Morning Show for Managers with Plamen Petrov Podcast

Understand Others Before They Understand You | Episode 033"Two monologues do not make a dialogue."Jeff DalyThe title of this topic may seem a bit anti-intuitive to managers who are constantly in a hurry and want to be understood. They hurry with the best of intentions - just to get the job done and to feel the adrenaline of speed and achievement.But 100% of the results in your team only happen through people. There is no other way. Nothing happens by itself. And these people, before giving in to their work, must first feel accepted, heard, seen, and be aware of the goals and priorities. Only then can they focus their attention and energy on achieving the goals.A good metaphor for this topic is when you squat before jumping. Before you jump, there is a moment of stabilization, squatting and only then bouncing. This jump stabilization is equal to your understanding of the people on the team with whom you are about to accomplish your goals. And only then, their understanding of your vision.To build a bridge between your vision and its fulfillment, you will inevitably need a team to help you. Not a team to bother you. Sometimes teams naturally hinder and sabotage their managers. This is a normal reaction when people feel they are used as consumables.This does not mean that managers view them as easily replaceable parts. But that may be the feeling of the people, and that feeling depends only on them. We must make some change if this feeling of consumables proves to be chronic.It is up to the manager not to ignore this sabotage by the team, hoping it will work out on its own. It is just a symptom of something that needs to be fixed. It can be a broken process that frustrates people. It can be the increasing pressure to do more with less. Or it could just be that people are not in the right places anymore and need job rotation.The state in which you have the right people in the right places is always temporary.It is only a matter of time before there is a change in the external environment, in the people on the team, or yourself. In other words, to have the right people in the right places, you will also need to have the right expectation that this configuration will be rearranged. To get this configuration - to have the right people in the right places, you must first be in the mode of listening, exploring, and getting to know each other. In short - in mode to understand them. And only then do they understand you.Once people move towards their goals, the fuel for their movement is in them. Unlike gas station fuel, the fuel that drives most of the people on the teams is free. This, of course, does not mean that they work for free. That means something else. The fuel that usually drives and energizes the people in the teams for a long time is free because it takes the form of:- Feeling that someone else cares about people as people, not just as positions;- Having a sense of belonging;- Taking pride in the work;- Having clear priorities;All the above are completely free. They give energy and meaning to the people in the teams.In this list, the emotional elements are a little more than the rational ones. And they are in this sequence. When discussing engagement and motivation, managers switch mainly to a rational mindset - how to evaluate and compare performance, what the bonus system is, and so on. But people are driven much more by emotional than by rational factors.And all these things that form the free fuel (feeling that someone else cares, pride in work, etc.), will not appear by themselves. They will emerge from people's communication with their managers. If these managers have the attitude to understand first, things happen very easily and naturally. Refueling with this free fuel, however, is not a one-time exercise. This charge also does not coincide with the monthly and quarterly job and career conversations. These conversations may go according to plan but refueling requires a different daily effort.No one fills their car at the gas station, only at the moment when they run out of fuel. But that's exactly what managers do with their teams. They think of them as people, not positions, only after they run out of fuel. Only when they are already on the verge of burnout.If you think that with monthly meetings or with such meetings in two weeks you can have and manage a team, you soon realize that you do not have a team. You just have people who report to you. But in reality - you do not have a team. Simply because you cannot know your people well if you do not keep up with them regularly for the operational and strategic goals.---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He---Book "Barriers to Change - How Managers Overcome Them Together with Their Teams" - https://amzn.to/2Qi8qGP

Jul 24, 2022

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Acceptance Without Giving Up | Episode 032

Acceptance Without Giving Up | Episode 032"If you have the determination to do something, it is done."ConfuciusImagine teaching a young boy how to ride a bike. The boy will hesitate, sway, and probably will fall many times over. However, you will not tell him he would never learn how to bike. You will accept his temporary failures, but you will not give up teaching him.Acceptance means that you follow the pace of the child and accept his speed of learning and development. And again - without giving up and without resigning from teaching him. You do not resign, simply because temporary failures are just that - temporary. Grit, perseverance, and discipline will help the child learn how to ride a bike. Just like any other adult has learned.But what happens in teams when people go through their temporary setbacks?Often their managers do not accept them. They do not accept failures; they do not accept people with temporary failures. One reason that this happens is that managers confuse acceptance with giving up. Acceptance is the ground on which new skills and confidence grow. If there is no acceptance, it is like planting wheat in an asphalt parking lot and waiting for something to sprout.What happens when there is no acceptance?When there is no acceptance, there are accusations, condemnation, and abdication. From the ground of accusations and condemnation raise fears, insecurities, and a desire to quit. No reasonable manager wants to develop these feelings in his people. However, they are emerging precisely because of managers who do not find the right way to create the right ground.As a manager, you accept others' failures because of you. Not because of somebody else. You need this healthy selfishness, so you do not take on the role of the martyr who helps, supports, and helps everyone to feel good and enough. No. The direct and immediate benefits of acceptance are for the other party - it receives encouragement, experience, and confidence. But the indirect and long-term benefits are for the accepting managers who do not give up.---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He---Book "Barriers to Change - How Managers Overcome Them Together with Their Teams" - https://amzn.to/2Qi8qGP

Jul 10, 2022

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Dirty Yes | Episode 031

Dirty Yes | Episode 031 "Never prefer your personal stupidity to someone else's useful advice."SocratesThere is a phrase that illustrates a formal agreement, but also an actual disagreement in the team communication. I call it "dirty yes." Managers who chronically get such a "dirty yes" in their teams and wonder what is the reason for it, do not need to blame other people. They simply need to look in the mirror.One of the first reasons for this "dirty yes" to be so widespread is that the managers themselves give it to their teams. They promise resources they cannot provide. They guarantee rewards for which they have no authority. And finally, they make commitments to their managers to impossible goals and then impose them on their teams.Let us use a specific example. Imagine working with about 200 other people on one floor in an open space environment. At the beginning of the winter, you decide with some other managers to introduce a policy in which people must leave their coats in the wardrobes at the entrance. The purpose of this is to create a comfortable working environment for all 200 people. Not to turn work chairs into sources of any odors, not to have piles of scarves, hats, and any other winter accessories. All managers in the meeting agree with the rule and promise to introduce it on the same day. However, some managers, who are far from the entrance and the wardrobes, know that their teams will resist the rule and will probably not follow it. During the meeting, the managers give their "dirty yes" to all other managers. They agree because they do not want to admit that they cannot ensure the implementation of the rule, but they do not ask for an exception for their teams.At some point, the large accumulation of such a "dirty yes" can create an environment in which people have the feeling that they are constantly swimming in a river of hypocrisy. But in any team, hypocrisy cannot last long without the "help" of the manager of that team - with his actions or inactions.There are two main types of "dirty yes":- In good faith - people use it purposefully to achieve a better goal for their teams.- Malicious - people use it when they deliberately sabotage their colleagues or managers because they know that their mini-failure will be an even greater failure for someone else they want to harm.Naturally, the team is always a reflection of its manager. Almost every manager uses the "dirty yes" with the best of intentions, which, however, manifest in negative effects on the team.The antidote to this "dirty yes" is full transparency and the creation of a safe psychological space for people to express thoughtful disagreement - in all directions of the organizational chart. Especially in the northern direction.This "dirty yes" can be part of the corporate culture in places where people are more diplomatic, often agree, and rarely fulfill their commitments. Here, this phenomenon is just part of the unwritten rules. But everyone knows them and organizes their work according to them. Then the drama is not that bad.It is more complicated when this "dirty yes" is not part of the company culture, but it is a part of the personal professional culture of some managers. In these cases, people who have to work with such colleagues will go through a period of adaptation and finding an appropriate approach to work. It is important in this case that managers are not tempted to "fix" others and try to change them. Simply because it is impossible. The right strategy here is to manage the agreements with these people more precisely and on a more frequent basis so that the presence of "dirty yes" becomes visible in time.---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He---Book "Barriers to Change - How Managers Overcome Them Together with Their Teams" - https://amzn.to/2Qi8qGP

Jul 5, 2022

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Silos + Micromanagement = Ineffectiveness | Episode 030

