Where Do We Grow from Here?

Send us Fan MailSex is everywhere in our culture, and almost nowhere in our actual conversations in relationships. In this episode, couples therapist Bucky Bateman explores why so many partners never talk openly about sex, where sexual shame comes from, and what that silence is quietly costing your relationship.If physical intimacy feels easier to avoid than discuss, this episode is for you. Bucky offers honest, practical guidance on how to begin breaking the silence, starting with the stories you inherited and taking small, courageous steps toward actually talking about it with your partner.Because silence protects shame. But words, spoken honestly and received with grace, open the door to deeper connection.Topics: sexual shame in marriage, couples communication about sex, intimacy in marriage, how to talk about sex with your partner, couples therapy San Diego, marriage and physical intimacy, LMFT, faith and sexuality

Send us Fan MailThe biggest threat to most marriages isn't a dramatic blow-up or a single betrayal, it's the slow accumulation of small moments that go unnoticed and unappreciated. In this episode, Bucky Bateman explores the invisible work of relationships: the everyday acts of patience, attunement, and emotional regulation that quietly hold love together over time.Drawing on attachment theory and his clinical experience with couples, Bucky makes the case that it's the small things; the turning toward, the repair attempts, the moments of genuine presence, that determine whether a relationship thrives or slowly fades. If you've ever wondered whether the effort you're putting in actually matters, this episode will remind you: it does, and it's the foundation everything else is built on.Topics: daily habits in marriage, relationship maintenance, emotional attunement, small acts of love, marriage tips, couples connection, long term relationship advice, emotional regulation in relationships

Send us Fan MailAll couples argue. The question isn't whether you'll have conflict it's whether your conflict will bring you closer or drive you further apart. In this episode of the Couples Connection Series, Bucky Bateman unpacks why conflict is not only inevitable in close relationships but necessary for growth and exactly what separates couples who fight well from those who don't.Bucky covers the most damaging patterns couples fall into during arguments (many of them familiar from Gottman research), what healthy conflict actually looks like, and the specific skills that help couples move through disagreement without leaving lasting damage. If your arguments tend to escalate, go circular, or end in one of you shutting down, this episode was made for you.Conflict doesn't have to mean disconnection. With the right tools, it can become one of the most powerful paths to deeper intimacy.Topics: how to fight fair in marriage, couples conflict resolution, arguing in relationships, healthy conflict in marriage, marriage communication, Gottman method, couples therapy tips, conflict and intimacy

Send us Fan MailEmotional safety has become one of the most talked-about concepts in modern relationships but what if the way we're using it is actually making things worse? In this episode of the Couples Connection Series, Bucky Bateman challenges the popular idea that you need to feel completely safe before you can be vulnerable, honest, or connected.Drawing on his clinical experience as a couples therapist, Bucky explores where this idea came from, why no relationship is ever completely risk-free, and how waiting for perfect emotional safety can quietly block the very behaviors that build trust. You'll learn why real intimacy is forged through rupture and repair, not the absence of risk, and how emotional resilience, not emotional safety, is the actual goal.This episode reframes one of the most common sticking points in couples therapy and offers a more honest, effective path forward.Topics: emotional safety in relationships, emotional intimacy, vulnerability in marriage, couples therapy concepts, relationship growth, emotional connection, marriage communication, couples counseling

Send us Fan MailYou can love someone deeply and still feel like strangers. Emotional distance in marriage is one of the most common and most misunderstood relationship problems couples face. In this first episode of the Couples Connection Series, Bucky Bateman breaks down the invisible drift that slowly disconnects even the most committed couples over time.Bucky explains the three biggest drivers of emotional distance, why they're so easy to miss until the gap feels unbridgeable, and three practical steps couples can start using today to close that gap and rebuild real connection. This episode is a reset, a reminder that emotional disconnection isn't the end of the story, and that small, intentional changes can shift everything.Whether you're in crisis or just feeling like something's been missing, this episode will help you understand what's happening and what to do about it.Topics: emotional distance in marriage, why couples drift apart, emotionally disconnected marriage, couples communication, emotional intimacy, marriage help podcast, couples therapy San Diego, reconnecting with your spouse

Send us Fan MailDivorce is hard for everyone, but there's a particular kind of pain that comes when you didn't want it and couldn't stop it. In this episode, Bucky sits down with India Kern, a divorce recovery coach and author who knows that pain firsthand and has built a life's work around helping others walk through it.India shares her personal story of navigating an unwanted divorce, the role faith played in her healing, and the practical wisdom she's gathered from years of walking alongside others in the same place. This is an honest, hopeful conversation about loss, identity, and what it takes to build something new on the other side.If you're walking through divorce, or helping someone who is, India's story and insights will give you both comfort and direction.Topics: unwanted divorce, divorce recovery, divorce and faith, starting over after divorce, Christian divorce recovery, surviving divorce, healing after divorce, divorce coach podcast

Send us Fan MailWhat does it look like for a man to face serious hardship and come out the other side with his faith and identity intact, maybe even stronger? In this episode, Bucky sits down with Boogie Rose for a wide-ranging conversation about resilience, faith, and what it actually takes to rebuild when life knocks you down.Boogie's story is the kind that reminds you that where you end up doesn't have to be determined by what you've been through. This conversation covers the mindset shifts, the faith moments, and the hard choices that define a man's character when things get difficult.For any man navigating a hard chapter or anyone who wants to be ready when one comes,  this episode is worth your time.Topics: men's mental health podcast, faith and resilience, Christian men podcast, overcoming adversity, rebuilding your life, faith through hardship, men and faith, resilience stories

