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We’re all a little immature when we get married. It’s ok to be immature when you get married, but it’s not ok to stay that way! Here’s how can you spot an immature spouse… How to Spot an Immature Spouse PDF DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Quick Counsel Podcasts. Subscribe to bretlegg.com Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on… • Instagram • Twitter – @bretlegg • Facebook

It’s not a lack of communication that’s the problem in relationships. It’s a lack of good communication. But I want to explain to you how you can use UPS to deliver good communication in your relationships.  Communication can be boiled down to the simple act of receiving a message and then delivering a message…much like UPS. So we’re going to use the letters U-P-S to help you improve communication in your relationship. DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Quick Counsel Podcasts. Subscribe to bretlegg.com Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on… • Instagram • Twitter – @bretlegg • Facebook

Have you ever wished you could go back and change something in your history? Most of us feel that way, but we know we can’t change the past. You can’t change our history.  But what if I told you there IS a way to change your FUTURE HISTORY.  It may sound like something from a sci-fi movie, but it’s possible! You don’t have to be a time traveler to change your future history. You just have to make the most of what’s in front of you now! DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Quick Counsel Podcasts. Subscribe to bretlegg.com Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on… • Instagram • Twitter – @bretlegg • Facebook

I would like to tell you that you and I can completely rid ourselves of discouragement, but I can’t. Discouragement is a part of life that we can’t completely avoid. But I can tell you how to increase your tolerance level for discouragement. It involves making three small changes: Change Your Focus. Change Your Comparisons. Change Your Frame. If you’re a person of faith, you can see these three changes in the story of David and Goliath. Are you discouraged today? Is there something that seems too big for you? Try applying these 3 changes and see if it doesn’t raise your tolerance level for discouragement. DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Quick Counsel Podcasts. Subscribe to bretlegg.com Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on… • Instagram • Twitter – @bretlegg • Facebook

There are many different support groups out there, and many people attending them. But are they helpful? I believe they are. In this episode of Quick Counsel, we’re going to answer these three questions:  What is a support group? Is a support group helpful? How can you find a support group? DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Quick Counsel Podcasts. Subscribe to bretlegg.com Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on… • Instagram • Twitter – @bretlegg • Facebook

Our moods can feel like some ethereal, ghost-like entity that just settles upon us. Like something intangible that we can’t quite get a hold of. But once you understand how a mood is made, you will begin to understand how you can manage a mood. In this episode of Quick Counsel, we’re going to help you do this, by explaining what goes into making your mood and 3 things you can do to help manage your mood. Download Making of a Mood diagram DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Quick Counsel Podcasts. Subscribe to bretlegg.com Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on… • Instagram • Twitter – @bretlegg • Facebook

In this episode of Quick Counsel, we talk with Erik Almodovar. Erik is a pastoral counselor at Warren Grovetown Church in Grovetown, GA. As a pastoral counselor, Erik deals with a variety of issues, but he is particularly adept and experienced in working with men who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction. Listen as Erik explains the nature and prevalence of sexual addiction, the damage it does, and how a person can find freedom from this addiction. This episode will give hope to those struggling with pornography and sexual addiction.  DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Quick Counsel Podcasts. Subscribe to bretlegg.com Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on… • Instagram • Twitter – @bretlegg • Facebook

Ordering Drive up is easy. So, what if you could apply the same principles of ordering drive-up to your everyday communications with your friends or spouse? In this episode of Quick Counsel, we’re going to show you how to do just that. DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Quick Counsel Podcasts. Subscribe to bretlegg.com Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on… • Instagram • Twitter – @bretlegg • Facebook

These days, everyone is promoting something they say will make your life better. But, at the risk of sounding like everyone else, what if I told you that there are 3 things everyone needs to make their life better? It may sound like a sales pitch, but in this episode of Quick Counsel, I’m going to share with you 3 things that I believe every single person needs in their life. (And it may surprise you.) DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on Instagram Twitter – @bretlegg Facebook

Everyone can be plagued with defeating thoughts. It’s part of being human. Something bad or unwanted happens and we get sucked down a rabbit hole of negativity. But in this episode, I’m going to give you a simple two-step process for derailing defeating thoughts that anyone can practice.  DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on Instagram Twitter – @bretlegg Facebook

Sometimes we have difficulties resolving problems because we get in a mental rut and get stuck with just one perspective…ours! We need a different perspective, but to do that we need to get some distance and some objectivity when it comes to our situation. In this podcast, we talk about three simple approaches to getting a different perspective on things.  Also, here’s a link to a post we referenced by Shayla Love entitled “Why You Should Talk to Yourself in the Third Person.” DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Quick Counsel Podcasts. Subscribe to bretlegg.com  Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHY0oYUJSUMDz4dnF09mJJQ Follow Bret on  Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/bretlegg/ Twitter – @bretlegg Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/bretalegg

There are always gaps between spouses. One may be a spender and the other a saver. One may be an introvert and the other an extrovert. One may be a detailed person and the other a big-picture person. These gaps originally were attractive, but over time, they become glaring and aggravating. When that happens, we often deal with it in ways that make matters worse. In this podcast, you will get four strategies to help with the gaps in your marriage. DON’T FORGET… Subscribe to Bret’s YouTube channel Follow Bret on Instagram Twitter – @bretlegg Facebook

