The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

I found Coral Osborne through a Substack piece she wrote titled "I Hired a Male Escort" — and I'll be honest, the title got me. But it was what she unpacked inside it that made me want to get her on the show. Coral spent years as a closeted sex worker, and what she found in those rooms wasn't what most people assume. Men showed up without their masks on. There were clear boundaries. And the connection — strange as it sounds — was often more honest than anything she found in conventional dating.Then she hired a male escort. Not to collect an experience, but to find out what would happen if she stopped performing and just received. What came up surprised her — and became the essay that brought her to this show.Coral is a sexologist and intimacy coach who works with men at the intersection of identity, desire, and shadow. This conversation goes deep into the psychology of fantasy, the difference between what turns you on and what you actually want, and why so many men have gone completely numb — not just sexually, but in every area of their lives.We also get into why less than 14% of therapists in North America have any sexuality training, what your darkest fantasy actually says about you, and why the men who say "I don't really have fantasies" are the ones who can't hold a relationship past the two-year mark.If you've ever wondered what your sex life is actually telling you about yourself — this one's for you.Join The UNcivilized Nation: https://www.manuncivilized.com/thenation––Read Coral's essays: Part 1: https://substack.com/@coralosborne/p-190840262 Part 2: https://substack.com/@coralosborne/p-190843310Connect with Coral: Website: https://coralosborne.com Substack: https://substack.com/@coralosborne Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne/––Connect with Traver: Website: https://www.manuncivilized.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/Get my books: https://www.manuncivilized.com/booksSubstack: https://traverboehm.substack.com Chapters:00:00 Introduction — Who Is Coral Osborne?02:58 From Sex Worker to Sexologist: How She Got Here06:01 Why She Hired a Male Escort (And What She Learned)11:44 What Men Actually Show Up As Behind Closed Doors17:56 Sex Is Shadow Work23:59 Fantasy vs. Desire — The Distinction That Changes Everything31:51 Your Fantasies Are a Map to Your Soul40:06 Why Therapists Are Getting This Wrong43:35 The Numbing Out Epidemic: When Men Lose Access to Eros55:44 Wrap up & Where to find Coral

Most men were told to pick a side. And most men have spent their whole lives half of what they could be because of it.Josh Tyler is a former professional MMA fighter, survival instructor, and the founder of Savage Gentleman. He believes the men who figure out how to hold both don't just become more capable — they become more of what they actually are.In this episode, we get into what men have lost by compartmentalizing their lives. We talk about why the way you roll on the mat is the same way you carve wood, raise your kids, and move through the world — and how a lot of men never connect those dots. We also get into confidence — how it's actually built, why shortcuts don't actually build anything, and what it actually looks like to earn it.We cover the three male archetypes showing up right now, including the one that's quietly becoming the most common. And we close talking about power — what it actually is, why so many men feel like they don't have any, and why that's an illusion that experience can shatter.If you've been doing the things but not becoming anything — this one's for you.––Join The UNcivilized Nation: https://www.manuncivilized.com/thenation Connect with Me: Instagram: @traverboehm Get my books: https://www.manuncivilized.com/books––Connect with Josh: savagegentleman.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joshtylermma/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/savagegentlemanofficial/Chapter List00:00 Introduction to Josh Tyler and Savage Gentlemen04:20 The Balance of Savage and Gentleman15:38 Depth and Nuance in Personal Development23:44 Life Lessons from Martial Arts and Survival Skills26:48 Cultural Shifts: From Meaningful Actions to Checkboxes27:48 The Journey Over the Destination: Embracing the Process32:46 The Riff on Confidence39:13 Male Archetypes: 19050s Marlboro Man, The Sensitive New Age Guy & The Collapsed Male40:44 Finding Your Path: Beyond Jiu-Jitsu and Bushcraft46:29 The Importance of Getting Dirty: Embracing Challenges48:00 Peak Experiences and Rites of Passage50:02 Navigating Corporate Worlds and Personal Validation53:24 Power & The Tension of Opposites59:12 Navigating Tension and Finding Balance01:03:38 The Illusion of Powerlessness and Perspective

