Matchmaker Matchmaker

In this episode, I sat down with Rivkah Fox, the matchmaker behind Blind Fate. What started as a playful Instagram game turned into real marriages.✨ Highlights:🎲 Anonymous bios + audience votes → real matches & babies🎉 Creative Philly events with fun stations & late-night vibes💪 Special events for singles with physical challenges🌎 A Brazilian man who quarantined in Mexico just to date in NY💼 A yeshivish guy + a Forbes 30 Under 30 woman = true love💡 Takeaway: Love shows up when you’re willing to play the game differently.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, I sit down with my dear friend Laurie Young the Seattle Shadchan and the reason I ended up on Jewish Matchmaking on Netflix. We share gratitude, lots of laughs, and her bold love story that began with a note on a windshield and turned into 42 years of marriage. Plus, we talk about Zoom dating for 55+ singles, why momentum is the key to dating success, and how anyone can make a match.We talk about:📞 Passing on Netflix for herself and passing them my number instead💍 The “hold him for me” story that led to marriage✈️ Turning long-distance dating into real life dating🥂 Zoom dating events for 55+ singles and her easiest match ever🔥 The #1 killer of a match and how to keep sparks alive with momentum datingSupport the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

🎙️ In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, I sat down with Gina Samuels from Australia — a warm-hearted volunteer matchmaker. She’s made nine matches so far (including her brother!) and shared what it’s like to help people date in a small community where everyone knows everyone. We talked about her own love story, the beauty of organic setups, and why singles should also help make matches. It’s real, it’s inspiring, and it’s a reminder that love takes effort — and a little help from someone who cares.💬 We talked about:✡️ Dating in small communities like Melbourne and Sydney❤️ Gina’s personal love story🫶 How singles can make matches too Want more inspiration? Head to marriagemindedmentor.com and join the matchmaking movement.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I sat down with Rabbi Leo and Aliza to explore what it means to rebuild a life and open your heart after deep loss.💬 We talked about:Going from unimaginable grief to hope and healingThe decision to date again after tragedyAliza’s 25-year journey of saying “yes” in datingWhy authenticity and connection go hand-in-handHow the most unexpected match became the right one💡 My favorite reminder from this episode:Possibilities exist especially when you lead with honesty, hope, and heart.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, we’re talking about a different kind of love language: business matchmaking!  I sat down with Brian Spivak of Barzel Media in Tel Aviv, and we explored how every match romantic, professional, or even a new home can change someone’s life. We talked about: - How one casual intro turned into a full-time job- A real wedding that started with a Shabbat lunch match- Why showing up (even when you don’t feel like it) matters- Flipping the script on rejection and making bold moves in dating 💡Bottom line? Connection is everything. Whether you’re making a match in love or in life, it counts. Want to connect with Brian and learn more about what he’s building?📲 Instagram: @spibri85 | @barzel.media🌐 Website: barzelmedia.com📧 Email: [email protected] more inspiration? Head to marriagemindedmentor.com and join the matchmaking movement.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

