Why Am I Like This?!

We get personal about what it feels like to be sick, stressed, and dysregulated while still believing we have to keep performing. We unpack how the nervous system shapes our reactions and how self-compassion, repair, and a few practical tools can help us act more like the people we want to be. • the belief that being sick means being weak or lazy • naming the “story we’re telling ourselves” and how meaning-making drives shame • apologising to get ahead of judgment and why it backfires • parenting without making kids responsible for our regulation • dissociation as a coping skill and when it helps or harms • co-regulation basics like inviting instead of demanding and using consistent language • the window of tolerance and why capacity drops under stress • using simple body tools to come back into regulation • recognising body-first reactions like flushing or gut responses • people pleasing, rumination, and the “ice cream” overthinking spiral • balancing repair with over-apologising and avoiding • giving ourselves grace when we fall out of our values we would love it if you could leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We unpack why OCD makes the brain feel stuck in a loop and why intrusive thoughts can create a real sense of impending doom. We explain what is happening in the brain and share practical steps for responding with more clarity and compassion. • defining obsessive compulsive disorder as obsessions plus compulsions and how compulsions can be mental • common OCD patterns like contamination fears checking symmetry rituals and reassurance seeking • why intrusive thoughts feel like proof you are bad and how OCD assigns false meaning • the danger detector loop and why it feels involuntary rather than a self-control issue • the sledding groove metaphor for habit pathways and how awareness starts to weaken the groove • how shame and fear fuel the cycle and why naming OCD reduces threat • when trauma family patterns autism or PANS PANDAS can shape OCD symptoms • Brain Lock by Dr Jeffrey Schwartz and the four steps relabel reattribute refocus revalue • refocusing with a replacement behavior and building distress tolerance over time • support options like therapy medication supplements and TMS to reduce symptom intensity If you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends. The book we referenced can be found here: https://jeffreymschwartz.com/brain-lock/Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We reframe ADHD in teens and young adults as a developmental nervous system issue rather than a character flaw, then unpack why independence can feel impossible when executive functioning lags. We share practical ways to reduce shame and power struggles while building autonomy, skills, and real readiness for adult life. • executive dysfunction and why task initiation stalls • prefrontal cortex development and the role of attachment and attunement • how stress, trauma, and misattunement can shape ADHD symptoms • shame, negative self-talk, and lower self-esteem in ADHD • why teens can act younger than their age emotionally • how pushing independence too hard can trigger shutdown and “failure to launch” • moving from command and control to a teaching mindset • autonomy, choice language, and letting natural consequences teach • scaffolding independence with realistic home agreements and supports • progress over perfection and the importance of rupture and repair • flexible pathways to mastery through step-by-step goals and quick wins If you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends. We referenced the book, Scattered Minds, by Dr. Gabor Mate during this episode. You can find the book here: https://drgabormate.com/book/scattered-minds/Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We unpack why struggle feels like a verdict on who we are and show how to move from fixed beliefs to a growth mindset grounded in safety, regulation, and honest reframing. Lived stories, research touchpoints, and simple tools make learning feel safer than staying the same.• defining mindset as a learned framework, not a label• how childhood roles and tests harden identity• states versus traits and why context changes us• fixed mindset as ego protection and shame• safety before strategy and body-up regulation• practical reframes including adding yet• praising effort over outcome to unlock growth• proving versus improving as an antidote to perfectionism• redefining failure as data you can use• uneven mindsets across life domains and how to spot themIf you like our show, please leave a rating and review on your favorite podcast platformFollow the show and share with your friendsTo read more about Mindset, check out Carol Dwek's book that we discussed here: https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Carol-S-Dweck/dp/0345472322Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We map addiction across three lenses—brain changes, attachment trauma, and choice—and show how they fit together without shame. Practical tools, meds, and nervous system skills make healing doable, from habit loops to co-regulation to TMS.• defining addiction as impaired control despite harm• substance and process addictions sharing brain mechanics• dopamine spikes, downregulation and anhedonia• prefrontal cortex as brakes and how it weakens• attachment wounds and substitute relationships• co‑regulation, safety cues and nervous system repair• the “beast” voice vs agency without shame• habit loops, delay windows and urge surfing• Pavlovian reversal and neural pruning• medications, TMS, NAC and GLP‑1 research• building adult secure attachment and daily practices• reframing recovery as reconnection and consistencyIf you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with friends.Here are the links to the books we referenced in this episode: Rational Recovery: https://www.amazon.com/Rational-Recovery-Cure-Substance-Addiction/dp/0671528580Addiction, Attachment, Trauma, and Recovery: https://www.amazon.com/Addiction-Attachment-Trauma-Recovery-Interpersonal/dp/0393713172Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We unpack how childhood emotional survival maps become adult paradigms that shape choices, risk tolerance, and self-worth. We share CBT tools, new agreements, and practical steps to shift identity, reduce rejection sensitivity, and build lasting change through repetition and compassion.• defining paradigms as learned lenses and habit loops• emotional survival maps from childhood shaping adult behavior• CBT’s think–feel–do model applied to stuck goals• rejection as difficult not dangerous and why emotions lack time• shame, self-talk, and compassionate inner parenting• scarcity mindset, clutter, and money habits• don’t take it personally and don’t make assumptions agreements• why chains to trace behaviors to root beliefs• moving from autopilot to intention with tiny reps• EMDR’s role in reframing responsibility and worthIf you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with friends.You can find the book, The Four Agreements Here: https://www.thefouragreements.com/Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We unpack why vulnerability triggers fear and how armor—perfectionism, people pleasing, overexplaining—protects us while keeping connection out of reach. We share concrete ways to practice safe vulnerability, build shame resilience, and bring more gratitude, play, and empathy into daily life.