Most men were never actually initiated into manhood. Nobody stood on the other side and said — you're different now, here's what that means, here's what we expect from you. Most of us just got older. And thus, many men are still running the same adolescent software in a grown man's body.Rites of passage leader Jeddy Azuma is back on the podcast, and this conversation goes deep fast. Jeddy works with men on rites of passage and mature masculine leadership — he's guided over 100 men through wilderness fasts, and he's seen what happens when a man actually crosses a threshold versus when he just... keeps going through the motions. If you missed his first appearance, check it out — link in the show notes.In this episode, we get into what mature masculinity actually looks like. We talk about the difference between initiation and rites of passage, what it means to hold the dynamic tension of a full life without losing your center, and why the harshest voice in your head isn't motivation — it's immaturity wearing the mask of high performance.We also talk about the inner critic — how it forms, how it served you, and how to replace it without losing the standard it held you to. That part of the conversation hit me. Because most men don't question that voice. It's been there so long it just sounds like truth.Jeddy also shares what four days alone in the wilderness — no food, no shelter, no distraction — actually does to a man. What comes up. What gets left behind. And what the real work is when he comes home.We close talking about where community is headed — why Jeddy believes this large-scale civilization experiment is already in collapse, and why the future belongs to smaller, trust-based communities built around shared values.If you've ever felt like something essential got skipped in how you became a man — this one's for you.Join The UNcivilized Nation: https://www.manuncivilized.com/thenationConnect with Me: Instagram: @traverboehm——Get my books: https://www.manuncivilized.com/books ——Connect with Jeddy: Instagram: @jeddyazuma Missed Jeddy's first appearance on the podcast? Check it out here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4qJjqeUgWjKUnGX1nxir9d?si=yMrreCykRay5dUsiuXdRCAChapter List 00:00 The Journey of Masculine Leadership01:03 Defining Immature Masculinity04:38 Holding Dynamic Tension10:48 The Inner Dialogue of Men11:58 The Importance of Initiation16:08 Rites of Passage vs. Initiation18:31 Rites of Passage & Initiation25:53 The Adolescent Male Experience27:55 What's the Point?30:24 The Wilderness Rite of Passage Process33:31 Transformation Through Initiation35:59 Connecting to the Soul42:57 Community and the Need for Trust48:20 The Future of Community Living

If you've read 28 Days in Darkness or followed my journey into the dark rooms, you've heard her name. Arpita Kshama Devi was the guide on the other side of the door — for my first retreat in 2016, and again this past year when I went back in for 49 days. I've wanted to get her on the mic for years and we finally made it happen.——Arpita is a meditation teacher, dark retreat guide, yoga teacher trainer, and PhD researcher with 15+ years of guiding people through some of the most intense inner work available. She's been in my life for a decade, and this conversation goes exactly as deep as you'd expect.We talk about what it actually means to enter the dark, what she feels the moment she walks someone into a retreat, and why the spiritual path was never supposed to be easy — no matter what the wellness industry is selling you. We also get into the questions most practitioners won't touch: the integration of shadow, the erotic, and the parts of ourselves we've quietly exiled for the sake of looking like we have it together.She's one of the most fascinating humans I know. This one's been a long time coming.——Join The UNcivilized Nation — a brotherhood of men doing the work: https://www.manuncivilized.com/thenation——Get my books — including 28 Days in Darkness: https://www.manuncivilized.com/books——Learn more about Arpita and her retreats: https://loveevolveawaken.com Instagram: @love.evolve.awaken.yoga

I've been off the mic for eight months. Here's where I've been — and where we're going.——After 49 days alone in a pitch-black room in Tuscany last year, I came out a different man. Not better, not worse — different. And I knew I couldn't keep having the same conversations I'd been having for the last five years.In this episode, I'm sharing three ideas that came out of the dark — lenses I'm now using to navigate everything. OLSLAI — one life, soul led, all in. Dark adapted eyes — learning to see through the veil of your life while it's happening, not just in hindsight. And a third concept you can hear about in this episode that's going to help shape where this show goes from here.This is the relaunch. Same UNcivilized mission. Deeper water.——Want more conversations like this? Join me and a brotherhood of men doing the real work inside The UNcivilized Nation: https://www.manuncivilized.com/thenation——Referenced in this episode: Stephen Jenkinson on The UNcivilized Podcast: https://youtu.be/WnBp_AYNScQ——Get my books: https://www.manuncivilized.com/books——Find me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TraverBoehm Substack: https://traverboehm.substack.comManUNcivilized.com ——#UNcivilized #BeMoreMan #OLSLAI #DarkAdaptedEyes #TheUNcivilizedPodcast #TraverBoehm #TheUNcivilizedNation

