070 | How to Set Boundaries in Your Relationship Without Feeling Like An A-Hole

You know what nobody tells you about people-pleasing? Every time you say yes when you mean no, you're not just breaking a promise to yourself - you're literally poisoning your body and your relationships from the inside out. I used to think being "nice" meant swallowing my truth and keeping everyone else comfortable. Then I learned that resentment doesn't just live in your head - it lives in your tissues, your thyroid, your gut. And all that built-up rage from breaking trust with yourself? It has to go somewhere, and usually it gets projected onto the people you love most. Today, I'm sharing the framework that Brené Brown shares in her Power of Vulnerability training sessions that completely shifted how I approach boundaries, plus the exact language for saying no or YES authentically! What we're covering: Why authenticity is the foundation of boundaries (not people-pleasing) Brené Brown's "choose temporary discomfort over long-term resentment" mantra The default patterns working against you and why boundaries feel impossible How to share an authentic no AND yes with specific examples Three practices to integrate this week: reflection, practice, pause 📣 Join my Woman Behind It All Insiders Email List Ready to Transform From the Inside Out? If you're ready to move from self-abandonment to self-trust in your relationships, this is exactly the work I do with women in my 1:1 containers. Email me at [email protected] and let's talk about whether this is a fit for you.   Loved this episode? Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it, and hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. ✨   Be brave, not perfect, my babe! Xx, Kaija . . . Disclaimer: This podcast shares personal stories, experiences, and reflections on relationships, consciousness work, and personal growth. The content is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health support, medical advice, or therapeutic treatment. If you're experiencing crisis, abuse, or severe mental health symptoms, please reach out to a qualified professional. Your journey is your own - trust yourself to know what support you need and when you need it.