SHOOT THE BREEZE | Cultivate Relationships

In this episode, Lacey sits down with life and recovery coach Jenni Hubby to talk about addiction, recovery, and God’s heart for those walking through it. Drawing from her own journey into sobriety and decades of experience helping others, Jenni explores common misconceptions Christians often have about addiction. Together they discuss why simply “stopping” a behavior is not the whole story, how faith and practical steps work together in recovery, and what it looks like to walk toward lasting healing and restored identity.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Introducing Jenni HubbyLacey introduces life and recovery coach Jenni Hubby, sharing her background, her work helping people overcome past obstacles, and the personal connection she and her husband have had supporting Lacey and Nathan’s family during this difficult season.(23:22) Misconceptions About Addiction in the ChurchJenni reflects on common misunderstandings Christians have about addiction, including the idea that people simply need more faith or should just stop the behavior. She explains why stopping is only the beginning of real recovery.(46:52) Addressing the Pain Beneath AddictionThe conversation shifts toward the deeper issues that fuel addictive behaviors. Jenni and Lacey discuss how unresolved pain, trauma, and internal turmoil often drive addiction, and why healing those roots is essential.(1:07:11) Walking Out Faith in RecoveryThe episode closes by exploring what it looks like to actively walk out faith during recovery. Jenni shares how lasting change requires both spiritual trust in God and practical steps that help people remain grounded in freedom.— EPISODE LINKS —• Jenni Hubby | Life Coachhttps://www.jhubconsulting.com/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

There is no easy way to start this description. So I will get right into it.On January 16, 2026, it came to light that I had been engaging in inappropriate conversations with a woman and with chatbots through apps and texting, seeking and soliciting inappropriate images. Our daughters first discovered this, and in that moment, I did not tell them the truth. It was only after several hours of conversation between Lacey and me that the full extent of what had been happening came to light.This is in addition to something we shared with our board in the fall of 2025 — that I had returned to pornography for about 9 months after experiencing sixteen years of freedom.There is no excuse for the choices I made. They were sinful, manipulative, deceptive, and deeply hurtful to my wife and girls. Bringing this into the light is incredibly painful and embarrassing to my family, but I know that it is necessary for my repentance and our healing and restoration to begin.Last week, the board of Cultivate Ministries met and discussed a plan for our family and this process of restoration. Lacey and our girls will be receiving counseling and support, and I am pursuing intensive help for both this addiction and the deeper, unaddressed issues that led to it. Several trusted men and a ministry team from our church are walking closely with me in this process.Over the next few months, while I focus my time and attention on personal healing and restoration, Lacey will continue to minister and teach while she also works through her own hurt and brokenness because of what I did.During this time, we first and foremost ask that you pray for Spirit-led wisdom and direction for our ministry and our family. Pray for healing and restoration to take place in our marriage and in our home with our girls. Pray for Cultivate Relationships and how God might lead you to financially partner with us as we take this necessary time to heal and walk through this process.We still believe that Jesus’ finished work on the cross is the key to freedom, healing, and restoration for any and every sin.  And this fact is not shaken nor moved by this sin.Thank you for your grace, your prayers, and for allowing us the space to pursue the help we need. Thank you and God bless,Nathan & Lacey Steel