Hey folks, here is an early morning guided meditation from you before I take a hiatus from the podcast for a few weeks to reintegrate from my dark retreat.I wanted to share this with you while I still feel I have a foot in the other world. Find a comfy spot, close your eyes, and join me as we drop down into your heart and the depth of your being.We’ll be back late September with more incredible episodes for you.Please share this with one person in your life as well!Cheers,TraverWant to Go Deeper?The UNcivilized Meditation Course — Practical tools to drop into your body, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with your true self:The UNcivilized Meditation CourseMan UNcivilized — The book that started the movement and continues to redefine masculinity:Get Man UNcivilized by Traver Boehm28 Days in Darkness — Traver’s latest book on surrendering to the unknown and reclaiming your life:Get 28 Days in Darkness

Stephen Jenkinson is a treasure, he’s also a three time Uncivilized Podcast guest, now speaking to us from a difficult place. Usually the man sitting with the dying, he’s now sitting with death himself.In this conversation I wanted to ask Stephen all of the no bullshit questions I could, giving him no softballs and going straight into the heart of the matter. As he always does, he took my questions and made both poetry and wisdom out of them.Truth be told, I had to breathe my way through this interview so as not to break down in tears myself. It’s raw and it’s real.This episode is about life, sickness, and facing death in an UNcivilized mannerCheers,TraverThis is Stephen Jenkinson’s fourth time joining us on The UNcivilized Podcast—and each time, he leaves a mark. If this conversation stirred something in you, go deeper with his past episodes:How to Navigate Grief and Die Wise » Grief, Mystery, and Generational Fever Dreams » There’s No Refund for Real Life with Stephen Jenkinson & Kimberly Ann Johnson »

Kati Bird is the very first person to teach me about Shibari, the Japanese bondage system. She now travels the world leading workshops, working with couples and individuals and has zero apologies about a life lived way outside the box.We sit down and dive right into how Kati went from being a wilderness guide to becoming one of the most sought after Shibari teachers in the world. How she manages a life on the road and most importantly about the incredible ways she teaches people to connect deeply to themselves, navigate their traumas, and express themselves in ways they never thought possible, all with rope.This episode is about trust, human connection, and living a truly UNcivilized life.Cheers,TraverConnect with Kati:Learn more about Kati’s work, upcoming events, and travels here:Website — ShibariUnravelled.comInstagram — @becoming_unravelled

Back for his second round on The UNcivilized Podcast, the man who trains Special Forces Operators on how to use chaos to their advantage and tap into their instinct and intuition. Don’t worry, his work is applicable to all — even the school children he teaches his programs to.Angus Fletcher is the author of Primal Intelligence and a friend of ours at UNcivilized. In this conversation we dive into the future with AI, how to be harder to kill, and why having the ability to rapidly create a plan is the difference maker whether you’re hunting down an enemy, trying to grow your company to seven figures, or get along with your partner.This is a fast paced episode filled with gems, so hang on to your hat!Cheers,TraverFor more from Angus, visit his websites at AngusFletcher.co and OperationHuman.com. You can also order his book, Primal Intelligence: You Are Smarter Than You Know, now available through Amazon and Penguin Random House.To hear more from Angus, check out his first appearance on The UNcivilized Podcast, titled “How Story Thinking is the Operating System of the Brain”, available on Spotify and on the UNcivilized blog.

