No Hard Feelings…Kinda

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Welcome to the very first episode of This, That & The Trouble, a new monthly bonus series from No Hard Feelings…Kinda. And yes…you asked for it - so she’s back. Shiri joins JoJo for unfiltered, real-life conversations about the stories that didn’t end where you thought they did. In this episode, we’re diving into a situation that had us questioning everything - what really happened, what it felt like in the moment, and what we understand now looking back. Let’s just say…not everything was said the first time. This is where we go beyond the surface. The messy middle, the misunderstood moments, and the truths that only come out in conversation. Because there’s always more to the story…and it’s time to set the record straight.If you can relate to JoJo's brain going rogue and not cooperating with her...then you might want to try these dopamine patches made by Veliza. And just so you know, anything you purchase through this link helps support the show! So thank you!https://veliza.shop/products/veliza-dopamine-patches?sca_ref=10829553.XYRVtmlcO1Rf40II Keywords real life storiesrelationship storiesstorytelling podcastwomen’s podcastpersonal growth podcasthonest conversationsrelationship dramadating storieslife experiencespodcast about relationshipsself reflection Be honest…would you do it again? Let us know in the comments. 

What happens when the people who are supposed to protect you…don’t?In this episode, I sit down with children’s therapist, author, and survivor Stacy Schaffer to talk about childhood trauma, survival mode, dissociation, and what it really takes to heal from experiences that were never supposed to happen in the first place.Stacy shares her story of growing up in an environment where safety wasn’t guaranteed, learning to cope in ways that helped her survive, and eventually finding her way back to herself - not just personally, but professionally as a therapist helping others do the same.We talk about:- what it feels like when adults fail to protect you- dissociation and the “emotional cave” many survivors retreat into- perfectionism as a survival strategy- the long-term effects of childhood trauma- healing, community, and learning how to feel safe againThis conversation touches on topics like sexual assault, trafficking, and abuse - including experiences in childhood. While we don’t go into graphic detail, this is a heavy but important episode.If you’ve ever felt like you had to become someone else just to survive…this one is going to hit.---Connect with Stacy Schaffer:Website: https://authorstacyschaffer.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hoperestored/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stacy.schafferTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@authorstacyschaffer Get her book: With Love From a Children’s Therapist https://www.amazon.com/Love-Childrens-Therapist-lessonsihavelearnedalongtheway/dp/1964251516---Support the show + check out Veliza dopamine patches:If your brain has ever felt like it’s running on low battery, you’re not alone - https://veliza.shop/products/veliza-dopamine-patches?sca_ref=10829553.XYRVtmlcO1Rf40II  https://veliza.shop?sca_ref=10829553.XYRVtmlcO1Rf40II(If you grab anything through this link, it helps support the show - which I appreciate more than I can even put into words…and we’ve already established how that goes.)---Join the community: The After Party (Private Facebook Group):  https://www.facebook.com/groups/nhfktheafterparty ---Follow & support the show: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Q2mmRyZspf9Qr40ZGB25R YouTube:www.youtube.com/@nhfkpodcast Leave a review on Apple Podcasts:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-hard-feelings…kinda/id1835874169---Therapy is expensive.Share your chaos with me…for free.--- The ROAR Gallery is a digital wall of encouragement where people can upload short video messages for individuals and families going through tough times, especially during hospital stays. You can view examples here:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGjde29iQPBJL_Trf3F7yWw Your ROAR can change a life. Share your story and inspire hospital families to never give up. Upload your ROAR: https://extendtherose.org/roargallery Welcome to The ROAR Gallery - a movement of hope that starts with you. Here, people from all walks of life share short stories of courage and gratitude, creating a wave of encouragement for children and families fighting tough battles in hospitals. Every ROAR reminds them they’re seen, heard, and celebrated. Together, we’re flooding hospital rooms with positivity and giving families the strength to keep going. A ROAR is a short, positive message - a declaration of the good in your life and a reminder that hope still wins. Because hope is a team sport. 