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott continue their study through Hebrews by confronting how easily believers drift back into external rules, self-effort, and spiritual performance. This episode presses into the heart of the gospel: Jesus didn’t partially replace the old covenant — he fulfilled and rendered it obsolete. The conversation exposes how law-based thinking (a life built on the 10 Commandments) still shapes worship, discipleship, and judgment today, and re-centers salvation as trusting Jesus’ finished work while living empowered by the Holy Spirit, not managed by religious systems. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.*— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) From Law to LifeThe discussion moves from legalistic habits and outward performance to the freedom of trusting Jesus as mediator, exposing how both conservative and charismatic systems subtly replace reliance on the Spirit.(21:47) One Sacrifice, Once for AllHebrews 9–10 takes center stage as the conversation clarifies that Jesus’ death didn’t supplement the Law — it ended it. The old system pointed forward; the reality is now fully present in Christ.(40:53) The End of the Age(s) ExplainedAttention turns to “end of the age” language in the New Testament, distinguishing the end of the Law-centered age from the future physical return of Jesus, helping untangle common eschatology confusion.(51:57) Activation StepsThis episode concludes with the activation step, inviting reflection on how external rules still shape faith and how to practice trust, rest, and obedience empowered by the Spirit.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb160/• Playlist | Revelationhttps://cultivaterelationships.com/revelation/• Playlist | Galatianshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians/• STB074 | BSE | Bible Odditieshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb074/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott begin a series exploring Hebrews 9-13 by setting the theological foundation for why Jesus is greater than everything that came before him (think Old Testament Law and the 10 Commandments). Before diving into doctrine, they dive into the purpose, authorship, and structure of Hebrews. This episode reframes the Old Testament as a shadow pointing to Jesus, clarifying why the law could diagnose sin but never heal it — and why intimacy with the Father is now fully accessible through Jesus. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.*— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Introduction to Hebrews: Author and DateThe episode opens with candid conversation and irreverent humor, modeling how emotional awareness, stress, and everyday life matter in spiritual formation before getting into the setting of the book of Hebrews.(11:10) Why Hebrews Was WrittenThe discussion shifts to the background of Hebrews — its audience, timing, and likely authorship — explaining why the message was delivered anonymously and why it speaks so directly to Jewish believers.(24:01) Jesus Is Greater Than the LawThe heart of this section unpacks Hebrews 8.13 and 9.9, showing how Jesus fulfills every role of the Old Testament. The law revealed sin, but only Jesus restores relationship and heals what the law could never fix.(35:54) Shadows vs. RealityFinally, this section contrasts the Old Testament as a shadow with Jesus as the substance, using relational analogies to show why clinging to the law after Christ is like choosing a shadow over the real person.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb160/• Playlist | Revelationhttps://cultivaterelationships.com/revelation/• Playlist | Galatianshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians/• STB074 | BSE | Bible Odditieshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb074/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott walk through the process of resolution by defining forgiveness, repentance, reconciliation, and restoration through the lens of Jesus and the gospel. They challenge behavior-based gospel narratives and show how the good news begins with who people are as God designed them, not what they’ve done. This episode reframes salvation, propitiation, reconciliation, and restoration as participation in God’s new creation, inviting Christians to live as ambassadors who reflect grace in real relationships.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Why Definitions MatterThe conversation opens by exposing how misunderstanding propitiation, forgiveness, repentance, reconciliation, and restoration can keep people stuck in brokenness, bitterness, and pain. Clear definitions remove fear, dismantle deception, and make it possible to begin the process of resolution.(24:06) Identity v BehaviorUsing 2 Corinthians 5, the discussion reframes the gospel as identity-first. People are not defined by sin or behavior, but by who God says they are — reshaping how we view repentance, forgiveness, and ultimately, evangelism.(1:03:27) Ambassadors of ReconciliationAttention turns to our role as participants in God’s work. Believers don’t repeat Jesus’ sacrifice, but they do carry His message — inviting others to repent, return, and live from their restored design.(1:22:58) Activation StepsThis episode closes with reflection and application, inviting listeners to examine how they view people, release behavior-based judgments, and actively practice reconciliation as ambassadors of God’s new creation.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb159/• Podcast Playlist | Forgivenesshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/forgiveness/• Podcast Playlist | Revelationhttps://cultivaterelationships.com/revelation/• The Freedom Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/• What is the Septuagint?https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/old-testament/#ot-texts• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott conclude their two-part teaching on anger by clarifying how anger reveals what’s happening in the heart. In this second episode, they move from unhealthy expressions of anger (smoldering and explosive) into a biblical understanding of righteous anger, showing how anger can either protect one's self or serve restoration. The conversation challenges listeners to discern motive, submit reactions to the Holy Spirit, and practice repentance that leads toward maturity, forgiveness, and reconciliation. This episode brings both teachings together, offering a clear pathway for handling anger in a way that reflects the heart of our Heavenly Father. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.*— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) From Smoldering to Explosive AngerThe episode wraps up smoldering anger (quiet resentment, avoidance, passive control) and transitions into explosive anger—how outbursts, escalation, and intimidation often reveal unprocessed offense and unmet desires.(21:28) Righteous AngerThe focus shifts to righteous anger—how anger can be a Spirit-led response when it protects what is good, confronts what harms, and refuses to let injustice or distortion stand, without becoming self-righteous or cruel.(33:42) Application: Checking Our AngerThis section closes the righteous anger teaching with application questions that help expose motives. The aim is discernment: is anger rooted in love and restoration, or in ego, control, fear, and self-protection?(50:20) Activation Steps (for episodes 1 & 2)This episode closes by combining the activation questions from both parts—identifying your anger pattern, inviting the Holy Spirit to search your heart, repenting where needed, and taking practical steps toward repair.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb158/• STB157 | BSE | Conflict: Anger E1https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb157/• Bookshelf | UnLovehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#unlove• The Habit Treehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/• The Freedom Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/• Lacey's Story with Angerhttps://cultivaterelationships.com/small-group-videos/cwc-laceys-story/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott begin a two-part conversation on conflict by reframing anger through the lens of Scripture. Rather than suppressing anger or labeling it as a sin, this episode examines indignation as a morally neutral response that reveals our motives and how we respond to offense. Together, they unpack how unresolved anger creates space for the enemy, how misapplied Bible verses fuel control instead of maturity, and why learning to process anger rightly is essential for healthy relationships, leadership, and spiritual growth. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.*— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Irreverent Humor and Honest HumanityThe episode opens with unscripted humor and cultural banter, setting a relational tone that contrasts with the weight of the topic ahead. This opening reminds listeners that conflict and anger are discussed best within real, human connection.(15:41) Be Angry, But Do Not SinThe teaching begins by examining Ephesians 4.26–27. Anger is defined as neutral, while sin is determined by how it’s expressed or stewarded. Misusing this passage to force resolution is challenged in favor of heart-level responsibility.(39:26) Indignation, Control, and the HeartThe conversation turns to indignation as a shared biblical word used of both Jesus and his opponents. The distinction isn’t necessarily the behavior, but rather, the underlying motivation — a righteous response versus self-righteousness or unrighteousness.(46:46) Smoldering Anger vs Explosive AngerThe conversation turns to two unhealthy, unrighteous, and self-righteous expressions of anger. Smoldering anger hides beneath passivity and avoidance, while explosive anger surfaces through outbursts and control. Both avoid honest processing and set the stage for deeper conflict if left unresolved.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb157/• Bookshelf | UnLovehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#unlove• The Habit Treehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/• The Freedom Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/• Lacey's Story with Angerhttps://cultivaterelationships.com/small-group-videos/cwc-laceys-story/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott wrap up the Identity series by focusing on participation, clarifying how redemption invites us into active cooperation with what the Holy Spirit is rebuilding. After an opening conversation on humor, reverence, and knowing your audience, the study begins by confronting the idea that participation equals performance. Instead, obedience is framed as a response to grace, not an attempt to earn it. Drawing from Isaiah 61, this episode shows how true participation requires submission, stretches comfort, and forms maturity as we join God in His ongoing work of restoration.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Irreverent Humor, Reverence, and Knowing Your AudienceBefore the study begins, the conversation wrestles with “irreverence”: being accused of it, pulling back in group threads, and sorting out when humor is healthy (and when it can unnecessarily offend).(15:48) Participation Is Not PerformanceThe study begins by reframing participation in God’s work. Obedience is not earning, striving, or religious effort—it’s responding to what the Spirit is already rebuilding through redemption.(41:45) Rebuilding Requires SubmissionUsing Isaiah 61, the discussion clarifies that restoration involves cooperation. Participation often stretches comfort, challenges control, and reveals where surrender—not self-direction—produces maturity.(1:13:20) Activation StepsThis episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit where participation has been confused with performance and where submission is needed to join what God is actively rebuilding.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb156/• Podcast Playlist | Galatians Serieshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians/• Bookshelf | Identity Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#identity• STB107 | Grieving the Loss of a Child + Sarah P1https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb107/• Podcast Playlist | Forgivenesshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/forgiveness/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Scott continue the Identity series by focusing on redemption, not as behavior management, but as restoration to God’s original design. They explore how redemption is not merely forgiveness of sin, but a reclaiming of purpose, desire, and identity—freeing us to live as God intended from the beginning. This episode challenges reductionistic views of redemption and invites listeners into Spirit-empowered transformation that reshapes how we think, live, and relate.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Redeemed to God’s DesignThe conversation opens by reframing redemption as being restored to how God originally designed humanity—good, relational, and empowered—rather than merely being rescued from wrongdoing.(18:07) Desire, Design, and DistortionAttention turns to how desires themselves are not sinful, but become distorted when disconnected from God’s design, shaping unhealthy habits, beliefs, and identity.(35:48) Transformation Beyond BehaviorThis section explores how true transformation goes deeper than behavior modification, addressing thought patterns, motivations, and identity through ongoing submission to the Spirit.(59:29) Activation StepsThis episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal where redemption has been reduced to rule-following and to embrace restoration into God’s original design.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb155/• Bookshelf | Salvation Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#salvation• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Scott step into the next part of the Identity series by examining corruption — not as a loss of identity, but as the breaking of our perception of it. Through Scripture, design analogies, and honest stories, they reveal how false beliefs, unhealthy habits, and misplaced desires slowly shape us away from God’s intention. This episode invites listeners to explore how the Spirit restores clarity, exposes unhealthy patterns, and rebuilds us through truth, community, and surrender.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Identity, Design, and Why Corruption MattersOpening reflections highlight how salvation and identity overlap. The conversation explores why understanding our broken patterns is essential to restoration.(17:34) Facing the RubbleThis section digs into the “building rubble” analogy — showing how we must examine the mess, not ignore it, so God can rebuild what’s been fractured through false views of design.(39:11) Healthy vs. Unhealthy PatternsExamples from sexuality, food, and legalism reveal how desire itself isn’t sinful — but how we pursue fulfillment can distort or align us with God’s design.(1:08:56) Activation StepsThis episode closes with practical guidance for inviting the Holy Spirit to expose corruption, clarify truth, and lead us into restored identity through community and surrender.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb154/• Bookshelfhttps://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/• Bible Project | 1 Timothy (Modesty - Begins at 3:01)https://youtu.be/7RoqnGcEjcs?si=lSopJip8BTIp4WB2&t=181• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott Frerking launch a new identity series by challenging the lie that people are “broken” at their core. Using Scripture and real-life stories, they explain how our identity as God’s image-bearers is intrinsic and irreplaceable, even when our lives feel messy. This episode reframes “blessing” as an opportunity to prosper, unpacks our mission to bring order to chaos, and invites listeners to see themselves the way the Father already does.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Perception, Value, and IdentityThe conversation moves from lighthearted banter into a story about “laundered” vacation money, illustrating how our identity retains value even when life, sin, and pain make everything feel ruined.(16:35) Made in God’s Image and LikenessAttention turns to Genesis 1, 5, and 9, showing that humanity remains God’s image-bearers before and after the fall and the flood. Our mission to multiply, steward, and bring order has never been revoked.(37:51) Intrinsic Worth vs. Broken NarrativesThe focus shifts to how religious language, like “less of me, more of Him”, can distort identity when misapplied. Nathan and Scott contrast those clichés with Jesus calling us light, salt, and a city on a hill.(55:22) Activation StepsThis episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit where your view of yourself has been devalued, to agree with God’s declaration of your worth, and to step into your calling to bring order to chaos.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb153/• The Identity Guidehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/• The Freedom Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott explore salvation through the lens of submission, revealing that true freedom comes not from self-rule but from willingly aligning ourselves under God’s design. They unpack how salvation leads us into a life of surrendered trust — choosing the Spirit’s authority over the impulses of our habitual inclinations. Submission is not passivity; it’s the doorway into Spirit-empowered living, where obedience produces maturity, purpose, and the fruit of God’s life within us.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Living by the SpiritThe episode opens by reframing salvation as a call to surrender — choosing the Spirit’s leadership over self-direction so that our lives reflect God’s design rather than our impulses.(17:03) The Tension of Flesh and SpiritThe focus turns to Paul’s contrast between flesh and Spirit, showing that the battle is ultimately about submission: whichever authority we yield to shapes our character, choices, and destiny.(34:46) The Purpose of FreedomThis section highlights that freedom isn’t autonomy — it’s empowerment to submit to God’s design for human love, service, and holiness. True freedom expresses itself through Spirit-led obedience that benefits others.(1:04:20) Activation StepsThis episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit to expose areas of resistance, surrender those places to His leadership, and step into the peace and power that come from daily submission.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb152/• Study Bookletshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/• A Tale of Three Kings, by Gene Edwardshttps://a.co/d/f8xwl1n• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott continue their series on salvation, revealing that Jesus’ redemption isn’t just about being set free from sin but being set free to live empowered by the Holy Spirit. They uncover how salvation restores humanity to its original design — living in partnership with God’s purpose and authority. They show that redemption is not a single moment of escape but an ongoing journey of transformation, where believers learn to walk in true freedom, maturity, and Spirit-led life.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Understanding Sin and RebellionNathan and Scott revisit Genesis and Romans to redefine sin as rebellion against design, not inherited corruption, and explore how the gospel restores divine purpose.(18:01) The Nature of RedemptionThey discuss how salvation reconciles creation, humanity, and God’s authority, shifting our view from legal transaction to relational restoration.(36:55) Growing into MaturityThis section explores sanctification as an ongoing process — how believers are transformed by the Spirit into the likeness of Jesus through daily surrender.(1:08:22) Activation StepsThis episode closes with an invitation to let the Holy Spirit reveal where rebellion has distorted identity and to embrace the continual renewal found in walking with Him.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb151• Podcast Playlist | Romanshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/romans• The Freedom Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/• The Habit Treehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott explore what salvation truly means, challenging traditional views of “the fall” and redefining it as humanity’s ongoing rebellion against God’s design. They unpack Luke 15 to show that every lost thing — a sheep, a coin, or a son — first belonged to its owner, revealing that redemption isn’t about earning God’s favor but returning to His heart. Together, they confront distorted teachings about salvation and highlight how reconciliation, repentance, and relationship with the Father are central to the gospel’s story.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Rethinking “The Fall”The conversation begins by reframing Genesis 3 as the “Garden Rebellion,” exploring how humanity’s separation was relational, not spatial, and how God’s voice never left creation.(14:36) The Lost and the FoundThrough Luke 15, the parables of the lost sheep, coin, and son reveal that all began in belonging — the Father’s pursuit of those who are lost reveals His unending desire for reconciliation.(33:43) The Father’s Love and Our ResponseThey examine the Luke 15 story, contrasting rebellion and unrighteousness with religion and self-righteousness while emphasizing the Father’s compassion toward both lost sons.(59:52) Activation StepsThis episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal where we’ve resisted relationship with the Father and to return — fully restored and reconciled to Him.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb150• Podcast Playlist | Romanshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/romans• Podcast Playlist | Galatianshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/romans• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Phil kick off a new four-part series on Salvation, exploring what it means to be rescued, restored, and made new through Jesus. They unpack how salvation is more than escaping sin or judgment — it’s about relational redemption, daily transformation, and becoming who the Father always designed us to be. This conversation redefines salvation as the starting point of a life lived in partnership with God, not merely a ticket to heaven.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Foundations of SalvationNathan and Phil set the tone for the series, contrasting common misunderstandings of salvation with the biblical picture of restored relationship and divine purpose.(16:47) Why We Need SavingThey discuss humanity’s brokenness — not as inherited guilt, but as our habitual turning from God — and how Jesus’ work reclaims what sin and death distorted.(30:55) From Rules to RelationshipThis section explores the danger of reducing faith to legalism and how true salvation moves us from performance-based religion to Spirit-led transformation.(49:15) Activation StepsThis episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal areas where salvation has been misunderstood and to step into deeper trust and intimacy with the Father.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb149• Podcast Playlist | Faithhttps://cultivaterelationships.com/faith• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Phil wrap up the discussion on Faith in discussing the Church, exploring what it means to trust God’s design for His body even when people fail us. Through personal stories and Scripture, they unpack leadership wounds, offense, and the enduring promise of Jesus in Matthew 16 — that his Church will prevail.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Faith, the Church, and OffenseThe episode opens with humor and honesty about how faith gets tested when we experience hurt or disappointment in church life. The discussion centers on trusting God more than people.(16:04) The Foundation Jesus BuiltPhil and Nathan unpack Matthew 16 and 18, showing how Jesus’ words to Peter reveal a Church rooted in the gospel, not in human control or hierarchy.(31:25) Offense, Authority, and the KingdomThe conversation moves into how offense affects unity and how the Church can handle correction, leadership, and restoration biblically and relationally.(55:15) Activation StepsThis episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal areas of offense, release old hurts, and reengage the Church with renewed trust and faith in God’s design.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb148/• Podcast Playlist | Unlovehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/unlove/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott Frerking unpack what it really means to have faith in the Holy Spirit — not just the Holy Scriptures. The conversation explores how a Bible-only approach can lead to imbalance and self-directed legalism, while true freedom and relational depth come through walking with the Spirit daily.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Faith and the Holy SpiritThe discussion opens with Nathan reflecting on his early misconceptions about the Holy Spirit and how emphasizing Scripture over relationship left gaps in his spiritual life.(16:27) Unhealthy Attachments to ScriptureThe conversation shifts toward how believers can unknowingly idolize knowledge. Scott unpacks how the Spirit brings life where rigid interpretation can create distance.(32:22) The Holy Spirit’s Role in TruthDrawing from John 16, the episode explores how the Spirit doesn’t just teach truth—He embodies it—convicting hearts, glorifying Jesus, and guiding believers into deeper trust.(55:03) Activation StepsThe episode closes with a challenge to invite the Spirit into everyday life—listening, responding, and learning to walk in dependence rather than control.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb147/• The Freedom Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott Frerking unpack what it really means to have faith in the Holy Spirit — not just the Holy Scriptures. The conversation explores how a Bible-only approach can lead to imbalance and self-directed legalism, while true freedom and relational depth come through walking with the Spirit daily.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Faith and the Holy SpiritThe discussion opens with Nathan reflecting on his early misconceptions about the Holy Spirit and how emphasizing Scripture over relationship left gaps in his spiritual life.(16:27) Unhealthy Attachments to ScriptureThe conversation shifts toward how believers can unknowingly idolize knowledge. Scott unpacks how the Spirit brings life where rigid interpretation can create distance.(32:22) The Holy Spirit’s Role in TruthDrawing from John 16, the episode explores how the Spirit doesn’t just teach truth—He embodies it—convicting hearts, glorifying Jesus, and guiding believers into deeper trust.(55:03) Activation StepsThe episode closes with a challenge to invite the Spirit into everyday life—listening, responding, and learning to walk in dependence rather than control.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb147/• The Freedom Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION - Nathan and Pastor Scott explore how our earthly experiences — especially with fathers — shape our view of God as Father. They discuss the Trinity, God’s relational nature, and how healing reorients our hearts to see Him as He truly is.— EPISODE CHAPTERS —(00:00) Wrestling With Our View of GodThe episode opens with how our view of God is often shaped by early influences, especially parental examples, leaving distortions that need healing.(24:31) The Trinity and Our IdentityNathan and Scott explain how the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit reveal God’s relational nature and empower our identity, moving beyond shallow analogies into deeper theological truth.(47:22) God the Father’s Relational HeartThis section highlights God as Father, emphasizing His generosity and constancy while challenging listeners to confront how childhood experiences shaped their view of Him.(1:19:31) Activation StepsThe episode ends with reflection and activation, inviting listeners to identify distortions from earthly fathers and anchor themselves in God’s unchanging love and truth.— EPISODE LINKS —• Episode Noteshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb145/• Bookshelf | Faith Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#faith• Podcast Playlist | Galatians Serieshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians/• Unseen Realm, by Michael Heiserhttps://a.co/d/9Xf2SqA• Youtube | St. Patrick's Bad Analogieshttps://youtu.be/KQLfgaUoQCw• The Freedom Booklethttps://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/• Bible Toolshttps://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/• More Content & Resources at Our Websitehttps://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey equip listeners to walk others through the Freedom Booklet. They cover two practical formats — intentional one-on-one meetings and small groups (typically 2–4 participants) with a leader and co-leader — and share concrete best practices: set dates and timelines, provide accountability and simple hospitality (quiet space, coffee, childcare), keep leaders as facilitators (not counselors), enforce confidentiality and speaking rules, use the instructional videos, check in between sessions, and always allow the Holy Spirit to lead. It’s a practical, encouragement-filled guide for helping people move from stuck to free.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • Using This Resource with Others (PDF) https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey guide listeners through the last step of The Freedom Booklet, Step Nine: Receive and Replace — a transformative process of letting go of lies and replacing them with the Holy Spirit’s truth. Rather than simply releasing pain or sin, this step invites you to actively receive what Jesus is speaking over you, aligning your heart with His Word and stepping into lasting freedom. They explain how this isn’t just a cognitive shift but an invitation to action — hearing from God, walking in obedience, and marking the moment as a testimony of His work. This process closes the loop on the past and launches you forward into a future of hope and healing.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • STB124 | BSE | Real, Vulnerable Prayer E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb124/ • STB125 | BSE | Real, Vulnerable Prayer E2 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb125/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey discuss Step Eight — release and blessing — the part of resolving sin, loss, and offense that often gets overlooked but is essential to true freedom. Drawing from Matthew 5 and Romans 12, they show how the process of freedom is incomplete without releasing our expectations, debts, and hurts to God, whether in offense, loss, or personal sin. Release means surrendering control, shame, or unmet expectations and entrusting them fully to God’s justice and healing. But it doesn’t stop there — release flows into blessing, choosing to sacrificially pray for good even for those who have wounded us. As they share stories of transformation, they reveal how this process breaks bitterness, redirects our hearts, and opens the door to healing, freedom, and restored perspective in Jesus.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • Podcast Playlist | Forgiveness https://cultivaterelationships.com/forgiveness/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey step into the hard but freeing process of forgiveness. Scripture makes it clear that forgiving others is not optional, yet it often feels impossible. Forgiveness is more than ignoring the hurt or pretending it didn’t happen — it’s canceling the debt someone owes us and releasing them, even when what they did was real and painful. Through practical steps and honest reflection, you’ll learn how forgiveness reorients your heart, releases expectations, and opens the door for God’s healing power to work in your life. Discover how choosing forgiveness — even when it feels like obedience without emotion — creates space for true freedom.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • Podcast Playlist | Forgiveness https://cultivaterelationships.com/forgiveness/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey explore Jesus’ parable of the unforgiving servant and how it reveals our tendency to demand payment from others when we fail to rest in God’s forgiveness. They discuss the real meaning of repentance — more than admitting fault, it’s a Spirit-led reorientation of our hearts toward God. Therefore, true repentance acknowledges not only our outward actions but also the unhealthy thoughts and attitudes we’ve carried. Through confession and surrender, we invite God’s cleansing, release the grip of unforgiveness, and step into healing. This conversation shows that repentance is not punishment but freedom — the path where brokenness gives way to a restored relationship with God and others.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey walk through Step Five of The Freedom Booklet, highlighting how gratitude becomes a catalyst to begin the process of the Holy Spirit healing our wounds. They explain that when we give thanks — even for painful experiences — we are not excusing the hurt but acknowledging God’s presence and redemptive work in the middle of it. Gratitude shifts our focus from what was lost to how God is redeeming, transforming bitterness into peace and despair into hope. This conversation shows how thanksgiving is more than a discipline; it’s a doorway to freedom, helping us release pain, embrace healing, and see our lives through the lens of God working all things for our good (that is, Him making what was evil and broken into what will be beneficial for us).   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • STB107 | Grieving the Loss of a Child + Sarah P1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb107/ • STB108 | Coping & Resolving Loss + Sarah P2:E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb108/ • STB109 | Coping & Resolving Loss + Sarah P2:E2 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb109/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey walk through Step Four of The Freedom Booklet, exploring how unmet needs and unfulfilled desires often drive us to believe lies about God, ourselves, and others. These lies, formed through pain or disappointment, create patterns that keep us striving for fulfillment in unhealthy ways. They share how letting the Holy Spirit expose these false beliefs and reveal God’s truth leads to the genuine satisfaction of our deepest needs — needs for love, belonging, security, and purpose. This isn’t about suppressing desire, but about allowing God to meet it in ways that bring lasting peace and transformation.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey work through Step Three of The Freedom Booklet, focusing on coping behaviors, inner vows, and hidden beliefs that form in response to unresolved pain, sin, or trauma. They explain how these patterns — often made to protect oneself — eventually lead us to react instead of respond, producing fruit that doesn’t reflect the life of Jesus. With practical examples and real vulnerability, they show how honest confession, thoughtful self-reflection, and Holy Spirit-led insight are key to uprooting what’s been buried. This step isn’t about shame — it’s about clarity, healing, and lasting transformation.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey will guide you through Step Two of The Freedom Booklet, focusing on thoughts, beliefs, and feelings surrounding past offenses, losses, or sins. They explore why revisiting old wounds doesn’t mean we’ve failed to resolve them — it just means we’re allowing the Holy Spirit to expose unresolved layers of pain, perspective, and healing. With practical examples, they show how each layer of pain may call for fresh surrender. Whether you’re overly expressive or emotionally shut down, this step is about letting God search your heart and bring clarity to how past moments still affect you — and those around you — today.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey walk through how to examine the deeper roots of what’s producing fruit in your life — both good and bad. Using The Freedom Booklet, they talk about how trauma, self-protection, sin, and even religious performance can masquerade as strength while actually stunting spiritual growth. They challenge listeners to get honest about what’s growing in their lives and invite the Holy Spirit to help identify what needs to be uprooted, what needs to be healed, and how to move toward producing healthy fruit.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

