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NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships
by April and Scott
Naughty Gym Show is a podcast about non-monogamy, open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and the skills of building strong relationships beyond traditional monogamy.Hosted by Scott and April Shirley, the show explores how couples and individuals can create honest, ethical, and emotionally strong non-monogamous relationships. Each episode dives into the real work of modern love, communication, jealousy, autonomy, intimacy, trust, and personal growth.At the center of the show is a simple but radical idea: relational freedom. The belief that love grows strongest when it is chosen freely, supported by honesty, autonomy, and mutual respect rather than control or fear.These conversations draw from the broader framework behind Wild Love Theory, a modern philosophy of relationships built around authenticity, autonomy, and expansive connection.If you’re curious about ethical non-monogamy (ENM), exploring open relationships, navigating polyamory, or simply trying to build a more honest and
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The Opportunity: Investing In A Lifestyle Resort & The Power Of Why In Non-Monogamy
Yes, we’re part of a new lifestyle resort project in Florida, and in this episode we bring on Jimmy Thorpe to talk about the vision, the opportunity, and what could become one of the most exciting lifestyle destinations in the United States.But the real story is bigger than the property.This conversation is about where non monogamy is headed. For a long time, a lot of lifestyle spaces have been built around the same basic formula: drinks, DJs, sex, and weekend parties. And while there is absolutely a place for that, we believe the community is ready for something more.We talk about creating spaces where non monogamy is not just about who you play with, but how deeply you connect, how freely you show up, and how much room there is for people to grow. That means better events, more thoughtful programming, wellness, education, community, inclusivity, and a culture where people can enjoy the atmosphere without pressure.In the second half of the episode, we dig into a question every non monogamous person and couple should ask:Why are we actually doing this?Our answer has changed a lot over the years. What started as something much more sex focused has become about connection, authenticity, freedom, and building a life where we do not have to edit ourselves down to stay accepted.So yes, this episode is about a resort.But it is really about the future of non monogamy, and what it might look like to build spaces that are strong enough to hold more freedom, more honesty, and more human connection.Investor Info:[email protected] to Investor Webinar:https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/T7g1aIDNR2iSpykqZV8kLQNaughty Gym Info:Naughty Gym Website- www.naughtygym.comNaughty Gym Patreon- https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGymOur Upcoming Events:1. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 2026- https://www.tickettailor.com/events/naughtygym/21095782. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise5. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain6. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026- https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze7. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027- https://hedonism.com/bbbb
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Wild Love Retreat - What Really Happens When You Live This?
In this episode, April, Scott, and therapist Catherine from Expansive Connection unpack the raw, surprising, and powerful reality of the very first Wild Love Theory retreat. They share what shocked them most, what couples struggled with, what breakthroughs happened in real time, and why the weekend felt deeper than any of them expected.From vulnerable men opening up, to hard conversations about freedom, boundaries, burdens, trust, and emotional work, this is an honest behind-the-scenes look at what happens when relationship theory gets tested in real life. They also talk about who this retreat is for, who may not be ready for it yet, and what’s next for Wild Love Theory as the book release gets closer.If you’ve ever wondered what it actually looks like to live this work instead of just talk about it, this episode is for you.💰Major Investment Information For Florida Resort (Accredited Investors Only):Email: [email protected] Gym WebsiteNaughty Gym PatreonOur Upcoming Events:1. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 20262. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 20263. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 20264. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 20265. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 20266. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026
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April On The Non-Monogamy Hot Seat: Questions To Argue About
In this episode of the Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott pull back the curtain on one of the biggest shifts in their relationship so far: removing boundaries, testing freedom in real life, and learning what trust actually looks like when it is no longer theoretical.They talk openly about a major miscommunication that turned into a powerful experiment in non-monogamy, what happened when April gave Scott full freedom for 30 days, and how two unexpected real-world experiences challenged both of them to regulate, trust, and grow.From there, Scott puts April in the hot seat with raw, unfiltered questions about attraction, jealousy, one-penis policies, no-kissing rules, sexual innuendo, confidence, gossip, privacy, and the biggest turn-offs in both men and women. The result is one of their most candid conversations yet about autonomy, desire, emotional safety, and what healthy freedom actually requires.They also share updates on the upcoming Wild Love Theory retreat, Toronto X Club, Barcelona, El Salvador, new November events, and the huge news that they are officially under contract to purchase a lifestyle resort in Florida.This episode is honest, funny, provocative, and full of the kinds of relationship conversations most people are too afraid to have out loud.💰Major Investment Information For Florida Resort (Accredited Investors Only):Email: [email protected] Gym WebsiteNaughty Gym PatreonOur Upcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat - April 15-19th, 20262. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 20263. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 20264. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 20265. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 20266. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 20267. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026
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Rewriting Our Relationship Rules: Rethinking Boundaries Together
In this raw and deeply personal episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott pull back the curtain on one of the hardest parts of open relationships and relational freedom: how couples actually revisit rules, boundaries, jealousy, and emotional capacity in real time.Using a powerful tool from their upcoming Wild Love Theory book and workbook, they walk through the exact process they use to identify hidden relationship rules, examine fear-based restrictions, and decide what freedom they are actually ready for. Along the way, they share a live, vulnerable conversation about private texting, dating, jealousy, trust, nervous system regulation, and what it really takes to expand freedom without blowing up connection.But this episode goes even deeper. April and Scott also explore a second kind of restriction that many couples miss entirely: imposed emotional burdens. They talk honestly about how unequal household labor, mental load, and invisible responsibilities can quietly destroy capacity for intimacy, desire, and relational freedom, and why no relationship can feel truly expansive when one partner is carrying too much.If you are navigating open relationships, non-monogamy, marriage, boundaries, jealousy, communication, emotional labor, or relationship growth, this episode gives you an unusually honest look at what that work actually sounds like inside a real partnership.Naughty Gym Website:www.NaughtyGym.comNaughty Gym Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/NaughtyGymOur Upcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise5. Mancation Men's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain6. Holidaze - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
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Starting Non-Monogamy - A Real Couple's Experience