The Three-Match Club: Jenny's Matchmaker JourneyIn this heartwarming episode of *Matchmaker, Matchmaker*, I sit down with the fabulous Jenny Sved an organic connector, community builder, and now... official member of the “Three Match Club!” 💫Here’s what we schmoozed about:🧩 How Jenny made her own match (yes, it counts!).                                                    🪑 The wedding seating switch that led to a marriage (and three kids!).                   ✈️ A LaGuardia Airport spark that took years to ignite but was totally worth it         🚌 Our spontaneous idea for a matchmaking bus! (Seriously, call me if you want to sponsor it.).                                                                                                                            💬 Why timing matters, why you shouldn't give up on a match, and why it’s okay if more than one person gets creditWe laughed, we dreamed, and we even redefined the rules of matchmaking (because someone has to and it might as well be me 😉).🕊️ Whether you’ve made one match, three, or none yet you’ll walk away inspired to help create more love in the world.✨ Let’s all aim for that “matchmaker mitzvah addiction” – because more love means more light in the world.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I sat down with the incredible Irit Esses psychologist, matchmaker, and leader of a powerful matchmaking community in Mexico City.We dug into:💫 Irit’s journey from dating struggles to 24+ successful matches🛠️ The power of knowing your non-negotiables👶 Inspiring stories, including matches that led to babies and cross-border love❤️ Be a “vitamin person” uplift the singles in your life before pressuring them to date                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Talking to Irit felt like talking to myself, we have so much in common! Her wisdom, spunk, and vibrant energy are changing lives and I hope her story inspires you to be part of the change too.   Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I’m joined by Shirel  a digital nomad with Indian-Israeli roots, a spicy palate, and a heart full of Jewish values.We talked about one of my favorite philosophies: “Date ‘Em Til You Hate ‘Em” giving people a real chance, staying open, and learning about yourself in the process.Shirel shared:•⁠  ⁠Her dating journey across Tel Aviv and Philly•⁠  ⁠How October 7th deepened her Jewish identity•⁠  ⁠What she’s looking for: someone kind, curious, and adventurous (hot air balloon optional 😉)💌 If you know someone who might be a match for Shirel, send them our way. Because we believe anyone can make a match.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, I introduce you to Andrew a kind, thoughtful, and very real single man in his mid 30's from Philadelphia 🐾💬We dive into his dating story, and here’s what we covered:Why family values are at the heart of what he’s looking for ❤️The role cultural compatibility plays in lasting loveHis love for dogs and why shared interests matter 🐶Why he’s focused on finding someone in Philly or close by 🏙️His take on dating timelines and how soon is too soon to talk engagement 💍💡 I also offer some insights of my own and as always, I invite you to be part of the matchmaking magic.💞 Know someone who might be a match for Andrew?Watch, share, and tag them below you just might help create a love story 🫶Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

This episode is full of ruach (spirit), inspiration, and classic Jewish geography the kind where one introduction leads to another and suddenly, the world feels small and deeply connected.I sat down with the radiant and talented Maskit, sister of Tair, from Jack’s Jewish Journey to hear her story of spiritual growth, creativity, and finding clarity in the chaos of modern dating.✨ In this conversation, we talk about:🌏 Growing up between Israel, Australia, and now NYC and what each place taught her🎬 Her love for film, media, and using storytelling to bring light into the Jewish world✡️ What sparked her return to observance and how Shabbat changed everything❤️ Her honest reflections on dating non-Jews, finding her “why,” and choosing a Jewish future🧭 What she’s looking for now: someone who’s grounded, God-conscious, and ready to build🗽 Life in New York City and how she’s navigating the fast-paced dating scene with grace and clarityAnd yes she’s single, she’s glowing, and she’s ready to meet someone who’s growing in the same direction.🎯 We also dive into modesty, mitzvot, and what it really means to grow into observance without pressure just purpose.This episode is full of energy, laughter, emunah (faith), and real talk about choosing a partner and a path.💌 Want to be introduced to Maskit? Reach out through me maybe you’re her next match 😉👉 Listen, share, and let’s keep building this global Jewish matchmaking movement one meaningful conversation at a time.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with not one but two amazing guests: Jason Pfeiffer, Editor-in-Chief of Entrepreneur Magazine, and Jen Miller, New York Times journalist and author. Not only are they accomplished professionals, but they’ve also been happily married for 13 years. We dive deep into the heart of their relationship and what it means to truly build a life and a legacy together.💬 Here's what we covered:💑 How they met on OkCupid after both navigating long-term breakups🧠 The beauty of collaborating on writing projects and giving each other feedback🎯 Why they created a mission statement for their marriage (yes, really and I love it!)🕊️ How they keep their individual passions alive while working toward shared goals✡️ Jen’s beautiful idea to start a “Shabbat Club” and connect with their Jewish roots💬 Honest talk about compromise, communication, and maintaining your own identity in a thriving partnershipThis conversation is full of gems whether you're single, dating, or deep into a committed relationship. Jason and Jen model what it means to be partners not just in love, but in life and purpose.👉 Tune in, take notes, and share this one with someone who believes in love and big dreams.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I’m joined by Linnea, the host of a unique Jewish dating game show in New York City, where singles are matched live on stage at the Caveat Theater and other venues. Linnea gives us an inside look at the matchmaking process, which emphasizes genuine connections and the importance of community.We dive into:🎤 The behind-the-scenes of the dating game and how it really works 💘 How the live audience plays a crucial role in the matchmaking experience🤝 The thrilling blind dates that unfold between two main contestants each show❤️ Linnea’s personal love story with her husband, Paul, and their joint involvement in the show’s productionWe also explore Jewish culture, the challenges of matchmaking, and the importance of creating meaningful, lasting connections.🔔 Tune in for a fascinating episode that brings the world of live matchmaking to life in NYC. Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker Podcast, I sit down with the incredible Howie Danao—a soulful Jewish musician and convert with an extraordinary story. We first met by chance in Germany, and I knew right away his journey needed to be shared.Howie opens up about:🌍 Growing up with a Filipino mother and being adopted by a Jewish family in Israel🕊️ His identity struggles and powerful conversion story🎶 How music became his mission and a tool for healing❤️ His dating journey and the kind of partner he’s looking for📺 His new project, The Love and Faith Show, born from his personal journey✡️ Why faith, storytelling, and connection are at the center of his lifeThis conversation will move you, uplift you, and remind you that every story matters. Whether you're searching for love, faith, or your own purpose—there’s something here for you.👉 Watch the full episode and share it with someone who needs to hear this story. You could be the reason they find clarity, connection, or even love.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this heartfelt episode, I chat with Jack and Tair from Melbourne, Australia—an inspiring couple whose love story began in the most unexpected way: as lockdown roommates! Now, Jack is on a powerful path toward converting to Judaism, and their journey together is nothing short of remarkable.We talk about:🏡 How a global pandemic turned two strangers into partners🕊 Jack’s spiritual awakening and what led him to pursue Judaism🤝 The support and connection they’ve built through shared religious growth🛡 The challenges Jack faces as a convert—including anti-Semitism—and how community gives him strengthThis episode is all about love, identity, and finding where you truly belong.🔔 Tune in for a raw and uplifting conversation—and follow Jacksjewishjourney on Instagram for more!Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