In this episode, Nathan and Lacey introduce The Freedom Booklet, a practical tool designed to help you uproot the offenses, losses, and sins that keep producing bad fruit in your life. Using the analogy of invasive garden vines, they explain how sin, trauma, and false beliefs — if left alone — can overtake our hearts and relationships. They unpack how the Holy Spirit, Scripture, and community help address issues at the root level. Whether you’re confronting sin, walking through grief, or releasing someone through forgiveness, this tool is not a formula — but an invitation to let God have His opinion of your life’s experience and transform your inner life from the ground up.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • Podcast Playlist | Forgiveness https://cultivaterelationships.com/forgiveness/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Pastor Scott and Nathan give a behind-the-scenes look at how they design teaching series, whether for a Sunday morning sermon or a mid-week Bible study. They explore how practical theology, lifestyle discipleship, and Spirit-led planning help shape every session. They unpack how intentional structure (with a lot of flexibility) keeps people engaged, spiritually growing, and relationally connected. It’s a fun and honest look at planning for transformation, not just attendance.   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Why We Don’t Plan Alone Nathan and Scott reflect on collaborative series planning, involving community and the Holy Spirit — because lone pastors often miss real-life needs. (18:17) Theology as Lifestyle They lay the foundation for a series, built on “lifestyle theology,” where identity, obedience, and relationship shape how we follow Jesus. (36:01) Structuring for Engagement and Growth This section focuses on breaking the series into smaller, accessible segments to keep people from drifting and help make truth stick. (56:16) Don’t Just Teach It — Live It They wrap with encouragement to live what we teach, helping participants move from content consumers to Spirit-led disciples in everyday life.   — EPISODE LINKS — • HCF Freedom https://hcftx.org/freedom • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet • Coaching with Cultivate (Small Group Discussion Videos) https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/ • More Content & Resources at Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Pastor Scott and Nathan take aim at the false versions of the gospel that many Christians unknowingly live by. From shame-driven obedience to cheap grace disguised as freedom, they explore how distorted theology and unchallenged narratives quietly shape our faith. Drawing from personal ministry experiences, they discuss when it’s necessary to confront teachers, peers, and even ourselves. This conversation is a call to examine not just what we believe, but who told us to believe it — and to courageously realign with the truth of Jesus.   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) The Gospel We Didn’t Mean to Believe – Nathan and Scott expose how distorted views of God, sin, and ourselves quietly shape our theology. (19:09) False Freedom vs. Real Accountability – They explore how the gospel is often misapplied to excuse sin, and why real discipleship involves confronting friends and leaders in love. (36:00) How We Stay Stuck (Even When Forgiven) – This section challenges the false belief that forgiveness always equals freedom. They unpack how healing often requires confrontation, clarity, and action. (55:13) Discerning What (and Who) to Confront – They close by addressing when to confront a person, when to confront a teaching, and when to confront yourself—so truth can lead, not reaction.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Life & Times of Jesus the Messiah, by Alfred Edersheim https://a.co/d/6BRixAQ • Podcast Playlist | Galatians Series https://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians/ • Podcast Playlist | 1-3 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john/ • More Content & Resources at Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Pastor Scott and Nathan unpack what it means to live a Jesus-story worth sharing. From vulnerability and accountability to the role of community and spiritual growth, they challenge the idea that transformation must look hyper-spiritual. Instead, they offer practical steps to walk in freedom — steps that involve real people, real stories, real freedom, and real victory. They discuss the importance of knowing what Jesus has saved you from — not just theologically, but personally and practically. Whether you’re in the middle of your mess or learning how to turn it into a testimony, this episode is a relatable invitation to let God shape your story through honest community and daily faithfulness. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.*   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Eyeball-to-Eyeball Community – Nathan and Scott define real community — not a class or program, but messy, honest friendships that walk through life together. (13:16) Freedom That’s Actually Attainable – They challenge the false pressure to be hyper-spiritual and unpack how practical habits — celebrating small victories — build lasting freedom. (26:18) A Clean House Isn’t a Full House – Drawing from Matthew 12, they warn against empty, “cleaned-up” lives that lack the presence of the Holy Spirit and real people. (39:50) Your Story Is a Weapon – They explore how vulnerability and community turn pain into purpose. Your testimony, shared honestly, becomes a guidepost for others.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • More Content & Resources at Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Pastor Scott and I talk about what it really takes to walk in freedom and how we are to walk in repentance, not performance, but as raw, awkward honesty before God and others. We share stories of people who found healing simply by admitting they didn’t know what to do next. With our insights on leading others to freedom, our vulnerability, and the Gospel’s power to transform, this episode is a call to bring your real self into the light — and let God do the rest. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.*   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) When Repentance Gets Real – Repentance often begins with admitting, “I don’t know what to do.” Nathan and Scott talk about awkward honesty as the first step toward real change. (14:55) Honest Leaders, Healthy Churches – Vulnerability from leaders sets the tone for healing. They discuss how repentance—not image—is what shapes healthy church culture. (25:24) Let the Gospel Work – Spiritual maturity starts when we stop performing and live the gospel fully. They challenge the habit of managing appearances. (40:47) The Fruit of Vulnerability – Freedom and healing follow honesty. Real-life stories show how God meets us in truth and transforms us through community.   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • More Content & Resources at Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan and Pastor Kevin continue their discussion about the challenges of balancing ministry, marriage, and parenting. As a Youth Pastor, Kevin reflects on his desire to be a supplemental voice in students’ lives — not a replacement for spiritually engaged parents. Together, they discuss how youth ministry should support what’s happening at home, not carry it. Kevin opens up about the pressures of leadership, the importance of putting his marriage first, and the lessons learned from marriage counseling and personal failures. He also shares how his upbringing shaped his views on emotional vulnerability — and why he’s committed to being open with his wife. They dive deep into parenting, calling out the dangers of disengagement and the power of simply being present. Kevin’s advice to parents: ask real questions, build trust daily, and don’t let fear or shame keep you from connecting with your kids. Whether you’re in ministry or not, this episode reminds us that consistency, honesty, and grace are the foundations of impactful relationships. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.*   — EPISODE LINKS — • STB128 | Youth Ministry + Pastor Kevin E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/podcast/stb128/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