Before we jump into today’s conversation, we share a major announcement: after months of quiet work behind the scenes, we reveal that we’ve been involved with a group that is under contract to acquire what many consider one of the premier lifestyle resorts in Florida. Because of SEC rules, we have to be careful about what we say publicly, but we’re excited to share the project, the vision, and the role we hope to play in helping shape its future.After that, we sit down with two very special guests, Clint and Danine, our first-ever Naughty Gym members and longtime friends, for a candid conversation about their journey into non-monogamy. They share how an unexpected early experience got put on the shelf for years, how their marriage nearly fell apart before deeper self-work changed everything, and what it looked like to move from survival mode into a more expansive, honest, and adventurous partnership.This is a fun, raw, and deeply personal episode about growth, sexuality, healing, and what can become possible when a couple stops settling for the default script.Naughty Gym Website:www.NaughtyGym.comNaughty Gym Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGymOur Upcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise5. Mancation Men's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain6. Holidaze - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
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Angry Feminist Era Activated: Unlearning Purity Culture & Defensive Masculinity
This week on The Naughty Gym Show, April takes the wheel for a real-time life update that starts with a chaotic wine-night incident (yes—April fell down 13 of 15 stairs in plush slippers… and Scott’s first response was to laugh 🙃) and turns into one of your most honest conversations yet.From there, you unpack what’s been swirling behind the scenes: launching your Patreon (with tiers starting at $3/month), opening bookings for your November retreats (aka “Naughty Gym Month”), and the stress of college + military academy decisions as your youngest son heads toward a major next chapter.Then the episode shifts into the deeper work: purity culture, sexual trauma, voice, righteous anger, and what it looks like to unlearn the systems that shaped both of you—especially in a conservative Southern context. You talk masculinity/femininity language, the “man box,” emotional labor and the invisible mental load, and why “just tell me what to do” isn’t partnership. Scott shares what he’s learning in therapy (and how even saying “I helped you” can quietly reinforce old roles), and you both name the goal: a relationship where men do their own inner work, women don’t have to carry the whole emotional burden, and both partners get to feel freer—and closer—because of it.Plus: you tease an After Chat on Patreon that allegedly tops the infamous “pissing on the couch” story (and may permanently lower Scott’s sex appeal, according to April).Listen, laugh, and maybe get a little wrecked—in the best way.Naughty Gym Website:www.NaughtyGym.comOur Upcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador4. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise5. Mancation Men's Retreat - https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain6. Holidaze - https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
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The Spectrum of Compersion: From Neutrality to Joy, Without Toxic Positivity, w/Dr. Marie Thouin
What if the goal is not to erase jealousy, but to stop letting it drive the car? Dr. Marie Thouin joins April and Scott to define compersion in clear, grounded terms, and to explain why it can show up as an emotion, an attitude, or even simple supportive neutrality. They talk about the spectrum from “I can handle this” to genuine joy, the “second arrow” of self-inflicted suffering, and the conditions that make compersion more likely: security in self, security in the relationship, supportive community, and more. The episode also explores how autonomy and trust intersect with boundaries, when “training wheels” help, and how to tell the difference between growth discomfort and self-abandonment.Dr Marie Thouin Websites:https://mariethouin.com/https://www.whatiscompersion.com/Naughty Gym Website:www.NaughtyGym.comOur Upcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador
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Reframing Jealousy: Why The Word "Reclaiming" Gives Us The Ick
Jealousy isn’t always about fear of losing your partner. Sometimes it’s about losing yourself. In this episode, April and Scott share a real, recent story from their open-relationship journey that completely reframed what jealousy can mean—and it leads to a breakthrough concept they call “imposed burdens.”After Scott goes on a separate date (with April’s full consent and clear emotional parameters), April is surprised by a familiar “pit in the stomach”… but it isn’t abandonment, comparison, or panic. It’s something quieter and more revealing: envy of the freedom Scott has to play, explore, and dream—because she’s carrying the invisible weight of life logistics, emotional labor, and household admin. The conversation turns into a powerful (and practical) exploration of how “freedom” in a relationship can be technically true while still being impossible to access.They also unpack why the phrase “reclaiming your partner” gives them the ick—and why “reclamation sex” can sometimes smuggle in ownership, control, or reassurance-seeking disguised as intimacy. Instead, they share what reconnection looks like for them (spoiler: it’s more about presence, honesty, and nervous-system safety than performing a ritual).If you’ve ever felt jealous and couldn’t explain why… if you’re doing “the work” but still feel stuck… or if you’ve wondered whether rules are helping you heal or just helping you avoid… this one will hit.Plus: a behind-the-scenes update on their upcoming Wild Love Theory book release, the new Wild Love Book Circle, and their April retreat in the Smoky Mountains.Website:www.NaughtyGym.comUpcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador
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Two Keynotes LIVE From Hedonism Resort: Luna Matatas & Ashley Manta
In this live event recording, sex educator Luna Matatas breaks down why kink can feel so electrifying by exploring the psychology of power, risk, and taboo and how “eroticism” is really the felt sense of being lit up in mind and body. She offers a practical way to translate fantasy into real life by focusing less on props and more on the feelings and “flavors” you want to create, building a clear container of consent, and asking the two questions that change everything: How do I want to feel? How do you want to feel?Then sexologist and coach Ashley Manta introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a powerful tool for relationships and non-monogamy: learning to notice your “parts,” stop speaking from them, and start speaking for them. With vulnerable, funny stories and concrete steps, she shows how to work with jealousy, fear, and insecurity without outsourcing your safety to your partner, and how self-energy (calm, curiosity, compassion, clarity, courage) turns conflict into repair, intimacy, and better sex.Website:www.NaughtyGym.comUpcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador
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BBBB 2026 Recap At Hedonism Resort: Doctor Strange, Gum Hair, & A Coma In The Hot Tub!
April and Scott recap Be Better at Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism—day by day—covering the themes, the workshops, the connection circles, and the parties that made this year’s week feel like the best yet. From Rave Bingo and fundraising for the Hedo Foundation to the Glow Party, foam party chaos, and the Superheroes & Villains night where “Professor X” somehow became “Doctor Strange,” they share the funny, the sexy, and the surprisingly meaningful moments that built real community. Plus: Wild Love Theory retreat updates, the Toronto X Club Pride weekend announcement, and why “Irish goodbyes” might be the secret to surviving a full takeover week. Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador
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LIVE From Hedonism (2/2): THE FREEDOM MANDATE - Scott's Keynote BBBB 2026
This week’s second special episode is Scott’s opening keynote from Be Better At Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism II Resort: The Freedom Mandate: The Ethical Case for Relational Freedom.Scott unpacks Wild Love Theory’s seven-word thesis, “Maximum relational happiness requires maximum relational freedom,” and asks the question that can feel both inspiring and terrifying: If your partner’s happiness matters to you… do you owe them freedom?From there, he draws a crucial line between true boundaries (inward-facing choices for self-protection) and what most couples call “boundaries” but are actually imposed limits designed to manage fear. He explains why rules can be necessary early on, but only as scaffolding: temporary supports meant to loosen as trust, regulation, and repair become load-bearing.The talk ends with a raw, personal story from Scott and April’s relationship: the moment Scott kissed April goodbye as she got ready for a date with no rules, and what that taught him about control, courage, and what it means to build a relational cathedral two free people can actually live inside.Next week we’ll release our full recap of BBBB 2026. If this keynote brings up questions or reflections, email Scott anytime at [email protected]:www.NaughtyGym.comUpcoming Events:1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-20263. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador
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LIVE from Hedonism (1/2): What Do You Want? How Desire Becomes Your Revolution - April's Keynote BBBB 2026
In this opening keynote from Naughty Gym's Be Better At Being Bad Takeover at Hedonism Resort, Coach April invites you into a deeply honest exploration of desire, identity, and self trust. Through personal stories and lived experience, she challenges the roles, labels, and expectations that shape what we think we should want and asks a more powerful question: what do you actually want? This talk is about unlearning goodness, releasing approval seeking, and reconnecting with the quiet wisdom of the body. It’s an invitation to stop performing the life you were taught to live and start listening to the truth that’s been waiting underneath it all. This is not about having it all figured out. It’s about coming home to yourself and beginning again, on purpose. Website: www.NaughtyGym.com Upcoming Events: 1. Wild Love Theory Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreat 2. Barcelona Adventure Trip -- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026 3. El Salvador Retreat -- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador
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She Chose Herself: April's First Date And The Night Autonomy Became Real
2025 was a LOT… and we’re ending the year with one of the biggest growth moments in our relationship.In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, we tell the full story of April’s first real autonomous solo date—the nerves, the ugly Christmas sweater plan, the chemistry, the decision-making in the moment, and what it was like for Scott to sit at home and feel the “flutter” (aka jealousy/activation)… without making it her responsibility.We also break down the real stuff people avoid talking about in ethical non-monogamy:What compersion actually feels like (not the internet version)How jealousy shows up even when you’re secureAutonomy vs. caretaking (and how to stop people-pleasing)Debriefing after a big night: what helped, what didn’t, and what we learnedAnd yes… Scott shares the sleep-aid + vodka + couch disaster that happened DAYS before the date. 😬Events & trips:🇯🇲 Be Better Being Bad (Jamaica) — Jan 3–10 (few rooms left)🏔️ Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat — Apr 15–19 (booking fast)🇪🇸 Barcelona — Aug 14–21 (limited spots)More info: naughtygym.com🎁 If you want to support the show: Like, Subscribe, and leave a comment (it helps more than you think).#ENM #NonMonogamy #OpenRelationship #Compersion #Marriage #RelationshipAdvice
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Sexy Santa Surprise: April Agrees to a Dinner Date (After 1 Year of “Wild Love Theory”)
April and Scott recap a wild (and unexpectedly meaningful) night out: a sexy Santa & Mrs. Claus gig at an LGBTQ-friendly Christmas party that turns into a real-time relationship test. By the end of the night, April, who historically hasn’t felt fully comfortable claiming that kind of freedom, finds herself laughing, connecting, and eventually agreeing to a dinner date with a newly divorced single guy from their extended lifestyle circle. What follows is the real conversation: how do you support your partner’s autonomy without turning it into pressure, surveillance, or “constant check-ins”? Scott shares how past attempts at separate dating triggered anxiety and control impulses (even when “nothing” was happening), and how this time felt different, calmer, steadier, more grounded. Together they unpack the difference between intuition vs. projection, explore “The Bad Prophet” (mind-reading, future-forecasting, spiraling), and practice “The Unprophet” (staying present, responding only to real data, honoring privacy). They also dig into a powerful desire question April is building her Hedo keynote around: “What would I do if there was nobody I could disappoint?” The episode closes with upcoming Naughty Gym events and a thoughtful note on protecting partners’ anonymity, because this show isn’t about sex-capade storytelling, it’s about the real emotional skills non-monogamy demands. More about Naughty Gym: www.naughtygym.com Our Upcoming Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events
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Recap Of Our Men's & Women's Retreats, & Details On Our New Wild Love Theory Retreat
Welcome back to The Naughty Gym Show! In this episode, April and Scott catch you up on everything that’s been happening behind the scenes — from finishing their Wild Love Theory book to launching a stacked calendar of retreats for 2025 and beyond.They start with updates on Be Better at Being Bad at Hedonism II and their new “Fuck Melissa” fundraiser shirt supporting the Hedo Cares Foundation after the hurricane. From there, they share exciting news about the upcoming Wild Love Theory Couples Retreat (a “relationship black belt” experience for already solid couples) and why WLT isn’t therapy to “fix” something broken, but a radical, freedom-based reframing of how we do love.Wild Love Theory Retreat Info: https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreatThen they dive into heartfelt recaps of their two November retreats: • Mancation Mountain – a men’s-only cabin retreat that was supposed to be steaks, bourbon, and bowling… and turned into one of the most emotional, transformative weekends of many guys’ lives. Scott talks about how connection circles, deep questions, and a non-judgmental container led to tears, breakthroughs, and 20 new friendships — plus a twist on their usual format that he’ll carry into future events. • Wild & Wise – April’s menopause-focused women’s retreat, where women from all over the country and all relationship structures gathered to learn, cry, laugh, and reconnect to their bodies. She shares stories of workshops on hormones, desire, and aging; sensual (not sexual) touch; late-night bunkroom bonding; and an impromptu boudoir shoot that helped women see themselves as sexy and powerful again.They also talk about what’s coming next: • A Religion & Non-Monogamy retreat with two tracks (for those keeping faith and those deconstructing it) • A future men + women split-then-merge couples retreat • Adventure trips to Barcelona and El Salvador • Local events like Sapphire Starlington’s sex-positive Christmas party where April and Scott will appear as a very spicy Mr. and Mrs. ClausFinally, they close with a reminder that NaughtyGym.com isn’t just about travel — it’s also their online fitness and coaching community, with weekly live calls, workouts, and 1:1 coaching spots available for people who want to thrive in their bodies and their relationships.If you’re curious about their retreats, coaching, or Wild Love Theory itself, this episode is a perfect snapshot of where the Naughty Gym universe is headed — more depth, more freedom, more community, and as always… never stop playing.Our Website:www.naughtygym.comWild Love Theory Retreat:https://www.naughtygym.com/wild-love-theory-retreatNaughty Gym 1 on 1 Coaching: https://calendly.com/naughtygym/free-1-on-1-coaching-consultKevin Dean's article in Medium about our retreats: https://medium.com/under-the-umbrella/swinger-retreats-that-are-not-co-ed-by-kevin-and-rachel-dean-83ee58c7c980
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Smoky Mountain Holidaze: Our Recap From Dirty Santa to Dueling Pianos
April and Scott are back from the Smoky Mountains and very well-rested… because they slept for 3 days. In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, April & Scott share details about their upcoming gig as sexy Mr. & Mrs. Claus at Sapphire Starlington’s Christmas party in Huntsville before diving into a day-by-day recap of their Naughty Holidaze retreat.You’ll hear how 14 adventurous couples (plus host couples) turned a giant mountain cabin into a rotating celebration of Halloween, Friendsgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Year’s Eve—complete with connection circles, icebreaker bingo, a “lazy man’s” gratitude drive through bear country, moonshine tastings in tacky Christmas sweaters, and a day of roller coasters at Dollywood. They talk about pop-up play spaces with massage tables and flogging demos, why consent and vibe made this group feel uniquely safe and non-predatory, and the unexpected intimacy of group massages and cuddle puddles.April and Scott also unpack their Relational Freedom workshop based on their Wild Love Theory book, why Telegram groups can totally mislead you about people, and how a dueling piano New Year’s Sneaker Ball brought their entire origin story full circle. They wrap with a look at upcoming Naughty Gym trips and retreats—and why, whatever you do, you should never stop playing.www.NaughytGym.comwww.ExpansiveConnections.comwww.DeviousDragonfly.com
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Throuples: The Good & The Bad, w/Dr. Rachael Meir