🎙 500 dates with comedian Eric NeumannIn this episode, I sit down with comedian Eric Neumann to explore his unique dating experiences and perspectives on love and relationships. Eric opens up about his journey, including his extensive history of over 500 dates and the valuable lessons he's learned along the way.We discuss:💔 The complexities of dating and the importance of avoiding infatuation⏳ The benefits of taking things slow in relationships🎯 Aleeza's Five Date Challenge to help deepen connections🎤 Eric’s standup comedy career and how social media has shaped his successThis episode is a deep dive into the intersections of dating, comedy, and personal growth.🔔 Tune in for a fun, enlightening conversation that blends humor with heart!Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I sit down with New York-based comedian and “Up Dating Show” host, Brandon Berman. He shares how a single photo led him from pandemic dating to a serious relationship—nearly an engagement!We cover: 📸 A photo that sparked real connection ❤️ Balancing differences in relationships 🌿 Managing anxiety with love and support 🧩 The beauty of slow, intentional dating 🎤 How men can handle rejection and date with clarity👉 Tune in for a heartwarming and hilarious take on finding love where you least expect it.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this special episode, I sit down with my in-laws, Fran and Sid Schwartz, who have been married for 63 years! We dive into the secrets of a long-lasting marriage, the importance of shared values, and the lessons they’ve learned along the way.We talk about:💍 The humorous way Sid proposed💡 How background and values play a role in a strong relationship❤️ The key to navigating roles, responsibilities, and communication in marriage👩‍❤️‍👨 Advice for younger couples looking to build a lasting partnershipI also reflect on the impact they’ve had on my own life and family—because when it comes to love, experience speaks volumes.🔔 Tune in for heartwarming stories, timeless wisdom, and plenty of laughs!Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

🎙 Love, Music, and Taking a Chance with Yoni Z & Ashley EdenIn this episode, I sit down with Yoni Ziegelbaum , better known as Yoni Z, a popular singer, and his fiancée Ashley Eden, who works in FinTech. Freshly engaged, they share their love story—full of unexpected twists, big decisions, and the persistence it takes to find "the one."We talk about:🎤 Yoni’s journey in music✈️ Ashley’s bold decision❤️ The challenges they faced early on and how they finally connectedTheir story is a reminder that love doesn’t always follow a straight path—but when it’s meant to be, everything falls into place.🔔 Tune in for an episode filled with inspiration, gratitude, and the magic of finding your match!Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