Miles rote started his career as United States Marine, then became a Police Officer, then a Private Investigator, then a yoga teacher, and now runs one of the most successful book publishing companies in the world. Like me, he’s also a giant AI dork.His life story is twisty, turny, and incredibly wild. We talk about choosing a path for your life, knowing when to make a hard pivot when your intuition tells you, why going all in is the only way to go — and stick around for the end of the episode when Miles openly shares about finding out the man he was told was his father, ended up not being so.This episode is about overcoming obstacles, dealing with pain, and living a truly UNcivilized life.Cheers,TraverConnect with Miles Rote:Website: Author.IncInstagram: @MilesRote

Imagine dating in your twenties, getting married, and now in your mid forties or fifties, you’re back in the dating world — and it’s a mess!In this conversation I chat with a woman who has built one of the largest match making and dating coaching businesses in the world. Hell, match.com tried to buy her last business!While we joke and laugh through it all we do get down to what works and what doesn’t work for this age group. Andrea’s book The Second Act is written for singles over forty but is now being read by twenty and thirty somethings as well.I had a blast with this conversation and am excited to share it with you.Cheers,TraverGrab your copy of Andrea’s bookLearn more about Andrea

Yep, you read the title correctly. This week I sit down with a young man from Colorado Springs who is planning on running 500 miles with a team of doctors and experts — all the while consuming LSD and psilocybin.Wild to say the least. We jam on what originally created the idea for this project, how it will be managed, and what Dante hopes comes from it.This episode is short and straight to the point.Cheers,TraverFollow Dante and his journey:Instagram: @BuffaloWarriorYouTube: @DanteLiberato9937SFFR Films Documentary Trailer:Dante (Official Teaser)🎧 Available now where you listen to podcasts📺 Full video on YouTube

If you’re a new dad, or know a new dad this episode is for you.Hell, even if you’re not one, this is an honest conversation about the massive initiation that is fatherhood. In this episode I sit down with my good friend and brother Dr. Long Distance Love Bombs and chat with him about all the ways, both amazing and challenging, that his life has changed since becoming a dad this past year.We talk anger, depression, jubilance and of course — the pressure. Jeremy opens up completely in a candid and vulnerable way about his whole experience.I loved this conversation and am excited to share it with you. Please share this with a new or expecting father in your life.Cheers,TraverExplore The Do Hard Shit Program created by Traver and Jeremy:https://www.manuncivilized.com/dohardshitWant more from Jeremy? Follow his work, his words, and his mission to bring more kindness, honesty, and depth into the world.Instagram: @LongDistanceLoveBombsYouTube: Long Distance Love BombsWebsite: longdistancelovebombs.com🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts

Most people think this is about mental toughness. It's not.This episode covers what I packed, what I wish I hadn't, what saved me, and what almost broke me. But more importantly — it’s about how surrender is the only real survival skill worth having.I share the little rituals and practices that got me through the most intense parts of the experience, and what I'll be doing differently this time around. If you're planning your own deep dive, or just curious how to prepare for one, this episode is your guide. Practical, honest, and full of unexpected lessons from the dark.Cheers,  Traver

There's a lot of talk about masculinity out there. Most of it's noise.In the dark, I discovered a version of masculinity that had nothing to prove, nothing to fight, and nothing to perform. Just strength. Stillness. Surrender. This episode is about how darkness stripped me down to the bones--and what I found underneath.I talk about the power of discipline without ego, devotion without force, and why surrender is one of the most misunderstood strengths a man can possess. If you're tired of performance-based masculinity, this one's a breath of fresh air.Cheers,  Traver

Pain doesn't leave the body until it's been felt.In this episode, I talk about how darkness forced me to feel the stuff I spent years running from--grief, heartbreak, shame. All of it. No therapist. No journal. Just pitch black silence and a willingness to not run.I open up about what happened when I finally let the pain have a voice, and what healing looked like when there was no one around to witness it. This one's about shadow work, emotional truth, and what's possible when you stop trying to fix yourself and just sit with what is.If you've been carrying something heavy for too long, listen to this. If you've ever wondered how healing actually happens--this is where it begins.Cheers,  Traver