Today we go deep on throuples—what makes a three-person relationship (triad) work in real life. Our guest is Dr. Rachael Meir, a Stanford-trained psychologist, sex & relationship coach, author of 50 Questions to Ask Before Opening Your Relationship, and host of retreats designed specifically for throuples.In this episode (throuple-forward): • Shapes of throuples: V vs. closed triad, the “everyone dates everyone” myth, and why symmetry isn’t the only path to stability. • Avoiding triangles (the bad kind): How to reduce coalitions, secret alliances, and “two against one” dynamics with simple, predictable check-ins. • Jealousy in 3s: Why jealousy feels different in a triad, Dr. Meir’s “dashboard warning light” frame, and how to respond without spiraling. • Differentiation = less codependence: Staying three whole people (not one fused blob) actually strengthens the connection between all of you. • Logistics that keep love humane: Calendars, re-entry rituals, and short “state-of-us” huddles so no one becomes the project manager (or the parent). • Ethics & invitations: Power imbalances, “unicorn hunting,” and creating consent that’s real for all three partners—not just the original pair. • Retreat lessons: What Dr. Meir sees thriving throuples do differently (language, expectations, and how they handle NRE without breaking the triangle).Plus, we pull 5 key prompts from Dr. Meir’s book to ground any non-monogamy journey: • What desires/needs do I believe non-monogamy could fulfill (for me, not just my partner)? • Do I have enough self-esteem to stay out of comparison traps? • Are we differentiated—two/three whole people with overlap—rather than merged? • Are we opening to fill a void/fix a problem (and what would repair look like first)? • What small agreements would make us feel safer without turning into surveillance?Big takeaways you can use tonight • Trade control for clarity: one short weekly check-in beats constant play-by-play. • Re-entry rituals after solo or third-partner time keep connection warm and resentment low. • In triads, fairness ≠ sameness—aim for dignity for all three, not equal minutes.Find Dr. Meir: https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/Naughty Gym: https://www.naughtygym.com/
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Cupcakes, Cunnilingus, & Cuddles: Luna Matatas & Handling Rejection
Rejection happens in the lifestyle. What do you do with the sting. April and Scott sit down with pleasure educator Luna Matatas to unpack expectations, etiquette, and empathy when play does not line up for all four people. They dig into clear asks, enthusiastic consent, and how to set goals that are sexual, sensual, and social so the night still feels like a win. Luna shares her worst threesome, her best threesomes, and practical scripts for saying yes and no with kindness. Plus a peek at what she is bringing to Be Better at Being Bad this January. Tune in for real stories, real growth, and a reminder that someone else’s no is a big yes to themselves.Luna Matatas website: https://lunamatatas.com/en-us Naughty Gym Info: Website: www.naughtygym.com Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events
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Retreats, Rules & Real Love: A 15-Year Journey Beyond Monogamy
What happens when a longtime marriage says “yes” to curiosity? In this candid convo, Freddy and Andi share how a flirt turned into a slow, consent-first path to non-monogamy and how they “accidentally” became poly. We dig into the real stuff: jealousy and the fear of being replaced, what “check-ins” actually mean (hint: eye contact isn’t enough), and why emotional regulation beats willpower when the feelings get loud. They open up about past secrecy, rebuilding trust, discovering compersion, and why retreats (hello, Expansive Connection) gave them tools that parties never could. Expect practical takeaways on requests vs. mind-reading, setting pace without pressure, navigating separate dates, and creating love that expands, without losing “my person.”Featuring:Freddy & Andy’s 15-year journey from “big no” to sustainable polyThe exact check-in framework that stopped spiralsLessons from men’s/women’s circles, real-time coaching, and a regulation breakthroughHot-wife dynamics, long-term girlfriend logistics, and staying special while sharingIf you’re opening up, curious about poly, or healing after a breach, this episode is your field guide to honest rules, softer landings, and deeper love.Naughty Gym Info-Website: https://www.naughtygym.com/Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-eventsDevious Dragonfly:https://www.deviousdragonfly.com/Expansive Connection:https://www.expansiveconnection.com/
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Celibate Swingers: Why Some People Need More Than Sex
In this playful and thought-provoking episode, Scott and April explore one of the most surprising dynamics in the lifestyle: choosing connection over sex. With their friends Dave and Andi, hosts of Tales of The Lastborns, they discuss topics as varied as “blue-ball moments” at full resort takeovers to the deeper reasons why some swingers deliberately opt for fewer play sessions, at least for a season. This conversation is equal parts hilarious and heartfelt. They share details about upcoming Naughty Gym events (Jamaica takeover, El Salvador retreat, and even a Barcelona adventure) while reflecting on the tension between sexual freedom and the power of saying “not tonight.” This one will make you laugh, think, and maybe rethink what intimacy really means. Naughty Gym Info-Website: https://www.naughtygym.com/ Events: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/naughty-gym-show-intersection-of-non-monogamy-wellness/id1701360007 Tales Of The Lastborns- Website: https://talesofthelastborns.com/ Podcast: https://talesofthelastborns.buzzsprout.com/follow
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Love On The Spectrum: Neurodivergence in Non-Monogamy
In this raw and hilarious episode, April and Scott sit down with their dear friend Roderick — filmmaker of Open: A Journey Through Love — to explore the intersections of neurodivergence and non-monogamy. From awkward flirting misfires to the surprising superpowers of direct communication, the three share personal stories about autism, sensory overwhelm, compersion, and why neurodivergent lovers might just be the best in bed. If you’ve ever wondered how differently-wired brains navigate open relationships, this one will open your eyes, your heart, and maybe even your bedroom.Learn about Roderick's documentary, Open: A Journey Through LoveLearn about Naughty Gym Come Party & Travel with us!
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Naughty Gym Goes To Portland: Recapping Our First Lifestyle Meetup at Sauvie Island & Club Privata
What happens when Naughty Gym hands over the reins for the very first time? In this episode, Scott (“The Coyote Whisperer”) and April sit down with coaches Matt & Cara to unpack the very first PNW Naughty Gym meetup in Portland, Oregon.The day started at Sauvie Island’s clothing optional beach and ended with a packed Naughty Gym takeover at Club Pravada — one of Portland’s most iconic lifestyle clubs. Nearly 300 people showed up, proving that connection-focused events are exactly what the sex-positive community is craving.You’ll hear:The nerves (and pride) of letting others host a Naughty Gym eventWhy connection-first events change the lifestyle experienceBehind-the-scenes of hosting at Club Pravada PortlandThe magic of Sauvie Island and authentic community buildingWhy friendships make the lifestyle more fun (and more meaningful)👉 Want the After Chat with the spicier details? Join us inside the Naughty Gym Lounge at https://www.naughtygym.com.🏝️ Come travel with us! See your entire event schedule: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events
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Who Do You Think You Aren't - Boundaries, Self-Trust, & The Power Of The Non-Monogamous Pause
In this powerful episode, April and Scott open up about two months of unexpected personal chaos—and the tools that got them through it. From setting firm family boundaries to rebuilding self-trust after betrayal, they explore how to protect your peace without shutting down or giving up. April shares the story behind a life-changing letter she wrote to her brothers, the surprising fallout, and why pausing—even in non-monogamy—can be the healthiest move. They dive into the struggle of being the family fixer, the trap of overgiving, and the question at the heart of it all: Who do you think you aren’t… to deserve peace, trust, and space to be yourself? You’ll also hear: • How to nurture yourself when you’re always the nurturer • Why intuition matters (and how to listen without self-doubt) • The real impact of setting boundaries in open relationships • What to do when the people you love disappoint you Whether you’re juggling relationships, caregiving, or just trying to find your center again—this episode offers raw honesty, laughter, and some hard-earned wisdom. 📍 Join the community at naughtygym.com 📅 See upcoming events, meetups & retreats Men's & Women's Retreat Details: 📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains: - 👯♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between 🙋🏻♂️ For men: Mancation Mountain JOIN NAUGHTY GYM'S COMMUNITYUPCOMING EVENTS
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Scott Debates Scott: Can Love & Commitment Survive Radical Freedom?