We all want to know that we’re making the right decisions and going in the right direction. But with so many decision to make, and so many options out there, how can you know? In this podcast, I’ll give you 3 simple questions that will give you greater clarity when it comes to determining if you’re on the right path. We’ll even ask an even bigger question, “Is there really such thing as a “right path?” DON’T FORGET… Follow Bret on YouTube Instagram Twitter Facebook

So often we say, “I could really be happy if only…” and then we talk about something we feel is standing in the way of our happiness.  Well, today on Quick Counsel, we’re going to look at what’s standing in the way our our happiness.  Spoiler alert! It might not be what you think.  Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret here:  bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook

It’s bad when people lie to you. Whether they’re politicians, bosses, spouses, or friends, being lied to hurts. It’s betraying and disrespectful. But the one things that’s worse than having others lie to you, is when you lie to yourself!  And that’s what we’re going to talk about today on Quick Counsel. Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret here:  bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook

On today’s episode of Quick Council, I am going to give you a quick tip on improving communication in marriage. I call it The Sands of Time.  So let’s get to it. Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret here:  bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook

What’s the difference between normal worry and abnormal anxiety? That’s what we’re going to look at today on Quick Counsel… Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret here:  bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook

When you and your spouse are at odds with one another, it’s easy to expect your spouse to be the first one to try to make things right. But what happens if they don’t want to go first? What happens if you don’t want to go first? Who should go first to repair the relationship?  In today’s episode of Quick Council, we’re going to see if we can figure that out! Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret here:  bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook

If someone asked, “Who are you?” How would you answer?  On this episode of Quick Counsel, we’re going to take a few minutes and wrestle with the question, “Who are you?”  So let’s dig in… Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret here:  bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook

It’s a common question – “How do I know if I need to see a counselor?”  Today, on Quick Counsel, we’re going to give you some practical advice that will help you answer this question for yourself, or someone you know.  Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret here:  bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook    

Have you ever had someone hurt your feelings or make you angry, but you didn’t say anything because you don’t want to face the possible conflict? Today on Quick Counsel we are going to talk about a simple approach to address this minimal fallout. Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret on his website, bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook  

Here’s a riddle for you…What is it that is sought by everyone and available to everyone, but some never find? If you’ve read the title of this podcast, then you know the answer is “MEANING.” Today on Quick Counsel, we’re going to look at our search for meaning and why it’s so important. LINK: “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Victor Frankl – https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0807014273? pf_rd_r=GM9JAPQJQ2YFHKRBTG7J&pf_rd_p=edaba0ee-c2fe-4124-9f5d-b31d6b1bfbee  Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret on his website, bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook  

Intimacy…Some long for it and some fear it. But most everyone has trouble defining it and improving it.  Today on quick counsel we’re going to dive into the mystery of intimacy. We’re gonna look at how we define it and how you can improve it particularly in the context of marriage. So let’s go. Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret on his website, bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook  

Some people are resistant to the idea of seeing a counselor. They don’t see the need for it, and they certainly can’t see how they could benefit from counseling.  If you know someone like this…or if you are someone like this…this episode is for you! Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret on his website, bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook  

A lot of people use the terms self-esteem and self-worth interchangeably. But are they the same thing? And why does it matter?  We’ll be looking at this today on Quick Counsel. Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret on his website, bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook  

When it comes to reacting and making decisions…should we listen to our feelings? Some will say “yes” and some will say “no.” Stay tuned and I’ll tell you what I think. Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret on his website, bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook  

Mindfulness. There’s a lot of talk about mindfulness these days. But what is it, and can it really help you, and how? Today on QUICK COUNSEL, we’re going to give you a basic understanding of mindfulness and how it can help you. So stay tuned. Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret on his website, bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook    

We’re all familiar with children needing a time-out when they’re having trouble controlling themselves, but have you ever thought that there are times when spouses need a time out also.  We’re going to talk about that today on Quick Counsel.  Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret on his website, bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook

What’s the difference between depression and just being down? Today we’re going to look at how you can know if you’re really depressed, or just feeling down. LINK: *APA article – https://www.medscape.com/answers/286759-14692/what-are-the-dsm-5-criteria-for-diagnosis-of-major-depressive-disorder-clinical-depression#qna Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher Find more from Bret on his website, bretlegg.com | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook      

Welcome to the maiden voyage of the Quick Counsel Podcast. I’m your host, Bret Legg. I’m a pastoral counselor with a Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Counseling, a Masters Degree in Religious Education, and more than 30 years of years of experience in helping people. And my goal with this podcast is to help people who might not ever go to counseling understand concepts and issues that could improve their life. Please know this…This podcast is not a substitute for professional counseling or therapy. The purpose of this podcast is to give you, the listener, a simple and practical understanding of counseling issues and how they might apply to your life. Each episode will be brief and easy to understand. We won’t take much of your time, but hopefully each episode will give you something that will be applicable to your life and help you grow. So I just wanted to give you a quick introduction to me and the podcast. You can find me at bretlegg.com as well as on YouTube. I hope you’ll tune in for each episode of the Quick Counsel Podcast and that it will bring some help and value to your life. Thank you for listening to the Quick Counsel podcast. If you found this helpful, please subscribe, leave a comment, question, or review, and share it with others. You can also find me on YouTube and at bretlegg.com. I hope to catch you on the next episode of the Quick Counsel Podcast. Subscribe to the Quick Counsel Podcast: Apple, Google, Spotify and Stitcher