Ever sat still long enough to hear yourself think? What about long enough to hear yourself scream?This episode is about the three characters that show up when the world goes quiet--fear, boredom, and madness. I met all three of them in the dark. Some of them became friends. Some... not so much.I get into the games your mind plays when there's no one to distract you, and how facing these voices helped me reclaim parts of myself I didn't even realize I had buried. This is about going beyond self-help into self-reckoning. It's a wild one, and it might just mirror something you've felt but haven't named yet.Cheers,  Traver

We live in a world built on distraction--dopamine loops, constant noise, nonstop input. But what happens when you take it all away?In this one, I share what it felt like to remove every single thing I usually lean on--no Instagram, no podcasts, no books, no light. Just stillness and space. Spoiler alert: it sucked. Then it got profound.This episode isn't just about silence--it's about withdrawal, confrontation, and ultimately transformation. I talk about the chaos that surfaced when I stopped numbing myself and what broke through once I made it through the noise. If you've ever wondered who you are without your coping mechanisms, this one's for you.Cheers,  Traver

If you've ever wanted to run away from your life for a bit--or just hide in a closet with no phone--you're going to get this one.In this episode, I dive into why I chose to sit in total darkness for 28 days... and why I'm going back in for **49**. No phone. No light. No distractions. Just me, my mind, and whatever monsters show up when there's nothing else to hold onto. It wasn't just an escape--it was a full-on confrontation with myself. And in that confrontation, I found answers I didn't even know I was looking for. This episode is a window into the madness, the medicine, and the real reason I think every human needs a version of this. If you've ever felt the need to reset, unplug, or just get real with yourself — this one's for you.Cheers,  Traver

In this episode I’ll talk about why so many of us find ourselves in a constant cycle of self betrayal all in the name of fitting in and being loved. OY!We all do it to some degree, but once you see how you betray yourself in the name of keeping and creating connection and belonging, your life will change forever. I’ll share with you a single sentence that you can apply to any form of self betrayal so you do just that — see it plane site — and then make the conscious decision to stop living against your value.Alignment isn’t easy but it’s pure freedom.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver

If you’re a man who has sex, or know one who does, this episode is for you.Taylor Johnson used to be addicted to porn. Heavily. And like so many men, it destroyed his sex life. It led to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, depression and anxiety. Sounds great doesn’t it?After putting himself through a series of abstinence experiments his whole life began to change — both in the bedroom with successful and gratifying sex, as well as outside of hit with a massive increase in his income.Taking that ball and running with it, Taylor then went on to study with the greats in tantra, sacred sexuality, and energetics. He now teaches men how to be extraordinary lovers as well as living kick ass lives.I loved this conversation and am excited to share it with you.Cheers,TraverTo learn more or to work with Taylor, Click Here.You can find Taylor on social media @TaylorClarkJohnson

In this episode I’ll talk about five of the most important factors for you to consider if you’re in a breakup or divorce.My writing career kicked off with a book about how to use the pain of your breakup or divorce to transform your life, so this is my bread and butter! Since that book I’ve worked with thousands of people who are now on the other side of heartbreak and most are living lives they never thought possible.Knowing these are the keys to the kingdom:— You will be okay, you just won’t be for a bit— It’s okay to not be okay— You won’t die, but part of you will and that’s a good thing— Pain is fuel (this is a BIG one)— The reasons your breakup happened can lead you to a goldmine.Heartbreak is brutal, but on the other side of it can be a freedom you only dreamed of.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,TraverInterested in one of Traver's books? Find Them Here

In this episode I speak with renowned author Dr. Douglas Thomas on what makes people tick in the bedroom and beyond it.After reading Dr. Thomas’s book, The Deep Psychology of BDSM & Kink while in Costa Rica, I reached out to Dr. Thomas to see if he’d come on the podcast with me. He agreed and magic was made. We talk archetypes, the power of our sexuality, and at the end dive into the changes that AI and robotics may have on our bedroom lives.I loved this conversation and am excited to share it with you.Cheers,Traver

In this episode I’ll talk about how and why you need to get past the idea that people who don’t live like you do or even want to, are supposed to understand you.If there’s one thing that needs to be navigated in order to live a life outside of the box — it’s being misunderstood. This comes from family, friends, and of course, perfect strangers who have internet access to you.Learning to work through what’s different about you (these are good things) and owning the fact you can’t have uncommon or UNcivilized outcomes while being celebrated by folks trapped in the matrix is a big deal.And on the other side of it is freedom.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver

If you’re curious how to build more trust, devotion, and polarity in your relationship, this episode is for you.Ever wonder what really happens in a relationship dynamic where both parties have agreed to a complete Dom/sub relationship? Ever wonder how that dynamic could help you be a better partner in your own relationship, no matter how it’s put together?In this candid conversation with Andrew from Infinite Devotion, we get into all the pros, cons, and learning lessons he and his wife Dawn have had on their journey from a burnt out, borderline cliche married couple, to one thriving in a new dynamic.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver

Every time I have a client say their stuck because they’re afraid of either failure or success I roll my eyes and say — OH LORD. No you’re not. You’re afraid of the unknown. The deep unknown. The things you can’t even conceptualize right now.And — you need to start anyway. Anyone and everyone you know who’s done something outside of their comfort zone has had the exact same stuck feeling. Stick around to the end of this already short episode where I give you three ways to get unstuck immediately.Please do me a favor and share this episode with one person in your life.Cheers,Traver

Now more than ever, people are craving a deeper experience of their lives. I bet you can relate. In this episode I speak with Boulder Outdoor Survival School graduate, Men’s Work Facilitator, and BJJ enthusiast Evan Meyer on his own path towards living a soul based life, the pain and turmoil he’s had to go through to get where he’s at, and of course, his favorite Jiujitsu submission.If you’re curious about not only how to navigate big transitions in your life but also what depth they may reveal, this episode is for you.Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver

Myth. Sex. Pleasure. Oh my.In this conversation with author and Depth Psychologist Dr. Alanna Kaivalya we jam on several aspects of relationship and female pleasure. And this podcast isn’t just for our female listeners, guys you will glean much from this episode as well.Dr. Kaivalya has a unique lens on the relationship world as both a psychologist and someone who has a deep understanding of myth, masculine and feminine dynamics, and sexuality.This interview was a ton of fun to do and I know you’ll enjoy it.Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver

Today I bring you another Irishman and a fascinating one at that. Pat is a good friend of the Uncivilized world and has been leading a life worthy of the title of Uncivilized since before we were born.In this episode we follow Pat’s career going from fitness success and lack of satisfaction into the world of Breathwork and how that has radically changed his life. Pat’s openness about the truth of business and entrepreneurship as well as his deep understanding of the body’s use of breath makes this episode on you don’t want to miss.Pat also does Brazilian Jiujitsu which means he’s awesome. Fact.Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver

Considering the fact that it’s reason the species perpetuates, the difference between friendships and romantic relationships, as well as a MASSIVE source of both life’s pleasures and pain — it’s shocking that we don’t have more open and honest conversations about sex.In this episode I get to ask Dr. Kelly all the questions you men ask me, covering such topics and erectile disfunction, premature ejaculation, and even what happens if you “break” your penis — not something I have experience with or knowledge of, but apparently it happens!Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver

Michael Gay is Uncivilized royalty, having been there from the beginning and is one of our co-leaders in our workshops. He’s also a licensed therapist and would probably be happiest living in the woods.In this episode we explore the ways men and women both can create a deeper relationship with your intuition and the parts of your body and knowings that the civilized world divorces you from.This is a great episode for anyone who wants a greater understanding of the how’s and why’s you exist in the world in the ways that you do. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver

Chris is an old friend of The Uncivilized Podcast and in his third appearance with us speaks to the ways that we all numb and disconnect from our bodies, and the truth we’re so afraid to acknowledge.In this potent exercise we speak of potent ways to be in your body, to live more powerfully, and experience who we are underneath lives shackled with fear and contraction.Stick around to the end of this episode as Chris drops some fiery gems in the last 10 minutes!Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers,Traver

NAME YOUR YEAR—START YOURS NOWIt’s February. Too late.(No it's not.)For years, men and women around the world have kicked off their journeys with my powerful ritual—Naming Your Year.It’s not a resolution.Not a wish list.Not another empty promise.It’s a stake in the ground. A declaration. A call to something greater.In this recorded call, Traver and the uncivilized crew walk you through the process of claiming your year, setting your intention, and stepping into the version of yourself that refuses to live on autopilot.It doesn’t matter if January slipped by in a haze.You can start today.Cheers,Traver