Can a relationship thrive without rules?Or does lasting love require some limits?In this candid and thought-provoking episode, Scott sits down with one of his personal training clients (also named Scott) for a deep dive into one of the most uncomfortable questions in modern relationship philosophy: Are some imposed boundaries necessary to preserve long-term commitment?Centering mostly around Wild Love Theory’s radical premise—that maximal happiness requires maximal freedom—the conversation challenges traditional ideas about relational doubt, how much freedom is too much and staying together “no matter what.”Together, they explore: • How much relational freedom is optimal • If boundary-free love is liberating or potentially reckless • How cultural norms about divorce shape our definitions of commitment • The emotional trade-offs between safety and sovereignty • Why ENM spaces often avoid talking about relational maintenanceWhether you’re in a long-term monogamous marriage or navigating ethical non-monogamy, this episode asks the question most couples never dare say aloud:Can you be truly free—and still choose to stay?-----------------------------------------📍 Join the community at naughtygym.com 📅 See upcoming events, meetups & retreats Men's & Women's Retreat Details: 📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains: - 👯♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between 💻 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise - 🙋🏻♂️ For men: Mancation Mountain https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain JOIN NAUGHTY GYM'S COMMUNITY: www.NaughtyGym.com UPCOMING EVENTS: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events
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Affairs, Empathy, and the Morality Police: Why People Cheat and What No One Talks About
When a viral kiss-cam moment exposed a workplace affair, the internet exploded with judgment, doxing, and moral outrage. In this raw and honest episode, April and Scott—who know a thing or two about public scandal—open up about their own affair-turned-marriage, the cultural obsession with punishing cheaters, and why so many people feel stuck in unhappy relationships.They unpack the real reasons people cheat, how shame prevents open communication, and why compassion is a better teacher than cruelty. Plus, they share upcoming Naughty Gym retreats, including a free PNW meetup and their wild and wise women’s event.Whether you’ve been cheated on, done the cheating, or just love a spicy hot take on relationships—this episode dares to go there.📍 Join the community at naughtygym.com 📅 See upcoming events, meetups & retreats Men's & Women's Retreat Details: 📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains: - 👯♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between 💻 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise - 🙋🏻♂️ For men: Mancation Mountain https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain JOIN NAUGHTY GYM'S COMMUNITY: www.NaughtyGym.com UPCOMING EVENTS: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events
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I Don’t Know What I Want (And Neither Do You) - Desire, Doubt & Discovery in Non-Monogamy and Real Life
Why is it so damn hard to know what we really want? In this vulnerable and unfiltered episode, April and Scott get real about the psychological and emotional roadblocks that make naming our desires feel confusing, overwhelming, and even scary—especially in non-monogamy. They explore: • Why childhood and culture train us to want what’s safe—not what’s true • The difference between relief and real desire • Why pretending to “want what they want” can quietly destroy you • How non-monogamy doesn’t make desire clearer—it just makes it louder • The 3 most common mistakes people make when trying to name what they want • Practical tools to help you reconnect to your real, wild, messy desires Plus, they share personal stories, relationship bumps, and how desire work is showing up in their own marriage, right now. This one’s for anyone who’s ever said, “I don’t know who I am anymore” or “I’m not sure what I want—but I know it’s not this.” 🎧 Listen, breathe, reflect—and start the journey back to your truest self. 📍 Join the community at naughtygym.com 📅 See upcoming events, meetups & retreats 🎉 New listeners welcome. Just don’t be an asshole. Men's & Women's Retreat Details: 📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains: - 👯♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise - 🙋🏻♂️ For men: Mancation Mountain https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain JOIN NAUGHTY GYM'S COMMUNITY: www.NaughtyGym.com UPCOMING EVENTS: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events
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Rage, Hormones, And Vaginal Dryness: The Real Talk You've Never Heard About Menopause.
What if menopause wasn’t something to dread, but a wake-up call, a shift, a powerful evolution?In this raw and empowering episode, April is joined by her friend and retreat co-host Catherine from Expansive Connection Coaching to break down the messy, misunderstood truth about menopause. They get honest about perimenopause, HRT, sex, sleep, relationships, brain fog, identity, body image, and why so many women feel like they’re losing their minds, or burning their lives down.But this conversation isn’t just for women. If you’re a partner, a son, a friend, this episode matters to you too. Because understanding menopause means understanding the people you love.Expect laughter, vulnerability, hard truths, and plenty of F-bombs (the literal and metaphorical kind). Plus, learn more about their Wild & Wise Women’s Menopause Retreat, a space for education, connection, and maybe even a few healing flames.Retreat Details: 📍 November 13–16 | Smoky Mountains 👯♀️ For women at any stage: peri, post, or somewhere in between 💻 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-WiseExpansive Connection Coaching: https://www.expansiveconnection.com/enmJOIN NAUGHTY GYM'S COMMUNITY: www.NaughtyGym.comUPCOMING EVENTS: https://www.naughtygym.com/ng-events
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Unveiling Majesty: Drag, Backlash, and the Fight for Dignity in Alabama
What happens when a beloved teacher and drag performer in Alabama becomes the target of a national smear campaign? In this powerful Pride Month episode, we sit down with Majesty Divine—former middle school math teacher turned drag icon—to hear the raw, unfiltered truth behind the viral headlines, hateful threats, FBI involvement, and the beauty and heartbreak of staying visible in the South. This isn’t just a story about drag. It’s a story about freedom, resilience, grief, and the sacred act of refusing to disappear. From a small-town drag bingo to national news, from protestors to parades—this is the real story they didn’t want you to hear. 💥 Trigger warning: mentions of threats, slurs, and religious extremism. Miss Majesty Divine Info:Drag Queen Mafia, Facebook Unveiling Majesty Documentary Find out more about Naughty Gym memberships or events here: www.NaughtyGym.com 💬 Want to keep the convo going? - Join our members-only discussion in The After Chat inside our Naughty Gym Lounge at www.naughtygym.com to share your thoughts, ask questions, or suggest future topics. If you have topics you would like to hear us talk about or someone you would like us to interview, shoot us a message at [email protected]. And remember, to Never Stop Playing!