• defining vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure• childhood wounds shaping adult defenses and armor• reframing vulnerability as courage not weakness• authenticity mantras and grounding self-talk• oversharing versus discerning, earned sharing• shame spirals, empathy and co-regulation• accountability without self-condemnation• nervous system basics and limbic memory• gratitude practice, play and creativity to rewire attention• raising joy’s baseline and building resilience with small winsYou can find Brene Brown's book here: https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Power-of-Vulnerability-Audiobook/B00CYKDYBQ?srsltid=AfmBOorcZ3FVBRVjqxdS5iOFUz2iVZGe61LZ2yzKB7hkyiSWIXxeIvAEIf you like our show please leave us a like rating and review on your favorite podcast platform follow the show and share it with your friendsLaura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We dig into why mental health hacks feel so tempting, which ones actually help, and when they quietly make things worse. We share how to set goals, spot toxic positivity, work with trauma-aware pacing, and choose therapy that fits.• appeal of quick fixes, privacy and control• stigma fears and the urge to go it alone• readiness over resistance and avoidance loops• self-connection and compassionate self-talk• toxic positivity versus true validation• habits that help ADHD and daily stress• limits of behavior change with trauma• using goals, metrics and timelines• choosing a therapist and seeking the right fit• sustainability, balance and being okay enoughIf you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform, follow the show and share it with your friendsLaura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We explore why self-sabotage shows up when life is going well and how the nervous system uses it as protection. We share simple tools to build internal safety, reframe failure, and keep momentum without burning out.• defining self‑sabotage as protection, not laziness• discomfort, avoidance, and procrastination patterns• fear of failure and fear of success dynamics• imposter thoughts and cognitive distortions• chaos, hypervigilance, and dopamine’s novelty drop• curiosity over shame as a core strategy• the 90‑second rule to ride emotional waves• sensory grounding, anchors, and visualization• reframing failure and choosing aligned actions• trimming “shoulds” and setting value‑based goalsIf you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platformFollow the show and share it with your friendsLaura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We explore why we always feel behind in life regardless of our accomplishments and how to break free from arbitrary timelines.• Social media creates unrealistic comparisons as we see others' curated highlights without the struggles• Childhood expectations of adulthood often don't match reality, creating feelings of inadequacy• Economic realities today make traditional milestones harder to achieve than for previous generations• Unlike childhood development, adulthood isn't linear—it has cycles, seasons, and no clear endpoint• Early parentification can lead to burnout and difficulty finding satisfaction in adult achievements• Internalized shame can be paralyzing when we believe we're fundamentally behind or inadequate• Creating a vision board helps define personal values separate from societal expectations• Notice when inspiration crosses into comparison—your body gives signals when social media becomes harmful• Time only moves forward—there's no going backward, just moments of struggle within forward movement• Success isn't a checklist but a journey that changes as your values and perspective evolveThank you for listening to Why Am I Like This! If you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We explore how our childhood experiences shape our perception of being judged and develop strategies to break free from the weight of others' opinions.• The feeling of being judged often stems from childhood insecurities and past experiences• Our brains scan for social threats, especially in new environments• The inner critic narrates how others see us based on our own insecurities• We constantly seek evidence that reinforces our negative self-beliefs• Parents unintentionally perpetuate judgment by focusing on outcomes rather than character traits• Neurodivergent individuals often receive negative feedback that creates deeper feelings of being judged• Breaking free requires recognizing thoughts aren't facts and practicing self-compassion• Setting boundaries with critical people helps create safer relationships• Some judgment is inevitable, but it doesn't have to define our worth• Curating social media and surroundings to promote growth rather than perfection reduces self-judgmentIf you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Intrusive thoughts are unwanted, involuntary thoughts that pop into our heads and can cause distress when our brains get stuck in loops trying to make sense of them.• Intrusive thoughts are normal but can become problematic when we can't let them go• Our brains create these thoughts as warning systems when we feel anxious or threatened• Childhood experiences and parenting styles can influence what intrusive thoughts we develop• Neurodivergence (ADHD, autism, OCD) can make it harder to inhibit thought loops• Assigning meaning or morality to intrusive thoughts only strengthens their grip• "You are not the author of your thoughts—you are the reader who gets to decide what to keep and what to delete"• Techniques like cognitive defusion, visualization, and humor can help manage intrusive thoughts• Treating intrusive thoughts like "brain spam" helps create distance from them• Trying to suppress thoughts makes them stronger—what we resist persists• Improving sleep, reducing stress, and seeking therapy can reduce intrusive thoughts• Supplements like inositol may help reduce intrusive thoughts in some casesIf you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Laura and Mishayla explore how childhood experiences create lasting templates in our nervous system that trigger automatic responses in similar situations throughout our lives. • Our nervous system takes "snapshots" during emotionally charged moments that can be triggered later in similar circumstances• When we feel helpless or threatened, our body goes into fight, flight, or freeze responses that can become habitual patterns• Children often interpret negative experiences as meaning something about themselves ("I'm not good enough")• Adults can help children process difficult experiences by acknowledging their feelings rather than dismissing them• Grounding techniques help bring our prefrontal cortex back online when we're triggered• Different grounding methods work for different people - find what works specifically for you• Accepting anxiety rather than fighting it can reduce its power over us• Changing our narrative about past experiences helps rewrite our nervous system templates• We can learn to recognize when we're triggered and create plans to respond differentlyFollow "Why Am I Like This?" and leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Share it with your friends.