Why does childhood trauma repeat itself?How do you know if unresolved trauma is affecting your behavior?And what happens when you realize you might have become the person you once feared? In this episode of No Hard Feelings…Kinda, we talk about childhood trauma, emotional healing, therapy, and personal accountability with podcast host and former chef Lee Risby. Lee shares his experience growing up with physical abuse, struggling with self-harm, and building the kind of emotional armor that many people develop when they don’t feel safe. Over time, that armor turned into anger, attitude, and behaviors that began affecting the people around him - including in hismarriage and family. Then came the moment many people avoid their entire lives:the realization that unhealed trauma doesn’t just hurt you… it can hurt others too. In this honest conversation we talk about:• How childhood abuse affects adult relationships• Why trauma can turn into anger, control, or toxic behavior• The psychology behind self-harm and emotional coping mechanisms• Chef culture, masculinity, and emotional suppression• Recognizing when you’ve become the bully in someone else’s story• Divorce, therapy, and radical self-awareness• How to take accountability without drowning in shame• Learning how to give and receive love after trauma• Healthy coping strategies for stress and emotional regulation This episode is about breaking cycles, facing uncomfortable truths, and learning how to become someone you actually like being. Also, because this is No Hard Feelings… Kinda, we still manage to laugh - because if we don’t laugh, we’ll all end up sending our therapists voice memos at 2AM. If you’re interested in mental health, trauma recovery, therapy, self-improvement, or personal growth, this conversation will resonate. And if halfway through the episode you find yourself thinking,“Wait… am I the problem?” Don’t worry.That’s not a crisis.That’s self-awareness.🎧 Listen now:New episodes of No Hard Feelings…Kinda drop regularly featuring real conversations about mental health, relationships, trauma, and the chaos of being human.childhood trauma, trauma healing, therapy conversation, breaking generational trauma, emotional healing, mental health podcast, self awareness, toxic behavior psychology, abuse recovery, trauma and relationships, accountability and personal growth, therapy and self improvement, narcissistic abuse recovery, healing after divorce 

What happens when a divorced woman stops chasing love…and starts choosing herself?In Part 2 of my conversation with Shiri, we dive into post-divorce dating, female empowerment, emotional independence, and the unexpected truth: sometimes healing doesn’t make you softer - it makes you selective.I came prepared to talk about avoiding emotionally unavailable men.Shiri came ready to admit she was the emotionally unavailable one.We unpack:• Dating after divorce• Reclaiming confidence after marriage• Ghosting and emotional boundaries• The difference between empowerment and avoidance• Trauma patterns in adult relationships• How self-worth changes your dating standards• Why “chemistry” isn’t always healthy• And what it really means to take yourself dancingThis isn’t about hating men.It’s about understanding patterns.It’s about recognizing when your nervous system is confusing chaos with connection.It’s about healing attachment wounds without pretending you’re perfect in theprocess.If you’re navigating life after divorce, re-entering the dating world, or learning how to stop over-explaining yourself - this episode is honest, funny, and unfiltered.Because sometimes growth looks like saying:“I don’t owe anyone access to me.”Listen to Part 1: I Can Love Me Better for the full arc.Therapy is expensive. Share your chaos with me…for FREE.  _____________________________________________The ROAR Gallery is a digital wall of encouragement where people can upload short video messages for individuals and families going through tough times,especially during hospital stays.  You can view examples here:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGjde29iQPBJL_Trf3F7yWwYour ROAR can change a life. Share your story and inspire hospital families to nevergive up. Upload your ROAR: https://extendtherose.org/roargallery Welcome to The ROAR Gallery - a movement of hope that starts with you. Here, people from all walks of life share short stories of courage and gratitude, creating a wave of encouragement for children and families fighting tough battles in hospitals. Every ROAR reminds them they’re seen, heard, and celebrated. Together, we’re flooding hospital rooms with positivity and giving families the strengthto keep going. A ROAR is a short, positive message - a declaration of the good in your life and a reminder that hope still wins. Because hope is a team sport. 🌹 