Silos + Micromanagement = Ineffectiveness | Episode 030In the usual speeches when starting a change, managers almost always use the same slogans: "Let's become more flexible, faster, more proactive." Naturally, this contrasts the current silos, internal bureaucracy, and suffocating micromanagement, in which 40-year-old experts explain themselves as students to their managers about how they allocate their time for the day. Silo thinking in managers occurs when, in a matrix structure, the achievement of the department's goals is placed in front of the achievement of the company's goals. For example, closing sales on paper is more important for sales managers than timely production and delivery. Or it is more important and comfortable for the production units to wait for the delayed materials than to look for suitable substitutes and ensure the shipment according to the initially agreed term with the clients. It can happen that instead of seeing and satisfying the greatest need of the client at the moment, the department managers waste time proving to each other who did not do their job on time. So they keep their backs at the department level, but they lose their reputation at the company level. There is nothing illogical in this self-sabotaging behavior of managers. It is a natural response to the way they are managed. They are probably micromanaged. 1) In which areas do you win battles at the departmental level but lose the war at the company level?2) How do you "contribute" to the formation of silos not only in the company but also in the teams themselves? 3) What is the painful change that you are postponing, but you know will be beneficial for your team?---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He---Book "Barriers to Change - How Managers Overcome Them Together with Their Teams" - https://amzn.to/2Qi8qGP

Apr 25, 2021

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Managers, Not Companies, Take Risks | Episode 029

Managers, Not Companies, Take Risks | Episode 029Companies do not take risks. Individual managers in these companies take risks. Most people will hide under their desks when they need to take a chance that could cost them their job and career so far in the company. This fear naturally leads these same people to be preoccupied with trivial things that are hard to go wrong with. Over time this creates an avalanche of redundant processes, procedures, and inefficiencies. There is a paradox in which people are very busy, but, they do not have enough time. This is mainly due to people's tendency to engage in pseudo-busyness to feel needed in their work. Changes are needed to stop pseudo-busyness. Changes require risk-taking. Again, companies do not take risks. Only a few managers will take risks that can cost them their jobs. Every company grows because it solves specific problems for its customers. Over the years bureaucratic managers' interest has shifted to solving more of their own internal issues instead of clients' ones. But the appeal of outstanding managers remains on solving customer problems. What do you risk when you do not make bold risks?---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He---Book "Barriers to Change - How Managers Overcome Them Together with Their Teams" - https://amzn.to/2Qi8qGP

Apr 18, 2021

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Performance Problem = Leadership Problem | Episode 028

Performance Problem = Leadership Problem | Episode 028Let's start with the thesis that managers' primary responsibilities are to do everything possible for their teams to have excellent performance, regardless of whether they work in a change and transformation mode or normal conditions. It follows that if there is a problem with someone's performance, we have a leadership problem. Therefore, to improve team performance, leadership should be adjusted and improved in the first place. The outstanding individual performance is nothing but a function of outstanding leadership. Let's get political for a while. An even more understandable example in this direction is that if there is a problem with the representation of a minister in a government, the real problem is in the manager of that minister, i.e., in the prime minister. In city centers, people quickly identify where the real problem is in the government's representation and start protesting (in the prime minister, not in the civil servants). Things are not so clear in the company "governments." There is a tendency to explain poor performance by people's shortcomings rather than by the leader's weaknesses. The unsatisfactory performance of people in the teams is not explained by the fact that managers are constantly changing their priorities, fail to control their emotions, get distracted and forget about commitments that fall on their teams at the last moment of implementation, and conflicts arise. Weak managers explain their poor team performance by saying that the material is terrible, just like BB explains it. There are too many common parallels between poor government and poor corporate leadership. The most common thing is that there are accusations against others instead of looking at their own mistakes. This behavior is somewhat normal because all five of our physical senses are directed outward to assess the external environment. We have only one inner sense to evaluate our own actions. It doesn't function for everyone. It is everyone's conscience.---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He---Book "Barriers to Change - How Managers Overcome Them Together with Their Teams" - https://amzn.to/2Qi8qGP

Apr 13, 2021

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Barriers to Change | Episode 027

Barriers to Change | Episode 027 Several significant internal barriers face any change at the individual and team levels.The first barrier is the lack of clarity. The mistake that managers often make here is to assume that their minds' clarity is the same as the clarity in the other people's minds on their teams. Overcoming this mistake is achieved by simplifying the message and using the most straightforward possible language, full of understandable pictures and metaphors. For example, suppose changes are being made to synchronize processes between different departments, instead of explaining the goals and purpose in dozens of slides packed with numbers and calculations. In that case, it is much easier to explain the memo in a simple message - "We make a change, so we can all row in one direction." Short and clear. To row in one direction, we must all see it first. Second, we need to get to work. Nothing more.The second barrier is the lack of focus. Once the purpose and steps of the change have been clarified, it is time to make it happen. At this stage, there is nothing more confusing than the frequent change of priorities. Overcoming this barrier is achieved by clearly defining who is doing what by when. And daily alignment of this focus.The third barrier to change is inertia and the comfort zone. People feel safe when they know what they are doing and have done it many times. This protects them from mistakes and saves them energy. But only when the external environment does not change. In large companies, it is possible to form remote islands of comfort zones simply because external dynamic change does not reach these inland islands. The way to get out of inertia and the comfort zone is by bringing these people closer to the changes taking place in the external environment.The fourth barrier is the natural resistance that occurs when change is imposed from the outside by force. Here we cannot help but draw an analogy with Newton's third law, which states: "For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction." Except for the world of physics, I think that this law also works in teams.Let's look at the situation with the coronavirus. Any average person would agree that walking in the park and hanging out with random people at that time is not a good idea. Almost no one will go for a walk independently and take a risk if they realize what that risk is. But when someone outside forbids walking in the park, that ban creates natural resistance because it is imposed outside by force. We do not react to the health restriction and protection against the virus, but to the restriction of our right to choose where to take a walk.Something similar happens in teams when they are about to go through some organizational changes. Even if these changes lead to something better, they will enjoy people's natural resistance and Newton's third law in a team environment if they are imposed by force from outside.This fourth barrier can be summarized by the conclusion that people are not against change but are against someone else trying to change them. Overcoming this barrier can happen by integrating people's opinions before the change itself begins. At the same time, it can increase people's involvement in its implementation. It can also improve the way it is executed by avoiding pitfalls that are probably not visible to everyone. They are not particularly visible to managers, who may look at things from above and have no real idea of what is happening at the different company levels.The fifth barrier to change is the fear of the unknown. This fear can be beneficial, as it can prevent us from taking unhealthy risks. But this is only valid if we observe our anxiety and use it as a warning tool in decision-making. If, instead of us managing this fear, it seats in the driver's seat - something else happens - we find ourselves where the fear itself will take us in the worst-case scenario. It is only natural in this case that we have no desire to take action for change.The fifth barrier can be overcome by objectively looking at the different change scenarios - optimistic, realistic, and pessimistic. Then, the fear of the unknown gives way to something with denser contours, such as a plan of action with concrete measures to go through change.There are undoubtedly many other barriers that block change at the individual and team levels. What can be useful in realizing or going through change is to stop the forced pressure, the abrupt and emotional change of priorities, the constant exchange of arguments why the change should happen, and the pursuit of deadlines.Instead of forcing and pushing, one can stop and pay attention to the real barriers blocking change at the moment.      1) What is the most significant barrier to change for you? 2) Who is responsible for removing the barriers to change in your team? ---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He---Book "Barriers to Change - How Managers Overcome Them Together with Their Teams" - https://amzn.to/2Qi8qGP

