Lead Well

On holiday Trevor read two paragraphs in a book that named something he'd been living for years without a word for it. The pattern of making himself agreeable rather than present. Of leaving rooms feeling accepted but never quite remembered.In this episode he talks about where that pattern comes from, what it does to your confidence and your leadership over time, and what it feels like when you finally start taking yourself back. Including the word a drunk woman called him at a party that he had to look up. And a hopscotch game at Fleet services.This episode was originally recorded for The Lead Well YouTube channel. If you'd like to watch as well as listen, search The Lead Well Channel on YouTube.New episodes every week. If this resonates, leave a review and share it with someone who needs it.

This isn't a recovery story. It's a practical leadership conversation about the version of self medication that doesn't look like a problem. The functioning version. The one where you're showing up, the business is running, and if you're being honest with yourself, you were actually pretty good at it.In this episode Trevor talks about what that pattern does to your mornings, your decision making, your emotional regulation, and your capacity to lead. And what came back when it went.This episode was originally recorded for The Lead Well YouTube channel. If you'd like to watch as well as listen, search The Lead Well Channel on YouTube.New episodes every week. If this resonates, leave a review and share it with someone who needs it.

At thirty two, a man Trevor had just met at a bar in France told him to come to Mexico. Within three months he'd closed his businesses, sold almost everything he owned, and bought a one way ticket with no return date.In this episode Trevor tells the full story of the Mexico decision, including Jason, the person who shaped who he became while he was there, and the three things that period taught him about identity, uncertainty, and what happens when you choose the unknown over the comfortable and familiar.This episode was originally recorded for The Lead Well YouTube channel. If you'd like to watch as well as listen, search The Lead Well Channel on YouTube.New episodes every week. If this resonates, leave a review and share it with someone who needs it.

Most hospitality founders know they need a life outside the business. The problem isn't knowledge. It's permission. The actual, felt permission to close the laptop and be somewhere else without the guilt following you there.In this episode Trevor talks about where that guilt comes from, what it quietly does to your capacity for joy over time, and what actually shifted when he finally started giving himself permission to exist as a person as well as a founder. Including the story of Frank.This episode was originally recorded for The Lead Well YouTube channel. If you'd like to watch as well as listen, search The Lead Well Channel on YouTube.New episodes every week. If this resonates, leave a review and share it with someone who needs it.

The venues reopened. The covers came back. The press moved on. But the founders who kept those businesses alive through Covid weren't the same people who had closed them. And almost nobody talked about that.In this episode Trevor shares what that period actually did to him personally, what he's seen in the founders he works with since, and why the psychological cost of Covid on hospitality is still sitting unprocessed in a lot of people who rebuilt everything on the outside and still feel like something is off on the inside.This episode was originally recorded for The Lead Well YouTube channel. If you'd like to watch as well as listen, search The Lead Well Channel on YouTube.New episodes every week. If this resonates, leave a review and share it with someone who needs it.

Most hospitality leaders don't burn out dramatically. They burn out slowly, in the ordinary texture of the day. Wired at night and flat in the morning. Losing the things that used to restore them. Doing the job and looking fine while feeling hollowed out behind it.In this episode Trevor talks about what running on empty actually does to a person over time, why the hospitality industry makes the signals harder to read, and what the way back genuinely looks like when you're ready to start.This episode was originally recorded for The Lead Well YouTube channel. If you'd like to watch as well as listen, search The Lead Well Channel on YouTube.New episodes every week. If this resonates, leave a review and share it with someone who needs it.