What happens after divorce?Grief…healing…and sometimes a full-blown glow up.In Part 1 of my conversation with Shiri, we dive into what it really looks like to get your groove back after divorce - rebuilding confidence, rediscovering desire, reclaiming identity, and realizing you don’t need a partner to validateyour worth.And let me tell you…her ADHD brain makes this conversation absolute gold.We go on tangents.We double back.We laugh until we forget what the original question was.But underneath the chaos? Real talk about dating after divorce, self-love, independence, boundaries, and stepping into your power without apology.Somewhere in the middle of the wild detours, it hit me:“I can love me better.” Completely unplanned, both of Shiri’s episodes ended up being PERFECT for Valentine’s Day - because nothing says romance like choosing yourself first.Part 2 is coming shortly - and it goes even deeper into love, dating, and what happens when you stop shrinking and start shining.If you’ve ever:• Navigated divorce• Wondered how to date again after a long relationship• Lost yourself in a partnership• Or needed permission to take your power backThis one’s for you.___________________________________The ROAR Gallery is a digital wall of encouragement where people can upload short video messages for individuals and families going through tough times, especially during hospital stays. You can view examples here:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGjde29iQPBJL_Trf3F7yWwYour ROAR can change a life. Share your story and inspire hospital families to never give up. Upload your ROAR: https://extendtherose.org/roargallery Welcome to The ROAR Gallery - a movement of hope that starts with you. Here, people from all walks of life share short stories of courage and gratitude, creating a wave of encouragement for children and families fighting tough battles in hospitals. Every ROAR reminds them they’re seen, heard, and celebrated. Together, we’re flooding hospital rooms with positivity and giving families the strength to keep going. A ROAR is a short, positive message - a declaration of the good in your life and a reminder that hope still wins. Because hope is a team sport. 🌹

In this episode, JoJo sits down with Dr. Robb Kelly, a leading addiction recovery expert with decades of experience helping individuals and families understand addiction, trauma, and the path to sustainable recovery.Dr. Kelly breaks down what addiction actually is - beyond stereotypes, shame, and moral judgment - and explains why willpower alone is never the answer. Together, we talk about control, coping, relapse, accountability, and the very human reasons people turn to substances in the first place. This conversation goes deep, honest, and unfiltered - without oversimplifying something that affects millions of people in different ways.And yes, before dedicating his life to recovery work, Dr. Kelly was also a professional musician who played at Abbey Road Studios.Because apparently some people collect resumes, and others just casually live six different lives.Before the interview, Fame, Flames, and Feelings takes a hard look at how we treat addiction when it plays out in public, using celebrity culture to unpack stigma, spectacle, and our obsession with redemption arcs.And after the interview, The Audacity Files: Recovery Edition is back - calling out the wild confidence, bad takes, and unsolicited opinions people love to share about addiction while knowing absolutely nothing.This episode isn’t just about addiction.It’s about judgment, control, humanity - and what it actually takes to change the conversation.Listener discretion advised. Heavy topics, honest conversations, and zero sugarcoating.________________________________________The ROAR Gallery is a digital wall of encouragement where people can upload short video messages for individuals and families going through tough times, especially during hospital stays. You can view examples here:   / @roar-gallery  Your ROAR can change a life. Share your story and inspire hospital families to never give up. Upload your ROAR: https://extendtherose.org/roargallery Welcome to The ROAR Gallery - a movement of hope that starts with you. Here, people from all walks of life share short stories of courage and gratitude, creating a wave of encouragement for children and families fighting tough battles in hospitals. Every ROAR reminds them they’re seen, heard, and celebrated. Together, we’re flooding hospital rooms with positivity and giving families the strength to keep going. A ROAR is a short, positive message - a declaration of the good in your life and a reminder that hope still wins. Because hope is a team sport. 🌹