Mar 28, 2021

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5

Nostalgia Hinders Change | Episode 026

Nostalgia Hinders Change | Episode 026 One thing that can stop the wheel of change is nostalgia. There is such a mind trap, in which we remember all the wonderful moments from the past. In the present and the forthcoming change, we see mostly the negative ones. There is a term for this. It's called "declinism." It is a compensatory mechanism of our mind to deal with the present by idealizing the past. This creates a sense of stability from the past. But there is also the negative side effect of artificially sweetened nostalgia.   The emergence of nostalgia for the old days in the teams means two things:   1) People are already of pre-retirement age;   2) People are bored at work. The work environment is the same. There are no working incentives to engage. That doesn't mean there's no enough work. On the contrary. There is a lot of work, but monotonous one;   If both things are combined - people are elderly, and their work is monotonous, it is only natural that the people are nostalgic about the past. Hence the resistance to change. Junior managers may think that making changes in such cases is done with firing people. This is a quick but not sustainable solution. Sustainable change in teams does not happen with a change OF people, but with a change IN people. The fast firing of people is more of a sign of managers' leadership deficits. Of course, there are exceptions. The next question is: "What can bring about a change in people to bring about a change in companies?". The answer is a little above in the text. We cannot change the age of people. But the incentives for change in work can change. From there, to change the attitude towards change.   1) What is the healthy relationship between nostalgia and fantasy?   2) What do you need to change to maintain a healthy relationship between nostalgia and fantasy? First in yourself? Then in the team?  ---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He

Mar 21, 2021

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Change Support | Episode 025

Change Support | Episode 025The Sioux Indians say that even the best warrior cannot lift the smallest stone with one finger. Similarly, in teams, managers are the hinge and the supporting hand that must make sure that the team can lift every stone in the way. To successfully go through change, managers need to provide support to their team with at least three things: 1) Clarity of purpose2) Flexibility in plans3) Transparency in communication The main concerns of people when starting a change are related to uncertainty. The above three things address these concerns precisely by continually reminding the goals, showing flexibility in the plans according to the actual situation, and full transparency about what is happening. These three actions reduce the feeling of insecurity and focus on things that can be controlled. Then, when people feel insecure about change, their instincts will trigger doing the familiar. But faster and with more dedication. This is a mistake.In these moments of change, there is a need for the people in the teams to be comfortable with the discomfort. To begin gradual changes in their actions. Even at the cost of inconvenience. Without being tempted to go back to the old ways of working.Going back to doing things the old way, but faster, harder, and more dedicated, will only sabotage change. It will increase frustration. The typical mistake when communicating during a change is that managers only share when they have good news. This can create a vacuum of uncertainty and confusion when there is a lack of communication for a long time, when "there is nothing to communicate." The truth is that psychological safety is created by creating predictability. Predictability is rendered through regularity in communication - every day.There are three essential things in real estate - location, location, location.There are three essential things in teamwork during a change - communication, communication, communication.    1) On a scale of 1 to 10, how clear are the company goals for you personally? 2) On a scale of 1 to 10, how clear are each team member's goals individually?---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He

Mar 14, 2021

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3

What Determines the Negative Feedback to Be Motivating? | Episode 024

What Determines the Negative Feedback to Be Motivating? | Episode 024           One of the primary motivators of the people in the teams is getting positive feedback. The main demotivator is getting negative feedback. Sometimes, receiving negative feedback can have a strong motivating effect.         The real question here is: What determines if negative feedback is motivating?         Negative feedback is in abundance during change, from clients, colleagues, other managers, etc. So, if managers support their people to use it as a motivator instead of a demotivator, it can significantly affect people's work - both emotionally and rationally.          Some people say that negative feedback can positively affect them if it is given in the right way - well-intentioned, balanced, on time, etc. Others say that any negative feedback has a highly motivating effect if it is provided by a professional or a respected person. Here I think of Dr. House. He almost always points out the poor performance of the people in his team. To this, he adds outright insults, garnished with sarcasm. Despite the constant bombardment of other doctors with negative feedback, Dr. House has a kind of charisma that attracts and keeps people around him. He doesn't keep them until they retire, but he keeps them anyway. It turns out that if people work with a person they respect for their outstanding technical expertise, receiving negative feedback from that expert can be motivating.         In the above two examples, people accept negative feedback as motivating if something from the external environment meets their previous expectations. Here, the feedback is adequately provided, or a respected expert gives it. However, this attitude puts people at a significant disadvantage. One in which they depend on someone else to motivate them. It's like outsourcing your motivation to a third party. Such a party that probably does not care whether or not you are inspired at your work.         Let's return to the source of motivation where it belongs from the very beginning - in the person himself. Not in someone else's expertise. Not in other people's skills for giving feedback. Only in the person himself.         Now, the crucial question becomes a little more guiding. It is:   What in each person turns negative feedback into motivating?         Before you continue reading, take some time to answer this question for yourself.What makes negative feedback motivating is the way one looks at it. Does he see it as external advice on how to improve his work? Or he sees it as an accusation that he is not doing well and is not up for the job. Of course, if it is the first way, things are not taken personally, and one can become even better at what one does. If we look at the feedback in the second way, then any negative feedback will be a reason for self-doubt and excuses.          Here, the good thing is that how a person looks at feedback does not depend on someone else, but only on the person himself. But to look at it requires, first, parking the ego. Then the desire for development. Then, the desire for actual change. Nothing more.         Here is an exercise you can do to accept negative feedback in a motivating way over time. Get negative feedback that applies to your colleagues, regardless if the feedback is written or oral. Take this feedback, which applies to another person, and see which part of it might be valid for you. You know very well that this feedback is not for you. But if you recognize something that may apply to you, it may be an idea for your improvement.         To make the exercise even more interesting, you can get your team together and have everyone give negative feedback to a random colleague on one sheet of paper. Then take all the sheets and shuffle them without seeing their contents. Then, let each person get a sheet of paper that does not apply to him but read it as if it were written just for him. This exercise will help people not to take the negative feedback too personally. But to accept it with desire and willingness to change.          1) Which negative feedback you give to your colleagues is also valid for you?          2) What will change in your daily work if you apply the negative feedback you give others to yourself?---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He  

Mar 7, 2021

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Lack of Empathic Atoms | Episode 023

Lack of Empathic Atoms | Episode 023 Every manager who has passed some personality test knows that he is predisposed to achieve fast results or build relationships with others. No matter the natural preconditions, everyone chooses whether to make a daily effort to work with others during change. Or to stay and work on a lonely island, where there is no need to change and synchronize his work style with others. Here the usual resistance of managers is that they do not want to change. They want other people to adapt to their style of work. If others can't, then it's my way or the highway. The truth is that successful managers neither require anyone else to change nor put on masks to pretend they are someone different. These managers are very aware of who exactly they are. And they support their people to clarify the same for themselves. From this authentic place, they can work great together - united in their differences. Many managers do not have a single natural atom of empathy in their bodies. All the empathic particles they have in their body have been created synthetically in the laboratory conditions of parking the ego and biting their tongue. This requires daily disciplined efforts. But no one said it would be easy. The real problem with teamwork is not that something is difficult. The real problem is that people have expectations for their work to be easy. It is this discrepancy in expectations that creates impatience and irritation. If something is difficult and you expect it to be difficult, the work will go fine. But the dress-up of reality, both for yourself and the team, will always lead to a discrepancy in expectations. And from there to disappointment. These disappointments will cause accusations against others and further discord. Or the same blows can cause self-analysis and integration if there are more empathic atoms in people and the work atmosphere. Whether people will unite or separate in their difficulties and differences does not depend on the challenges and differences. It depends only on those working with these difficulties and on their level of empathy.       What causes natural instead of synthetic empathy in your work?---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He

Feb 28, 2021

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Comfort Zone or Pseudo-Comfort Zone | Episode 022