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Our gut and brain are connected through a remarkable two-way communication system that impacts our physical and mental health in profound ways. The gut, often called the "second brain," contains millions of neurons and produces 90% of the body's serotonin.• Stress activates our fight-or-flight response, slowing digestion and creating gut imbalances• The vagus nerve connects our brain to every organ and plays a crucial role in regulating our stress response• Trauma and chronic stress can create gut inflammation and disrupt the gut microbiome• People with PTSD show distinct patterns in their gut bacteria compared to those without trauma• Healing approaches should include both targeted gut health strategies and stress reduction techniques• Vagus nerve exercises like humming, cold therapy, and specific yoga poses help activate the parasympathetic "rest and digest" system• Functional medicine testing can identify specific gut imbalances affecting neurotransmitter production• Diet, movement, mindfulness, and nature exposure all contribute to balanced gut-brain functionIf you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow the show and share it with your friends.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Emotions are complex internal experiences that provide valuable information about our values and responses to situations, yet many of us struggle to manage them effectively.• Emotions are subjective experiences that vary from person to person• Children experience emotions intensely because they lack adult context and understanding of time• Anger often masks more vulnerable feelings like fear, sadness, or rejection• Many adults struggle with emotions because they never learned co-regulation in childhood• Recognizing separation between yourself and others helps tolerate their distress• You can express emotions without acting on them through journaling or talking• Using visualization techniques like "containers" can help manage overwhelming feelings• Focusing on connection rather than compliance builds better relationships with children• Teaching emotional intelligence means validating feelings while setting boundaries on behaviors• Being okay while others are distressed is a powerful skill in any relationshipVisit coreself.az to learn more about our new practice offering therapy, medication management, and innovative treatments like Spravato and TMS for treatment-resistant depression.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We explore imposter syndrome and why so many people feel like frauds despite evidence of their competence and capabilities.• Defining imposter syndrome as feeling like you don't deserve your position or achievements• How childhood experiences of conditional approval or criticism create adult insecurity• Understanding "parts work" and how child parts of ourselves can feel triggered in adult settings• The connection between imposter syndrome and perfectionism• Time orientation exercises to reconnect with your adult competence• Finding and embodying "mastery resources" from times you felt confident• How clarifying personal values helps build authentic self-trust• Recognizing that even experts don't have all the answers• Using affirmations to gradually rebuild confidence and self-belief• The power of projecting confidence even when you don't fully feel itPlease leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform, follow the show, and share it with your friends.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

We explore the science behind why human connection is essential for survival, from attachment theory to why our brains respond so profoundly to face-to-face interaction. Loneliness isn't simply being alone but a profound feeling of disconnection that can persist even when surrounded by others.• Connection is crucial for safety and releases positive neurochemicals in our brains• Attachment theory explains our innate survival need to connect with caregivers• Digital connections don't activate the same neural networks as face-to-face interactions• Spending just 15 minutes daily in meaningful connection can transform relationships• We often defend against connection due to past experiences of rejection or pain• Modern society facilitates isolation through remote work, delivery services, and digital communication• Low-stakes practice like talking to service workers helps build connection skills• Connection to ourselves is the foundation for connecting with others• Repairing disconnected relationships requires persistence through initial discomfortIf you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform, follow the show and share it with your friends.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Sleep affects nearly every aspect of our lives, yet many of us struggle to understand why we can't fall asleep, stay asleep, or feel rested in the morning. We explore how childhood patterns, lifestyle habits, and environmental factors impact our sleep quality and offer practical solutions for better rest.• Various types of sleep issues including trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, and early morning awakening• How caffeine creates a vicious cycle that worsens sleep problems, especially as we age• The negative impact of screens before bed on melatonin production and sleep quality• Why consistency in sleep schedules is crucial for regulating our body's internal clock• Cognitive patterns that create anxiety around sleep and how to challenge negative thoughts• Environmental factors like room temperature (ideally 67°F) that promote better sleep• The value of taking breaks throughout the day to practice calming your nervous system• Why long-term solutions like CBT for insomnia work better than quick fixesIf you like our show, please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform, follow the show and share it with your friends.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Join us for an engaging exploration of why so many of us carry the weight of seriousness without realizing its impact on our lives. In our latest episode, we dive deep into the reasons behind our reluctance to laugh, unraveling how childhood experiences shape our perceptions of humor. Gain insights into the critical role laughter plays not just in enhancing our mood but also in promoting connections, healing, and overall well-being.We tackle the barriers that prevent us from embracing humor, including anxiety, societal expectations, and deep-seated fears of vulnerability. Equipped with practical strategies, we guide you on how to invite laughter back into your daily life—whether it's through funny videos, light-hearted games, or simply learning to be silly again. Discover how mindfulness practices can facilitate this journey, assisting you in letting go of the need to take everything so seriously.This episode is not just about understanding but about fostering resilience and joy in the face of life's challenges. Will you join us in recognizing that it's perfectly okay to find moments of laughter amidst the chaos? Tune in, and let's rediscover the lighter side of life together! Don’t forget to subscribe, share your thoughts, and connect with us afterward!Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Ever wondered why it's so hard to let go of that old sweater or those dusty collectibles? Join us as we unravel the emotional intricacies of our attachment to possessions. Through personal stories, we explore how childhood experiences and challenging financial times shape our relationships with stuff. Hear about my mother's journey from chaos to minimalism, and learn how conditions like ADHD and depression can impact organizational skills. Together, we'll uncover the underlying guilt and procrastination tied to clutter and how an abundance mindset can transform your life.Our conversation goes deeper, examining how hoarding can be a manifestation of unresolved trauma and emotional distress. Discover how letting go is more than just tidying up—it's a process that may require compassion, therapy, or even medication. We discuss practical ways to support loved ones struggling with these issues and emphasize teaching children the importance of mindfulness and executive functioning skills early on. By fostering understanding and self-compassion, we can navigate these emotional layers more effectively, leading to healthier relationships with our belongings.Finally, we introduce the transformative power of mindfulness in organizing our lives. Learn how simple practices, like engaging your senses during routine tasks, can lead to intentional decision-making and a more fulfilling existence. We offer actionable tips to incorporate mindfulness seamlessly into your everyday routine, helping you break free from autopilot and reducing stress. As we wrap up, we extend our gratitude to you, our listeners, for supporting "Why Am I Like This" and invite you to continue this journey with us by sharing, rating, and reviewing our podcast.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Self-care can be challenging and often feels selfish, yet it is a crucial component of well-being. We explore the reasons behind our reluctance to prioritize ourselves, looking into childhood influences, societal pressures, and the importance of cultivating supportive networks.• Discussing the difficulties of prioritizing self-care• The connection between self-care and burnout• Importance of modeling self-care for others• Exploring barriers to self-care rooted in childhood• Practical tips for integrating self-care into daily life• The significance of asking for help and building support networks• Balancing personal commitments with self-care practices• Encouraging grace and forgiveness in self-care journeysLaura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

What drives us to try and fix everything around us? Join trauma therapist Laura Wood and psychiatric nurse practitioner Michaela Beaver as they unravel the complex web of motivations behind our relentless need to solve every problem. Is it a quest for control, an intolerance for imperfection, or a sneaky way to sidestep our personal issues? Together, they explore how chaotic childhoods can lead to seeking comfort in chaos, and how this shapes our adult interactions and reactions.Laura and Michaela dive into the learned behaviors from our upbringing, questioning the social belief that constant worry equals preparedness. They shine a light on the difference between healthy planning and overactive anxiety. By recognizing when our nervous systems are unnecessarily on high alert, we can learn to cultivate a sense of safety without feeling compelled to fix every single issue. Finding that sweet spot between calmness and alertness is key to navigating life without succumbing to anxiety or avoidance.The duo also tackles the art of letting go. Why do we often cling to perfectionism and the need for achievement? They discuss how childhood experiences might have planted these seeds, driving us to feel indispensable to be valued. The conversation offers practical strategies to identify which problems are truly urgent and how to conserve energy by letting smaller issues slide. Learn how embracing your inherent value, beyond achievements, can break the cycle of high-functioning anxiety and burnout, allowing a more relaxed, regulated state of mind.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Have you ever wondered why your brain seems wired to focus on the negative? Join us as we unravel the secrets of negativity bias, an ancient survival mechanism that shapes our thoughts and perspectives. Hosts Laura Wood, a trauma therapist, and Michaela Beaver, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, engage in a heartfelt discussion about how past hardships can leave a lingering shadow on our mindset. Drawing from personal stories and professional insights, we explore the impact of depression and hopelessness on negative thinking patterns and highlight the transformative power of hope and gratitude as tools for a positive shift.Maintaining positivity isn't always easy, especially when negativity feels like a natural inclination. We delve into the effort required to shift one's mindset and the pivotal role therapy can play in this transformation. From the common practice of negative commiseration in social settings to understanding the brain's survival-driven focus on negativity, we uncover the complexities behind these thought patterns. Together, we examine how childhood reinforcement and evolutionary predispositions contribute to our tendency toward negativity, offering strategies for overcoming these barriers, particularly for those grappling with depression.Explore the paradox of how negativity can feel productive, tracing this perception back to childhood and ancestral roots. We discuss cognitive behavioral strategies and the importance of affirmations and mantras in building inner strength and reshaping our outlook. By embracing positive self-talk and envisioning the best version of ourselves, we foster resilience and success in challenging situations. With encouragement to harness these practices, we invite you to engage with our content, share it with friends, and embark on a journey toward a more optimistic mindset.