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🎙️ Fitness Without Fences: Building Inclusive Spaces for the LGBTQ+ Community with Cara Turnquist
In this powerful Pride Month episode of The Naughty Gym Show, we sit down with advocate and fitness coach Cara Turnquist to tackle one of the fitness industry’s lingering blind spots: true inclusivity for LGBTQ+ individuals.👉 Why do so many gyms remain unwelcoming—even if they don’t explicitly exclude?👉 What are the invisible barriers LGBTQ+ folks face just walking into a fitness space?👉 And why do those of us with privilege have a moral responsibility to fight for change?Cara shares the origin of her groundbreaking Lift Up program (a safe, empowering gym experience for LGBTQ+ members), personal stories of navigating fatphobia and exclusion, and why representation, small language shifts, and fearless advocacy matter more than ever.We also unpack:✅ How gym owners & fitness professionals can make spaces truly inclusive✅ Why locker rooms and bathrooms are still battlegrounds✅ How allies can stop sitting quietly on the sidelines✅ The myth of “neutrality” in today’s climate✅ Actionable steps for building community and saving lives through fitnessThis isn’t just about rainbows on the wall. It’s about creating spaces where everyone feels safe, seen, and free to take up space.If you’re a gym owner, a coach, a fitness lover—or simply someone who gives a damn about making the world better—this episode is a must-listen. 🎧
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Bisexuality in the Lifestyle: Myths, Truths, & Allyship
In this episode, we’re diving deep into what it means to be openly bisexual in swinger and ethically non-monogamous (ENM) spaces, and why it’s time to break the stigma, especially around male bisexuality. As a bisexual married couple, we’re often assumed to be straight. But bisexuality doesn’t disappear just because you’re in a “hetero-presenting” relationship. We’re sharing our personal experiences, the double standards we’ve faced, and how we’ve learned to show up more unapologetically in the lifestyle. We’ll also explore: • Why male bisexuality is still taboo in many swinger spaces • How female bisexuality often gets fetishized instead of validated • How to start exploring your own bisexuality, whether you’re male, female, partnered, or solo • What real allyship looks like in non-monogamous communities Whether you’re bi, questioning, or just want to be a better ally, this episode is for you. 🏳️🌈 You deserve to be seen. Your identity is valid. And there’s space for you here. If you want to continue the conversation with us, join in the NG Lounge for the “Off The Record” chat in the our Naughty Gym community at www.naughtygym.com If you have topics you would like to hear us talk about or someone you would like us to interview, shoot us a message at [email protected]. And remember, to Never Stop Playing!
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Weight Bias, Toxic Masculinity & Being Seen: A Raw Conversation with Ashley Manta
In this powerful and deeply honest episode, we sit down with sex educator, writer, and CannaSexual® Ashley Manta for a raw conversation about body image, weight stigma, and what it really means to be seen.Ashley opens up about her personal journey with GLP-1 medication, navigating public perception, and the grief that comes with being treated better only when you're smaller. We also explore how body autonomy, desire, and visibility intersect—and what happens when the world treats your worth like it’s conditional.We also talk:The emotional whiplash of weight-based validationWhy “being healthier” isn’t always the full storyToxic masculinity, sexual empowerment, and reclaiming spaceHow to make peace with your body in a world that profits off your shameIf you’ve ever felt unseen, dismissed, or punished for existing in your body—this episode is for you.📲 Follow Ashley MantaWebsite: ashleymanta.comInstagram: @cannasexualOnline Courses: https://www.elevatedintimacy.com/Blog: ashleymanta.substack.com💬 Want to keep the convo going?Join our members-only discussion in The After Chat inside our Naughty Gym Lounge at www.naughtygym.com to share your thoughts, ask questions, or suggest future topics.If you have topics you would like to hear us talk about or someone you would like us to interview, shoot us a message at [email protected] remember, to Never Stop Playing!
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Our El Salvador Recap - Deep Connection, Volcano Hikes, Tropical Parties… and a Stomach Bug!
In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, we’re giving you the full, unfiltered recap of our unforgettable retreat in El Salvador! 🌋🌴From volcano hikes and hidden waterfalls to epic parties and intimate connection circles, this retreat had it all—including a surprise plot twist: a stomach bug that made its way through most of the group. 😅But even that couldn’t kill the vibe.We’re sharing: • What made this event one of our most powerful yet • How the community came together in the face of discomfort • Why deep connection was the true focus of the retreat 💞 • And of course, the legendary Naughty Gym moments you’ve come to expect 🍸🔥This one had it all—adventure, laughter, vulnerability, and a whole lot of love.If you missed it, get the inside scoop. If you were there, come relive the magic (and the madness) with us.👉 Subscribe, leave a review, and tag us if you’re listening!Upcoming Events:Smoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025 - [2 spots remaining] https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidazeWild & Wise Women's Retreat- Nov 13-16th, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-WiseMancation Mountain Men's Retreat- Nov 13-16th, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountainBe Better At Being Bad III - Jan 3-10th, 2025: https://hedonism.com/bbbb#NaughtyGym #LifestyleRetreat #ElSalvador #ConnectionFirst #SwingerPodcast #FitnessAndFreedom #VolcanoVibes #TummyTroubleAndTanlines
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30 Days At Hedonism - What We Learned About Ourselves & the Resort
We spent 30 days at Hedonism Resort coaching fitness classes and playing host for close to 2000 people over that period. This episode is an overview of the whole month, what we learned about ourselves, and some tips we picked up that may help you better enjoy a vacation at this iconic adult playground. Upcoming Events:El Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorSmoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidazeWild & Wise Women's Retreat- Nov 13-16th, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-WiseMancation Mountain Men's Retreat- Nov 13-16th, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountainBe Better At Being Bad III - Jan 3-10th, 2025 https://hedonism.com/bbbb
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Unpacking childhood trauma through Wild Love Theory: April's most vulnerable episode yet
This episode is unlike any we’ve ever recorded.For the first time, April opens up about some of the deepest wounds from her past—stories she’s rarely shared in public. Like so many women, she endured sexual abuse as a young girl, a trauma that shaped her journey but never defined her. Through years of personal work, she’s fought to reclaim her power, her body, and her voice—emerging as the strong, fearless woman she is today.But healing is a process, not a destination.For the past 10 years, we’ve navigated non-monogamy together, dismantling the belief systems we inherited and embracing the expansive, limitless potential of love. We’ve taken our time, been intentional, and built something beautiful.And yet—April recently discovered an entirely new level of healing through Wild Love Theory.In this episode, she shares how embracing Wild Love Theory has allowed her to shed some of the final remnants of the pain that trauma left behind. It’s a raw, emotional, and deeply personal conversation about breaking free, finding strength, and learning to love without fear.This wasn’t an easy episode to record. Vulnerability is scary. But April holds nothing back, offering her story to anyone who has ever struggled with past wounds, control, or fear in their relationships.If you’ve ever felt trapped by the past, if you’ve ever questioned the limits imposed on love, or if you simply want to hear a story of true resilience and transformation, this episode is for you.💜 Listen now. This one will stay with you. 💜
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DTF? What is it and is it you?