🎙 Finding Love in the Social Media Age with Libby Amber ShayoIn this episode I’m joined by newlywed Libby Amber Shayo, who shares her love story—how she met her husband through her social media presence and her now brother-in-law.We chat about:❤️ Tips for dating influencers📱 How she balances social media and her relationship, OY!⏸️ Why taking breaks from dating can actually helpWhether you wanna date an influencer or are just curious about love in the digital age, this episode is for you.🔔 Tune in now—I can’t wait for you to hear this one!Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I sit down with Ilana and Jake to chat about their relationship journey—how they met, what keeps their connection strong, and the little things that make love last.We dive into:💘 Their Hinge love story and first date moments🎟️ The creative ‘date card’ activities and spontaneous trips that keep things exciting😂 A hilariously awkward first kiss story (and how Elana made theirs unforgettable)🗣️ The power of communication, fun, and support in a relationship🎙️ Ilana’s insights as a podcast host and dating coach on vulnerability and authenticity in datingThis episode is full of laughs, love, and real talk about what makes relationships truly work.🔔 Tune in and get inspired to bring more fun and connection into your own love life!Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I sit down with Chloe Hechter, a Jewish influencer whose hilarious TikTok content has taken the internet by storm. But behind the viral videos, Chloe shares what it’s really like to date as a public figure—from painfully awkward first dates to the challenge of finding someone who sees past her online persona.Here’s what we dive into:✔️ The worst first date of Chloe’s life (trust me, you’ll cringe!)✔️ My Five Date Challenge—can it help her find real connection?✔️ Why dating as a Jewish influencer in NYC is way more complicated than you’d think✔️ The search for a deep, intellectual partner who’s more into books than TikTokIf you’ve ever struggled with dating in a digital world—or just want some juicy dating stories—you need to hear this one.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I share my journey—from Jewish Matchmaking on Netflix to real-world impact—and the power of community-driven matchmaking. I’m joined by Danielle Selber from Tribe 12, a Philadelphia-based Jewish nonprofit that has successfully integrated matchmaking into its offerings.We dive into:💡 How our matchmaking careers evolved🤝 The importance of community support in dating🔄 How societal shifts are shaping today’s relationships❌ Common dating deal breakers and how to navigate them🎧 Listen now! "The Power of Community Matchmaking & the Future of Jewish Dating"Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I welcome back Remy and Jonathan, married for just over four years. Remy, host of You're Allowed to Hate Your Husband.We explore quantum physics, manifestation, and positive thinking as real, practical tools for life and relationships. Jonathan brings in the power of faith and gratitude, showing how showing up positively attracts more blessings. Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, Pam Wisnitzer shares her journey as a 39-year-old navigating love and relationships in New York City. We explore breaking free from societal timelines, making time for intentional dating, and reimagining what family can look like. 🎧 Tune in for an honest, empowering conversation about modern dating and the search for something real.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

Is it ever too late to find love? Absolutely not! In this episode, renowned makeup artist Laura Geller shares her experience stepping into the world of online dating at 66. Laura also reflects on her incredible career, her passion for beauty, and what she hopes the future holds—both in love and beyond.🎧 Tune in for a heartfelt and entertaining conversation about love, reinvention, and embracing new beginnings.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode I catch up with Harmonie from Jewish Matchmaking for an exclusive post-show update! She shares surprising news about one of her matches—while opening up about her own dating journey, personal growth, and pursuit of motherhood.Also, guess who’s now a matchmaker! You won’t believe who she’s working for.✨Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, I sit down with Becky Tahel—award-winning content creator—to talk about love, identity, and the transition from ‘me’ to ‘we.’ We explore how her sister’s interfaith marriage sparked a deep personal transformation, shaping her views on relationships, marriage, and family.Want to build a strong, lasting relationship? We share tips on making intentional choices, creating meaningful traditions, and keeping the spark alive—yes, date nights matter!🎧 Tune in now for practical advice and inspiration!Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom introduces Remy and Jonathan Stern, a couple married for four years with a truly unique love story. Remy is the host of the podcast You're Allowed to Hate Your Husband: A Modern Day Love Story. They discuss their unconventional beginnings, how Jonathan's admiration for Remy went beyond his "typical type," and the evolution of their relationship.Remy also reveals a secret that she never told Jonathan! Together, they delve into the importance of personal growth, realistic expectations, and sustaining individuality within marriage. Tune in for a heartfelt, humorous, and insightful conversation on modern love and what it takes to build a lasting relationship.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom steps into the world of matchmaking with Kami Salman, a 28-year-old opera singer whose Israeli roots and love for tradition shape her journey to find lasting love. From New York’s vibrant energy to Philadelphia’s potential matches, Kami shares her experiences in dating, the significance of shared values, and how her priorities shifted after October 7th.Join Aleeza and Kami as they delve into the intricacies of modern relationships, navigating cultural alignment, and overcoming the unique challenges of creating harmony in love. With insights from Kami’s social media polls and deeply personal reflections, this episode uncovers what it truly takes to find a meaningful match.✨ Don’t forget to check out Aleeza’s NEW book, Matchmaker Matchmaker: Find Me a Love That Lasts! ✨Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