Send us Fan MailMost couples wait too long before seeking help an average of six years after problems begin, according to research. In this episode, Bucky Bateman draws on his clinical experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist to break down the key signs that it's time to stop waiting and start getting support.This isn't about pathologizing normal relationship struggles. It's about recognizing the patterns that don't resolve on their own, and understanding why getting help sooner rather than later dramatically improves outcomes. Bucky also addresses the common reasons couples hesitate (stigma, cost, fear of what they might uncover) and offers a realistic, compassionate perspective on what therapy actually looks like.If you've been wondering whether couples therapy is right for you, this episode will help you decide.Topics: when to go to couples therapy, signs you need marriage counseling, couples therapy podcast, marriage therapist advice, should I go to therapy, couples counseling San Diego, marriage help, relationship red flags

Send us Fan MailAdult ADHD is one of the most underdiagnosed and misunderstood conditions in women and it affects far more than just focus. In this episode, Bucky sits down with Renee Herman, who shares what it's been like to navigate life as a mother, student, and professional while managing adult ADD.Renee talks candidly about the challenges ADHD creates in relationships, the frustration of feeling like you're always playing catch-up, and the strategies that have actually helped her find more balance and self-compassion. This is a conversation about neurodivergence, identity, and learning to work with your brain instead of against it.If you or someone you love is navigating adult ADHD, this episode offers both solidarity and practical insight.Topics: adult ADHD, adult ADD in women, ADHD and relationships, ADHD motherhood, managing ADHD, neurodivergent relationships, ADHD podcast, women and ADHD

Send us Fan MailFew experiences reshape a life the way sudden loss does, especially when you're left to raise children alone. In this deeply moving episode, Bucky talks with his wife Keri, who was widowed young with three small children and had to find a way to keep going when everything had fallen apart.Keri shares the raw reality of grief, the unexpected moments of grace, the hard work of rebuilding, and how faith played a complicated but ultimately sustaining role in her journey. This is a conversation about what it actually looks like to start over, not the cleaned-up version, but the real one.If you've experienced loss, or love someone who has, this episode will meet you where you are.Topics: young widow, widowed with children, grief and faith, starting over after loss, grief recovery podcast, single parent after death, faith through grief, loss and resilience

Send us Fan MailWhat does it look like to completely reinvent your life in pursuit of something you believe you were made for? Gordon Wong has done it more than once moving from Oahu to the mainland, building a career as a chef, planting a church, and now serving as Graduate Chaplain at Point Loma Nazarene University in San Diego.In this conversation, Gordon and Bucky explore what it means to follow a calling that doesn't follow a straight line the faith it requires, the doubt that shows up anyway, and what it looks like to keep saying yes to the next right thing even when the path isn't clear.If you've ever wondered whether you're in the right place or doing the right thing with your life, Gordon's story will challenge and encourage you.Topics: faith and calling, Christian men podcast, life reinvention, church planter story, purpose and vocation, following your calling, faith journey, Christian podcast San Diego

Send us Fan MailAnxiety can feel isolating, like something is wrong with you that isn't wrong with everyone else. In this episode, Bucky sits down with mcKensey McGill, who shares her honest, unfiltered journey with anxiety: what it felt like, what made it worse, and what she finally learned about herself along the way.This conversation is for anyone who has felt hijacked by worry, fear, or that constant low-grade sense that something bad is coming. mcKensey's story is relatable, grounding, and full of hard-won insight the kind you only get from actually living through it.Whether you're struggling with anxiety yourself or trying to understand someone you love, this episode will help you feel less alone and more equipped.Topics: anxiety podcast, understanding anxiety, anxiety in women, managing anxiety naturally, anxiety and faith, mental health stories, overcoming anxiety, anxiety in relationships

Send us Fan MailIt's one thing to recommend mental health tools to clients. It's another to have used them yourself in the middle of a genuinely hard season. In this episode, Bucky Bateman gets personal sharing the specific coping strategies, mindset shifts, and practices that helped him navigate his own difficult chapter.This isn't a clinical lecture. It's a therapist being honest about what actually worked when life got hard and what he still uses today. From emotional regulation techniques to faith-based practices to the simple habits that kept him grounded, Bucky walks through the tools that made a real difference.If you're in a hard season right now and looking for something that actually helps, this episode is for you.Topics: mental health tools, coping strategies for stress, emotional regulation, therapist personal story, faith and mental health, personal growth podcast, overcoming hard seasons, Christian wellness

Send us Fan MailWhat does it take to move through life's hardest seasons and come out stronger? In this first episode, Bucky Bateman; Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and founder of Renewal Counseling Centers in San Diego shares the personal story behind Where Do We Grow from Here? and why he felt compelled to start this conversation.Bucky opens up about his own journey through challenge and change, the moments that shaped him as a therapist and a man, and what he hopes this podcast will give to the people who find it. Whether you're navigating a struggling marriage, a personal crisis, or just a quiet sense that something needs to shift, this episode sets the tone for everything that follows.If you've ever asked yourself "what now?" after life didn't go as planned, you're in the right place.Topics: marriage therapist podcast, mental health podcast, Christian counseling, personal resilience, faith and growth, couples therapy San Diego, LMFT, emotional health podcast