Nathan shoots the breeze with Pastor Kevin, where they swap stories about fishing (or, in Nathan’s case, the complete inability to catch anything). They discuss how our connection with God shifts through life’s changing seasons and the chaos of parenting. They also explore how spiritual growth doesn’t always happen in quiet solitude, but often through the loud, messy, and beautiful moments of ordinary life. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.*   — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott dive into what it takes to build spiritually mature relationships marked by humility, repentance, and growth. They explore how real connection requires more than surface-level friendship — it demands a willingness to confront sin, seek forgiveness, and walk in grace. They also encourage us to pursue relationships that reflect the transforming power of the gospel through honesty, accountability, and love. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.*   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Practical Ways to Rebuke the Enemy (12:31) Does God Allow Greater Temptations? (26:32) Wasting Suffering and Temptations & the Process of Walking Out of Temptation (36:16) Steps 2-8 in the Process of Walking Out of Temptation   — EPISODE LINKS — • STB126 | BSE | Maturity Requires Repentance E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb126/ • Podcast Playlist | 1-3 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john • The Habit Tree Worksheet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/ • Podcast Playlist | Gnosticism https://cultivaterelationships.com/gnosticism • The God Who Risks, by John Sanders (Amazon) https://a.co/d/e2CfqQZ • Small Group Series | Failure https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/series-2-failure/ • More Content & Resources at our website https://cultivaterelationships.com/   — EPISODE NOTES — (1) ACKNOWLEDGE THE TEMPTATION • What temptation is common to you?  (1 Corinthians 10:13) • What sins or addictions do you know you struggle with? (2) IDENTIFY YOUR BAIT (TRIGGERS / RED FLAGS) • When, where, how, or with whom does the temptation usually present itself? (Proverbs 7:6-27) • What are the scenes (places) of the temptation?  Don’t revisit them!  (Proverbs 26:11) • Are you tired, hungry, emotionally exhausted, or stressed? (3) RECOGNIZE TYPICAL RESPONSES • How do you typically respond to this temptation? • How have you tried to resist this temptation?  Has it worked?  (Secure a divers arsenal)  If you have given in before, choose to do it a different way! (4) PRE-DETERMINE YOUR NEXT RESPONSE • Are you securing a diverse arsenal of offensive & defensive weaponry?  (Nehemiah 4) (e.g., Accountability, Communication, Scripture, Diversions, Pre-Emptive Actions, Corporate Prayer, Personal Prayer, Remove Bait, Confess Temptation, etc.) • Are you agreeing with Jesus and his victory over Satan, sin, and death?  (Colossians 2:15) • Are you actively seeking the exit to temptation?  (1 Corinthians 10:13) (5) CONFESS, REPENT, & FORGIVE KNOWN SINS • Are you confessing and repenting of known sin to people AND Jesus?  (1 John 1:8-9) • Are you forgiving other people of their sin? (Matthew 6:14-15; Ephesians 4:25-32) (6) AGREE WITH WHO YOU ARE IN JESUS • Do you see yourself as dead to sin?  (Romans 6:1-14) • Are you walking as though Christ were at home in you?  (Ephesians 3:14-19;Galatians 2:20) (7)   RENEW YOUR MIND • What are you filling your thoughts with? (Philippians 4:8; 1 Timothy 2:22; Titus 1:15) • Are you getting rid of anything that generates tempting thoughts?  (Ephesians 4:23, 31) (8)   RESIST THE DEVIL • Are you taking thoughts and ideas captive?  (2 Corinthians 10:5) • Are you submitting to Jesus, his will, and commands?  (James 4:7; John 15:1-17) (e.g., Repentance, Forgiveness, Rea