Looking to find love? In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom & Rabbi Yisroel Bernath talk about what a matchmaker really is and the importance of one! Did you know a matchmaker doesn't necessarily have to be a professional? You can even be your own matchmaker. Rabbi Yisroel Bernath also breaks down the three key components of a successful matchmaker: an introducer, a mentor, and a fixer.1) The definition of a matchmaker 2) The three parts of a matchmaker 3) Whether or not you need to hire a matchmaker.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

On this week's episode, your expert dating coaches, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss if physical appearance should really be the determining factor in your dating life. Stop basing your expectations on movies and understand what real-life dating is all about. To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastSupport the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this enlightening episode of the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath dive deep into the core reasons and behaviors that make a relationship happy for a lifetime. Rabbi Bernath passionately argues that trust is the bedrock of any lasting relationship, though it’s not always identifiable at the start. Trust must be built over time through small, consistent acts that demonstrate reliability and integrity.Aleeza brings a unique perspective, suggesting that kindness, while important, could be replaced by another crucial element. She highlights the importance of giving, noting that love flourishes when partners engage in selfless acts, leading to a deeper understanding and connection. Both Aleeza and Rabbi Bernath agree that curiosity is essential for continuous growth and learning in a relationship, as staying curious about each other fosters a dynamic and evolving bond.Join Aleeza and Rabbi Bernath as they explore these foundational elements of a happy, lifelong partnership. They invite you to share your thoughts on what you think the root of trust is by sending a voice note on their socials or dropping a message on their website.Watch the Episode: Catch the video version of this insightful conversation on Aleeza’s YouTube channel: Watch Now.Need Expert Advice? Got burning questions about dating and relationships? Visit MatchmakerMatchmaker.org to submit your queries. Your question might be featured in a future episode!Bonus Resource: For more dating wisdom, download a free copy of Aleeza’s book, Get Real, Get Married, available at MatchmakerMatchmaker.org.Tune in for a mix of wisdom, wit, and practical advice that will help you navigate the journey of love and relationships.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