Comfort Zone or Pseudo-Comfort Zone | Episode 022           The lobster shell does not grow. But the lobsters themselves grow relatively fast in their first year. The only way for lobsters to grow is by discarding their former shell when it is too small for them. Changing the body cover is called molting. Young lobsters shed several times a year, and then usually once a year.         The lobster is highly vulnerable without a hard shell, and the primary way to survive is by hiding under a rock until its new shell hardens. And so on until the next time it grows up enough to throw away the old shell.         The primary pressure for the lobster to change its shell is the significant discomfort of tightening. This discomfort encourages change and growth.         There is no growth without change.         This growth process in lobsters is very similar to the growth process in humans. At one point, the old shell gets tight. Getting out of it is dangerous. But overcoming fears and throwing away the old shell is the only way to grow for lobsters physically. For humans mentally and emotionally.          The immediate pain of the tight shell can become a springboard for change. As long as the pain of the old is less than the pain of the unknown, the change will not happen naturally. Here, paradoxically, the present's inconveniences have turned into a kind of pseudo-comfort zone.         People confuse the real comfort zone in which they feel excellent, and their daily work is a source of joy and energy with the pseudo-comfort zone, where they do not work but endure their work. People delude themselves that things are okay. And so 10, 20, 30 years fade away in the pseudo-comfort zone.         If you are in a real comfort zone where things can't get any better, why would you want to get out of it? Is it because of the poster in your conference room that shows that "magic happens outside the comfort zone"? The real magic happens on the edge of the comfort zone, not entirely out of it. Entirely outside of it, there are the most vocal voices of doubt and fear, which create trauma, not growth.         Stay in the comfort zone with healthy growth, flow, and impatience for the next day. But do not stay in the zone of pseudo-comfort, where there are self-delusion and self-created suffering. ---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability  by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He

Feb 21, 2021

5m

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Guilty Until Proven Innocent | Episode 21

Guilty Until Proven Innocent | Episode 21“It is better to risk saving a guilty person than to condemn an innocent one.”Voltaire The question that helps managers stop blaming others and focus on their own “contribution” to the existence of chronic problems in teams is, “How do I ‘help’ this problem to exist?”. However, in one training session, this question provoked a whole tsunami of anger and irritation in the managers I worked with. In principle, this issue has the effect of a healthy cold shower, but if a person does not want to run cold water on his own, this cold shower has the opposite effect - it can lead to painful results. So it was, in this case, with my cold shower. I flooded the managers with cold water without preparing them in advance for this experience. And, of course - the symptoms of a cold appeared instead of a cheerful refreshment. I then analyzed the situation and realized that people could not make sense of the word in quotation marks - how I was “helping” my problem to exist - because they saw it as a personal accusation that they were not doing their job. They took it that way because in reality, in their work, they receive daily accusations from their managers and clients that they are not doing their job properly. Nobody considers the things they do well. But they are regularly and daily bombarded with accusations they did something wrong. These managers work in an environment where they are guilty until proven otherwise. And they are trying their best to prove just the opposite. Even more so when an outsider “accuses” them of not doing something right. All their ammunition goes into explanations and accusations against some others who have not done their job and thanks to which they cannot do their job. Then, when people work in a “guilty until proven innocent” mode, all their energy will be focused on not making mistakes or defending themselves, instead of looking ahead and taking bold risks. The reasons for creating a culture in which everyone is guilty until proven innocent lie mainly in the tough childhood of the manager who manages the entire team.Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability " by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He

Feb 14, 2021

5m

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Change Support | Episode 025

Change Support | Episode 025 The Sioux Indians say that even the best warrior cannot lift the smallest stone with one finger. Similarly, in teams, managers are the hinge and the supporting hand that must make sure that the team can lift every stone in the way. To successfully go through change, managers need to provide support to their team with at least three things:   1) Clarity of purpose 2) Flexibility in plans 3) Transparency in communication   The main concerns of people when starting a change are related to uncertainty. The above three things address these concerns precisely by continually reminding the goals, showing flexibility in the plans according to the actual situation, and full transparency about what is happening. These three actions reduce the feeling of insecurity and focus on things that can be controlled. Then, when people feel insecure about change, their instincts will trigger doing the familiar. But faster and with more dedication. This is a mistake. In these moments of change, there is a need for the people in the teams to be comfortable with the discomfort. To begin gradual changes in their actions. Even at the cost of inconvenience. Without being tempted to go back to the old ways of working. Going back to doing things the old way, but faster, harder, and more dedicated, will only sabotage change. It will increase frustration. The typical mistake when communicating during a change is that managers only share when they have good news. This can create a vacuum of uncertainty and confusion when there is a lack of communication for a long time, when "there is nothing to communicate." The truth is that psychological safety is created by creating predictability. Predictability is rendered through regularity in communication - every day. There are three essential things in real estate - location, location, location. There are three essential things in teamwork during a change - communication, communication, communication.   1) On a scale of 1 to 10, how clear are the company goals for you personally?   2) On a scale of 1 to 10, how clear are each team member's goals individually?---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He

Feb 14, 2021

5m

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Your Team Is Your Mirror | Episode 020

Your Team Is Your Mirror“You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.”RumiIf you look in the mirror and see that you have spinach between your teeth, you have no chance to remove it if you try to clean the mirror. But that is exactly what many team managers do when they see that they dislike something about their team - they put all their energy into trying to get the spinach out of the mirror. Instead of removing it from their teeth.Instead of rubbing in the mirror or attempting to change others, the proper place where the sustainable change in any team begins is the change in the manager of that team. People rarely really listen to and understand “what we need to change” speeches, but they almost always conform to, or even copy, the behaviors of their leaders. Both positive and negative.Your team is your mirror. If you see something which you dislike in the team, instead of wasting time and energy to rub in the mirror, see what in you causes this reflection. For example, if people start more tasks than they can finish, the question is, “What manager’s behavior triggers this thing?”One reason your people start more tasks than they finish is that you often change your priorities. It is quite easy and quick to say that something else is more important. But it is not so easy and fast to finish the things that have been worked on so far. And so, these things pile up. And when they pile up, there will come a time when people will be overwhelmed. Once they are overwhelmed, they will start dropping the ball. Again, in this case, the question is not why people do not finish their work, but what in the team leader contributes that there are unfinished tasks at all. The specificity of this example does not matter much - the manager can contribute to unfinished tasks with frequent change of priorities, uneven distribution of work, lack of daily calibration, lack of timely feedback loops, etc.More importantly, when reflecting spinach in the mirror, attention to change should be focused on the source of the reflection, not on the reflection itself.---Buy the book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability " by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Buy the book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He

Feb 9, 2021

6m

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Inspiring or Blaming Others | Episode 019

Inspiring or Blaming Others“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”Mahatma Gandhi The natural state of most people when starting a new job is motivation and inspiration. Over time, however, this state changes through the full sinusoidal wave of various other emotional states: confusion, frustration, anger, joy, and disappointment. Then the cycle repeats - motivation, confusion, disappointment, etc.             Although managers do not attend training such as “How to demotivate and how to disappoint my team”, many of them successfully achieve just that - demotivated, frustrated, and semi-engaged teams. The people in these teams, besides laptop backpacks, carry on their shoulders even larger backpacks with complaints and accusations to their managers. The rivers of blaming, sarcasm, and cynicism in the teams usually spring from the offices of their managers. It is in the managerial meetings that there is no sincere understanding of people’s challenges; the focus is entirely on numbers and on what they do not do well. They disguise outright slander about others as jokes. The people outside the room are being called with some strange animal names. Sounds familiar? Managers’ self-irony is convenient insurance against the consequences of their toxic behavior. Over time, the complaints and accusations of the people in the teams transform. The adrenaline of seeking change gives way to a more sluggish presence in the day-to-day operations. Some people go into “I am waiting for somebody to tell me what to do” working mode. Others get on the rails of ticking off only the usual tasks, with zero initiative for something new and something better. People shy away from taking any risks. Busyness is simulated. In idle teams, which simulate busyness daily, time flows differently. The afternoon hours before leaving work feel much longer than the hours in the morning. Although they comprise the same 60 minutes. If you have a team that is passive and does not take responsibility for closing the productivity gaps, of course, this is because of you - the manager of this team. Here are two primary reasons you have a passive team: 1) The first reason is that you notice the apathy of your team to achieve results, but you do not notice your own apathy about the people in your team. Read the previous sentence twice. By your apathy towards the people in your team, I mean: - you do not spend enough time individually with people to get to know what drives them; - you get annoyed and you even get emotional when others share their problems. You perceive their escalations as personal attacks against you for not doing your job well; - you share nothing personal about yourself and wear the mask of the perfectionist; - you do not address the underperformance and do not support the people who need help to get better in their work; - you do not trust your team. You double-check and supervise their daily tasks tightly; - you expect others to have a similar motivation as yours for achieving results or even greater, without being sensitive to the fact that different people have different motivation drivers;   Thus, your inaction towards the people in the team fuels their indifference towards the goals of the team. Your team is your reflection. It simply reflects your vibration. 2) The second reason you have a passive team is that you confuse blaming people with giving feedback. You give feedback only about the things you see that should be improved, without capturing and acknowledging the moments when people achieve or overachieve their targets. This creates a fear of mistakes. The fear of mistakes will lead to the fact that instead of solving their own problems, people will start bringing them to you to solve. And because you want to get the job done quickly, instead of working to increase people’s capacity to solve their problems, you will start working directly with their problems. You will start giving them ready-made solutions. You will give long instructions. Then people will start doing only what you told them to do. Or more precisely, only what they have understood of what you told them. What they understood and what you told them do not always coincide. They rarely coincide. This way you create the preconditions for new disappointments. They will generate new accusations for a job not done well. This will increase the fear of mistakes... and you see that the cycle repeats. Your accusations lead to the creation of a passive team that does not take responsibility. And in the beginning, when people started in the new job position, they were motivated and inspired to do their job well. What has turned the team from motivated to passive is up to you to find out. But this manager’s job is not for everyone. Maybe it is not even for you.---Buy the book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability " by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Buy the book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He