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott dive into what it takes to build spiritually mature relationships marked by humility, repentance, and growth. They explore how real connection requires more than surface-level friendship — it demands a willingness to confront sin, seek forgiveness, and walk in grace. They also encourage us to pursue relationships that reflect the transforming power of the gospel through honesty, accountability, and love. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.*   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction (15:09) Maturity Goes Beyond Actions to Motives (24:31) How We Develop Doctrines (37:20) 1 Corinthians 10.13   — EPISODE LINKS — • Podcast Playlist | 1-3 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john • The Habit Tree Worksheet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/ • Podcast Playlist | Gnosticism https://cultivaterelationships.com/gnosticism • The God Who Risks, by John Sanders (Amazon) https://a.co/d/e2CfqQZ • Small Group Series | Failure https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/series-2-failure/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/   — EPISODE NOTES — (1) ACKNOWLEDGE THE TEMPTATION • What temptation is common to you?  (1 Corinthians 10:13) • What sins or addictions do you know you struggle with? (2) IDENTIFY YOUR BAIT (TRIGGERS / RED FLAGS) • When, where, how, or with whom does the temptation usually present itself? (Proverbs 7:6-27) • What are the scenes (places) of the temptation?  Don’t revisit them!  (Proverbs 26:11) • Are you tired, hungry, emotionally exhausted, or stressed? (3) RECOGNIZE TYPICAL RESPONSES • How do you typically respond to this temptation? • How have you tried to resist this temptation?  Has it worked?  (Secure a divers arsenal)  If you have given in before, choose to do it a different way! (4) PRE-DETERMINE YOUR NEXT RESPONSE • Are you securing a diverse arsenal of offensive & defensive weaponry?  (Nehemiah 4) (e.g., Accountability, Communication, Scripture, Diversions, Pre-Emptive Actions, Corporate Prayer, Personal Prayer, Remove Bait, Confess Temptation, etc.) • Are you agreeing with Jesus and his victory over Satan, sin, and death?  (Colossians 2:15) • Are you actively seeking the exit to temptation?  (1 Corinthians 10:13) (5) CONFESS, REPENT, & FORGIVE KNOWN SINS • Are you confessing and repenting of known sin to people AND Jesus?  (1 John 1:8-9) • Are you forgiving other people of their sin? (Matthew 6:14-15; Ephesians 4:25-32) (6) AGREE WITH WHO YOU ARE IN JESUS • Do you see yourself as dead to sin?  (Romans 6:1-14) • Are you walking as though Christ were at home in you?  (Ephesians 3:14-19;Galatians 2:20) (7)   RENEW YOUR MIND • What are you filling your thoughts with? (Philippians 4:8; 1 Timothy 2:22; Titus 1:15) • Are you getting rid of anything that generates tempting thoughts?  (Ephesians 4:23, 31) (8)   RESIST THE DEVIL • Are you taking thoughts and ideas captive?  (2 Corinthians 10:5) • Are you submitting to Jesus, his will, and commands?  (James 4:7; John 15:1-17) (e.g., Repentance, Forgiveness, Read Scripture, Believe Truth, Live in Community, Etc.) • Are you resisting Satan, his servants, and their works and effects in your life? (James 4:7-10)

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott talk about what prayer truly is — and what it isn’t by looking at the disciples’ prayer in Matthew 6.5-14. Prayer isn’t just a monologue directed at God; it’s a real conversation with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. They explore how prayer includes not just speaking, but also listening for God’s response and how to grow in our ability to hear His voice, not just Bible verses and what we think He’s saying. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.*   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction (11:20) Matthew 6.5-7 (29:28) Matthew 6.8-14 (43:42) Activation Steps   — EPISODE LINKS — • STB124 | BSE | Real, Vulnerable Prayer E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb124/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/   — EPISODE NOTES — What is Prayer? Prayer, by its nature, defines God as personal (Psalm 34.18; 139.7-12; Romans 10.20-21; Jeremiah 23.23-24). Prayer is a real and specific, vulnerable conversation with God (Matthew 6.9; 1 Timothy 2.5; Romans 8.26): The Father: giver of identity & destiny (e.g., plans, purpose, and design issues) The Son: revealer of identity & destiny (e.g., relationship and circumstantial issues) The Holy Spirit: empowerer of identity & destiny (e.g., ability and emotional issues) God desires connection with us (Psalm 51.16-17; Hosea 6.6). Jesus reveals this in his own life (schedule: Luke 5.15-16; grieving: Matthew 14.13; joy: Luke 10.21; struggle: Luke 22.39-46).   APPLICATION QUESTION(S): When or with whom (or what) do you avoid prayer or neglect to pray? What part does prayer play in your life when making plans or preparing for the future?   Prayer: Moment-by-Moment Dependence Upon the Holy Spirit Jesus assumes that Christians pray (Commanded: Matthew 6.5-8; Demonstrated: Matthew 14.23; 19.13; Mark 6.46; 14.35) and Paul reveals what prayer looks like: moment-by-moment (Romans 12.12; Philippians 4.6; Colossians 4.2; 1 Thessalonians 5.17). Jesus gives us the disciples’ prayer as an example in Matthew 6: v. 5 – We pray… sincerely – not ritualistically, legalistically, or formulaic. v. 6a – We pray intimately, without distraction. v. 6b – We don’t admire demonic religious prayers – our standard must be Jesus. v. 9a – We pray corporately to God as a dad. v. 9b – We believe God is uniquely separate and altogether different – His core nature. v. 10 – We believe God is King and He is in charge – bold submission. v. 11 – We pray for their needs – receive grace for our fears, worries, and anxieties. v. 12 – We pray for repentance and forgiveness – as we forgive, God forgives us. v. 13 – We pray for victory in temptation – empowerment by the Holy Spirit.   APPLICATION QUESTION(S): How does the way you pray reveal your desire for community, connection, and dependence upon God rather than comfort, personal preferences, or control?   ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps:   STEP #1 – ALIGN YOUR DESIRES WITH JESUS’ KINGDOM (Matthew 6.10): Jesus begins his prayer model by centering everything on who God is, His Kingdom, and His will — this reminds us to s