Get ready for another exciting episode of "Matchmaker Matchmaker," featuring Netflix's own Aleeza Ben Shalom and the dynamic "Love Rabbi," Rabbi Yisroel Bernath! This week, they dive into the intriguing question: "What's the difference between a good guy and a kind guy?"Aleeza and Rabbi Bernath reveal that a good guy isn't just nice—he's also fun, engaging, and genuinely interested in getting to know people. In contrast, a kind guy is simply polite and agreeable, but may lack that engaging spark.Don't miss the video version of this insightful discussion at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos. Got a burning question for a future episode? Submit it at www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastWatch Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom welcome back Janine to share another wild and unexpected tale from her dating adventures. This time, Janine recounts a bizarre experience with a man she met online who made an unbelievable claim about having a glass eye, only to later reveal it was a joke. The trio talks about the importance of honesty and humor in the dating world, exploring where the line should be drawn.Key Takeaways:The Importance of Honesty: Trust is crucial in any relationship. Janine's story shows how a lack of honesty can quickly become a deal-breaker.Understanding Humor in Dating: Humor can be a great ice-breaker, but it's important to know where to draw the line. Jokes that are misleading or confusing can harm a budding relationship.Communication is Key: Clear and open communication helps avoid misunderstandings. Janine's experience highlights how miscommunication can lead to awkward and uncomfortable situations.Red Flags and Gut Feelings: Trust your instincts. Janine noticed several "orange flags" but was willing to overlook them until the glass eye incident. Recognizing and acting on red flags can save time and emotional energy.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this week's episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom are joined by a regular listener Janine, who shares a humorous and perplexing dating experiences that highlight the complexities of modern relationships. The trio explores the boundaries of friendship between men and women, the importance of clear communication, and the persistence often found in romantic pursuits.Key Points:Crazy Dating Stories: Janine shares her personal experiences with a longtime friend who repeatedly tries to turn their friendship into a romantic relationship, despite her clear rejections.Clear Communication: The episode emphasizes the importance of direct communication in dating, illustrated by Janine's bold approach of telling her friend she would "vomit" if he flirted with her.Persistence vs. Stalking: The discussion delves into the fine line between being persistent and becoming a stalker, with insights on when men should recognize and respect a clear 'no'.Friend Zone Dynamics: They examine whether men and women can truly have platonic friendships, especially when one party has romantic feelings, concluding that it often leads to misunderstandings and complications.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom discuss a listener's question about how to inspire couples to get engaged and married quicker, reflecting on personal experiences and cultural trends. The discussion the topic of marriage timelines and societal perceptions of marriage. They also talk about the challenges and benefits of marriage, emphasizing the importance of positive messaging and community support.Key Points:Current Trends in Marriage: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom talk about how getting married has become less popular, with many people focusing on careers and personal goals first.Being Positive Role Models: They emphasize the need for married couples to share the good parts of their marriages openly. This can help inspire others to see marriage as a positive and worthwhile step.Balancing Challenges and Benefits: The discussion covers both the challenges and the benefits of marriage, including practical perks like tax breaks and the personal growth that comes from having a life partner.Changing the Conversation: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom plan to create and spread positive messages about marriage to counter the negative ones often seen in media. They believe this can help change how people think about getting married.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath talk about a listener's question about the unique challenges of dating as a middle-aged Jew in the rural South. Rachel, a listener from Virginia, shares her experience of connecting with another Jewish divorcee from North Carolina and the complexities of their new relationship. Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss the pressures of long-distance relationships, the difficulty of finding Jewish partners in small communities, and the importance of giving potential relationships a fair chance despite geographical and social hurdles. They also invite Rachel and her match to share their journey on the podcast.Key Points:Long-Distance Relationship Dynamics: The hosts talk about the intensity and challenges that come with long-distance dating, including managing communication and expectations.Scarcity of Jewish Partners in Small Towns: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath explore the pressure of dating within a limited Jewish community and the fear of settling due to a lack of options.Importance of Real Connections: They stress the need to tell the difference between feeling forced into a relationship due to limited options and recognizing a genuine connection.Giving Relationships a Fair Chance: The hosts suggest a "five date challenge" to allow time for a real connection to develop before making a final decision and highlight the potential blessings in having fewer dating options.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom tackle a big question from a listener named Shoshana, who has been single for ten years and is struggling to understand why finding a life partner is so hard. The discussion looks at both the spiritual and practical sides of finding a match, exploring the balance between divine intervention and free will. Rabbi Yisroel Bernath emphasizes that the challenge of finding a soulmate is part of God's plan and talks about how time and effort in relationships are crucial for their longevity and success.Key Points:Divine Intervention and Free Will: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath explains that while God is involved in matchmaking, humans also have free will, which means the process requires their active participation and decision-making.The Importance of Effort: Both hosts agree that the difficulty in finding a partner is intentional, designed to make individuals value and work hard for their relationships, ensuring they are cherished and maintained.Multiple Potential Soulmates: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom discuss the idea that there isn't just one perfect soulmate for each person; several individuals could potentially fulfill that role, which can alleviate some pressure and open more possibilities.Practical Advice and Hope: The episode concludes with practical advice, such as Aleeza Ben Shalom's "Mystery in Your History" course, which helps individuals re-evaluate past connections, and a hopeful message encouraging patience and perseverance in the journey to find a life partner.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath answer a question from Judith, a widow in her 50s. Judith notices that many divorced men she meets blame their failed marriages on their ex-wives' emotional issues, which they say come from being raised by Holocaust survivors. The episode looks into whether this is a real pattern or just an excuse. Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath also talk about how the Holocaust affects later generations. They give Judith and others advice on dating.Key Points:Recurring Theme in Divorce Reasons: Judith sees that many divorced men say their ex-wives are emotionally unavailable because of their Holocaust survivor parents.Holocaust's Lingering Impact: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath explains how the trauma from the Holocaust can affect the children of survivors, shaping their emotional and relationship issues.Pattern Recognition and Self-Reflection: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath suggest that Judith think about why she sees this pattern and how her own background might play a role.Advice for Change: They recommend that Judith try dating outside her usual community to find someone who is emotionally available and a good match.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