DTF, otherwise know as "Down To F^@%," is an acronym that some use disparagingly and others wear as a badge of honor. But what does it mean to be DTF? And why do people label others as DTF much more often than anyone adopts it for themselves? Do we all define DTF the same? Or differently? Listen in on this episode as we try to get some clarity on what it means to be DTF. 👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com to join our community! 👈🏼 If you'd like to schedule a free 15 min consult Zoom with us to discuss our 1 on 1 coaching program, click the following: link...https://calendly.com/naughtygym/free-1-on-1-coaching-consult?month=2025-01 Upcoming Events: El Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador Smoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze Wild & Wise Women's Retreat- Nov 13-16th, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise Mancation Mountain Men's Retreat- Nov 13-16th, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain
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Improved Erections, Physiques, Sex life, and Mental Health - with the Hacking Love Podcast
We interview the creators of the Hacking Love podcast, Anna & Aiden. They have a tremendous podcast focused on deepening commitment through open relationships. Anna is also an expert coach in sexual and hormonal health and can be reached for coaching services at [email protected]. In this episode we discuss all the various ways our lifestyle choices, nutrition, and hormone imbalances can negatively impact our consensual non-monogamy journey and why it is so important to recognize how bad most primary care doctors are at handling these issues. Through this episode you will undoubtedly come away with some nuggets of wisdom that will help make you healthier, look better in a swimsuit, and be better in bed! If you are struggling to get your hormones balanced and are concerned that your doctor isn't answering all your questions or providing you the service you need, Anna's health coaching services could be your answer. Reach out to her at [email protected] 👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com to join our community! 👈🏼If you'd like to schedule a free 15 min consult Zoom with us to discuss our 1 on 1 coaching program, click the following: link...https://calendly.com/naughtygym/free-1-on-1-coaching-consult?month=2025-01Upcoming Events:El Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorSmoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidazeWatch for more information coming soon about our Men's & Women's retreats!
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Wild Love Theory - A Controversial Model of Maximal Relational Happiness
This episode is a video of Coach Scott's LIVE Keynote address, including the Q&A session, at BBBB 2025 at Hedonism II Resort in Negril, Jamaica. The keynote is followed up with April and Scott discussing more details of Wild Love Theory, it's implications, and the difficulties of implementation. Wild Love Theory can work with monogamous as well as non-monogamous relationships, hierarchical or non-hierarchical.👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com to join our community! 👈🏼If you'd like to schedule a free 15 min consult Zoom with us to discuss our 1 on 1 coaching program, click the following link...https://calendly.com/naughtygym/free-1-on-1-coaching-consult?month=2025-01Upcoming Events:El Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorSmoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
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Recap of BBBB 2025 at Hedonism Resort, 2025
This episode is our full recap of Be Better At Being Bad, our full resort takeover of Hedonism II Resort, in Negril Jamaica. It took place Jan 4-11th, 2025. We cover some of things that really stood out to us, the progress we've continued to make in our lifestyle journey and the ways we both pushed past some of our comfort zones. This event takes nearly a year of planning, a BBBB team of 30 volunteers and speakers, and the help of the entire staff of Hedonism Resort. If you'd like to schedule a free 15 min consult Zoom with us to discuss our 1 on 1 coaching program, click the following link...https://calendly.com/naughtygym/free-1-on-1-coaching-consult?month=2025-01👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com to join our community! 👈🏼Upcoming Events:El Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorSmoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
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April's BBBB Keynote: Unmask Your Inner Badass And Overcome Imposter Syndrome
Did you miss BBBB week at Hedonism II? Don’t worry—we’ve got you covered! In this episode of The Naughty Gym Show, we’re bringing you the full recording of April’s keynote speech, Unmask Your Inner Badass: Crushing Imposter Syndrome, Owning Your Goals & Being Unapologetically You. This speech was recorded live inside the famous Piano Bar!April’s dives into breaking free from self-doubt, owning your unique power, and embracing the confident, unstoppable version of yourself. Whether you were in the audience or couldn’t make it this year, now’s your chance to experience the energy, inspiration, and insights from this unforgettable event. If you'd like to schedule a free 15 min consult Zoom with us to discuss our 1 on 1 coaching program, click the following link...https://calendly.com/naughtygym/free-1-on-1-coaching-consult?month=2025-01👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com to join our community! 👈🏼Upcoming Events:El Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorSmoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
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2024 & 2025 - Highlights, Lowlights, Goals, & Resolutions
In our last episode of the year we cover our favorite personal, professional, and relational moments of 2024. Then we go in depth about our goals (April hates the word resolution) for 2025. It is a great way to end the old year and look forward to the new. 👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com to join our community! 👈🏼 Upcoming Events:Be Better At Being Bad Week - Jan 4-11, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/bbbb-2025-landing-pageEl Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorSmoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
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April Gets Her Stocking Stuffed Early
In this episode Scott surprises April with a gift he's been emotionally working towards for months and months. It's his theory, called Wild Love Theory, and he's implementing it with April despite his fears and insecurities and her hesitancy in actually using the gift.Wild Love Theory is Scott's keynote address at 2025's Be Better At Being Bad event at Hedonism II Resort in Jamaica. The theory states that "Maximal relational happiness requires maximal relational freedom."Scott discusses the basics of the new theory without going too deep into the details (which will be released in full on January 10th). But the resulting summary is this... April no longer has any imposed relationship boundaries from Scott. She can flirt, connect, message, date, play, or love whomever she chooses, whenever she chooses, and to whatever degree of frequency she desires.Listen in on this discussion and let us know what you think!👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com for all of your health & fitness needs! 👈🏼 Upcoming Events:Be Better At Being Bad Week - Jan 4-11, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/bbbb-2025-landing-pageEl Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorSmoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025 - [2 rooms left] https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
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What Is So Naughty About Naughty Gym?
This episode covers everything you've ever wanted to know about Naughty Gym, including...How Naughty Gym startedWhy we started itWhy we don't post butthole pics :)The 3 primary parts of Naughty Gym, fitness membership, events, and the podcast, and why we created each.The future of Naughty Gym and mine and April's passion projectsThe big tease of upcoming new Lifestyle resorts in America that will raise the bar on stateside resorts.👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com for all of your health & fitness needs! 👈🏼 USA Today article about Naughty Gym: https://tinyurl.com/58v7r2ntUpcoming Events:Be Better At Being Bad Week - Jan 4-11, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/bbbb-2025-landing-pageEl Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorSmoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025 - [2 rooms left] https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
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The Art Of The Orgy, w/Dan & Lacy from The Swing Nation
We talk about all things Orgies with Dan & Lacy from The Swing Nation Podcast. We work through the pros and cons, mindset approaches, how to avoid potential issues. The 4 of us live very close to each other but don’t get to visit very often so we take full advantage of the opportunity to have a fun conversation. Listen in as we discuss serious topics like how women can best use their voice when considering an orgy. Then laugh as Scott says he needs a reason to have sex with someone while Dan explains he needs a reason not to. Find out everything you want to know about SWING NATION…https://theswingnation.info👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com for all of your health & fitness needs! 👈🏼 Upcoming Events:Be Better At Being Bad Week - Jan 4-11, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/bbbb-2025-landing-pageEl Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12, 2025 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorSmoky Mountain Holidaze- Nov 1-6th, 2025- https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze
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Tit For Tat - Should Equality Be Your Swinging Goal? w/the Flirty Swingers
In this episode we bring in special guests, The Flirty Swingers, to discuss the idea of equality in non-monogamous relationships.We tackle questions like...Is equality a reasonable goal in non-monogamy?Should each partner be willing to work toward accepting and bringing to fruition the desires and fantasies of their partner?Is it okay to dig in your heels and tell your partner "no" to certain scenarios?If you are allowed to do a thing, is it only fair that you allow your partner to do that same thing?Are certain imbalances inherent in all relationships?How to safely work on these imbalances?Is it ever wise to be unwilling to work toward gifting your partner their unfulfilled fantasies?We tackle these questions, hopefully present good advice, and have a lot of laughs in the process.FLIRTY SWINGERS LINKS:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theflirtyswingers/YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/@theflirtyswingers-jl4qw?si=-5bMptMZpFI2kXVjPodcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7wC8YETbcsyxp7bg5B0B5n👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com for all of your health & fitness needs! 👈🏼 Upcoming Events:Be Better At Being Bad Week - Jan 4-11, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/bbbb-2025-landing-pageEl Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorDating Sites: SDC.com Use the code SDCFIT when you register at www.naughtygym.com to get your first month free!—Affiliates— Shamelesscare.com ED Meds & STI Testing Use code NAUGHTYGYM for $30 off.