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Can setting boundaries actually transform your relationships and boost your personal growth? Laura Wood and Michaela Beaver promise to unlock the secrets to mastering healthy boundaries in this episode of "Why Am I Like This?". Dive into a discussion about why so many struggle to set limits and the common misconception that we can control others' actions. Laura and Mishayla delve into the fears that hold us back, like disappointing others and the guilt of asserting our needs, while providing insights into unlearning childhood beliefs that confuse self-care with selfishness.Expect some practical wisdom as Laura and Michaela explore the role of personal values in defending your boundaries and the potential resistance you might face when doing so. By offering strategies such as using "I feel" statements, they demonstrate how to communicate effectively without triggering defensiveness. The conversation also touches on an optimistic view of human nature, suggesting that most hurtful comments are misguided attempts to help, and how understanding this can ease tensions and foster trust. Their discussion underscores the importance of acknowledging miscommunications to improve relational dynamics.In challenging relationships, understanding the character of those you engage with can drastically change the game. Laura and Michaela equip you with techniques for respectful communication and self-reflection, ensuring that you maintain your emotional balance and don't mirror negativity. They affirm that boundaries empower us, teaching others how to treat us with dignity while nurturing self-respect and growth. Through relatable examples and a heartfelt dialogue, the episode aims to inspire you to set limits that align with your values and enhance your interactions, paving the way for stronger, healthier relationships.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

After a childhood filled with playful scares from my father, I've found myself jumping at the sound of a simple balloon pop. Join us on "Why Am I Like This?" as Mishayla and I delve into our personal experiences with fear and the startling responses that followed us from innocent childhood pranks to more serious trauma-induced reactions. Michaela shares her journey from a shocking high school event that left a lasting impact on her nervous system, influencing how she perceives safety in everyday situations. Our conversation reveals the rapid-fire processes of the brain's affective and sensory channels, highlighting how the amygdala often overrides cognitive assessment in triggering fear responses.We unravel the intricate workings of the nervous system, exploring the balance between the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems essential for staying grounded. Recognizing how trauma—whether from significant events or mundane experiences—can foster hypervigilance, we emphasize timely trauma processing. Techniques such as EMDR come into play, presenting pathways to desensitizing heightened responses. Through relatable examples, like the universal fear of spiders or the modern-day active shooter drills, we illustrate how perceptions shape our threat responses and impact the long-term state of our nervous systems.Our exploration moves toward managing anxiety and overcoming phobias, likening them to an allergy of the mind. Not every fear reflects an actual danger, and understanding this distinction is crucial. We discuss techniques to regain control, such as controlled breathing and cognitive exercises, offering a toolkit to bring the cognitive brain back into play. For those dealing with severe anxiety disorders, we underscore the importance of professional guidance, presenting practical strategies to ground oneself and activate the parasympathetic nervous system. From challenging negative thoughts to exploring the "window of tolerance," we offer insights into finding stability and competence in the face of fear.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

What if dissociation is more common than you'd think, quietly influencing our daily lives? Join us, Laura Wood and Michaela Beaver, as we unpack the intricate world of dissociation, often misunderstood and overlooked. We explore dissociation's role as a protective mechanism against overwhelming emotions or sensory overload. This episode sheds light on our brain's natural inclination to disconnect, from the innocuous zoning out during a TV binge to the complex dynamics in children forming their personalities amid trauma.As we navigate the nuances of various dissociative experiences, we tackle the unsettling sensation of feeling like a stranger in your own life. Our conversation delves into the differences between dissociative identity disorder (DID) and other conditions, breaking down how memory and identity awareness play distinct roles. Understanding these differences can clarify the boundaries between dissociation and psychosis, helping listeners gain a clearer perspective on their internal experiences and the lifelong journey of symptoms that often begin in childhood.Finally, we explore the fascinating link between trauma, somatic symptoms, and the healing journey. By integrating grounding techniques, somatic work, and strategies like heart rate variability training, we offer practical paths to self-understanding and healing. Together, we emphasize the importance of self-compassion and the transformative power of acknowledging our emotional roots. Join us for a compassionate dialogue that encourages listeners to embrace their unique experiences and empowers them toward growth and self-awareness.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

What if childhood experiences hold the key to understanding our adult behaviors? Join us as we unravel the mysteries of personal development with Michaela Beaver, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, and Laura Wood, a trauma therapist, in an enlightening episode of "Why Am I Like This?" Through their personal journeys, Michaela and Laura share how unexpected life events guided them into the mental health field, shifting aspirations from neonatal care to a passion for helping others overcome mental health challenges. Their stories reveal the profound impact of early life influences on career paths and the critical role self-awareness plays in understanding our actions.Together, we explore complex ideas like adaptive information processing and how childhood events shape our perception of threats. By examining personal stories, including the trials of parenting a child with ADHD, Michaela and Laura emphasize empathy and understanding as vital tools in nurturing emotional growth. They highlight how our sensory perceptions can become conditioned by trauma, leading to misinterpretations of danger. Their discussion offers insights into fostering healthier responses to past traumas, advocating for emotional regulation, and validating children's experiences to prevent them from internalizing fear.Michaela and Laura delve into the transformative power of therapy, particularly EMDR, as a pathway to healing and self-actualization. They offer grounding techniques to help manage triggers and remain present, underlining the importance of finding personalized tools to regain control in moments of distress. As they navigate the journey from survival to self-fulfillment, they challenge the linear model of Maslow's hierarchy, proposing a more dynamic approach to meeting our needs. Throughout the episode, they invite listeners to engage with their growth journeys, exploring vulnerabilities and identities while fostering a deeper understanding of what shapes us.