02 Faking Happiness at the Office is Like Faking an Orgasm

Now that I have your attention, I will make my first (of many) confessions. While planning this episode, I struggled quite a bit with the title. Is it too much? Will it turn executive women away? As executive women, we got to be where we are by cutting out the “extra” and speaking our minds. So to hell with it...I decided to keep the title. Using the work-orgasm analogy allowed me the best way to explain what we, as high-performing women, have done for years. Then, one day we look up and wake up to the reality of our “faking it” due to failed health, corporate downsizing, being passed up for promotion, or after we’ve ruined our relationships for the sake of succeeding at the office. This analogy puts the message in terms you will understand (and can relate to) whether you will ever admit to “faking it” or not! How many times have you faked happiness at the office? What is the status of your relationships? Does work get in the way of your love life? Does your family suffer because you are too stressed out to be present once you arrive home? Do you find yourself responding overly emotional to slights that happen at work and then wonder why you just can’t seem to let it go? Do you blame your boss, coworkers, company for you not being happy? Do you even know what happiness would look like for you? Well, in this episode, I’m sharing with you five reasons why faking it at the office is just like faking an orgasm.Join me on the podcast this week to learn five reasons why you should never “fake it” when it comes to your happiness at work or otherwise. Bottom line, no matter how much you try to “fake it,” you'll NEVER be satisfied. And while you think you’re hiding it, you’re not. So listen as I share how not facing the truth in one area of your life will spill into all others. Then, when you decide that you will no longer “fake it” at anything,  happiness is right around the corner.What you will learn in this episode:How you’ve become a master at faking it, and you may not even realize it.That there are no rewards, medals, or all-expense-paid vacations for allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.How faking it at work sent me to the ER.How faking it will rob you of your ability to experience the joy of true happiness. We’ve all heard people say “fake it ‘til you make it” before. And while it does work for some time, it eventually gets old. You will become bitter, resentful, and begin to see yourself as the victim of a situation, that if you’re honest, you’ve allowed yourself to stay a part of long after the “expiration date” has passed. And, if you are like my clients, when you finally get a “feel” for what real happiness is, you kick yourself for not “waking up” sooner.I recognize you’re busy, so I’ll get right to it. By “faking it,”...You are not honoring your needs. You have been faking it for so long that you have trained yourself to put your needs...last. You have no idea what you want, and you question whether or not you deserve it. You have often lost sight of what truly makes you happy, or you never gave yourself permission to figure it out in the first place.You’ve trained yourself to be “comfortable.” If you’re anything like I used to be, you put on that “superwoman cape of honor,” and you spend your days looking for ways to bring a smile to the face of others, which means you will go to great lengths to keep the peace. Often not speaking up for yourself. You have grown so accustomed to “that’s just how I am,” “he’ll never change,” or “things never work out for me” that you dare not rock the boat.You’ve become a master at...