“When darkness turns to light, it ends tonight.” - All American RejectsThis bonus episode brings together all three parts of I Married a Narcissist into one uninterrupted story - because apparently trauma hits harder when you don’t have to click “next episode.”So many of you asked to hear it start to finish, and honestly… it deserved to live in one place. What began as survival slowly turned into clarity, self-trust, and eventually the kind of peace that doesn’t require explaining yourself to anyone.This is a story about emotional abuse, manipulation, gaslighting, and the mental gymnastics required to convince yourself everything is “fine.” It’s also a story about waking up, choosing yourself, and realizing that losing your mind was actually your nervous system screaming, “girl, please.”It’s heavy. It’s raw. It’s honest.But if I can laugh now, it means I made it out.Content warning: emotional abuse, narcissistic behavior, relationship trauma.Season 2 officially begins January 22nd - new guests, new stories, same emotional chaos (just better boundaries).And if you want to keep the conversation going, join the private Facebook group:No Hard Feelings…Kinda | The After Party - where we unpack episodes, overshare responsibly, and laugh at things that probably should require a consent form.No hard feelings… kinda.#narcisist #narcissisticabuse #narcissism #podcast #darkhumor

This episode is not a recap.It’s a victory lap with reckless commentary. The Season One Finale and New Year’s Eve Special closes out a year of saying things out loud and only afterward remembering that microphones work and the internet is forever. Expect laughs, deeply questionable observations, and several moments that absolutely should not be replayed in a professional environment - but unfortunately now exist in audio form. We don’t do New Year’s resolutions here.We do anti-resolutions: lower expectations, stronger boundaries, and absolutely no pretending next year will “be different” without evidence. You’ll probably start writing your own halfway through. Stick around for a rundown of the craziest crimes of 2025, the most unhinged celebrities of the year, and proof that society was largely unsupervised. Oh - and yes.Jesus will be live-tweeting this episode.I’m a little scared…yet so intrigued. Subscribe to the No Hard Feelings.Kinda YouTube channel so you don't miss a thing! #newyearseve #newyears #happynewyear #seasononefinale #podcast

If you only ever listen to one episode of this podcast, let it be this one.I share Part 3, the ending story of my first marriage - not for shock value, not for sympathy - but because silence stopped protecting us a long time ago. This is a story about alcoholism, narcissistic abuse, smear campaigns, and the quiet devastation that happens behind closed doors. It’s also a story about boundaries, choosing your child, and learning - slowly, painfully - to trust yourself.But because it is Christmas week, this episode also makes space for a little levity.Alongside the most personal story I’ve ever shared, we take a detour into holiday chaoswith:-          Fame, Flames, and Feelings: The Jesus Is Watching Remix-          The Audacity Files: Christmas EditionBecause healing doesn’t mean you stop laughing.And surviving the holidays sometimes requires both truth and humor.This episode is not chaotic.It’s not angry.It’s intentional. If you’ve ever been told you were “overreacting,”If you’ve ever been forced into silence to keep the peace,If you’ve ever learned that love with conditions isn’t love at all -  This one is for you. Content Note: This episode discusses emotional abuse, addiction, and harm involving a child. No graphic details, but please take care of yourself while listening. Thank you for being here. Thank you for listening.And thank you for trusting yourself enough to stay. Please check out the private Facebook group I made for you all – No Hard Feelings…Kinda| The After Party.  This group can be whatever you guys want it to be!  It’s where we can build this community of bad asses that have gone through some wild stuff and lived to talk about it!  Let’sconnect!   Please subscribe to the YouTube channel so you never miss a thing!  #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissism #marriage #divorce #nohardfeelings

This week’s episode is a little bit unhinged and a whole lot honest. We’re talking about:-          a skunk encounter that escalated way faster than it needed to-          My First Marriage Story - Part 2, where hindsight is loud and clarity is painful-          Petty Triggers: Holiday Edition, because apparently growth has a seasonal allergyThis episode is about the moment you realize something has shifted inside you - not explosively, not dramatically - just quietly enough that you can’t ignore it anymore. There’s humor.There’s reflection.There’s mess.And there’s that very specific kind of clarity that only comes after you’ve stayed too long. NEW: I just created a Facebook group - No Hard Feelings…Kinda | The After Party - a space to keep the conversations going after the episode ends. If this one hit close to home, come find us there! Subscribe so you don’t miss what’s coming next.  The storyisn’t over. Sometimes the fire doesn’t burn everything down - it just shows you what can’t stay.