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Ever wondered why you still feel tired after a full night's sleep? Join us on "Why Am I Like This?" as we uncover the hidden factors behind fatigue and share effective strategies for managing it. We'll explore the nuances of sleep quality, from the impact of substances like alcohol and marijuana to the importance of REM sleep and proper sleep hygiene. You’ll also gain insights into how mental health can influence your physical energy, and why maintaining a structured bedtime routine can make all the difference.In this episode, we delve into the significance of sleep for children and how bedtime routines can foster a sense of security and self-soothing behaviors. Laura Wood and Michelle Bieber discuss the bonding hormones released during nighttime rituals and the challenges posed by childhood trauma. They also emphasize the need to rule out medical conditions like thyroid issues and sleep apnea when addressing persistent fatigue, ensuring that you have a comprehensive approach to improving sleep quality and overall well-being.Finally, we'll tackle the often-overlooked aspects of dietary sensitivities and chronic stress on your energy levels. Learn practical methods for identifying food sensitivities and the critical role of gut health. Discover how chronic stress can lead to adrenal fatigue and effective strategies for managing it, from behavioral activation to engaging in hobbies and social connections. With valuable tips on recognizing and combating fatigue, this episode promises to equip you with the tools to boost your energy and enrich your life.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Why do we procrastinate even when we know it's hurting us? In this episode of "Why Am I Like This?", we unravel the complex relationship between procrastination and emotional dysregulation. By examining the various factors like fear of failure, lack of motivation, and low self-efficacy, we aim to provide a comprehensive understanding of why postponing tasks becomes a coping mechanism. With personal anecdotes and insights, we also discuss how procrastination intertwines with mental health conditions such as anxiety, ADHD, and depression, making it a far more intricate issue than mere laziness.Procrastination doesn’t just mess with your deadlines—it messes with your health too. Chronic delays can spike your stress levels, leading to severe physical ailments like heart disease, diabetes, and gastrointestinal problems. We dive deep into the psychological toll, from disrupted sleep patterns to a weakened immune system. To counteract these detrimental effects, we share practical strategies centered around intrinsic motivation and cognitive-behavioral techniques. Learn how breaking tasks into manageable steps and using grounding techniques can not only improve productivity but also significantly reduce stress.Ever felt like mundane tasks are an insurmountable mountain? You're not alone. We discuss how establishing routines and practicing mindfulness can transform these daily drudgeries into manageable activities. Through personal stories and practical advice, we explore how not being too harsh on ourselves for occasional lapses can foster resilience. From the benefits of social engagement to the power of music and dual attention strategies, find out how you can enhance productivity while boosting your emotional well-being. Join us as we reflect, share gratitude for our listeners, and encourage everyone to keep the conversation going.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Struggling to understand why focus issues seem to control your life or the life of someone you love? Discover the underlying causes of attention struggles, from ADHD and anxiety to depression and OCD, as we dissect how these conditions overlap and mimic each other. By the end of this episode, you'll gain clarity on how stress and overwhelm can disguise themselves as focus issues, helping you pinpoint the real root of the problem.Ever wonder how to create a calm, supportive environment for a child with ADHD? This episode unpacks the importance of emotional regulation, detailing how parenting approaches can either alleviate or exacerbate a child's impulsivity and emotional dysregulation. We also dive into the impact of technology on young minds, offering mindful screen time management strategies to foster healthy brain development and sustained attention spans.Learn practical techniques for fostering internal motivation and effective task management in children. From breaking tasks into manageable parts to maintaining consistent expectations and consequences, we provide actionable tips to help your child develop organizational skills and autonomy. Whether you're a parent, teacher, or someone keen to understand mental health and productivity better, this episode promises valuable insights and strategies you won't want to miss. Don't forget to rate, review, and share this episode with anyone who could benefit from these enlightening discussions.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Can chronic stress really trap us in a perpetual state of fight or flight? In this episode of "Why Am I Like This?", Laura Wood and Michaela Beaver unearth the complex layers of anxiety, from generalized anxiety to social anxiety and panic attacks. You'll gain a deeper understanding of how our nervous system responds to perceived threats and why some stress can actually be beneficial. We also explore how anxiety often becomes a fear of fear itself, leading to avoidance behaviors that can impact daily life.Our conversation then shifts to the digital age and its effect on our mental well-being. In today's world, constant notifications and screen time can create a relentless cycle of anticipatory anxiety, especially for young, developing minds. We explore how this digital dependency not only disrupts sleep patterns but can also lead to daytime fatigue and irritability. Moreover, we discuss the phenomenon of anxiety dreams and how a lack of restful sleep can affect social interactions and overall mental health, raising the intriguing question of whether anxiety can be influenced by those around us.To empower you in managing anxiety, we dive into practical techniques and the importance of acknowledgment and acceptance. Discover how negativity bias influences our perception of danger and how early childhood interactions shape our self-esteem and anxiety levels. We offer actionable strategies like slow breathing, guided imagery, and the "bucket" technique for organizing tasks and reducing overwhelm. By validating difficult emotions and creating mental space, we aim to help you reach a state where you feel capable of handling whatever comes your way. Join us for this insightful conversation and equip yourself with the tools to better understand and manage anxiety.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

