103. What Causes Codependency?

What is codependency in a relationship? This quick chat with Shannon is a great insight into what happens to kids who grow up in a chaotic home environment. Shannon’s grandfather was abusive to her mother and her grandmother. And Shannon was a constant witness to the abuse. She took on the role of taking care of everybody. And that’s where co-dependency begins. Kids in homes where there is abuse or addiction issues learn to neglect their own needs in order to meet the needs of those around them. They become the primary caregiver to the adults in their lives. They find emotional fulfilment through making others feel happy, regardless of their own needs. The focus is always on other people and they have difficulty expressing emotions or what they deeply need because they’ve not learnt to look out for themselves in that way. If you are struggling with co-dependency seek professional help so that you can begin to recognise the signs of codependency, learn how to set healthy boundaries, overcome people pleasing and learn how to reconnect with who you are. If you have a story to share for this podcast please connect with me at www.instagram.com/mybigloveproject or send an email to [email protected]. I would LOVE! to connect with you.