Join us for another episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker where your hosts, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath dive into a heartfelt query from Yosef, who is facing the challenge of unrequited love with a friend. The episode explores the delicate balance of maintaining a friendship while dealing with romantic feelings that aren't reciprocated.Key Points:Respecting the Friend's Decision: Aleeza Ben Shalom stresses the importance of respecting the friend's feelings and decision to remain just friends, highlighting how essential it is to honor these boundaries.Timing for Reapproaching: Aleeza Ben Shalom advises waiting at least six months before considering to express feelings again, suggesting a gentle approach to see if the dynamics might have changed, without applying pressure.The Importance of Moving On: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath emphasizes the necessity for Yosef to focus on moving forward, recommending that he explore other romantic possibilities instead of waiting for his friend’s feelings to change.Taking Time for Self-Reflection: Both hosts agree on the benefits of Yosef taking some time away from the friendship if needed, to mitigate emotional pain and to make space for new, reciprocative relationships.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath respond to a listener who is struggling with self-criticism after a past relationship. They discuss the importance of forgiving oneself and using mistakes as learning opportunities for better future relationships. The conversation offers practical advice on personal growth and emotional recovery post-breakup.Key Points:Normalizing Mistakes: Aleeza points out that making mistakes is a common part of all human interactions. She likens it to how children stumble when learning to walk, illustrating that errors are essential for personal development.Timing of Conversations: Aleeza Ben Shalom shares a personal tip about managing emotions during conflicts. She advises waiting until you're calm to discuss sensitive topics to ensure the conversation is constructive.Shared Responsibility: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath highlights that problems in relationships are usually not one-sided. Recognizing that both partners may contribute to issues can alleviate unnecessary self-blame.Constructive Reflection: They offer advice on how to reflect on past errors effectively, which includes stopping negative behaviors, expressing regret, clearly stating intentions for change, and making plans for improvement.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss the challenges people face when dating after a divorce. They offer advice on dealing with public perception, the best time to share your divorce history, and learning from past relationships to improve future ones. This conversation provides practical tips for those looking to find love again.Key Points:Stigma Around Divorce: Aleeza Ben Shalom explains that being divorced is more accepted today than before. She suggests that having been married shows you're serious about relationships, which can be a plus when dating again.When to Share About Divorce: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath talk about the right time to tell someone you're dating that you've been divorced. They emphasize being honest and confident about your past.Learning from the Past: It's important to reflect on previous relationships and understand what you can do better. Knowing what went wrong helps you prepare for a better relationship next time.Owning Your Story: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath encourage taking responsibility for your part in a past relationship ending. They say this shows maturity and can make you more attractive to potential partners.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

This week, your hosts tackle the listener's question about the meaning and implications of requesting a "phone break" in a relationship. Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss various scenarios and motives behind such a request, providing insights into communication dynamics in modern relationships. In this episode, they cover:Understanding the Request: Exploring what a "phone break" could signify, whether it's a need for space, a sign of feeling overwhelmed, or a desire to shift the mode of communication.Assessing Relationship Intensity: How frequent and intense communication can lead to one partner feeling smothered, prompting the need for a break.Positive vs. Negative Implications: Discussing when a phone break might be healthy and necessary for personal processing, versus when it might signal deeper issues within the relationship.Navigating the Break: Strategies for effectively communicating about the break, setting clear expectations and timelines, and ensuring both partners are on the same page to maintain relationship health.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

Welcome to another episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast where your hosts, Jewish dating experts Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath, discuss this week's listeners' question: 'What do you do when a girl doesn't want you But you know, she loves you?' They break down emotional dilemmas, historical perspectives on marriage, and the practical aspects needed beyond love to build a sustainable relationship.Key Points Discussed:Discussion on why love might not be sufficient for marriage, emphasizing compatibility and shared life paths.Exploring how the concept of marrying solely for love is a relatively modern development, contrasting with historical reasons such as financial or social advantages.The importance of aligning on life goals, values, and personal habits is discussed as essential alongside love for a healthy marriage.Evaluating whether love itself can sustain a marriage and what other elements are crucial for a lasting partnership.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