Feb 8, 2021

12m

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Who Is Doing What By When | Episode 018

"When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, do not adjust the goals, adjust the action steps."ConfuciusJust for one day try to finish each team meeting with the following question: "Who is doing what by when?", instead of "Have a nice day". At first, this may increase the duration of your meetings by 5-10 minutes, but over time it will shorten them and will increase their effectiveness.One of the most common cold spots (time-consuming activities with low added value) in management practice are the ineffective meetings. The ones that are carried out with inertia. They involve too many people and they have too vague goals. Is the meeting about gathering ideas? Is it about making a final decision? Is it for presenting a new project? It is not clear.Since the goal of the meeting is not mentioned at the beginning, people act impulsively and offer solutions when the decision has already been made. Or participants are asked to decide based on snippets of information from the meeting without preparing in advance. Or one of the worst cases - the meetings turn into an arena for pointing fingers and blowing off steam for 2-3 hours, without a break.At one point, the workday was almost over, and someone trapped managers in ineffective meetings that only contributed to an increase in their current unfinished business and unanswered emails. If the average duration of an unproductive team meeting is about an hour and at the end of the meeting, you say that someone has wasted your time; it means only one thing. And that is - that you wasted your time. No one can waste your time. You may say that someone wasted 5 minutes at the beginning of an ineffective one-hour meeting. But you wasted the remaining 55 minutes. Not someone else. Not your manager. Not the unprepared organizer of the meeting. You have wasted 55 precious minutes of your life, simply because you have given priority to the unproductive meeting, instead of the actual work that awaits you.But sometimes you are ready for someone else to "waste your time" just because you use that time to "switch off" while you are in the meeting. If you want to use your time at work and not become part of the mass "calendar slavery" then you will take part in meetings over 5 minutes only if these meetings are meaningful and productive. Otherwise, you will never have enough time. It will not be physically possible for you to take part in back-to-back meetings all day long. What is the solution for productive meetings? Two things: 1) The highest possible simplification of the agenda, 2) Clarity at the end of the meeting about this: "Who is doing what by when?"If it is clear what needs to be done, but it is not clear who will do it, the action will most likely be swallowed up by the black hole of collective irresponsibility. If it is clear who and what needs to be done, but no deadline has been set, it will not happen.So, I invite you to close today's meetings not with "Have a nice day", but with "Who is doing what by when?". And only then with "Have a nice day".***Buy the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU

Feb 8, 2021

7m

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The Power of a Positive "NO" | Episode 017

"What can a poet achieve if he is not in pain?" Pain is just as important as the typewriter."Charles BukowskiThe purpose of the following lines is to provoke you to say "NO" to those things or people for whom you have long been postponing saying this "NO" to. So far, you may have been stopped by your good manners and unwillingness to offend or hurt someone else. But in saying "NO" to something, there is a very deep positive force when you know why you say it. This is good not only for you but also for the person on the other side. It is probably good for some third parties as well.Here is a specific example. Let us say your office is an open space with many people working on the same floor. Your desk is near a central corridor or a door, which is passed by dozens or hundreds of people a day. From time-to-time people stop by you, strike up a brief conversation about yesterday's football match, or about Kubrat Pulev's kiss. For them, this is just part of their planned coffee break with a walk and taking coffee from the kitchen area. For you - this is another useless distraction.If you say a positive "NO" to the dozens of unwanted daily distractions, what will be the biggest benefit for you?First, your working hours will be enough. Late nights or early mornings will be the exception rather than the current practice to get the job done. Now, managing the current workload is only possible if you stay up late or come early. The second benefit will be that mistakes in your work will be reduced. You will not have to write and read the same sentence five times because of a lack of good concentration. The third benefit will be that you will probably have some free time left, which you will decide how to use. You, not the surrounding people. You will decide how to use the free minutes instead of the casual office pedestrians.Apart from these undeniable benefits, there are some disadvantages to saying "NO". Some colleagues may be offended that you do not have a normal human attitude to exchange a couple of words with them. Some will think your ego is too big. Others will say you are pretending to be busy. Others will say that you have no friends in the office because you do not talk to anyone outside of meetings.If you put the opinion and approval of others before your desire to do your job without distractions, you will never have enough time.This is not because there are so many tasks. It is simply because you cannot organize yourself well and you cannot concentrate on your current tasks. You cannot say a positive "NO".A positive "NO" is not an oxymoron. It simply suggests that saying "NO" also has many positive effects. Especially if you get the right dose at the right place and with the right people.Now, you may think that you are not using the positive "NO" because of others. So as not to hurt them, so as not to draw wrong conclusions, etc. But in fact, you are not saying a positive "NO" just because of you. Think about it. What if someone gets hurt because you do not have a small talk?If your colleagues are offended because you do not engage in chit chats, what will happen to them when they have a good reason to be offended?Managers are more likely to avoid negative experiences than to pursue positive ones. That is why so many team leaders prefer to avoid social rejection and negative perceptions than to focus on the positive experience of doing their work during working hours. Failure to use the positive "NO" is also the fast track to professional burnout.***The book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CUThe book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/3r5cves

Jan 31, 2021

6m

-6

Thermometer or Thermostat | Episode 016

"It is never too late to be what you might have been."George ElliottThere are two main types of managers - thermometers and thermostats.1) The first type of managers - thermometers - simply show the temperature of the environment in which they work. When the temperature is too high or too low - they just show it on their screens. Nothing more. Temperature, of course, is a metaphor for the energy level at the workplace. If there is a good amount of energy, it means that there is enough of these factors:- Willingness and desire for change, improvement, and development;- Seeking and giving feedback;- Initiative and proactivity;- Motivation and inspiration;2) The second type of managers - thermostats - set what the temperature should be and make it so. The easiest thing in the world is to be in a good mood, to have enthusiasm for work, and to be productive when everyone around you is in a similar state. Then things happen almost by themselves, the entire team is in the so-called "flow" state. If everything worked fine all by itself, there will probably be no need for managers. Here, with or without a thermometer (manager), the team naturally reaches and maintains an internal company homeostasis. Homeostasis is a property of an open system to regulate its internal environment through some regulatory mechanisms. These regulatory mechanisms in an office environment are the managers. They do not create the balance in the system per se, but they help the system to self-regulate through their continuous feedback and steering. This happens when the manager is like a thermostat - he sets the temperature and he makes sure it is at a certain optimal level.Teams do not need thermometer managers - the ones that work only as sensors for the external environment and external problems.Teams need thermostat managers who have the vision of optimal temperature and help teams reach this state of dynamic homeostasis. The characteristic of this homeostasis is that it is dynamic, i.e., if analyzed at the micro-level, there will be a temporary imbalance and perhaps slight creative chaos.From a technical point of view, the thermostat is a device that, with the help of temperature sensors, measures the actual temperature, compares it with a previously set temperature, and adjusts it to the set value. If we continue the analogy for the thermostat manager - first, you need to be clear about what temperature you are aiming for. In the beginning, I listed the things for which this temperature can be a metaphor - energy, proactivity, inspiration, etc. If these are not at the level that is healthy for the team - your job is to do something. For example, to give feedback, to align expectations, and to adjust the workload. Do not just reflect the outside temperature like a thermometer.There are only two things in your work that are within your control: your time and your energy. Both time and energy are the main levers you can use to set the right temperature for the team and yourself.You have a limited amount of time and energy every day. It makes sense to use them carefully. One way some managers do this is by limiting the number of decisions they have to make each day. Thus, they limit the use of their energy and focus on the small number of decisions that have a potentially large positive impact on the business.This can happen by following this rule of thumb: Every decision in the company has to be made at the lowest possible level, for which there is competence and decision-making power. Adherence to this principle reduces duplication of work.Some other important questions to consider:- What is your internal thermostat?- How do you use it?- How do can make sure it works properly?Spend some quality time answering these questions. Then ask your team the same questions. Here you can directly use the Socrates method and turn all the thermometers on your team into thermostats. Starting with yourself.******"Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU***"Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/3iJCYv9