Let’s talk tantric sex, full body non ejaculatory orgasms, psychedelics, and the dark masculine… In this episode with renowned Men’s Leader Adayemi Adayosoye we get into all of it. We cover the conditioning and patterning that leads men to live lives of drudgery and quiet misery rather than truth and ecstatic joy. This is a powerful episode for men who are ready to live in a completely separate reality from the one you’re most likely walking around in. Listen at your discretion! Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

In this episode you get to peak behind the coaching curtain and watch me work one-on-one with a man who’s struggling bringing structure into his life. This is showing up in his challenge around meal planning and workout programming, as well as the deeper issue at hand: — This is a protection mechanism keeping him from getting what he really wants. What does he really want? A deep connection with the men in his life. A deep connection with friends and loved ones. And of course, not take all of the time and energy that he’s spending keeping every single option open to him (how exhausting) and use that time and energy to reach a higher purpose. This is potent conversation about responsibility, maturity, and discipline and how all three actually do foster more feelings and experiences of freedom. Enjoy. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

I’m a True Crime dork, and if you are too, then this episode is for you. Hell, even if you’re not this episode will show the path of a man who was deep in a music career, had a hiccup, then on a whim after a single conversation decided to try something new. Millions and millions of downloads later with popular shows such as In The Red Clay, Drowning Creek, Fox Hunter, and In The Land of Lies — Sean’s life is going in an entirely new direction. We dive into his creative process, the toll these projects take on him personally, and how he balances putting himself in precarious situations for work now that he’s a husband and a father. Enjoy. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who is going through a breakup or divorce — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who asked me a straight up question: How do I heal these Nice Guy parts of me? And boy do we get into it. As someone who figured out he was a Nice Guy during my own divorce, I had a lot to say on this topic. First about the painful power of initiation, then about the root causes of Nice Guy behavior and how he can start to heal himself without years of therapy. This was an incredible conversation about topics so many men struggle with. This is a powerful episode and I’m grateful of the openness of my guest. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver P.S. Want Traver as YOUR coach? Apply for coaching at www.manuncivilized.com/coaching!

Gavin Meenan is a world-class men’s coach in Ireland. But he wasn’t always. At one point, he was a porn-addicted young father, buried in grief and shame. And it wasn’t until his porn use became public when videos of him in chat rooms made their way around the internet that he was able to shift his life forever. In his candid and open conversation, Gavin and I discuss the secret addiction so many men suffer with and how you can start to change it. Porn’s not going anywhere, in fact it’s only going to become more personalized and prevalent.  This is a powerful episode all men should listen to. Enjoy. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

In this episode Hendrix and I dive into the ways men end up trapped with money, stuck in debt, and otherwise feeling disempowered when it comes to their finances. We talk about common stories men hold and how to break them — mostly by creating an actual relationship with money they’ve never had before. We also dig into why so many men who say they want to make millions and millions of dollars are actually terrified of doing so and secretly sabotaging their own wealth. AND — this is not just a conversation men should listen to, it’s packed with gems for anyone who’s interested in making more money, saving more money, and feeling more free. Enjoy. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

The connection we create around us will always be the key to building relationships where we can be ourselves without the need to hide any feelings. In this episode, I had a pleasant conversation with another exceptional man, my friend Mark Groves. Mark will explain what all these connections are about and why it is so important for us, as men, to establish strong relationships with other people. So, it is time to press play and start knowing how to build these connections, your integrity as men, and feel the freedom to be yourself.