Welcome back to another episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker Podcast. On this week's episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss the complexities of physical attraction in dating and relationships. They go into the question of what to do when someone attempts to set you up with a person who is considered a great match, but you don't find them physically attractive. Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath explore the nuances of this situation and provide insights on how to approach it.Key Points:The Importance of Physical Attraction: Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the significance of physical attraction in relationships, acknowledging its role while also exploring its limitations.Handling "Hard No" Situations: The hosts provide advice on how to navigate situations where there is an immediate lack of physical attraction and when it's appropriate to decline a potential match outright.Giving It a Chance: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath share anecdotes and examples of instances where initial lack of physical attraction evolved after giving the relationship a chance, emphasizing the value of getting to know someone beyond their appearance.Patience and Decision-Making: The episode concludes with a blessing for patience and wisdom, underscoring the importance of taking time to make the right decision after a few dates and allowing both the heart and mind to align.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

Join us this week on "Matchmaker Matchmaker" as Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss trust in relationships. They explore the time it takes to establish trust, the link between commitment and the growth of trust, and the impact of personal insecurities and past traumas on trust-building. Throughout the episode, they share practical perspectives, stressing the importance of open communication to navigate challenges related to trust. Tune in to unravel the layers of trust and its pivotal role in the journey of love and commitment.Key Points:Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath emphasize the time it takes to develop trust, highlighting that true trust often takes years to develop, as supported by research findings.Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the correlation between commitment and the growth of trust, emphasizing that trust evolves with the level of commitment within the relationship.The impact of personal insecurities and past traumas on the timeline for establishing trust is addressed, with the hosts stressing the importance of open communication to navigate these challenges.Throughout the episode, practical perspectives are shared, shedding light on the significance of consistency, reliability, vulnerability, and personal integrity in building trust within relationships.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

Welcome back to another episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, where Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss whether women fall in love faster than men. They challenge this common assumption, sharing personal stories and emphasizing the importance of clear communication in relationships. The hosts also touch on the role of matchmakers in guiding relationship milestones and share insights into surprise proposals.Key Points:Challenging Traditional Assumptions: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath question the belief that women fall in love faster than men, offering personal stories that challenge this idea.Redefining Love: The hosts advocate for a more intentional and proactive approach to emotional connection, emphasizing growth and mutual understanding over the terminology of "falling in love."The Role of Communication: Stressing the importance of open communication in relationships, the hosts share personal stories to highlight understanding each other's perspectives and preferences.Proposal Insights: Rabbi and Aleeza discuss surprise proposals, emphasizing the significance of understanding individual preferences and the potential role of matchmakers in guiding relationship milestones.Support the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

Join us today on the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast as Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the common doubts and challenges individuals face in finding the right partner. They explore the importance of asking the right questions and reframing the search for love. The conversation also goes into the significance of non-negotiables in relationships and the varied importance of specific traits in different individuals' search for a partner.Key Points:Aleeza and Rabbi emphasize the need to reframe one's mindset from "Is there something wrong with me?" to more proactive inquiries when searching for a partner.The speakers discuss the concept of non-negotiables in relationships, highlighting the difference between essential traits and desirable bonuses in a potential partner.They share insights into recognizing the existence of desired traits in others and the common experiences of individuals who struggle to find someone who embodies the qualities they seek.The discussion also touches on the role of humor and compatibility in relationships, shedding light on the varied importance of specific traits in different individuals' search for a partner.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastSupport the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/

In this episode, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the common scenario of being mistaken for being married and how to respond to such assumptions. They share playful and humorous ways to handle these situations, emphasizing the importance of using humor to break the ice and creating relational opportunities. relationship status.Key Points:Using Humor: Aleeza and Rabbi advocate for responding to assumptions about being married with playful and humorous remarks, utilizing humor to diffuse tension and create a lighthearted interaction.Relational Opportunities: The hosts emphasize the abundance of relational opportunities in everyday life, from nonverbal interactions to casual conversations, highlighting the potential for unexpected connections in daily encounters.Embracing Playfulness: They encourage listeners to embrace humor and playfulness in responding to assumptions, viewing such moments as opportunities for engagement and connection.Positive Responses: Aleeza and Rabbi stress the importance of responding in a way that promotes positivity and opens the door to potential connections, emphasizing the value of seizing relational opportunities in various interactions.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/PodcastSupport the showContact Aleeza Ben Shalom https://marriagemindedmentor.com/Contact Rabbi Yisroel Bernath https://www.theloverabbi.com/Submit a Question for the Matchmaker, Matchmaker Podcast https://marriagemindedmentor.com/podcast/