What if the key to feeling connected lay in understanding your deepest vulnerabilities? In this powerful episode, we unravel the complex relationship between childhood trauma and the persistent sense of isolation that often shadows our adult lives. By examining how our self-worth becomes entangled in external roles and relationships, we highlight the significance of embracing our intrinsic qualities and interests. This critical shift can pave the way for deeper connections with ourselves and those around us.Boldly challenging the status quo, we tackle the impact of social media on genuine human connections, particularly among young girls. The constant cycle of comparison and superficial interactions can erode self-esteem, exacerbating feelings of loneliness. We discuss current studies showing a widespread desire for more authentic, in-person interactions and suggest rethinking phone use in schools. Through low-stakes, face-to-face interactions, we cultivate personal development, learning to set and respect boundaries while fostering stronger, more resilient relationships.Our final chapter delves into overcoming pain as a necessary step toward building meaningful connections. Experiencing hurt does not have to signify the end of relationships; rather, it is an opportunity for growth and understanding. We stress the importance of treating ourselves with dignity and compassion to mitigate the fear of rejection. By addressing past traumas, with techniques such as EMDR therapy, we can dismantle old triggers and embrace authentic connections. Don't miss our recommended resource, "Getting Past the Past," which is linked in our show notes to further assist your journey of personal growth.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Can overthinking be traced back to your gut health? Join us as we explore this surprising connection with Laura Wood, a trauma therapist, and Michaela Beaver, a psychiatric nurse practitioner. In this episode of "Why Am I Like This?", we uncover how everything from your childhood experiences to the state of your gut can influence your tendency to overthink. Learn about the critical role of gut bacteria in maintaining mental health and the profound impact of a balanced diet, filled with plant-based foods and kombucha, in reducing repetitive negative thought loops.We also delve into the fascinating world of neurofeedback, explaining how balancing logic and emotion can help regulate emotional responses and improve reasoning skills. Understand the intricacies of trauma-induced hypervigilance and rumination and discover how neurofeedback can help mitigate these reactions by training different areas of the brain. For parents, Mishayla and Laura offer practical strategies on fostering autonomy in children, providing just the right amount of guidance to help them grow without being overwhelmed.Addressing the ever-present challenge of boredom and its societal implications, especially for teenagers, we discuss how our pursuit of constant dopamine spikes affects mental health. Learn effective strategies to manage overthinking, calm the nervous system, and the importance of social connections in alleviating stress. We wrap up with actionable mindfulness techniques and grounding exercises to help you stay present. Don't miss out on our food challenge excitement, where we share our gratitude for the conversation and look forward to your continued support.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Ever been caught in the endless cycle of saying "yes" when you really mean "no"? Together with Michaela Beaver, we share a heart-to-heart on the subtle, yet powerful grip of people-pleasing and codependency in our latest episode of 'Why Am I Like This?'. From the roots of our eagerness to please that burrow deep into our childhood soil, to the dance of fawning that keeps the peace at the expense of self, we unpack the complexities of these behaviors with honesty and empathy.Join us as we navigate the treacherous waters of losing one's identity in the quest to accommodate others, where the need to be seen as 'good' often overshadows our true desires and needs. Michaela and I reflect on our own moments of internal conflict, even over something as simple as choosing a restaurant, and we discuss how such everyday decisions are telling signs of a larger issue. We also delve into the dangerous liaisons between people-pleasers and narcissists, charting a course through the toxic fog with the beacon of boundary-setting and self-acceptance.Our conversation is a candid exploration of what it means to assert ourselves, to claim space for our thoughts and feelings, and to revel in the joys of hobbies that reflect our true selves. From teenagers grappling with social pressures to adults unlearning a lifetime of self-neglect, we emphasize the transformative power of respecting our own voices. So tune in, as we offer a compelling look at how to step into a more authentic version of you, and remember to share this journey with those who might see themselves in our stories. Don't forget to hit subscribe and leave us a review if our words strike a chord.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Have you ever caught yourself muttering "I'm fine" when your heart was heavy with unspoken emotions? This episode peels back the curtain on emotional invalidation, a subtle yet profound force shaping our adult lives from the shadows of our upbringing. With trauma therapist expertise and psychiatric nurse Michaela's insights, we navigate the complex interplay between parental responses, childhood experiences, and long-term emotional health. Our conversation reveals how deeply our early interactions with caregivers can etch patterns of emotional suppression into the very fabric of our being, potentially echoing into the way we relate to our children's emotional worlds.Amid the ebb and flow of life's emotional tides, finding balance is key—enter the 'wise mind.' Borrowing from Dialectical Behavior Therapy, we explore how this concept guides us through the stormy seas of our feelings without letting them capsize our sense of self. We demystify the notion that understanding equates to agreement and shine a light on the transformative power of validation in fostering emotional resilience in both ourselves and our children. The narrative continues as we address the struggles of new mothers, where my coach Allison joins us to discuss the nuanced terrain of postpartum mental health, the critical significance of a strong support system, and the silent battle against internalized stigma.In the throes of emotional distress, recognizing our internal struggles is the first step toward reclaiming our well-being. We share stories, including my own personal journey, that underscore the importance of challenging the stigmatized narratives surrounding mental health and seeking help. By embracing grounding techniques, we can begin to cultivate immediate relief from emotional upheaval, leading to profound personal growth and more nurtured parent-child connections. Join us as we close the chapter on this episode, extending an invitation to engage with our free course on grounding skills and emotional development, because fostering awareness today lays the foundation for a healthier, more connected tomorrow.