Jan 24, 2021

6m

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Solving Stalemate Situations | Episode 015

"Life, unlike a chessboard, is not always black or white."John UpdikeIf you find yourself in a stalemate situation in which you do not see any useful move, it is time to stop. It is time to take a breath and to look at things from a distance.Stalemate + Distance = ClarityThe second important thing that can help you get out of a stalemate situation is to simplify things. This means crossing out the many dead ends or impossible moves and staying with fewer of them. One of the major reasons for creating stalemate situations maybe that too many options are being considered and that you are trying to protect the interests of too many stakeholders.Chaos + Urgency = DisasterAnother way out of a stalemate situation is to realize which team you play for. You are probably a member of many teams apart from the one you lead. Subconsciously, you probably want to protect the interests of all teams as much as possible. But when they contradict each other, decide which team is the most important to you at the moment. This will almost automatically give you clarity. And hence the impulse to get out of the stalemate.Limit your options to increase your clarity.The way to increase clarity is by remembering the values and priorities that are important to you and drive you right now. If it is more important for you to create a sustainable team now - you will act in one way. If it is more important for you to achieve results quickly, you will act differently. It is very tempting to say that it is important for you to have both a stable team and to achieve quick results. But this is only possible if you add time. If you do not have time, choose between different priorities. After this point, it will be much easier for you to take adequate action and move forward. If you still do not have clarity, i.e., there is chaos, then adding action will only result in a disaster. But if you have clarity and add urgency, you will get the ball rolling. Clarity + Urgency = Action***Buy the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU

Jan 17, 2021

3m

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Daily Team Alignment | Episode 014

Daily Team Alignment"Discipline is the mother of victory."Alexander SuvorovThe daily team alignment (DTA) makes sense to be done regularly at two levels:- emotional level–it shows how people are feeling and what is the energy level in the team; - rational level–it shows the current priorities, the workload levels, and the business-critical tasks that should be turned around by the end of the day. That's it. No team fails because one-day things didn't go well. Team failures, and successes for that matter, result from systematic and constant actions that are repeated over and over again. One such action that should be done every day is the alignment of the team. Alignment means that all people on the team have the same understanding of the current priorities. Everyone should know what is expected of him, respectively, what he can expect from others.The DTA (Daily Team Alignment) is straightforward to do. And for the same reason, we often miss it. Just because it is straightforward. And because the results of one or two misses can remain unnoticed. But the same results begin to be seen very clearly when the misses become systematic.There is a relevant analogy with going to the gym. If you miss a workout, you will not notice much difference. You may even feel better because instead of training, you have rested or done something else.It is the same with the daily team alignment - if you miss once or twice, there is not much difference in the work; even people have freed up a little more time to catch up with the their workload. Both with the gym and with the daily alignment - the problem is not the one miss. The problem is when it becomes a leak every week. And notice that this happens gradually little by little until, at some point, it turns out that the team hardly gets together and everything is done on the go. The work will not stop suddenly. But it will reach a turning point where it will suddenly get worse. This will be the point where a few people are a little more overwhelmed, a little more nervous, and a bit too tired. Just a little is enough to get to where the more the work - the worse the situation.This scenario is not apocalyptic but just realistic. As soon as the people in the teams start wondering where they had gone wrong, it is time for taking a break and for some analysis. It is not a time to jump to conclusions. In the daily alignment, people will get to know not only their work and colleagues but also themselves. They will understand that the rational laws they have studied in universities rarely work at the micro-level in their teams. For example, economic logic does not suggest that a manager would prefer to change positions and work more for less money. But it happens. It happens often.Irrationality is not characteristic only of the people you work with. It is also characteristic of you. Think about how many of your career moves were rational and how many were completely emotional and without any sound logic. And more importantly, what resulted from the different types of decisions? You may now realize that the best moves in your career have been entirely irrational and emotional. But they felt right.One typical disadvantage of the daily alignment is that it becomes a routine and does not get to the conversation's heart. At one point, people may perform the alignment like a pro forma, and the entire team may suffer. Of course, this cannot happen without the "help" of the manager of this team. So, if you notice a sluggish or pro forma presence - there is no room to ignore it. Address it directly and respectfully.There will be days when someone, or even yourself, is at 50-60% of your capacity. Do not sweep things under the rug - if someone is not in a resourceful state to do their job—make some changes for the day. There is no sense to work at half speed. It is like driving a car with only half-cylinders working. When you make sure the cylinders and everything else are in order, it is time to race. ***Buy the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU

Jan 14, 2021

7m

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Chaos of Overreaction | Episode 013

Chaos of Overreaction "There is no chaos in the world except the chaos created by our mind."Nisargadatta MaharajImagine that instead of washing five T-shirts at once in the washing machine, you decide to run each T-shirt separately. You can wash T-shirt after T-shirt all day long, be terribly busy, waste a lot of energy, but you will have only five T-shirts washed with five washing cycles instead of one.Something like this happens in teams that have zero tolerance for the "inaction" of planning. When there is no "real" work, but only talking about what needs to be done. In such teams, hustle, even an artificial one, is elevated to an internal cult. In such an atmosphere, people are frequently in a hurry, and they are always late for something. They jump from meeting to meeting. They have a constant hamster heartbeat. They are startled by every deadline and even more by every new emergency that may be more urgent than the current one. Panic and sprinting between urgent tasks create the illusion that big and important things are being developed. But at the end of the day - there are only five washed T-shirts.You can easily recognize the chaos of overreaction. First, if you notice that you are developing a hamster heartbeat yourself, you are parking and ignoring the new opportunities rather than exploring or discussing them. Second, if people in your office run between meeting rooms, forget their laptops at other people's desks, spill their coffee more and more often, and finally, they always open their meetings with "there's not enough time to do anything."By these signs, you recognize that you have a chaos of overreaction. What triggers it? Three primary reasons:- lack of clear priorities- inadequate resource planning - inappropriate people in critical places The ultimate responsibility for overcoming this chaos of overreaction lies with the manager. First, to clear this chaos from his own daily life. And then the manager to support the people in his team in this direction. Or even to find a third alternative that comes from the teams themselves.***Buy the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU

Jan 13, 2021

8m

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I Can't Fix Everything. That's Why I Won't Fix Anything | Episode 012

I Can't Fix Everything. That's Why I Won't Fix Anything"The hell you can endure is just as great as your love."Ayn RandIn moments of heavy workload and chaos, some managers fantasize about giving up and quitting. Binary thinking appears, even thoughts of self-sabotage with sentences like this - "I can't fix everything, that's why I won't fix anything". This is a natural defensive reaction. But these moments are very suitable for something else instead of giving up. They are perfect for taking a break.One of the easiest ways to get out of this black-or-white thinking is to take some time to have a rest. Then to focus only on what can be fixed immediately. And only then focus on the other things. Thus, the work takes off, and the feeling of control over your environment comes back.The other stream of attention, of course, is on the people in your team. Those who are also on the verge of burnout are likely to have fallen into the trap of binary thinking - all or nothing. You can support them in the same way - first, ask them to take a break. Only then help them to focus on what they can impact directly. The key thing here is to control the controllable and not to be overwhelmed by the petty details of the days. ***Buy the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU