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott talk about what prayer truly is — and what it isn’t by looking at the disciples’ prayer in Matthew 6.5-14. Prayer isn’t just a monologue directed at God; it’s a real conversation with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. They explore how prayer includes not just speaking, but also listening for God’s response and how to grow in our ability to hear His voice, not just Bible verses and what we think He’s saying. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.*   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) Introduction (07:22) What Prayer Is & Is Not (26:05) Real, Vulnerable Conversation with God (39:53) Prayer to the Trinity   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/   — EPISODE NOTES — What is Prayer? Prayer, by its nature, defines God as personal (Psalm 34.18; 139.7-12; Romans 10.20-21; Jeremiah 23.23-24). Prayer is a real and specific, vulnerable conversation with God (Matthew 6.9; 1 Timothy 2.5; Romans 8.26): The Father: giver of identity & destiny (e.g., plans, purpose, and design issues) The Son: revealer of identity & destiny (e.g., relationship and circumstantial issues) The Holy Spirit: empowerer of identity & destiny (e.g., ability and emotional issues) God desires connection with us (Psalm 51.16-17; Hosea 6.6). Jesus reveals this in his own life (schedule: Luke 5.15-16; grieving: Matthew 14.13; joy: Luke 10.21; struggle: Luke 22.39-46).   APPLICATION QUESTION(S): When or with whom (or what) do you avoid prayer or neglect to pray? What part does prayer play in your life when making plans or preparing for the future?   Prayer: Moment-by-Moment Dependence Upon the Holy Spirit Jesus assumes that Christians pray (Commanded: Matthew 6.5-8; Demonstrated: Matthew 14.23; 19.13; Mark 6.46; 14.35) and Paul reveals what prayer looks like: moment-by-moment (Romans 12.12; Philippians 4.6; Colossians 4.2; 1 Thessalonians 5.17). Jesus gives us the disciples’ prayer as an example in Matthew 6: v. 5 – We pray… sincerely – not ritualistically, legalistically, or formulaic. v. 6a – We pray intimately, without distraction. v. 6b – We don’t admire demonic religious prayers – our standard must be Jesus. v. 9a – We pray corporately to God as a dad. v. 9b – We believe God is uniquely separate and altogether different – His core nature. v. 10 – We believe God is King and He is in charge – bold submission. v. 11 – We pray for their needs – receive grace for our fears, worries, and anxieties. v. 12 – We pray for repentance and forgiveness – as we forgive, God forgives us. v. 13 – We pray for victory in temptation – empowerment by the Holy Spirit.   APPLICATION QUESTION(S): How does the way you pray reveal your desire for community, connection, and dependence upon God rather than comfort, personal preferences, or control?   ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps:   STEP #1 – ALIGN YOUR DESIRES WITH JESUS’ KINGDOM (Matthew 6.10): Jesus begins his prayer model by centering everything on who God is, His Kingdom, and His will — this reminds us to set aside personal desires and seek God’s desire first in every area of life. Ask the Holy Spirit: What part of my life needs to be

Nathan and Phil dive into some hot-button topics — they discuss convictions (opinions) on worship music and address the controversy surrounding certain churches’ cultures and the songs they produce. They also reveal the often judgmental tone of “heresy hunter” ministries that claim to defend the Gospel but sometimes miss the heart of grace. They explore how believers can engage with non-Christians — when it’s wise, when it’s not, and how to navigate those relationships without compromising faith or integrity.   — EPISODE LINKS — • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott wrap up Philemon 21–25 by highlighting Paul’s confidence that Philemon will go beyond what’s asked — not out of pressure, but because the gospel has truly transformed him. His obedience isn’t just submission to Paul, but evidence of the Holy Spirit’s work. Philemon’s discipleship is marked by radical love and vulnerable community, not safe, self-imposed limits. This is the power of a life changed by grace.   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (13:57) PHILEMON 8-16 (26:47) PHILEMON 17-20 (48:50) ACTIVATION STEPS   — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • STB033 | Intentionality + Joiners https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb033/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/   — EPISODE NOTES — PHILEMON 21: PAUL AFFIRMS PHILEMON’S GOSPEL TRANSFORMATION Paul expresses confidence that Philemon will go beyond what he asked — not because of pressure, but because the gospel has truly changed him. Philemon’s obedience goes beyond submission to Paul, it is an outcome of the transformative power of the Holy Spirit working within him. Philemon’s discipleship was shaped by radical love and vulnerable community, not safe, individualistic self-imposed limits. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): Am I living a faith that goes beyond what is expected (doing enough to be “right with God”), reflecting a heart transformed by the Holy Spirit? PHILEMON 22-25: PHILEMON’S CHURCH Philemon’s Spirit-filled, life-giving community includes Apphia (likely Philemon’s wife), Archippus (likely the leader), Onesimus (his slave), Epaphras (an intercessor), Mark (now reconciled to Paul after 12 years), Aristarchus (a traveling companion of Paul based out of Colossae), Demas (who would later selfishly desert Paul), and Luke (Paul’s personal doctor and memoirist). Unnamed (See Colossians 4.7-18): Tychicus, Jesus (Justus), Nympha and the whole Laodicean church (or Ephesian church). APPLICATION QUESTION(S): How does my Spirit-filled, life-giving community challenge and support me to live beyond the bare minimum of obedience to the risky generosity (e.g., financial, relational, spiritual, etc.) of a maturing Christian? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 – TRUST THE SPIRIT TO DO MORE THAN EXPECTED (Philemon 21): Paul affirms Philemon’s faith and transformation. Ask the Holy Spirit: Where are You inviting me to go beyond what’s expected — to love, forgive, or serve in a way that reflects Your generously sacrificial heart? STEP #2 – INVITE COMMUNITY INTO YOUR GROWTH (Philemon 2, 23-24): Philemon’s community provided encouragement and accountability amidst a safe, Spirit-filled, life-giving atmosphere. Ask the Holy Spirit: Who are three specific individuals You have placed in my life who can challenge me, encourage me, and hold me accountable for what You are doing in my life? STEP #3 – OBEY FROM GRACE, NOT OBLIGATION (Philemon 25): Paul knows Philemon’s response will be one of gracious submission rather than dutiful obligation — from love rather than law. Ask the Holy Spirit: Where am I living from

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott explore Philemon 8–20, where Paul models the gospel by stepping in on behalf of Onesimus, offering to repay his debt to Philemon. This powerful passage reveals that true reconciliation requires both repentance and forgiveness. Paul’s appeal goes beyond personal favor — it’s a call for Philemon to live out the gospel by welcoming Onesimus not as a slave, but as a brother.   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (26:37) PHILEMON 8-16 (52:47) PHILEMON 17-20 (1:07:56) ACTIVATION STEPS   — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • STB084 | Forgiveness: The Process of Reconciliation & Restoration https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb084/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/   — EPISODE NOTES — PHILEMON 8-9: PAUL APPEALS TO HIMSELF AS THE AUTHORITY Paul begins his light-hearted, sarcastic yet firm request to Philemon by appealing to himself, his age, and his imprisonment — stating that while he could order Philemon based upon his own status, he would rather appeal to him in love (knowing Philemon’s own change of heart as a result of the Gospel). PHILEMON 10-16: PAUL EXPLAINS WHAT HAPPENED Paul lays out how his and Onesimus’ relationship began and how he became a Christian. He also appeals to what was originally a selfish move on Onesimus’ part, God used for redemption — the idea being what the enemy schemed for evil, God schemes for good. He also reveals, as a Christian, the change in the relational dynamic between Onesimus and Philemon one of equals rather than of hierarchy while technically the hierarchy still remains in place (v. 16, “…more than a slave…”) APPLICATION QUESTION(S): How does this passage apply to someone who does not own a slave? What Gospel-centered Kingdom realities are present that challenge our own individualistic views of boundaries and cultural views of justice? PHILEMON 17-20: PAUL DEMONSTRATES THE GOSPEL ON BEHALF OF ONESIMUS As Jesus did on behalf of Philemon, Paul does on behalf of Onesimus — he pays a debt he does not personally owe. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): What does Paul’s willingness to cover Onesimus’ debt teach us as Christian about the cost of reconciliation with those who have wronged us? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 – EMBRACE THE COST OF RECONCILIATION (Philemon 18): True reconciliation, like Jesus demonstrated, often requires absorbing a personal cost. Ask the Holy Spirit: What Christian in my life am I unwilling to personally sacrifice for especially if I were to receive nothing in return? STEP #2 – SEE CHRISTIANS AS SIBLINGS CREATED BY GOD (Philemon 16): Just as Philemon is to view Onesimus as a brother challenge yourself to view other Christians who have wronged you as a fellow child of God as you are. Ask the Holy Spirit: How d