I stumbled upon David’s work just a short time ago and was immediately hooked. After leaving a successful acting career in Hollywood, David did what very few actors do and became a therapist! And a brilliant one at that. In this episode we talk about following the path of your soul, about the ways men trip themselves up, and the common challenges found int relationship. This is a powerful episode with a powerful man. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver

This is a big topic and one that often gets overlooked or misunderstood by most men. And, here at UNcivilized we’re interested in supporting you in becoming unlike most men. Radically so. In this solo episode I give you four concrete ways you can shift your own ways to help everyone around you feel safer, especially any woman in your life. They’re powerful. They’re field tested. And they work. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

Raj Jana is wears many hats. CEO of a tech company, teacher, speaker, podcast host, and seeker. Getting to sit down with him here in Boulder was an incredible experience as we dove into his journey from running a coffee startup to his now leading a team of entrepreneurs creating digital mapping of our emotional lives. This is a great episode if you're curious about how humans operate, the power of alignment and integrity in business and relationships, and if you just want to listen to someone who is whip smart and funny as hell. Please also share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

Bonner Rinn is an extraordinary man and he’s a man with Cerebral Palsy. But honestly that’s not what’s interesting about him.  What is interesting is what he’s done with his life going from a home where his condition wasn’t able to be spoken about to running a world wide organization brining awareness and resources to kids with disabilities in developing countries. Along the way he’s had to do his own healing work and has built himself a unique an amazing life as a man. This is a great episode about what is possible, no matter the cards you’re dealt in your life. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who struggles with either finding or fully embodying your purpose — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of struggling with believing he’s worth doing what he really wants in the world. He’s a massage therapist who wants to shift to providing bigger and better services for his clients but struggles with that nagging question: “Who am I to get to live this kind of amazing life?” Sound familiar? Some of this call is straight up business advice but then we drop down into a conversation about what his soul deeply desires. We talk about why these pattern exists, where they comes from, and how he can make small shifts in his behavior to start giving himself the PERMISSION he needs to charge more, work less, and craft the life of his dreams. This is a powerful episode and I’m grateful of the openness of my guest. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

In this episode I sit down with 10 time author Sylvester McNutt. Sly is a good friend and brother who I’ve known for years now. His new book is all about crafting the life you want to live and letting go of all the things that stand in your way. You’ll get to hear us dive into how he now has to organize his life since becoming a father, what he sees as the biggest roadblocks people have to creating a satisfying life, and how Sly himself has had to grapple with challenges around food and being a provider. This is a great episode for you creatives, entrepreneurs, and fathers. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

I met Nicky at a dinner in London two months ago and knew immediately I wanted to interview her. She runs a world wide company working with people at the deepest levels of their healing. Her work is life changing. And — her story is equally fascinating. Going from a drug addicted twenty year old to a business powerhouse, then having to rebuild her entire life from the ground up after a freak accident. This episode is POWERFUL. And Nicky is a brilliant story teller and wisdom keeper. I know you’ll love this one. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty. Cheers, Traver

If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who works in a service profession like coaching, teaching, or parenting — then this episode is for you. In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of struggling with discipline when it come to doing the things that will benefit HIM. If it’s to help one of his students or kids, he has no problem getting up early and putting in the effort. He also struggles taking up space, speaking his needs, and allowing himself to receive compliments and the good things from life. Sound familiar?! (All you Nice Guys & Cool Girls just nodded, I know…I did too.) As a teacher and a father, my guest is constantly helping others… We talk about why these pattern exists, where they comes from, and how he can make small shifts in his behavior to start giving himself the same level of care and presence he gives to everyone else. This is a powerful episode and I’m grateful of the openness of my guest. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

I was told NOT to do this interview. Why? Because “no one cares about women’s sexual health.” Well…that wasn’t true, as this is the 3rd most listened to episode in the Uncivilized Podcast. Carly pulls no punches as she teaches you all you need to know about your woman, her cycle, and more.  This is an episode every single man and every single woman should listen to. Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver

Ginger Kern teaches primarily women how to be in relationship in a new paradigm. One based on mutual respect, devotion, and truth. She also adds that this will be a “relationship without leaks.” Sounds intriguing doesn’t it? We dive into Ginger’s marriage, why it wasn’t the right fit for her and what has happened in her life and her partner’s life once they stepped into their devotional frame.  Whether you’re currently in a relationship or wanting to be in one, this episode will give you some of the tools and structure on how to create a relationship where everyone wins, everyone is honored, and the steaks and love flow like wine! Enjoy. Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.  Cheers, Traver