Jan 12, 2021

5m

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Hoping and Reading Minds Are Not Good Strategies | Episode 011

Hoping and Reading Minds Are Not Good Strategies"Torn by hesitation, we often make decisions that lead to new doubts."Sylvia CrystalMany managers go into the corridors of misunderstood diplomacy, being silent about things they disapprove of. But yet they hope that the surrounding people will read their minds and correct themselves. This self-regulation might happen sometimes. But it most often occurs in managers' dreams. Not in the real world. Hoping that someone else will read your mind and come up with a solution to a problem that bothers you is as probable as turning a spring rain into a Morse poem.With few exceptions, most people cannot read minds. Most people understand their managers' messages as soon as they turn them from thought waves into vocal waves. Although mind reading is not widespread, the hope that someone else will apply it and read your mind is.No one can read your thoughts, for example, that you don't like someone being late, interrupting you, or looking at his phone while you're talking to him, etc. What causes frustration among managers is not the actions mentioned above, but the fact the people they work with are not nimble enough. The actions that irritate you can turn from a source of irritation into a source of inspiration. The opposite of this "hope of reading my mind" is direct communication. It turns out to be simple. But not always easy. Let us say your colleague leaves his unwashed cup of coffee in the kitchen. Instead of telling him to wash his coffee cup directly, it would be better first to help him realize what it would mean for the entire floor if a hundred people left their cups like that until 10.30 h in the morning.The people on your teams are smarter than you think. You do not have to treat them like children because this behavior of yours will create people behaving like 35-year-old children. However, before asking questions, check whether you can ask them with a supportive rather than a judgmental and sarcastic tone. Because the highway of sarcasm will take you to the city of apathy.***Buy the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU

Jan 11, 2021

5m

-12

Results or Excuses | Episode 010

Results or Excuses "There are no desperate situations. There are only people who get despaired in certain situations."Tibetan proverb The preconceived notions with which managers approach reality would also determine what they will achieve at the end of the day. At the end of the day, there are either results or excuses. Failure to achieve results should not be confused with a lack of commitment. Not achieving the results may be a signal of poor resource planning or extra ad hoc demands.Managers' ability to distinguish between objective impediments and fake ones will determine both the culture and the commitment to overcome obstacles and achieve results. Managers will always get more of whatever they tolerate. They do not endure poor performance. They tolerate poor performance. They do not endure a lack of resources. They tolerate the lack of resources. Getting into stories and drama can help Oscar nominees, but for people who want to focus on achieving specific goals, it can only lead to exhaustion and frustration. Tolerating drama will lead to a drama-heavy working environment.  Tolerating productivity and high achievements will lead to more productivity. Challenging circumstances are not reasons for failure. They are simply the environment within which people must achieve results. The special thing about excuses is that there is a dose of truth in them. The attention paid to them has the effect of throwing gasoline on the fire. It will only ignite it. And it will lead to flames, fires, and missed opportunities.People's energy may go to making excuses why something cannot happen or to make it happen. Here are specific examples of how managers can reformulate their questions to the team when they go wrong and start making excuses like: - We do not have enough people;- We do not have enough time;- We do not have the understanding of the client;- We are not clear on what exactly they want, etc. Questions that turn excuses into a result-driven state of mind===:  - Knowing that we do not have enough people, how can we achieve our goals, anyway?- Knowing that we do not have enough time, how can we still achieve our goals?- Knowing that we do not have an understanding of the client, how can we achieve our goals?- Knowing that we do not have clarity on what exactly they need, what can we do to achieve our goals? Managers may look at the excuses as a list of potential risks. Focus on managing risks, not on drowning in a sea of excuses. The key element here is that managers should not rush to solve the problems of their people on autopilot. Rather, they should use the Socrates method and support their people to come up with solutions that are right for them. It is enough to create clarity and a sense of urgency, and the results will come.  One barrier for people to enter 100% in finding solutions and acting is their unpleasant experience with a previous manager. One who has taken stories and apologies too much into account, rather than working to increase the capacity of his team to overcome those apologies. Here, people develop a conditioned reflex and gravity to the excuses that lead them into the spiral of self-fulfilling negative prophecies. Then, as people turn every excuse into a reason for their success, they will have a greater sense of control over what is happening to them. They will become active instead of passive participants - not only in their work but also in their life. 

Jan 11, 2021

5m

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The Knowing-Doing Gap | Episode 009

The Knowing-Doing Gap“Turning speech into action is much more difficult than turning action into speech.”Maxim Gorky In most cases, the managers do not lack knowledge about what and how to do, but they lack the courage and discipline to put their knowledge into practice. This comes as a surprise to the sponsors of the leadership programs when we start a new project. These sponsors typically think that the managers lack the knowledge from several wagons of books and the business models that are being studied in MBA programs, etc. All this technical knowledge is essential, but it is not the most important thing. Besides, it is readily available on Google and Amazon. The lack of knowledge rarely hinders managers in their daily work. The real obstacles are derived from the lack of courage and discipline. The managers are easily distracted when they do not have enough courage. They do not organize their time and priorities well. They pay attention to the noise and not to the signals. When they lack enough courage - they put their comfort before their growth and the growth of the people in their teams.  So, it is not a question of more knowledge to improve the performance of managers. It is a question of the real use of the already gained knowledge - to set ambitious goals, to give inspiring negative and positive feedback, to delegate, to align the company’s goals with the needs of the people, to celebrate victories, to learn lessons from failures, etc. In other words, we must address the gap between knowing and doing. The real things that stand in this gap are never material. There is no real lack of supplies and budgets.  The real things that lack courage, discipline, and adherence to one’s high standards. Falling into the gap knowing-doing gap is inevitable.  The point is rather to note that the obstacles to overcoming everyday problems are not related to the lack of new knowledge, but they are related to the lack of the use of this knowledge. For example, if you want to achieve an even workload distribution in the team, you know that you should direct the new tasks to those who are less busy now. You do not lack any special formula and knowledge of how to distribute the work effectively. However, instead of assigning the new tasks to more available people, you choose to give assignments to those that are already busy. Why does this happen? You choose to put extra work on the shoulders of already busy people simply because you know they will do the job. Especially with younger managers, there is a tendency to look for entirely alternative solutions to the same old problems. Sometimes you just have to implement well-functioning and time-tested solutions.  The desire for continuous learning can be confused with the desire for constant procrastination.  Learning is much more comfortable than actual work. Actual work goes hand in hand with receiving negative feedback. This might be uncomfortable.  There is another manifestation of this gap between knowing and doing. Managers complain that the same people ask them about the same things - for example, how to answer a common customer request, how to fix something on the computer, etc. The frustration comes from wasting managerial time on questions whose answers are clear to the people, but they, out of habit, prefer to ask again and get the same answer again from their managers.  The problem here is not with the people who are asking the questions. The problem is in the managers who provide the same answers repeatedly. The ones who ask questions should also be asked - “What do you think will happen if nothing has changed since last time?”, “If you were in my shoes, what would you answer?”, “How can you find out this on your own?”, etc. The teams are always a reflection of their managers. When there are people who do not think for themselves and do not take responsibility for their actions - managers have developed a tolerance for others who do not take responsibility.  When managers do not demand responsibility - they create bad habits in their people and open the door to learned helplessness. In this way, managers turn their people into walking mailboxes, which collect problems from the different corners of the company and bring them to their manager to solve.The manager’s job is not to solve the problems of his team, but to increase the capacity of people to solve their problems. Whatever these problems are.To help people improve and solve their problems, you must first improve their thinking and attitude to deal with challenges. Your outstanding work with people always starts with genuine work on yourself.