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of toxic relationships, wondering how you got there and how to break free? Today, I'm joined by Laura Wood, a trauma therapist, and Michaela Beaver, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, as we navigate the complexities of emotional entanglements and the childhood roots that often lead us there. This episode promises to equip you with the understanding and tools to identify harmful patterns, establish boundaries, and cultivate healthier connections.Together, we address the hard truths about personal accountability and the impact of past traumas on our adult relationships. Our candid conversation uncovers the myths that perpetuate unhealthy dynamics, like the belief that we can avoid conflict by being perfect. We emphasize the necessity of setting boundaries, not as a means to distance ourselves, but as a vital step towards nurturing safety and open communication in our interactions. Laura and Michaela share insights on how acknowledging and staying grounded in the present can be your best defense against the unintentional reenactment of past traumas.Wrapping up this powerful session, we delve into the significance of personal accountability and balancing our attachment needs within relationships. We examine how emotional reliance on partners can create shaky foundations and the potential for toxicity. Through our discussion, listeners will learn about the importance of understanding the cries for connection and the self-protective mechanisms that emerge when these are neglected. Join us on this journey of self-reflection and growth as we explore strategies for fostering genuine intimacy and emotional resilience.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Discover the hidden forces shaping women's mental health as trauma therapist Laura Wood and psychiatric nurse practitioner Michaela Beaver join forces to bring to light the often overlooked aspects of depression, anxiety, and the emotional toll of societal expectations on women. In an earnest conversation that promises both enlightenment and empowerment, we dissect the complicated reasons why women are more frequently diagnosed with these conditions, and how early childhood interactions regarding boundaries can set the stage for future mental well-being.Navigating through the thorny landscape of gender roles and their influence on mental health, our discussion reveals the psychological consequences of the support—or lack thereof—that children receive while crafting their sense of self. The pressures to conform to unrealistic standards often leave women battling a relentless cycle of guilt, shame, and helplessness, which we examine with heartfelt understanding and compassion. Sharing relatable stories and scientific insights, Laura and Michaela offer a fresh perspective on how these dynamics contribute to the broader challenges faced by women in maintaining their mental health.As we wrap up, the conversation shifts to the undeniable necessity of self-care. We illuminate the path towards embracing one's own needs and the transformative power of choosing wellness. From practical lifestyle tips to the profound impact of early intervention in mental health, this episode arms you with knowledge and strategies to prioritize your well-being. This isn't just another chat about mental health; it's a call to action, urging every listener to take that decisive step towards a healthier, happier existence. Join us for this compelling exploration and find the courage to place yourself at the top of your to-do list.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Embark on a journey through the intricate maze of self-improvement with us, Laura Wood and Michaela Beaver, as we dissect the rituals of New Year's resolutions and the art of goal setting. Ever wonder why some of us sprint towards our goals like marathon runners, while others take a scenic route, allowing the path to unfold? Our latest episode is a treasure trove of insights, where we question if the goals we chase truly reflect our individuality or if they're just another set of rigid expectations we impose upon ourselves. Setbacks in life are as guaranteed as the changing seasons, and in this revealing conversation, we share our strategies for transforming self-sabotage into stepping stones. Whether you're struggling to lace up those running shoes each morning or fighting the siren call of negative self-talk, join us for heartfelt advice on cultivating a resilient mindset. Discover the power of self-compassion as we discuss how to embrace life's hurdles without letting them define our self-worth. Laura and I open up about our own setbacks and how we've learned to cheer ourselves on, hoping to inspire you to do the same.As we wrap up this episode, we delve into the beauty of crafting goals that resonate with your soul. Trying a vegan diet or creating a vision board might not be everyone's cup of tea, but we encourage you to find what tickles your fancy. Learn from our experiences with diet changes and the importance of tailoring personal aspirations to your unique narrative. Accompany us as we advocate for a kinder, more personalized approach to goal setting that celebrates who we are, not who we think we should be.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Ever felt like the holidays were more stress than cheer? You're not alone. Join hosts Laura Wood and Michaela Beaver as we take a personal journey through the joys, disappointments, and pressures of the holiday season. From the nostalgia of childhood traditions to the stress of creating perfect memories for our own children, we share candid stories and reflections about navigating the holiday hustle. Whether it's the love-hate relationship with festive cards or the anxiety over the perfect gift, we've been there and we're talking about it.In the midst of holiday chaos, it's easy to lose sight of what truly matters. We delve into the societal expectations that often come with the season, such as the guilt that creeps in when feeling like we aren't doing enough for our families. We share personal anecdotes about Elf on the Shelf, the pressure to create elaborate holiday experiences, and our own struggles with feelings of inadequacy and comparison. But remember, the magic of the season isn't in the perfect gift or the most lavish decorations, it's about the love and joy we share with those around us.As we wrap up our holiday chat, we tackle the often stressful topic of gift-giving, discussing the pressures and emotional gymnastics that often accompany it. From hiding emotions to the guilt of not participating in every holiday activity, we provide a safe space to share our own struggles and insights. We conclude with a focus on self-forgiveness and finding contentment during the holiday season. After all, the holidays are a time for love and joy, not stress and judgement. So whether you're wrapping gifts or sipping hot cocoa by the fire, join us for this heartwarming and insightful discussion on navigating the holidays with grace and authenticity.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Core Self www.coreself.orgBenavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com