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EPISODE · Oct 19, 2025 · 59 MIN

103. The Safety to be SEEN: Finding Your People When You're Finding Yourself

from Figuring Sh!t Out · host Vanessa Fontana

This week, we explore the tender space between solitude and connection, moving deeper into the theme of unapologetic self-expression (especially for those of us who learned to hide in self-protection.)For those of us who have long identified as "introverts," I ask you a very important question: are you ACTUALLY an introvert? Or do you just have social anxiety and are you scared to be seen?On today's episode, we explore the spectrum of introversion / extroversion as it relates to the safety to be seen and explore the truth behind these labels, social anxiety, and the self-preserving patterns that make us believe we're safer unseen and how to gently unravel them and find aligned community.We root into this theme of community and belonging - something so many of us strive to find in a chronically online, disconnected world - and how to find it when you're in the process of finding yourself.I take you through my own story of social anxiety, self-preservation, outgrowing friendships as a result of coming of age, coming into rediscovering platonic love in a new way, and explore how self-connection can expand into communion with others.If you take away one thing from this dialogue, let it be this:WHEN YOU LET YOURSELF BE SEEN, YOU LET YOURSELF BE LOVED! & YOU DESERVE TO BE BOTH SEEN + LOVED.(but how???? well, just sit back, relax, and listen <3)This episode is a part 2 to episode 102 (Unapologetic, Unconditional Beingness) (no need to listen in order!)xWant more? Join METAMORPHOSIS - a creative nervous-system led sanctuary designed to help you move through fear, trust your voice, and express what's inside of you - in COMMUNITY.GET 10% OFF YOUR MONTHLY METAMORPHOSIS NOW WITH THE CODE 10OFF: HERE (monthly)GET 20% OFF WITH A QUARTERLY MEMBERSHIP: HEREHEAR WHAT MEMBERS ARE SAYING ABOUT METAMORPHOSISInside you'll have access to:Journey's like the 10 day Creative Awakening & Inner Child Healing Journey and 5 Day Somatic Expression Perfectionism JourneyWeekly live sessions (Artist’s Hours + Shadow-Workshops) (Also recorded)A growing library of meditations, practices, and resources (& Monthly Themes)A private community space for connection, expression, and collaboration25% off future retreats / Free NYC eventsxIF YOU <3 FSO, RATE THE PODCAST, LEAVE A COMMENT & SAY HI, AND STAY CONNECTED!COSTA RICA 2026!!! (Reach out over IG to chat if you are interested!)MAILING LIST (Free Energy Protection Meditation <3)IG: @byvanessafontanaTIKTOK: @butterflyfountain My Substack <3xGET 40% OFF OF YOUR CALM SUBSCRIPTION HERE: calm.com/vanessaAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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