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Swinging, Catching Feelings & Falling In Love
Are feelings something you should avoid at all costs when swinging? Are we all just a bunch of cyborgs having fun with our emotions turned off? What happens if your partner says they are developing feelings for someone?Even worse, what if they fall in love? How bad can it be? How do we handle it if it happens?We discuss all of these topics in this episode of The Naughty Gym Show. 👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com for all of your health & fitness needs! 👈🏼 Upcoming Events: Be Better At Being Bad Week - Jan 4-11, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/bbbb-2025-landing-page El Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12 - [SOLD OUT] https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador Dating Sites: SDC.com Use the code SDCFIT when you register at www.naughtygym.com to get your first month free! —Affiliates— Shamelesscare.com ED Meds & STI Testing Use code NAUGHTYGYM for $30 off.
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Breaking Down Barriers: The OUT Foundation’s Impact on LGBTQ+ Health & Wellness
In this episode we talk with OUT Foundation Vice President Paul Raker about their mission in the LGBTQ+ community and their partnership with Naughty Gym to create a fundraising effort called PrideFlex. We discuss a range of fitness issues within the LGBTQ+ community, the shared struggles with non-monogamy, and how PrideFlex can help.REGISTER FOR PRIDEFLEX HERE!
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Reconciling Religion & Non-Monogamy
Do you experience religious shame or guilt because you choose to live a consensually non-monogamous lifestyle? Are you trying to find a way to reconcile these 2 different aspects of your personhood?In this episode we talk with Mitch & Cyndee, experts on the reconciliation of religion and non-monogamy. They give some phenomenal advice on carving a path forward that allows you to live this beautiful non-monogamous lifestyle while still being true to your religious faith.They also refer us to some great books that can help you navigate this issue:Sex, God, and the Conservative Church, by Tina Shermer SellersShameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good (About Sex), by Nadia Bolz-WeberThe Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, & Connection through Embodied Living, by Hillary L. McBrideThey further recommended an online course called "The Bible and Swinging" written specifically to address this issue.---------------👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com for all your health & fitness needs! 👈🏼Upcoming Naughty Gym Events:Be Better At Being Bad Week - Jan 4-11, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/bbbb-2025-landing-pageEl Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12 https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorDating Sites: SDC.com Use the code SDCFIT when you register at www.naughtygym.com to get your first month free!—Affiliates—Shamelesscare.com ED Meds & STI Testing Use code NAUGHTYGYM for $30 off.
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Are You Good In Bed, w/Ashley Manta
In Episode 30 we talk with Ashley Manta about how we can know whether or not we are good in bed. We all (well, mostly guys) think we are good in bed. But how do you really know? Can we be living under the illusion that we are good when in reality we ain't that great? Are there signs we can look for? Are women often faking it? Are guys typically over confident? Is it a turn off when guys brag about there supposed oral skills... or any of their skills? Is it all about physical skills or is there more important things we should be focused on? How do we get better? We answer all of these questions on this episode with Ashley Manta, the Cannasexual! Ashley Manta's website: www.ashleymanta.com NAUGHTY GYM WEBSITE: 👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com for all of your health & fitness needs! 👈🏼 Upcoming Naughty Gym Events: Be Better At Being Bad Week - Jan 4-11, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/bbbb-2025-landing-page El Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12 https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador Dating Sites: SDC.com Use the code SDCFIT when you register at www.naughtygym.com to get your first month free! —Affiliates— Shamelesscare.com ED Meds & STI Testing Use code NAUGHTYGYM for $30 off.
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April Learns To Be A Femdom with Luna Matatas
In Episode 27 we reviewed April's first separate date with a man who wants to be her submissive. The first date was dinner and drinks mostly for April to learn more about his submissive kink and what he hopes to get out of their relationship. In this episode, Luna Matatas, femdom extraordinaire, gives April an on-air lesson in how to prepare for her upcoming 1st big femdom session with her new boy toy.If you know April at all it may come as no surprise that she seems to be taking to this potential role with enthusiasm and throughout this episode sounds like she's going to be a natural. Listen in as Luna gives advice that is likely educational for anyone curious about the kink of power exchange.LUNA MATATAS WEBSITE: https://lunamatatas.com/en-usNAUGHTY GYM WEBSITE: 👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com for all of your health & fitness needs! 👈🏼Upcoming Naughty Gym Events:Be Better At Being Bad Week - Jan 4-11, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/bbbb-2025-landing-pageEl Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12 https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvadorMIXOLOGY, our next greet local party in Huntsville, Alabama, August 23-24th - https://tinyurl.com/bdct7hh5Dating Sites: SDC.com Use the code SDCFIT when you register at www.naughtygym.com to get your first month free!—Affiliates—Shamelesscare.com ED Meds & STI Testing Use code NAUGHTYGYM for $30 off.
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Hedonism II Resort: Behind the Scenes with Hedonism Management
In this episode we interview 4 of the most important members of Hedonism II Resort's management team to get the inside scoop and ask questions about the day to day logistics of running the world's most iconic adult playground. We interview: Diane Lange, Executive Director Winston Barkley, Entertainment Director Tatiana Answer, Director of Sales and Marketing Diana Field, Groups Manager If you are considering a trip to Hedo but have never been, this is an opportunity to hear directly from the people who make this place so special. If you've been to Hedo many times before hopefully you'll really enjoy hearing from management when they are "off the clock." 👉🏼 Check out www.naughtygym.com for all of your health & fitness needs! 👈🏼Upcoming Events: Be Better At Being Bad Week - Jan 4-11, 2025 https://www.naughtygym.com/bbbb-2025-landing-page El Salvador Retreat at Mizata- May 7-12 https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador MIXOLOGY, our next greet local party in Huntsville, Alabama, August 23-24th - https://tinyurl.com/bdct7hh5 Dating Sites: SDC.com Use the code SDCFIT when you register at www.naughtygym.com to get your first month free! —Affiliates— Shamelesscare.com ED Meds & STI Testing Use code NAUGHTYGYM for $30 off.
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Naughty Gym Show is a podcast about non-monogamy, open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and the skills of building strong relationships beyond traditional monogamy.Hosted by Scott and April Shirley, the show explores how couples and individuals can create honest, ethical, and emotionally strong non-monogamous relationships. Each episode dives into the real work of modern love, communication, jealousy, autonomy, intimacy, trust, and personal growth.At the center of the show is a simple but radical idea: relational freedom. The belief that love grows strongest when it is chosen freely, supported by honesty, autonomy, and mutual respect rather than control or fear.These conversations draw from the broader framework behind Wild Love Theory, a modern philosophy of relationships built around authenticity, autonomy, and expansive connection.If you’re curious about ethical non-monogamy (ENM), exploring open relationships, navigating polyamory, or simply trying to build a more honest and
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