Yes, the weekly episode still dropped.Even while I’m knee-deep in Fame, Flames, & Feelings, my ongoing deep dive into The Reckoning. If you love true crime, celebrity scandals, manipulation, power dynamics, and psychological breakdowns, go check that series out too. Quick accountability moment:I forgot shout-outs last episode!  BUT I made sure to do them FIRST THING in this episode!  Also…the growth on Spotify lately has been unreal. The listens, follows, and messages keep climbing, and the fact that this many people are voluntarily tuning in to hear me unpack trauma and questionable life decisions is genuinely humbling. Thank you for being here. Now - this episode.Episode 8 is the beginning of a story I’ve never told publicly.  In fact, there’s really only a very select few I’ve even told privately.  The Dramedy with a touch of Horror that is…my first marriage.This one is for anyone who has ever been in a relationship or marriage with a narcissist - or someone who made you question your memory, your instincts, and your grip on reality (so basically, a narcissist). We’re talking:-    emotional manipulation-    gaslighting-    red flags you explained away-   and the slow realization that you weren’t “too sensitive” - you were just being manipulatedThis isn’t a textbook explanation of narcissistic abuse.It’s lived experience. The kind where you don’t realize what’s happening until you’re already exhausted and apologizing for things you didn’t do. If you’ve been through it, you’re not alone. And if you’re still in it - we stick together. (And yes, it gets clearer eventually… just not quickly.)  Subscribe so you don’t miss Part 2.  We are ALMOST TO 100 subscribers on YouTube!  Let's make the subscriber count SEXY. Like & comment if this episode hit a nerve .DM me or contact me here if you have a story to tell.  (ANONYMOUS GUESTS ARE WELCOME) More truth is coming. And it only gets more ridiculous from here. #marriage #divorce #narcissist #narcissism #narcissistic abuse

In this minisode of The Reckoning deep-dive series, we break down the chaos that fueled the infamous East Coast vs. West Coast feud - you know, the one the music industry profited from while pretending to be absolutely shocked every time someone got shot. We unravel how a young Sean “Puffy” Combs helped create a hyper-toxic environment that pushed Tupac Shakur and Biggie Smalls from genuine friends to reluctant rivals. Between gang politics, industry manipulation, and enough ego to power the Vegas strip, this wasn’t just a feud - it was a powder keg everyone kept tossing lit matches onto. In this episode, we dig into:• How Puffy’s ambition turned Bad Boy Records into a pressure cooker where chaos wasn’t a side effect - it was basically the business plan.• The slow, ugly unraveling of Tupac and Biggie’s friendship thanks to outside forces who couldn’t mind their damn business.• The role of gang politics, industry puppeteering, and the “grown adults making terrible decisions” cinematic universe.• Why the night in Vegas wasn’t just tragic - it was the moment everything snapped.• How Tupac’s death was the predictable outcome of systemic failure… and how Biggie’s murder could’ve been prevented if literally ANYONE involved had two functioning brain cells and a conscience.• Puffy’s very… interesting behavior after both murders and the accountability questions that still follow him like a badly trained dog.• The eerie confessions and destructive patterns hiding in Puffy’s lyrics and legacy, now laid bare in The Reckoning documentary.Sprinkle in some betrayal, a dash of manipulation, two devastating murders, and a music industry counting its money in the background and you have the tragic recipe that shaped hip-hop history. And don’t worry… I added just enough dark humor to keep us from emotionally flatlining.If you’re loving this series, do me a HUGE favor: hit SUBSCRIBE on YouTube. I’m THIS CLOSE to 100 and I promise it’ll make my day, my week, and possibly cure stop my neurotic little brain from going No Contact with me…again.   **Subscribe, comment, share -it’s FREE and it boosts my serotonin.**        #thereckoning #seancombs #diddy #tupac #biggie  East Coast, West Coast, Diddy, Tupac, Biggie, Bad Boy Records, gang politics, music industry, Suge Knight, rivalry

