10 Resources for Getting the Porn Out, Healing Betrayal Trauma, and Rebuilding Authentic Intimacy

Before you can effectively to anything else to improve your love life in marriage, you have to get the porn out. Sarah shares 10 resources, programs, and tips to help husbands get free, to help wives heal from betrayal trauma, and to help married couples rebuild their intimate life.If you wanted to redecorate your living room, but there was a fire in it, you'd have to put out the fire before you start thinking about paint colors and rearranging the furniture. Afterwards, you'd also have to clean up the scorch marks and care for burns. In the house of your marital intimacy, you need to get the porn out first in order to establish safety and authentic emotional intimacy. The distortions in assumptions about how sex should work then need to be corrected. (God made women's arousal curves much slower and longer than men's, but women in porn are paid to fake being aroused quickly.)  Emotional wounds from betrayal trauma need to be healed, and the couple needs to establish their intimacy anew from the ground up. 4 Resources to Help Husbands Get Free from Porn:1. Sexaholics Anonymous, a 12-step peer support program2. Programs like  Pure Desires, Naked Truth Project3. Strive: 21-Day Porn Detox, a Catholic program with Matt Fradd4. CSAT counseling (Certified Sexual Addiction Therapists)*BONUS TIP: Install device-protecting software like Covenant Eyes 3 Resources to Help Wives Heal from Betrayal Trauma5. Hope's Garden, a Catholic ministry online that includes a coaching option6. Coaching with Catholic coach Casey Allison 7. Bloom for Women and Bloom for Catholic Women3 Tips to Help Post-Porn Couples Restore Authentic Intimacy1. Talk to each other during lovemaking. This roots both husband and wife's mind in the present moment. Hearing her husband's voice is very connecting for the wife and distracts her from negative thoughts, worries that his mind is going back to memories of porn.2. Specifically, the husband should reassure his wife out loud with words during their lovemaking time together that he's thinking only of her, that she is beautiful, her body is amazing, she is the one he chooses for life, he loves being just with her, etc.  She is likely to need LOTS of reassurance.3. Husbands, tune in to your sense of smell, which porn cannot recreate. Listen to Catholic psychologist  Mario Sacasa, Ph.D. discuss this in Always Hope, episode 144: Unlocking the Secrets to Marital Intimacy. 🔥 Free Guide to 9 Skills for Body, Mind, and Spirit for Improving Intimacy for Catholic Wives https://canafeast.com/MyDelight-9-Skills🤔 What is Allowed for Catholics in the Bedroom? Find out in the 19-page "What's Allowed List" ($10)https://canafeast.com/mydelight-whatsallowed Support the show"Is This Perimenopause?" Aug 24-18, join 5 Catholic women's health experts to learn about intimacy, nutrition, hormone health care (inc. HRT questions), and exercise as your body changes according to God's good design.🔥 Find out more here: https://healthandhormones.org/perimenopause-toolkitWant to learn 10 Truths for Good Sex for Catholic Wives? Free "10 Truths" download.https://canafeast.com/10truthsFree Enhancing Marital Intimacy Guide for Catholic Women: 9 Skills for Body, Mind, and Spirit (for married and engaged women)Do you want to know what is allowed for Catholics in the bedroom? The "What's Allowed List" answers 20+ questions about what is licit and illicit. ($10)Model-free lingerie! Get 10% off with my affiliate link for Mentionables.