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott unpack Philemon 1–7 and Paul’s addressing of Philemon, Apphia, and Archippus — along with their whole house church — as a united community rather than just individuals. Within the context of Colossians 4.1-18 and “Ephesians” 6.21-24, the introduction of Philemon (1-7) illustrates the collective responsibility of believers within a Spirit-filled, life-giving community to live out the gospel.   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (06:40) PHILEMON 1-3 (1:00:24) PHILEMON 4-7 (1:13:27) ACTIVATION STEPS   — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • Small Group Series | Friendship https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-groups/series-4-friendship/ • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • Podcast Playlist | 1-3 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/   — EPISODE NOTES — PHILEMON 1-3: INTRODUCTION Author: Paul through Timothy → carried by Tychicus and Onesimus (slave) (see Colossians 4.1-18; Ephesians 6.21-24). Audience: Philemon (slave owner), Apphia (possibly Philemon’s wife) & Archippus (possibly the lead pastor and house church host). Date: c.59-61 AD during imprisonment in Rome awaiting trial under Nero (cf. Acts 27-28). Colossians (c.59~61 AD), “Ephesians” (c.59-61 AD), Revelation (c.67~68 AD) 2.1-7 (Ephesus); and 3.14-22 (Laodicea). Paul addresses Philemon, Apphia, and Archippus — along with their whole house church — as a united community rather than just individuals. This introduction highlights the collective responsibility of believers in living out the gospel as it will personally apply to Philemon and his slave, Onesimus. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): Why do you think Paul makes resolving personal issues and conflict a public matter, inviting Philemon’s church to partner with him in the reconciliation process with Onesimus? In what ways do you personally fight against the temptation to be individualistic in your struggles and conflicts? PHILEMON 4-7: PAUL AFFIRMS OF PHILEMON Paul commends Philemon for his sacrificial love and demonstrated faith, especially for how he has refreshed and encouraged the believers in his house church. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): Why do you think Paul advocates for a believer’s faith to go beyond a private or intellectual pursuit to one that impacts the church community around them? Do you think Paul would agree or disagree that a Christian’s life is one of privacy, independence, and personal devotion? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 – EMBRACE FAITH AS A SHARED JOURNEY (Philemon 1-3): The Christian life is not meant to be lived in isolation. Rather it is meant to be lived in community — where mutually beneficial encouragement, accountability, and love are demonstrated. Ask the Holy Spirit: Who have You placed in my life to walk with me in faith, and how can I engage more deeply with them? STEP #2 – ADDRESS

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott discuss Romans 8.26-39, showing how we can share the same glory as Jesus and the Father. They also share how Christians are more than conquerors through Jesus, and nothing (except our own lack of faith) can remove us from God’s protection and vindication.   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (05:23) ROMANS 8.26-30 (46:28) ROMANS 8.31-39 (1:10:11) ACTIVATION STEPS   — EPISODE LINKS — • The Identity Guide https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/ • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/   — EPISODE NOTES — ROMANS 8.26-30: SUFFERING + THE HOLY SPIRIT = OUR GLORIFICATION Our suffering (for Jesus) with the Holy Spirit leads to our maturity (becoming like Jesus) and our glorification (with Jesus) to the glory (plan and purpose) of the Father. • John 17.1-26 – Glorify means that we make known — through acknowledging, seeking after, trusting, and praising Him — His actions, desires, opinions, purposes, thoughts, and approval. • Glory of God → Glory of Jesus → Glory of Us → Gives God Glory (Gk. doxazo from doxa = to be worthy of high opinion, honor, approval, or praise) • In God’s view of time (foreknowing our failure), he planned (predestined) humanity to conform to Jesus (redemption) → therefore He invites (calls) all humanity (see John 12.32) → those who respond in faith (see Romans 3.21-30) are made right (justified) → only those who are of faith are then given the glory of Jesus and the Father (John 17.1-26). APPLICATION QUESTION(S): What struggles do you have with the concept that as a believer you share the same glory with both the Father and Jesus as you trust the Holy Spirit in your weakness? ROMANS 8.31-39: WE ARE IN GOOD HANDS No suffering or attack against us (because of Jesus) will conquer or overtake us as we trust in the Holy Spirit. In fact, we are more than conquerors. Nothing — except our own lack of faith — can remove us from God’s protection or vindication. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): If we are more than conquerors and God works all things out for our good, what might this mean for circumstances that appear to not work out in our favor or for our benefit? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 – LET THE HOLY SPIRIT BE IN CONTROL (Romans 8.26): You do not have to navigate pain and hardship alone. Ask the Holy Spirit: What would it look like for me to release to You the outcome of ________________ [insert a decision, circumstance, or relationship]? STEP #2 – TRUST THE HEAVENLY FATHER TO WORK (Romans 8.28): If the outcome is not good, then God is not finished working on your behalf. However, you do not get to decide what “good” means for your life and the lives of those you love. Ask the Holy Spirit: How can I change my definition of good to agree with Yours? STEP #3 – KNOW THAT YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER LOVES YOU (Romans 8.38-39): No circumstance, pain, or opposition that is a result of your trust in Jesus can change the fact that you are in God’s careful hands — He is working it out for your good and for you to conquer. Ask the Holy Spirit: B

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott unpack Romans 8:1-25, revealing the choice we all face — living as children of God or of the devil. They explore how Christ’s death and resurrection conquered sin, death, and the enemy for believers, yet the full realization of this victory remains a future hope. This episode dives into the tension between present freedom and the unseen fulfillment of God’s promises.   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (06:44) ROMANS 8.1-15 (36:46) ROMANS 8.16-25 (1:20:38) ACTIVATION STEPS   — EPISODE LINKS — • Podcast Playlist | Gnosticism https://cultivaterelationships.com/gnosticism/ • Pelagius on Romans, by Theodore de Bruyn (Amazon) https://a.co/d/2xO6gqB • The Natural Ability of Man, by Jesse Morrell (Lulu Publishing) https://www.lulu.com/shop/jesse-morrell/the-natural-ability-of-man-a-study-on-free-will-human-nature/paperback/product-1gv9nkz4.html • Finney’s Systematic Theology, by L.G. Parkhurst, Jr. (Amazon) https://a.co/d/bbgMYv8 • Podcast Playlist | 1-3 John https://cultivaterelationships.com/1-3-john/ • Podcast Playlist | Revelation https://cultivaterelationships.com/revelation/ • Unseen Realm, by Dr. Michael Heiser (Amazon) https://a.co/d/22jvfVm • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/   — EPISODE NOTES — ROMANS 8.1-15: CHILDREN OF GOD (JESUS) v CHILDREN OF THE DEVIL (ADAM) We have a choice: set our mind toward Life or toward Death (see also Deuteronomy 31): 1) Living Empowered by the Spirit – The Law of Life is choosing to depend upon the Spirit (making ourselves sons of God) and it proves to be resurrection life to us (inheritance, co-heirs) or 2) Living Empowered by the Law – The Law of Sin and Death is choosing to depend upon ourselves (making ourselves sons of the devil, see John 8.44) and will prove to be eternal death to us (debt, abdication). APPLICATION QUESTION(S): In what areas of your life are you still relying on your own effort (e.g., experience, understanding, ability, education, responsibility, will power, self-discipline, etc.) instead of surrendering to the Holy Spirit (asking what His opinion is on a matter)? ROMANS 8.16-25: HOPE FOR THE FUTURE LIFE, RESURRECTION, & GLORY While the death and resurrection of Jesus, for the Christian, resolved the issues of sin, death, and the enemy, the full realization of those things is still a future hope (unseen). Faith in the full reality of what Jesus has accomplished in the past becomes the reality of our future expectations — convinced, to the point of action, by the things I don’t yet see (see also Hebrews 11.1). APPLICATION QUESTION(S): If sin, death, and the enemy are resolved issues for the Christian, how should this impact the way you think, make decisions, and live now? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 – SET YOUR MIND ON THE SP