Jan 7, 2021

7m

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"Not My Job" Syndrome | Episode 008

"Not My Job" Syndrome "If you don't turn your life into a story, you just become part of someone else's story."Terry Pratchett The "Not my job" syndrome disappears from the managers' vocabulary right when they realize that no matter where and for whom they work, they first and foremost work for themselves. They own their growth and development. However, the "Not my job" syndrome is widely spread and may increase even more if team managers do not address it adequately. And adequately means this - before jumping to conclusions, have a frank conversation about this syndrome with the people in your team. This way, the "Not my job" syndrome does not go unnoticed. But it also creates a safe space to have an honest conversation about what we can change.  There is absolutely no reason for the "Not my job" syndrome to exist in a well-performing team. Especially when there is no clarity of who should be responsible for some additional work that needs to be done in the team. The person who might take on the responsibility might be the person who is the least busy right now.  It might be the person who has the most experience. No matter what the principle is for determining whose job it is to do something extra, it is more important for the team to have the right attitude that there is no such thing as "Not my job" when it is my team's job. People usually want to do a good job. If the "Not my job" syndrome appears, it could be a signal that people are overloaded. But it could also be a tool for revenge by someone who has previously needed support to get their job done, but nobody helped.  If everyone in your team only does the work that is written in their job description, it is like having a room full of solo entrepreneurs. Everyone looks at his agenda, and there is no sense of belonging. There is no teamwork. The "Not my job" syndrome can signal that there are too many changing priorities in the company. It can signal that people feel that there is no fair distribution of the current workload. But it can also mean that people react emotionally to triggers outside their work environment.  Anyway, when you notice the "Not my job" syndrome in the daily meetings, the last thing you want to do is to blame your people.  Before they understand you, you must understand them. It would be the best if you considered what causes this syndrome. It may be a protective reaction. Just inertia. Or a combination of all this and something else.Analyzing the "Not my work" syndrome can lead you to those office characters or others you did not know even existed. However, they exist, and they even have internal company name tags created years ago by already retired employees. They outline the internal subcultures in different departments. No matter how large the constellation of office characters that contribute to the existence of the "Not my job" syndrome, the managers' job is to create an environment in which people are proactive and eager to embark on new projects.  Of course, one of the best ways to do this is to ask yourself: How do I "help" this "Not my job" syndrome to exist in my team? The first way you "help" this problem to exist is by role modelling it. You say "this is not my job" often. Either verbally or just mentally. The people in your team listen with their eyes. It does not matter what you say. It is what you do.  The second way you "help" this problem to exist is by ignoring it. Even if you think that it is not acceptable for any activities to end up in a vacuum of responsibility, you leave them that way. You just sit in this vacuum. So, at some point, the little snowball of "Not my job" turns into an unpleasant avalanche, in which the line "Not my job" sticks to almost anything new that needs to be done. The third way you "help" this problem to exist is by not encouraging people to take responsibility for things from this "Not my job" avalanche. They take risks, sometimes successfully, sometimes not, but the act of taking responsibility itself deserves to be acknowledged and recognized as a behavior that you value and encourage. The fourth way you "help" this problem exist is by publicly punishing all the mistakes made while taking on new tasks. You probably do it with all good intentions - to make a point, to set high standards, etc., but you do it in the worst possible way—by pointing fingers in public. Every way of how your "help" for this problem exists is also a solution to the problem. But only if you take action against your own "helping." On the other hand, if you hear the comment "It is not my job" in some of your team meetings, it could also be a good signal. It could mean that the people in your team are not afraid to express their opinions. They are not scared of conflict, and they are ready to have thoughtful disagreements.  

Jan 6, 2021

6m

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Cold Shower for Managers | Episode 007

Cold Shower for Managers | Episode 007---Cold Shower for Managers"Blaming someone else for your misfortunes is a sign that you need some training. Once you blame yourself, then your training has begun.When you stop blaming yourself and others, then your training is complete." Epictetus If you have any recurring problem in your team, it means only one thing. It means that you are the problem. This is it. This is also the effect of a cold shower. At first, it is painful and stressful. After a while, it becomes relaxing. The real and metaphorical cold shower have a lot of benefits:  - they improve blood circulation; - they decrease stress; - they create a good mood; - they improve the immune system; - they make you a better manager;Not a single problem in your team can exist for a long time without your "help". For example, you may think that you have people who are not proactive enough and shy away from taking on additional responsibilities. There is only one reason for this, and it is not related to the people themselves. It is related only to the manager of these people, i.e. with you.  It means that you are also running away from responsibilities. Your team is your mirror, and it reflects you all the time. If you want to change something in the mirror, you need to change the person who is standing in front of the mirror. Only then the reflection will change. Many managers try in vain to change the reflection without changing the original image. It is impossible. Both physically and metaphysically. Let us look at the example above with people who are not proactive and autonomous enough. There are a few ways you "help" this problem to exist. For example:  - you set goals with a broad brush and when the results appear not as expected, you blur out "I didn't imagine it that way"; - you blame others of not understanding you correctly while you have not explained thoroughly; - you confuse accountability with throwing people under the bus;  - you confuse being supportive with micromanaging; - you delegate in the "step-by-step" format: ("do this", "check that", "call him", etc.); - you take every success for granted and you rarely acknowledge your people for a job well done; - you exaggerate minor mistakes and place them on the wall of shame; - you confuse sarcasm towards others with a sense of humor.---https://www.equinox-partners.bg/blog--podcast

Jan 5, 2021

6m

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Highly Paid Janitors | Episode 006

Jan 4, 2021

5m

-17

Professional Vanity | Episode 005

Jan 3, 2021

10m

-18

Difficult Conversations | Episode 004

Jan 2, 2021

10m

Episode 52 - Team Meetings - AI discussion of chapter 43 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 51 - Treat Workplace Roadblocks Like Road Signs - AI discussion of chapter 42 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 50 - Ignoring Your Team’s Silence - AI discussion of chapter 41 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 49 - - Feedback Matters - AI discussion of chapter 40 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 48 - Transparency Matters - AI Discussion of chapter 39 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 47 - Speak WITH People, Not ABOUT them - AI Discussion on Chapter 38 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 46 - Manage Agreements, Not People - AI Discussion on Chapter 37 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 45 - Manage Your Biases - AI Discussion on Chapter 36 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 44 - Playing Favourites - AI Discussion on Chapter 35 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 43 - Are You Keeping Your Team in the Dark? - AI Discussion on Chapter 34 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 42 - Stop tolerating professional BS - AI Discussion on Chapter 33 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 41 - Why your team cannot sprint forever - AI Discussion on Chapter 32 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 40 - Break the anesthesia of management comfort - AI Discussion on Chapter 31 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 39 - Stop treating management like a war - AI Discussion on Chapter 30 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 38 - The Blast Radius of Your Mood - AI Discussion on Chapter 29 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 37 - Managing the Unspoken Psychological Contract - AI Discussion on Chapter 28 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 36 - The meeting after the meeting - AI Discussion on Chapter 27 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 35 - Stop mistaking pseudo-busyness for productivity - AI Discussion on Chapter 26 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Episode 34 - Stop Your Management Limp - AI Discussion on Chapter 25 of the book "Cold Shower for Managers" by Plamen Petrov

Understand Others Before They Understand You | Episode 033

Acceptance Without Giving Up | Episode 032

Dirty Yes | Episode 031

Silos + Micromanagement = Ineffectiveness | Episode 030

Managers, Not Companies, Take Risks | Episode 029

Performance Problem = Leadership Problem | Episode 028

Barriers to Change | Episode 027

Nostalgia Hinders Change | Episode 026

Change Support | Episode 025

What Determines the Negative Feedback to Be Motivating? | Episode 024

Lack of Empathic Atoms | Episode 023

Comfort Zone or Pseudo-Comfort Zone | Episode 022

Guilty Until Proven Innocent | Episode 21

Change Support | Episode 025

Your Team Is Your Mirror | Episode 020

Inspiring or Blaming Others | Episode 019

Who Is Doing What By When | Episode 018

The Power of a Positive "NO" | Episode 017

Thermometer or Thermostat | Episode 016

Solving Stalemate Situations | Episode 015

Daily Team Alignment | Episode 014

Chaos of Overreaction | Episode 013

I Can't Fix Everything. That's Why I Won't Fix Anything | Episode 012

Hoping and Reading Minds Are Not Good Strategies | Episode 011

Results or Excuses | Episode 010

The Knowing-Doing Gap﻿﻿ | Episode 009

"Not My Job" Syndrome | Episode 008

Cold Shower for Managers | Episode 007

Highly Paid Janitors | Episode 006

Professional Vanity | Episode 005

Difficult Conversations | Episode 004

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The Knowing-Doing Gap | Episode 009