In this bonus mini-series, I’m breaking down Netflix’s “Sean Combs: The Reckoning”with everything the documentary DIDN’T tell you. Part 1 dives into: • Diddy’s chaotic childhood• The red flags that started early• How Bad Boy was really built• The women, friends, and artists caught in the crossfire• The City College tragedy• The psychology behind the Puffy persona• And the explosive ending where someone close to him says he may have had a rolein Tupac’s death This isn’t a recap - it’s a deep dive, a breakdown, and a receipts tour through theflames behind the fame. Part 2 drops tomorrow.A regular weekly episode of No Hard Feelings…Kinda is still coming this week. Subscribe so you don’t miss the full 4-part series.**We are ALMOST to 100 subscribers on YouTube!! Please a part of the journey and help me achieve this milestone! CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE ON YOUTUBE #TheReckoning #DiddyDocumentary #TrueCrime #50Cent #NetflixDocumentary  

This episode marks a brand-new era for No Hard Feelings…Kinda.I’m stepping into the mic solo for the first time - honest, unfiltered, a little petty, and fully in my rockstar energy.In today’s episode, I’m diving into everything happening behind the scenes: the plot twist that flipped my show on its head, how I’m handling big life changes with humor and heart, what accountability REALLY looks like, plus a messy mix of fame, flames, and feelings as I unpack the Ashton Kutcher deep dive.If you’ve ever rebuilt yourself, walked away from something that wasn’t serving you, or had to laugh your way through chaos - you’re in the right place.Topics in this episode:• reinventing your life in real time• mental health + humor• navigating friendship fallouts• accountability vs avoidance• pop-culture deep dives• choosing yourself (loudly)• behind-the-scenes podcast drama• new beginnings + rockstar energy• solo podcasting, authenticity, and resilienceIf you’re new here:This show blends serious mental health conversations with humor, honesty, and the chaotic brilliance of getting your life back together one questionable decision at a time.✨ Big things are coming - and this episode is just the beginning.🤑Therapy is expensive. Share your chaos with me…for FREE.🔹Subscribe to No Hard Feelings...Kinda on YouTube so you never miss a thing! 🔹www.youtube.com/@nhfkpodcast#podcast #glowup #pink #nohardfeelings #newera

From Janet Jackson’s iconic lyric to the VIP treatment of today’s stars - JoJo and Madi are diving headfirst into the world of celebrity privilege. JoJo and Madi revisit the scandals that shaped pop culture - from Britney and Justin’s breakup to the Super Bowl fallout and Keke Palmer’s public drama - and ask the question fame always seems to whisper: What have you done for me lately?Expect laughs, side-eyes, and a few uncomfortable truths about the perks and pitfalls of being famous.Therapy is expensive, but we’re here for free.#NoHardFeelingsKinda #Podcast #CelebrityCulture #PopCulture #JanetJackson #BritneySpears #JustinTimberlake #KekePalmer

Your Honor, we are doing our best!Ladies, gentlemen, and chaotic listeners of the jury: against every possible technical mishap known to humankind, we present… Episode 2! From mic meltdowns to internet betrayal, we survived it all to bring you tales of courtroom absurdity. Because nothing says No Hard Feelings…Kinda like questioning life choices under oath.

Season One, Episode One is here baby!! And we're not easing into anything. We're diving headfirst into laughs, celebrity drama, unfiltered opinions, and just enough chaos to keep you wondering if we actually do have hard feelings after all. Spoiler alert: we do...sometimes.

No Hard Feelings...Kinda is not your typical podcast. We're loud, we're messy, and we don't always know where the conversation is going - but somehow, it always lands exactly where it should. Season One is full of real talk, random tangents, and at least 3 questionable decisions. So follow and subscribe now and board the Hot Mess Express before we derail! Tell your friends! https://www.facebook.com/nohardfeelingskindahttps://www.instagram.com/nohardfeelingskinda/https://www.tiktok.com/@nhfkpodcasthttps://www.youtube.com/@NHFKpodcasthttps://sites.google.com/view/nhfkpodcast