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott Frerking explore Romans 7, focusing on the tension of living under the law without the power of Jesus. They also discuss the hopeless cycle of striving to live good but without Christ and the freedom that comes only through living empowered by the Holy Spirit   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (05:03) ROMANS 7.1-12 (36:46) ROMANS 7.13-25 (57:11) ACTIVATION STEPS   — EPISODE LINKS — • Unseen Realm, by Dr. Michael Heiser (Amazon) https://a.co/d/22jvfVm • Supernatural, by Dr. Michael Heiser (Amazon) https://a.co/d/hDeIZdJ • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com   — EPISODE NOTES — ROMANS 7.1-12: WE ARE FREE FROM THE LAW & SIN Romans 7.1-3: The Marriage Example – if a woman joins herself with another man while her husband is alive, she is an adulterer. If the husband dies, she is free to marry another. • Romans 7.4-6: The Explanation – a person who trusts Jesus (the new husband) has died to the law and sin (the former husband) and is free to live by the Spirit. Romans 7.7-10: The Human Experience – Innocence/Ignorance (v.9: alive apart from the law) → Revelation (v.8, 9: “age of accountability”) moments of understanding consequences → Choosing Sin (v.10: self-reliance) → Rejection of a Dependence Upon God (v.10: Death). • Romans 7.11-12: How Sin Overtakes A Person – Sin (an external force; i.e., our enemy) deceives us by tempting us to live by the Law apart from God; the Law points to our dependence upon God but it becomes the means to reject God — the result of living by the Law alone can only end in death. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): What do you think Paul means when he says we are “dead to the Law” (Romans 7.4, 6)? ROMANS 7.13-25: HOW SIN TRAPS US THROUGH THE LAW Romans 7.13-25: Our design (the law of God in our mind [v.25], “what I want to do” [v.15]) is overcome by our habitual inclinations (the law of sin in my flesh [v.25], “I do what I hate” [v.15]). • This is a picture of a person who has not chosen Jesus — they are continually in conflict with how God designed them to operate (i.e., dependent upon the Holy Spirit). It is contradictory to believe this is a believer’s battle in light of everything Paul has said in chapter 6; that is, Christians are dead to sin and the Law. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): What’s the main difference you see between Romans 6 (v.6-7) and 7 (v.13-25)? What might this mean for both the Christian and the non-Christian? ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 – RECOGNIZE THE STRUGGLE (Romans 7.13-25): Without the Holy Spirit, unbelievers are powerless to overcome sin. Their struggle is real and inescapable without Jesus. Ask the Holy Spirit: How have I been quick to judge __________ [insert the name of a non-Christian or someone uninterested or seemingly unworthy of Jesus] in light of their struggle? STEP #2 – RESPOND WITH GRACE (Romans 7.24-25a): The Law can only reveal sin and enslaves us to death, but only Jesus brings grace that frees us to life. Ask the Holy Spirit: How can I show __________ specific grace and compassion in light o

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott Frerking explore Romans 6, emphasizing that we are truly dead to sin but still have a choice of lordship—either sin (rebellion) or obedience (Jesus). They discuss the reality that we are always bearing fruit, and the type of fruit reveals whom we have been serving.   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (06:41) ROMANS 6.1-14 (51:58) ROMANS 6.15-23 (1:03:50) ACTIVATION STEPS   — EPISODE LINKS — • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools/ • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/   — EPISODE NOTES — ROMANS 6.1-14: WE ARE DEAD TO SIN… REALLY? Those of us who have received Jesus (as Savior and Lord) consider ourselves dead to sin — sin no longer has a draw or hold on us (Romans 6.2). Our habitual inclinations are rendered powerless when we live in Jesus (through his Spirit) (Romans 6.6). • See also 1 John 2.1; Galatians 2.20; 5.24. Romans 6.12-14 – Our weapons (our physical bodies) reveal who our master is: • The enemy and the kingdom of darkness to spread unhealthy relational living. • Jesus and the kingdom of light to spread healthy relational living. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): If salvation is more than just forgiveness — if it actually involves dying to an old, unhealthy way of thinking and behaving — how should that reshape the way we think about grace, sin, and discipleship? ROMANS 6.15-23 – CHOOSE YOUR LORD: SIN (REBELLION) OR OBEDIENCE We are designed to produce fruit — fruit is present no matter what. However, what we serve reveals what we trust and determines the kind of fruit we will produce: • If sin, we exponentially develop more sin leading to death (relational, emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual). • If obedience, we exponentially develop sanctification (purity and life). • See also Matthew 6.24; John 8.34; 2 Peter 2.17-19; Galatians 5.16-24. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): What masters (think: fears, worries, anxieties, or doubts) compete for your attention and affection? These can often be identified by who and what we try to control and what occupies our thoughts, time, and attention. ACTIVATION STEPS From this study, prayerfully walk through the following steps: STEP #1 – ASSESS YOUR FRUIT (Romans 6.20-23): The fruit (our own physical, emotional, or mental outcomes) can often reveal the source of our words and actions. Take a moment to reflect on the past week. Ask the Holy Spirit: When or with whom do I feel powerless, out of control, or a victim? When or with whom have I lacked healthy fruit (think: joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, or self-control, etc.)? Why were these attributes not present in that moment? STEP #2 – ENTRUST YOURSELF TO YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER (Romans 6.13): Our words and actions reveal who we trust — either God or not God. Ask the Holy Spirit: What lies have I believed about God that have led me to this unhealthy fruit? STEP #3 – SUBMIT & SERVE YOUR TRUE MASTER (Romans 6.22): You are designed to bear fruit in line with your Heavenly Father’s character. This week, whenever you feel fear, worry, anxiety, or doubt, ask the Holy Spirit: What does it look like to trust and submit to You i

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION – Nathan and Pastor Scott Frerking discuss Romans 5 and how faith in Jesus requires risk, maturity, and endurance. We also share how sin is anything in opposition to our nature or design, that is, living as the image and likeness of God.   — EPISODE CHAPTERS — (00:00) INTRODUCTION (21:42) ROMANS 5.1-11 (42:52) ROMANS 5.12-21 (1:01:26) ACTIVATION STEPS   — EPISODE LINKS — • Podcast Playlist | Romans https://cultivaterelationships.com/romans • Podcast Playlist | Galatians https://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians • Podcast Playlist | Forgiveness https://cultivaterelationships.com/forgiveness • Bible Tools https://cultivaterelationships.com/bible-tools • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com   — EPISODE NOTES — ROMANS 5.1-11 – FAITH-FILLED SUFFER + RECONCILIATION WITH THE HEAVENLY FATHER = HOPE OF SALVATION In this section, they discuss how faith in Jesus requires risk, maturity, and endurance — all brought about by suffering and opposition. They also discuss how Jesus sacrificed himself for our benefit before we wanted to benefit from him. The benefit was that through Jesus’ death, the reconciliation of the relationship with the Father was made possible, and that through his resurrection life, restoration of our human design, and our dependence upon the Holy Spirit were revealed. APPLICATION QUESTION(S): Think about the times you’ve shown love and forgiveness to someone you deemed undeserving or uninterested. What does this reveal about how you believe God loves and forgives you? ROMANS 5.12-21 – ADAM V. JESUS In this section, they discuss how sin is not simply a list of rules (“the Law”). Sin is anything in opposition to our nature or design; that is, living as the image and likeness of God. The Law simply revealed how we were missing the mark. We accept the gift (Jesus) the same way we accept the transgression (Adam): 1) choose to believe → 2) trust in what we believe → 3) actions empowered by what we trust. However, the fruit of these choices is vastly different — either life (Jesus) or death (Adam). APPLICATION QUESTION(S): When do you find it easier to rely on your own thoughts and conclusions instead of seeking the Holy Spirit’s guidance and strength in a situation? ACTIVATION STEPS Take some time this week to prayerfully work through the following steps in light of Romans 5.1-21: STEP #1 – IDENTIFY THE SOURCE Take a moment to reflect on your daily choices. Are they rooted in an agreement with Adam’s self-reliance or in an agreement with Jesus’ righteousness? Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal where you might be operating out of fear, self-sufficiency, or wrong beliefs rather than trusting the Holy Spirit. STEP #2 – SHIFT YOUR TRUST Just as death entered through a belief in a lie, life comes through belief in the truth. Tell Jesus (out loud) about a specific circumstance where you are struggling. Ask Jesus what his perspective and truth is about that circumstance. STEP #3 – WALK IN ALIGNMENT Ask the Holy Spirit to give you one intentional action you can take that reflects the truth

Nathan and Phil dive into the tensions of growth — navigating confrontation, grace in freedom versus judgment in addiction, and forgiving repeat offenders. They discuss mediation, reconciliation, appropriate vulnerability, and what the fruit of the Spirit looks like in real life. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.*   — EPISODE LINKS — • STB113 | Behind the Pages of UnLove + Phil P2:E1 https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb113/ • Nathan’s Teaching Archive https://cultivaterelationships.com/teachings • The Freedom Booklet https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/ • Bookshelf | Unlove, by Nathan Steel https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#unlove • More Content & Resources At Our Website https://cultivaterelationships.com/