Sometimes the hardest part of IVF isn't just what's happening to you—it's what's happening to the people around you. In this episode, we're talking about survivor's guilt: the complicated mix of joy, grief, guilt, and love that shows up when outcomes don't match.

If you've ever thought "I did everything right — why didn't IVF work?" this episode breaks down the Just-World Fallacy, the neuroscience of self-blame, and how to untangle fertility outcomes from guilt, shame, and worth.

IVF doesn't just break hearts—it can fracture your sense of self. In this episode, we unpack moral injury in infertility and fertility treatment, and why surviving impossible IVF decisions isn't a personal failure—it's a human response to an overwhelming system.  

In this episode of IVF This, we explore why the hardest part of IVF, grief, and uncertainty, isn't the outcome—but the emotions they bring up. We talk about emotional avoidance, anticipatory stress, and how building emotional tolerance can reduce anxiety and help you feel more grounded during fertility treatment and life's hardest moments.

Detachment in IVF doesn't mean you stop caring—it means learning how to care without losing yourself. In this episode, we explore the art of detachment during stim and transfer cycles, and how grounding helps you return to yourself while holding hope gently, no matter how this unfolds.  

IVF is full of moments we think will finally make it easier — until they don't. In this episode, we talk about the arrival fallacy, why milestones rarely deliver the relief we expect, and how to support yourself through the in-between.

The last embryo changes everything. In this episode, we talk about why "last" feels so heavy, how meaning gets attached to outcomes, and why it doesn't have to end in a positive to matter.  

The in-between — that space between what was and what's next — can feel unbearable during IVF. In this episode, I explore the liminal space: why it's so uncomfortable from both a brain and emotional perspective, and how you can reclaim this time as a meaningful, even sacred, part of your becoming.  

 Explore how Lucky Girl Syndrome and manifestation connect to the neuroscience of the brain's reticular activating system (RAS), and how to use it in IVF without falling into toxic positivity.

In this episode of IVF This, we're reframing self-care during infertility and IVF—not as bubble baths and pedicures, but as the radical act of compassion, gentleness, and holding space for yourself in the midst of this journey.  

 In this episode, we explore assumptive reasoning — the brain's shortcut for filling in the blanks — and how it shows up during IVF. Learn how to recognize when your mind is screaming assumptions, and how to reconnect with the quieter whisper of your intuition instead.  

"Graduating" in IVF can feel like both a victory and a loss. Join me as I unpack the arrival fallacy, normalize the mixed emotions, and share how to build resilience for the road ahead.  

 In this episode, we explore the emotional weight of IVF stim cycles—especially the heartbreak and courage of trying again. I'll share practical ways to support yourself and a calming visualization to help you reconnect with your body through it all.

Feeling out of control during IVF is deeply human. In this episode, we explore "grief power grabs"—the subtle ways we try to reclaim control—and how softening into awareness can offer true relief.  

Join me today as we explore the quiet ache of longing that so often accompanies infertility and IVF. This episode is an invitation to gently name, understand, and reframe the yearning we carry—reminding ourselves that the ache isn't a problem to fix, but a reflection of just how deeply we love and hope.

Join me as I speak directly to the loved ones of those navigating IVF, unpacking the well-meaning but often unhelpful "righting reflex" and offering compassionate ways to truly support someone through infertility.

Join me today as we unpack the most common cognitive distortions and how they show up in infertility and IVF—so you can spot them, soften them, and shift your inner narrative.

Have you ever wondered what good could come out of your infertility/ IVF Journey? Join me today as I explore IVF as a potential pathway to a more intentional life—if and when you're ready to see it that way.  

Doomscrolling during IVF can feel like a desperate search for control, but often, it only fuels anxiety and self-doubt. Join me as I break down why we do it, how it shows up (even with positive content), and practical ways to break the cycle and reclaim your peace.

Emotional muscle memory shapes how we react to infertility and IVF, often keeping us stuck in cycles of fear and disappointment. In this episode, we'll explore how it works, why it happens, and how you can retrain your emotional reflexes to work for you instead of against you.  

 Ever feel like certain thoughts just won't leave you alone? Those little mental whispers—I'm not doing enough, what if this never happens?—stick like Post-it notes in your brain. In this episode, we'll unpack why they're so persistent and how to finally unstick them.

Feeling stuck or numb during IVF? Learn why functional freeze happens and how to break free with simple grounding techniques.  

In this episode of IVF This, we explore grief burnout—the emotional exhaustion from repeated losses and the relentless stress of infertility. Learn how to recognize it, navigate it, and find ways to heal while continuing your IVF journey.  

Join me today as I discuss how to navigate potential holiday triggers.   

Join me today as I tackle the topic of self-gaslighting. I'm going to cover what it is, why we do it, and how you can break the cycle to help support yourself through IVF.   

Join me today as we explore how to stop waiting for happiness and recognize the power you already have.

Join me today as I explain and explore the similarities and differences of perspective vs perception and how one can help you feel more grounded during IVF.   

Join me today as I discuss the book "Do Nothing" by Celeste Headley. I enjoyed this book and share with you the items that resonated for me and the way I paralleled Headley's work and IVF and infertility.   

IVF This Podcast Episode 167: IVF and Openness

We explore the role of judgment in the IVF journey, examining both the common judgments faced and those we may hold about others. We'll discuss how to recognize, unpack, and release these judgments to cultivate greater compassion for ourselves and those around us.

Join me today as I discuss the concept of The Window of Tolerance, which can help you during your IVF journey, to help you stay grounded and calm.   

Join me today as I discuss realistic expectations during IVF; what they look like, and how to set them. Link to Website ivfthiscoaching.com

Join me today as I talk about Emotional Tolerance- what it is, why it's so difficult, how we can develop the skill, and what role it plays during IVF.    

Join me today as I discuss one of the most common questions we get during infertility and IVF, "Why don't you just adopt?"

Join me today as I discuss IVF challenges specific to those with ADHD.   

Join me today as I talk about finding purpose before, during, and after IVF.   

Join me today as I talk about some of the unwanted thoughts we have during IVF and how we can learn to manage them as they come.   

Join me today as I share a powerful tool for emotional regulation and stress reduction during IVF called Progressive Muscle Relaxation. I will discuss history, its importance, and relevance to IVF and walk you through a guided exercise.

IVF This Greatest Hits Volume 12: The What if Game

Join me as we revisit a past episode "Worry Stacking". 

Join me today as I discuss the concept of arguing with reality; what it is, why we do it, and the one thing you can start doing to move towards acceptance, even during IVF.

Fear is one of the most powerful emotions that we experience and one of the most common during infertility and IVF. Join me today as I discuss what fear is, how it's different from anxiety, and how you can begin to allow and process fear, without becoming overwhelmed by it.